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Question For Womenauteurfantastique/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 08:25 PM
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Discussionauteurfantastique/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:02 AM
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"Woke" is very easy to identify: Identity politics which is not anti-capitalist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 12:34 AM
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I must admit the appearance of your Snoo Avatar affects my opinion of your post. The cuter the Snoo, the better
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 07:19 PM
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Obviously the guy is in the wrong for not being a part of his kid's life and for getting in the situation in the first place but what is he supposed to do? Split his time between the two families?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 06:37 PM
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I think it's true, and I'd say it's still true now. I can't imagine a relationship in which one or both people base their identity around the relationship can be healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:58 AM
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If I do the passport bro thing, I will be going to Australia. Australian accents are so attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:54 AM
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My point is that life is worth living even without romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:42 AM
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Well, this is going to sound like "the blind leading the blind" but bear with me. I too would one day like a loving romantic relationship. It is something which I really want to experience. But at the same time, there are other things in life which make it worth living. In our modern world, I get to experience some pretty awesome things which billions of people never got to experience. I also get to take part in things which humanity has shared since we began our sentient path, like nature, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:57 AM
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Let's assume you never get any romantic affection. It's possible that will be your fate, as unfortunate as that is. You still sound like someone who's well-developed and interesting. You work out, you meditate, you journal, you own a business. You are a richer person for all of that, and even if the only person to ever appreciate and benefit from all that is you, it's still worth doing for your sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:39 AM
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Uh.... yeah your friend is a creep
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:15 PM
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Well, humans are not mice, in that we can adapt our social structures when needed, so not exactly. But it's not impossible either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:55 AM
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In short, in the 1970s a group of mice were put in an enclosure with all the food and water they could possibly want. The mouse population exploded and for a time the mice were happy. Then things got weird. Some female mice began to cannibalize their children or stopped raising them, leaving them to fend for themselves. Most became quite violent. Male mice either became extremely violent and aggressive or extremely submissive and focused on self-grooming or just sleeping all the time. Many male …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:38 AM
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Climate change is indeed the wild card in all of this. Assuming that we are able to adapt or remediate it, my prediction holds.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:47 PM
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I think a gender dynamic that works for both men and women will eventually be reached, and all these pills will die with it. That may well take centuries though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:29 PM
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I dunno if it's biology or sociology. If societal norms and gender roles, etc, could be modified to the point that promiscuity would be the norm for men and women alike, I think all would benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:25 PM
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Interracial couples existing brings out the worst in people. If you scroll in comments of pics of interracial couples you'll see the vilest things. I think it really touches the caveman/lizard part of the brain: "He take my tribe's woman!"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:59 PM
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Obviously, you are not an outlier in that aspect. Changing gender norms and societal expectations to the point where you would be is something I think would be beneficial for both men and women. Not quite sure how it could be pulled off, and I doubt it'd be sustainable, but it would solve a LOT of society's problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:56 PM
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I wonder why we don’t? To be blunt, I think everyone, men and women alike, would be happier if women did 😂. In all seriousness, I think women don't because cultural norms all encourage modesty or even shame more promiscuous women. If cultural norms went all the way to the other side, I think we could achieve something great.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:46 PM
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I think the research says men have more partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:43 PM
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Oops, meant "more" 😓
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:35 PM
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I have a lot of difficulty believing men have more partners on average over a lifetime than women do. Like, if you're a woman and you're tired of your guy, you can easily find someone else. Online dating/apps help in this too. If you're a guy, that one girl you're seeing might be the only girl in your entire life who likes you. It's why women initiate more divorces than men. Women have options, men know damn well that "this could be it." It's why you'll hear about men pining for a "oneitis" year…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:29 PM
