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| – | Women don't really want equality relationships as evidenced by women in societyIn a Growing Share of U.S. Marriages, Husbands and Wives Earn About the Same In 29% of marriages today, both spouses earn about the same amount of money. Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner and 16% have a breadwinner wife. Even as financial contributions have become more equal in marriages, the way couples divide their time between paid work and home life remains unbalanced. Women pick up a heavier load when it comes to household chores a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/25 05:17 AM |
| – | Women don't really want equality relationships as evidenced by women in societyOK, what evidence? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/25 04:38 AM |
| – | Women don't really want equality relationships as evidenced by women in societyThen men can do 50% of buying the frozen crap and throwing it in the microwave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/25 04:37 AM |
| – | Women don't really want equality relationships as evidenced by women in societyWomen don't really want 50/50 co partner relationships, where they both equally provide, both equally call the shots, or are even both equal on many other metrics, and we can see the proofs throughout society, despite what feminist mainstream culture wants to dictate. Equality is equality, no? You said that women don't want to be in equal relationships. So an equal relationship would have both partners doing equal work: splitting the grocery shopping and meal preparing, then going 50/50 on Valen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/25 03:47 AM |
| – | Women don't really want equality relationships as evidenced by women in societyValentine's Day is one day of the year. The other 364 days of the year, people have to eat too. Who does the grocery shopping, preparing of meals, etc? In U.S. households consisting of married or cohabiting parents and one or more children under the age of 18, 80% of mothers say they are the household member who usually prepares the meals – the same as the share who say they are the primary grocery shopper, according to a Pew Research Center analysis. Some 71% of moms say they primarily handle b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/25 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Who you associate with reflects on you.Who knows. Besides Elizabeth Holmes (who legit married a 27 year old dude who is described as a hotel heir, i.e. loaded, when she was 35 and facing serious allegations of criminal wrongdoing), there's: Karla Homolka, the Canadian serial killer who assisted her first husband in raping and murdering a whole bunch of people including Karla's 15 year old sister, married her second husband right after she was released from prison, and her second husband was her attorney's brother, so he definitely kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 01:14 AM |
| 18 | How the "situation" would be if males had the same libido as women?Finally, research suggests that there is a degree of fluidity related to self-identified sexual orientation across the life span (Diamond, 2008; Ott et al., 2011). Consequently, the basis of the key independent variable in this report, current sexual orientation, may not represent the sexual orientation of respondents when the violence actually occurred. The statistic you posted is widely mis-interpreted. It's a reporting of the lifetime experience of rape, stalking or intimate partner violence.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 10:30 PM |
| 34 | Case study: A top 10% man who has it all. Why aren’t women interested in him?So your title is: "why aren't women interested in him?" So women are interested in him! And not all of them are ugly/unattractive/out of shape. Sounds like this dude just has really high standards, and if he's 24 and never been kissed, he's unwilling to bend his stringent standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 10:30 PM |
| 24 | Case study: A top 10% man who has it all. Why aren’t women interested in him?Friends of mine have had crushes on him, but he hasn’t been interested in them. So he doesn't have problems getting female attention, but he considers himself unsuccessful because it's never the right women attracted to him? Per him: Jake feels like the only women that he attracts are unattractive, out of shape, etc So... are your friends unattractive and out of shape? Would you consider them catches? Basically, he sounds picky. And that means it's gonna be harder for him to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 09:13 PM |
| 1 | At this point, is being married and having a family just something that doesn’t happen anymore?I come to this sub to peek at what the fringe weirdos are saying. You really, really shouldn't take anything on this sub seriously. I bet you're feeling old and anxious because of all the talk about how women are best before they hit their late 20s? Well, in the real world: marriages where partners are young (late teens to early 20s) have the highest divorce rate. So, if you had married and had kids, you'd have a high chance of divorce + being a single mom. Do you want to be a single mom? Or for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/24 02:42 AM |
| 3 | At this point, is being married and having a family just something that doesn’t happen anymore?So, looking at your post history, you're about 25? Most 25 year old dudes aren't looking to settle down, or are thinking about serious marriage/having kids. They are too busy figuring out their lives (school, career). What I’ve found is that even men who are 30+ are still not ready to start building towards a family or simply don’t want to. Most 30+ dudes dating 25 year old women aren't looking for a serious commitment and kids -- a lot of them they date younger in order to just have fun/somethi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/24 10:21 PM |
| 3 | When male loneliness is brought up, what is meant? Romantic loneliness or general loneliness?Because men on the whole tend to be more on the extremes -- so when society got lonelier (and yes, women are also more lonely now than ever before), men suffered more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 09:11 PM |
| 6 | When male loneliness is brought up, what is meant? Romantic loneliness or general loneliness?Read Bowling Alone, which was published 20 years ago: Once we bowled in leagues, usually after work—but no longer. This seemingly small phenomenon symbolizes a significant social change that Robert Putnam has identified in this brilliant volume, which The Economist hailed as “a prodigious achievement.” Drawing on vast new data that reveal Americans’ changing behavior, Putnam shows how we have become increasingly disconnected from one another and how social structures—whether they be PTA, church,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 09:02 PM |
