axolotofpain Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Has TRP affected your willingness to date? There is a clear definition dude. There goes the hand waving and strawmanning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 07:50 PM
2	Has TRP affected your willingness to date? You guys also hand wave everything. No evidence is ever good enough. I don't think there is anything that could be shown to you to prove something is misogyny.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 07:33 PM
3	The people at the top of the patriarchy are men, but that does not mean they have the best interests of their fellow men at heart. I don't disagree with you about kyriarchy being the root of all social problems, but I think you're getting mixed up a bit with the definition. Your link also says that patriarchy falls under the umbrella of kyriarchy: "It is an intersectional extension of the idea of patriarchy beyond gender." Patriarchy is a form or kyriarchy, but kyriarchy is a term designed to talk about different kinds of oppression stemming from patriarchy. Hence, intersectionality. The person who coined the term states th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/24 06:26 PM
1	Modern men appear interested in having kids or having a large family more so than modern women It's a trend, but I don't think it's as big as the internet makes it seem. It can depend on the circles you're in. I don't see it in person personally, but I see it online. In my circle (we're in our late twenties and early thirties), my fiance and I are the only ones who are planning to be child free. Out of our friends, I'd say the men are more vocal about wanting children and bring it up more often, but the women still want them too. It's a back burner thought for them, however. Regarding the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 06:36 PM
2	Childrearing is not just "work" and if you think that way, then you shouldn't have kids! I wouldn't conflate negligence with relaxed parenting or helicopter parenting. Negligent has a definition: "failing to take proper care in doing something."	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 04:50 PM
8	Childrearing is not just "work" and if you think that way, then you shouldn't have kids! On the contrary, I think people who don't view childcare as work and underestimate the time, effort, and the many different facets it takes to raise a healthy well-rounded child shouldn't raise kids because they would be negligent parents. A child is a major responsibility that takes work. Doesn't mean that the work isn't rewarding, but if you don't see it as work you're definitely ill prepared to be a parent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 11:24 PM
-2	Why "Marriage Material" isn't a compliment to men and being the "hookup guy" is often superior The premise is this post is about deliberately misinterpreting what women say to self harm and self flagellate while throwing out the accusations to other people who are countering it. Gaslighting them literally by accusing them of gaslighting: "women aren't meaning what they're meaning so I'm telling them what they are meaning because if it's absolutely bad it has to be true." Reinforcing the illusory truth effect. People understand that men want to be to be desirable and told they are desirabl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:18 PM
-5	Why "Marriage Material" isn't a compliment to men and being the "hookup guy" is often superior Hypocrite. Pot calling the kettle black.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 02:46 PM
-5	Why "Marriage Material" isn't a compliment to men and being the "hookup guy" is often superior Dude. All men who get neurotic about being called husband material are blatantly misinterpreting what women say and are, in bad faith, always assuming the worst from women. Just the pot calling the kettle black.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 11:55 PM
–	How problematic would it be for a 37 man to have braces? Just get them. My dad got them in his 50s. Sometimes it was a conversation starter for him. It's only temporary and the more proactive you are about wearing your bands the sooner you get them off. Definitely follow the no soda rule too. So maybe people think it's silly, but when their braces come off they have spots all over their teeth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 04:58 PM
1	Since the music talk is now a thing, as far as taste in music, what do you consider a red and green flag? I don't really think any music taste is a red flag, but it's more so a compatibility thing. The more music taste in common, the better. That said, a green flag is definitely not limiting yourself to one genre and only top radio hits like you mentioned. I also like it when people are more open to lyricless music too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 07:04 PM
1	What US women want is a fantasy Her not dating someone in ten years means she was single. That woman is single because she hadn't had been with anyone romantically or sexually for 10 years. They are truly being single. Regardlessly, doesn't matter the length of singleness. Being in a relationship at any point doesn't negate single at another. Having many relationships and gaps between relationships doesn't negate the status of being single when you are single. You don't get to change the definition of single based on your feel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 07:23 PM
–	What US women want is a fantasy My dude you're the one shifting the goalposts of the conversation. The statement that's being challenged is that when a woman is single she is not actually single. You're moving goalposts to always have leverage, but you're not even in the same conversation anymore. Be more cognizant next time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 07:00 PM
5	What US women want is a fantasy How can you say this without a hint of irony that you're also trying to paint all women to have one experience...aka being a spokesperson for all women because you get to, but another user doesn't?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 06:13 PM
