astrovixen Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
124	The pull backwards can be so strong, even though logic may be whispering it's warnings to you.	REMINDER 👑	astrovixen	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/09/20 09:26 AM
61	I just couldn't get it right with my last relationship. It triggered my anxiety, depression, and so I reflected on any toxic traits I may have been developing. I became unwell in that relationship, my mental health declined. Tonight, I realised, he is on the spectrum, and it all finally made sense.	LESSON LEARNED	astrovixen	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/09/20 02:54 PM
34	So, you were right. Not about hating men because I have too many in my life that are good, but about not accepting relationships that hurt us. Those that we ignore and justify its flags. Dammit you were right.	MOOD FOR LIFE	astrovixen	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 10:21 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
18	Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :) Is it just me or does the speaker sound like a Disney Princess? Give these women an Oscar, gd. This is perfection.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/11/21 08:36 PM
-2	So, you were right. Not about hating men because I have too many in my life that are good, but about not accepting relationships that hurt us. Those that we ignore and justify its flags. Dammit you were right. If I'm forming new language, I'm open to its learning, in which my first reply indicated that. In fact I would say I rarely use that word, because I agree. However, I can joke amongst my friends and we can call eachother any name under the sun and there is no angst. If you want to foster FDS as a place of safety and not toxicity, then maybe women pitting themselves against other women is not that. And in a safe space and with no ill intent, that particular word is not the evil you project it to …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 12:07 PM
-4	So, you were right. Not about hating men because I have too many in my life that are good, but about not accepting relationships that hurt us. Those that we ignore and justify its flags. Dammit you were right. I am not here to fight you. And I am respecting you even if I explain my thought process, but you are welcome to take it as such. If, finally, a woman such as yourself stands up and says that that they are finally done with the toxic nature of men, and you come onto her thread and say your peace, which you are entitled to, and I am showing you respect for, then you are here to bring me down, why? You and all can have your opinion, but right now in this context, you are what you preach against. A…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 12:01 PM
-8	So, you were right. Not about hating men because I have too many in my life that are good, but about not accepting relationships that hurt us. Those that we ignore and justify its flags. Dammit you were right. I say it with re-ownership of a word used against us, and I say it as a model of empowerment. But really I hear you, and I understand fully. But also I think, fuck everyone else who can turn that word against us, why can't we reclaim it and let it become a shield? Why do we allow it to remain a weapon? Just musing. No answers. There are all sorts of triggers and I respect if this is one of yours, or of any others. But remember, intent behind a word can also come from a positive place, and in thi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 11:35 AM
85	Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lie OP is right. The problem is that now graphic imagery and videos are accessible by very young children, and this shapes both genders, years before they are aware of its impact. And many may never question it, until untold damage is done, and they have engaged in practices well before the appropriate years. Even as older teens the imagery and mentality is destructive. And so the cycle of women as objects continues, W But this time the newest generations have normalised it on a social level, much t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/07/21 05:32 AM
85	Men need to stop complaining 😂😂 I want to draw her, she's a goddess indeed. But I won't lol.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/06/21 12:59 PM
2	Women are 6x more likely to end up divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or MS, than if their male partners were facing the same illness. Credit: IG @wokeblackprincess Lovely and perfect reminder. Cat backpack it is then :d	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 05:55 PM
25	Women are 6x more likely to end up divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or MS, than if their male partners were facing the same illness. Credit: IG @wokeblackprincess I try to keep an open mind when it comes to men, despite my own experiences, but hearing things like this just cements my desire to become the old cat lady. It would be good to see source material of statistics before accepting this number blindly, but honestly I have very few doubts of it being fake or exaggerated.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/21 08:41 PM
4	The downvotes have begun. It is not good, I agree. I just know that we can't predict how we will react to trauma. When my dad was suddenly diagnosed stage 4, my depression spiked and I started losing myself to it. I held it sort of together until he passed 3 months later and then I crashed hard. Never would have thought prior that that would be my reaction, as I was focussing on him and helping him get through, but stress can fuck you up. It's easy to judge situations we aren't actually in, and there are always a million…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/21 12:58 AM
5	The downvotes have begun. I don't think this will be received well here but I need to play devil's advocate, because it is far too easy to jump on the hate the man bandwagon, but she describes him as also having good qualities, which you all ignore for his reaction here. Maybe because I'm trained in mental health, but my first thought wasn't that he was being selfish, or the other negative things said in these comments above, but that he feels like he's failed her, and taken it hard. Yes, he needs to take a breath and ma…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/21 12:21 AM
