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ataraxiary/r/MensRights11/01/12 07:18 PM
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I don't know when I'm going to Otakon again, or if I will ever go to Anime Boston (I chose PAX this year), but someday, somehow - your challenge has been accepted. Maybe Halloween, lol.
/r/MensRights19/07/12 03:53 AM
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I was thinking pee on him/her.
/r/MensRights29/05/12 03:48 AM
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She said it was her first ever child support check, so that doesn't really seem terribly unlikely. Sure maybe they just got a divorce and she's being a harpy, but it could just as easily be that she was never married and she's never has any help raising the kid(s) and has gone years foregoing any spending on herself. That said, I think there's a special place in hell reserved for anyone spending that much on shoes, especially ugly-ass coach ones.
/r/MensRights17/03/12 01:56 AM
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Hmm, well, sorry. I don't read that blog or really keep abreast of what's blacklisted and what's not, so I didn't know it wasn't kosher. I still wouldn't have been able to take a screenshot (at work), but duly noted for future reference. Here is the link to the actual source if you want to read it without handing over page views to the blog - of couse you'll be giving them to questionable religious types instead, but there it is.
/r/MensRights11/01/12 09:24 PM
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The secretions of the labia minora accumulate in uncircumcised women and turn rancid, so they develop an unpleasant odour which may lead to infections of the vagina or urethra. I have seen many cases of sickness caused by the lack of circumcision. Uncanny how similar that sounds to excuses for circumcision I've heard.
/r/MensRights11/01/12 07:21 PM
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Re: #3. Lol. I'm pretty sure "respectable" is one adjective people should not be using on this chick.
/r/MensRights28/11/11 05:54 PM
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So someone went to the trouble and expense to get a vasectomy, but still has to use condoms until he starts dating post-menopausal women? Yikes. Why on earth would anyone be with a woman they distrust so much that it would be preferable to use condoms forever over just telling her they're snipped?
/r/MensRights22/11/11 05:19 AM
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If I were you I would look at my own motivation for not disclosing. Are you trying to keep it a secret for some gotcha moment when she tells you she's preggers? I don't really see how you can have a happy, healthy relationship when you are keeping secrets like that for the sole purpose of catching her when she theoretically goes behind your back one day in the possible future. Or maybe it's because you think no one will stick around if they knew you were 100% serious? If so - better to let them …
/r/MensRights21/11/11 10:21 PM
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Yep. I once considered applying for aid. The worker said I either had to apply with my ex or sue for child support. No help for me.
/r/MensRights31/10/11 06:15 PM
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Relevant
/r/MensRights12/07/11 04:04 AM
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Pretty much, yep. By the time I was drugged up nice and good I was drunkenly mooning distant relatives without a second thought. They could have broadcast it live and I wouldn't have given a crap.
/r/MensRights14/06/11 03:40 AM
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You could try talking her into giving it up for adoption.
/r/MensRights24/04/11 11:07 PM
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So serious question then. Assuming most men are like yourself and wish to protect their penis, why would they endanger it with rape just for a piece of ass? I mean, most men are okay with just beating off and calling it a day.
/r/MensRights27/03/11 05:42 AM
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If this were true, why is prison rape so common? Obviously the feminist belief that rape is caused solely by a desire for power over women is false, but I would say that this author's assertion that it is only caused by sex drive is also questionable. Take this with a grain of salt because I am neither a man nor have I ever been in prison, but I'm fairly sure prison rape is used as a means to show dominance between inmates. I'm guessing sexual desire is there too, but the power conflicts are pre…
/r/MensRights26/03/11 06:24 PM
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Obviously, because of the nature of marriage, the bar will be much higher to actually prove that a rape has occurred. Nonetheless, it is still a crime and, if sufficient proof is available, should be punished just as "normal" rape. To be clear, this case was an abomination. However, had there been physical proof (clear signs of force, photos of tape marks, real injuries), and had he properly been able to defend himself (using his money for defense, etc), then yes, in that hypothetical world, pun…
/r/MensRights09/03/11 06:56 PM
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I guess it just comes down to intent. Were they really intending to harm their children? Were they scouring the internet for some fraud psychologist so that they could finally have an excuse to molest them? Because honestly, that seems unlikely to me. It seems far more likely that they were well meaning, but ignorant, and got duped in a bad way. Aaanyway. It doesn't matter much what I think, so whatever.
/r/MensRights04/03/11 05:09 AM
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No, you did not. My hyperbole was really just to point out that sometimes we rightfully excuse bad things people do when they are the result of misinformation, trust in authorities, and inertia. Some small kernel of this could be extrapolated to how we treat the parents from the article. I didn't see exactly acts were carried out, but depending on the severity, it may, to the uneducated, have seemed like a plausible medical treatment. I'm not saying they did no wrong, obviously, but I do questio…
/r/MensRights03/03/11 07:15 PM
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So all mothers who allowed their sons to be circumcised in the past 10-15 years should be imprisoned and have their children taken from them? I don't agree with circumcision at all, but that's a pretty big stretch.
/r/MensRights03/03/11 06:53 PM
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Imagine if the "police" came to you and somehow convinced you that they needed your help to catch a perpetrator. Tell me you don't think there are some people who would fall for that and go along with whatever crazy stuff they were told.