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Okay hold up. Put RP to the side, you 100% should resent the job market and use that resentment to push for change. The way that system treats us is wrong, and we shouldn't just take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:17 PM
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Sexlessness in men going down, going up in women I mean, it seems like people are getting what they want? I have to admit, I've literally never seen a woman complain about not having sex (relationships, sure, never sex). It's always the opposite. Meanwhile sexless men fret about their sexlessness to an unhealthy degree. So it should be expected that men are having more sex and women less.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:59 PM
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Everyone is entitled to their kinks as long as they are not harming others. As long as they keep it in the bedroom I don’t care if a man or woman lets their partner sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:34 PM
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When it comes to the pills, I think blue pill is often wrong but red pill is so destructive to the man, it's not worth pursuing. Perhaps it works, but at quite the cost. Taking bits of advice from both pills and other, more sane sources and stitching it together into some sort of dating plan is the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:25 AM
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I blame the atomization of society caused by an unhealthy approach to the internet and media, as well as capitalism run amok.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:20 PM
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And I legit think someone has to deserve a threesome. What do you mean by this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:16 PM
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I've thought about the internet A LOT and I think there's a trend worth talking about. From the beginning of the internet to say the 2010s, the internet gave us "augmented reality." It added to our lives outside the internet/social media sphere. People met in person and then formed online connections. From the early 2010s to now, the internet has become our "virtual reality." It is not adding to life outside of the virtual sphere, it is replacing it. People meet online first and only rarely do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:05 PM
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The morlocks are from HG Well's The Time Machine. They were descendants of humans who lived in the seedy underworld while another group of descendants, the eloi, lived idyllic pre-industrial lives on the surface. The eloi were not as intelligent as modern humans. The truth is that the murlocks had machinery and in fact were as intelligent as modern humans and much more intelligent than eloi. They were raising, breeding, and eventually slaughtering the eloi for meat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:14 AM
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The idea of being asked out by a woman seems... I dunno man, sounds like a fantasy come true lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:00 AM
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morlocks Uh, you do know what the morlocks did to the eloi right
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:51 AM
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To get sexual gratification. Very simple motive 😀 Now, I think that written erotica is just as effective at that while being less harmful in terms of exploitation of sex workers, so I encourage men who need to get off to use that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 05:07 AM
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Virginity is not a dealbreaker in itself, but I'd prefer if he wasn't. Is it the virginity or the no relationship which is the issue? Like what if he had a gf but they never had sex? What if he never had a gf but he visited a sex worker?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:52 PM
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People hype up Japan's collapse so much you'd think the country looks like Mad Max. It's doing just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 05:06 AM
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We are on the brink of collapse, but due to climate change. Not difficulty in the dating market 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 05:05 AM
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Why should men work hard, pursue higher studies, work long hours and tolerate crap from their bosses when there is no cute wife to receive him at home? nor children who will say "Daddy" when he comes home? I think this is an unhealthy way to look at the world. Say for the sake of argument no woman will ever love me and I will never have kids. I still have value. I still have skills, an intellect, interests and hobbies, etc. If I knew I would never have a romantic relationship I would still want …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:27 PM
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On one hand, yes, women consider "average" to be something which is way above average. On the other hand, the absolute state of men (at least in the US) makes the average man a disaster, so it's hard to blame them for not being interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:31 AM
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You should be proud of how far you've come! Fwiw, I don't know you personally but nothing about you sounds undeserving of romantic love. Thanks! Hopefully I get to that point too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:42 PM
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Well, I think it boils down to a few things. Socially I became a complete hermit due to 2020. Online college, followed by a year of online work had me sitting in one room >20 hours a day, and outside of family, work colleagues and social media I basically had no interaction with the outside world. (Saying I was depressed sounds melodramatic but on some minor level it may have been the case). Since then I've moved on. Since 2022 began I've been forcing myself out of the house at least 5 days a we…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:18 PM
