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| 69 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life? | Question For Men | avoriure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 01:27 PM |
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| 3 | So sex is seeming more and more transactional these days. Who’s to blame?when i told my friends i slept with my bf for the first time, they asked me what he did for me that day. i told them that i didn’t feel like he needed to give me anything since i wanted to sleep with him. his body, for mine. they all went on a rant about how he didn’t deserve to sleep with me and how i was dumb for seeing sex as something we both received. it was a lovely night for me with that being said, i still don’t particularly like when he picks me up, immediate initiates sex when we’re al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/22 04:02 PM |
| 2 | Do you think men or women are more open minded?because the main thing that women have over men when it comes to options is who they have relationships and sex with. dating in general. that’s pretty much the main advantage women will always have that gives them more room to be picky about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Do women need to have a hoe phaseit doesn’t matter how easy it is, my point is that it’s encouraged for both genders for the same reason | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever tried to approach a guy you had interest in? How did it turn out?i’ve always been successful but i won’t do it unless the guy is making my knees weak | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 03:28 PM |
| 23 | Do women need to have a hoe phasedo men need to sleep around before settling down? i don’t think so, but some people do. it’s not just women. a lot of young people are encouraged to sleep around and “explore” so they don’t regret not doing so later in life. personally, i don’t agree that men or women HAVE to experience a hoe phase. for some people, it works though i guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 03:20 PM |
| 1 | What do you advise a young men (18-21) to do?successful men have failed at points in their lives but they could overcome those failures. they’ll know what worked and what didn’t and for what didn’t, they can tell you what they did to turn it around. being successful is not easy! my point is, it’s way better to take advice from financially secure men, great fathers, teachers, mentally and emotionally stable men vs men who failed and just stayed there. (for example, bitter men in this sub who act like you literally HAVE to risk your life for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Dating is EXTREMELY easy for men.you described sarcastically what you think men have to do in order to have an easy time dating? or did i understand the post wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:44 PM |
| 23 | What do you advise a young men (18-21) to do?do what YOU want to do: don’t let other people sway you into doing things you don’t want to do. prioritize yourself and your family. have a plan. don’t put women on a pedestal. only take advice from mature, stable and successful men. when it comes to dating, please just go outside and try to interact with world. i promise there are real girls out there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Do women truly prefer men with high body counts or who have been with alot of women?absolutely not | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/22 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Dating is EXTREMELY easy for men.lol most of the men i know irl are in and out of relationships and are not like what you described | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:09 PM |
| 1 | If women are fed up with dating men, isn't it on the men to change?LOL tbh they make me horny too for some reason but i can resist. maybe it’s in our blood | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 10:29 PM |
| 20 | If women are fed up with dating men, isn't it on the men to change?true but those are the kind of men that turn women on. people make bad decisions when they’re horny 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/22 11:12 PM |
| 2 | The Rise of The Single Lonely Maleif he’s THAT hot, i’d keep him around purely for hooking up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/22 11:09 PM |
| 1 | The Rise of The Single Lonely Malea little longer lol there are other hot people in the world. there’s no point in dealing with a shitty hot guy when you can find another | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/22 06:30 PM |
| 3 | The Rise of The Single Lonely Maleif an extremely attractive guy is a terrible person, it’s true that he’ll still have a long line of women wanting to sleep with him and date him. if he ends up in a relationship with one of those women while still being a terrible person, EVENTUALLY, she’ll get fed up and leave. being hot doesn’t get you a pass to being horrible and being able to keep people around. yeah, she will deal with it for much longer than she would with someone less attractive, but she won’t stay. i once dated an extrem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/22 03:49 PM |
| 3 | The Rise of The Single Lonely Maleattractiveness gives the guy more allowances for toxic behavior/bad personality but it doesn’t last forever | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/22 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Women: Are you more attracted to a status-driven man or a purpose-driven man?yup and it’s why some women will sleep with a “chad” fast and not as fast with someone they want a relationship with. they’re just quick fun. they’re really tempting sexually but i can never stand them personality wise. i don’t get why girls still try to make guys like that commit when so many of them are just horrible. they might be hot but not hot enough to make me want to put up with them 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Women: Are you more attracted to a status-driven man or a purpose-driven man?status driven guy seems like one of those immature/insecure guys who look hot but i stay away from. maybe theyre fun for a hookup but not for a relationship purpose driven guy seems more secure and confident which i like. i also think we would have a lot more in common since i have some of the same qualities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 12:48 PM |
| 9 | Q4W How do you feel about the ok cupid study?well average is still better than below average which a lot of guys seem to be on OLD. a lot of them would look better if they had skincare routines, took care of their hair, worked out, dressed better, accessorized, etc. the majority of people don’t look good just because they got out of bed and put on clothes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Q4WOMEN: What are the clues a man can use to tell if a woman only wants to string him along and not sex/commitment?well the messages weren’t always gross. a lot of them just tried small talk so it was easy to pretend they weren’t just interested in sex lol. it was more like “wow, there are so many guys messaging me right now. i must be really pretty.” 😅 it was only enjoyable cause my self esteem was absolutely terrible. when i see women being attention seeky and leading guys on, i can tell they’re usually just super insecure even if they don’t admit it. as far as the horny messages though, i’m used to them. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 07:59 PM |
| 28 | Q4W How do you feel about the ok cupid study?honestly, i found most guys on tinder and bumble unattractive and only swiped on about 3 out of maybe 100 guys. i also checked out the friendship section on bumble just to see what the girls who used bumble looked like. most of them were pretty to me. i think women do a better job at looking attractive and put more effort into their appearance. if i were a guy, i think i’d swipe on 50 out of 100 of the ladies i saw. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Q4WOMEN: What are the clues a man can use to tell if a woman only wants to string him along and not sex/commitment?ofc!:) and sorry that happened. sometimes we just like to cling to the small possibility that things might turn around or that the other person is just crazy busy or something. 😅 i’ve done it too. you seem like a really nice person. i hope that doesn’t happen next time :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 12:11 PM |
| 3 | Q4WOMEN: What are the clues a man can use to tell if a woman only wants to string him along and not sex/commitment?i’m definitely not proud of it and i felt terrible when a friend pointed it out to me. i never knew why i did it, just would get the urge to swipe on tinder or message guys or post on instagram. whenever i wake up feeling bad about myself i still think about doing those things because it’s how i’m used to coping but now i know why i do it so i don’t give in. i don’t want to hurt people but yeah :,) i think the clearest sign is not replying/always being busy with excuses and not initiating conver… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Q4WOMEN: What are the clues a man can use to tell if a woman only wants to string him along and not sex/commitment?it’s no longer as important to me anymore because i’m in a relationship but back then, i chased after it because i was trying to convince myself i was attractive/valuable on bad days. if i was feeling bad about myself i knew guys who were a text away who would validate me. i could go on tinder and get thousands of swipes as validation with no intention of talking to them. i could answer dms on instagram and never reply because i just wanted to see how desperately they wanted me. ofc it was more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Q4WOMEN: What are the clues a man can use to tell if a woman only wants to string him along and not sex/commitment?replies slow, doesn’t initiate conversation, too busy to hang out most of the time (lying), talks about exes, sends pics or dresses nicely to get compliments from you, (also to keep you interested) flirts every now and then but acts very friendly most of the time. i know because i’ve done it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 05:20 PM |
| 2 | What do you think of women who post sexy pictures on social media while in a relationship?hmm… a lot of insecure women post sexy pictures on instagram to convince themselves that they’re attractive. it’s not that they’re looking for male attention, they’re also looking to impress other women/make them jealous. both will allow her to feel temporarily more confident. it’s the attention in general that gives her validation. if she’s used to posting sexy pictures for that reason, she’ll want to even in a relationship. it doesn’t mean she’s interacting with the men either. sometimes the m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 06:36 PM |
| 8 | How do "sexually available" women feel about men?a lot of men are bitter against women too, they just aren’t as open about it because they want to be with women more than women want to be with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 12:55 PM |
| 15 | How do "sexually available" women feel about men?these are accurate, wow. i think women in their “hoe phase” still fall into the other categories though. i’ve witnessed a lot of my friends’ hoe phases and they usually use the term as a front. sometimes they just do it because they don’t wanna miss out on the “fun” they hear it is. but sometimes they say they’re in their hoe phase because they want an excuse to dedicate their time to chad chasing and self harm with a fun excuse. their opinions of men vary | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 10:17 AM |
| 5 | How do "sexually available" women feel about men?i have friends with high n counts and when we talk about men, we generally share the same opinions. some are gross, some are okay, some are good. i don’t think women with high n counts particularly like men more, they just like having sex with them. and they’re still only willing to have sex with a small group of them. ime, most women are either indifferent to men, or feel negatively about them for whatever reason. i’ve never met a woman who loved men and unless we’re looking for a relationship … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 10:03 AM |
| 3 | Unattractive Womenthey’re both terrible. sharing one of the most intimate experiences you can have with someone just for them to leave you after has a huge negative effect on women’s mental health especially if they were hoping for more. it destroys your self-worth, especially since men will fuck almost anyone. it shows that he saw nothing valuable in you at all, aside from the same thing he sees in most other women. there’s also a high chance that if he’s just using her, he wont even care about making her orgasm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 09:52 AM |
| 0 | Unattractive Womenhow?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 02:04 AM |
| 1 | are women not as attractive ?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/22 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Do men or women choose?21f. my boyfriend pursued me at a time when i was being pursued by multiple other men. honestly, i didn’t pay much attention to him in the beginning but eventually decided to go on a date with him. i went on that date with the intention of seeing if he was worth my time. he was lol i enjoyed him a lot. i stopped talking to other guys after the date. i chose when i lost my virginity to him. i was definitely the gatekeeper to sex because i denied a lot (A LOT) of guys who asked before him or durin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/22 12:06 PM |
| 2 | Are dating apps at least worth trying, or are they really THAT bad?yeah, as a woman i hated it because it felt like a waste of time. to be fair though, i wasn’t looking for a relationship or sex but i was open to getting to know new people and open to something starting from there. tinder was terrible. i swiped a little mindlessly in the beginning because i didn’t care much about looks if i just wanted to talk to people. i ended my first day with like 700 matches and an overwhelming amount of messages. most of them were “wanna come over and chill?” or something… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/22 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Women, does status and/or wealth have an effect on how attracted you are to a man? How big is that effect?social status and wealth is extremely attractive to me, but that’s not enough for me to want the man sexually or romantically. it would have me interested though i wouldn’t be able to pursue anything with him just for that. money and “status” is a big bonus, but tbh not worth committing to someone i don’t really like for. with that being said, i was initially interested in my current boyfriend because he has a good job and is well off, but i was also attracted to his body and mind. i don’t pay m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/22 07:15 PM |
| 2 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?yeah, as a woman i can understand why that happens somewhat. women are attracted to masculine men and the idea that their lovers are strong and unbreakable. it makes them feel safe and secure, and like they have this powerful force they can hide behind whenever things get worrisome. when a guy shows he isn’t 100% made of steel, i think there’s some disappointment involved. she starts to question whether or not he’s actually emotionally capable of supporting and protecting her in certain situatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/22 01:35 PM |
| 1 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?is there a reason why your teeth are that way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/22 01:06 AM |
| 2 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?wow 😅 whats wrong with your eye color and hair type? that sounds really attractive to me. i looooove black curly hair on guys but your opinion of yourself is most important. i hope you can make peace with it bahaha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?i would only mind if it were a hookup. (although i don’t do them) but i wouldn’t be rude or anything. i just might be slightly disappointed. i’ve heard some small guys are amazing in other ways during sex to compensate so i’d stick around. if it’s a ltr, i would have to be falling in love with the guy already. his size wouldn’t matter and i’d be willing to work around it. i would also try my best to make him feel confident about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 05:11 PM |
| 10 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?that’s true! i remember talking to a guy that expressed his hate for body hair of any kind. told me he was literally disgusted by it and would not want to touch me if i had pubic hair. well we were alone once and he asked to go down on me and i told him i didn’t shave. he suddenly said “well i don’t mind hair” ??? i didn’t do it but yea, i would’ve felt awful doing anything with him knowing he wouldn’t find me attractive if he weren’t super horny. it’s hard to know whether a guy enjoys your body… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 03:20 PM |
| 3 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?hmm. i’ve still got a lot to learn about my bf but i do know he’s pretty sensitive. i think it’s endearing and i would really like to see more of him that way. it doesn’t make him any less masculine to me. if anything, i’ve been MORE attracted to him since he’s shown me a little of that vulnerability. i can’t say how i’ll feel months from now but right now, the thought of him sharing his insecurities and his emotions is so attractive to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 03:14 PM |
| 6 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?it’s great that you’re confident now. feeling unattractive sucks and it sucks that so many people feel that way i was aware of the stigma there is against men who show vulnerability and insecurity but didn’t know how much it affected men’s mental health until this sub. i really appreciate your comment. :,) i know i can’t do anything to make it easier for all men struggling with that but i’m currently trying to let my boyfriend know he can be open with me and that it won’t change anything. it rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 02:37 PM |
| 3 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?bahaha i love this reply! i wish i had the same mindset. i agree with everything you said but i guess it’s gonna take time for me to fully digest it. :,) you’re awesome!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 02:09 PM |
| 10 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?what’s dirtybulking? 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 01:56 PM |
| 5 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?ahh i see. i wish women worked the same way. no matter how many guys show interest in me or how many compliments i get, i still feel super inadequate and stressed by the smallest details :,) i’m getting better though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 01:54 PM |
| 2 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?i hope those things will make you happy! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 01:50 PM |