| 16 | The reasons for women to want marriage and children are often outweighed by the reasons not to, despite children being necessary for society as a wholeExcept....society has been doing all this for as long as time In the history of human culture, the advent of effective birth control is relatively new. In the past, any heterosexual penis-in-vagina sex could lead to pregnancy, child birth... and this despite historical humans trying various methods to control fertility for millennia. and many, if not most women still want and have children. Of course. And many surveys have asked women how many children they ideally would have, and results have c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 10:24 PM |
| – | The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are.Precisely this. Bowling Alone was published in 2000, or 23 years ago. And the reality is that people have only gotten lonelier and less inclined to socialize in person since then, with the rise of the internet. Online schooling, online work, the fall in church attendance... people have all kinds of negative opinions on organized religion (which I get: am atheist), but going to weekly religious meetings is a great way to meet like-minded people organically. Serendipitous meetings of all kinds hap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/23 08:29 PM |
| 3 | The modern dating dynamic is extremely uneven and it only seems to be getting worsePerhaps more worryingly, the Italian rate of people aged 20-34 neither in employment nor in education and training, the so-called NEET rate, was 28.9% in 2018. It's the highest NEET rate in the Eurozone, which has an average of 16.5%. To put that more plainly, almost 1 in 3 Italians under 34 aren't really doing anything at all. A third of young Italian women aren't working, looking for work, or competing for jobs with men! Which is the highest NEET rate in the Eurozone. Shouldn't they be popping… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 06:20 AM |
| 22 | The modern dating dynamic is extremely uneven and it only seems to be getting worseItaly (like fellow European countries that have very low birth rates, like Spain and Portugal) does not have low birth rates because "of feminism". Note: the Northern European countries like Sweden, Iceland, Finland that have much greater gender equality have higher birth rates than Italy. No, it's because youth unemployment is a long-term chronic problem in Italy. Sometimes, when people ask me why on earth I left Italy, a beautiful country I'm lucky enough to call home, I drop a few numbers. It… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 07:44 PM |
| 6 | If you define "creepy" behavior on a subjective basis, then would men be justified in labelling unattractive women who approach them as "creepy"?Don't forget the classic "clingy" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 07:02 PM |
| 7 | Women are attracted to qualities that allow her to do lessWorking a job for money makes me want to stab my eyes out with a sewing needle. You could work as a nanny? Have "tons of fun" with kids every day and get paid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:09 PM |
| 2 | A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman?My question is what are the incentives for a man who is "a functional adult" as I've heard it described by many women gain from a committed life long monogamous relationship that he couldn't get anywhere else. A man who is not "a functional adult" stands to gain a lot from having a functional adult at his side for the rest of his life of course. And by functional adult I don't think we mean someone who cooks and cleans, but someone who goes to work, takes care of themselves, cleans their house e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 12:58 AM |
| 2 | A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman?I explained in great detail in the original post. Everyone else seems to have had no problem understanding, perhaps you should just read some of the other comments. I've read the other comments. They're all arguments for why people want an intimate, monogamous, romantic relationship with another human being. Your post literally has zero content about that though. In fact, all you talk about is the concrete benefits of marriage? You seem to find no benefit to the more ephemeral benefits of marria… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 12:50 AM |
| 2 | A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman?No, and I don't see how you could get that from the post if you were reading it in good faith. So please explain what you mean? And counterpoint: would you date women who "don't know how to socialize, they don't know how to handle themselves around [men], they don't care about their appearance, they have bad jobs (or low ambition), they don't do their fair share of the house work, they don't do their fair share of the child-rearing, they can't handle their emotions etc." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 10:36 PM |
| 16 | A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman?men don't know how to socialize, they don't know how to handle themselves around women, they don't care about their appearance, they have bad jobs (or low ambition), they don't do their fair share of the house work, they don't do their fair share of the child-rearing, they can't handle their emotions etc. etc. I think in general this is true, however if a man is well groomed, cooks, cleans, takes care of the children, earns a solid income and is emotionally stable, what incentive does he have to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 09:40 AM |
| 2 | It's funny to me that women raise their expectations in mans earning just because they earn for a very short term a high amountAlso in Europe there is a better social system so women are more secure to get children then in the US where that can economically really fuck you up. Well, the birth rate in Scandinavia is about the same as in the US. Birth rates have fallen throughout almost the entire Nordic Region over the last decade. In just ten years, Iceland’s birth rate has gone from 2.2 children per woman to 1.7 children. While birth rates in Finland and Norway are now below the EU average, it’s only thanks to slightly… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 03:56 AM |