1	american women are sabotaging themselves in dating I appreciate that. The nuance I lean into here for PPD is that it's okay to like "shallow" attributes in a person as long as you value that person's humanity too. It's normal to like an attractive person, but I wouldn't consider it shallow as long as you value the person that comes along with the good looks. The way that the term shallow is thrown around here doesn't really fit the definition because people assume liking a typically shallow characteristic in sometime means that's the only thing …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 06:34 PM
3	american women are sabotaging themselves in dating Fair, I don't want kids either lol Here's the thing, I don't think your standards are unreasonable. Everyone is allowed to have them, but it's annoying to demand people to change theirs to include everyone. The problem that I frequently see is that guys are trapped in their bubble and greatly exaggerate the world to be all doom and gloom. They may be unlucky and have it harder than others, but they still create a false narrative. There are shallow people out there. Valuing a shallow thing but st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 05:35 PM
3	american women are sabotaging themselves in dating Yeah, but men also want youth and fertility. Aging is unavoidable for women or literally anyone. Can't choose not to age. The problem is the men seething over the shallow behaviors that every human does also love to downplay their own shallowness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 04:51 PM
4	american women are sabotaging themselves in dating And? Still entitled. Doesn't change that hypocrisy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 04:27 PM
1	american women are sabotaging themselves in dating But what of it? All I see are guys saying that women should be less shallow, but giving men the pass to be as shallow as they want. It's hypocritical and entitled.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 04:03 PM
2	Women have hobbies. Drawing, writing/story building, reading, videogames (playing and making), crocheting, language learning, ttrpgs, surfing, boxing, swimming, hiking , learning in a general sense (I do deep dives into rabbit holes for very specific subjects), and gardening. One day I also want to learn to make stain glass artwork and chainmail to add to the hobby list.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/24 06:17 PM
–	This Sub really undervalues the importance of social skills and Personality Great point! I think this is true too and it's not discussed enough when talking about personality here on this sub. No one will ever be a one-size-fits-all when it comes to personality. Personality still matters, but some personalities work better with others and some do not. Understand which people you work well with for better results.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/24 05:55 PM
16	Can women feel true empathy for men? Idk...the irony of this post is that you're trying to decry all women by alienating and isolating them of positive human qualities. Everything you said about women was negative. This in itself is exemplary of not being empathetic yourself. Plus, you had to "justify" yourself in your first paragraph which isn't really showing your own confidence in your ability to be empathetic. Your empathetic deed was intentionally left vague. Then, because of your vague heroic empathetic action, you're expecti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 11:35 PM
16	How likely are you to believe someone who says they've been raped? What factors would influence your judgement? God, relate to people giving sympathy to the perpetrator. I wasn't raped, but serially SA'd by a family member growing up. When I felt comfortable enough coming forward to talk about it, the family member ADMITTED to doing it and yet my family still took his side and made me out to be the problem for bringing it up. People seriously underestimate how poorly victims and survivors are treated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 04:46 PM
6	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault Lol I remember the other day you SPECIFICALLY got upset over my response to you for pointing out that men need to be accountable for their actions and behavior. Then you strawmanned "men bad women good"... Yet here you are advocating for men's bad behavior. You guys are either completely dumb or have a fetish for shooting yourselves in the foot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/24 04:27 PM
10	Why is the danger sense of women very confusing. "I've never seen it!" Doesn't mean it doesn't happen dude. Two days ago, California: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mercurynews.com/2024/05/08/pinole-woman-27-killed-at-oakland-gas-station-by-two-gunmen/amp/ One day ago https://www.news4jax.com/news/local/2024/05/08/man-accused-of-shooting-32-year-old-woman-multiple-times-at-fairfax-gas-station-arrested/ Houston, two women stabbed at a gas station: https://www.tampabay.com/news/crime/2024/05/08/largo-wawa-gas-station-attack-stabbing/ Five days…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 08:52 PM
5	Do Some Men Prefer Women with Low Self-Esteem? Why? Yes, my favorite strawman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/24 10:53 PM
6	Do Some Men Prefer Women with Low Self-Esteem? Why? Men not valuing women beyond their physical attractiveness is not a fault of women but a fault of man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/24 06:05 PM
2	In response to the "why are promiscuous women undesirable but doesn't necessarily apply to promiscuous men" The point is that you don't understand analogies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/24 08:38 PM
2	In response to the "why are promiscuous women undesirable but doesn't necessarily apply to promiscuous men" Analogy definition: "a comparison between two things, typically for the purpose of explanation or clarification." If you're are comparing two things like a woman to a car and how you would treat said car, then yes you allude that you treat women no different than objects because the treatment is what's being clarified. That's how analogies work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/24 08:27 PM