| 4 | I keep seeing we have enormously high standards but like what exactly are they? And why does the dating world not reflect said absurdly Hugh standards most women have?no, we just know what it’s like to be preyed on by older men when we were teens so it’s gross. i’m not jealous of 18 year olds. i feel for them and i hate that men like you chase them as soon as they’re legal. i hated it when i was 18 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/22 11:56 PM |
| 4 | I keep seeing we have enormously high standards but like what exactly are they? And why does the dating world not reflect said absurdly Hugh standards most women have?i’m glad she got out of there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Are all females naturally sapiosexual?intelligence is a sexy trait to me. i love men who are smart. i dont mean just good at math but just overall, clear and deep thinkers. always has me wondering what’s on his mind. pair that with maturity and i’m definitely attracted to him assuming he’s not hard to look at | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/22 01:00 AM |
| 0 | Is it really a man's job to approach women first?i don’t think it’s a man’s job but i’ve never approached or paid on dates. i’ve never been the first one interested except for one time, and when i was getting ready to ask him, he asked me the next day. i just think men ask more often because they’re usually the ones more interested. though, now i generally expect the guy to do it since that’s what i’m used to. same with asking about exclusivity. i tend to wait i’ve never paid even when planning the date. all the men i’ve ever dated never let m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/22 06:43 PM |
| 0 | Is it really that common for men to have bad hygiene that many girls here have to mention it as a disqualifier?when I was a teenager, i wasted my time around a lot of chads and they all tend to have really good hygiene. i’ve run into a couple of guys with bad hygiene though. most recently around January i went on a date with this guy and as soon as he opened his mouth, i was slapped in the face. it ruined the entire date. my current boyfriend has always been VERY hygienic. he always smells nice, his apartment is spotless, and he takes care of himself. i think i haven’t run into a lot of guys with bad hyg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/22 01:28 AM |
| 2 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?i also understand that but this just shows how different we are in thinking. sure, i can see why a guy might think a woman shouldn’t feel upset about getting pumped and dumped because to men, getting sex in general is something to be proud about. women can get sex easily, so it means a lot less. women see commitment the same way men see sex, or similarly. it makes us feel wanted and special when a man sees us as more than someone to sleep with. also, sex is a lot more tricky to enjoy as women th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?they don’t have to be mentally healthier, true. they might just be even more mentally UNhealthy, but there are still some women who really step back and realize they’re never gonna get what they want by chad chasing. i was fortunate enough to be youngest sister of 3 so my older sisters made sure i got out of my dumb, insecure, and impulsive phase before doing anything stupid. i try to do the same with my friends since we’re all in our early twenties. young women seem to be hyper fixated on the s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?true! i can accept men feeling that way, but i never knew they did until i joined this sub. a lot of women just wouldn’t be able to understand that. knowing the difference between how men and women see it, i just think men should be a little less angry about it. we just simply don’t see it as a reward. women sleep with chad because he might benefit her in status or validation. it’s just transactional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?most women are candy bars to men, which a lot of women don’t see as a good thing. it doesn’t make us feel special. most men are salads to women, which makes a lot of men not feel special. that’s just life. neither side believes they’re on the better side | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?well most women don’t find the majority of men physically exciting. especially not without getting to know him first. the act of hooking up with a hot guy is exciting in the same way a man might be excited to have a chance to hookup with his favorite porn star. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 11:17 AM |
| 2 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?there are women who can attach their emotions from sex and use hookups only to scratch the itch of wanting physical touch. sure, i do believe that women who engage in casual sex tend to be unhealthy mentally but all of them are not. it doesn’t have to cause any damage. if you’re just going for sex, looks matter a lot because you want to enjoy it. it makes more sense to go after chad. if you want a relationship, looks matter LESS which is why the man she settles with might not be as good looking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?it’s only boring if your #1 priority when dating is getting sex which is gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?well if a guy truly cares about her and genuinely wants something serious, he’s going to be more willing to wait for sex. if he leaves, it will hurt but not as much as it would if she slept with him and he left after. if he leaves after sex, she feels used. if he leaves without sex, she never had that vulnerable moment with him and will feel like she dodged a bullet. she’s gonna assume he just wanted sex anyway and never cared | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 10:45 AM |
| 2 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?they’re not hurt by hookups because it’s sex with no emotional ties. therefore, it doesn’t hurt when the guy she hooked up with leaves her. The only time being left after sex hurts is when you’re left by someone you cared about and saw a future with. men only see it as “made to pay” because they put a lot of their value into women wanting sex with them. women are not thinking about it that way. they’re just waiting to be vulnerable with someone they care about, and making sure he’s not pumping a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?i understand why men try to protect themselves from women like that, but all women aren’t that way. sometimes it’s more complex. that’s all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 05:57 AM |
| 2 | Opt for options or Settle for scarcity?A because if we love each other, i’m not gonna be thinking about being replaced. i could replace him too. i would just enjoy the experience of loving someone who loves me too and who also is really attractive 😎 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?commitment/exclusivity, loyalty, investment, genuinely showing you want to be around that person. there are ways a woman can show a man she actually wants him other than just opening her legs for him. i don’t need my boyfriend to have sex with me for me to know how interested he is in me. anyone can have sex with you but not many people are willing to give you more than that unless they genuinely want you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 11:19 PM |
| 5 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?not always. i’ve had sex with one guy (my current boyfriend) because i didn’t wanna do it until i trusted someone and felt a connection(also wanted to make sure i was mentally healthy) . if me and him were to break up, i would make the next guy wait for the same reason and i’m not a virgin anymore. do you think the next guy would be dumb for waiting with my reasoning? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 04:29 PM |
| 7 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?well in this case, i think she just shouldn’t be considering a relationship if she still feels like she’s not ready after 9 months. i was only giving a reason as to why women make relationship worthy men wait and not men she only wants sex- they’re trying to protect themselves. i don’t think it’s malicious, i think its closer to being inconsiderate because you’re too focused on your own issues and not considering how the man is feeling. if she has sexual trauma or genuine fear of being pumped an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 04:25 PM |
| 6 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?the good guy’s reward is also a mentally healthier woman. he just loses when it comes to casual sex with impulsive and insecure young women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?theres no way to know for sure. i think it’s more likely that she’s “trying” to change though since it takes a lot of hard work to really change that around | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 04:09 PM |
| 4 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?women and men just have completely different experiences when it comes to sex. if a man didn’t push for sex and only wanted to spend time with me, i would appreciate that. a guy would not because sex means more to him. women also typically have lower sex drives so not having sex with someone isn’t as frustrating as it is for a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 03:39 PM |
| 4 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?a lot of promiscuous women are that way because they have insecurity issues. once she realizes she’s only hurting herself, she won’t want to stay “a hoe” that’s why women have their hoe phase when they’re young, realize it’s not worth it, and start making men wait for sex. some women REALLY do want to change. nobody has to accept them but i don’t think they’re trying to be malicious when they start making men wait. they’re just trying to protect themselves because they know it’s easy for some me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 03:28 PM |
| 5 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?in those cases, those women are “rewarding” him because they want something in return and think he’s capable of giving it. they’re willing to risk more because they see the benefit in having a man everyone else wants. it rarely ends the way they want it to though. some women are so desperate to feel special and validated that they’re willing to give everything including their bodies to a guy for it. a walking red flag of a guy who is hot who chooses her over all the other women is a way that giv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 03:17 PM |
| 13 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?all of my past friends who hopped from hot guy to hot guy sexually even though they were red flags were all insecure. women are willing to jump into bed with a hot guy hoping they’re special enough to somehow change him into only wanting her and suddenly desiring a relationship. it’s the reason why those same women end up being depressed later down the line. that sex is more for validation and a lot of women grow out of it. chad chasers are less common as women get older because they realize it’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 02:59 PM |
| 6 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?it’s not exactly “rewarding” them. it just seems that way to men because they see it as the ultimate showing of interest and attraction. if you had tons of women constantly wanting sex with you, you wouldn’t feel like it was a huge reward when someone wants to sleep with you. as a woman, i’m not flattered or particularly happy when a guy is eager for sex. therefore i don’t really think sex is particularly rewarding? sex just seems like it means more to men than it does to a lot of women because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 02:35 PM |
| 20 | Women have said they make "relationship material" men wait for sex because they care about them and they didn't care about the other guys or see a future with the other guys. What's the logic?since she’s someone who has had sex casually in the past, she’s witnessed how easy it is for some men to just get up and disappear after having sex with her. in those situations, she might not feel hurt or rejected because she expected it. if she ends up having sex early with someone she genuinely likes, there’s a chance he might leave like her past flings. the thought of this is scary and she wants to avoid it by securing an emotional and romantic connection so the outcome of him leaving and hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Women have made it very clear they don't want sex but "relationships". But what does a "relationship" entail exactly and what part of a relationship can't you get from other aspects of your life?almost all of posts here by men are about how to pick up women for sex, why women always go for chads for sex, why they make men wait for sex, what else do they have to offer other than sex, yada yada yada. sorry if what i said was unnecessary but it’s so uninteresting now. they’re constantly pointing the finger at women and just overall, it’s very clear why they can’t get sex. and with the way they think, i’m glad they don’t. i left the sub but i check back every now and then to see the same bi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 04:41 AM |
| 4 | Women have made it very clear they don't want sex but "relationships". But what does a "relationship" entail exactly and what part of a relationship can't you get from other aspects of your life?i’m not comparing men and women’s sex drives. a lot of the men on this sub seem to not understand it and even try to say it’s nonexistent. women who want relationships also want sex, but from the person they’re in a relationship with. women who like casual sex are a minority. why would a normal woman have sex with someone she doesn’t like unless she was forced? by like i mean attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Women have made it very clear they don't want sex but "relationships". But what does a "relationship" entail exactly and what part of a relationship can't you get from other aspects of your life?not reddit men in a whole, just a lot of the men on this sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Women have made it very clear they don't want sex but "relationships". But what does a "relationship" entail exactly and what part of a relationship can't you get from other aspects of your life?sorry for offending you ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 01:52 AM |
| 12 | Women have made it very clear they don't want sex but "relationships". But what does a "relationship" entail exactly and what part of a relationship can't you get from other aspects of your life?women want sex, but not as urgently and as desperately as men. and they want sex with someone they love or at least like. gosh, i’m so glad the men on this sub rarely interact with the real world. you guys keep proving that no one should have sex with you. it’s a good thing! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: what kind of tattoos do you like on men?😟 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: what kind of tattoos do you like on men?tattoos that i can only see when he takes his shirt off 🫣😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:16 PM |
| 7 | When discussing dating, men are only thinking of a small subset of women, which is why they think that women have it easier in datingwhat are you talking about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 11:53 AM |
| 16 | Alpha F*cks/Beta Bucks Situationswell attractive people overall get more allowances over unattractive people. i think with the example of a woman sleeping with “chad” faster is pretty obvious why. the nicer and more promising something looks, the more you’ll have the urge to go for it. it’s more impulsive. it’s not necessarily right but some humans are just like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 02:56 PM |
| 3 | What men usually say when they approach you?probably have heard all of those things. mainly on the street, most guys either ask for my name, if i have a bf, or comment something gross about my body. old men tend to be more gross. tbh, mainly young men ask if i’m taken or if i have plans anytime soon. it’s more rare that someone starts with something sexual but it does happen. depends on where i am. if i’m around a bunch of guys, they’ll think it’s cool to comment on my body. have had a few guys whistle at me when driving by which is gross… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?i’m the youngest at 21, the oldest is 39. almost all of them have indirectly asked me out on a date if we were alone or through texts. (we all have each other numbers for switching shift purposes) one of them actually told me he KNEW i had a crush on him. i really never did anything to hint that i did. it made me wonder whether the others thought the same thing just because i made sure they were hydrated and okay for working. i’m just friendly to everyone and i don’t want anyone to get hurt or o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 05:40 PM |
| 8 | What other socially acceptable ways to pickup women?try to be more social and get into hobbies YOU like without the intention of picking up women. try to meet more people in general. actually go outside and do things with different kinds of people. you’ll also learn how to interact better socially which will help you with dating. tbh, i can see why it might be hard to ask women out in public because with any guy that randomly came up to me whether i was in a restaurant or just outside, i hated it. the guy i’m currently seeing asked me out at an a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Why are some people content with sexlessness?we’re not incapable of recognizing the problems men have, it’s just hard to have sympathy for those problems when they’re related to how horny men are. a lot of us have had traumatic experiences BECAUSE of it especially when we were too young to even understand it. i can listen to men complain about their other struggles but it’s hard for a lot of us to care about your horny struggle when it has effected us so negatively. we’re not pretending to be victims, WE ARE victims especially to sexual in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 02:26 PM |
| 6 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?i do think men are not good at social cues and are not as socially aware as women are. i work as the only woman at my job which requires a lot of physical work and lifting which i can’t do. i’m mainly serving as customer service and supporting them if they need it. i basically just make sure they’re getting enough water and not getting cuts from lumber etc. it’s around 8 guys and while they’re doing the heavy work, i do everything else. first of all, i’ve had so many conversations with them abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 11:48 AM |
| 0 | Why are some people content with sexlessness?well said. made me sad though :,) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 08:00 AM |
| 6 | Why are some people content with sexlessness?i’m a woman who has a pretty high sex drive (i guess?) i masturbate a lot and it’s enough for me. i can do it multiple times a day and stay satisfied 😅 doing it with a guy sounds funner but i’m not unhappy with just my hand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 10:49 PM |