| 3 | Men should stop blaming feminism for the problems in societyYou can strive for a goal, doesn't mean you have to be perfect. I'm not saying that that kind of life is "perfect" or batting 1000. I'm saying that dudes in the modern West idealize one part of the way traditionalists live without actually wanting any of the other parts. And... there are still swathes of the country where people go to church/are ardently religious/marry young. I mean, the Mormon Church has a congregation of around 7 million people in the U.S. today. It's definitely a minority su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/22 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Men should stop blaming feminism for the problems in societyI mean, do you believe in God? Do you attend church on a weekly/regular basis? Do you live with your natal family (father/mother/grandparents/aunts and uncles) in a multi-generational home? Are you planning on marrying at age 22 to the first or second person you ever dated, and never had sex with them to check compatibility? Because I've noticed that people want the "good" parts of traditional values but the "good" parts of individualistic, secular values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/22 01:39 AM |
| 8 | Let's say due to a population crisis your government started issuing lump sum payments to women who had kids. How much would the payment have to be to move the needle for you?Money, free health care and free childcare is not enough to get women even in Germany to have kids. https://www.iamexpat.de/lifestyle/lifestyle-news/birth-rates-have-suddenly-decreased-germany Between 2015 and 2021 the German TFR was between 1,5 and 1,6 children per woman. At the beginning of 2022, the rate sank to between 1,3 and 1,4 and then stagnated for next four months. For example, according to demographers, the replacement birth rate is 2.1 babies per woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/22 03:31 AM |
| 34 | The average guy should not be frustrated at the selective nature of average Woman as he would act no differently if the tables where turned.Yeah, this. Most of the gay dudes I know are single, struggle to find a stable relationship, but hook up easily on Grindr... then occasionally delete Grindr every few months to take a break. There's research to back up the reality that gay men are lonelier. Research shows: Gay men have fewer close friends than straight people or gay women. Gay men are much more likely to be depressed than straight men. Gay people are a lot more likely to commit suicide than straight people. In an article about t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/22 10:05 PM |
| 6 | The issue of moving barsMight’ve needed to make this more clear - how many women will ever go to a week long anything where they’re forced to interact with men for that entire period and cohabitate with them? This is why a lot of people date coworkers. Or classmates in college or someone in their dorm. Or a person they hung out with a lot in their sports league/weekly hobby meet up. Or their church. Or within their social circle -- i.e. not their friend, but a friend's brother they hung out with a lot at parties and ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 04:45 AM |
| 2 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 11:48 PM |
| 0 | Is there a male equivalent to having been “used up”?So while a quarter of bisexual people have never told anybody important that they're bisexual, only 19% are completely out the closet. And how much of that 19% is women? They don't have to be out to every woman they come across -- just their partner. Jeez, you'd count their partner as an important partner in their life! Im not sure if you looked over this because you didn't address it, but ive given you a study that's straight forward and to the point that 63% of women won't date a man who had s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 08:04 AM |
| 0 | Is there a male equivalent to having been “used up”?About one-quarter of bisexual adults (26%) are not “out” to any of the important people in their lives, compared with 4% of gay and lesbian adults. Roughly half of those who are bisexual (54%) are out to some or only a few people. https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/18/bisexual-adults-are-far-less-likely-than-gay-men-and-lesbians-to-be-out-to-the-people-in-their-lives/ Only a quarter of bisexual people are completely in the closet. Guess even out bi guys can get laid/have sex/find wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 06:43 AM |
| 0 | Is there a male equivalent to having been “used up”?https://slate.com/human-interest/2016/05/over-80-percent-of-bisexuals-end-up-in-straight-relationships-why.html Dan Savage once observed that “most adult bisexuals, for whatever reason, wind up in opposite-sex relationships.” Whether or not you’re a fan of Savage (or his sometimes dubious takes on bisexuality), the statistics support his assertion: The massive 2013 Pew Research LGBT Survey found 84 percent of self-identified bisexuals in committed relationships have a partner of the opposite sex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 03:06 AM |
| 8 | “Women make their own money now”women initiate 80% of divorces I think it's more like 66% -- or two-thirds. And what would you tell the woman in the r/relationship_advice post I linked? She pregnant with their third child and her husband is demanding an open relationship. She's 100% going to initiate divorce and be a single mom to three. Looks like she deleted her post, but the comments are still there. Commenter: He already made an account on a sugar baby type website, OP mentioned. He did that before she has even accepted or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 11:05 AM |
| 8 | “Women make their own money now”The only thing the study shows is that kids are a financial burden. Who knew. That kids are a financial burden to women. BTW, if you actually read the article: Men who were childless had (on average) $57,000. Single fathers had (on average) $59,000. The margin is incredibly small, so we're not talking about male professionals vs. jobless losers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 10:15 AM |
| 14 | “Women make their own money now”OK, the difference in average wealth between single childless men and single fathers is $2,000. The difference in average wealth between single childless women and single mothers is $58,000... or literally more than the average wealth of a single childless man ($57,000). Better? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 06:14 AM |
| 10 | “Women make their own money now”Well, the difference between single childless men and single fathers is pretty small. Single childless men have (on average) $57k. Single fathers have (on average) $59k. So, single fathers on average have 3.5% more wealth than single childless men. While single childless women have (on average) $65k. Single moms have (on average) $7k. So single childless women have 828.5% more wealth than single moms... 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 02:27 AM |