/r/MensRights03/03/11 06:50 PM
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Well he probably didn't say "hey, send me the pictures of the assault." I imagine he was clever and couched it in terms of.. "I need to view the procedures as you implement them because if you do something wrong you could cause lasting damge to your child." They were morons, sure, but It's unlikely that he was as well. He manipulated them.
/r/MensRights03/03/11 06:42 PM
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Yes it does, which of course sucks. The advantage is that the "normal" thing to do would be having the test. So, if a given family opts out, the man will have hopefully thought long and hard about why they are going against the grain. I can imagine a scenario where a man has a hunch that something isn't right, but for whatever crazy reason he still wants to make things work without formally acknowledging the fact that the kid might not be his. If he wants to bury his head in the sand, I do think…
/r/MensRights03/03/11 03:10 AM
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I tend to agree with you. As a Kansas resident, I'm for the for the mandatory testing, but your latter suggestion regarding paternity as a pre-req for child support (except in the case of adoption, obviously at that point you knew what you were getting into) is tempting as well. Both have their drawbacks though. Mandatory testing will be nice, but it is also very expensive... those costs will likely be passed on to the taxpayer often enough. Waiting until shit hits the fan to test will probably …
/r/MensRights03/03/11 12:08 AM
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The biggest problem here is that the article ignores the fact that you could say the same things for women. Most 25-30 year-old women aren't necessarily running out and popping out babies - a lot of them are still lushing it up at bars and clubs in ways very unbefitting of their age. I think the article is accurate that a new age group is emerging (pre-adults or whatever), but it's silly to imply that this isn't a trend that affects both sexes.
/r/MensRights24/02/11 04:36 PM
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A light touch results in no feeling at all, which by itself would lend credence to the "no feeling past 2 inches" hypothesis that you were initially denouncing. However, a touch plus a small amount of pressure causes slight discomfort which increases depending on the amount of pressure. This is the same feeling whether it's my fingers checking my IUD, my vibrator, or my SO getting carried away. The range is from nothing to discomfort to pain. As for the original topic of vaginal sensitivity past…
/r/MensRights23/02/11 10:04 PM
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Hi there, girl here. I don't need wikipedia to tell me that cervical stimulation hurts like a bitch. I've been preggers, had an IUD, and had lots of sex; all of which have potential to stimulate the cervix and most definitely not in the good orgasmy way. So, you know, it's cool that you can (or have heard of someone who can) get off that way, but that doesn't make it common and it doesn't mean the rest of us plebes are using farm implements.
/r/MensRights22/02/11 04:26 AM
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But then so would 25% of women! Unless the men in question are actually closeted homosexuals. Though at that point I don't think the cheating is why the marriage is doomed..
/r/MensRights16/02/11 08:51 PM
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Most marriages ending in divorce proves nothing. For every marriage that ends because a woman wants to "find herself", there could be another couple down the block splitting because the man was too friendly with his fists. For each abusive crazy woman, there could be a man boning his co-worker on the boss's desk. Or maybe all of the above at the same time. Your statistics make no claims as to where the fault lies, so I'm not sure what you were trying to prove. Unless you are implying that women …
/r/MensRights16/02/11 06:07 PM
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If you REALLY feel the need to get married find someone who has more money than you, makes more money than you, etc. This is my advice to both men and women You realize that this is not sustainable, right?
/r/MensRights15/02/11 11:41 PM
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Yea, I know it's off topic. Oh well. I know it is the United States and all of the entailing significance. My point was that I just think that the average person no longer thinks of it as a Union of States, but as a single entity/country (which is probably because that is how we usually function). Unfortunately, our laws don't jive well with that. But yes, I'm aware that it's my opinion and that it doesn't really matter much because it is in direct opposition to the constitution. Know your state…
/r/MensRights01/02/11 02:56 PM
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Which stems from a time when states were perceived more like little tiny countries, similar to the EU and it's constituents. The problem is that the idea is antiquated. Most people think of the US as a more unified entity than our forefathers did. The differing views about something like age of consent create confusion and I have a suspicion that the only thing that happens is people get hurt. When's the last time you heard a story about someone outraged that their kid had sex with their highsch…
/r/MensRights01/02/11 02:17 PM
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Yea, if anything I believe men have slightly more luck as vasectomies are much lower risk and (i think?) more easily reversed... thus doctors are more willing to play ball. Obviously that isn't always the case, judging by the story above it's a problem for both sexes. It's a damn shame that we assume people (any people, male or female) aren't capable of making decisions like that by themselves.
/r/MensRights21/01/11 08:29 PM
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Hi there, fellow woman. Barring actual sterilization, I highly recommend an IUD (or just in the meantime). I used pills for years, then switched the shot. On both I gained a ton of weight and was pretty bad at remembering the pills too. I don't want more kids (have 1 already) and neither does my SO. Like you, I worried about a lifetime of hormones. I got an IUD. Well specifically, I got Mirena. It does have hormones, but since it is directly in your uterus it requires a much much smaller dose. I…
/r/MensRights21/01/11 02:58 PM
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Wow. That's terrible. It sounds similar to the kinds of problems women can run into trying to get a tubal ligation (but you might want kids someday!). In my opinion, the doctor should never have brought your girlfriend into it. You aren't married. It is honestly not her decision. Of course, you, being a decent human being, would have already talked with her about your plans, but nowhere does the doctor need to butt their head in. As for getting one, if you live in or near a larger city I can't i…
/r/MensRights21/01/11 02:47 PM
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Perhaps she didn't see the smoke, a strange person runs up and grabs the kids -thus scaring the crap out of her and putting her on the defensive. Then, when the tires explode she doesn't know what the hell caused them, but in that state of mind it's reasonable to assume that this "kidnapper" somehow caused it. I don't know of course, but I assume it all happened very fast and she may not have been able to process what was happening - her only thought was for the kids.