| 1 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.i understand why you might feel that way, but that’s not exactly what i’m saying. some people can get things you might want easier than you can in life with no work at all. life isn’t fair in that way. you can either accept that and do what you can, or you can stay miserable wishing things were different. there’s always something you can do that’ll make things a bit easier. life isn’t so black and white most times!! look at what you already have and if you can improve it, do it. if you can’t, yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 07:02 PM |
| 7 | What is your opinion if a guy doesn't initiate sex even though he enjoys being with you giving you kisses and cuddles but isn't thirsty for the sex?it would be refreshing lol and i don’t have a problem with initiating. i’m usually more bold when it comes to started something sexual anyway and i like it 😎 most guys don’t expect me to be that way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 06:17 PM |
| 1 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.men have been complaining for a long time and it hadn’t changed anything. maybe with all your effort you might be able to make a woman realize she’s being hypocritical, but it’s unlikely she’s going to care and will suddenly change. if you think it’s better to complain and stay in that negative victim mindset over accepting you can’t change other people then so be it. i just don’t think that’s gonna give you any peace of mind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 05:25 PM |
| 1 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.an unattractive man with an unattractive personality will have less of a chance at dating than an unattractive man with an attractive personality. will either of them have an easy time dating? no. but one has a better chance. at least a woman will TRY with an unattractive guy if he’s pleasant in other areas. there are women who are demisexual and that emotional attraction will help. you can complain, but that does a lot less for you than actually trying to improve what you can. complaining will … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 04:57 PM |
| 5 | The reason men get butthurt about women making them waitfair enough, i’ve seen it too. but personally, i’ve been on dates with many really attractive men and never slept with them. i’m not comfortable with having sex with men who are still strangers to me, but that’s just me. i know a lot of women will sleep with a chad on day 1 just for a chance at a relationship. that woman is the kind of woman who will leave you for a chance at someone better. still, there’s no way you can know for sure. i’ve had a few guys lose interest in me because i didn’t sle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 04:42 PM |
| 1 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.it might not be the advice you want to hear but it literally is the only advice you can get. unless you know how to change what women find physically attractive in men then what else could you possibly do to give you a better chance at dating? changing your outlook, accepting the reality of things, and improving areas that are still important. just because women won’t immediately want to jump into bed with you doesn’t mean you can’t improve other areas which will at least have a woman pay more a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 04:28 PM |
| 2 | The reason men get butthurt about women making them waitcould be either but there are a lot of reasons why women are waiting to have sex with you. a lot of men automatically think she’s being deceitful somehow when it could be many harmless things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 03:44 PM |
| 0 | A question for young women, Do you find Kratos from God of War 4 attractive?i would probably like the idea of sleeping with him if i were horny because he’s big but yea…. the only thing attractive about him is that he’s big. EDIT: overall rating 4/10 but if we remove his head then maybe like 7/10 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 03:28 PM |
| 0 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.there are a lot of setbacks people may have when it comes to being attractive and height is unfortunately a pretty big one for a guy. it sucks but the only thing you can do is fix what you can and just accept your height. don’t let it make you a bitter person because that’ll be another huge setback that you don’t need. no one likes to be around an insecure, self-deprecating, and bitter person. also dont allow yourself to start hating women for it either. it happens a lot and those guys are very … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 03:18 PM |
| -2 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.initial attraction IS what draws you in, but it doesn’t have to be physical. with the shorter guys that i found attractive, it was usually the first impression i got from how they acted or our conversations. since i liked their personalities, i was able to overlook their height more. i’m just saying if you don’t have physical attractiveness, your personality will give you more allowances for what a woman doesn’t particularly like about how you look. i found other things i liked about the guys ot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 03:07 PM |
| 0 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.honestly, it’s extremely rare for me to be attracted to a guy on the short side. i don’t think they deserve to be looked at as less-than though, and i can’t help what i like. with that being said, in the rare cases of men who were short that i found attractive, they had very attractive personalities and good looking faces. also had fit bodies. now if you’re short AND not attractive, the gym will barely help tbh unless you’re really fat. i think the most you can do is work on your personality, le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Is withholding sex as a man a mistake?sex seems to cloud people’s judgements in the beginning so you’re definitely right. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Is withholding sex as a man a mistake?i don’t personally like the idea of having sex with someone i don’t know, and in the first few dates, the guy is still a stranger. i don’t believe in withholding but i do believe in waiting until you’re ready. sometimes it takes a woman longer to be ready. i usually start thinking about it after a month since i wouldn’t even be in contact with someone i didn’t really like for that long. i don’t get why it’s even such a big topic. why count the dates and days down instead of it just happening whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 12:08 PM |
| 1 | If women shouldnt feel proud about talking money from simps and losers, then men shouldnt feel proud about fucking Pick Me Girls and female losers !tbh 😆 i’m slightly offended when they say anything at all most times. i’m just saying if a woman is scared to go outside without makeup, it’s prob not because of not receiving as much male attention because she can get it no matter how she looks (maybe it’s not gonna be from men she WANTS) idk if women dress up to go out and think about how much male attention they can get that time… or maybe i just don’t 🫣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/22 11:16 PM |
| 1 | If women shouldnt feel proud about talking money from simps and losers, then men shouldnt feel proud about fucking Pick Me Girls and female losers !i literally have went to the store with my grandfather’s tshirt, baggy sweatpants, matted hair, dry-faced and just terrible looking and have gotten hit on by a group of guys. as long as you look vaguely feminine, you can easily get attention from men. ESPECIALLY if you’re the only woman in the sidewalk at that time. men have awfully low standards with who they’ll give attention to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/22 11:05 PM |
| 3 | In your opinion, what is the difference between a One Night Stand, Friends With Benefits (or F-Buddy), and a Relationship?i honestly don’t understand having sex on the 1st date or even 3rd date, that person is still a stranger to you. i dated a guy who was honestly one of the most good-looking people i’ve ever seen like EVER. he pushed for sex on the first date and i still denied him even though my body was telling me to jump on him lol i just can’t give my body to a man i literally don’t know. idk why the time someone makes you wait for sex is so important to men. maybe i just think with my head and not with my la… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/22 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?it’s the benefit to the connection you already have. men and women rarely have a platonic connection like that. not impossible, just rare. men and women who connect on a deeper level are probably gonna both start crushing on each other. rare that they’ll just think “wow, we’re going to be buddies.” especially not on the man’s side lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?those can be benefits but should not be necessary in a friend. especially not money or physical tasks. friendships starts with connection and having similar interests/values. not “i can get money, validation, and physical tasks from this person.” because if you’re thinking about that early on then yikes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?i understand and i agree with you but i’m just saying it goes both ways. women wouldn’t deal with men either if the man wasn’t giving them money or validating them physically. women and men just rarely connect well on a level that’s more than just from what they can gain. and the woman with all those male friends, is only friends with them because she’s gaining validation/resources. she’s still using them, so that’s not real friendship. so your point that men are better friends is not true to me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?they use it to their advantage? see, i’m not saying it’s impossible but there’s usually some using involved. i don’t count that as friendship but that’s probably just me. i also value real friendships without the extra added “what can i gain from this person” stuff. also that staring thing was an exaggeration but has happened before lol. talking to a coworker about something serious and they’re just staring at my boobs. i don’t talk to guys about serious things often tho cause they probably wont… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?yup yup!!! so saying men are better friends is the biggest reach ever. men love to complain about how terrible women are unless they’re getting sex from them. we can also complain about how terrible men are for not being able to give a woman a chance at a normal friendship without thinking of sleeping with her. wanting to use someone does not equal to being a good friend to them. 🙄 and women know how men are, so no normal woman is gonna look at a guy and say “maybe we can be besties 🫣” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 02:59 PM |
| 2 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?i don’t think any normal woman is gonna be okay with keeping a guy around she knows wants sex from her. and still, in what way is he gonna be a better friend to her than another woman especially if he’s not giving her anything unless it’s for possible sex.. in which case is not even friendship. i’m literally just talking about friendship and not the benefit of having the other sex around to use them for something. like imagine ranting to him about your problems and he’s just staring at your body… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?i knew there was a possibility, but at the time i never completely believed they just wanted a chance at sex until it happened repeatedly. it’s possible that a man can be that generous without wanting sex, and i was clinging to that possibility. i don’t go out of my way to use people. i know better now and i don’t accept things from men unless i’m at least somewhat interested in him romantically or sexually. my point was just that men and women are usually not good friends for each other and a m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?that’s not friendship though, and most men aren’t offering that unless they’re doing it to possibly get sex down the line. women will use men for their money, men will use women for their bodies. in neither cases is that a friendship, and tbh, the money and time from that “friend” is rarely ever worth the effort because they’ll act like you’re the devil for taking without giving them sex… EVENTUALLY. it has happened to me every single time even when i made it clear i didn’t want to sleep with th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?what are the benefits of having a male friend for a woman other than the validation he might give her for being attracted to her? there is nothing a woman can get from a man that’s better than what she can get from a female friend. emotional support? women will understand her better and offer better support. (with relationship problems and other struggles women have that men can’t understand) fun? not a lot men and women have the same hobbies and interests. what in the world is a woman getting f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?why can’t it just be that men and women don’t connect and relate to each other as easily as they can with the same sex? it doesn’t have to be because women are just dramatic and not worth the effort. men understand men, women understand women. there’s usually a disconnect with how each side thinks and goes about things. we’re just different and it doesn’t mean it’s the woman’s fault. i’ve been the only woman in male areas and i just can’t relate to them at all. when i had to be around them, i li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?i’m just asking where you’re getting your claim about women having male friends + exclusively male friends when i rarely see that anywhere. it sounded like you were speaking from your own experience since you didn’t have anything else to back it up, so i used mine. :/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 01:30 PM |
| 0 | Q4M What do you tell men who have been hurt by numerous women compared to what you tell women who have been hurt by numerous men?in my experience, i’ve never been able to keep a male friend cause they end up wanting a relationship or sex. this has happened so much that i don’t really want them as friends. men typically don’t know how to interact with women especially without the intention of anything romantic or sexual. i have a good amount of female friends and none of them have lasting male friendships unless the man is gay or bi. plus, the only girls i’ve known with exclusively male friends were very masculine or lesbi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 10:00 AM |
| 5 | Which is better when it comes to meeting someone you want to date?? In person or someone you met online in a dating appwell aside from looking different, some of the guys were less confident and less talkative from what i got from interacting online. like, having good conversations and getting along well online and then meeting them and they’re awkward which makes me feel awkward and then i’m no longer enjoying myself.. but with those guys, we never video chatted so i think that was my mistake 🫣😅it was rarely ever like what i expected tho unless the guy was clearly a chad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 03:41 PM |
| 7 | Which is better when it comes to meeting someone you want to date?? In person or someone you met online in a dating appin person because the guys i’ve met online were sometimes very different from what i expected. you’re less likely to waste your time if you meet organically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 03:02 PM |
| 0 | Is dating actually fun for you?as a woman, it feels kind of like a chore. sometimes i have good dates, a lot are just ok. plus rejecting people sucks and wasting my time sucks as well. i also get overwhelmed when there’s too many men interested in me in my life so i don’t like dating apps. i feel bad ignoring 90% of the guys i match with so i end up trying to talk to them all but it’s overwhelming. i’m seeing someone now and i hope it goes well lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 10:41 AM |
| 1 | I think there is a fundamental lack of understanding when it comes to women understanding how bad difficult dating is for most men.i think everyone fantasizes about a 10/10 partner with a 10/10 personality but it feels pretty unrealistic. i mainly want looks if i just want to be sexual with someone and i’d be picky. in a relationship, i’m still picky with looks but personality can make up for it. if your personality is attractive enough, i’ll become more sexually attracted over time. that attraction is more intense than just some guy i think is insanely hot with a boring personality. i don’t think it’s settling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 10:35 AM |
| 1 | I think there is a fundamental lack of understanding when it comes to women understanding how bad difficult dating is for most men.it is but it’s more difficult to find someone you’re instantly physically attracted to, has a good personality, and checks every other box. especially as a woman. there has been very few men that i’ve met who excited me physically with just his looks who also had nice personalities. i’ve had the best experiences with average / little above average guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Q4W. How hard do you think it is for men to date in modern dating between 1-10? Why?for a healthy, average looking man.. maybe 4/10. assuming he has a very positive outlook on relationships, takes care of himself, and can socialize with women. for a very good looking guy, 1/10 because many women will date him based on his looks alone. this doesn’t mean he’ll have quality relationships, but getting dates will be easy assuming he isn’t extremely off putting personality wise for an unattractive guy with good social skills 5/10 for an unattractive guy with bad social skills, 9/10. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Does it make you angry that men want to date?it’s usually more complex than just wanting to date if we’re calling it creepy. a lot of men think they’re justified in situations where they’re being weird even when they get a woman’s perspective. that’s the only reason why women get angry here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/22 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Being "fwb zoned" is much better than the commonly stated equivalent of being friend-zonedlol that’s not true. i was close to hooking up with someone who switched from wanting a relationship to wanting only sex but i couldn’t go through with it because i stopped feeling it when i thought about being fwb zoned. this guy was easily a 9/10 chad type and i was insanely turned on before i thought about it. i literally stopped feeling physical pleasure and wanted to leave… and this guy was not even close to a beta. i still get turned on thinking about him but i’ll never sleep with him. he … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/22 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Childfree women - do you split the bill on a date?i’ve been on a lot of dates and i’ve never been asked or expected to pay. i always offer but most of the guys always insist on paying. there was only one time where a guy went to pay for my movie ticket and i told him i had it, and he just said okay and let me pay for it. but other than that, all of the guys seemed very enthusiastic to pay for everything no matter how expensive the date was. i think it’s attractive, but if a guy doesn’t wanna pay for the entire date then it’s not necessarily a n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Being "fwb zoned" is much better than the commonly stated equivalent of being friend-zonedwomen can enjoy sex, but it’s not enjoyable when a guy you want a relationship with only sees you as someone to have sex with. it makes women feel used and like that’s all they’re good for. fwb zoned implies that the woman is only being offered sex when that’s not all she wants, which is why it hurts and is not fun. it has nothing to do with liking sex in general | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 02:51 AM |
