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Only Reddit considers being attracted to attractive people a moral failing. Women meanwhile are actively encouraged not to settle for “ugly” men because ya know, “girl power”.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 10:05 PM
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Most women have told me they really like my dick, so either they’re all just being nice or it really was enough for them. To tell you the truth, my johnson is pretty avg sized and nothing to write home about, so I think they were just being kind. I think you need to choose a different type of women brother. The type of women who understands what its like to be a man, who doesnt Want to destroy our confidence and self image because THEY as women understand how important it is too!Some people are …
/r/MenSupportMen13/08/24 05:59 AM
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I’d stay away from women under 25 if you dont want to be seen as a creep/predator. Society infantilizes people under 25 and likes to pretend that they’re still teenagers bc their brains are still developing. So your attempts to court them will often be seen as inappropriate especially since alt girls are typically radical leftists.
/r/seduction29/04/24 04:54 AM
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“Learn to laugh at yourself” is an oft repeated trope.
/r/seduction27/04/24 10:40 AM
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We can never “fix” inequality, we can rearrange and reorganize, try to remove things, add things but at the end of the day someone is always going to have more than someone else. And like you said its not intentional (hopefully) its just kind of the way things are.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/03/24 07:12 PM
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This age gap discrimination stuff is out of control. If everyone is an adult, why do you care? Men are expected to date no more than 2 years +/- their own age or else be accused of doing something wrong. Of course if the woman is older, no one accuses her of being creepy.
/r/seduction18/02/24 06:13 AM
3