/r/MensRights16/01/11 05:24 PM
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I have. I'm a woman, I'm 100% responsible (unless you count the the $50 I received this year to pay for a birthday party). What now?
/r/MensRights16/12/10 07:43 PM
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You know, as a woman who definitely supports the right to choose, I find I am conflicted about this. If I found myself pregnant and I wanted an abortion, but the man wanted the baby... I'm not sure I could bring myself to deny him. I find I generally agree with you, I think it is more horrible to kill a wanted child than it is to deal with a forced 9 months of pregnancy. Though pregnancy can be (though rarely) life threatening. It is not a complete non-issue. Still, you have to admit that there …
/r/MensRights16/12/10 07:07 PM
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Shit can always go wrong though. The woman doesn't have to be "lying" about pills, I was on them for a couple of years and it is damn hard to remember to take them every day, especially since they are most effective if you take them at the same time of day (which, btw, is exactly why I have an IUD now). If your BC of choice is pills, it is always a good idea to use a second option (condoms!). More male-contolled options for BC would be awesome and a boon to mens rights. Still, it does not matter…
/r/MensRights16/12/10 06:53 PM
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I addressed my thoughts on "the forest" elsewhere in the thread. Sometimes threads and conversations go off topic. Deal with it. I wasn't discussing the OP's post directly when I said what I said. Tomek77 said someone didn't "understand the meaning of reproductive rights," implying condom use was not one and I disagreed by actually linking two definitions... which, by the way, do include birth control. So it goes like this: Amnesty International (a human rights group) defines reproductive rights…
/r/MensRights11/12/10 09:31 AM
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Debate over minutae while ignoring, and refusing to address, the bigger, more important picture... K. Well, personally I think that your right to not pay child support for a kid you didn't want counts as minutia compared to all of the baby boys being mutilated as we speak. Or schoolboys being medicated just for being a boy. Or a society of people so ridiculously afraid of "evil male pedos" that we deprive kids of all kinds of good fathers and father-figures. Or grown men so afrain of those pedo …
/r/MensRights10/12/10 10:52 PM
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Hmm. Well I'm sorry, but I'm afraid it is surprising to me. I am a woman, true, but I do not identify as a "feminist," and have no real background in that area (no women's studies classes, books, etc) and despite what you say about women in general, I have not seen that sort of argument come up at all, let alone as a default belief. Contrarily, most of the posts from women (here in men's rights at least) are surprisingly sympathetic to mens plight. Still, I have clearly not seen all that you app…
/r/MensRights07/12/10 11:47 PM
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But see, that's where we have gotten off course. All of these replies that I have made that you responded to, every one, was in response to this comment made by Tomek77 yesterday Wearing a condom is not a reproductive right. He said it is not, I claim that it is. Whether it is or not is a semantic argument and, in the end, doesn't matter much. Because if it is a right, then it is one men and women share more or less equally. Much more concerning to all of us are the many reproductive rights that…
/r/MensRights07/12/10 10:41 PM
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I guess we'll have to agree to disagree, it is just semantics after all. Although most would argue that any argument on the internet is a pointless waste of time. I was telling my boyfriend about this one last night and, although he agreed with me.. he was pretty adamant that it was still just "special olympics" to bother going on about it. Oh well..
/r/MensRights07/12/10 08:58 PM
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So true. Condoms are one of the few reproductive rights/choices men are afforded in or society. Of course there should be more rights, but not using the best and most realistic choice is foolhardy. Abstinence and sterilization are great, but the former is pretty difficult to hold to and the latter has costs that are often insurmountable (a teenager is unlikely to abstain if he has the option not to, but he's also probably unlikely to be able to afford a vasectomy).
/r/MensRights07/12/10 01:20 AM
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No. I think all of the advancements in women's reproductive rights are good, and I think that more need to be made for men. As I have stated, condoms a A single reproductive right, they clearly do not constitute all of them. You are reading much into what I have said that is simply untrue. I don't not seek to "disenfranchise" a whole sex, I question your reasoning. My statement that the right to use condoms is a reproductive right that men have does not in any way detract from the fact that the …
/r/MensRights06/12/10 11:50 PM
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sigh I wasn't trying to say that wearing condoms is the only reproductive right, just that it is one. Likewise, birthcontrol pills are a reproductive right. I'm not anti-abortion, that's preposterous. Your definition of reproductive rights is innacurate because birth control/contraception is clearly included in the definition(see my previous posts).