0	Men who claim that "we men are so horny and would fck anything with a pulse" are horrible and feed misandrist myths Lmao nice thesaurus, my guy. You didn't even use the word alliteration correctly. Now you're trying to hold your "intellectual high ground" with horrible attempts at sounding like a pseudo intellectual. Like clockwork. We all know you guys have extreme fomo and are frustrated. That's what a majority of PPD posts are about. No need to reillustrate your point with emotional, hyperbolic extremes. It's whiny and fallacious. That's why people get annoyed with the 14 and deep analogy. It doesn't add a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 06:55 PM
3	Men who claim that "we men are so horny and would fck anything with a pulse" are horrible and feed misandrist myths Are forming thoughts that aren't comparisons designed to only work as emotional arguments difficult for you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 05:08 PM
7	Men who claim that "we men are so horny and would fck anything with a pulse" are horrible and feed misandrist myths You're not starving or dying of thirst ffs. These hyperbolic analogies do you guys no favors.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 04:25 PM
10	Men adapt to women's needs therefore women are the problem It's called burden of proof. Aka you are RESPONSIBLE for providing a source or reference. When you aren't talking responsibility, you dodging accountability. Accountability (noun) the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility. Yes, you are dodging accountability. You're either very lazy or an extremely incompetent debater if you're relying on others to prove your own argument for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/24 11:07 PM
11	Men adapt to women's needs therefore women are the problem They don't have to. It's your responsibility when asserting the claim. Or are you going to dodge accountability again and again?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/24 10:12 PM
2	Women are standoffish to men far more frequently than vice versa Guys LARP so hard on PPD it's insane.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 11:57 PM
3	Women settle down with and seriously date lesser men, but still hold toxic men from their past in a higher regard. Yeah, because you guys only argue with a cultish bias and bad faith. That's the standard here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 09:55 PM
7	Feminists try to shame men out of their advantages in the dating market FACTTSS RATIONAL BIOLOGICAL OBJECTIVE FACTS BASED ON BASIC COMMON SENSE LOGIC THAT'S SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN BY MY OBJECTIVE OBSERVATIONS IN EVOLUTION AND REALITY	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/24 10:16 PM
2	Those raised by parents/caregivers who didn't conform to gender roles, how did that affect your attitude to dating and the things you're attracted to? Both my parents are business oriented people. They run a business together, make the same wage, work the same hours. There are some things they conform to. For example, off hours my mom would do the majority of cooking and cleaning while my dad did the majority of repairs and auto maintenance. I think how they raised me was conventional for the time/our location but unconventional compared to passed generations. Like, I was able to play with whatever toys I wanted. I had video games, Yu-Gi-Oh ca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/24 08:17 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread He had the perfect storm of health problems, so it was more than just poor hygiene. What really exacerbated the necrosis however was the medication that he was taking caused him horrible dry mouth. Dry mouth causes a lot of decay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/24 05:09 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread I had a patient who had a similar procedure done because he had horrible necrosis from dental decay. They grafted part of his fibula to his jaw to restructure it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/24 04:45 PM
2	alcohol and dating Congrats on the three years of sobriety. There are many other places and activities, but I think this stems from people not pursuing communal spaces for your hobbies or interests. (Though knowing PPD, I want to specify: these are not for cold approaching. These places are best for warm approaches). I have a friend who is dating someone they met from a running group. Another that is married to someone who they met in an improv class. And another is dating someone they met at the bookstore by maki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/24 10:16 PM
1	Manosphere contradictions Manosphere men often paint men being shallow as being virtuous, but women being shallow as a vice. Example: Men saying women only need to be attractive and that's "Loving women for who they are." Meanwhile also saying women only seek chads, because they're hot or whatever, makes their standards too high for wanting to date someone they're attracted to. Things are "biological" only when it benefits the manosphere narrative. The manosphere frequently argues in limited biological determinist perspe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/24 08:10 PM
1	You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole. Okay. Show me your studies. And multiple with the same conclusion and multiple from different countries. They must be properly formatted, detailed with their methodology clear hypothesis, and peer reviewed. No website polls/surveys. Then I'll show your where they're self critical and critiqued.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 10:47 PM
1	You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole. Bruh, do you read the research? Do you read what they criticize for their own research methods? Most of these studies are self critical and heavily acknowledge they're only theories and often poorly sampled.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 10:27 PM
1	You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole. ALL women here? I'm a women here and I don't state as such. I have multiple older male virgin friends and they aren't creeps or weirdos.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 10:25 PM
1	You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole. Okay, but your anecdotes don't align with my experience or what I've researched. I won't go too in depth, but your assumptions are the inverse of someone assuming that an older virgin man must be a creep and a weirdo. You wouldn't think that's fair, right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 10:20 PM