| -1 | Do women feel they are getting any benefit from average Joe's desperation?that’s fine. i can understand why men might not trust their interactions with women and why women might not trust their interactions with men. both are valid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Do women feel they are getting any benefit from average Joe's desperation?you have a point 😅 i plan on leaving asap but they pay well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Do women feel they are getting any benefit from average Joe's desperation?well for example, lifting stuff and just support in general. (i have to lift stuff up at my job) a lot of the guys will drop whatever they’re doing to help me, or in school,i can get help with my work and tests easily cause they just offer it and i don’t really do anything. just the problem is i know when they like me and i should probably leave them alone but i’ve never thought of it as exactly wrong since i never tell them i like them or anything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Do women feel they are getting any benefit from average Joe's desperation?that’s understandable:-) i’m open to changing though but i only realized recently that i had a habit of going about life that way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 04:26 PM |
| -2 | Do women feel they are getting any benefit from average Joe's desperation?i do somewhat use it to my advantage at times. i’m never gonna have anyone buying me cars and stuff because i’d feel wrong. but, i will bat my eyelashes at guys that i go to school with/work with, because they’ll offer to help me whenever i need help. sometimes they ask me out after a significant amount of eyelash batting and i just say 🙈 no, and move on. idk if that’s evil or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Are men really as conversationally selfish as many women claim?depends. for guys who just wanted to sleep with me, they were pretty selfish. they didn’t really care about getting to know me and just focused on impressing me enough that i’d agree to sex after the date. with men who were interested in a relationship with me, they were all eager to talk about me and make time for me. with the guy im seeing right now, he seems to think im the most interesting person in the world. he knows way more about me than i know about him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 11:07 PM |
| 7 | How many of you have actually dated/hooked up with someone that you don't find attractive?lolll this made me laugh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 10:59 PM |
| 24 | How many of you have actually dated/hooked up with someone that you don't find attractive?tried a few months ago with this socially awkward and unattractive guy. i didn’t wanna feel shallow for wanting to say no immediately so i gave it go at dating. the first date was incredibly awkward and i was embarrassed the entire time. he kept trying to do things for me and messing everything up. he was also pretty hard to look at so i told him after that i didn’t know if i felt a connection. he called me a whore and said he hoped i die soon sooooo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 10:43 PM |
| 4 | I think there is a fundamental lack of understanding when it comes to women understanding how bad difficult dating is for most men.thank you. i’ll keep this all in mind :-) i think instead of just a dating issue, it’s an issue where people chase temporary pleasure and don’t recognize that excitement isn’t always positive. people are obsessed with quick dopamine hits and validation, and in between those hits, their unhappiness will grow which will lead to them to needing more frequent and stronger hits to counter it. for women, we need to love ourselves more. i can tell you that a woman who chases 8/9s, sleeps with chads, ig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/22 12:57 PM |
| 13 | I think there is a fundamental lack of understanding when it comes to women understanding how bad difficult dating is for most men.looks are very important to me if i were looking for sex. the men who can get sex with their looks alone are extremely rare. when it comes to a serious relationship, looks matter less, and personality can make up for a big part of it. especially to women who made the mistake of trying to get a chad to commit to them. they realize later on that looks don’t mean much. i’m 21, and i still struggle with considering men who aren’t 8/9s, but i recognize that it’s a problem and it’s not going to make m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 09:32 PM |
| 24 | I think there is a fundamental lack of understanding when it comes to women understanding how bad difficult dating is for most men.exactly. they don’t seem to get that we’re not going to sleep with a guy we’re not attracted to just because we might pity them. we know it’s hard, now what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 08:11 PM |
| 3 | The whole “she probably wasn’t that interested” narrative asserted anytime a man complains about getting ghosted after a promising connection is made is bogus, more often than not it is a result of women’s abundance of options and not them feigning interest and giving you a number to get rid of youi can agree with some of this but a lot of men don’t understand flirting vs being friendly. it’s surprisingly the amount who just don’t get it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 12:10 PM |
| 3 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?it’s orange because aside from a small minority, a lot of the men here seem somewhat passively hostile towards women. i would question whether or not he agreed with them since he’s here and probably debates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?i wont disagree with that because i’m not saying i don’t need men. i’m saying i’m not desperate for a relationship or sex while a lot of men are, and that might also be because they usually don’t have female friends either. if i wanted male comfort, i can get it. if i wanted sex, i could get it. since women have that privilege, we don’t need to be in a relationship in order to receive those benefits. especially when it comes to sex since a lot of men get more pleasure from them than from men. wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?women have a lot of options, just not quality options which is why we don’t necessarily see it as some amazing thing. the thing with me is that i don’t currently have an issue with being alone as i’ve never went out of my way to look for a boyfriend. i’m open to dating, but i know i’ll be fine without one. a lot of women will actually rather be alone than to stop being picky. there are women who are completely fine alone with sex toys if they need a sexual release. men on the other hand, would r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 04:25 PM |
| 5 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?yes. there are cases of women being that way as well and men feel like they have to settle for it while a woman won’t because she has other options. that’s just how things are. i’m not perfect and i do have issues. i’m aware that other people do as well. i have had a ton of negative experiences with men growing up starting from when i was a kid so i know that i might be more picky than the average woman without those traumatic experiences. this is considered baggage. i don’t trust easily because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 03:58 PM |
| 3 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?sometimes when running from even one small issue, a woman might be missing out on a relationship with a genuinely good person. i can understand why men might be annoyed by that and to some extent, they have every right to find it annoying especially if it’s hard to line up another date. in my experience though, small red flags early on turn into bigger ones in the future. i wouldn’t take my chances unless the guy had something worthy of staying for. if we connect well, he has a welcoming persona… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 03:42 PM |
| 4 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?that’s true, but men have to understand why women will run at the hint of a red flag. if you have many, many options of men to date, you’re not gonna wanna stick around for a guy who displays even a hint of a red flag when you can just find someone else. there has to be something else about you that’ll make it worth ignoring. in a lot of cases, looks are enough to give you more allowances. if they don’t even have that, then it’s probably a better idea to just leave that guy where he’s at. there … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 02:45 PM |
| 5 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?women can only work with what they’re presented with when dating. i’m not considering what he might’ve gone through growing up as a man if we’re on a date and he’s making me uncomfortable. there are men who feel that they are victims and have been mistreated by society, i know, but that doesn’t mean most women are going to want to deal with that. those are the kind of men who lash out when you reject them, who ruin the date by making uncomfortable comments, triple text when you’re busy, have no … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?i’ve dated A LOT because i’m willing to give anyone a chance at at least one date as long as they’re not disgustingly hard to look at. i don’t consider my standards too high but i’ve found that the majority of the men with little to no experience turned me off pretty quickly. they were awkward, offensive, or just strange. it was pretty clear to me why they couldn’t get sex or a relationship because even with one date, they all did or said something that seemed off. with the men whom i’ve dated w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 12:55 PM |
| 7 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?the men who complain about women here and their lack of sex, aren’t getting girlfriends and sex for a reason. the men that i know with healthy relationships are not so bitter and don’t think as negatively about women. i don’t want a guy who has struggled with dating because i’m gonna assume he’s being rejected for a reason which is why it would be an orange flag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 12:14 PM |
| 7 | Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker?it would be an orange flag because a good chunk of the men here just complain about how hard it is to get laid and how women are shallow blah blah blah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Do women have an equivalent self improvement coach like Jordan Peterson, Hamza, Kevin Samuels, etc.?sheneka adams | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/22 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Do bisexual men have a difficult time with women because of their orientation? Would you date a bisexual man? If not, why?i know it might be wrong but i can’t help but feel like it’ll make me think of my boyfriend as less masculine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/22 03:44 AM |
| 2 | If women want equal roles in marriage they should take on equal roles in dating:-D | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Women how does your sexual attraction work?if it’s someone extremely attractive, (height is really attractive to me), i get turned on almost instantly. i once stood next to one of my coworkers who stands at like 6’4 and we were standing super close to each other. i’m not particularly attracted to face usually but i just wanted to jump on him right there. he’s gotten like 10x more attractive to me to this day but it’s only sexual. it took a random day of me paying attention to how much taller he was than me to make me somewhat interested.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 03:53 PM |
| 2 | If women want equal roles in marriage they should take on equal roles in datingi don’t really want to be equal when it comes to marriage. as long as my future husband is making the majority of our income, i’d gladly take care of the children, housework, and i’ll make sure to stay pretty for him. when it comes to decision making, i mainly want to have input on things pertaining the children if i have any and decorating the house lol. (and probably really fun dates) i wouldnt mind being of emotional support to my husband either. i’m good at it. if he’s working hard, i’ll mak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 03:36 PM |
| 40 | Q4W: How easy is it to get free stuff for being a womanmost things are rarely just free especially from men in my experience. they present it as free but will expect something in return later on. that’s why i say no to “free” things from men. they’ll feel entitled to your body or time later down the line and just no. keep your gifts 🤨 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 12:49 AM |
| 8 | Are Fat Woman Aware Of What They Are Doing To Themselvesnone of these things are solutions because women have been raped while doing each of them. also, some of these things can’t be prevented. sometimes you HAVE to be out at night alone, , sometimes you can’t cover your entire body. i have a very curvy figure, i can wear big clothing but that’s not always comfortable. buying a gun and taking self defense classes is somewhat valid, but still doesn’t prevent women from getting raped all the time. and. strangers capable of raping a woman will not care … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 07:26 PM |
| -1 | The problem is that women do not have real sexualities, and as society becomes more liberated, this fact becomes more relevant.this is very untrue. it’s not as high on average, and is more complex than a man’s but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. i feel like some of the men agreeing just want an excuse as to why women don’t wanna have sex with them. it’s not her, it’s you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 11:07 AM |
| 6 | Do bisexual men have a difficult time with women because of their orientation? Would you date a bisexual man? If not, why?we would break up and i would move on, ywah | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/22 01:33 PM |
| 12 | Do bisexual men have a difficult time with women because of their orientation? Would you date a bisexual man? If not, why?i would not date a bisexual person and idk if that’s homophobic or not, but it would turn me off thinking of him with another guy or having him lust after men. just no | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Women want to date someone on their level or higher because they are turned off by sharing their Ressourcesyeah, this is true. women usually are most willing to share their resources with their children, not with their spouses. i personally wouldn’t date someone who makes less than me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Women, how do you like being approached/hit oni dont particularly like being cold approached but if it happens, just be polite and respectful. don’t make comments about my body. if i say no, don’t stick around to try to convince me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Women would not give so much importance to getting old if male attention was not a priority for themi care about validation but i don’t need it from men. i’m flattered more by women complimenting me than men complimenting me. maybe you can say i don’t know what it’s like not to be desired by men so i don’t know how it feels not to get it. i’ve never had to jump through hoops to attract or keep a guy. i’d want validation from a boyfriend but not just men in general unless i wanted to be with him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Being a man is better…i like your attitude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Being a man is better…i would jump through 100 hoops of fire to avoid being a man, EVER | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 07:04 PM |
| 0 | How often do you get hit on?it depends on where i am, how long i’m there, and how many men are around. if i walk by a group of men, at least one of them will ask for my number or name or say something gross. in every place i’ve worked since being a teenager, at least 2/3 guys would try with me. most of those men were pretty low value so i don’t take it as a compliment lol. but simply, too frequently than what i’m comfortable with i live in nyc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 05:56 PM |
| 16 | Dating is 100% a numbers game for men, and it is inherently humiliating.i agree with this. most of the women and men i know that are having sex with tons of people are all, deep down, very unhappy. i don’t know why people want to live that same life when it just doesn’t seem worth it. a lot men and women are basing their value on how much sex they’re having or not having. i don’t understand why it’s so important | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 05:30 PM |
| 7 | What are the life stories of the people in this subreddit?most of my family (that i live near) are all women and i also have only sisters. when i started dating, i treated men the same way i treated all the other women i interacted with in my life. i ran into a lot of problems that way. guys thinking i was leading them on, saying i offended them, not understanding signals etc. i’ve just had to learn that men and women think and handle things differently. with the guys i started talking to early on, it never went well because we just wouldn’t see eye to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 05:17 PM |
| 36 | What are the life stories of the people in this subreddit?i’m 21f and joined this subreddit cause i thought it was interesting to see how a lot of men think since i’ve never understood their logic on a lot of things. i still don’t lol but i personally don’t spend countless hours here. if i’m arguing, it’s probably cause someone said something ridiculous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 01:40 PM |
| 4 | What is a ''nice guy'? [Definitive Conversation]a nice guy is a closeted asshole who thinks, just because they’re not as openly jerkish, women owe them attention for being “nice” also the kind of guy who will call you a whore for rejecting him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Are men just not as attractive as women? Every time I see an “attractive man” I just see an average dude.honestly i’m gonna say yes? i tried to see what it was like scrolling through women on tinder and most of them were average/above average. it feels a lot different from swiping on men. swiping on men gets exhausting cause a lot of them are not attractive enough to swipe on. not to be a jerk, but for every 100 men i scrolled through, i only swiped on like 7. if i were a guy, i’d swipe on a lot more women because they’re just more pleasing to my eyes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 02:00 AM |