True I absolutely think its worth checking out but OP is sensationalizing it.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/23 05:51 PM
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Is this satire OP? You do realize that genuine hypogonadism is pretty rare unless someone has an actual health condition like a genetic disorder? Or they’re like 100 years old? Most men who seek testosterone replacement are actually well within normal range and wouldn’t magically become superman overnight because of a couple extra nano grams of testosterone. What a foolish idea.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/23 03:20 AM
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I think the whole “modern life is suppressing our optimum T levels” is a bs myth created to sell “testosterone boosting supplements” and this idea that men thousands of years ago were all walking around with 900+ test levels is another myth. Besides, testosterone doesnt make men more successful and happy, those things are really just down to personality, genetics, etc
/r/TheRedPill23/10/23 03:11 AM
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I think Wellbutrin would help me most of all but they only prescribe that in combination with an SSRI which I think is pretty stupid. I dont want to take an SSRI given the side effects, dependency, and risk of developing tardive dyskinesia.
/r/MenSupportMen16/08/23 10:07 AM
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Used to. Didnt do much but my anxiety is worse now than it was then so I’d consider getting back on it. I think ssris are good for anxiety and OCD but depression is not an “all in your head” phenomenon. You might be more predisposed to depressive symptoms but events in your life are probably making it worse.
/r/MenSupportMen16/08/23 07:49 AM
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I met her and shes’s my gf now lol. Talk about manifestation.
/r/seduction08/05/23 03:42 AM
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Lol first of all 7.5 is big and way above average. You’re longer than me but the same thickness (5 inches around) and I’ve never had a problem even some compliments. Masculinity isn’t about the size its about confidence.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/23 12:11 PM
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So you’re saying I can finally meet my dream girl? I’d kill for a shy nerdy girl with a cute face and wide hips.
/r/seduction12/04/23 03:49 AM
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For real
/r/seduction07/04/23 05:53 PM
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So whats the right way in your opinion. Maybe you wont actually be seen as creepy but I think my point was, if you’ve never approached or used any escalation before, in the beginning it might feel “creepy” to you but, thats only because its something that you’ve never done before, or you’ve listened to too many people who say that only creepy guys do approach and act forward with women, and instead you’re supposed to be “normal” friendly right up until you shoot your shot.
/r/seduction07/04/23 05:11 PM
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This post describes everything thats been going through my head over the last couple days. You have to risk being seen as creepy, you have to act in a way that you thought was off limits to you. I came from the passive/safe approach side of things. I would go on dates, and the fact that I could be touching her arm, leg, or even sub communicating my sexual interest at all was the farthest thing from my mind.
/r/seduction07/04/23 03:20 PM
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How good looking are we talking. Like a 6? Or an 8/9? I’m 6ish and I’ve literally never approached or used any escalation because I thought I wasnt cut out for it. Trying to change that mindset because its a self limiting belief.
/r/seduction07/04/23 03:11 PM
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“Looksmaxxing” will bring you straight back to blackpill. Just take some pride in your appearance, and clean under your finger nails.
/r/ExRedPill22/03/23 09:46 AM
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Some guys do, some guys dont. You’re generalizing. Aging depletes the collagen and fat pads around the face. This can either make you look more chiseled and defined, or weathered and saggy. It really depends on the person.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 11:50 AM
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Because most young women today see most young men as undesirable and unattractive. They only care about ideals and aesthetic icons, not actual people.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/23 11:58 AM
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Not really my point but nice try
/r/ExRedPill03/03/23 09:35 AM
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“I know everything about women” -a guy who’s never spoken to a woman in his whole life
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 04:12 AM
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Women are not a monolith. All women like different things in a guy. Men are easier to please and attract. We see a pretty face or a nice body, we go for it.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/23 10:04 AM
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Thats one fear I have yet to conquer. Also worried that I’m going to be inferior or less enjoyable in the bedroom compared to past lovers. I know its a really bad, self-defeating mindset but it does happen to people. Ruins marriages. It hasn’t happened to me yet, but ngl I intentionally date down to prevent these things.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/23 12:57 PM
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You’re expecting red pills to be able to evaluate anything critically instead of parrot the same shit over and over? Theres nothing to “explain.” The guy sounds like a psychopath. And yes, very average looking. Thats why he “got” those women. using manipulation and abuse. But hey guess what? Anyone can be abusive, dangerous, or manipulative. Thats why the women dont like nice guys argument doesnt make sense. Anyone out there could be narcissistic and selfish, etc. looks or the lack thereof dont …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/23 10:30 AM
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A “nice guy” is someone who can only ever be “nice.” Nice guys are rarely funny, dont know how to tease or flirt, the best they can be is inoffensive. In essence, its a boring person who think’s they are desirable partners simply because they aren’t outwardly rude or nasty. They have one dimensional personalities. Socially its the bare minimum.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 02:09 PM
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Idk what that means, I was only answering OP’s question. I said I got matches and dates on Tinder, not that I hooked up with anyone. My pictures were always trash, maybe that was my problem. I dont really like using those apps, I’m not into hookup culture even though I’d like to think that I am. I’m much too romantic.
/r/MenSupportMen20/02/23 10:55 AM
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I’ve gotten matches and dates using the apps, in some cases dates I probably wouldnt have gotten otherwise. I’m somewhat above average, or average looking depending on who you ask, certainly not ridiculously attractive, tall, or mesmerizing 8/10 handsome. I’m like a 5 or a 6. I’ve only ever had relationships by meeting women through friends and coworkers. I guess the apps can be “fun”…my cousin met his wife on Hinge during the pandemic. He looks like me, his wife is beautiful and a wonderful per…
/r/MenSupportMen20/02/23 10:39 AM
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Listen man: Everyone is so mad because you’re trying to approach this systemically instead of intuitively. There is no formula for attraction, romance is not a math problem. Heres some simple, not too “woo woo” advice. Go to a decent, non divey bar at happy hour: Basic ideas: dress in well fitting clothes (read: not flashy, just well fitting) clean sneakers or casual shoes. Trim/clean your nails, comb or style your hair (dont need to go crazy) show your personal style. Are you handsome? Then you…
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 05:59 AM
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Feeling sorry for yourself doesnt work, it just makes you feel shittier. Men dont sit around and complain they do something about it. Are you mentally or physically handicapped somehow? No? Then stop complaining. I guarantee you have more opportunities available to you than you think. No ones entitled to a relationship or sex but you still DESERVE the chance to try.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/01/23 11:17 PM
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Hot take: Many guys who think and act like incels (take me for example) arent really and are just suffering from FOMO. They probably could find a partner thats right for them but they see people having fun, casually hooking up left and right and feel like they’re missing out on something which would ostensibly provide more satisfaction. A lot of the guys who get called creeps or misogynists online are really just hypergamous men who cant accept that they dont have the “privilege” of being able t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/01/23 08:24 PM
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Women are no better, they judge men on their appearance and attractiveness as much as men do to women. Oh and we aren’t allowed to have feelings.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/23 06:50 AM
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Ya’ll aint on there and you know it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:33 AM
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Whatever you say I guess!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 12:09 AM
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Your post history suggests otherwise. You married a guy you weren’t attracted to and now you have a dying bedroom. This is why I’m so afraid of getting married again, because of stories like these. Women are too comfortable with marrying a nice guyTM and fantasizing or cheating behind his back to fulfill HER desires. But hey lying isn’t wrong or anything right??? Men can’t handle honesty and thus don’t deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:56 AM
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Wow so you have to fake orgasms with your husband? Thats depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:09 AM
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Everyones different but some women swear by vaginal orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:00 AM
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Honestly if a girl says she cant cum from PIV but uses dildos, its either a compatibility issue or the guy isn’t that skilled at sex. Vibrators are a different thing, provides a different type of stimulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:26 AM
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A woman who’s never heard of the g-spot or any of the fornices? not too surprising I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:08 AM
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G-spot, a-spot, p-spot, all these things can result in a woman having orgasms during PIV. Fellas, you have to work on your dick game as well as your finger/tongue game.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:06 AM
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Nah my mom knows I’m a loser she just aint sayin shit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:35 AM
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Do men? Does anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 01:41 PM
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Love and sexual attraction aren’t a mathematical formula though. Sometimes people meet and its like fireworks and thats just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 10:52 AM
