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1	You have the opportunity to marry or be married to a billionaire , but you have to become a stay at home wife, would you do it? I mean he’s living off money we earned. I couldn’t have earned our income without his support.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 09:52 PM
1	You have the opportunity to marry or be married to a billionaire , but you have to become a stay at home wife, would you do it? Ok. So if you had enough money not to work, you’d keep working? Lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 08:38 PM
10	You have the opportunity to marry or be married to a billionaire , but you have to become a stay at home wife, would you do it? I mean, maybe he doesn’t represent you. But have you considered you don’t represent the average man? When I was pregnant, I asked if he was going to take time off work after the baby was born. He was the one who said his income doesn’t justify childcare expenses and suggested he quit. I think men who hate on SAHDs are just jealous. 🫠 My husband gets home cooked meals every night, fresh bread and desserts on the weekends, has a real relationship with his son, and always has time for the latest vi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 07:56 PM
4	You have the opportunity to marry or be married to a billionaire , but you have to become a stay at home wife, would you do it? I’m in Product Management.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 07:53 PM
1	You have the opportunity to marry or be married to a billionaire , but you have to become a stay at home wife, would you do it? I’m not a good housewife but with a billion dollars I guess I could hire someone to clean and do laundry and dishes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 07:40 PM
14	You have the opportunity to marry or be married to a billionaire , but you have to become a stay at home wife, would you do it? My husband has been a SAHD for 9 years. He loves it (and all his friends say they’re jealous) and I love having someone to rely on when I have to travel or work late. I’ve asked him if he wants to go back to work now that our kid is older and he says how would he have time for everything he needs to do in a week, lol. He does laundry, dishes, and the yard. I do cooking and cleaning. He is heavily involved in my kid’s activities and clubs (coach, scout leader, etc) and also participates in gaming…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 07:35 PM
1	What are your thoughts about diamond engagement rings? That's a great point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 05:26 PM
3	What are your thoughts about diamond engagement rings? But I hate my birthstone. Get me anything else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 01:49 AM
2	What are your thoughts about diamond engagement rings? I did not want a Diamond but I didn’t have any specific idea what I wanted. My husband bought me an emerald and when he proposed, he gave me three reasons why he chose the ring. He paid around $800 for it and I think it’s perfect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 01:47 AM
5	Has anyone changed their dating habits as a result of SCOTUS reversal ON Roe v. Wade? Pro Choice is a much more accurate term. My mom should have had an abortion (single mom, abusive drug/user boyfriend). She chose to have me. That choice is a lot more meaningful when it’s actually a choice. Knowing I was a forced birth would affect our relationship. I support a women’s ability to choose what happens within her own body. I’d like to minimize the need for abortions but would always support them as medical care.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/22 01:32 PM
1	Did “common interests/hobbies” ever work for you? My husband of 13 years and I met playing D&D. We still play D&D together. We also have the same political views, watch a couple of TV shows together, and read some of the same books. We differ wildly in the food we enjoy, the video games we play, and our other hobbies. But having a foundation of similar interests has kept us having fun together in addition to a partnership.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 09:54 PM
3	What does Average Adam have to offer for ANYONE I don’t understand your question. Can you rephrase?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 06:47 PM
16	What does Average Adam have to offer for ANYONE Except all of us that do...I've been married to an "average Adam" for 13 years. He's smart, funny, the best dad, does laundry (my most hated chore), and is my travel partner and navigator. None of that kind of stuff made it into OP's narrative though. I wonder why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 05:36 PM
9	If you’re going to complain about people lacking certain desirable traits, make it a priority to find people with those traits. 38% of women outearn their husbands. It's not that hard to find a high earner. But maybe that's more of a you issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/22 05:51 PM
11	If you’re going to complain about people lacking certain desirable traits, make it a priority to find people with those traits. Every married woman in my friend group makes more than their husbands.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/22 03:54 PM
6	Which scenario would you pick? This is exactly it. I would choose #3 in the scenarios AS PRESENTED. But in real life, I've been married more than 10 years to a man who is less than 6 feet tall, makes zero money (he's a stay at home dad), could stand to lose 20-30 pounds, etc. But guess what? He's a good husband, a wonderful father, someone who supports me emotionally and physically and whom I want to grow old with. OP would consider him a LVM and I guess consider me a pickme? But I don't. The scenarios, as set up, are geared …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/22 11:54 AM
1	Which scenario would you pick? OP also added a bunch of negative connotations to #4. Internalized misogyny, abandon your self respect. Why are you surprised no one is picking #4 when this is a /r/badpollquestions situation?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/22 11:46 AM