| -1 | Women don’t want men to even the playing field by actively cultivating back up options since it ruins their leveragei’m actually serious and i don’t care if you choose to believe it or not. i have no reason to be aggressive at all. i think everyone deserves to be fulfilled and happy, but i think going about it with that mindset will never get you there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Women don’t want men to even the playing field by actively cultivating back up options since it ruins their leveragei guess men who feel like they don’t have options don’t care about the quality of their relationships as long as it’s just SOMEBODY constantly there. that sounds like a miserable life. i just hope you find someone you like and trust enough not to have to be forming options on the side | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Women would not give so much importance to getting old if male attention was not a priority for themit feels good to be beautiful and it makes me feel proud when i put myself together. i compare myself to other women in order to upgrade myself. like, how they do their hair or how they dress. i love being complimented by women WAY more than i like being complimented by men. i honestly don’t feel much of anything when a guy compliments my looks. now, i DO know women who DO want to remain beautiful for male attention, so i guess this is true for some people. i know a 24 year old who made comments… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 04:31 PM |
| 4 | Women don’t want men to even the playing field by actively cultivating back up options since it ruins their leverageif i got into a relationship and it ended, i do have quite a few guys who i know are interested in me and who i could hop to. i personally wouldn’t call them back up options because i’m not dating them for a reason and i probably never will. but yeah i guess they can still count as back up in case i get desperate. a lot of women have it the same way so i guess i can see how it might be true? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 04:15 PM |
| 6 | Women don’t want men to even the playing field by actively cultivating back up options since it ruins their leverageif you NEED someone else in order to feel comfort, you need to work on yourself. you shouldn’t have to rely on another human so much that you’re willing to line up back up options just in case your current partner leaves. there’s way more to life than romantic love. i’m not saying it’s wrong to want to have sex or intimacy but when people relapse and go back to their exes when they know it’s a bad idea, usually really need to take a step back and not date anyone. you shouldn’t be so needy that y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 04:07 PM |
| 13 | Women would not give so much importance to getting old if male attention was not a priority for themi think women compare themselves to other women when they’re getting older, not fearing guys are not lusting after them. male attention isn’t validating tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 11:59 AM |
| 2 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.i’m attracted to height and mental toughness as well but i would prefer if the guy with those traits were young. a lot of older men pray on young girls so it just rubs me the wrong way when men go after me because i look young and might seem naive. it feels so predatory, and the grown men who have approached me (there’s been A LOT) usually are walking red flags and creeps. attraction wise, i think young men look much healthier and are more attractive. an older guy looks better when he has money … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 01:04 AM |
| 1 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.the men in their 20s that i know vs the men in their 30s that i know live very differently. they act differently and think differently, have different life experiences. it’s the same for women. the women that i know in their 30s are a lot more different than i am and i recognize how much i need to mature when i’m around them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:51 AM |
| 1 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.then that’s okay. i just don’t think it’s okay for men to shame women for it while praising other men for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:48 AM |
| 2 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.are men damaged for having many sexual partners too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:35 AM |
| 1 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.if he had sex with 100 women who weren’t prostitutes, yeah it’ll be a no from me too. if you believe that any person of any gender having a lot of sex is a turn off/red flag, you have every right to feel how you feel about women who sleep around. the problem is men will shame women for it while wishing they could do the same. i know a guy with that many sexual partners and i personally wouldn’t consider him for sex or a relationship- but im not gonna shame him. it’s just not something im okay wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:35 AM |
| 3 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.women are damaged for having sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:29 AM |
| 2 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.if men could get easy sex, they’d be having it way more often. just because they can’t, they like to act like women should be looked down upon for enjoying sex with a variety of people. there are A LOT of men who would be more promiscuous if they could, but they can’t, because a lot of men just don’t appeal to women enough to give them sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:28 AM |
| 1 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.because of their money. i’m not gonna argue with that because i’ll date a man if he has money lol but younger men are more energetic, fun, and look better. the only men who are extremely attractive in their 30s are men with money, and the fact that he has money is what makes him good enough to date. i’m talking to a guy right now who is a year older than me and has a great job and his own house. i’m choosing him over a man that’s been taken for a ride by life already | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:24 AM |
| 3 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.because they’re not attractive and no one wants to sleep with them maybe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:19 AM |
| 5 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.any statistical proof of that? last time i checked most women have 7-10 sexual partners in their whole lives. maybe YOU can’t get sex so you’re bitter about it. you’re making it seem like all women are promiscuous. most of my friends are in their 20s and they’re not sleeping with half the town. get off reddit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:19 AM |
| 5 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.she can be physically attracted to them because they ARE physically attractive, but a woman in her 30s looking for a relationship is not going for a 20 year old guy for that. a woman in her 30s wants someone on her level and men in their 20s usually are only just starting to get their lives in order. if a 30 year old woman wants to sleep around then she’s not gonna deny a young guy lol especially if he isn’t ugly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 12:15 AM |
| 5 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.yup, and i recognize that mature men are going for women their age so it’s alarming to me when they approach me. especially since a lot of guys assume i’m in high school. ugh.. i’ll use their money but that’s all i want from them. i don’t find them more physically attractive than men in their 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 11:42 PM |
| 7 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.if he wants to be used for his money then that’s ideal lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 11:15 PM |
| 10 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.a 30 year old woman is going for men her age because they’re in the same phase of life and can connect well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 10:53 PM |
| 11 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.men who are in their 30s going after younger women are kind of weird since there’s a maturity difference. i’ve been hit on and have gone on a few dates with older men and it’s hard to connect with them. we’re in two different phases of life. now, maybe i’ll like his money but if i’m going for a relationship then i’m gonna go for someone younger so we can experience life and grow together. men in their 30s are good for money and that’s about it. if he pays my bills, heart eyes for a while | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 10:31 PM |
| 26 | If you are 30 and marry a 30 year old man then there's an 99 percent chance that he is settling.good looking guys in their 20s look much healthier and better than good looking guys in their 30s. the only thing a guy has better in his 30s is PROBABLY a better job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe having an affair with a mother who has a husband and kids is wrong?not wrong if you didn’t know. it’s very inconsiderate if you do, since you’re knowingly doing something that will hurt a family just so you can have some quick pleasure. it’s selfish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Women say most men are “awful,” toxic or undateable, or that “the bar is so low” which is such a joke. Most men worship the ground women walk on, even attractive ones, and women are ridiculously selective.nah i’m good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 01:59 PM |
| 4 | Women say most men are “awful,” toxic or undateable, or that “the bar is so low” which is such a joke. Most men worship the ground women walk on, even attractive ones, and women are ridiculously selective.i kinda agree that men worship us because they base a lot of their personal value on their ability to get women. that’s why there’s so many depressed incels i like guys who won’t worship me though. i don’t need anyone else added to my simp army | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 02:54 AM |
| 1 | What do you think is average body count of a "top 20% man" is?have you ever cheated or thought about cheating? i’m asking because i’ve denied a lot of high n count guys thinking they’d be unfaithful eventually or won’t be happy with just me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 02:40 AM |
| 0 | What do you think is average body count of a "top 20% man" is?well i had this guy try to get sex from me for a couple weeks and he wasn’t really attractive. he partied a lot, drank a lot, and was pretty terrible as a person but somehow got his body count to 100+ (he was on every dating and hookup site you can think of) he’s 29. he was a really big guy and tried to have sex with me in his car the very first moment we were alone. i think he just intimidated a lot of women. when he started getting upset, i just asked him to let me out while calling my sister.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 12:30 AM |
| 3 | What do you think is average body count of a "top 20% man" is?have you ever had any stds? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 12:24 AM |
| 3 | Ex-RP'er here: Thought I found the perfect girl, shit got weird. Whose perspective makes more sense? Red or Blue?it’s VERY important that she knows you care about her boundaries. it sets you apart from all the other guys she’s denied in the past. you also don’t want her to end up having sex with you and regret it. it’ll make both of you feel bad and might be hard for her to recover from. she’ll resent you. also, when she says she’s focusing on finals she’s telling you she wants space. don’t make sexual comments and keep the flirting light. all of texts are going to translate like this. “i wanna bring you f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/22 01:36 PM |
| 3 | Ex-RP'er here: Thought I found the perfect girl, shit got weird. Whose perspective makes more sense? Red or Blue?i know you didn’t ask me but i definitely relate 100% to this woman. i’m 21 and have had dozens of guys try to get me to sleep with them since i was a teenager. if i like and am really attracted to the guy, i will have moments where i’ll express my want to be sexual with him. it usually gives them the idea that i want it to be sometime super soon and it makes them push. — which makes me pull away. she just got to a point where she was speaking her mind. i can be extremely tempted to have sex wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/22 10:29 AM |
| 8 | Ex-RP'er here: Thought I found the perfect girl, shit got weird. Whose perspective makes more sense? Red or Blue?most women who won’t wait more than a week have probably had way more sex than a virgin and are comfortable with it. the longer you keep your virginity, the more careful and selective you’re gonna be with who you lose it to. dating someone with almost no experience is not the same as dating someone with experience. it requires more understanding and patience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/22 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Men will do whatever is required in order to obtain sex, and perhaps not a great deal morelol bought you a car. did you at least give him a kiss on the cheek? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 09:15 PM |
| 2 | 4 Attractive Variables for Men - PLZ MAKE YOUR ANSWERS SUPER SIMPLE FOR OVERTHINKING PPD MENi would say late 20s because more women are looking for something serious and don’t have time for relationships that probably won’t last. i’m 21 and i’m not looking for anything super serious so i wouldn’t mind dating someone good looking while knowing it won’t last forever. also, a lot of young women go for looks before personality and end up hurt when it doesn’t go well, so they realize later on that dating for personality is way better if you’re looking for something serious. also younger wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 09:08 PM |
| 3 | 4 Attractive Variables for Men - PLZ MAKE YOUR ANSWERS SUPER SIMPLE FOR OVERTHINKING PPD MENwith most women i’ve known, yeah. but it’s probably different for older women. all of the good looking guys i’ve known got into relationships and got sex fast. keeping relationships requires more personality though. a lot of young women are eager to get into a relationship with a good looking guy… although i think they just like to show them off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 08:41 PM |
| 3 | 4 Attractive Variables for Men - PLZ MAKE YOUR ANSWERS SUPER SIMPLE FOR OVERTHINKING PPD MENif he wants sex, all an above average guy has to do is not be a terrible person or weird. if he wants a relationship, women will be willing to ignore a few more red flags in him vs someone not good looking and he can get into a relationship pretty easily. looks honestly is the most valuable thing a man can have if he wants anything to do with women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Why sugar mommas are pretty rare but sugar daddies are quite popular?lol that sounds bad but it’s true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 06:55 PM |
| 7 | Why sugar mommas are pretty rare but sugar daddies are quite popular?it’s very rare for a woman to be denied sex from a man unless he’s in a relationship already. and, most women have a good amount of men she can date who will take her out to dinner etc. FOR FREE. i don’t use dating apps and if i wanted to go on a date tonight, there’s a couple guys i could ask and guarantee one in a few hours. women will never need to pay for attention and time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 06:54 PM |
| 24 | Why sugar mommas are pretty rare but sugar daddies are quite popular?any woman unless she’s EXTREMELY ugly would be able to sleep with a good looking guy for free. even if she’s ugly, if she offers while hes not busy with anyone else, he’ll say yes. i have never met a woman who couldn’t find any guy to have sex with. also, a lot of women are content with sex toys and don’t need to pay a man to satisfy them since toys work and even better at times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 06:47 PM |
| 6 | 4 Attractive Variables for Men - PLZ MAKE YOUR ANSWERS SUPER SIMPLE FOR OVERTHINKING PPD MENpersonality.. looks > money > status. looks are important to me honestly and not too far from personality on the list. also hygiene is extremely important to me and guys who are good looking and confident tend to take care of it well. i really can’t deal with hygiene issues especially if there’s a problem with it on the first date. (i’ve had a guy lean in to kiss me once and i had to decline because of his breath) i’d prefer a guy that’s above average but average is fine as long as he takes care… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.most posts here are made by men and A LOT of them are about women’s “impossible” to achieve standards and how shallow we are. i’ve seen many posts about men complaining about having no luck on dating sites and how they’ll never be picked over chad. the most of what women do on this sub is defend themselves against posts that are shading us as a whole. shaming women for n-counts, shaming older women for aging, calling us delusional, hypocrites etc. there’s a lot of bitterness here especially from… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.probably. the guys usually are overly confident and think they can have anyone they want. i’ve lied about having a boyfriend many times thinking they’d stop trying. i even told an older guy maybe 40s that i had a boyfriend and he started telling me about how many nice cars he had and how he could take me out and show me things i’ve never seen before. eye roll | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.oh good lol i thought you were a man speaking his true feelings cause a lot of men actually do believe that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.i hope you’re dating a man then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.the majority of what i see on this sub are men being mad they can’t get sex with women so they’re bitter about it and want to blame everyone for it but themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.you’re delusional. men value sex above anything else. women value connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.so do you think men value relationships? lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 04:32 PM |
| 5 | Women are invariably drawn to men who are taken and become way more attracted to a guy upon discovering he is spoken for. Most men are completely turned off when they learn a woman has a boyfriend or is married, which shows women are far more shallow than men who base their attraction on looks.i’ve never witnessed a guy leaving a girl alone after finding out she’s taken. they either push a little more or get set on making her cheat or leaving the other guy. women do it too though. humans just like things they can’t have | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 04:29 PM |
| 0 | What is the minimum standard for a man’s body to be attractive?height is just attractive to me but it’s not a dealbreaker. i think it just makes women feel sort of safe and protected when they’re dating someone who towers over them a little? idk. it just gives off a masculine vibe that attracts me. also i remember going to the store with someone in my neighborhood who i knew had a crush on me. i was on my tippy toes trying to reach something and he went on his too. a taller guy had to help. he seemed very embarrassed and i wanted to get out of there so fast… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 09:17 AM |