/r/MensRights06/12/10 11:42 PM
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Do you have a baby, do you know anyone who does? What about HIV? One of these is much worse. I am in no way trying to downplay the weight of an unwanted child, but frankly it is ignorant to assume that a child is worse. Children, wanted or not, are what sustains the human race. HIV has been doing it's best to kill it. According to a CBS news article from 2006, HIV has a lifetime cost of $618,900 (based on a 24 year estimate). Whereas the cost to raise a child to maturity (born in 2009) is $222,3…
/r/MensRights06/12/10 08:55 PM
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I'm not sure why you are being hostile and generally a jackass, but.. it is what it is. Your comparison to breathing is asinine. No one has ever made it illegal to breathe (unless I guess you been sentenced to death..). However it was illegal to sell condoms in the Republic of Ireland until 1970. It was once illegal to manufacture and/or sell condoms in 30 states in the US. The fucking Catholic church still condones their use (accept apparently for prostitutes in Africa). And! If you needed furt…
/r/MensRights06/12/10 08:33 PM
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You do make a good point with the comparison to HIV. For the record, I agree with you. She most likely should have said something. I would say, though, that generally speaking a baby isn't quite as destructive as HIV. For one, a baby often turns out to be a good thing...they grow and you love them, even if you never wanted one originally. I'd wager that just about no one grows to love their HIV and most would happily kill it if they could. In contrast my daughter was originally unwanted, but I a…
/r/MensRights06/12/10 08:07 PM
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Yeah, fuck you! That was completely unnecessary. You "choose" to wear a condom or not to. You "decide freely" to wear a condom or not to. You "make the decision" to wear a condom or not to. Your choices are not limited to "abstain or hope for the best"... literally millions and millions of men who have sex without becoming fathers can attest to the greatness of using a condom. If you think it is not a reproductive right, then imagine NOT having the right to wear them. Can you fathom a world wher…
/r/MensRights06/12/10 07:50 PM
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Well I don't do that, nor do I know anyone who would (at least to my knowledge). You do not help the situation by extrapolating the one-off newsworthy instances into something an entire gender engages in. As has been said elsewhere, the men in mensrights get very upset at feminists saying that "all men are rapists." Rightfully so. All men are most certainly not rapists and can you even imagine how screwed up it would be if I were to react to a story of a man contemplating rape by saying "That's …
/r/MensRights06/12/10 07:13 PM
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No. You appear to be the one who lacks knowledge. Wearing a condom is not a reproductive right. Yes, indeed it is. As are all methods of contraception/birth control. Per Amnesty International: Reproductive rights may include some or all of the following: the right to legal or safe abortion, the right to birth control, the right to access quality reproductive healthcare, and the right to education and access in order to make reproductive choices free from coercion, discrimination, and violence. F…
/r/MensRights06/12/10 07:03 PM
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Well if you rinse it down the sink, you're probably okay even if they aren't dead. I can't imagine tearing the plumbing apart just to locate a wad of spooge. Then again I can't imagine any of it so nevermind me.
/r/MensRights06/12/10 06:32 PM
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She didn't have any way of getting ahold of him. I'm not sure that her very first response upon being swooped in upon should have been "danger! this chick wants to have your babies!" That would have been pretty wildy innappropriate considering she wasn't actually sure... i mean shit when she left they were just talking/flirting. Now if she knew him better (i.e. at all) or if they keep dating, then she should absolutely mention it to him. Really though, it shouldn't be breaking news to the guy th…
/r/MensRights06/12/10 06:29 PM
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Well uh.. the dad wasn't a star either considering he was in jail.
/r/MensRights06/12/10 03:48 AM
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I'm not actually sure how this is a MensRights issue, other than the limited role of the father. But good christ! That woman... there aren't even any good words. I really think this is the kind of case where sterilization would be an appropriate part of the punishment.
/r/MensRights05/12/10 07:15 PM
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The draft was technically discontinued in the 70s. However all men between 18-35 must legally sign up for the Selective Service System within 30 days of their 18th birthday, and you have to sign up to get federal student aid, benefits, and to get a driver's license in many (if not all) states. Basically it is a contingency plan for if conscription is ever required again.
/r/MensRights01/12/10 08:47 PM
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I did. It was a good read; it's sad that people can't be bothered to read. Particularly when the topic lies so close to their interests.
/r/MensRights01/12/10 12:02 AM
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Huh? I just meant that they should never ever be allowed to see their child again. He/She is in foster care now, but that doesn't always mean that they will remain there. The police do not enforce that, CSP/SRS does. And their attitude isn't hurtful, their actions are. We will avoid this being passed down by removing their ability to be in contact with their child, by keeping them from adopting, and physically sterilizing them... in my imaginary world. In the real one we would never do this.
/r/MensRights15/11/10 10:15 PM
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As long as their parental rights are also severed, I concur.
/r/MensRights15/11/10 04:26 PM
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Making $500 a month is already pretty pathetic. My mom supports him because he obviously can't support himself, let alone his kid. But I digress.. My point was that even when he makes so little, the courts STILL wouldn't ever take more than 20% (and if he made more it would take closer to 10%, because the amount flattens out around $100-$120). Besides, a judge might very well say the same thing as you and decide that he only had to pay $50 or something. I wouldn't know though.
/r/MensRights13/11/10 06:35 PM
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Sigh. Okay, I'm going to take this slow, so forgive me if it's long-winded. All I have been saying all along is that parents have a responsibility to provide their child with health care. For most employed parents in this country, the method will be through insurance. For people who cannot afford insurance, there are other options (such as sliding scale clinics). Sometimes those options suck, but that is not a problem with the child support system... it is a problem with the state of health care…
/r/MensRights12/11/10 04:23 AM
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Yes, and? I'm a little lost, are you saying that somehow exempts it from child support because it can be expensive? That would be ridiculous.. having a child is expensive, and all of those costs should be factored into support payments.