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The “worst” I’ve ever heard from women is (in regards to the types of guys they want to hit on them): -dont be shorter than me (including in 3 inch heels, but remember a guy can wear normal, leather dress boots that make him up to 1.2 inches taller as well, so do the math according to your height) -dont be ugly (below average or low average face) -dont get flustered easily and dont be obnoxious -dont have a micro peen and occasionally I hear don’t be smaller than 6 inches Depending on who you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:57 AM
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Ryan gosling is not very handsome never understood the big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:09 AM
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I’m sure some people would consider me a 4 or a 5, that wouldnt surprise me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:13 AM
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Strangers things have happened I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 02:58 PM
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Bro I’m a hard 6.5 maybe a 7/10 (according to people on PPD and IRL) and people still give those responses. Its because you’re asking for help man, it doesn’t mean you’re unattractive or that they’re trying to politely tell you to stop trying, come on now . The only reason I myself even ask for advice is because my dumbass always tries to get with 7’s and 8’s not because I cant get other 6’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:41 PM
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You must be fun at parties
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:49 AM
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Agreed 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:45 AM
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Find your looks match. Some men care greatly about looks but, not as much as women do by and large.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:36 AM
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You think you got problems. Ladies tell me I seem confident yet still reject me 😃
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 02:55 PM
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Yes and no, speaking for myself only.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:42 PM
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5’9
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 11:11 AM
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I have a thing for musicians. Maybe because I am one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 11:11 AM
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I want my looksmatch at least, cant even get that. People say I’m a 6.5-7.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 12:52 PM
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If you get rejected during the day you’ll get rejected in a club or bar. It doesnt matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:02 AM
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Well I don’t have either and I’m ready to jump off a bridge. Be grateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:00 AM
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I dont even know wtf ya’ll are talking about at this point. All I know is I’m lonely as fuck and stuck in this body that only attracts 3’s 4’s and 5’s. Ready to kms. I’ll date a good looking 40 year old at this point, dont even care.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:28 AM
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Fantasy? So it can be anything right?? Well I’d like to fuck Victoria De Angelis until she cant walk straight, does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:04 AM
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They just tell me to try a new haircut and lift. My face is a hard 6 maybe a soft 7 on a really good day. Also my voice is kinda goofy not very sexy or masculine at all. 5’9. Accept your place as a normie and find someone who loves you, probably another normie.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 04:40 AM
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Dont forget deep voice! I sound like I’m 14 (I’m 32) and I’m about ready to kms whenever I notice my voice too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 11:45 AM
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Ive already settled on probably not having kids and maybe not even getting married. Looking for virgins or 1N women these days is an exercise in futility and probably a good way to permanently ick yourself for all women in the western hemisphere. Good luck man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 11:38 AM
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Mmmm, I kinda don’t care because its still a valid experience and bares a place in the conversation. Saying low n-count women are magical, perfect partners is pretty fucking ignorant and reductive if you ask me. And to say they wont cheat is illogical, because of FOMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 10:50 AM
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I have personal experiences. Women with very low (lets say 0-2 for argument sake) n-counts tend to be more hypergamous, less agreeable, less affectionate partners, having lower emotional intelligence and also having absurdly high standards for their partners (thus the low count) Higher n-count partners, while arguably promiscuous, are generally just better, nicer, happier partners to have. Their experiences give them more perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 10:36 AM
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Lol, low n-count dont mean shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 10:16 AM
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I wouldn’t engage with black pillers if I were you. You might not make it out of that rabbit hole.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 08:35 AM
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Bro you keep missing the point by a fucking mile. I’m 32 years old. For me to say I can ONLY find a 20 year old women attractive would be fucking ridiculous. What if a hot 25 year old hits on me tomorrow? “Oh sorry its very normal for me to be attracted to a 19 year old so yea sorry Grandma you’re too old for me” If I exclusively pursued 18-22 year old women I’d be labeled a creep or a laughing stock. Luckily I can be attracted to someone within 5 years of my own age because I have the common se…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:14 AM
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Agreed, OP needs to put on his big kid pants and make a decision .
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:58 AM
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Or you could man up and ask her wtf is going on, ask her in no certain terms if shes still attracted to you. Depending on her response I would bounce pretty effin quick. You DO have options, everyone does. low libido and high libido people shouldn’t really be together and sometimes I think “low libido” is really just a cope for women in your partners situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 09:37 AM
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Chronophilia of any kind is ignored unless its full pedo or breaks a law. Of course a normal 30 year old man is still attracted to an 18+ year women probably extremely so, but to say he is unable or unwilling to find someone closer to his own age attractive is, very concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 08:12 AM
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Christ I cant even talk to most 20 year old women due to the immaturity, whereas with someone 5-10 years older I can have a convo without wishing I could set myself on fire right then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 08:05 AM
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Yes, a “normal adult” who doesnt find a 25-40 y/o women attractive due to being “too old” you’re completely fucking normal bruv.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:59 AM
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ight bro, idk even how to respond to this. Especially the last part.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:54 AM
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Ok,ngl I have a few female cousins and while I never had inappropriate feelings towards them I recognize that they’re incredibly beautiful women. Both are around 36/37, I’d say they finally look ah more mature should we say. One partied her ass off another didn’t. They both look great! Genetics is important lol. Your age is also important. When I was 21 ofc I thought a 30-40 y/o was too old to be attractive. Well I’m 32 now and I’ve changed my tune. Move with the times or they’ll move you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:48 AM
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Saying women peak at 18-22 is some nonce adjacent shit. 25-30 y/o women are fucking gorgeous. Its not a peak its a plateau you fucking nonces.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:43 AM
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Brb locking myself in my room and practicing my guitar for the next two weeks lol. I thought women being into musicians became a meme like 15 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 06:26 AM
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What makes musicians HV or high status? You mean like professional rock musicians??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 06:02 AM
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Yea I was playing video games srry
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:40 PM
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And as a man I would say to that, where have you been my whole life??
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:35 PM
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Mfw ugly guys
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:40 AM
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This is the only answer anyone needs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:34 AM
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That part was terrible and cringey, (its ok to be a pathetic piece of shit, you little beta piss boy!) But I quite like the second part.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 12:31 AM
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What I dislike? When they don’t appreciate it or even seem to know whats going on. When they act like normal guys, get depressed or whatever. They dont know so many guys would kill to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 11:38 PM
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Trp adjacent guys are alright I guess look up dr robert glover
/r/ExRedPill05/01/23 12:06 PM
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Be more “spontaneous” (women fucking love that shit) and try to be a better lover?? What else is there to say? You’re allowed to communicate with your partner and ask her if everything is good in the bedroom. Don’t fall into “guy mode” and think “I have to be perfect, and I have to do it without anyones help”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:10 AM
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Thats why I’m tired of romance. If you like me you’ll probably tell me the sex was amazing when it was only mediocre. I’ve only had 3 partners and they all seemed to greatly enjoy having sex with me, but maybe they were just stretching the truth to make me feel good? They acted like I was the greatest guy there were ever going to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:48 AM
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Truth
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:32 PM
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If women like you, you’re a criminal! But not me, I’m a nice guy, not a piece of shit who abuses women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:36 PM
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Doesnt get talked about enough bro there hundreds of posts about this topic posted ever day I’m not all that much bigger than the size which you stated on another sub, so still not very big maybe a tiny bit above average, and I’ve never had a problem. Girls like big dicks because they are visually exciting, for sex it usually doesnt matter. Its usually not a deal breaker unless you’re tiny tiny (like 4x4) or crazy big so I wouldn’t worry. Girls who truly care about size to the point where it can…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:19 AM
0