2	Be honest, would you date the equivalent to yourself? Physically, yes. But no, I wouldn't want to date myself. I'm too high strung. My husband is really easy going and so we balance each other out. I make sure our bills are paid, our license plates are renewed, etc. He makes sure we have some downtime and finds games, TV shows and books for me all the time. (He wouldn't want to date himself, either).	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/22 02:35 PM
1	Why is everybody's Ex 'abusive'? I've had four exes but I've never complained about any of them because they were all good people, we just ended up breaking up because we weren't right for each other. If I had one abusive ex, I might end up talking about it. But your brain is not going to single out Reddit posts about regular, normal people who happen to break up and people are also less likely to discuss those types of relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/22 01:16 PM
1	What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022? Lol ok. Your comment history alone is a huge red flag. 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/22 03:04 PM
1	What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022? Men feel that they should be allowed to sexually harass women. That's privilege. The fact that women investors didn't harass the male presenters is evidence of that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/22 05:37 PM
1	What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022? Assuming all investors are men? All men are straight? What does male privilege look like is the great mystery of our time, indeed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/22 06:59 PM
0	What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022? Lmao ok. 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/22 07:51 PM
3	What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022? My sister is a Series 7 broker and works for an investment firm. Because she hosts the offering webinars, she is known by all the investors. She gets told she has a beautiful voice and asked personal questions during the webinars and sent lewd and inappropriate messages in chat or email. This has never happened to her male co-workers, even when they hosted the webinars.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/22 04:13 PM
2	What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022? I was in a meeting with executives, all voicing their opinion on a topic. A woman spoke up with her opinion and was literally told to go back to knitting. (She does not knit/crochet/craft). The misogyny is blatant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/22 04:10 PM
2	Poll: How important is you partner's earnings in a hook up/dating/marriage scenario? Are you asking if I'm being sarcastic? No.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/17 04:56 PM
10	Poll: How important is you partner's earnings in a hook up/dating/marriage scenario? I mean, I'd be thrilled it if my partner made $100k a year. But love is love. I ended up marrying him when he made $18k a year and now makes $0 a year while raising our brilliant, polite (and finally potty trained!) Kid. Preferences are one thing. Deal breakers are another.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/17 12:31 PM
5	What do we do with surplus straight women after we dispose of unattractive men? Yep. I've always said if my husband died, I wouldn't get married again anyway. I have a fulfilling life/career that would continue outside my marriage. I'd probably pay more for simple handiwork (plumbing, electrical) but I'd pay less in healthcare, food, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/17 08:00 PM
1	So according to feminists, all men are rapists To those down voting me, my comment was an exact copy of the comment above mine, but with the roles reversed. It was to demonstrate how stupid the argument was.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/16 08:01 PM
1	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? k, whatever makes you feel better	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/15 02:52 AM
4	serious question for feminists You bit the nail on the head. Just wanted to expand upon the questions that were asked in the survey and how they affect the results. If I was asked if I wanted to date/marry someone who made as much or more than me, I'd check "hell yes." If I was asked if I'd marry an unemployed guy, I'd say no. But that's because the questions are capturing a moment in time and not actual, thoughtful family planning. The guy I married is technically unemployed because he's a stay-at-home dad. I would have not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/15 05:34 AM
1	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? No just your gross mis characterization of those laws. You sound like a conspiracy theorist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/15 01:24 AM
1	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? Whatever you say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/15 12:00 AM
2	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? K.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:55 PM
1	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? Sounds like you need to take your own words to heart.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:55 PM
0	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? Simply not true. But you keep doing you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:51 PM
1	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? I have. No one thinks innocent men should be put in jail. Anything you think says that is a misinterpretation on your end.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:50 PM
0	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? It had nothing to do with the convo, and I can't read your mind. And I think you're grossly misinterpreting the act here, but that's not the point of this comment thread. You're just conflating issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:23 PM
2	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? No one thinks that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:21 PM