| 12 | What is the minimum standard for a man’s body to be attractive?healthy. not too buff but fit and tall of course. that’s the kind of body i’m attracted to on a guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Most women withhold sex because they are afraid they don’t offer anything elsei wouldn’t say most. and the women that do withhold sex because they think it’s all they have to offer, were probably raised around men who only saw value in it. if men are only going after you for sex, you’re going to start believing it’s all you have. these women are insecure and need to learn that sex isn’t all they have to give. learn to be discerning, stable, and secure so you won’t feel that way. women who don’t have anything to offer are normally not stable. women are born with characteri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Ladies: have you ever approached a total stranger and gave them your number?if i see an extremely hot guy in public i’ll find some way to start a conversation then i’ll bat my eyelashes, tuck my hair behind my ear and anything else that gives off a flirty vibe. sometimes i’ll tug slightly at my clothes so he’ll look if we’re talking and he usually will pick up on the energy and ask me instead, hasnt failed yet lol B) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 06:15 PM |
| 1 | What do you do if you are an unattractive commitment phobic man who doesn't want to visit sex workers?there are plenty of desperate women in the world who will have sex with him. they’re probably going to be less attractive than he is though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Unplanned Parenthood?i probably wouldn’t tell anyone before i got it, but if i told him and THEN changed my mind.. then we’d just have to talk. my decision wouldn’t change to get it but i would at least try to explain my reasoning for doing it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 05:53 PM |
| 20 | What age do you think Men and Woman are at their most sexually attractive?started at around 11 for me too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 05:44 PM |
| 0 | paying for the first datemy intention is to go 50/50 on dates and if a guy offers to pay for it all, i’ll decline unless he insists. i won’t feel anything about going 50/50 but if he pays then it makes me feel good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 03:55 PM |
| 4 | paying for the first daterelationships can come after casual sex but it’s still not smart for a woman to engage in it she wants something serious. nobody wants a guy they like to see them as nothing more than sex. it’s not a good feeling. i’m not saying you have ro go on a bunch of formal dates if you’re looking for a relationship but at least spend time with each other a few times before having sex. i have friends who had sex with men they were interested in just for him to decide he only wants them for sex and nothing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 03:51 PM |
| 2 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.why might that be though? casual sex has been normalized for both genders and it just makes sense that you’re going to shoot for the best sexual partner when you can and that’s for both men and women— but only really attractive men have that ability. (although it’s not as easy for an attractive man to have casual sex as easily as it is for a woman) as long as she’s not sleeping with every guy in the neighborhood, why wouldn’t an average guy want something serious with her? it’s just smart to go … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 07:20 PM |
| 11 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.well that’s obvious because women usually have a lot of options of men willing to have sex with them. if you have a lot of options, you’re gonna go for the best. having sex with someone good looking maximizes the chances that she’s going to enjoy herself. hookups don’t always guarantee a woman’s pleasure during sex because we need more than PIV and if that’s all we’re getting, why settle for someone who is average when you can probably go for someone way more attractive. that at least is better … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 06:16 PM |
| 6 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.i’m more likely to have sex with an attractive guy (7-10 but the super attractive men i’ve met can never keep a relationship. i’ve talked to a couple extremely attractive men who told me about their dating history and they all had many very short relationships. the men i see with healthy long lasting relationships are all pretty average looking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 04:13 PM |
| 3 | What would happen if men and women exchange their situations in dating ?well if guys had the same access to sex, they’d be having it a lot which would probably spread a lot of stds and a lot of pregnancies would happen lol that’s if men are still more horny than women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 09:59 AM |
| 2 | Would you date or marry a single mother or father?i’m 21 and don’t want a child of my own right now because i want to freely enjoy my youth. so if i dated a guy with a kid, he would have to be perfect in every other aspect of life. it would also be a tough pill to swallow to know that you’ll always come second to his child and his ex will always be in the picture somewhere😅 ive rejected a few guys after they told me they have a child. i don’t want them to feel less than because they have children but just no. also if i ever do have children, i … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Very Long nails are a Red Flagsometimes the keys feel kind of slippery since we can’t put our fingers directly on them. we’re slower because we’re trying to be stable. also, i tend to be very careful when they’re newly designed so i don’t break them. after a while it gets easier lol i know girls who have mastered typing fast with nails but when i rush, i make a lotta typos… especially if the nail shape is pointy 🥲 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Very Long nails are a Red Flaglol my nails aren’t that long but i type like that right after i get them done 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Blowjob Barometeryep, i know girls who hate it. i did it for one guy i dated and i loved doing it. he never had to ask 😅 but yeah, he was like a solid 9 so i was extremely physically attracted to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 07:47 PM |
| 19 | Blowjob Barometeras a woman, it’s true. i get really excited when i think about doing it to someone i like and am extremely attracted to. there was this one guy i dated that i wanted to give one to every 5 minutes because i liked him so much the thought was a lot less appealing with guys i wasn’t as attracted to or didn’t like as much. i still would do it because i think it’s fun but probably not as often with someone less attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 11:41 AM |
| 1 | women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit.that makes sense. i’ve definitely learned to be more straightforward because very rarely do guys just take the hint that i’m no longer interested. in the past i’ve always tried to avoid “no.” with “not now.” and wondered why they usually stick around thinking i’d change my mind eventually. i definitely, definitely know to just say no and that i won’t change my mind now. it’s really exhausting having a bunch of guys interested in you in any way. leading people on just for a self esteem boost is d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 11:18 PM |
| 1 | women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit.you’re right. :( and after a while it gets tiring to keep up with as well because i felt bad just ghosting and i would literally hope and pray that the guys would eventually give up and leave me alone. i would try telling them things like “i like you, but i don’t want a relationship or sex right now” and they’d come up with so many things to counter my excuses that it was just exhausting. never again 🥲 male attention does not validate me at all anymore and i’m definitely more aware of other peop… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 06:03 PM |
| 3 | women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit.i was leading on like 7 guys at once last summer because i was bored and the validation was nice. i knew it was wrong but whenever i started feeling bad about myself, i would just text them all and they’d shower me with offers and compliments. not proud tho but i had low self esteem. one of them started coming to my job looking for me though 🙁 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 05:25 PM |
| 1 | women: be honest have you ever agreed to a date just for the purpose of rejecting him later?i’ve gone on dates without necessarily LIKING the guy but wanting to see if i changed my mind after hanging out. but i wouldn’t go on the date if the guy had no chance at changing my mind. rejecting guys has never given me any boost. it actually makes me feel bad most times | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 06:59 PM |
| 2 | What would like the other gender to change about themselves?we can blame the parents for that because little girls are going to want to dress like adults. i was a kid that wanted to dress sexily too at some point. we can only blame the parents and the men who take advantage of girls who don’t know any better. i wish so many women didn’t have stories of them being kids and being catcalled / harassed. again, i was in my school uniform when a creep asked to feel my ass so it’s not just because some teens are dressing any sort of way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 06:13 PM |
| 2 | What would like the other gender to change about themselves?i can understand mistaking a 16/17 year old for an adult especially when they’re dressing like one, but there are men who find out they’re hitting on a teenager and still continue to pursue them. i remember being in my school uniform and getting hit on by men that passed the school i went to. i have two sisters and both of them had experiences as well. i was even 13 talking to 20 year old guys because i didn’t understand it was wrong. the problem is a lot of men will still continue to sexualize … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 02:40 PM |
| 2 | What would like the other gender to change about themselves?i mean anyone under 18 but yes, 15 and 16 year olds too. i was sexualized by grown men at that age and when i was even younger as well. i also know tons of other women who were groomed/harassed sexually as children too. it seems very common | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?even if he isn’t caught, he still cheated. if it weren’t wrong, there would be no getting caught. if it’s not wrong, why not let the girl he’s dating know he’s gonna sleep around? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?you say “gave it up” easily like it’s a bad thing. if you’re having casual hook ups, how long are you supposed to wait? you can’t really compare how someone treats a relationship vs just a hookup. she’s not wrong for hooking up in the past and she’s not wrong for creating new boundaries as time goes on. and he’s not wrong for being frustrated. but what is wrong, IS cheating. that’s the only thing that’s wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?if ANYONE cheats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?cheating is never okay. that’s it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?we’re automatically going to be on her side since she’s the one getting cheated on. she hasn’t done anything wrong to him by setting her own boundaries. it doesn’t matter how absurd they might seem. she doesn’t want to have sex with him, and she shouldn’t force herself to just because he wants it. if he were actually DYING from lack of sex, that would be different. he can masturbate. just because you did something bad and no one found out, doesn’t erase the fact that you did it. you’re making it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 08:44 PM |
| 7 | Women absolutely are not attracted to nice guys, and men expressing their understandable frustration with the dishonesty of them saying they do is met with shaming and attempts to silence them. This is the foundation of TRP.i’m attracted to men who are nice, but i’m NOT attracted to simps. also, being nice is not enough to make women like you. looks are a big factor | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:31 PM |
| 27 | What would like the other gender to change about themselves?i wish men would stop sexualizing little girls and women so much and realize how much they can harm our mental health by doing it. i wish women would take more accountability for their actions. i also wish women wouldn’t turn on other women when they’re jealous of their looks or if there’s good looking guys around. it happens too often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?sure but if you think it’s absurd that you have to wait then break up and find someone else. she could have a bunch of different reasons for wanting to wait and it doesn’t have to be anything shady | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?just like men can enjoy having lots of sex, women can too. doesn’t make either of them bad unless they’re cheating or lying to get it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?theres a possibility the previously promiscuous woman is scarred or traumatized by something that happened during the time she was freely sleeping around which is why she changed her views regarding it. again, you’re not being forced to deal with the lack of sex. just break up with her so she can find someone else willing to wait | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?if he feels like cheating, he can. it’s still going to be wrong and the only people who will think it was justified would be other cheaters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?there are plenty of women who had tons of casual sex who then regret it and decide waiting is better for a relationship. her views on sex could’ve changed. people who cheat always have excuses as to why they did it, but do they EVER receive positive or understanding reactions? no, and for a reason. cheating is a choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?having sex is NOT a need. there are many men who go without sex and just deal with using their hand or a toy. it doesn’t matter how long she made anyone else wait. if she tells YOU she won’t have sex with you for 11 months, it’s YOUR choice whether or not you think she’s worth waiting for. if he’s really bothered by being the only one that has to wait, he can leave. no one is forcing him to stay with her. but if you’re gonna be in a relationship with someone, you shouldn’t cheat on them for any … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?if he doesn’t want to wait, he doesn’t have to. cheating is wrong. anything you do behind your partner’s back because you know it might hurt them, is wrong. there’s nothing you can do to justify cheating because it’s a CHOICE. can you survive a year without sex? yes. will you like it? probably not. and if you can’t handle it, break up. there’s no way you can make this seem okay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 03:46 AM |
| 1 | If a woman continues to multi-date after going on a date with you, she's not into you.i date multiple guys because i’m not gonna be exclusive with someone i barely know. i don’t see the problem since i’m not having sex with them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?if you have to hide anything from your partner, it’s probably wrong: | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Okay To Cheat If a Partner Wants to Wait for a Year?if you can’t wait and want to have sex with other people during those 11 months, let your partner know first. if she doesn’t like it, either wait the 11 months or leave the relationship. don’t cheat and try to hide it. act like an adult | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Be honest, would you date the equivalent to yourself?id prefer dating a guy older than me but as far as the looks and personality scale, i’d definitely date male me lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 04:11 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: What trust issues do you have in men when it comes to dating/relationships?honestly, that’s a fear of mine. i’ve witnessed a lot of my friends get deeply hurt after having sex with someone who afterwards, decided they didn’t want anything more. it makes them question why they weren’t good enough for the guy they slept with. there are also men who lie just to get sex, and then ghost. jumping into sex with someone you want a relationship with is far too risky for women which is why you see a lot of them holding it off. but, yeah, doing that also might cause the guy to lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 01:40 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: What trust issues do you have in men when it comes to dating/relationships?a male friend of mine told me the same thing, and said he decides if he wants something more after having sex. but it’s risky for the woman since, if she’s having sex with him, already wants something more. him deciding afterwards puts her feelings on the line. i wonder if there’s a way around that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 12:39 AM |
| 14 | Q4W: What trust issues do you have in men when it comes to dating/relationships?exactly. i’ve been on dates just wanting to connect and get to know the guy but a lot of them lose interest altogether if you don’t sleep with them fast enough. sigh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 03:56 AM |
| 11 | Q4W: What trust issues do you have in men when it comes to dating/relationships?men being deceptive about what they want in order to get sex. i’ve seen it happen to a few of my friends and it crushed them. i’ve just learned to make sure their words match their actions and to trust my gut, but still, a lot of guys take advantage of emotionally vulnerable women. at least the young ones | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Male and female sexual harassment/ assaulti’m a woman and all of my friends have experienced unwanted sexual advances at some point in their lives. a lot starting in middle or high school. i think it happens less to men but it does happen and it’s never justifiable. i think it happens more to young boys than adult men who can defend themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 06:14 PM |