/r/MensRights11/11/10 04:30 PM
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It's not a seperate issue, it's just an extreme version. Most of the people who actually do want to get married someday, don't intend to have kids before they are married (I'm ignoring the people who actively plan not to marry). It's not like they set out with the goal of moving in together, having a few kids, and then getting married - the kid is almost always a surprise, an accident. I think that people like that shouldn't have kids, and should take care of any accidents. Good for you. If you …
/r/MensRights10/11/10 01:00 AM
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The thing is that while you think that child support should only be about the bare needs, courts simply don't agree with you. I haven't seen studies or polls, but I don't think many people agree with you on this point. This isn't about women's crazy ideas of what child support should be, men want the same things when they seek it as well. When a man or woman disagrees with a child support order, it's usually one of two reasons: 1) they really can't afford it, and the court is basically holding t…
/r/MensRights10/11/10 12:30 AM
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My personal opinion is that we should have socialized health care. Or better yet, an ideal world would have health care that was actually affordable to people without insurance, credit or bankruptcy. Unfortunately, family courts have no say in such things, their job is to look out for the needs of the child right now (not in 10 years when insurance is obsolete).
/r/MensRights10/11/10 12:15 AM
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I'm confused about why you think it is so important to get married. I guess I'm pretty biased though.. I had a kid when I sure as hell wasn't ready. Everyone around me thought I should get married, because that's just what you do. But the father and I had only been dating a short time when I got knocked up and I sure as hell didn't think it was a good idea to marry him when I was 16/17. So we waited. After a few years of cohabitation, we decided it just wasn't working out and split ways. Now, we…
/r/MensRights09/11/10 08:54 PM
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I can't help but feel you are trying to be obstinate. I apologize for using the term 'insurance'. The parent paying support is responsible for half of any healthcare costs (out of pocket or insurance). The fact is that most people cannot afford to finance their health care out of pocket in this country. Even with the tax benefits of an HSA, it is a huge gamble. It is certainly possible to pay for yearly check-ups and the odd sick visit with ease, but if your child develops any sort of long-term …
/r/MensRights09/11/10 08:30 PM
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The government may not be required to supply health care, that's up for debate, but a parent absolutely does.
/r/MensRights09/11/10 12:37 AM
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I was referring to how much the is currently getting. He pays $250. She presumably doubles that for a total of $500. My argument is that $500 may not be enough for a child. Using my life and personal experience, $500 is not enough. I live in the american midwest. If you lived on the coast, it would be a good bit more. Whether $400 ($800 total) is adequate or not is completely dependent on the situation (for me that would be quite a bit too much).
/r/MensRights09/11/10 12:36 AM
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Are you fucking kidding me? Health insurance isn't a need? A parent, any parent of either gender absolutely has a duty to ensure that their child is recieving medical care. In the US, health insurance is pretty much required if you aren't on welfare or ridiculously rich. Soon, it will be required by LAW regardless. That isn't a need? So you think it's okay for a 15 year-old to sleep with his mother? What if she has a new boyfriend, should the kid still sleep with her? Or maybe, since a bedroom i…
/r/MensRights09/11/10 12:04 AM
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A lot of people do want to wait and plan for children. If you asked them, most would probably say that they want to be married, have savings and probably own a house before they have a kid. But children are often unexpected/accidental. You don't accidentally get married, so by it's nature people have to plan for that, and often set arbitrary goals before they do it.
/r/MensRights08/11/10 11:27 PM
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The $500 a month figure is from both parents combined (i.e. double what the man is being forced to pay). Health insurance alone can cost $250 a month, easy. Not to mention dental, vision, and possibly car insurance (depending on where they live, a car may be a necessity... walking or public transport is not always an option). That's just stupid insurance! All of your bills go up: rent: (need an extra bedroom, which in my area is at least $150 more), water (extra laundry, showers, dishes), gas/el…
/r/MensRights08/11/10 09:34 PM
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We may not be able to prove it, but you can certainly get a better idea. Surely you agree that we can do better than this article?
/r/MensRights05/11/10 11:16 PM
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If you can't come up with any convincing counter-arguments, I find the article to be very logical. That's great, and I agree that it is an interesting hypothesis. But it is the opposite of scientific and thus proves nothing. People also used to think the world was flat and that disease spread by foul odors and that seemed logical at the time, but they were wrong. Based on these observations, there is an idea. Communties can be observed, studies can be designed and it might well prove true... or …
/r/MensRights05/11/10 10:20 PM
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I have been poor and I will say that one large obstacle is cost. My mother never really encouraged extra-curricular sports because they were too expensive for us. I've never lived in a ghetto, but I imagine that even if the schools have sports teams, the individual costs could still be a big issue. Still, your idea is a good one. I daresay that wouldn't be a bad requirement for everyone, not just the poor.