3	You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole. And this is not based on your imagination and assumptions?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 10:01 PM
1	You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole. I don't entirely agree or disagree, but then why not try selling older women who do value intelligence? Wouldn't your values align more?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 09:57 PM
1	You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole. So attractiveness correlates with intelligence? How is it an either/or dichotomy? Are all intelligent men ugly and all unintelligent men attractive? Where are you concluding this other than your own reddit comment chaining to other reddit comments?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 09:47 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread For me it doesn't matter. My partner is shorter than me when I'm not wearing heels already. Though I've noticed some of my guy friends do get a bit uncomfortable when I wear heels around them. Like they'll start asking about my height and have me line up with them to see who is taller. I don't think the manosphere is wrong that women typically want someone taller than them, but they're wrong when they push that it's strictly 6ft and up. Usually just being taller than the woman at any height is e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 08:28 PM
–	Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think. Sure. It's also basic biology that you eat and shit everyday but you don't go extrapolating that it's your life's purpose. That's you cherry picking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 06:44 PM
–	Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think. Not really... There is no meaning or point to life. Thinking your purpose is reproduction is religious indoctrination.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 06:15 PM
1	If "Being An Asshole" Was All It Took To Get Women, Why Are So Many Assholes Single? "Asshole" is a selling point in the RP/Manosphere power fantasy. For every "women are attracted to assholes" there are also a bunch of "I started being an asshole because it's works!" It's a selling tactic to lure in insecure people who view the world as a constant power struggle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/24 06:20 PM
–	She isn’t “withholding” sex from you. She simply doesn’t feel like having sex. Because they aren't asking for "choreplay" like it's foreplay. It was never a seduction tool. That's bastardizing the request. They are asking you to do your chores so you can reduce the stress and resentment your partner is experiencing. That way they might feel relaxed enough to have sex because they'll have more free time. This feels almost deliberately obtuse istfg. Y'all can't be that dumb to think they want you to do chores sexually.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 07:59 PM
1	Stop the Gaslight 1: Bluepill Wow! Another new definition for gaslighting! They keep making more every day!! Apparently a gaslighter is anyone who disagrees with me or challenges my views! Because I'm never wrong! Totally not to be used the in such in a way to manipulate and stage my own position as the correct one by default, and a "I don't actually have to think in-depth or listen other people's arguments because I've preemptively disqualified them by clinging on this one nifty word!" card. Why even attempt to debate this …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 01:11 AM
1	Stop the Gaslight 1: Bluepill My guy, you cut off half his sentence and shifted the argument to make it say something you wanted him to say instead. Not an honest debate tactic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/24 11:49 PM
9	What women consider “high value man" is symmetrically tied to the amount baby momma’s he has fighting over him I like how this source is The Guardian, which cited a vague poll from an "insurance company," then you can click the citation and it goes to the Daily Mail. So it has an obscured trail to what it's actually referencing and no direct links to the poll. Interesting. I know you don't care about your own integrity or like intelligent arguments without your own bias, but accredited sources will mostly say that men and women lie at the same rate. However, men more likely tell black lies while women te…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/24 07:58 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread I know there are people like this, but I think it's becoming a rarer attitude nowadays. I don't even relate to it though. Growing up, my entire female friend group played video games and we would have sleepovers to binge games all night.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/24 05:43 PM
1	How do you split the finances? Not married, but we've talked about getting engaged soon. We do 60/40 on rent and split everything else (utilities, groceries, etc) 50/50. I typically work one less day than he does, but I pick up more chores than him because he works more and pays a little more rent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/24 04:38 PM
4	Another reason why some men can't do LTR with women and either go volcel or the spinning plates And the rest of us are supposed to take the opposite anecdote as fact and believe it isn't an outlier either? Wow. Very aware and unbiased of you. So meaningful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/24 07:55 PM
–	My Take On PPD: No One Is Innocent This is conspiratorial thinking. Two things can be true at once. Sometimes there is no "one truth" and to believe as such is illogical and making half-baked assessments based on bias and emotional arguing. Some women, who are looking to date, may be dressing up to look attractive for men. That's fine. Others who aren't looking to date can be putting on sparkly neon eyeshadow, 5 inch nails, and purple hair because they like how it looks. Even when men repetitiously moan how much they don't like i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/24 05:48 PM
–	Women will sabotage you talking to their friends without hesitation, and regardless of what anyone says it is usually against their will Weird how suddenly you're a mind reader and know exactly what everyone is thinking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 06:03 PM