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No, my family is very caring/loving. But that's familial love, and it's different from romantic love. I just can't see how the latter would happen. Someone "actively wanting to be with me" is hard to imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:56 PM
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Well, when you put it like that.... 😂 This is going to sound bad but I when I imagine the idea of being in a relationship, I always imagined it being one-sided. I would be "in love" and my partner would like having me around, at best. Being in a relationship where I am loved back sounds sort of like a fantasy, and not one which crosses my mind often. I probably sound very insecure/self-hating. In most aspects of my life, I am not so. But when it comes to dating/romance/sex I think I am of the mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:46 PM
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I'd take the relationship. Granted, I've never been in a relationship so maybe it's a matter of me not knowing what I'm talking about, but being in that sort of a relationship sounds okay. She's not abusive, she tolerates me. As long as she was occasionally affectionate I think I could be happy with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:33 PM
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I see, thanks for the response. It’s also weird as fuck that due to porn sales stats it’s clear that more than a few WM have fantasies of seeing a white wife, maybe even theirs, getting fucked by a guy that looks like me. Cuck stuff in my experience tends to be bisexual guys who for whatever reason don't like the image of having sex with a man themselves, so they project themselves on a woman to have sex with a guy "on their behalf". Not too sure how race plays into it, I'm sure Freud would have…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:03 AM
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Also, the weird side-effect of American racism in particular that is the eroticization of black men. Okay so this probably comes across as a crass question (feel free not to answer) but doe you see that eroticization as racist or a good thing? I know there's a porn subculture around interracial stuff and to be honest it seemed like it makes dating/hookups easier for Black men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:45 AM
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but that is basically due to systemic racism at a high level. Can you explain what you mean by this? Is it that Black women are discriminated against by wider society and so end up having to reach out more to find dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:25 AM
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I actually thought about post-WWII USSR when I said "why would that happen." That said, I will take a rough dating scene over having to fight a war or see my male family/friends die, any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:31 AM
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I don't see the interest gap ever flipping or even getting close. Why would that happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:39 AM
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Well, I guess he's not the particular sort of man who can make it work. In general I do think redpill is a bad idea. Not a healthy way of viewing the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:17 PM
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My theory is that redpill stuff only works on a very particular subset of women (upper-middle-class liberal cis bi/heterosexual White Western women with an interest in casual sex), and you have to be a particular sort of man to make it work. Otherwise you look like a fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:15 PM
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Good question. I don't know. It's like: I would like a relationship with a woman. For the majority (and it seems like the vast majority) of women, being bi is a dealbreaker. It's already hard enough as it is out there, so making it harder by being open about your sexuality is a bad idea. On the other hand you're right in that if the topic ever came up it would be hurtful to know they wouldn't accept me as a whole. And they'd probably feel betrayed/disgusted too. So I dunno. No happy endings I gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:58 PM
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you basically have to stay in the closet until you're deeply entrenched in the relationship. See, I don't know if that's a good idea either. Once I was talking to a girl and the topic of a closeted bi bf/husband came up and she said "I'd kill myself if my husband turned out to be a <slur for gay people>." Suffice to say that was the last time we hung out but it sort of informed me on the state of things when it comes to dating women as a bi man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:38 PM
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I've heard a whole lot of men complain women don't like bisexual men, though. In general I try to be chill but this is one thing I do resent women for (yes I know not all women but bear with me). I remember listening to a podcast once where a bunch of women were asked this and the genuine disgust they had for bi men was sorta crushing. IRL I if the topic comes up I just say I'm straight and leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:33 PM
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Honestly if my partner cheating happened or was suspected I would first try to keep it between us. Solving the crisis will be hard enough without other people getting involved. If they are already involved I ask them to back off. At this point the ball is in the cheater's court. Do they want to break up/divorce or do they want to try to fix things? If it's the former, that's the end of things. If they want to try and fix things, we would go to couple's therapy/marriage counseling and take steps …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 03:52 AM