Same reason guys with big dicks are into size queens who go crazy for it??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:47 AM
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I love telling guys this and watching the gears in their tiny little incel minds furiously crank away. “But women can only be hot or ugly!!!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:49 AM
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Is nerd a type?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 01:47 PM
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I think the pill you “take” whether consciously or not informs your choices thus there are people who live their lives by those beliefs. And find other people who do too, and now thats their subjective reality. In real life theres a lot less distinction between red pill and blue pill. As you said these are merely versions of attempts to explain the world we live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 01:36 PM
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Negative emotional tension lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 01:24 PM
0

Well I’m glad you feel that way, IMO being straight sucks ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 01:15 PM
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Gee whiz it almost seems like some of you fellas have a problem with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:57 AM
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This kind of thing should be regulated to only the truly ugly, deformed, unlovable among you. Like medically disabled levels of ugly. It shouldn’t be available to average guys who are too lazy to go out and meet people. That just invites and welcomes degeneracy. Oh and the “attractiveness” of the fembot should be proportional to the recipients age and own attractiveness. Just to twist the knife even harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:33 AM
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Lol ok
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:08 AM
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Let me translate this: Tall, handsome men can do whatever they want because they are superior, mentally and physically. Short, ugly, poor men should not even attempt to emulate those men. They need to stay quiet, stay in their lane, and hope some desperate women takes pity on them, because they are inferior, mentally and physically. Why cant you just come right out and say you hate and despise short, ugly men except when you feel like using them??
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:02 AM
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No response, downvoted, typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:46 AM
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What do you mean average men? How do you know what any of these men looked like?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:49 AM
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I’ll take all 3! I love charcuterie 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 04:34 AM
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I feel bad for them too since I sort of am one. But some of ya’ll are really out there damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:54 PM
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Do androids dream of electric sheep?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:43 PM
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Cant speak for most men. I will say, just slightly overweight?? No. and attractive face helps a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:25 PM
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Idk what to tell you man. Sometimes it happens by accident I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:31 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:28 PM
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But attractive guys do that for years and no one tells them to stop and girls keep giving them sex. Just goes to show that attractive people can get away with anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:27 PM
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Thats gross asf number 1 number 2 even 25 y/o women these days can still look 18 so its really non issue for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 11:01 AM
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Oh yea no I see you checking me out sweetheart. Problem is you’re about 70lbs overweight
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:55 AM
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Fr I’d be into that as long as the guys weren’t significantly better looking than me lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 09:45 AM
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Its easy bro just: Demonstrate Value Engage Physically Nurture Dependence Neglect Entirely Inspire Hope Separate Entirely Of course she wont say no… …Because of the implication
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 09:33 AM
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They hate women and are simultaneously desperate for their attention and approval. Outcome dependence.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:15 AM
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Average is almost worse than below. You get to feel confident one day and hopeless the next! Its a fucking roller coaster I swear
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:41 AM
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Source: trust me bro
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:51 AM
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Oldie but a goodie
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 04:03 AM
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I’m 5’9 so I’m exactly in between 5’6 and 6’0. Its a weird height, don’t really know what it looks like to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:53 AM
1