1	Why do women assume that all women are good? Funny how on this sub men will say all women secretly hate each other and have knives pointed at each other's throats in one post, yet also insist women can't think any woman is capable of horrid shit. Red pill is all inconsistent emotional arguing. If you look at the ONE study that everybody cites for female in-group bias, it criticizes itself that it doesn't properly explore all methodology to prove it's hypothesis. The sample size is limited to a certain, small demographic of young college ki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 01:49 AM
4	Want to solve the male loneliness epidemic? Stop letting kids play video games and promote outdoor activities instead I mean I agree and I hate that games are painted in a bad light, but I don't get why men pretend like they don't also use tiktok and Instagram. Plus, you guys also scroll on PPD all day and act like it isn't social media too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/23 06:55 PM
–	Women hate age gap relationships because they are scared of being tossed aside in favour of young women Telling women that they're all lying about their experiences and telling them how they really feel and think is literally the revenge fantasy dude. Somehow it's always telling them how they actually feel is always painting women as bad, jealous, or dumb. This rodeo has happened on this sub many times. "I don't like what women say about their experiences, so I'm going insert my own thoughts because they're automatically better because I'm smarter and omnipotent and so I get to say what is and isn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/23 01:04 AM
0	Why men will judge your personality and character based on how you dress and act and why it makes complete rational sense to do so when choosing a 'wifey material' woman. Which stats?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/23 10:08 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Only if you value your self worth on how big your income is. Though I get what you're saying, especially since careers in sciences can be over glorified and not truthfully advertised. I work with a lot of doctors and have plenty of friends in the sciences. Some love what they do. Others hate how their jobs are extremely tedious, mundane and monotonous, and sometimes under paid. Depends on the field of course. At one point I was making more money as a part time artist than one of my friends worki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/23 11:41 PM
0	Why is it that Men „enjoy“ being seen as Sex objects, while Women don‘t? Yeah, but getting attention and compliments is not the same as objectification. You're conflating sexualization with sexual objectification when they aren't the same thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/23 01:07 AM
2	Why is it that Men „enjoy“ being seen as Sex objects, while Women don‘t? Yeah, I think the problem is that too many people here don't fully understand what sexual objectification is and conflate it with JUST being sexualized.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/23 01:01 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Almost all. We like the same things mostly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/23 08:42 PM
1	Women Love to Invalidate Men's Experiences Those are all dehumanization tactics that they do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/23 08:04 PM
3	Who would be right in this situation? You say that without even looking at the science either which doesn't really agree with you... https://findanexpert.unimelb.edu.au/news/4356-maternal-instinct-and-biology--evolution-ensures-we-want-sex--not-babies https://www.jstor.org/stable/20164128 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2831352/ https://www.jstor.org/stable/3813418 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2944661/ Saying everything you'd typically do is "biology" is a naturalistic fallacy. Having kids is what many p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/23 07:30 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Can you describe it for me, please?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 06:31 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread This is a good answer! I agree with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 06:30 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I agree with this. I think in online spaces such as PPD "empathy" evolves into a sort of buzzword to be thrown around. I'm curious how other people describe it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 06:27 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread So you don't know how to describe it? How do you know you're not receiving it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 06:23 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Q for All: Without googling examples or looking up definitions, what does empathy look like to you? How is it shown? How do you give it? How should you receive it? What does it do for you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 06:13 PM
7	Daily Community Chat Megathread Because it's been more normalized to stop being nosy and to mind your own business. Telling people to lose weight is just being Captain Obvious who preaches to the choir. Another no shit Sherlock. Why do you feel so inclined to remind people? They already know. Guaranteed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 04:47 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread You're looking at denotations and missing the context of word usage and connotations that are also important to understanding definitions. To iterate my point: Adore and revere can be comparable to good and awesome. Good and awesome have similar definitions, but they have different connotations. Good is positive and awesome is extra positive. Between these two there's a difference in severity and you use them situationally. This is how we create nuance in language. Same with to adore and to reve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 05:01 PM