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I just don't know. I have seen people close to me cry in front of their wives/gfs, but it was in the context of someone passing away or getting close to it. On the other hand, you can find an endless stream of women attesting to the fact that they got the "ick" after their boyfriend opened up to them. My opinion is that in very serious/sad situations it is acceptable to show emotion in front of your partner, but if you're feeling down or worried or sad for a less serious reason, keep it to yours…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:25 AM
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The idea of it being forced government policy is bad, BUT I think a dating app where you enter info about yourself and get matched to one person alone, without seeing other options, would be cool to try. We'd have to assume everyone would be honest for it to work though, so I'm not optimistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:09 AM
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If WW3 happens, we're getting nuked 15 minutes after it begins. No need to worry about fighting, we'll either be dead or struggling to survive in a wasteland.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:51 AM
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Mostly not true, really. Latin America has sub-replacement birthrates. Most of MENA is the same. Subsaharan African birthrates remain high but have plunged too. (You have your outliers like Israel and Afghanistan but for the most part the birthrate is dropping).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 06:23 PM
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The only three things which can cause society to collapse at this point are: Climate change Resource exhaustion Unchecked pollution Gender issues are not on the list
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 06:18 PM
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False rape charges will carry the same sentence as the rape charge itself. I've written at length about how destructive false allegations can be, but doesn't this seem like a bad idea? Someone who was raped may decide not to seek justice over fears of a lack of evidence leading to an accusation of the rape accusation being false.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:09 PM
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In regards to politics, see this (it's a WIP though). In terms of male/female relationships? I think it would be more equal than today but also more empathetic on both sides. People would be more relaxed. Most people would be monogamous, but polygamous/polyandrous relationships would be there too. If I had to guess, polygamy would be more common than polyandry (just by going off the historical track record), but both would be less common than monogamy. LGBT relationships would be fully legal too…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:07 PM
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The "whole ethnic groups will go extinct" claim is completely bogus. How come no one predicts the extinction of East Asians (Chinese, Japanese, Koreans) when most of their birthrates are below replacement too? And if it's feminism you think is the problem, South Korea has truly deranged feminist cults running around, things which would make most Western feminists seem like tradwives. Hispanics have an even more severe feminist culture than the West. Feminists in Mexico and Argentina are more ext…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:46 PM
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Bro I think the planet dying is a bit more severe of an issue than gender dynamics being messed up. If anything leads to society collapsing it will be that. The falling birthrate is a good thing, it means a more sustainable population.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:38 PM
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Just like I wouldn’t randomly ask him to take an STD test or have him tailed when he’s worked a few late nights in case he’s cheating… I keep seeing women itt saying this and I don't get it. 100% YES you should make your husband get an STD test or even check in on him outside of the home from time to time! 20% of men cheat, it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:29 PM
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I would certainly hope they use condoms or non-PIV sex. Doing the one thing which makes a woman pregnant doesn't seem wise if you don't want to get a woman pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:09 PM
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I think most people would like to marry someone more attractive and wealthier than them. That seems pretty universal. Likewise, most people end up marrying someone around their own level, in terms of class, education, beauty, socioeconomic status, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 05:23 AM
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When I was big into going to sex parties and sex clubs I banged literally hundreds of women (I put it at 350+ didn't walk away unscathed though) This sounds like the way to get some exotic uncurable STD 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 02:28 AM
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Youre basically admitting that the real you isnt good enough, and that female attraction > your hobbies, personality, self-identity. Which is... pretty sad? One of the things you realize when you look into the redpill stuff is that in the red pill world, women are actually incredibly powerful. A man's entire value boils down to how women see him. You could be a great doctor or scientist or artist but if women don't like you, you're a beta, while some dude who's a wreck but who gets the ladies is…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 02:15 AM
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Now for the workplace thing. First off I will acknowledge that Women facing sexual harassment in the workplace is a real and serious issue Cases of actual harassment outnumber false allegations Steps should be taken to ensure women have a safe working environment. As I said, among the extensive detail and history presented from MeTOO, the only male response was "I'm going to be falsely accused of rape for asking my female coworker for the report that's due." Here's the thing. Most men (the vast …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 08:25 PM