Life is a comedy to those who think, and a tragedy to those who feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:45 AM
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This one isnt even good. I haven’t even started drinking yet, bring back the good ones!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:40 AM
1

Sounds good dude happy new year. Hope I meet someone cool like you this year
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:32 PM
1

Yea I totally get your point. Sulking like a petulant child is like, the opposite of showing strength and confidence. I’m assuming you and your current man dont have this problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:23 PM
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Ah damn that actually sucks I’m sorry. I used to make my ex cum just from oral followed by PIV but sometimes just PIV all the time. My dick isnt small or big but I’m also pretty good at sex. I’ll do fingering and vibrators too idgaf whatever works
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:59 PM
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Either one I don’t care. I’ve had both already and they both fucked pretty well and were both satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:53 PM
1

I dont really know what or who you are but it doesn’t sound good.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:44 PM
1

Damn, super loose vagina or very small dick (aka average for you)??
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:41 PM
1

Girl no ones making you come here and engage in this shit. Seems like you’re just as angry and lonely as any guy here. There are cool women who post here but there are also slut apologists like you and its very annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:40 PM
2

So get off reddit and touch some grass? Go enjoy this great life you supposedly have you fucking sex LARPer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:35 PM
1

So get off reddit and touch some grass? Go enjoy this great life you supposedly have you fucking sex LARPer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:31 PM
0

Too short? Just grow 5 inches you fucking incel, nothing a shower and some cologne cant fix. And yea I really dont believe you ended relationships with avg men because of their low confidence. Its bc you see them as disgusting, subhuman pieces of garbage who deserve to be alone. Just be honest at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:29 PM
0

Great, you’re doing so much good in the world sweetheart. Cause as much pain as possible, that makes you strong 💪
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:21 PM
1

Soft daddy
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/12/22 09:59 PM
1

Great well a lot of people are lonely, suffering and wallowing in self-hatred because of these sky-high standards that women have. But, nobody really wants to hear that, they just want to clown on you and tell you to take another shower. Do you also tell starving people that they’re starving because they’re lazy and worthless and food is only for good people? Whats the point of telling people that they’re alone and will always be alone because of X, Y and Z (things which they cant change or cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:02 PM
1

Lmao get fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:40 PM
2

Wait, thats real? looks around at all the incel posts today Ok, yea, that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:28 PM
2

Right, ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:24 PM
5

BaCk iN tHe OLd dAyS
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:04 PM
10

Equity doesn’t exist in society. And it never will, truly. We live in a heterotrophic universe that at its very fabric is based on inequality. So suck it up because life ain’t fair. Some people are mostly fucked, some are only a little fucked. If you’re less fucked, be a little bit happier I guess idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:03 PM
2

What if a women breaks the touch barrier and then later says she only wants to be friends? Lack of escalation on the guys part?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 03:57 PM
1

Good plan!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:14 PM
1

Who said anything about red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:30 AM
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Touch grass
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 10:59 AM
1

Sounds like it would take too long and I’m making up for lost time here. I’m still just barely able to function in most socials sits. Having a learning disorder and ADHD sucks donkey dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 10:38 AM
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I guess. If I start taking really really good care of myself I might get another 10-15 years of sexual attractiveness. People tell me I still look 25. I can still get with women in their mid 20’s fairly easily but below that I’m in creepy old man territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 10:07 AM
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Unless you really look the part, dark triad will destroy your sexual attractiveness, even moderate amounts of it. Reasonably attractive men of average height should avoid any extreme personality traits, especially egocentrism. Your focus should be understated confidence and intelligence. Be the kind of person you would want to be friends with, not because they’re “nice” but because they’re interesting, seem well put together, well groomed, successful, cool, knowledgeable, etc etc. Dont say too m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:53 AM
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Correct. 10 points to gryffindor
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:16 AM
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Nah you’re good. The people in the chat are usually cool
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:48 AM
1

At 31 my confidence is being hamstrung by the notion that I’m over the hill and I’ll never find love
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:52 AM
1

You kids want some more sloppy joes?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:45 AM
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Yea lol but its more like “stay at the bottom where you belong bitch boy” Its not that we’re entitled. We’ve been disenfranchised.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:13 AM
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People who only come here to brag and bully, I wish you’d F off to this supposedly amazing life of yours. Coming here just to gloat is sus
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:11 AM
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If you cant have all the sex you want with who you want, the only thing left is drugs. Thats what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:14 PM
4

If she smokes she pokes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:38 PM
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I rest my case, definitely short on brains.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 11:13 AM
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Whats hilarious is that you think your height is holding you back when its probably everything but. You literally admitted to being boring yet you whine about being 5’9? What a joke If you feel short at 5’9 then you’re short on confidence, or brains.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 10:44 AM
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I guess you guys have never heard the phrase “beauty is in the eye of the beholder?”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:34 AM
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Get a life
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 10:32 AM
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I’m 5’9. When I find the other 5’9 bro’s calling themselves short I’m gonna woop their asses.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 10:15 AM
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Unfortunately red pill teaches guys that normal, average looking men are fatalistically doomed to be replaced, used, cheated on, cucked, etc etc. they dont listen to evidence that doesnt suit their world view and some people are essentially brainwashed by it.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 10:11 AM
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If all life is to you is sex and drugs, well you deserve your fate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 09:46 AM
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Dont listen to these toxic pieces of shit, I believe in you OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 09:44 AM
1

I’m not sure I agree completely but its interesting to say the least
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:09 AM
1

