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Change your location. I'm not saying move country but consider moving to a different city. Certain cities have a dating culture which doesn't suit you - sometimes the women have a specific type and you aren't it. I almost gave up on dating when I lived and worked in a university town. I would run out of dating profiles because I swiped left all the time. Moved back to my hometown and within 3 months started dating my girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 09:20 PM
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Don't wait until your 30s to date. Peaking as a man in your 30s is bs unless you suddenly have a business take off or make it through some selection event (ie, making VP at a bank). Physically you'll be at your peak in your mid-late 20s. A lot of women fall into negative feedback loops when they reach their 30s and 40s, become very set in their careers and generally aren't willing to fit their lives around someone else. You'll have to settle for some very independent women. Dating is easier and …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:00 PM
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There's a fine line, of course you have to set rules and boundaries. You have to do in such a way that it's her idea. This all sounds like a recipe for having a wife who resents you. If you want total control over your woman she'll eventually one day wake up and think you're an insecure asshole, divorce you and take half your shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 11:28 AM
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All women have tons of options. Most attractive women will have men sliding into DMs and will get approached in public. It's just how it is. You don't even have to worry about other guys if you can fuck her better than any other man could. That's literally the key, give her tons of orgasms and she won't even consider other men. Just don't date BPD women and you'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:03 AM
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Anything past 25 is probably a little odd. Lack of relationship experience is more of a red flag as you get older. Being single for long stretches too. Can't win.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:45 AM
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I think it can work although it has to appear natural. Randomly walking straight up to a girl and saying 'hi you're cute' and expecting the conversation to flow won't work for 99% of men. It's situational and needs to feel organic to the woman. Asking a girl about the book she's reading at a coffee shop is more likely to elicit a positive response. Cold approaching a lot in rapid succession will get you known by local woman and noticed on social media. I live in a country where cold approach is …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 08:26 AM
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I've been on three dates with women who have paid for my drinks/coffee. It was clear on two occasions that the woman had no interest in seeing me ever again. It depends on the dating culture of where you live and if the women have a good job/salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 07:33 PM
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There's a website called pimeyes that does it. Whether it's accurate or not is debatable. I ran it on my pictures and found a picture of me at wedding I had no idea existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:56 PM
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It's unfortunate that's it's come to this. However, it is probably a necessity for guys looking for relationships with like minded women. I would never bring this up on a date. If the image search flags a bunch of cam sites or porn sites there's a good chance the search is accurate. It's possible she was revenge porned but even knowing that it happened is vital before a relationship starts. If you discovered she was a former pornstar or cam girl years into a relationship and she never told you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:03 AM
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They will have to either compromise on a lowish n count girl or travel outside the west. Most will take the first option.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 12:47 PM
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Age gap relationships happen all the time. I was called weird for dating my ex when she was 18 and I was 22. We had a five year relationship. Extreme jealousy is at the root of most age gap discussions. Happy people comfortable with their own life simply don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:39 AM
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Scenario 3 is the most accurate. Even a hot autistic guy will get rejected sometimes. However, autism isn't a dating death sentence. It's just playing the game on hard mode. You have to learn a lot of social rules - that means failing a lot to learn. A lot of autistic men are hypersensitive to rejection and simply give up on women and dating. Another problem is autistic guys like myself often have solitary interests or niche hobbies/music taste. It makes it harder to relate to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:44 AM
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It's a hyperfixation thing. It's also why incels are so fucked up - they go round in circles finding new things about themselves that women find unattractive. I'm autistic and hyperfixation/repetitive thoughts are fucking annoying. Especially when it comes to dating women. All I can think about is my previous fuck ups and why several relationships never worked out. Something will trigger a memory and the spiral begins. It's called anger rumination.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:03 AM
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Late bloomers get hit by fomo pretty hard. Women are pretty much open books if you give off a non-judgemental vibe. They'll list their whole history. Hard for guys who had no sex for years to grapple with. No man wants to think his girl fucked Gigachad, because he’s a lot to compete with. Dating isn't fun in your late 20s or 30+ because nobody really has enough time to form relationships normally. You often end up speed running the first stages or get burned out by it. Online dating adds a new d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:53 PM