1	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? Not really sure what you're talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:16 PM
3	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? Ok. But no one wants innocent men in jail. This is hyperbole from one of your own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:12 PM
2	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? Ok. But I haven't seen any evidence that they want innocent men in jail.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 09:07 PM
0	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? Believing women should all become lesbians is a lot different than believing innocent men should go to jail.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 08:59 PM
1	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? This is a Red Piller pretending to be a feminist. No one really thinks this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 08:43 PM
6	If you can't prove you were raped , is there a point in reporting it ? What a troll account.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/15 08:43 PM
1	Can we clarify the "women are eternal teenagers" theory once and for all ? Yes, I can dismiss it. It's not a scientifically valid sample size. It's also clear that it's being used as a statistical fact - and even an incorrect fact from what the study found (overweight and obese vs just obese). So throwing the whole thing out is entirely appropriate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/15 11:31 AM
1	Can we clarify the "women are eternal teenagers" theory once and for all ? Well since you didn't cite an actual study, I went and found it. 1) it found that 75% of lesbian women are overweight OR obese, not obese as stated in the comment where I asked for a citation. 2) Q. How many straight women were in the sample size? A. 5,460 Q. How many lesbians were in this sample size? A. 87 So ... That's not considered a scientifically valid sample size. Next.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/15 06:59 PM
4	Can we clarify the "women are eternal teenagers" theory once and for all ? Interested to see a source for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/15 12:52 PM
3	CMV: Women enforce strict/narrow gender roles in relationships more than men do. Also, is society feminized or masculinized? I feel like your title and the body of your post make 2 different assertions. No, women aren't enforcing typical gender roles more than men. More men are staying home to care for children than ever before. More women are the family's breadwinners than ever before. Women outnumber men in graduating college. More men are cooking dinner each night. More women are taking out the garbage. When you look at real, measurable activities, our lines of "this is male behavior" are blurring. If you just make…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/15 12:53 PM
3	Do you agree with this blue pillar? Correct. I'm anon-promiscuous woman. The man I fell in love with and married was a promiscuous man. If I would have created my ideal man, a high partner count wouldn't have been part of the build. But you love who you love. The idea of two potential partners with exactly the same compatibility but with different partner counts seems like a fantasy scenario made up by someone who hasn't actually found their soulmate. But I guess RP don't believe in soul mates/true love. It's just transactional re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/15 03:27 AM
14	Given that marriage provides numerous benefits for women and none for men, why are men the ones who propose? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Yes, but are you aware that none of the respondents for the study were homeless? So your entire point is moot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/15 04:03 PM
3	Given that marriage provides numerous benefits for women and none for men, why are men the ones who propose? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Yes he is. And I'm a lucky lady. I love that someone who cares about my son is home with him and teaching him and playing with him everyday (and that it doesn't have to be me - I'd go crazy at home).	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/15 04:02 PM
2	Given that marriage provides numerous benefits for women and none for men, why are men the ones who propose? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Same reason why if men (typically) have a higher sex drive than women, they should be the ones wearing lingerie and trying to seduce instead of hoping women put on the lingerie and hit on you while you're wearing your favorite boxer shorts with the holes in 'em. Because men (usually) want to feel in control and women (usually) want to feel desired.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/15 03:58 PM
8	Given that marriage provides numerous benefits for women and none for men, why are men the ones who propose? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Or ex-wife...In my case, I'm the breadwinner and my husband stays at home with the kids. If we ever got divorced, I'd be the one paying alimony and having to make a case for keeping my kids. And in our society where more and more women are becoming the breadwinners the whole trope of women getting cash money by divorce is going to become more and more laughable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/15 03:53 PM
3	Given that marriage provides numerous benefits for women and none for men, why are men the ones who propose? Shouldn't it be the other way around? So then why do studies show that married women don't benefit as much as married men when it comes to health? Surely "the homeless [women] with zero SMV" would also be dragging down the non-married stats?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/15 03:49 PM
0	BP: Does TBP really believe that TRP men only sleep with insecure, damaged women? Can you give some examples? I can't think of any standard RP tactics that are taught to/commonly used by women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/15 12:19 PM