/r/MensRights05/11/10 08:53 PM
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Legally, both men and women can avoid children by choosing not to have sex (accept in cases of rape which I am discounting because they are outliers), the law does not interfere with that right. Additionally, both sexes can opt for sterilization (although for men it is cheaper, less invasive and I believe more easily reversable). I will assume that you mean that women have more choices about the matter beyond the extremes of abstinence and an operating table, which is true and unfortunate. I und…
/r/MensRights05/11/10 08:33 PM
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I would say that obviously some people do have a problem with this; pro-life supporters are very vocally against it. Their argument is that the rights of the (fetus=child) > parents. Thus arguing that all babies conceived should be born, regardless of the rights of either parents (including the woman's body or the man's pocketbook). On the other hand, the standpoint that the law takes is that the fetus is not yet a person, which is how abortion is legal in the first place. So the argument of the…
/r/MensRights05/11/10 07:54 PM
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If women are aloud to abort the baby that a man wants, men should be aloud to abandon the baby that a woman wants. I do not know where I stand on this, because it is complex, but the courts do not just do this to be sexist asshats. Your situations only take into account the rights of the man or the rights of the woman. It is a fallacy to assume these situations are equivalent. There is a significant difference in your examples: a child. If a man wants a baby, the woman does not and has an aborti…
/r/MensRights05/11/10 12:51 AM
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both parents have the legal duty to provide for their children, whether they want to or not. The problem, then, is that women can chose abort the fetus, thus never resulting in a child. Men however, have no such option. I can understand why men are upset about this. However, if you accept that a woman is in charge of her own body and has the final decision (I do), then you will always have the problem of men who disagree with their partner's choice and would have had an abortion were it up to th…
/r/MensRights05/11/10 12:36 AM
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If they don't want children, they shouldn't fuck. You realize that this applies equally to both sexes, yes?
/r/MensRights05/11/10 12:24 AM
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So what do you gain from being in support of mens rights? Hmm. Good question. On a personal level, I'm not sure that I gain anything. Do I really need to? You bring up an interesting point about what kind of man my daughter will be marrying someday, but that's a little removed for the time being. Mostly, it's just a sense of fairness. I don't like seeing people mistreated, and honestly that goes for both genders and other groups as well. I'm pretty passionate about gay rights also, and that does…
/r/MensRights30/10/10 12:45 AM
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For what it's worth, this was also posted over in Feminisms and there isn't one person in support of this article (as of right now anyway). Honestly this article seems like a big steaming pile from all points of view. As an aside, I consider myself to be an advocate of men's rights and I am a woman. I am not married and I have a daughter. My daughter's father doesn't pay child support at all, so I certainly haven't abused him (and have no intention to other than requesting occasional help with b…
/r/MensRights29/10/10 08:05 PM
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I can't speak much for other girls, but I can assure you my own mother never spoke to me about penises of any sort. I'm pretty sure she just hoped I would avoid them until after marriage and thus wouldn't have much of a choice in the matter. My guess would be that most mother-daughter relationships are similar (at least in that they don't dwell on penis asthetics). I personally do plan to talk about sex with my daughter (many small talks over time, we've already covered some of the very basics..…
/r/MensRights29/10/10 05:52 PM
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And if most girls also liked one-handed dudes, would you cut your son's arm off at birth? Women only like it because that's what they are familiar with, because it has traditionally been the most common version of cock in America. There's no reason that can't be changed. As long as women like men, women will find things to like about their dicks. Promise!
/r/MensRights29/10/10 03:37 PM
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I agree with you, it's a scary standard to set... ripe for abuse. I just don't think that this particular case is very deserving of MR's rage, since it's pretty hard for us to tell what kind of craziness those people have going on and there seems to be good likelihood that they are both being "conniving asshats"(i like that term by the way... it made me giggle).
/r/MensRights21/10/10 10:03 PM
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If it makes you feel better a lot of women's changing rooms are the same. I've seen private or semi-private showers, but the changing area is pretty much just benches. I'll never forget the look on my daughter's face the first time she used one at the public pool... "Mama, why is everybody just walking around naked!"
/r/MensRights21/10/10 09:17 PM
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Look, I don't know what all of those assets are, but you can't possibly think that income is the only thing a court should be considering (male or female). It's completely conceivable to be incredibly wealthy, with all of your assets invested and have little or no income relative to your worth. A guy barely scraping by and unemployed being plowed for more than he can possibly pay is something completely different and I'm sure you know it. Of course, IMO $8000 is a ridiculous amount for child sup…
/r/MensRights21/10/10 08:03 PM
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I'm not saying that I agree, but there was no mistake. We have not overlooked the possibility that the Husband may have access to substantial amounts of cash. During one of the many exchanges between the attorneys at the temporary hearing, the Wife's attorney accused the Husband of depleting or diverting most of a $45,000 money market account between April and August 2009 and of refusing to hand over copies of his bank account statements. In addition, the Husband's attorney admitted that the Hus…
/r/MensRights21/10/10 01:42 PM
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Well, when I was younger (think 6th, 7th grade) I often playfully smacked people that were my friends. I did this looong before I ever had a boyfriend and did it primarily to girls (but the occasional random guy too). I know now that it was a godawful disrespectful habit, even if I thought it was in good fun. After I realized I was being such a dick (they had an intervention, I felt terrible), I had to try really hard not to do it anymore, and yes I accidentally did it by mistake for a while. As…
/r/MensRights23/09/10 07:53 PM
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It's definitely one of those realistic baby dolls, no way it's real. I agree though that if it were real it would not be able to eat a french fry.
/r/MensRights10/09/10 03:41 PM
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I could be wrong, I don't work for them, but I think Salon is supposed to be much more informal than the standard you hold them to. The name salon is a reference to the enlightenment practice of men and women gathering at a hostess' home and discussing things. It wasn't formal or official, more of a gathering of intellectuals. The crimes of expressing bias and using terms like "we", "you", and "us" seem reasonable to me in that light. Probably just me though.
/r/MensRights03/09/10 08:52 PM
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Toby.
/r/MensRights26/08/10 09:48 PM
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You seem to be saying that more than half of all men who get married wind up unhappy, but do you really believe that the man is unhappy in all of the divorces?