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I've already detailed how men immediately conflated criticisms of toxic masculinity with all men and maleness in general when women made public complaints about the behavior outside of targeting the behavior to specific demographics of men. The reductiveness of the point of the conversation is a tactic to eliminate the conversation entirely. I would say that while there may be some overreaction on the part of men when it comes to critique, I do think a large portion of criticism of men, by women…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 08:06 PM
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I'm a guy, here are six famous men I'd say count as role models: Chris Smalls, Amazon Labor Union founder and organizer Moon Jae-In, Former South Korean President who made strides for peace with the North James Cameron, film director and environmentalist David Lynch, film director and noted surrealist artist Junji Ito, noted Japanese horror artist with a great personal life Wang Huning, 5th most powerful person in China and the most powerful philosopher in the world today Not at all these guys a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:43 PM
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It just seems like men are motivated to work on themselves to earn the attention of women rather than to instill self-love and a sense of purpose outside careers and romantic relationships. Well, yes. I think it is fair to say that a man's view of himself in large part comes from how the women in his life see him. I dunno what psychology is there, but validation from a woman means something, you know? If I hated myself I wouldn't be able to believe I were deserving of having a loving partner and…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:28 PM
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I'm pretty bemused at the idea that, as you put it, "that commentary and criticisms towards maleness isn't 'allowed' in this current social structure." Criticism of maleness is very much allowed in all cultural spheres from academia to popular discourse to political policy. Males feeling upset at that doesn't really change the fact that such critique of men is perfectly allowed. It's similar to how women were detailing the sexual harassment and sexual assault they experienced in the work place. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:21 PM
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I have seen a decent amount of men putting out content that encourages healthy masculinity and personal growth with an emphasis on empathy and the amount of angry men in the comments is astounding. I can understand that anger. Like I said, these are men who have come to think a rather destructive/extreme version of masculinity is the end-all-be-all of masculinity. And frankly, for many of them it worked (the reason the red pill is so popular is because it works for enough men, after all). Now so…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:10 PM
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I think on some level so much emphasis was put on stamping out "toxic masculinity" without providing cases/models/examples of "good masculinity" that a decent chunk of men decided that toxic masculinity was masculinity and they were going to be masculine. It doesn't help that the life Tate tells you to live is, admittedly, nice. Tons of women loving you, beautiful cars, houses, traveling, etc. It's very flashy and nice, and if someone is telling you toxic masculinity will help you achieve that, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:55 PM
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I mean, it is what it is. A certain chunk of the Asian women demographic prefers White guys, and vice-versa. If in some cases that attraction is something stemming from self-hate, then that's something the women need to work out for themselves. I'll note that loads of men of all races lose their minds when women of their race date men of other races. I've seen it when Asian or Indian or Black girls date White men, when White girls date Black guys, even when Asian girls date Indian men. It probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:39 AM
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Well, low self-esteem is a major personal issue for many people in all aspects of life, not just dating. The type of self-hate you mention, where people idolize physical features mostly held by Northern Europeans, is well-known and often discussed, with the term Western/White beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:19 AM
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🫡 I salute the lady, she did more to prevent police violence than most measures people/governments take have
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:36 PM
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Well it will frankly make things harder, as do all medical conditions, but it's not the end of the world, dating wise. I know a deaf guy, he has a wife and kids. The wife is deaf as well, the kids all have full hearing. I think you should lay off the evolutionary thinking. Such thinking describes grand trends of millions/billions of people over hundreds of thousands of years. It's not applicable to an individual's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 08:08 PM
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The only social media thing which would make me go 🤨 is if she had a venmo/ko-fi/etc. link in her profile. Or if she had a Tinder/Bumble/etc. account she used while we were dating, I would have an issue with that (edit: although I guess she could keep said account as long as she wasn't hiding anything). Otherwise it'd be cool. Heck dating someone with a large instagram following would be cool, like dating a celebrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:46 PM
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Well TBH I think the birth rate decline is a good thing, at least in the grand scheme of things. But anyway, I agree that childcare/homemaking is valuable work that has long been undervalued.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:38 PM