6	BP: Does TBP really believe that TRP men only sleep with insecure, damaged women? It's funny because if these behaviors were exhibited by parents to get their children to behave, we'd be posting about that abuse in /r/raisedbynarcissists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/15 11:50 AM
1	Should this Redditor have tried harder in counseling? I agreed that a marriage counselor acting like that was doubtful. And I still think that. Of course, some of the other points brought up in the thread - that OP's account of his therapy were based on his purposeful misrepresentation to further his narrative - makes sense. The therapist likely didn't say anything like what is related in the story, but the therapist probably wanted to talk about his needs and why he had them and try to get him to recognize why those needs didn't match his wife's a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/15 06:07 PM
1	Should this Redditor have tried harder in counseling? I didn't refuse to accept the topic of discussion. I actually pointed out that two distinct details of his story did seem to make sense. But again, you keep doing you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/15 04:50 PM
2	Should this Redditor have tried harder in counseling? I don't think I painted it as a good experience. I said "it wasn't particularly helpful." But you just keep doing you and refuse to believe anything that counters your narrow worldview.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/15 04:38 PM
14	Should this Redditor have tried harder in counseling? Agreed. My marriage counselor recommended Al sorts of things - date nights, sensual massages, etc. It wasn't particularly helpful but it was always on the "intimacy is good" side. EDIT: But there are two parts of his story that, if true, may have contributed to the change. 1) ignoring his wife probably took the pressure of sex off. When there are intimacy issues, feeling like you have to have sex can make you anxious and unable to perform. 2) going to the gym was probably good for both his menta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/15 11:42 AM
5	Thoughts on Paternity Tests? I would be pretty pissed and hurt if my husband asked me (or went behind my back to get) a paternity test, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. Mostly because I'm committed to our marriage and our family. But I would insist on counseling because I would assume something is fundamentally wrong in our marriage for him to not trust me like that - either he's projecting (and is cheating on me) or something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/14 01:47 AM
10	Women in LTRs, how important is staying sexy and beautiful to your sex life, or enjoyment of sex? Really good question. Of course feeling/looking sexy helps me enjoy sex more. But as you get longer in an LTR and the relationship changes, feeling/looking sexy (and even sex) seems to become less important. For instance, after having my son 6 months ago, I occasionally lament the pooch I haven't been able to get rid of yet and I don't feel confident enough to initiate sexytimes with my husband. But I very often look into the mirror and tell myself that I look pretty good and if this is my body …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/14 07:44 PM
5	The Rape Issue (with some fun hypotheticals) Because consent can be given in a variety of ways, at least 2 of which were detailed to you. You got this idea in your head that anyone who thinks consent should be given before sex means you need to ask a certain question a certain way and have no interest in discussing or learning about other, more sexy ways of obtaining that consent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/14 04:33 AM
2	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? Thanks for doing the research. That's a lot. Surprised we don't hear from more men who have had this happen to them. Even the smallest estimate is much more than I would have guessed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 11:13 PM
1	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? When you say sometimes, could you be more specific? How often?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 10:20 PM
2	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? Yes. And I only talked to U.S. doctors (although, to be fair, those are the only ones I have access to). I understand that much of Europe believes differently, and being uncircumcised is more of the norm there. I have a feeling that being "normal" is what influenced my husband's decision-making process the most. If we lived in Europe - or even if he were uncut - it probably would have gone the other way. If I remember correctly, U.S. numbers are about 50/50 in terms of cut/uncut. I think once un…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 08:00 PM
6	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? I love how the topic is "what are your thoughts on it" and anyone whose thoughts aren't "IT'S GENITAL MUTILATION" is just downvoted. Not because you don't have an answer that adds to the discussion, but because you're not hiveminding it up. My "I'm on the fence" answer was downvoted, too, even though I gave my reasons for being on the fence. No one here knows anything about Redditquette. No one wants a debate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 07:50 PM
2	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? Thank you for this answer. Exactly what I was wondering.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 07:44 PM
2	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? Although I understand that there are a lot of nerve endings in the foreskin, I am not convinced (nor is my husband) that it's the male equivalent of the clitoris. There are women who can't reach orgasm without stimulation of the clitoris. I've never heard of a man who can't reach orgasm because of a lack of foreskin.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 07:43 PM
2	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? Well, it already happened. The bodily autonomy argument is the one I find most convincing, but my husband (who is circumcised) decided to side with the doctors we know. We talked with 6 different doctors (that we know personally and professionally) and all recommended circumcision. I think it's a very difficult decision. I don't personally know any men who resent the fact that they are circumcised but I know there are plenty out there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 07:42 PM