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A rejection after one or two dates due to lack of attraction and compatibility has never bothered me. I always thanked them for their honestly and moved on. The ones that stung the most were the almost relationship situations when the girl pulls away before it gets serious. What I've realized is that it takes a lot of effort for two people to be in the right head space at the right time. Especially beyond the age of 25 when people have a lot more baggage and past trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 01:19 PM
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The average woman probably had casual sex once or twice and has had 2-3 short or long term relationships. A lot of men base what they see of average women on their dating app experience. What you begin to realize is the women there are specific subset - there's a lot of average women who aren't on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:34 AM
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As a man, you are much, much more deeply affected by a breakup. So much so that there is a risk of ruin attached to a real breakup. There's always a risk of depression, suicide, addiction, making decisions where you go broke, changing your personality, and just basically going off the rails. It doesn't get talked about much. Some men never get over breakups. Women, meanwhile, are biologically hardwired to handle breakups much better and their risk of breakups isn’t in the same category. It's an …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:52 AM
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A lot of red pill beliefs are stuck in the early 2010s. With greater access to a healthy diet, exercise and cosmetics women are now hotter for longer. The 'wall' for women is more variable nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 12:28 PM
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A lot of autistic women have similar struggles to autistic men. There are fewer of them and many aren't even diagnosed. From what I've noticed, many younger autistic women barely date because they are so anxious. They don't really seem to have high libidos either and often verge on asexual. They just live in their own little worlds. I dated a girl like this briefly and she couldn't go to the movies because it was too loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:10 AM
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I'm autistic and haven't really struggled to date or find women. However, it has taken more effort to understand things which most people intuitively knew about. It's like you're playing your dating life on catch up. One thing I never got which many autistic men have is the demotivation from failure. I never cared if a girl ghosts me or if I got a girl's number and it flakes. I'm just happy that ANY girl would give me her number. Small victories allow you to take your time. If there's a skill is…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 04:30 PM
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When you're a man in the single domain you have to be in touch with the world and it's norms. You can't be too crazy, show too much of yourself or else no one will date you. You have to engage with the shared culture of your society, if that culture encourages casual sex then men who want relationships get burned. When you're in the relationship domain all you have to do is please one person. You get a lot of freedom to think what you want, to say what you want, to engage in any culture you want…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:25 PM
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Addiction or promiscuity is often the result of trauma, a way of coping. Plus, we are all sort of addicted to all sorts of things. Sometimes they become addicted to the being in the cycle of re-trauma. A lot of women also have friends who just reinforce their world view and spit back platitudes at them. I wish this wasn't the case. I dated a lot more women in the past year. I was doing that in an attempt to fix my past relationship trauma. It wasn't healthy. Most of the women I dated were doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:48 AM
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I wouldn't say it was eye opening but I have done things in the dating stage like buy them small gifts, care about their problems and fuck them good/give them orgasms thinking they would want a relationship with me. Doesn't work like that. A lot of women just want want a man who's emotionally and physically strong who will be prepared to drop them at a moment's notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:13 PM
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In online spheres, men and women diverge. I don't see it much irl. There are a lot of mixed friend groups and couples around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:57 AM
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All these nudes and online porn have depressed men and fried dopamine levels. It's hard to quit unless you're having regular sex. Guys hooked on porn often need get hit by a truck to feel anything. You start watching weird stuff you were never interested in to get the same high. Nofap isn't the way forward but it's a start for the most addicted men. Eventually you can go back to masturbating normally if you are horny and watch porn sparingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:50 PM
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Men spent the 20th century and early 2000s learning how to approach women in social spaces. Now they have to figure out how to optimize their dating profile because romance went online. My dating app profile was the product of very autistic research into what photos are most attractive and what prompts work best. I still met women irl, however, not having the dating apps was potentially limiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:04 PM
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Underrated relationship tip: Go somewhere far away from your romantic interest. And then wave at each other from across the landscape. When you walk and meetup you'll both be in a good mood. Something about the distant wave. If you live an apartment you can ask them to look out the window or go to balcony and you can wave at them from the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 09:53 AM
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True height bias exists in only a few nations. North America is obsessed with height. I see many short men in Mediterranean countries with tall gfs. Besides, artificially lengthing your legs is even more unattractive to women than actually being short.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:46 PM
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