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It seems a lot of people focus way too much on the transactional aspect. We live in a capitalist system, and whatever can be turned into a commodity will be, including relationships. Once upon a time this contract favored men, especially in the days when men were the only income-earners in an average family. Men's labor provided value to the capitalist system, and women were "shielded" from capitalism for a while. (Not that this was a good thing; in fact capitalism eventually breaking down this …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:09 PM
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Caring, witty/humorous, open-minded, optimistic. Someone with hobbies and interests and things they are passionate about. Someone who's curious about the world. I don't like saying "intelligent", but someone who likes to learn. Ideally someone who practices the same faith as I, but who's also very moderate like me. Someone who is physically affectionate (I mean hugs/cuddling/etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:57 PM
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I read this sort of stuff from time to time and I don't get it. Surely the idea of getting sex someday was not the motivator you had when you studied, when you got a job, etc. People aim to do labor which pleases them and their interests first and foremost. Sometimes circumstances or whatnot force you to work jobs you'd rather not do, but at the end of the day most people want to work, and to work at things which makes them feel accomplished and engaged. Sex/dating have nothing to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 09:36 PM
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Not particularly successfully 😂. I had more luck in college but no relationship or intimacy came out of it. Since I've moved back home it's been all online stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 06:56 PM
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I am Punjabi Sikh 😀 Seems to be an Indian thing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 06:44 PM
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My father is a great guy, but his dating advice has always been “you’re too young to date, focus on school/work/etc.” I’m in my 20s now and I want to date, but he still says this. So I go elsewhere for info.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 05:12 PM
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What about climate change, resource exhaustion and pollution? Those are civilization’s greatest threats
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 07:29 PM
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What are you talking about, Twitter/TikTok/YouTube are stuffed to the brim with Tate videos
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:57 PM
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You realize Sasuke won this fight, right
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:51 AM
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Serious answer: A monogamous relationship with leeway on both sides and overall an equal to slightly patriarchal relationship. I'd like to have kids but stepkids or adoption is fine too. My goal seems pretty reasonable but I am willing to ditch the leeway on both sides part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:40 AM
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It's he, can't you read
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:32 AM
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Refugees using sex/dating in order to make ends meet When it comes to women using sex, this seems like a valid use case 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:31 AM
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It does go both ways though. Sex with women is harder to get but relationships are easier. Plenty of bi/gay guys are stuck in hookup hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 05:53 PM
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Only one of these which is a valid problem is the micro plastics
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:31 AM
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The number of women online who say that a man being bi is a dealbreaker is very disheartening.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:15 PM
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Works at Boeing Still unhappy with life MFer you get to make aircraft and spacecraft, you've won at life. Who cares about women at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:08 PM
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and only like 200 million white women Huh? Europe is overwhelmingly White, and there are 700 million Europeans. Most countries in the Americas have a substantials White population, let's say ~300 million in total across the New World (overall population of the Americas is 1 billion, so let's say 30% White). Add in the mostly White population of Australia/NZ, and the White minority populations in Africa/Asia, and you get more than a billion people. Half are women, so that's 500 million White wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:24 PM
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You cant be “coerced” into doing a job you willingly signed up for. Just quit the job if you don’t like it. If the choice is between "have sex for pay" and "miss rent/food/etc payment", then you don't really have a choice, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:46 AM
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If you are on Reddit, your living standard is most likely higher than that of Roman Emperors back in the day. Regardless of gender this is the best time in human history to be alive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:02 AM
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I am a guy and personally I think it is NOT okay to use prostitution. Prostitution, even in countries where it is legal like the Netherlands, has been linked with human trafficking time and time again. Even when human trafficking, abuse, etc. are taken out of the picture, you still have to deal with the prostitute being coerced into sex by a need for income. The number of women (and men) exploited in this field makes the entire situation unethical to take part in. I think it's not something you …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:30 PM
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I remember reading this article by a former sugar baby who ended up marrying her "daddy". The funny part was her explaining how now she actually had to care about their finances when before she was just cashing in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:22 AM