1	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? My husband - who advocated my son being circumcised - said he never had a problem with sexual pleasure, so he doesn't really buy that argument. I have no idea either way. I know there are men who decide to become circumcised later in life - are there records of them saying they have less sexual pleasure?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 05:57 PM
1	Dear PurplePillDebate, what are your thoughts on male circumcision? I was really on the fence about getting my son circumcised, especially reading some of the criticisms about its necessity or lack thereof. I talked with several doctors (all of whom recommended it) and I talked with some crunchy moms (all of whom didn't recommend it). In the end, I left the decision up to my husband, who didn't hesitate when deciding to have him circumcised. I really wish I had a better reason for doing it, but I don't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/14 05:55 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this Yes. If you're talking about millions of dollars of difference and are in an industry where it is likely that you are being courted simply for your money, then that's a different matter. HOWEVER, if people couldn't marry wealthy individuals, divorce them and then get alimony, this wouldn't be an issue. So get rid of alimony and then even Britney Spears wouldn't need a pre-nup.	/r/MensRights	10/07/10 10:07 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this I'm a journalist and he's a tutor.	/r/MensRights	10/07/10 10:04 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this And are you suggesting that women should be continuing to keep up their education while they're married, pregnant, nursing, diapering, etc? Yes. I really do. You owe it to yourself and your children to stay employable. What if the financially supporting partner commits suicide? Most life insurances won't payout and you'll be SOL with kids AND a funeral to pay for. Shit happens and it's best to be prepared. Plus, once the kids leave and you're going crazy at home with nothing to do, how many indu…	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 06:08 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this But almost everyone has a skill that they can do at home. Like another girl said in this thread -- sell stuff on Etsy, teach neighborhood kids how to paint or play the piano, become a secret shopper (you still have to go out of the house sometimes if you're a stay-at-home mom), etc. If not, and you refuse to find a job and then your husband/wife/supporting partner leaves you, you really have no room to complain. You CHOSE to be in a position that was bad for you financially. BTW, I love that you…	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:51 PM
2	Who else is disgusted by this I'm against alimony and think women should have jobs and NOT just stay at home with kids...OK? You have no idea what a feminist apologist is.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:48 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this It's planning for a divorce, in my opinion. I know that's an unpopular opinion on Reddit, so we just wouldn't get married. But I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted a pre-nup and anyone who wanted a pre-nup wouldn't marry me. No problem. In my personal case, I make about $20,000 a year more than my boyfriend and my earning potential is also greater than his, so it's not like I'm against pre-nups because I want the money. I just don't think they're the beginning of a healthy relationship.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:47 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this It's planning for a divorce, in my opinion. I know that's an unpopular opinion on Reddit, so we just wouldn't get married. But I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted a pre-nup and anyone who wanted a pre-nup wouldn't marry me. No problem. In my personal case, I make about $20,000 a year more than my boyfriend and my earning potential is also greater than his, so it's not like I'm against pre-nups because I want the money. I just don't think they're the beginning of a healthy relationship.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:47 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this My mother stayed home with us when we were little, too (although she went to night school to earn her degree and worked from home making a killing on eBay back in the day). I don't speak to my father and my sister doesn't speak to my mother. Anecdotes are not evidence for anything.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:43 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this You may be a linguist, you might try a little harder at reading comprehension so that you wouldn't write a totally irrelevant rant. I said you can work even if you have children at home. That doesn't mean you have to leave the home. I've watched children and worked at the same time. It's wonders what kind of jobs you can do as a stay-at-home mom. Of course, you have no idea what kind of opportunities are available because you've never looked into it. If that's not intellectual laziness, I don't …	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:42 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this I love you for explaining this better than I could (and having a better real-life experience to back it up). Long-term alimony is a bullshit crutch in MOST situation and alimony (if it exists) should be limited to six months.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:39 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this I like your take on the matter, mostly because I consider myself to be more superior at paperwork than my boyfriend so it must be true for all male-female relationships! ;)	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:37 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this True, although the fake submission strikes a nerve because there ARE some women like this. I think they are the (very small) minority of women, but they certainly exist. But people who think that most or even lots of women are this way are pretty stupid.