| 1 | "none of your business" vs "lying by omission"i’ve done oral to a guy i was dating and he’s groped/touched me but we never did anything more than that. if a guy asks me about my count, i usually tell them 1 but add we never did piv (mainly because if we do have sex, i dont want them to rush into it) and they usually say they wouldn’t expect me to be a virgin and say things about wanting to take my virginity. i’m cool with just having 1 but my friends/guys tell me i’m still a virgin despite having done oral on a guy before. i guess people ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?i agree with you. i know these things are going to happen. i wish they wouldn’t, but they will. i just need to figure out a way to deal with it without running from it every time which will bring down the quality of my life to some degree. :/ i’m hoping i find that balance between attractive + a good guy with good attentions. i feel like settling with the hot/bad guy as well as with the not attractive good guy both wouldn’t make for a lasting relationship. 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?a general “you look nice” would’ve felt like a compliment and wouldn’t have made me uncomfortable. most women are not going to be okay with men staring and commenting on their bodies especially not at a place like where they work. sometimes we want a break from men staring at us like we’re a piece of ham. i don’t want to be having a normal conversation with a guy and i can tell he’s looking from my eyes to my body repeatedly. we already have to deal with many men only seeing us as sex dolls so i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?yea of course! if i can brighten ANYONE’s day with a compliment, i will. not that i just do it to flatter anyone but if i see something i think is deserving of a compliment, i say so. i just wish it didn’t backfire sometimes haha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?scissors, paper, rock lol ok i got it :) i’ll try my best to ignore them! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 04:31 AM |
| 3 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?i personally think only women with low self esteem are attracted to bad men. and unfortunately, social media and all these crazy beauty standards are making a bunch of women who dislike themselves, seek attention from men who they believe would be hard to get it from. they get validation from a stone cold guy willing to think they’re worthy of attention. most women who are confident and value themselves won’t date a guy who treats them like crap. so if i ever have a daughter, i’m gonna make sure… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?well when i say i treat them the same, i mean if i like how they’re dressed or how they’re wearing their hair, i’ll say so. i don’t immediately think that maybe they’ll take it as me flirting. we don’t have a relationship where it’s like i’m one of the bros or anything because they usually apologize if they say something that might make me uncomfortable as a woman. they’ve always greeted me with things like “hello, beautiful” or “good morning, gorgeous” but aside from that, they’ve never been an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?well for that situation, we had already talked about it. the relationship was never supposed to be purely sexual and we both agreed on that. when we started being sexual, i was very enthusiastic. over time, he stopped wanting to talk to me or hang out if i wasn’t promising a sexual favor. again, i WANTED to but the fact that he seemed disinterested in anything else despite us both wanting a serious relationship (which he repeatedly told me he wanted) his behavior showed otherwise. he also became… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?you’re right. i do plan on bringing it up and telling them how i feel about it. it just sucks because i considered them almost friends, and now i see them similarly to other men who’ve made disgusting comments to/around me. i guess i might be a little naive since i even considered them friends. im gonna work on it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 07:34 PM |
| 5 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?i don’t have a problem with sex, i actually crave it. i only clammed up because the guy was beginning to get aggressive about it and pushy. we did about everything else besides PIV. i added that part so no one thinks i have trauma that prevents me from being intimate with someone. i only have a problem with dealing with unwarranted sexual attention and not feeling bad about myself because of it. thank you for your comment though, really | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 07:26 PM |
| 16 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?i also hope you don’t have a daughter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?thank you very much. i’ll keep your advice in mind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?i’m sorry that happened to you. it’s not okay for either gender to have to go through that. hope you’re okay now. and i’m definitely going to look into self defense classes. i have paper spray. thank you for the advice! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?wow, thank you so much for taking the time to type this out. the confidence to say something in the moment just doesn’t come when i need it so i guess i should try to work on that. :) again, i really appreciate your response | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?thank you very much for your comment. i’ll remember this! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:07 PM |
| 10 | Q4M, What advice would you give to your daughter or younger female sibling about dealing with inappropriateness from other men?i just turned 21 and i had a couple of guys offer to “babysit” me while i tried alcohol for the first lol i said no of course cause i know better. and for the comments thing, i’m trying to get used to it and ignore them but it still ruins my mood and makes me feel sad when it happens. i really wish it didn’t | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:07 PM |
| 1 | All men have to pay for sex in one way or another. So men with the ability and willingness to pay may as well go for the youngest, most fertile, and attractive women possible.then i guess i’m gonna keep focusing on self love and building my emotional strength so i can deal with it if a guy ever treats me that way. it’s hard to tell what a guy really wants because they’ll lie to get what they want. it’s also confusing because a lot of men on here say they lose interest in relationships if they’re not having sex. 😪 ahh idk i’ll just stop overthinking. i do want to avoid being pumped and dumped tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/22 04:14 PM |
| 1 | All men have to pay for sex in one way or another. So men with the ability and willingness to pay may as well go for the youngest, most fertile, and attractive women possible.bahaha ohh that’s true. tbh, i’ve talked to mostly extremely attractive guys but they either wanted to jump into a relationship early on (like after a week) or wanted to have sex with me. it just feels empty so i never went through with it. i guess i should expect most guys to want to be into me physically before anything else? i don’t have a lot of experience with dating because i hate that guys only want to take me out on dates and stuff when they think im gonna have sex with them by the end o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/22 03:41 PM |
| 12 | How traumatic is puberty for women?i relate to all of this :/ i used to try to wear sweaters even during the summertime to cover my breasts because the attention made me so uncomfortable 🥲 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 08:44 PM |
| 7 | How traumatic is puberty for women?it doesn’t bother me all that much but i remember when boys started to grope me in 6th grade and i got hit on by a lot of grown men from then until i graduated. i let it happen though and i wish i knew how to stand up for myself back then. i know how to now though lol also my boobs came outta nowhere so people would touch them to see if they were fake apparently 😑 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 06:22 PM |
| 0 | What is there more of; people with great looks or people with great personalities?less hot people, but we’re still lacking a lot of people with good personalities. especially since an incel is born every 3 seconds, and they tend to be bitter with horrible personalities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 01:34 PM |
| 2 | What happens when women are no longer needed for reproductionas if men and women are having sex JUST to reproduce. even if somehow women were no longer needed, they would never be useless and would still be able to get pregnant. idk i get the feeling you’re not getting laid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 01:24 PM |
| 2 | High N count vs low N countmost of the men i’ve talked to/dated have been 21-25 so i’m pretty sure they can grow out of it but that’s just been my experience “dating” men with high counts. not exactly a deal breaker but somewhat of a red flag for me. maybe when i meet someone with a high n count who isn’t manipulative and immature, it’ll be more of an orange flag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/22 11:50 AM |
| 3 | High N count vs low N countthe only men i know with high n counts were super immature and manipulative. i know not every guy will be that way who has a lot of sex but i’d just prefer someone with experience. not experience with half the town tho. it’s just not for me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/22 11:33 AM |
| 5 | High N count vs low N counti don’t care if it’s more, but i care if it’s a lot. i just don’t want to be with a guy who considers sleeping with different women every week fun | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/22 11:08 AM |
| 1 | All men have to pay for sex in one way or another. So men with the ability and willingness to pay may as well go for the youngest, most fertile, and attractive women possible.everyone’s attracted to youth and beauty but when an older man is deciding on a partner, i would think he’d be focused on someone he can connect with, someone mature. NOT someone that’s nice to look at or easier to manipulate. i have nothing in common with a 30/40 year old so one showing interest in me always makes me feel uncomfortable. there are still beautiful women who don’t look young, who are also mature and wise and who a 30/40 year old guy would build something more secure with. if it’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 04:03 PM |
| 4 | All men have to pay for sex in one way or another. So men with the ability and willingness to pay may as well go for the youngest, most fertile, and attractive women possible.not every man is going to think your value is decreasing with time. a man that’s older than 30 could very well date someone within his age range, but since he’s dating a girl almost a decade younger whom he probably has nothing in common with, there’s a higher chance he’s in it BECAUSE she’s young. there’s a reason why so many people are uncomfortable with relationships with age gaps like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 02:37 PM |
| 4 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .so is your priority getting to know her on that date or getting to the end so you can potentially have sex with her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 07:19 AM |
| 2 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .that sounds like a miserable life to live | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 07:18 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: At what age did you lose your virginity?according to what i’ve seen, a lot of the women on reddit are not virgins. they might be single but they’re not virgins. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 07:14 AM |
| 8 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .if your intention is only sex with someone then why would you waste anytime getting it over with? you can just do it and separate afterwards. going out with someone you genuinely like is completely different. not every woman is thinking about sex when she’s just trying to spend time with someone and get to know them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .men can choose who they give their time and energy to. if you meet a promiscuous woman, you’re not obligated to have sex with her or pursue anything more. you can look elsewhere. you’re making it sound like men have to wait until a woman falls into his lap and he’s forced to deal with her because he doesn’t have a choice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 07:07 AM |
| 7 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .there’s nothing wrong with wanting to take things slower with someone you consider LTR potential vs someone you just wanted sex with. if the man is serious about her, he can wait a couple of dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:56 AM |
| 4 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .ok true but it’s not the woman’s fault she has easy access to sex. as a man, you do have a choice in who you marry. promiscuous women are not the majority | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:54 AM |
| 2 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .🙁 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:39 AM |
| 3 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .that’s you. i was just wondering why a lot of men feel the need to say such nasty things about them instead of just ignoring them or saying they’re not relationship material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:27 AM |
| 5 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .my original point was that i don’t get men who seem like they genuinely hate promiscuous women. i didn’t ask why you wouldn’t date one since the answer to that is the same reason why i wouldn’t date a promiscuous guy. i just don’t HATE promiscuous men and i don’t feel the need to insult them and call them disgusting etc. a woman with a high n count is called all sorts of demeaning things by men. i was just wondering why the hate seems so intense sometimes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:24 AM |
| 8 | Q4W: At what age did you lose your virginity?that there are adult women who are virgins who might want to date you. they’re most likely not on reddit. you’ll gain nothing from posting here everyday and it’s a waste of your time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .not cuffing is fine but a lot of guys here don’t just say they wouldn’t date them, they have to insult them a little bit AT LEAST. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:14 AM |
| 11 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .i don’t have casual sex but i have friends who have slept with tons of guys simply because they just like to have sex. it doesn’t mean they’re manipulating men, and they all are open to a LTR or want one at some point. i just don’t get why some guys here think just because she has a high n count, she’s not deserving of a good long term relationship when she’s ready. it’s like some guys act genuinely disgusted by them. i’m not being defensive either since i haven’t even had sex yet but i don’t ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 06:13 AM |
| 19 | Are "post-wall off the CC" women forcing men to date them or something? What's with the hate against them .yea, i don’t understand the hostility against them. if you don’t want to date someone with a high n count, fine, but it’s like they have genuine hatred for promiscuous women or women who date often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 05:32 AM |
| 12 | Q4W: At what age did you lose your virginity?you ask this like everyday and you get the same answers. most girls lose it when they’re teenagers. but virgins older than 18 exist. are the majority of women you meet going to be one? no. PLEASE just get off of reddit and see for yourself. this is getting alarming and you’re obsessing over this way too much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 05:24 AM |
| 5 | Getting a hobby to attract women is terrible adviceyou underestimate how much personality adds to attractiveness. if you’re in a group, you have an excuse to interact with more women instead of just approaching them and asking them for their numbers. there has been a bunch of times where i completely ignored a guy until i got to know them. like at work for example, and eventually i developed a crush. the cute guy is definitely gonna have most of the attention but if you have a naturally attractive personality, you’ll get attention as well. women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 04:52 AM |
| 7 | Getting a hobby to attract women is terrible adviceit’s better to get a hobby because you enjoy it/want more skills, but if you’re looking to attract women it helps as well. and if you do find a woman you’re attracted to, you both have something in common already. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 03:55 AM |
| 8 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?more often guys which i don’t think means much either since their standards aren’t high lol. i hope i don’t sound conceited cause i’m not. i can’t help who i’m physically attracted to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 03:20 AM |
| 5 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?i’m okay with someone average or a little below as long as they have an attractive personality. i’ve talked to very good looking guys as well as average. honestly, the average guys were more attractive in personality which i would prefer over looks. i don’t think i’m ALL that but i’m pretty. i’ve never been called ugly in my life and i’m complimented a lot on my looks. and that’s without makeup since i don’t know how to do it. im not strict with my standards but to get my attention BASED only on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈it’s not too late🙈🙈🙈 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 02:49 AM |
| 3 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?this actually made me laugh 😆 bahaha thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 02:48 AM |
| 34 | Getting a hobby to attract women is terrible advicerecently, the majority of this sub seems like it’s just guys complaining about how hard it is to attract women.. but it’s not actually terrible advice. it’s better to be around more people and not on your ps4 playing 2k all day whilst complaining. it’s not the key but it’ll give you better chances no matter how you look at it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 12:14 AM |
| 1 | What Do Men Get Out Of Relationships Other Than Sex (And Are Relationships Really Reciprocal)?is being a virgin the only requirement? there’s a chance you won’t connect with a lot of the ones you meet or you won’t be attracted to them. and is it just sex with a virgin or a relationship that you’re looking for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 12:07 AM |
| 2 | What Do Men Get Out Of Relationships Other Than Sex (And Are Relationships Really Reciprocal)?well have you been out to look for one yet? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | All men have to pay for sex in one way or another. So men with the ability and willingness to pay may as well go for the youngest, most fertile, and attractive women possible.how? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 08:33 PM |
| 62 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?if you mean spotting someone in public i think is super good looking and attractive, rarely. but there have been tons of guys that i’ve met that were average or a little below, that shot up in attractiveness once i spoke to them or got closer. it takes an extremely good looking guy that attracts me strictly off looks. last year i remember seeing a guy in the mall and it took almost everything in me not to throw myself at him lol. wonder how he’s doing :,) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 06:48 PM |
