atomicnugget202 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	I may be the biggest idiot but I decided to stay in my step kids lives Nothing wrong with that. I'm along the same path. She may not crave the stability but the kids will greatly appreciate it in the long run knowing they are loved and have a positive male figure in their lives. It will be tough especially when they get older and get lives- gathering their world view but stay consistent and watch that paternal role turn into more of a coaching loving outlet when they need it! If they ex ex has any sense she'll appreciate that as well!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/26 02:35 AM
3	My [40m] 5 year marriage to my wife [40F] just blew up and my wife ended up in jail and I don't know what to do. I think at this point you take point on ensuring the children are okay first and foremost and contact a mutual friend or family member that is neutral in the situation if is to go south where they can go. Secondly, I know it's advised against but playing cop games is an automatic GTFO for me. I'm gone my things, my support for non essential house things as well. You have to continue to support them until the divorce is final but w.e agreement y'all come to meet that. Even if it's half on the mor…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 09:10 PM
2	I need help Get a lawyer & file. It may be a long process due to unknown whereabouts but better to start now.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/06/26 02:24 AM
4	Can't do this anymore Bro you're depressed. Race don't matter and unfortunately she shouldn't matter to you either as hard as that is to come to terms with. You're divorced she's living her life how she wants you do the same! You need to break your identity from being married & a husband to her and find out who you are! It'll be ugly at first but it'll get better!	/r/Divorce_Men	24/06/26 03:01 AM
7	My wife has made 3 major life decisions over 10 years that have financially devastated our family. I love her, but I no longer trust her judgment. You aren't being resentful but if y'all can't get and move in lock step, and continue to operate as two entities in a marriage without joint consideration. It's not going to work. All the planning in the world can't be saved by poor or lack of execution. She either needs to get on board or you need to get yourself together enough & be prepared to leave. Marriage is a business partnership! She's not doing good for business. Having job instability with three children isn't good for the business. I…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/26 09:16 PM
1	"taking care of yourself". How do YOU do it, consistently? I got into hobbies. Albeit they come with an expense it really helped me process through my separation, divorce, process and even after it. There's a life outside of losing your best friend, lover, enemy, etc. the world is yours and your kids. Make it count!	/r/Divorce_Men	14/03/26 06:19 AM
4	What ruined your marriage? Finances that spilled over into lack of romance with unrealistic expectations.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/25 11:10 PM
1	I don’t know what to do anymore. Please, I really need help, advice, or just someone who understands.....PLEASE HELP. I'm sorry to hear you are in a contested divorce and are being ostracized from your children. That really does make everything much harder to process. For the lawyer. If they are costing too much it may be time to shop around for another one with a lower hourly rate. I understand it's not ideal but $1K per convo is extremely steep. You are asking questions and are ensuring your demands are being met and advocated for by your lawyer. The hard part for you is moving the needle & forcing her to do …	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/25 08:51 PM
3	Wife filed. Don't forget he needs to lock & monitor his credit!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/25 01:54 PM
4	EX WIVES NOW BFFs TBH they probably know you see their posts thus why they do it. Stop following them or unfriend them better yet and fully move on!	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/25 02:34 PM
3	Seperated, soon to be ex wife is pregnant with another mans child. How to proceed in court so I don't have to pay child support or spousal support? Get a lawyer! I hate to be that blunt but that's the only way.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/25 12:05 AM
1	Does anyone feel like their attorneys are just one big money scam? Rule of thumb for attorneys. Ask all the questions you need in one go. Or have them collected and dump them to them via an email to respond to them. If it's a contested them my guess this could be on par with having to talk to them more often but my statement remains the same. All questions just have them in a question bank. Lawyers aren't your counselors so if anything outside of actionable communications is being discussed your wasting your money. Damn near treat them like a robot lol. Lawyer:…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/25 10:09 AM
1	Stock market Loss, she filed for Divorce That account value will have to be reported during the financial disclosure portion. However, if you're already pass that part and are at the Mine & Yours part you should be ok! Needless to say consult a lawyer & SPY & VOO like etfs ftw. Only what you can loose should go in on startups or companies you like. I invested in Lucid when it was double digits. Needless to say I'm sick rn with its current price point.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/25 04:58 PM
5	I’ve reached my breaking point! Kids make everything a lot more difficult and too often they get the brunt of damage & messiness of a divorce. Be there for your child, fight to get that alimony removed and see if you can get counseling. Vegance sounds great but being present and being a supportive Father sounds even better. Your child will come to age and will make their own conclusion/ understanding of you and your exes relationship. Don't be let short term rage feed a long term picture of who you are in their eyes.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/25 06:46 PM
3	Divorce advice Get a lawyer, delete social media, don't drink, don't talk casually talk about divorce with spouse. Those conversations need to be intentional & thorough.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/05/25 02:12 AM