| 15 | “Women make their own money now”Single men with kids seem like a demographic so small as to be a insignificant sample. And I’d bet that tiny sample is almost entirely men over 40, so of course they’re going make a lot more than single childless men who are mostly in their 20s. You realize for every single mom with kids, there is a single father, right? As in, even if the single father only sees his kid 1-2 times a month and pays a pittance in child support, he is still a single father. The single mom has to pay for: housing, c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 01:56 AM |
| 78 | “Women make their own money now”I just don’t see how 90% of women will ever get to a situation where they can have children and afford the expenses unless they partner with a man. Have you seen this study? https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2022-08-31/women-not-having-kids-get-richer-than-men?sref=0lt16h2M Single women without kids are the richest, while single women with kids (single moms) are the poorest (by a huge measure). Strangely, single men with kids (single fathers) have more money than single, childless men. Hmm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 12:55 AM |
| 14 | Why do people double down with age? Why not just adapt?I've seen women who despise cooking because of sexist attachments, and therefore I would not date them, or wifey them up. So, you're allowed to have standards in your prospective wife (traditional, submissive, thin/fit, cooks and cleans)? Why do you get to have dealbreakers and other people don't? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 08:11 AM |
| 21 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?What changed is that people are single longer than they were in previous generations and everything is moderated through social media and porn is more gross and easily accessed. I agree with everything you said except for this. I think technology has evolved to make people more isolated and silo'ed away from each other, so that forming relationships (from casual to long-term romantic) is harder because with all the reasons not to leave your house, it's just harder for people to meet organically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 09:57 PM |
| 12 | This sub just doesn’t believe in lovehttps://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2022-08-31/women-not-having-kids-get-richer-than-men?sref=0lt16h2M Single women with kids (i.e. single moms) have on average $7,000 net worth. Single men with kids (i.e. single dads) have average $59,000 net worth... which is actually more than single men without kids ($57,000). ETA: and the kicker is that single women without kids are the richest of all, w/ $65,000. But as an economist pointed out: this study doesn't account for married people, who are ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 09:47 AM |
| 16 | The traits men want in a DAUGHTER vs WIFEActually, the funny thing about this is that if you look at who billionaires actually marry, they don't marry submissive, caring, religious, pure young women. Your best bet (if you're a woman) to marry a billionaire is to be very beautiful (duh), and be smart and ambitious enough to go to an Ivy League university or Stanford and date someone in the CS program or likely to start a hedge fund. MacKenzie Bezos met Jeff Bezos when she worked for him at an investment multinational... after graduating… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 10:05 PM |
| 17 | You cannot have high standards and expect to find a partner if you don't match their equally high standardsBesides the domestic labor that men have traditionally off-shored to women (cooking, cleaning), men generally (of course not all men) have relied on their female partners for social interaction. https://wchh.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/tre.763 Statistically, men are less likely to meet with social contacts (family and/or friends) than women as they age, with men who are single or never married consistently found to be more detached from social activity than those with a partner. This was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 08:39 AM |
| 4 | One observation: girls 23 - 25 act as if that's the normal time regular guys finally get to get laid often, if they have a good career.You know I don't understand modern society's artificialness. It seems really simple and natural to me have sex and make children and fall in love and live for a family. I just don't get why people complicate it. 🤷🏻 Money is money. Where it comes from seems to not matter I think. The only people for whom money doesn't matter are people who have more than enough of it. As for genetic advantages, taller people make more money and guess what, so do attractive people! And it's all relative. Why don't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 05:56 AM |
| 11 | One observation: girls 23 - 25 act as if that's the normal time regular guys finally get to get laid often, if they have a good career.If the man isn't the breadwinner, then you're expecting the woman to not only give birth to the babies, but also earn the majority of the family income? What are you doing exactly in this scenario? Are you signing up to be a stay at home dad, with the majority of household responsibilities (cleaning, cooking) and childcare? Because there are some women who would be down for that. Not a ton, but they're out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 05:01 AM |
| 9 | One observation: girls 23 - 25 act as if that's the normal time regular guys finally get to get laid often, if they have a good career.I wonder why one good income isn't enough. You know, I think it is probably enough. I don't think it makes sense to stop genetic compatibility for strong children just because of an income. But that's just my opinion. I don't understand what you mean. If one income is "good enough" to raise a family on, shouldn't the man's career and income matter more? Because he's the breadwinner, and you'll be able to afford precious little bread if he is low income. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 04:48 AM |
| 18 | What must men do to get to the level where they don't need to do housework?Do you think the woman in this scenario is happy in this relationship? Though she isn't immediately dumping him, she's slowly getting sick of him and part of that is expressed by slowly withdrawing affection. It's a slow break up, in essence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 05:49 AM |
