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Yes I did. If I guy is constantly day-dreaming about being in a relationship it means he is pretty unhappy with his life and if he is everything becomes impossible including getting women. You need to be happy with yourself first and stop focusing on women. Developing some hobbies because you hope women find your more attractive ISN'T that.
/r/seduction05/06/21 03:15 PM
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Its funny. Your worried you might have said something that offended her. I purposely say highly offensive things to my female friends. To me the deal-breaker is uptight sensitive women....I want to get rid of them as soon as possible. I want the women I feel comfortable saying literally anything to.
/r/seduction16/05/21 09:29 PM
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LOL. I say racist sexist stuff to my gf and female friends daily. Its fun as hell.
/r/seduction16/05/21 09:21 PM
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Get a life. Develop some hobbies, have friends. Women are the icing on the cake. They aren't the cake itself. You should be 100% happy with a life without women otherwise its much more difficult to get them. Its COVID time and you can't meet them anyway. This is basically a once in a life time opportunity to take your mind away from women and put in on yourself.
/r/seduction16/05/21 09:12 PM
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Its no big deal and is really like everything else...its what you make of it. You can have great times with friends but you have to put the work in to make that happen. It can be exhausting but its often worth it. You think its something amazing because you see all these people around you looking happy and having fun. But its all up to you really. Only you really have the power to make it amazing.
/r/seduction30/01/21 06:47 PM
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Huh? I never mentioned attraction at all. Your reading things into my post. My point is that its both a supply and demand question. A normal guy does not care as much about having 20 women or sex or even relationships. He has other things he cares about. So if he has 2 or 3 cute girls interested in him that is more than enough since the supply is far greater than the demand. He might even have a tough time with one girl because he has family, friends, activities he needs to balance. OTOH a perso…
/r/seduction30/01/21 01:53 AM
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You call her and she either picks up or calls back. You text her and she texts back. You make a plan and she agrees. You start a conversation and she is responsive. Your silent and she starts asking questions. As opposed to the opposite.
/r/seduction29/01/21 05:42 AM
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They are not interested. Move on more quickly and rapidly. If your thinking the following..."but if I reject them then I will run out of women since there are barely any talking to me to begin with". This means two things: You are overly focused on women and should develop other aspects of your life: Hobby, friends, enjoyable activies, work/educaton, family etc your aren't meeting enough women. Improve 1) and 2) and focus on rejecting unresponsive flaky and useless girls as quickly as possible. …
/r/seduction28/01/21 11:48 PM
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Stop worrying about what women find attractive and start thinking about what you prefer. Have some standards. You should be more focused on rejecting them then getting them because most are not worth your effort or time. Your solution to most problems with women is not to make yourself more attractive...its just to meet more of them and to have a better, more interesting life so that you aren't so focussed on them.
/r/seduction28/01/21 11:42 PM
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Agree. Any women who isn't making it easy for you should be an immediate written off and rejected quickly. Focus only on the ones that are already interested and show signs.
/r/seduction28/01/21 11:34 PM
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I think the attitude of normal guys is completely different. They place less emphasis on sex and relationships and more on other aspects. They also tend to meet more women in relatively natural settings where they can be themselves. My view is that most guys who tend to get large numbers of women easily are involved in situations where they meet tonnes of women and have huge social circles.
/r/seduction28/01/21 11:27 PM
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I highly and strongly recommend social dancing like salsa/bachata. You will meet women and develop a social circle. People are very helpful and easy to talk to. In most cities there are socials every week where the community at large comes together and individual studios where people pay for instruction with small groups. Best thing is to go to the socials and attend the lessons before the free for all dance begins. You meet all the beginners there and they are almost all single women who are lo…
/r/seduction28/01/21 11:23 PM
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This is the only approach that has ever worked for me.
/r/seduction28/01/21 11:20 PM
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I think worrying about what women think is a losers game. Stop trying to attract them, stop trying to impress them, stop all of it. I don't know whether that will make you more attractive or not to women and I mostly don't care. In some sense I think one should be like Jean Luc Picard. His reply when Riker asks him whether they should alter their behaviour so they aren't judged harshly by Q is: "If we are going to be damned let be damned for who we are"
/r/seduction28/01/21 10:19 PM
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Also if you want to solve 2) above....I highly recommend social dancing as a hobby. Only don't focus at all on chasing women and I MEAN AT ALL for at least the first year or two. Just focus on learning to dance and enjoying the community. You will meet a shit tonne of women and you will find your fear of them will go away as you become more familiar with them. I met women social dancing that were so sweet, attractive, kind and helpful that it completely shattered my conception of women and I rea…
/r/seduction28/01/21 09:50 PM
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Forget about chasing women then (IN OTHER WORDS STOP TRYING). Focus on improving your life and focus on hobbies, friends, work etc. Most guys who are afraid of women are afraid because They place all their life eggs in the "I need a girlfriend to be happy" basket. So the outcome of chasing women is incredibly important They interact with few women and have few women friends. Chasing after women will only make all this worse and generally leads to a shame and depression spiral or complete inactio…
/r/seduction28/01/21 09:47 PM
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God I need to post.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/21 06:45 PM
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There is a lot in here about there interest in you but nothing about your interest in them. I've had many first dates go nowhere but in many cases I felt nothing so it didn't bother me. Are you into every one of these girls?