Sending you a chat request
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:08 PM
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OP, what will you actually do with this information?? How will you account for personal taste?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:57 PM
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Probably. I knew 33 year old guys who would date a 19 year old given the opportunity. And one who actually did, albeit briefly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:46 PM
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I’m not sure how confident and cocky = jerk or tapping on the shoulder = kind hearted. In both of those scenarios this guy has a pretty low chance of getting with anyone, IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:48 AM
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Ok man sure. Thats why black pillers exist right? Because angry, greasy looking little goblin people just have so much sex? And the poor 6ft chads who have amazing personalities are lonely virgins? Get a grip
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:08 AM
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This is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:39 AM
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Looks and physical abilities don’t really fade all that much until very old age as long as you take really good care of yourself. People act like once you hit 30 you’re a shriveled sexless cripple. Men and women can retain signifiant physical attractiveness until, I’d say 55 at least. Trying to say only 18-30 year old women are attractive is really creepy and adjacent to pedophilia. Especially these days. A 30 year old women can still look 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:36 AM
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Whats the point of being seen as masculine if you’re considered too unpleasant to even spend one second around??? Masculine ≠ sexually attractive. You trying to get hate fucked or smtn??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:29 AM
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I dont understand what guys are supposed to take from this? Be an asshole on purpose??? That only works in you’re literally a fucking 10/10 which less than 1% of people are. Otherwise you might as well wear a sign on your head that says “stay away from me”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:26 AM
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You’re right but at the same time, thats why he have lonely people. Complete mismatch. No mutual attraction. They are attracted to people who aren’t attracted to them, people are attracted to them who they are not attracted to. The only difference is, as a less attractive person you are not allowed to say “attraction is involuntary” because everyone will call you entitled and that “beggars cannot be choosers” Double standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:21 AM
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Well most young women have standards that are tantamount to body shaming or racism, lets start there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:41 AM
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Most women need to lower their standards and most men need to raise theirs. We’d all be a lot happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:31 AM
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I mean, I guess? Those things are definitely important to attractive women and guys who objectively lack them or are only slightly above average in that respect will definitely struggle and have some internalized confidence/insecurity issues. Unless they date down. Then they get to feel like alphas. But if you shoot higher, getting so obsessed with it that it prevents you from bettering yourself, letting it consume you, will screw you over so that you’re worse off than you were. Is that sort of …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 02:55 PM
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Ya’ll have an unhealthy obsession with this concept, fr.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 02:47 PM
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I’ve experienced this too and its insane. The way they treat you like a god is addictive. I wish I got the same attention from 7’s and 8’s but they act like I dont exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 02:38 PM
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People who really believe this should just stay out of LTRs, problem solved. Also in what country is 5’9 below average?? At 5’9 I see other guys shorter than me and taller than me in nearly equal measure
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 02:33 PM
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Blanket statements are rarely supported by evidence. Its just bias at play
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 01:34 PM
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The line between a red piller and a black piller is thinner than a god damn razor and you cant change my mind on that. AFBB is an inherently black pilled philosophy due to its fatalist view. Women have literally never made me wait for sex. But I’m just a regular dude. So either the philosophy is inherently untrue, or whether or not a man counts as an “alpha” is subjective and dependent on the women’s taste and preference. Woman A might consider me to be sexy, confident, and masculine, while woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 01:21 PM
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Very interesting and good question, curious to see responses because I definitely see it from both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 12:51 PM
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Edited: But seriously, you dont think men cheat out of boredom? Women do it more because its easier, not because they get bored faster. The irony is people at a higher risk of being cheated on are the people who are only interested in LTR’s. Thats why pillers stay casual. Cant cheat on a fuck buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 03:51 PM
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Trying to get women to “admit” that they’re only truly physically attracted to “alphas” like tall strong hyper masculine looking and acting men. To what end is beyond me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:02 AM
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Asking myself the same. Some of these guys need to, you know, touch grass
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 04:47 AM
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Most people who post here are…well they seem pretty crazy and not in a good way
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:54 PM
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Sounds like projection tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:07 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:11 AM
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I’ve had women literally tell me they’ve had bigger and yet mine was still very enjoyable, and honestly I believe them. I just think the way we gaslight people with physical insecurities is kind of fucked up. Its probably the best strategy overall, sometimes too much honesty is bad. But the inequality of it is just fucked up and doesn’t sit right with me. Life aint fair, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:58 AM
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You know short ugly guys can also be abusive right? Correlation does not imply causation .
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 06:46 AM
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Yea I guess thats true. I dont have a small dick or a reason to worry but to see guy who claims to be over 8 inches say that women don’t care as much as we think…well its a bit rich if you will. I’ll certainly never disappoint anyone with my equipment but I wont impress them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 06:34 AM
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I resent guys like you for spoiling women’s expectation. Now even an average sized or slightly above average penis is knocked down to small by women with even moderately high n-counts. Its not that women don’t care about it. They’re just embarrassed to admit it because they’re afraid the guy is going to freak. And honestly who could blame them? Theres literally nothing worse than being told you’re physically inadequate or inferior, and most women are intimately aware of this feeling, thus they l…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 06:29 AM
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Women seem to really enjoy sex with me across many relationships on multiple times so…at a certain point I have to suspect I’m actually good at sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:44 PM
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I cant run fast now so whatever haha. I don’t think I’d ever do it quite honestly, even if I had the money. Just a good ol rhinoplasty
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:38 PM
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Well ideally I’d get the surgery that makes you taller too and thanks 100k right there lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:33 PM
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Probably some deluded nonsense about how abusive men have more sex because women are more attracted to shit heels. Its a sad, reductive, and frankly unremarkable view of the world
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:08 PM
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Hard limit on looks unless you have millions for all the plastic surgeries. Personality, sky is the limit
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:06 PM
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Half the guys on PPD need therapy, not exactly a lightbulb moment there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:31 PM
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5 inch lifts and big pimp hats? Are you high? To use myself as an example I’m 5’9 and I wear air force 1s and chukkas which get me a little closer to 5’10 or at least enough to make me slightly more visually impressive. I have a naturally large upper body and really broad shoulders so I wear slim fitting henleys to accentuate that. I’ve considered more tattoos and piercings but idk
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:43 AM
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Its bc guys (like me) are convinced that if we don’t immediately cast a women under some dark magic spell of irresistible, overwhelming masculine attraction that she’s going with us just because we’re nice and A)isn’t truly sexually satisfied and B)will eventually cheat or leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:47 PM
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Well I’m nearly 5’10 so thats good I guess. DHT wont grow shit on your body if you’re older than like 16 lol. They give it to micropenis children. The fact is all men are within normal ranges but women hate normal. They want the biggest strongest alpha there is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:08 PM
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Thats pathetic. Its one thing to be sad and alone but its another to have no fucking pride.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:59 AM
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Humans are weird Read this is you still dont believe me: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-is-2020/201401/short-men-why-women-arent-attracted-enough-date-them?amp Basically this if I didnt make point clear enough. Its basically the clasic “nerd vs jock” argument. Unfortunately women never really leave high school, sexually speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:12 AM
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What the hell is PEDs lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:09 AM
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Good point its also relative from person to person. Whats tall? Whats strong? Whats a deep authoritative voice? Its not set in stone
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:00 AM
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Excellent point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:11 AM
1

This is very true!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:24 AM
1

Ok Some people say when you stop dreaming you start dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:21 AM
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I’m 32 now I still have an incredibly high sex drive. I just lack the options to use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:05 AM
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No problemas also RMV equals romantic market value in case you see that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:00 AM
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I know I’m sorry! SMV = sexual market value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 06:56 AM
1