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:36 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this I never suggested all women should have a 9-5 job. I think they should stay employable by doing something that keeps up job skills such as continuing to work in some capacity. Yes, taking care of kids is a full-time job if you're doing it whole-heartedly. But with the amount of people who are able to keep up full-time jobs and go to school and raise a family, I think it's laziness if you're not willing to double-time it by taking care of the kids AND work in a way that keeps you employable. If t…	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:35 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this No, she's not reporting it differently. She asked the court to drop any child-support claims. He now has no legal responsibility to support his three children.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:33 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this This is a totally reasonable scenario. Maybe even six months (if it's a hard economy and she needs to update skills by getting a certificate or an internship or something). But years of alimony? Fuck that noise. That's why I strongly advocate that no matter what you do or who you're married to, you NEED to stay employable. Alimony is a crutch used by the lazy in MOST cases (emphasized because rabid Redditors don't seem to understand the difference).	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:32 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this I totally agree -- you get it. Upvote!	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:30 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this I disagree. But I have the grace not to tell you to go fuck yourself for a difference of opinion. I hope you raised your children to discuss things more intelligently than you did here -- otherwise that staying at home thing didn't seem to do much good.	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:28 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this It doesn't make someone bad. But I hold the unpopular opinion that signing a pre-nup is basically planning for a divorce (just like these women are planning for a divorce). To me, it's the same mindset. "Mine, mine" and to tell with trying to make things work. I understand that the majority of people (on Reddit, of course) disagree and think a pre-nup is smart planning. We can agree to disagree, we just wouldn't get married. :)	/r/MensRights	09/07/10 03:27 PM
6	Who else is disgusted by this Yes. Freelance journalism/interactive design. :) A friend of mine does graphic design from home, mostly on a contract basis. Another friend is a telemarketer and while it's a crappy job, it pays the bills and allows her to work her own schedule and watch her kids.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 08:16 PM
-1	Who else is disgusted by this Maybe lazy in different ways. But I know women who don't work and they are lazy. My own sister didn't have to work (and didn't) for several years because her husband could easily support her. But she went crazy not being productive.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 08:00 PM
-13	Who else is disgusted by this So why can't the parental unit continue to work from home? Or volunteer with their kids so they can keep up job skills?	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 08:00 PM
2	Who else is disgusted by this Yes.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 07:58 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this I got into this argument during an alimony discussion on here (I strongly disagree with alimony in almost all cases) but you can still work even if you're staying at home. Or you can volunteer. You can do something to keep your job skills fresh so you don't have to rely on a husband (or wife) to support you. Because if you do rely on someone else to monetarily support you, that's lazy.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 07:58 PM
16	Who else is disgusted by this No. Less than 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. That overused statistic was actually a projection by The Americans for Divorce Reform (who actually have an agenda that encourages them to exaggerate the divorce rate) that "40 or maybe up to 50 percent of marriages COULD end in divorce IF current trends continue." Additionally, second and third marriages are much more likely to end in divorce, meaning the statistics become more skewed because the same people continue to divorce. Additionally…	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 07:29 PM
5	Who else is disgusted by this I agree with you. Loving someone "forever" isn't a fantasy, and it doesn't mean you've found "the one." Loving someone is simply a decision people make every day -- am I willing to put up with this person today? If you want to, you will. It's not romantic but it's why arranged marriages are happier than non-arranged marriages. Because you don't really have a choice, so you make the best of it.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 07:20 PM
8	Who else is disgusted by this Not true. I have a friend in Florida who dropped all claims to child support because she was sick of her children's daddy being taken to jail for lack of payment.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 07:02 PM
32	Who else is disgusted by this While I would never sign a pre-nup (that's as bad as these women, who are planning their divorces because their husbands are "stressed"), I'm disgusted by the link from the OP. I know this will be an unpopular opinion with some, but women who don't work are lazy. Even if you have a child at home, you can work. For this woman to say that she is being punished and "has" to work is totally appalling. These are the kinds of bitches who give women a bad name but anyone who thinks this represents a ma…	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 07:01 PM