| 2 | How to become the "bad boy"So. Flirting is not creepy unless you start touching or making crass, overly sexual jokes and innuendoes. Flirting is gently teasing conversation that has lowkey sexual energy. Lots of people enjoy flirting even when it's not going to lead anywhere - for instance, old dudes love flirting gently with pretty, young women and it's harmless and fun. Those young women aren't going to go off with grandpa (with his dentures and Social Security check), OK? And grandpa knows this. But he still enjoys it,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 05:12 AM |
| 6 | How to become the "bad boy"It's not basic social skills that attract a woman. It's flirting. Are you good, specifically, at flirting? Because basic social skills = I passed algebra and geometry in high school. Flirting = I am a software engineer at a FAANG company. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 02:25 AM |
| 2 | Men should shoot their shot. Always. Sorry if that makes you uncomfortable, women.I for one don’t harass women like that and most men I know don’t. Not saying it doesn’t happen, but I’m not going to not approach women because some guys are dumbasses I'm not saying that all men need to not hit on women. That is... ridiculous and crazy. I'm saying that it's absurd to say that men should always shoot their shot. If you're the CEO of a company, should you methodically shoot your shot with literally every single attractive female employee in their company? Sure, he's 60 and the re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 11:08 PM |
| 5 | Men should shoot their shot. Always. Sorry if that makes you uncomfortable, women.Obviously if I knew a girl wasn’t into guys I wouldn’t pursue her. That's nice but you should talk to actual lesbians. Pretty much all of them have had stories of men who won't take that first "no" for an answer. There is a reason that the best way to get out of an uncomfortable sexually harass-y situation is to say "I have a boyfriend/husband" -- because there are men who won't respect a woman's "NOPE" but will respect that she is another man's property. Or why female bartenders/waitresses will… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Men should shoot their shot. Always. Sorry if that makes you uncomfortable, women.What if the gay guy didn't take no for an answer? "Why not go out for drinks? It's only as friends, and everybody needs more friends, right??" Lots of men hit on their targets in a "sideways" way -- they won't say "Let's go on a date", they'll be like: "Hey wanna go for drinks? I know this great bar... haha I'm just looking to be friends" when obviously the subtext is "I want to bang you." Oh, and if you reject them, they'll start yelling that you're a frigid bitch and homophobic! And SO stuck u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 10:46 PM |
| 8 | Men should shoot their shot. Always. Sorry if that makes you uncomfortable, women.You didn't answer the question. Would you be offended? How would the gay man KNOW that you're not into men unless he hit on you??? Not all women are attracted to men. Some are asexual, some are bi leaning heavily towards women, and some are lesbians. And definitely not all 21 year olds are attracted to 55 year old men. So it's on the man to shoot their shot! Just like the horny gay dude. So your argument is doesn't hold. Would you be okay with a gay man hitting on you hard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 10:27 PM |
| 5 | Are men and women even truly compatible?https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_sofindings.pdf Lesbian women and gay men reported levels of intimate partner violence and sexual violence equal to or higher than those of heterosexuals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 07:26 AM |
| – | The idea that it is suddenly common for women to have body counts in the 20+ range by the time they settle down is greatly exaggerated if not altogether a myth, most women have less than 10 sexual partners in their lifetime.The median heterosexual man or woman (age 18-60) reports somewhere between four and six opposite sex partners in their lifetime. Lesbian women, too, report about the same number of partners. Meanwhile, the median gay man has notably more partners—reporting between 16 and 20 same-sex sexual partners to this point in their lifetime. So people keep bleating about "self reported statistics are LIES" but that means that heterosexual men are also lying about the number of opposite sex partners they ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/22 10:35 PM |
| 20 | Women getting upset about men asking them about their sexual history is the equivalent as employers getting upset about a job seeker asking them about the salary a position pays.To compete your analogy, N count is more like the details of the 401k plan. I'd argue further that it's more akin to an employer asking for a complete salary history of potential employees. A lot of employers will base the salary they offer you based on your salary history. And that is why there are states and localities that ban the practice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 11:01 PM |
| 9 | Being alone is better than being in a relstionship we are not excited to be inFor gay men, hooking up (even for unattractive men) is easy. Grindr is basically a hook up on demand app. And yet there exists a very healthy market for gay male prostitutes. And lesbians don't have easy access to casual sex... and yet the market for lesbian prostitutes is deader than dead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 11:34 PM |
| 2 | I'm very new to all these pills but red pill seems very convincing. Can women in this sub refute the following claims ?Re: point #1 https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm The median for women (aged 25-49) is 4.3 lifetime sexual partners. Median = halfway point. So half of women (aged 25-49) have more than 4.3 sexual partners and half of women have fewer. Percentage distribution of sexually experienced women 25-49 years of age by number of opposite-sex sexual partners in lifetime 1 partner: 17.7% 2-4 partners: 29.2% 5-9 partners: 28.6% 10-14 partners: 11.6% 15 or more partners: 12.9% So that w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/22 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Has cheating become normalized for TRP married men?Even China is facing issues as women move from the interior villages to the cities and many rural men are "left behind" with fewer women to choose from. Or the men move to the cities and find they can only get badly paid work as, for example, security guards or couriers, and they can't afford to get married. Exacerbating these issues in China is that because of the draconian one child policy, literally millions of female fetuses were aborted decades ago. This means there is a literal shortage of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 11:53 PM |