| 9 | All men have to pay for sex in one way or another. So men with the ability and willingness to pay may as well go for the youngest, most fertile, and attractive women possible.yea, a lot of women wouldn’t mind using a man with money if they could. they’re called gold diggers. as long as she’s investing in her future like having their education paid for and stuff like that then it’s not a terrible idea i guess. if he’s in it for her looks and she’s in for the money, then okay. i just wouldn’t be happy in a situation like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 06:33 PM |
| 73 | All men have to pay for sex in one way or another. So men with the ability and willingness to pay may as well go for the youngest, most fertile, and attractive women possible.i’m 21 and i personally wouldn’t date anyone over thirty because i’d be afraid they were with me because of my youth and looks which would make me feel gross and not secure at all. it’s just a bad idea for the younger woman. like he’ll think her value is ticking down with each birthday | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 3 | High N count vs low N counthaha what’s a pua? tbh he was also super scary because once he found out he wasn’t getting sex, he became so boring and soulless. it was actually creepy- no personality whatsoever. i wondered why he was having sex all the time but had no real friends or even girlfriends that could last more than a month | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 02:19 PM |
| 9 | High N count vs low N countwell i went on a couple of dates with someone who had 11 (he’s 22) was extremely good looking and very charming. luckily before i had sex with him, i found out that he wasn’t really a good person. terrible in fact, but was just really convincing and knew what to say and how to act to get sex. but since he almost got me, i’ll definitely be more careful in the future. everything he said was basically a lie so he was nowhere near one of the greatest people i’ve met. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 03:45 AM |
| 4 | Do you believe Men and Woman experience causal sex differently from an emotional level?i don’t have casual sex but i have close friends that do. they have a lot of negative experiences doing it like catching feelings after/feeling unsatisfied or used/being creeped out by men/forced into things etc. it doesn’t really seem good for their emotional and mental health but i think they just ignore it. i do believe that women experience it differently although i’ve never had it myself. it’s not all women but i’ve witnessed a lot of girls not doing it for pleasure like men, but for valida… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 01:55 AM |
| 12 | High N count vs low N countmine is 0 but i’d prefer a guy with 2-5. anything higher is a bit alarming. once you’re over 10 though then it’s a no from me. UNLESS you’re the greatest person i’ve ever met like ever lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 01:26 AM |
| 1 | you aren't lonely because women find you ugly. you are lonely because you are a 3 looking for a supermodelmaybe you’re not into women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 10:12 PM |
| -1 | Despite popular rhetoric, it is women not men who have extremely inflated self imagesif men had the same access to sex as women, they’d go for the most physically attractive woman they feel like they have a chance with. of course, they’d settle for less but that’s just because they’ll take any sex over none. women are not as desperate for sex so they’re willing to shoot for the best without settling for just any sex with some average or below average guy. you can have that though. i just don’t understand blaming women for being picky when it takes more than just having a penis t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Despite popular rhetoric, it is women not men who have extremely inflated self imagessure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 03:11 PM |
| 4 | Despite popular rhetoric, it is women not men who have extremely inflated self imagescheap argument. it’s a given. rich people are going to pick quality/expensive clothes over regular/cheap clothes because they have the option, poor people will take what they can get. obviously. just don’t make it seem like men are any better just because they don’t get the luxury | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 02:58 PM |
| 17 | Despite popular rhetoric, it is women not men who have extremely inflated self imagesboth have extremely inflated self images. if men had the same access to sex and potential partners as women do, they’d be as picky and behave the same way. it’s just they DONT and they’re bitter about it which is why they badger women for it so much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 02:25 PM |
| 13 | What do you think of this behavior?i don’t have casual sex but i definitely wouldn’t be sleeping with other men when im actually interested in one. sounds like M wanted to put H on hold while she finished messing around with other guys. i feel like it’s wrong. M sounds confusing and like a headache. i don’t think H should waste their time on her. she should just keep messing around until she’s ready to put it in the work for a real relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.that’s sweet. good luck! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.personally, i wouldn’t feel grateful because i have never had an issue with having a guy i’m attracted to want sex with me. i could get sex with someone i find attractive tonight if i wanted. i’m not even trying to brag. i’m just saying that anyone wanting just sex with me is not flattering because many others do as well. it’s not validating either. what’s validating is having someone be attracted to my looks and my personality enough to not see me as a walking potential fleshlight. so i wouldn’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.there’s no way to be sure if a man is serious or a woman is serious because both can lie. but don’t overthink and allow things to happen. dating shouldn’t be stressful. listen to your gut (like i have) but don’t let your fear of deception ruin the chance at a relationship that might be amazing. some lie, some don’t. things aren’t always just black or white. i hope you find a really amazing woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.so you’re saying if a woman has sex with a man she wants to have something serious with and he leaves after, she should be grateful she got the sex? if men are allowed to feel butthurt he didn’t get sex as fast as the last guy, women are allowed to be butthurt when a guy wants to fuck her and doesn’t see her as worthy of a serious relationship. sex can be validating for a man, but it’s not for women because it’s easy to be seen sexually. if a woman finally wanted to be seen as more than someone … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.lol me too! but women need to be careful BECAUSE men like him exist. waiting doesn’t guarantee he’ll stay but it feels safer. in my case, it worked out. still gonna stay a virgin until i meet a decent guy who is willing to wait a little longer while i build trust in him and we establish a connection :) i don’t wanna experience the pain my friends have | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.if a guy isn’t getting sex or any other indication that she’s into him, he has every right to complain. but withholding sex alone doesn’t indicate that she thinks he’s less sexually appealing than one of her past hookups | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.some men already do that. i’ve had a guy try it with me. he repeatedly told me he wanted something serious and when he thought i was starting to believe him, he kept asking for sex. i never did it, and later found out he was bragging to other men about how he was going to take my virginity and all of that. i also found out he’s done the same thing to someone else but she slept with him, and he hurt her a lot. he knew she wanted something serious and pretended he did as well. she just believed hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.a woman who has casual sex doesn’t expect the person she’s only hooking up with to stick around. she’s physically attracted to him but doesn’t necessarily want anything serious. that’s why it’s easy for her to use him for quick pleasure. when she meets someone she wants something more serious with, she’s not going to treat it the same way she’d do a hookup. her feelings are more involved and him leaving would hurt. she waits to see if he sees more in her than just someone to have sex with. that’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.there’s no way to be sure of what a guy wants because they’ll lie and say they want something serious just to get sex. men who only want to get in your pants might not be willing to wait though and will move on if they get tired, which is why women hold off on it when they meet someone they want something serious with. it’s better than wanting something serious with someone, having sex with them, and then having them leave because that was all they wanted. it’ll make you feel used and worthless.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.understandable, i totally get it. but being used for sex when you might’ve wanted more can really harm your emotional health. it’ll make you feel unworthy of anything more. being wanted sexually vs valued as a person are two different things. a lot of women want both, so holding the sex off even if they really want to have it, seems safer. some women don’t want to gamble their emotional health by having sex with a guy they like fast. even if they really want to. i have friends who were completel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.i understand why they might feel less-than if the woman makes the guy wait even though she’s had sex with other guys quicker. i’m just saying as a woman and understanding how other women think, it usually doesn’t mean he’s less sexually appealing. especially to someone who has casual sex. it’s usually meeting up, having sex, and then moving on. if a woman who has casual sex meets someone she genuinely wants to stay with, having sex too early will be too similar to when she was just hooking up wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.for some men, sex IS easy and can be meaningless. i worked with a guy who had slept with the majority of the store we worked at. he was really attractive and charismatic and tried to get me to sleep with him for like two months but eventually gave up. he moved on because he knew he could get it easily from somewhere else. it’s not just a woman’s thing. he knew he had other options just like a lot of women have. it wasn’t even just from the store, he just sleeps with a lot of women. but i know a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.there’s no way to know if the guy is actually decent UNLESS you wait. men will say they’re serious about you just to sleep with you, and leave afterwards because they didn’t mean it. that’s why waiting seems like the better option if you want something serious with the guy. guys who just want sex might not be willing to wait, someone who likes you will be okay with waiting. if you don’t want your feelings hurt after a guy you like leaves after quick sex, makes sense to make him wait a little lon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.oh ok i can understand that. this is just one of those situations where women and men might not understand how the other side thinks because we live very different lives | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 06:39 PM |
| 2 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.i agree. i’m still a virgin and i’m waiting until i meet someone i love and we’ve established something real and committed. i’ll never have this dilemma, but i have friends who have casual sex and have been in situations like this so i know how they think. i can understand why a guy might feel that way but it depends on the situation and the people involved. i don’t think they should assume she’s less sexually interested | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 06:23 PM |
| 5 | Question for men and woman: why dont you use Instagram as a dating app?i’ve tried but i usually delete them after a day or two. it’s overwhelming to me. i’d just prefer going out and actually meeting people. it feels more natural | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 06:04 PM |
| 7 | Do overweight women struggle attracting men?aw, thank you! :,) and yes, definitely. i’m really against the fat acceptance movement because losing weight improved my life in so many ways- and not just getting me more attention from men. we shouldn’t shame women for being fat/overweight but we shouldn’t make them comfortable with being unhealthy either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:59 PM |
| 12 | Question for men and woman: why dont you use Instagram as a dating app?i’ve had quite a few dms from guys on instagram and i didn’t like it, so i removed all of them and went private. it’s just for close friends now 😅 someone sliding into my dms turns me off for some reason | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.well women and men think and operate differently. if a guy didn’t try to make a move on me on the first date and i know he’s done it before with other women, i wouldn’t assume it’s because he isn’t as sexually attracted. as long as he continues to show interest in me, i’d be cool with it. if a guy likes a girl and she has sex with him after the first date, it might be flattering to him. if a guy wants to have sex with a girl after the first date, it’s not as flattering because getting a guy to w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.but it doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t find you as sexually attractive. she can just have self control and doesn’t want to ruin her chance at a relationship by sleeping with you too fast. ESPECIALLY someone who has casual sex. they know how it works, which is probably why they think making you wait is a better idea. it doesn’t have to mean she’s less excited to have sex with you. it just means she sees more with you than just sex and wants to make sure you feel the same way so she doesn’t g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.why insulting? they just know that sex on the first date might seem like only a hookup and there’s a chance the guy will treat it as such and move on afterwards. making the guy she considers boyfriend material wait just means she wants him to stick around and make sure he’s serious. she might want to have sex with him but might not out of fear that he’ll leave. i’m not a guy but i think i would feel grateful knowing someone wants more with me vs someone she just saw as quick pleasure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Guys that get mad because a girl 'makes them wait' while being 'fast' with other guys are acting entitled to sex.i think women who like casual sex and are also open to relationships do this because they know there’s a high chance the guy they sleep with on the first date will move on after he gets what he wants. if she doesn’t consider him boyfriend material and just attractive, it’s easy for her to forget about him. if she meets someone she genuinely likes and considers boyfriend material, she doesn’t want to jump into sex because she might fear that they’ll leave like it was just a hookup, which might hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: In your experience, how many women reach their twenties as virgins and why do they?yep! and it would be a horrible idea to lose your virginity to someone who thinks most of or a lot of your value comes from the fact that you’re a virgin. they probably wouldn’t be as excited if i weren’t one, which i think is gross. i want someone to be excited to get to know me and spend time with me, not because they’ll be my first. the thought alone makes me feel nauseous :/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 03:36 PM |
| 43 | Do overweight women struggle attracting men?losing weight takes a lot of mental strength especially for people who are addicted to food or use it to cope with other things. some people just don’t have the strength or self control to choose health over comfortability. same way someone chooses to smoke when quitting has all the pros and not quitting has none. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 03:26 PM |
| 78 | Do overweight women struggle attracting men?well i used to be chubby and got SOME attention, but not nearly as much as i do now that i’m fit. a lot of heavier women definitely lower their standards too since the attention is more rare. i have overweight friends who meet random walking red flags on dating sites and accept it cause they appreciate the attention. my friends are attracted to anything attracted to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 01:31 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: In your experience, how many women reach their twenties as virgins and why do they?spot on! i was super introverted in high school and wasn’t as expressive as everyone else. when i graduated, i started working out and taking care of myself. now, in the looks department i think i would be considered above average. i’m still introverted and very nerdy but i recently got comfortable with going on dates. every time i tell my friends about a guy i’m slightly interested in, they immediately get excited and tell me that it’s time i lose my virginity (i just turned 21) they keep telli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 01:23 PM |
| 7 | Q4W: In your experience, how many women reach their twenties as virgins and why do they?yep:) good luck! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:44 AM |
| 25 | Q4W: In your experience, how many women reach their twenties as virgins and why do they?losing your virginity as a teen is considered the norm for both women and men so a lot of girls will lose it simply cause they feel like that’s just the way it should go. i remember feeling bad when i turned 18 and hadn’t lost it yet, but i didn’t lose it because i hadn’t met anyone i felt a connection with. i was asked a lot though. now, i’m still a virgin until i meet someone i love and can trust enough to make it special. i’ve waited this long, i’m def not gonna accept just anything from anyo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:35 AM |
| 4 | can men and women be friends without attraction?i have never had enough in common with a man to consider them a friend unless they were very feminine or not heterosexual. 90% of the guys that i thought wanted to be friends at some point asked for sex or started to show romantic interest in me. so i think it might be possible but more rare. i wouldn’t look to a man if i wanted a friend anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:01 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: In your experience, what's the best place to meet virgin/low body-count women?i turned 21 this month and im a virgin. most people seem extremely shocked or in disbelief when i tell them, so that pretty much shows how rare it is. none of my friends are virgins but they do have low n counts. i personally spend 80% of my time in the house, but i think museums and the library might be good ideas. i’ve been to parties in the past but the guys giving me attention were not the kind of guys i’m interested in. btw i’ve had guys straight up tell me i must be lying about being a vir… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 04:34 AM |
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