/r/MensRights25/08/10 07:27 PM
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That's silly. It's her preference (and mine as well) because society says we should. Waxing/shaving is not fun and very few people would choose to do it if it weren't for cultural pressures. We can get away skipping the pubes because of the limited number of people who view that area, but not shaving your legs or armpits will result in complete strangers having opinions.
/r/MensRights20/08/10 03:08 PM
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if she's got a moustache? You missed the important qualifier. Also, Your opinion is biased, clearly a disproportionate amount of the women you know are prostitutes. Oh. And.. my boyfriend is being set up in an apartment with a car. No jewelry though, maybe he should ask his parents and they'll shell that out too.
/r/MensRights20/08/10 12:43 AM
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The "retarded pseudo-studies" you mention are done using the scientific method. This method was created pretty much solely by wealthy white men, no women around. Einstein, Galileo, Newton... all men. What you call common sense, I call anecdotal case studies that mean nothing. And if your retarded assumption was actually true, the prison system would never exist in the first place. The prison system existed long before modern psychology or behaviourism. Perhaps it is your penchant for beating chi…
/r/MensRights18/08/10 11:54 PM
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Every intro psych textbook talks about the advantages of conditioning a desired behaviour by using positive reinforcement rather than punishment. Right or not, it's one of the tenets of modern psychology. B.F. Skinner, the father of behaviorism, would probably not agree with your attributing his life's theories to feminist boogeymen. Just sayin'
/r/MensRights18/08/10 11:18 PM
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Except for the sexual references, that reads just like a useful list of tips for getting my 9 year-old to read. I wasn't aware that women read more than men, but if we do.. I'm pretty sure because the figures count romance novels as 'books' when they should really be reclassified as 'porn'.
/r/MensRights13/08/10 07:23 PM
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I think the interesting thing here is that this is being reported on by Jezebel! Over and over I see people say that feminists are sexist themselves and want nothing to do with real equality. I'm sure there's a million counter-examples, but right here is an honest to god instance of feminists sticking up for men's rights. Yay!
/r/MensRights11/08/10 12:51 AM
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I vote both are seriously fucked up.
/r/MensRights29/07/10 07:42 AM
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I think it's left up to the couple how they will do it. They could both take off for the first year, or the mother can do what many others do and just pump ahead of time.
/r/MensRights28/07/10 04:05 PM
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if you dont do it right it is not withdrawl. Its just cumming in here. You could be in the process of pulling out, but get the timing wrong start to ejaculate just a split second too soon. You are still trying to practice withdrawal, but you didn't implement it perfectly. My 27% failure figure is from Planned Parenthood. http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm The 4 % is acceptable because the girl should be on birth control as well. Sure,…
/r/MensRights24/07/10 04:38 PM
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That's only if you do it correctly every time. Withdrawal is more prone to 'accidents' than a lot of other kinds of birth control... if you don't do it right, it's only 73% effective. Even just 4 percent is an awful big risk when there are other protections available. I guess that it is an example of another form of contraception a man can control, but .. shit that's a big risk. Condoms are a much better choice. Especially as the guy, you can have the most control over what kind fits you best (a…
/r/MensRights24/07/10 02:37 PM
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Okay, I think maybe we're having a little misunderstanding. I'm not trying to discuss pockets of sexism in the workforce. They exist, rarely, and they exist for both sexes. There's probably room for improvement, but mostly it's a non-issue. You say that programming is a boys club, "not because boys want it that way, but because women don't want to be programmers". That these statements are all true I have no doubt. However. You have to look into /why/ women don't want to be programmers. Is there…
/r/MensRights23/07/10 07:51 PM
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Thanks for the link, I will read it. As I said, it would be great if political feminist groups supported the men's rights political movement, rather than seeking to hijack it under it's own umbrella (so it can be controlled in that way). There's so much wrong with feminist groups that I'm not sure anyone really wants that to happen. I think your point on hijacking isn't far off base. It can't be threatening to feminists, for this to happen. This is scary. Men's Rights shouldn't have to tiptoe ar…
/r/MensRights23/07/10 05:50 PM
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True, you're right about that. You can break it down further though and wonder about /why/ women do most of the shopping. I know I've seen research that indicates that women may be better adapted at some things like distinguishing colors and tastes. The theory is that these skills would make women better at their gathering jobs. Even if this is true and not just a bunch of Evo Psych BS, then the whole process has been turned upside down by commercialization, color and taste are completely divorc…
/r/MensRights23/07/10 05:38 PM
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Both the Man Tax proposition (by Swedish feminist political party) I am not familiar with the Man Tax, so I'm going to have to decline to comment on that one. "Society for Cutting up Men" pamphlets exist (or existed) for feminism. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SCUM_Manifesto My god, it was written in 1968. How is that even kind of relevant? It's messed up as all hell, but it doesn't really effect Men's Rights today. But I am referring to political advocacy and lobbying by feminist groups on the i…
/r/MensRights23/07/10 05:10 PM
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You are part of the problem when you categorize feminists as misandrists. Of course some of them are, it's why the average woman is scared to claim the title of feminist, even if she agrees with much of what they say. Likewise, some mens rights advocates are misogynists. Both groups have the problem, particularly with the most vocal proponents in each. Men's rights and women's rights aren't mutually exclusive. A better term would be human rights. On the topic of male circumcision you're a little…
/r/MensRights23/07/10 04:35 PM
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Agreed agreed agreed. I'm a woman, I would add that this could be turned around on the feminist community as well. There is a ton of misandry to be found with feminists and that is also couterproductive to goals of actual equality. Like you, I don't understand why the stance of both communities (on Reddit and in actuality) are so reactionary and over the top. Like most things, the answer is somewhere in the middle.