| 6 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadhttps://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm The median for women age 25-49 is 4.3 lifetime sexual partners. 1 partner: 17.7% 2-4 partners: 29.2% 5-9 partners: 28.6% 10-14 partners: 11.6% 15 or more partners: 12.9% So that works out to 75.5% of women 25-49 have 1-9 partners, and 24.5% have 10 or more partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 04:34 AM |
| 3 | Where have all the good men gone?re: suicide https://www.verywellmind.com/gender-differences-in-suicide-methods-1067508 Suicide statistics reveal that women are roughly three times more likely to attempt suicide, though men are two to four times more likely to die by suicide. Compared to men, women show higher rates of suicidal thinking, non-fatal suicidal behavior, and suicide attempts. What's the difference? One of the most important reasons for the difference between suicide attempts and completed suicides between men and wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 02:48 AM |
| 8 | The biggest turn on for adult women is a guy that has plenty of things going in in his life.A clearer analogy would be: would you date a woman who's fave hobby was social media? Because when it get right down to it, I don't know many people who don't consume TV and movies. And lots of TV and movie watching is really done as a background activity; I put on NBA basketball games as white noise when I'm at home, doesn't mean I'm actively watching them. But video games and social media consumption are active, and seem to fall along gender lines. Just like many women would never date a man w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/21 03:23 AM |
| 29 | There’s nothing wrong with a coffee/walking date as the first dateYes to coffee/tea date. Easy, quick and low-cost way of evaluating a date. No to a walking in the park date: I'm not going to an isolated area with a virtual stranger I just met. Coffee dates are great because it's: public, daylight, and no alcohol so you can drive yourself home right afterward. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 12:48 AM |
| 3 | There’s nothing wrong with a coffee/walking date as the first dateI don't understand -- a coffee date means that you're presumably going to a coffee shop? Why would you deliberately ask to split the bill? Wouldn't each person order at the counter and pay for themselves???? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 12:46 AM |
| 7 | Would it be even worth getting into the dating scene at 26?You sound like a person who is very good at talking themselves out of practically everything, ultimately leaving you with nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 5 | People are underestimating the prevalence of the childfree movementWomen don’t have choice in places like Congo and Afghanistan. Most children there are a result of rape and coercion. Most children in places like Congo and Afghanistan are not the result of rape and coercion WTF. In those countries, couples don't have access to reliable, cheap birth control which makes family planning incredibly hard to control. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/21 02:30 AM |
| 14 | Are high income blue collar men attractive to modern women?There isnt many women in small towns anymore they generally work careers like healthcare, education, childcare that requires them to live in cities where most of these jobs are. They also get bored of the tiny town lifestyle. Most other womennin small towns are married with children. I don't understand your point here. Why would you be interested in whether "modern" women who live in cities would date you when you live in a rural area that many young, ambitious women leave? Sure, some of those c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 07:35 AM |
| 7 | Q4M: Do you wish men were more sexually fluid, like women?Interesting. Everything I've read on the subject notes that both male and female bisexuals tend to overwhelmingly end up with opposite gender partners. Among people with partners, many more bisexual adults are married or in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex than are with someone of the same sex – 88% say this. https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/18/bisexual-adults-are-far-less-likely-than-gay-men-and-lesbians-to-be-out-to-the-people-in-their-lives/ And: Dan Savage once ob… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/21 09:58 AM |
| 13 | Q4M: Do you wish men were more sexually fluid, like women?https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/18/bisexual-adults-are-far-less-likely-than-gay-men-and-lesbians-to-be-out-to-the-people-in-their-lives/ Among people with partners, many more bisexual adults are married or in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex than are with someone of the same sex – 88% say this. This is likely due at least in part to the fact that LGB adults make up a small share of the overall adult population, so the pool of potential same-sex partners is much small… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/21 06:08 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to birth rates, "improved parental leave policies" is a red herring. The nations with the best parental leave policies have the lowest birth rates.If inflation "slowed to a crawl", that implies that a) there was inflation prior to the snippet of time that you're using as an example and b) there still isn't deflation, just a slower rate of inflation. That's because in a normal, functioning economy, inflation happens. For instance: inflation in the U.S. in 1950 was 1.26%. The 1951 inflation rate was 7.88%. The 1952 inflation rate was 1.92%. The 1953 inflation rate was 0.75%. The 1954 inflation rate was 0.75%. The 1955 inflation rate was -0.3… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/21 08:09 AM |