3	The bar is in hell I weep for my children.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/21 11:33 AM
130	Love it! Maybe gouge out your own eyes, boys ❤️ I don't have tiktok, but I am enjoying these powerful young women show much more awareness than I did at their age.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/01/21 06:48 AM
8	Bridgerton was a hot mess but I still binge watched it! And sets. They were beautiful	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/01/21 06:06 AM
18	I love this Did I hear some Irish accent in there?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/01/21 12:58 PM
2	After everything i've been through, there's no way I am ever going to let myself indulge that much energy into a person, even if he is a HVM, i have a lot more boundaries now and want to use that energy for myself and my career more. This one hurt.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/01/21 01:02 AM
2	After everything i've been through, there's no way I am ever going to let myself indulge that much energy into a person, even if he is a HVM, i have a lot more boundaries now and want to use that energy for myself and my career more. This one hurt.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/01/21 01:02 AM
2	I just couldn't get it right with my last relationship. It triggered my anxiety, depression, and so I reflected on any toxic traits I may have been developing. I became unwell in that relationship, my mental health declined. Tonight, I realised, he is on the spectrum, and it all finally made sense. Really doesn't make much sense why, after we look back. But in it... So many justifications made.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/09/20 12:36 AM
1	I just couldn't get it right with my last relationship. It triggered my anxiety, depression, and so I reflected on any toxic traits I may have been developing. I became unwell in that relationship, my mental health declined. Tonight, I realised, he is on the spectrum, and it all finally made sense. I think you're right, but because my previous narcissistic relationships were more obvious and I stepped away (eventually, finally), and he showed crumbs of awareness, I justified. Have to love myself more so I stop attracting and accepting these men.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/20 09:05 PM
1	I just couldn't get it right with my last relationship. It triggered my anxiety, depression, and so I reflected on any toxic traits I may have been developing. I became unwell in that relationship, my mental health declined. Tonight, I realised, he is on the spectrum, and it all finally made sense. He was very very content with his bubble, and only invited me into it for when he wanted pleasure. If course because he starved me, I went running. What a blind fool with a heart too big for him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/20 09:02 PM
2	I just couldn't get it right with my last relationship. It triggered my anxiety, depression, and so I reflected on any toxic traits I may have been developing. I became unwell in that relationship, my mental health declined. Tonight, I realised, he is on the spectrum, and it all finally made sense. I think it has been because I've always tried to understand myself, and so the extension into observing his behaviours felt normal. Plus, I think I rationalise it as, if we as females didn't do this, wouldn't we still be pandering to all the men that led us to subs like this, because we'd be ignoring their behaviours? Having said that, you make a good point. Going to step back from focusing on them and more on how I feel so I don't end up knowing I'm miserable for a year and wondering why i stay…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/20 09:01 PM
11	Truth. Just cut ties for good with mine. This post struck deep. Articulated my observations-turned-rationales so perfectly. Why we do this. Whyy	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/09/20 11:58 AM
3	The pull backwards can be so strong, even though logic may be whispering it's warnings to you. It can be a very supportive community of sisters indeed. I have been learning a lot about myself too, and detaching from what I knew to be normal. Slow but important process	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/09/20 03:23 AM
3	The pull backwards can be so strong, even though logic may be whispering it's warnings to you. This one hurts yes, it is something I have become too good at	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/09/20 03:21 AM
8	I really love this tiktok. As someone that is currently learning to love myself and do things alone. Seeing ppl do this encourages me Yes! Finally at the stage where I'm not looking for love outside myself, so this was just soul food ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/20 07:09 AM
5	This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodged Dear god, my brain didn't need that. But no doubt it has probably happened somewhere	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/08/20 01:37 AM
14	This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodged I feel I may be missing some infamous Reddit history here... and yet I also don't want to know.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/20 08:31 PM
6	After the first few weeks my boyfriend had been coming over to my house, he said, "If I'm going to be spending this much time here, I should definitely be helping out around the house." I'm going to go with you trusting your instinct on this, seeing as you know your past and are the only one of us actually present in your relationship. And I trust that you are being wary, it's the smart thing to do. But mostly I'm absolutely and utterly impressed in his emotional intelligence. What a breath of fresh air it must be to slowly recharge into a healthy relationship after so much toxicity. I had honestly gotten to the point where I decided I'm not going to enter any more relationship…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/07/20 01:51 PM