I hear you but how does working out make your face looks better. Besides losing body fat I mean
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:59 PM
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Find your looksmatch its literally that simple. Average or slightly above average men AND women are not nearly as hypergamous or sexually adventurous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:10 AM
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Looksmaxxing is good and important but most of it is relative to the user and honestly some of it doesnt work. For instance mewing does not work, jaw training does not work, etc. A looksmaxxing journey would be different for everyone. Obviously the rest of it is super important like working out. For me I have some specific things I’m going to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:33 AM
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Right. And what I’m saying is, gaining weight in your face probably is going to make you looks worse, not better. So people should be careful gaining too much
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:59 AM
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Changes how though. Like more jaw definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:51 AM
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Nobody ever needs to gain weight in their face. Unless they’re anorexic. Its hides the natural bone structure
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:44 AM
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Not your face
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:35 AM
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Unpopular opinion but for men at least improvements to appearance are marginal unless you’re extremely overweight. We are judged on a lot of things, mostly what we cannot change. Unless you’re rich and willing to risk everything on some crazy surgeries. I’d learn to settle instead of bending over backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 11:14 PM
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Its survival of the fittest, with orgasms. Not complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 10:30 PM
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I guess youre right as I have come here for advice but usually on the daily chat or in peoples DMs. I said my piece. Good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 07:28 PM
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This isnt an advice sub dude, its a debate sub. And you’re losing lol. And no, generalizing generally makes for bad dating advice unless the advicee specifically asks for it. Personal taste and opinion matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 07:21 PM
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Well I’ve been dating for 15 years 3 long term relationships and several short term. All women are different. You’re addicted to generalizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 07:17 PM
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Its an irrelevant questions. Anyone walking around who went to public school, and has been employed or has some semblance of a social life can see that attractive people have attractive personalities. But I’ve met less attractive people (mostly men but also women) whose personalities are so boring, off, or awkward that its physically painful to try to talk to them. Whereas all the friendly, suave, interesting men who seem to magnetically attract friends and girlfriends have been at least avg loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 07:13 PM
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I’ll dm you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 06:46 PM
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Idc how long or how many people you dated. Your “advice” is barely advice its a reductive statement at best. If you really think attractive people have stunted social skills you must live under a rock.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 06:45 PM
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What do you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 06:34 PM
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Which is such a reductive statement as to be worthless. Niceness is the lack of rudeness or unpleasantness in a personality. Rudeness or offensiveness is unattractive, to both men and women. Ask any women to choose between an 8 or 9 thats a belligerent asshole and a 6 or 7 that can hold a conversation who’s fun to be around, and I can almost guarantee she’ll choose the latter. All things being equal she’ll probably choose the 8/9 but those are a lot harder to find so yea. Also more attractive me…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 06:33 PM
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This opinion isnt very purple pill. You’re stigmatizing nice and making it a code word for a weak, submissive, boring, low value man who lacks any sex appeal, but because he’s not a total baboon women still give him a chance. Basically saying “if she can’t find a hot guy, she’ll choose a loser and a simp. Niceness is not an inherently sexual/attractive quality especially if you’re lacking other areas. If you lack objective attractiveness, the last thing you should try to be is nice. Be decent, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 05:27 PM
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Yea good point. This method has literally gotten me nowhere. I think I’ll just be cool and friendly instead of choosing between “nice or not nice”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:07 PM
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Thats good advice. I think I just suck at it. Instead of being playful/funny I’m being mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:58 PM
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I’m like 6/7 depending on who you ask
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:52 PM
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Everyone says “dont be too nice to women or they wont respect you” but every time I try to playfully tease I come across as a “rude asshole” in those words exactly. Is it really that I shouldve been nicer or just that they’re not into me and flirting wasnt received? I’ve seen guys ruthlessly tease women (mostly in high school but even during college age and beyond) and they seem to like it. Am I going overboard with the teasing? I don’t want to seem like a submissive guy or a simp who can only g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:48 PM
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Dude, work is a cold approach because while some level of flirting is generally accepted at work, dating your coworkers is not. So the logic of your post is flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:26 PM
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Question regarding this topic: where the heck are you “supposed” to approach someone? I disagree doing it at work or on your colleagues is a good idea. Obviously theres the whole dont shit where you eat rule (which most people dont follow anyway) but beyond that, breaks the rule of no easy exit/captive audience. I occasionally flirt with nurses at my hospital but they work on a different floor. Most of them are very easy to talk to but it also never goes anywhere. So, where the heck are you supp…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:41 PM
1

This is assuming that being white means shit in dating. White guys can still have huge physical flaws that make them unattractive or undateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:45 AM
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Some men but not all. People consistently tell me I’m slightly above average in looks but all my partners jVe been average to below average. I think thats because above average women still want the top tier of men bc they aren’t expected to settle while men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:16 AM
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Of course. Consent and communication is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:55 AM
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Oh man 😂 Women who volunteer to take one for the team in regards to male pleasure just really have my heart. Of course I’ll gladly reciprocate:)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 12:06 AM
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Yea probably. My new goal is to go to the gym and get strong enough so that I can toss them around in the sack when we want to change positions
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:59 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:47 PM
0

I’m not into any of that but a lot of my girlfriends have been. To quote a particularly cringey but relatable text message revealed during the Depp/Heard trial: “I have other uses for your throat that do not involve injury” Can you guess what my male fetish is? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:43 PM
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Part of it is not needing explicit verbal instruction. Know exactly how long foreplay should take, know exactly when she’s ready by how wet she is and the sounds shes making, and then go for it aggressively. She’ll love that you didn’t need to be told exactly what to do and she’ll get to feel overwhelmed by your passion like you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:38 PM
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What the hell even is point 2? Are there really men out there having sex as if their lady is made of glass? If she doesn’t want you to fuck her until she cant walk straight, something is definitely wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:33 PM
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I’m going to guess by this comment and others you’ve made (and your flair) that you dont actually think people can improve themselves to become more desirable partners. You just want guys to keep receiving vague/general rejections and then go off and waste time puttering at the gym when their real problem is that they should lower their standards of who they ask out
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:41 PM
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Thats a really good point. Like an excellent point actually. To an insecure man, a “nice rejection”means that you’re objectively unattractive. Like if a woman told me she’s into a totally different aesthetic I wouldn’t mind. Or everything OP said. A vague rejection without a real specific reason tells an insecure brain “its because you’re too ugly/not sexually desirable”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 06:47 PM
1