| 5 | Are ugly/fat couples really attracted to each other?You've hit the nail on the head with "attracted to each other to some degree." Ugly/fat/unattractive couples do find their partners attractive to some degree. Do they, individually, find Chris Hemsworth and Gal Gadot more attractive than their partners? Yes. But they also find something awesome and attractive about their partners, enough to make them worth dating/have sex with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to birth rates, "improved parental leave policies" is a red herring. The nations with the best parental leave policies have the lowest birth rates.Edit: And actually, yes, $19k/year would be more than enough to support a household without inflation, because that's roughly what the median income in the 1950s was, during which time the CPI was also 1035.13% lower. I like how you cherry pick the 1950s for how $19k/year would be sufficient income. That's not specious at all! Because the Japanese economy cratered around ~1990s and inflation essentially slowed to a crawl. Would $19,000 be enough to support a family in 1990?? And for reality's sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/21 09:27 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to birth rates, "improved parental leave policies" is a red herring. The nations with the best parental leave policies have the lowest birth rates.And this benefits everyone, even if their jobs and wages stagnate, because they're spending a smaller portion of their income on goods and services than they were before. What happens when jobs and wage growth stagnate is that companies stop hiring people. Wages grow because companies need to attract talent. When there is no job growth, that means that companies aren't https://www.ft.com/content/e5b9e75a-a8b8-4899-a0e4-4aea19d97ff6 According to Mari Miura, a political scientist professor at Soph… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/21 10:18 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to birth rates, "improved parental leave policies" is a red herring. The nations with the best parental leave policies have the lowest birth rates.Japan's asset price bubble collapse in 1991 led to a prolonged period of economic stagnation described as the "lost decade", with GDP falling significantly in real terms through the 1990s.[4] In response, the Bank of Japan set out in the early 2000s to encourage economic growth through a non-traditional policy of quantitative easing to inject liquidity into the market.[5][6] By 2013, the Japanese public debt exceeded one quadrillion yen (US$10.46 trillion), which was about twice the country's an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/21 05:19 AM |
| 2 | When it comes to birth rates, "improved parental leave policies" is a red herring. The nations with the best parental leave policies have the lowest birth rates.That is an incredibly simplistic and economically unfeasible idea. Japan has struggled to get to increase inflation for decades, since the mid-90s. The cost of deflation -- essentially no inflation, and goods and prices remaining flat -- is a sluggish, zombie economy. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/07/15/business/economy/inflation-us-japan.html For consumers, falling prices sound like a good thing. But from the perspective of most economists, they are a problem. Inflation, they like to say, grease… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/21 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Has being feminist just become "being exactly like men?"https://www.cnn.com/2020/04/01/health/handwashing-gender-gap-wellness/index.html Some 15% of men didn't wash their hands at all, compared with 7% of women. When they did wash their hands, only 50% of men used soap, compared with 78% of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/21 02:40 AM |
| 3 | Has being feminist just become "being exactly like men?"It's a known thing that there's a gender gap in hand washing. https://www.cnn.com/2020/04/01/health/handwashing-gender-gap-wellness/index.html Years of surveys, observations and research have found that women are more likely to wash their hands, use soap and scrub for a longer period of time than men after using the restroom. However, there's still a surprisingly large portion of both sexes who don't wash their hands at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/21 02:39 AM |
| 7 | The reason why so many women can't seem to fundamentally accept why dating (or other favored aspects of life) overall is so fundamentally easier for them than for men is due to indoctrination pushed under the guise of 'education'Gay male dating and hooking up in the age of Grindr is wild. It can be a wild shitshow -- sex is cheap and widely available, but gay men have much higher rates of loneliness, substance abuse, are more likely to self-harm and engage in risky sex than straight men. https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/gay-loneliness/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 02:48 AM |
| 18 | Why are you personally against being in a polygamous relationship/marriage?Means you don't need to make the unfortunate decision of choosing someone you're not crazy about in a monogamous marriage or being alone I think you're vastly underselling "being alone". Because for a single woman, if she chooses to "be alone", she controls her life. She lives how she wants, eats what she wants, controls her living space, can get pets, travel, spend her money how she wants. And if she wants to have sex, it's fairly easy for her to access NSA sex -- with a FWB, Tinder, etc. But a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 07:31 AM |
| 3 | Fat people fuck moreSo, the thing is, in the U.S., obesity is somewhat related with low income. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db50.htm Lower income also correlates to lower educational attainment (i.e. not graduated from college). College graduates generally make more in their lifetime than people with only high school degrees/some college. Marriage patterns differed markedly by age at and by educational attainment. College-educated men marriage and by educational attainment. and women married at old… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/21 09:26 AM |
| 2 | What benefit is there in choosing to be with a man over a woman?It's a numbers game. As this Slate article noted, most bisexuals end up partnered with people of the opposite sex. The massive 2013 Pew Research LGBT Survey found 84 percent of self-identified bisexuals in committed relationships have a partner of the opposite sex, while only 9 percent are in same-sex relationships. And bisexuals are people who are openly and more resolutely attracted to both sexes, not just "Kinsey scale 2 kinda-attracted-to-ladies" women. Why? Partly because being openly homos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/21 08:41 AM |
| 5 | The central part of taking the red pill is fully accepting the overwhelming advantage women have in sexual, dating, and relationship landscape.Yup. My gay dude friend recently came down with gonorrhea AND chlamydia from one hook up. The other guy refused to wear a condom, but did show that he was on PrEP, which is a "medicine people at risk for HIV take to prevent getting HIV from sex or injection drug use. When taken as prescribed, PrEP is highly effective for preventing HIV." So good news: my friend didn't get AIDs. It was also a wake up call: he got himself a prescription for PrEP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 05:19 AM |