8	Apps vs Meeting in the Wild Get the divorce and then worry* about getting a partner. Adding another will only make stuff messy when the legal battle starts.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/05/25 01:34 AM
2	I feel myself becoming an alcoholic how do I stop? Go to AA. I misused alcohol throughout my marriage. A solid contributing factor to it failing and even after the separation. Go get help. Alcohol isn't helping any of your problems. Get in front of them and face those fears and emotions with a sober mind!	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/25 10:39 AM
7	Should I tell my ex-wife’s family the truth about why we separated? Simply put, No. File for the divorce and learn to live your life without her. It'll suck and it won't be easy but getting untied from her in all ways will be much better in the end. It's her family not yours.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/25 09:23 PM
2	Is it easier to move on when you know your ex is dating again? Partially, but it was a serious gut punch, and I still battle with it today. But whether you want a divorce or not. Don't delay the inevitable. It just makes the healing that much harder. If she's done she's done. You've could've done right by her, done a little wrong, or been a complete arse hat but when she's done she's done. No convincing, 180 changes, time & space will fix that.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/24 08:04 PM
3	How do you really be happy for your ex wife? Was in the same boat, a little further along though now. But then I remember how our marriage played out. Good and bad. Good for her, but the lessons learned I could never find myself to trust her, again. Start the divorce process & start healing.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/24 06:55 PM
3	Divorce almost over Congrats. Mine has been sitting with the sheriff to serve. I honestly just want this to be over with. I'm so done, and the prospect to ever get married again is virtually slim to none. I don't even think I could cohabitate again.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/24 06:45 PM
9	Wife is being treated to a vacation with another couple, sans ME It's about respect and she has lost respect for y'all's marriage. Yes, it is her birthday and she can celebrate it how she wants but damn near excluding essentially the only person who has the right to first refusal for planning or coordinating anything with another couple is foul. I'm sorry fam. I would directly communicate your concern about this, and simply lay it all on the table. She can gaslight & blame shift you all she wants. But you need to directly state that this was a line crossed an…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/12/24 01:32 PM
4	Anyone ever filed and had second thoughts? I want to say that's a big mistake to leave the martial Home from a divorce perspective. I've seen that be advised against. Run that past your lawyer, but seriously as people have mentioned it takes two to make a marriage work. If she's done. She's gone bro. Follow through with the divorce because separation is the worst. I did it for almost two years I can never get back.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/11/24 12:44 AM
5	Why Are So Many Men Withdrawing from Society? I don't see it as withdrawing from society but I think there is a rise in being more selective. Alternatives cause less drama in the end, but aren't the real thing. There's no worries of being demasculated, insulted etc when one limits their exposure to people or a group that doesn't value them. But I think we still all crave that natural connection. That spreading the seed philosophy just doesn't practice out well since it's a one way ticket to falling victim to the family court system. Traditi…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/24 07:11 AM
1	Why Are So Many Men Withdrawing from Society? I don't see it as withdrawing from society but I think there is a rise in being more selective. Alternatives cause less drama in the end, but aren't the real thing. There's no worries of being demasculated, insulted etc when one limits their exposure to people or a group that doesn't value them. But I think we still all crave that natural connection. That spreading the seed philosophy just doesn't practice out well since it's a one way ticket to falling victim to the family court system. Traditi…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/24 07:11 AM
3	I hate that I picked up smoking again Going through mine sober. It's tough. Grabbing a drink or a smoke would be nice but won't help me bounce out of the peaks and valleys. It just masks it. But don't be too hard on yourself. Separation -Divorce is stressful, and getting low is tough. You're getting back out to a life that will be post marriage. Just challenge yourself as you have been with working & going out. Challenge yourself to slow down on smoking and then challenge yourself to abstain.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/11/24 06:15 PM
1	Married woman asking for perspective. This is me and I can be alone in my opinion on this but marriage and love change. 50yr old married couples are more than likely not sexually intimate in their late 70s 80s. It's about care and mutual appreciation for each other and seeing each other to the end. And non of those couples made it to 50 or so years in one smooth attempt. Marriage is about serving each other, and the joy and desire of wanting to do for the other. That spark is a dopamine hit that we all chase after the first year or …	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/24 03:20 AM
4	Married woman asking for perspective. I will probably never understand the open marriage aspect because it just simply seems like a disaster waiting to happen. Instead of going to counseling and or therapy opening the relationship up is supposed to solve complacent behavior, neglect, and alcohol misuse and the lack of feeling loved or wanted. Kudos for owning your bit of being hard to deal with at times, but I think what it boils down is to why y'all got married if it was going to come to this? Seems like often even in my circumstan…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/24 02:41 AM
3	Did you ever consider the possibility of divorce at the beginning of your marriage? No, I always believed no issue was too big or too small that couldn't be worked through. Since the love for them was unconditional.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/24 12:17 AM