/r/MensRights23/07/10 04:18 PM
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...because women rightfully take a few years off to spend time with children. Why is that 'right'? I notice that you don't say "to spend time having babies", so I ask.. why is it right and good for a woman to take years off to spend time with children, but not men? Presumably for every woman taking time off to spend with her kids, there's a father who is not. Do we as a society really think so little of fatherhood that it's largely interchangeable with a paycheck? I am a woman, and I boggle that…
/r/MensRights23/07/10 04:11 PM
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The sort of sexism we're talking about isn't the overt ass-slapping from the 60s. Most people (who aren't femi-nazis) don't accuse men of conspiring to keep women out of high paying positions. In our time a woman can do just about anything she wants whether it's traditionally a male field or not. This is improvement over the past and it's great. The thing is that we still have inertia from different times when gender roles were more set in stone. This isn't just about women, it's about men too. …
/r/MensRights23/07/10 04:00 PM
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No. In Sweden parents are given 450 days off at 100% pay and 360 days at 75%. At least two months is specifically reserved for fathers, but in practice they use more. 85% of Swedish men take leave, it is the norm there. http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/10/world/europe/10iht-sweden.html http://www.apesma.asn.au/women/maternity_leave_around_the_world.asp
/r/MensRights23/07/10 02:56 PM
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If it makes you feel better, I upvoted you. Society expects men to provide for the family, and is pretty much considered a failure if he doesn't. I'd rather stay at home all day raising a kid with no deadlines or boss looking over my shoulder. Right. That's the problem.. western society historically expected women to stay at home and take care of the family. She was pretty much a failure if she didn't. I imagine a good many housewives from the 50s would have rather gone to work and had people tr…
/r/MensRights23/07/10 06:47 AM
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You know why women have less yearly income right? Less hour worked and more time off due to pregnancies and family. Pregnancy, sure but that's only 9-18 months on average. Family, also true, but the important part is why. Why does " family" apply to women, but not men? Are men not part of families.. do men not get married and have children too? Why is it exactly that women are the ones who more often take off with sick kids or work less hours? Those are gender roles that have no real biological …
/r/MensRights23/07/10 05:01 AM
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I don't know about "finest form of protection you can get"; IUDs are are about as effective, cheaper and much more easily reversible. IUDs however, like most effective forms birth control, are entirely in control of the woman which I suppose isn't optimal from a Men's Rights standpoint. That said, my boyfriend and I use a combination of IUD/condoms currently, but in the future a vasectomy is definitely likely. In the vein of birth control, I find it interesting that much of the history of women'…
/r/MensRights21/07/10 12:56 AM
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Maybe, but that shouldn't make it okay to penalize honest people who are down on their luck 'just in case'.
/r/MensRights20/07/10 08:40 PM
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When's the last time you heard of a woman brought up on trumped-up child porn charges? You realize that the person initially charged in the article was a woman, yes? The author's friend's wife developed the photos, and it was she who was initially contacted by the police. The investigation then expanded to include all four parents, two men & two women. Additionally, the article referenced the Texas woman who was charged with "sexual performance with a child" for a photo of her breast-feeding her…
/r/MensRights20/07/10 07:05 PM
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The amount of men raped in prison is a huge problem that seriously needs to be addressed. It's truly disgusting. Society's dismissal of the problem (and even grotesque joking about it) is probably not related to gender though. I imagine it has a whole lot more to do with not caring about a lower class than with the gender of the incarcerated. Jailed men and women are both sexually assaulted frequently, the public doesn't particularly care about either.
/r/MensRights17/07/10 03:05 PM
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That sounds horrible, I'm really sorry. Situations like yours are a big part why I would never circumcise my child and why I will always attempt to convince expecting parents not to either. That said, I don't think it's fair to say which psychological problem is worse. They are both pretty horrible and unnecessary. What will fix the problem is when everyone stops mutilating baby boys. Once that happens, no more men will grow up with your heartbreaking lack of sensation and no one will be ashamed…
/r/MensRights13/07/10 05:47 AM
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Thank you for the recommendation, I will pick that up.
/r/MensRights13/07/10 05:33 AM
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I've always thought that was BS too. I have a lot of trouble imagining a man staring at his infant son's penis and thinking "yep, just like me". It's creepy, and seems unlikely. I'm not planning on having kids with my boyfriend, but since we have sex, we've talked about our thoughts on the issue a lot, just in case. I am vehemently against circumcision, but he's circumcised and isn't so sure how he would stand if he had a son. His main concern is that not circumcising would be admitting that the…
/r/MensRights13/07/10 12:58 AM
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Option 2) Don't Circumcise. End of story. Nobody is walking around wishing they had been circumcised. And if they are... guess what? They can go get themselves circumcised. While I, as a woman, completely and 100x over agree with you overall, these are a little shaky. I knew a guy who wasn't circumcised and he was very ashamed of it. He had dealt with other women who were "grossed out" and had reacted badly. I felt bad for him and his self-esteem, but it's unlikely that he would ever decide to g…
/r/MensRights13/07/10 12:51 AM
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