| 13 | Hypergamy and Equality are incompatible in the Dating MarketI'm going to be real with you: in my experience, most of the women who are catches ("healthy, reasonably attractive, and are responsible and a good person" etc.) are not on OLD. The last thing that most attractive women need is more male attention. They get hit on in real life, and can vet these dudes easier (i.e. they're coworkers, or friends of friends), so dipping their toes into OLD is really low on their list of priorities. I've known multiple women who were, IMO, catches (attractive, fit, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/21 02:10 AM |
| 0 | Older men using their experience as an unfair advantage over younger women is an extreme exaggerationMost of the young women who end up dating older dudes have shitty home lives and daddy issues. 100% of women have had gross older men coming on to them at a young age, and yet 100% of women don't date gross older dudes at 19. What is the difference? There's a joke from 30 Rock that's become an in-joke I've had with my best friend: Liz Lemon tells off a guy for treating her badly, "You can't do that to me, my parents loved me!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/21 10:13 AM |
| 1 | What Standards that the Opposite Sex has do you Consider Acceptable/ Encouragable?Actually, it's been way longer than 50 years that height has been favored in a reproductive context. The Dutch are some of the tallest people in the world; they've grown on average 8 inches in the past 150 years. Scientists who studied the phenomenon concluded that it was basically natural selection: Called LifeLines, the record contains exhaustive detail about the lives and health of more than 94,500 people who lived in the northern the Netherlands from 1935 to 1967. In this three-decade snapsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/21 10:05 AM |
| 8 | What Standards that the Opposite Sex has do you Consider Acceptable/ Encouragable?People also don't realize that height is an expression of genetics + environment. Well-fed kids = taller adults. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/21 09:59 AM |
| 8 | What Standards that the Opposite Sex has do you Consider Acceptable/ Encouragable?That's what my dad told me in a joking way. He's 6'3 and my mom is 5'7 but I ended up 5'4 somehow. Uh, her mom is 5'7". In what world is that extremely short?!? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/21 09:58 AM |
| 3 | Is the primary sexual attractiveness for a woman literally "Dont be fat"?Based on the fact that about 40% of Americans are obese, and about 30% are merely overweight. So it follows that 30% of women are normal weight/slender. But... also only 30% of men are normal weight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 3 | The Orgasm GapHeterosexual men were most likely to say they usually-always orgasmed when sexually intimate (95%), followed by gay men (89%), bisexual men (88%), lesbian women (86%), bisexual women (66%), and heterosexual women (65%). I mean, lesbians orgasm more than either bisexual or heterosexual women. The gap between straight men (95%) and lesbians (86%) is a 9% differential... the gap between lesbians (86%) and straight women (65%) is a 21% differential. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/21 10:34 AM |
| 7 | CMV: The 80/20 rule only exists because men weren’t as pressured as women to uphold their own beauty standards.Most Western women are fat. As opposed to the majority of Western men who are fit and muscular? The National Center for Health Statistics at the CDC showed in their most up to date statistics that 42.4% of U.S. adults were obese as of 2017-2018 (43% for men and 41.9% for women). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/21 10:58 PM |
| 4 | STDs reach all-time high for 6th consecutive year!No, the WaPo article is about the percentage of Americans who didn't have sex in the past year. 27% of ALL MEN don´t have sex since 18y. It does not say that anywhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/21 01:16 AM |
| 12 | STDs reach all-time high for 6th consecutive year!The article you linked to is based on an incorrect reading of a Washington Post article. The graph in the article clearly shows that in 2018, 28% of men 18-30 had not had sex in the past year compared to 18% of women 18-30. There is nothing about 30 year old virgins. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/21 09:20 AM |
| 10 | Is dating down a negotiable and realistic option for high value and independent women?such as shared responsibilities for the hurdles in life, companionship, we can still provide women with affection, and love and loyalty and our dedication, and in all practical things we can still be useful for chores, fixing things not just around the house but conflict resolution for example where a woman needs a strong voice to represent her and stand up for her, a man can still provide all this for her and much more that she may want from a man. I noticed you didn't add: does 50% or more of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/21 02:28 AM |
| 13 | How is casual sex degrading to you (if you do feel this way)?I mean, lesbians also don't have a ton of casual sex either. The cliche is that the second date is renting a U-Haul together to move in. For a lot of women, having sex with someone (disclaimer: sober, totally consenting sex) means they really like that person as a human being and enjoy spending time with them. To get immediately ghosted afterward is dispiriting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/21 11:18 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Women don't really like or love their boyfriends/husbands, they are just settling for the best they can get.Do men not want to have sex with/date/marry the hottest woman they encounter? And what happens when that woman turns them down. Do they settle for someone who is attractive enough but not in perfect peak physical condition? Because turns out that not everybody can date someone who looks like their physical ideal, right? And would they dump their current partner if they had a sliver of a chance with a hotter woman? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/21 10:39 AM |
| 9 | Why is it a problem if only ~70% of young men have sex?Given modern birth control methods (the pill, IUDs, the morning after pill, abortion), sex =/= babies. The reality is that lots of people in the developed world are not choosing to have children for a variety of factors, mostly economic. In Japan, for instance, there is a strong bias against working mothers. So if a woman chooses to have kids, she's going to get pushed out of the workforce, as there's no way that she can work the punishing hours that are expected of a good Japanese worker drone,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/21 08:26 AM |
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