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Our country's approach to race is quite barbaric, we never really moved past 19th century conceptions of race. We just obfuscate it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:22 AM
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I'm an ethnically Indian guy too. Personally I think East Asian men have it worse than us, at least where I live. But it depends on your approach too, I take pains to be as un-creepy as possible and for the most part I think it works. Off topic but this is one place where straight and gay dating scenes differ a lot. When it came to attracting guys I never felt race helped or hurt, but with women I do think being White or Black (depending on the locale) can help and being Indian, East Asian or Bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:03 AM
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Well, I'll start by saying that I think 95% of men are not going to react to a rejection in a way that puts the woman in danger. They'll just accept it with differing levels of enthusiasm and/or sadness, and eventually move on. Of the remaining 5%, these are an unhinged group. I can't imagine that saying "this in particular is why I won't date you" will go over well. It just invites a firing back which can descend into violence. A more general reaction will leave the man feeling less attacked, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:42 PM
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Sharp jaw , prominent cheekbones, deep voice If it makes you feel better that's literally my dream gf/wife
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:33 PM
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I pretty much date exclusively online but I've read that the (straight) dating scene in the SF Bay Area is quite rough for men. There's a gender imbalance in the area which makes it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 05:38 PM
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Hm, I hadn't considered age (most of the women I interact with are around my age). I'm 20-something, the max I could see myself with would be 30-something. I'd be open to older women but I don't think one would really cross my path in a romantic context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:17 AM
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Please everyone look at this guy and remember it when you all spout off women are so entitled. I mean, what part of my standards seems entitled? I'm not asking for anything I do not also bring to the table. (which Im sure you do and write "health" instead) By health I meant no debilitating disabilities, serious chronic illness, etc. Even there I should make clear I'm not totally against the idea, but it is something that would make me hesitant.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 05:04 AM
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I think I have pretty low standards but maybe they are high 😅 No STDs. I have none and would like to keep it that way. No drug/alcohol usage. I do not use these substances and I think it's fair to want that from a partner Kindness. I just can't see myself happy with someone who is cruel to me or others. Health (physical, mental) This is an iffy one, but ideally my partner would be healthy in all aspects. I am pretty flexible with this and my opinion may change, but I don't want to be a caretaker…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 12:23 AM
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Some of these frankly ought to be criticized, like sex tourism or prostitution. I think outside of legitimate grooming, age gaps are overblown (that said, I think 10 years is the max healthy age gap for most people). In general, I (a guy) try to find women's advice on dating. Men's advice, like Tate or SNEAKO, is so bad that I have been trying to find alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:40 PM
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Well, probably. I consider myself confident in general but dating/romance is one area where I am not so 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:52 PM
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Male-male relationships weakening are a problem, I agree. It follows the general trend of isolation society has been dealing with. Most men are pets in relationships, in this new age era where men and women dating or married refer to each other their 'best fwends' (ugh). Women poo with the door open, they talk about their periods and send their man off to buy them tampons, while they laze-about, unwashed, and in pajamas. To women, it's like having one of their girlfriends permanently around, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:15 PM
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Personally, I'd almost feel more comfortable with a woman who wasn't a virgin. It would be a bit of pressure to be the first one, you could ruin her opinion of sex if you messed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:57 PM
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This is a nice list, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:48 AM
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What is your ideal dating strategy? Would you prefer being with one woman and being monogamous your entire life but have your life and decisions being affected by your spouse (such as where you guys would live and when you have s*x) Yes, I would prefer to be in a monogamous relationship. I am open to the idea of being in an open relationship, but frankly I don't like the idea of being disloyal to my gf/wife. If she wanted to open it up she could bring it up and we could discuss, but I would keep…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 09:19 PM
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Thanks for the response! I’ve heard about love languages before but hadn’t considered it as a thing one would perform/do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 09:07 PM
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Thanks for the response! I like the multi-faceted approach you and your husband have
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 08:56 PM
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