You wont like the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:43 PM
1

This is what Ive been thinking. Its gotten to the point where I assume that flirting is almost never flirting. Its the ones who seem to almost be doing the opposite that might be interested. I spent months thinking my crush was sending me signals until I realized she’s just a gregarious person. Talking to flirty/friendly women has raised my confidence and improved my social skills, but it hasn’t gotten me anywhere romantically. So just out of curiosity then, how have most of your relationships b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:43 PM
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But even pick-up requires some initial level of attraction. For instance I’m like a 6/10 physically and I dont usually catch an attractive woman’s eye. What’s more is that, my look and vibe is not at all supportive of a toxic bad boy personality, it actually hurts my chances because of that. I’ve gotten by ok with my personality and baseline looks, I’ve been in relationships and married. but a lot of women pass me over for a totally different acting and looking guy. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:20 PM
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This isnt RP advice yet again but I’m almost 32 and I’m still just enjoying my life. I have a good job and I’m still making new friends and meeting women in their 20’s. People might joke around and call you old but by and large, no one will actually think you’re out of place. Just because youre 30 doesnt mean you need to pull up your pants to your belly-button, eat dinner at 4:30 and cease socializing. Your age isn’t your problem. Everyone gets a little bummed about a wasted youth occasionally, …
/r/TheRedPill15/12/22 01:26 PM
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While it isn’t particularly controversial to say that a woman is probably at her highest level of sexual attractiveness from the ages of 20-30, when people talk about hitting the wall in absolute terms like this, it borders on something adjacent to chronophilia. Women can remain attractive well into their 50’s and maybe beyond, unless they abused alcohol and hard drugs and smoked until they were like, 30ish. Menopause kinda wrecks things but hey, theres ways around that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/22 09:23 AM
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Nothing works. You cant control her. Find someone who likes you and stop bending over backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:44 AM
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I love improving. its a better hobby than drug abuse, binge eating, self-harm, vaping, and watching porn (I do all those things)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:46 AM
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It is all those things, but apparently it works for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:05 AM
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If a guy is “average” in bed all he has to do is improve. As far as self-improvement goes, its actually really easy. And more fun. Just be passionate, and pay attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 09:55 AM
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Its gotta be rage bait, all the snarky/self-satisfied replies kind of prove that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:58 AM
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Ah shit sorry then. I agree if anything its a human trait not a male or female trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:33 AM
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Well, it wasn’t the only reason, but it was a factor. You’re the one who seems to think women are more likely to monkey branch (I really cant say) so if thats what you believe, I’d think you’d be apt to agree with OP and I.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:27 AM
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I disagree. Men should be the better looking partners. I was the better looking partner in all of my LTRs and they literally worshiped me and never gave me a reason to worry. Unfortunately I was the one who got bored and decided to move on, but by and large I think more men would be happy with this kind of relationship if they considered. So I agree with OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:22 AM
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Yea the rage bait is always hilarious
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/22 10:47 PM
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Well thats just it. Its literally a bunch of people who think that anecdotal evidence is objective reality. Or they cite some study that supports they’re worldview. Its selection bias, and generalizing like you said.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/22 05:26 PM
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Reddit claims to hate incels yet their lingo has permeated the dating conversation and the “pill” concept has multiple, active communities dedicated to it. See the red pill, the black pill, the purple pill, the pink pill. Even on the regular dating subs and some the beauty/fashion/self-improvement will you see terms used like looksmax and looksmatch. The desperation and fatalism isn’t as pronounced, or absent, but the concepts are there. My apologies if “pill” communities have nothing to do with…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/22 05:01 PM
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Black pill is so obsessed with fatalism and social/genetic inequality it might as well be communist. RP is pure capitalism and very libertarian. You dont deserve anything you didnt work for. If bad things happen, you probably deserve that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:27 AM
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Yea I mean my voice isn’t particularly nasal or androgynous. Certainly no ones ever called me “ma’m” on the phone. I just wish it was deeper. My dad has a deeper voice than I do, I guess I got screwed out of that genetic lottery lol. Vocal exercises help your resonance and prosody, but they cannot lower the pitch. Everyones voice has a fundamental frequency that is determined by the size and shape of the larynx and vocal chords. Believe me, I’m a singer and a nursing student. I know a lot about …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:00 AM
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Thats actually not how it works at all. Its a genetic trait, just like height, eye color, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:41 AM
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Damn, another reason to hate myself and lose self esteem. My voice isnt as bad as the guy in the video, but it is similar. The only thing that deepens my voice is smoking, but thats unhealthy and unattractive. Looks like this 6 just went down to a 4 or 5 in most women’s book’s. I’m really starting to get frustrated. I’m tired of being devalued over shit that isn’t my fault and that I have no control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:37 AM
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Honestly, you’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 11:40 PM
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Feeling pretty “ - “ seen in these comments
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:59 PM
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Just curious how old you are, how tall you are and also how you avoid catching feelings .
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:15 PM
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Ew, lol. I’ve come to the realization that I truly havent put myself out there enough. I’m spending too much time reading shit and wondering if I’m going to end up as lonely as some of these people claim to be, instead of working on myself. I got out of an LTR a couple months ago. I should just grab my buddies, hit the bar and just see what happens. I’m actually pretty charming and funny in person, I just lack confidence to really approach women that I find attractive. Especially because I shy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:46 PM
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I’m a mobile only normie. Whats the sidebar got to do with anything? I dont even really know what all this stuff is. It seems like everyones referencing something. Is there a book or something? I get that its red pill vs blue pill. What is purple pill? Is there a book? Why isnt there just a sub called r/ThePurplePill? (Ok there is but its dead)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:37 PM
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I dont really work out, occasionally people tell me I look like I do. But yea, I probably should. I’m sure the ladies can tell I’m secretly skinnyfat lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:15 PM
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Hey quick question what are you guys reading to learn all this stuff. Interested in RP mostly so I can pull.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/22 02:33 PM
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Cool, thanks for the advice friend! Sensible and …prescient.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:51 PM
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Hypergamous marriage, historically, gave women a social and financial advantage because marriage was the only way to do that. Not sure why people think its biological or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 11:19 AM
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That women cheat to “have fun” or because their partner only provides emotional fulfillment, not physical/sexual. My brother in christ, MEN cheat for that exact reason! Women cheat if they feel vulnerable/unsafe/ignored in their current relationship. Source: I talk to men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 11:12 AM
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He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man. -Samuel Johnson
/r/TheRedPill11/12/22 10:25 AM
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Whats your success with women got to do with anything? You obviously have raw sex appeal for these women to be doing this stuff with you. Are you just bragging? Also whats your secret? Asking for a friend .
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:03 AM
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I have a “type” of women that I’m extremely attracted to however, rarely (read, never) in those persons eyes am I seen as sexual, desirable, or high value enough. I’m the funny friend at best and the annoying weirdo who needs to take a hint at worst. I cant figure out if I need to work on my game, somehow cultivate a more attractive appearance, or both. I have no problem being charming, confident, flirty, and getting numbers and dates. I’m also pretty good in bed. But 99% of it comes from women …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 09:41 AM
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True, but idk. I’ve looked into all kinds of crazy stuff. I even had this idea that, maybe my testosterone was low, and that supplementing test. would activate beast mode and make my face more chiseled, my beard thicker, and my voice deeper. (Apparently if you’re cis it doesnt do any of that lol) Obviously that isn’t a magic solution either, but it would certainly give me a more interesting/intense presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 09:09 AM
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Do women still like muscles? I thought they liked 6ft naturally slim guys. A lot of women have told me that too much muscle is ugly or screams “I’m over compensating for things” I do have wavy hair, wavy doesnt equal good. My hair looks bad at any length or style. I also need to look professional for my job, so getting too “wild” looking is off the table . Plus I’m 32, my wild days are mostly behind me. I should just accept that I’m a pretty average looking guy that will end up with a similarly …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 08:51 AM
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Thats true, the people who are very successful in dating aren’t on Reddit talking about it. The fucked up part is, in my heart of hearts I know why I’m striking out, but I’m not ready to change. I’m very hard-headed and stubborn. I want something and I’m not willing to compromise, at least not yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 08:24 AM
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Beats the fuck out of me man. They always assume your unwashed and dressed in dirty rags. I cant significantly change my face, the color of my eyes, grow taller, or change the texture of my hair or beard, but all these things lower my sex appeal. My only option is to aim a bit lower in terms of looks, but I have some pretty firm reservations and objections against doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 08:04 AM
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I find people irl to be too cloying and placating with this topic. They speak in platitudes. I understand, you dont want to risk hurting someones feelings and wrecking their confidence, but my confidence is already a wreck. Also online interactions are no less valuable than in person ones. I wish more people on Reddit were down to just hear me out and talk. I feel pretty lost and confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:55 AM
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If PPD isnt an advice thread, where do I go to get my based dating advice? As in genuine, useable advice, not the junk you find on r/dating_advice
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:34 AM
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Fr he can fuck off with the race and intelligence bullshit, but otherwise he knows what he’s talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:18 AM
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I’m sorry friend. I’m trying to basically biohack right now to improve my face and body. People tell me I’m good looking but that I have zero sex appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:10 AM
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I dont really agree that its a better deal or that women enable it. It just is. You have no overarching point or conclusion here, you’re just stating a few loosely related things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:05 AM
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That as a man if you dont look a certain way or meet the threshold that the majority of women want, you’re absolutely going to have to settle on someone and possibly have less satisfaction from your relationship as a result. Its not fair to either party involved but, life ain’t fair I guess. Theres no such thing as equity in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:59 AM
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If you feel you need to “qualify” in someones eyes, than wasting time being a fuckboy is the last thing you should be doing. It actually hurts your overall physical/mental development. I’m sorry but your argument is nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:45 AM
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I feel like all these points are unrelated. What the hell does point 1 have to do with point 3, which is also ostensibly the overall statement you’re trying to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:42 AM
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Being attractive means your partners will, probably, be attractive as well. Trying to date people who are more attractive than you is usually not a good idea. But, some people are gluttons for punishment, like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 01:50 PM
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I see it more as a means to an end. Once I meet “the one” I’ll settle down and my n-count will cease to change. Some people only have a “higher” n-count because they date a lot of people who turned out not to be right for them. Personally I don’t find casual sex desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:42 AM
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Sure, but is niceness important enough to be discussed on its own? Can we even agree what niceness really means? No, because it’s completely personal and relative to the observer. It might contribute to relationship longevity, but thats about it. Its not a sexually appealing trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 10:02 AM
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You must be using nice as code for a few other values. The dating world is chock full of niceness.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:56 AM
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Absolutely. I dont even agree that only women in their early 30’s looking to “settle down” value niceness. Its an ageist argument at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:54 PM
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Yes, you seek out nice, but you also said “in addition to” because you’re a sane person who understands that nice, by itself, literally means nothing. So this argument that nice is somehow a bad thing is patently wrong. Its not a bad thing, its just doesn’t carry a lot of weight by itself. Its can also be easily overdone just like confidence, and then comes across as neediness rather than an indicator of general goodness. Tbh though if someone actively avoids niceness as OP claims, they’re proba…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:58 PM
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Exactly theres nothing desirable about being nice. Anyone can be nice. What makes someone desirable is being an interesting person. Its pretty subjective though. Nice either shows people that you have bare minimum social skills, or that you’re good at hiding the crazy. So yea, nice doesn’t count for much romantically. Hell, if you can learn how to brood in a non creepy way, it’ll take way farther than “nice.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:09 PM
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Some men do have this problem, its basically a feature of narcissism. I used to feel this way, but I did that thing called growing up and maturing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 06:50 AM
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So true
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 06:48 AM
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Oh yea I’m a total pothead and youre right it makes me seem rather out of it, great tip.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:01 PM
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https://imgur.com/a/nef8B9w I looked good when my hair was more like this I think? My approach is probably down to not getting out enough. A couple times I went out to bars alone which is a no no, sends out a bad vibe’s . Gotta have your buddys around you to show your socially viable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:35 PM
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Well thats a relief, at least its not up to something I cant change.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:14 PM
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Thank you so much. I’ll work on my look. My hair and beard is rather wirey and crazy so its hard to get a nice look. Unfortunately I try to look conservative for my job so thats the reason for the haircut and clean shave.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:12 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:08 PM
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Much appreciated!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:07 PM
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I think you’re spot on. Not really too sure how to maximize sex appeal and sometimes I act obnoxious or annoying by accident. The last girl I was talking to was really tall and pretty and suffice it to say, friend-zoned six ways from Sunday.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:05 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 05:52 PM
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That leaves either game or looks so uhh, which one do you suppose?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 05:51 PM
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Oh yeah now we’re talking, this is the straight forward advice I came here for. I guess the reason I went for that “preppy” high and tight clean shaven look is because I’m trying to look professional for work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 05:43 PM
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Yea my body loves tighter fitting things for sure. I think its so funny how you keep saying such and such looks terrible, but I still look great. I needed that boost. I struggle deciding what to do with the facial hair and haircut. How do you feel about pic #2?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 05:11 PM
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I have a certain texture to my hair so that it refuses to look good any length. I have tried everything buzz cuts, crew cuts, undercuts, everything except growing it out down to my shoulders. Do you have any suggestions?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:59 PM
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I really agree, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:51 PM
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Hey I’m flattered and very appreciative! Upvote failed So are you saying clean shaven is better than having facial hair for me? I’m a tad confused. I agree the last verification pic didnt look good, I was stoned out of my mind, hair was a mess, but I generally do not let the facial hair grow longer than that, or else I shape it and style. This is actually part of my problem. I cannot find a cohesive haircut/facial hair combo thus I appear to drastically change my looks every few weeks lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:39 PM
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You’re probably right but I dont get how tall men are inherently attractive. Maybe its a women thing that I cant perceive. I do try to stay slim and wear clothes that elongate my appearance. If I had to pick my own height it would be 5’11.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:21 PM
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5’9
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:17 PM
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Hey everyone I’m new here and I’m just asking everyone to check my r/Rateme post to try to help me understand why I strike out so much. Women call me handsome or cute but never have they ever called me hot. I have an athletic/slim body but does my face give women the ick or something?? Guys also seem into me unfortunately I am not bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:50 PM
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Bigger girls check me out all the time so idk what it means
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:45 PM
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