3	Is it OK to tell my soon to be ex wife that I want to take as much as I can from her in our divorce? Boss there's no honor nor integrity in that. Especiall, as a man of character. Your feelings of rage- and anxiety are warranted, but the legal aspect nah, but you do you. It's a legal break up. Go through the process hope for it to be an amicable split monetarily, custodial, and asset wise and move on. You need counseling big dawg. This sub not gonna help you.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/24 04:45 PM
17	I’m the cheater…my story Kudos for sharing your story but greed is a bitch and at the cost of your wife and kids. Hopefully you've learned your lesson. Seems like you really need time to yourself not involving anyone emotionally outside of your kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/04/24 12:42 AM
2	Can this man truly love me? I married a man who was still going through a divorce. This group is more for men to support men. Think of it like for AA. Non alcoholics don't attend AA. They attend AL-ANON if they have been impacted by alcoholics behaviors. But I get the curiousity. Of wanting to know. We all do, but that won't bring you closure. The option for divorce was presented meaning it's been thought through. Either y'all work on your marriage or y'all work on healthily co parenting and having an amicable divorce. The why won't answer your question. It will just prompt mo…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/24 01:30 AM
3	Can this man truly love me? I married a man who was still going through a divorce. Not sure if it's a same sex marriage which is cool; or male- female. If OP is female. Ya needa post on r/divorce_women or r/divorce. This ain't the spot for this. But placed frankly marriage ain't for everyone. It's the merging of two lives and more than likely two fractured lives. Some more fucked up than others. Not to get into the weeds or blame. Y'all had a long distance relationship and got married. You didn't truely know or understand each other. Y'all knew what y'all wanted each other to …	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/24 01:22 AM
4	Wife is divorcing me, do I have to me macho here and pretend it's not killing me? Nope. I've never gotten that feeling of be macho here. I think this place is like a group therapy setting of people who are, have been or in some varying form of your situation. Most definitely go see a counselor to help process and find some healthy hobbies to help you cope healthily (don't get involved in another romantic relationship until the process is done or you have healed, and found yourself again mostly). Take it day by day my friend and the pain will become more vague but won't go awa…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/24 12:18 AM
6	Separated yet not divorced 7 months and I'd still love to reconcile but the reality of that happening I feel is NIL so I've had no choice but to just focus on ke and when it happens it happens and I'll be able to manage the divorce process 'I hope better' than I have the separation.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/24 09:58 PM
4	What do you do for fun. That's what I need that sounds like hella fun. The closest I get to that type of action is watching Demolition ranch yt channel. If the outdoor ranges here weren't damn near 45+ mins away I'd go more often to practice shooting & moving. Since I'm getting into competition shooting.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/24 11:07 PM
3	What do you do for fun. I want one of those but I have an XD-E and an old Ruger Sr40c well both of them are technically old but punching holes is really stress relieving.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/24 10:40 PM
3	What do you do for fun. Second Job, I run a good amount, I go to the Gun Range at least once a week.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/24 06:13 PM
2	This is not me You're right. Just remember it's entertainment aimed at men who have been broken down from their experiences with women currently or in the past. And the biggest Red Flag is that almost all RP content creators are single not married or never been married. That stuff sounds good but doesn't fair out well in reality.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/24 05:17 PM
10	This is not me Redpill is the problem because it takes situations like accountability/logic that we've all experienced in our own relationships and the lack there of and puts in on screen for us to digest. Remember it's entertainment not reality. The biggest thing you can learn from RP is women are women and men are men. We are different in many ways but those bridges can be connected through reasonable communication with the RIGHT partner that is willing to make amends.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/24 05:06 PM
3	Dropped in a Comment. Want Outside Perspectives I think the best thing for you to do is as you've been doing work on yourself & your child. However, most importantly work alongside with a counselor to get some of those grimlins out so they don't pop back up in another relationship. Get your finances in line and start to explore accepting the relationship may never reconcile. I'm in the same boat to very similar situation. It sucks and I hate it, but what's done is done, and I just have to make sure I put in the work on myself in all aspects t…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/11/23 09:49 PM
8	Mental Health Advice For Men Just signed papers last weekend and I feel numb. I do have a dog and he helps a lot but to be honest. I started doing Ubereats, running, and school and those have helped leaps and bounds more. Overall, being on a schedule has helped me with my mental health and has given me reason to wake up and do what I do and not fall victim to my emotions as much!	/r/Divorce_Men	12/11/23 10:58 PM
4	Steps to Get Over It You're not alone fam. Just got the final nail in the coffin text from my wife validating she doesn't want this relationship anymore. This was three months after we had the initial divorce conversation, and we've been technically separated for 10 months. My world and hopes for reconciliation literally just shattered 24hrs ago. I feel broken, stupid, hurt, and hopeless. I'm trying not to let the urge to self destruction take over me, but it's hard.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/10/23 07:55 PM
3	My wife stole my car so she can have it for the divorce. It's a Chat GPT story.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/09/23 02:05 AM