/r/seduction07/12/20 01:57 PM
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Stop chasing women for a while. Pickup some hobbies. Try social dancing. Salsa and bachata.. Just become a part of something, chill and enjoy your life. When you feeling better than you can think about it again. You hate yourself because your overly focused on one area of your life and your failing miserably. So find some other things to focus on. You will always fail with women if its the only thing you care about and are focused on. You need to get a life.
/r/seduction06/11/20 02:57 AM
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That's great advice for probably the most important question out there.
/r/seduction10/10/20 04:49 AM
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The worst thing is I'll be focused on doing X like going to a store or some activity and out of the blue girls will flirt and I'm totally unprepared. Its hard to flirt at that point because in the back of my head my brain is like "have to do X, have to do X, have to do X". But these opportunities are fleeting and spontaneous. You have to respond properly in the moment. In at least two cases where it happened I didn't even realize they were flirting.
/r/seduction08/10/20 05:34 AM
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John Candy provides a better demonstration of how to respect a woman's boundaries in the great outdoors: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PAC3F5dQufQ Observe how often she says no and tells him to stop. He listens but doesn't take it seriously. Yet they appear to be having a lot more fun than the couple in this comic.
/r/seduction06/10/20 10:14 PM
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It's a possibility in a shitty relationship in which there are major issues. It's not a real possibility in a healthy one. In a good relationship stuff like this is beyond the ability to even conceive of... And not just for hugs for sex as well.
/r/seduction06/10/20 02:59 PM
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Husband has an awful relationship with wife. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where I even had the ability to conceive of asking for permission to hug and then even worse getting a no. I mean it was never even something I could imagine.
/r/seduction06/10/20 02:51 PM
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I find that guys who succeed often seem delusionally self-confident. When I succeeded it was believed I could not possibly fail even though now when I look at it objectively I have zero clue why I believed that. I have a friend who is like this now. Scored a super hot girl. The aggression is the by-product of the delusional self-confidence. You can't fake it...it needs to from an authentic place of delusional self-confidence.
/r/seduction01/10/20 04:46 AM
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just kiss her....if you need a lead up say the following: "You always come over and we cuddle, hold hands and that is great...but sometimes I get a strong urge to just..." and then you kiss her
/r/seduction12/09/20 08:21 PM
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The problem 90% of guys have is they meet too few women. My suggestion is to seriously take up social dancing (salsa/bachata or whatever is pop in your area) as a hobby. You will meet a huge number of women.
/r/seduction23/07/20 10:13 PM
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I think this is an excellent question disregarding the Chad part and I also think it's the main problem I have. My answer: have a life besides chasing and approaching girls. Do you have friends, stuff you enjoy doing, hobbies, persuits? In Chad terms... Chad has a life. He has friends, stuff he enjoys. In any given week there are pretty probably 2 or 3 things Chad is looking forward to. He gets external validation from his job, his family, his life and his friends. So if a girls rejects him it's…
/r/seduction20/12/19 08:01 AM
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I live in TO. I rarely cold approach but to the extent that I do I never get responses like this. Girls are unfailingly polite to me. They often reject me...but they are very polite when they do it.
/r/seduction19/10/19 08:13 PM
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Cold approach is much harder than warm approach so why start with it? Why not just start by going to a class (dancing, cooking, aerobics) and meeting people there. Make some friends. Have a life beyond work/school. Your anxiety will go down and you might find you don't need cold approach. Anyways if you are committed to this approach I would suggest you need consequences if you don't follow through. Make a bet with a friend...i'll pay you $100 if I don't approach 5 girls this week. Then even if …
/r/seduction19/10/19 07:59 PM
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I'm guessing a Nordic country. Which one is it?
/r/seduction19/10/19 06:50 PM
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I disagree. Have one hobby and maximize it. I also think social dancing is far superior to Yoga. Yoga has tonnes of women even higher ratios of women to men than social dancing but the problem is that it has no social element. During a yoga practice people don't talk to each other at all. So the only point you can actually connect is at the conclusion of the Yoga practice or before it starts...you have to come early and stay late. Contrast this with Salsa dancing. In Salsa you have two type of o…
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:16 PM
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You are whatever you think you are. So yes.
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:13 PM
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Those who think the can and those who think they can't they are both right. You think you can't...you are right. You can't meet her.
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:11 PM
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No you don't. Meet her.
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:49 PM
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> What if women all assumed I was gay? Do I pass that shit test by fucking guys? You pass the shit test by agreeing that your a hardcore FAG and then fucking HER. Words are worthless...both hers and yours. Actions count.
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:29 PM
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Admit to it even if its a lie. If she says you are a fuckboy say "YES!!!".
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:27 PM
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I had something like this and I can give my advice on how you will get over this: You have to HATE her. I know you don't want to but that is what has to happen. Honestly its like dying...its extraordinarily painful. My argument would be that you should go after her...HARD. At some point she will reject you HARD. That is the only way to move on. Everyone on here will tell you to just move on...but you will never be able to move on until all hope is gone for this relationship and the only way that…
/r/seduction14/01/18 07:46 AM
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