1	CMV More and more young Men are realising that Looks is the Number 1 Factor for Dating Success in a developed Country. Its actually kinda crazy if you compare it to the old days. Looks are a baseline. They are the floor, but not the ceiling. You'll still trip on your way up if you forget to tie your shoes or fall if your ladder is rusted and broken.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/23 08:11 PM
2	Women say to look for signals to approach, yet there are no universal signals to approach a woman No it doesn't. OP is just whining that life doesn't give him guarantees but is too risk adverse to accept that's just how life is. He's requesting a solution for something that never had definitive answer to and never will. Literally no one is saying someone giving you signals is a guarantee, but they are saying that's where your best chances usually lie. The flaw people like OP have is that they expect a participation trophy for trying and then whine when they experience life like everyone else…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/23 05:37 PM
1	Women are happier "single" because they're aren't really single at all Then you suffer from observation bias. You make assumptions without knowing the full experience. That makes it flawed data, and frankly, exemplary of the Dunning Kruger effect. Also, "logic" doesn't mean correct. You can be logical and still have false conclusions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/23 06:16 PM
3	Do men actually like the idea of “coaching” a woman through life and why? Different for everyone. I grew up in a household where I had to do most of the chores but my brother got to be lazy. I was also expected to get straight As while he could get Cs. Have a friend who has to help her parents pay rent, but her brother has a higher paying job and doesnt have to contribute anything. He also lives with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 12:12 AM
3	Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change? It's just as improper to claim there is a gene though. You don't know if it actually exist either so why make the claim it does? It's not backed by anything. A Caretaker Gene is only a theory that will forever be researched without proper conclusions because we won't ever have the proper research conditions to determine if true. Some argue we'll never have the proper conditions because it's really difficult to have an experimental and control group on this particular topic. You can't raise a per…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 07:42 PM
4	Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change? Half agree. Pay is associated more with audience and draw rather than performance and capability. When the pay in sports conversation was going on around in 2019, at that time the women's soccer world cup was drawing in a massive audience at similar rates to the men's cup. That's why when they were demanding more pay it was because the women's cup was getting paid much less in total of $150 million, compared to $440 million for men. The company was pocketing extra revenue and not paying fairly. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 06:47 PM
0	Weight vs height, is a huge double standard It's not missing the point they are countering it with another. The point of this commenter is that the premise of "what's worse" with shallow preferences is irrelevant if they're both still shallow desires I'm the end. Saying that one is easier to fix is deflecting that it's still shallow. It's not fixing any problems, but creating a pointless and endless pissing contest rather than addressing the actual point that shaming someone's height is bad. Both are bad and annoying, and it's fine to poi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 05:38 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Never cared. I'm 5'8" and my boyfriend is 5'5". Indian men are beautiful and handsome. I don't have a racial preference because I find it to be fetishistic. There are beautiful everywhere. Depends. It's more about confident body language. Confident people present themselves as secure and happy. This is plus. Men loving animals will always be an attractive trait. There's a reason they sell calendars of men with kittens lol. If someone sees you as lesser for this, they'll never be worth your time.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/23 09:39 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I agree. Male victims need more support and resources. No one should ever excuse asshole behavior and trauma is never an excuse abuse. In the case of the reverse though, some guys used to rationalize toxicity with, "She made me do it." or "She pushed his limits." And sometimes "what was she wearing?" Less common now, but I definitely still see some remnants of it from time to time. (I don't mean to say this to take away from your sentiment, but just to say that the reverse does and has happened)	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/23 04:57 PM
1	Why would a woman marry young if her husband will eventually end up lusting after younger women? It's not an apex fallacy if it's literally the discussion and what you asked for. You were asking about an apex sample, your answer is going to be an apex sample. Therefore, not a fallacy. You're incorrectly using a fallacy to move goalposts so you don't have address the response, however.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/23 11:58 PM
2	Are average men really desperate for sex? Your article doesn't even talk about dismantling or banning fraternities. You only read the title and made assumptions. The article you linked talks about how historically fraternities in some universities have organized to attempt banning women from getting an education at all. Nothing about women wanting to join fraternities or dismantle them. Some fraternities went as far as actually having a "Hate women week " per your article. That is sexist no matter how you spin it. That was the sixties t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 06:10 PM
1	Why is the sub have at least some men telling women what they are attracted to? Observational bias. You're hypothesis is that women are going to lie so your going to find anything to conclude that to be so. In reality, it's incredibly egotistical and exemplary dunning kruger effect to say that you know other people better than themselves. You let your bias cloud your judgement and skew your observations. This makes you an unreliable narrator in your observations too. Especially since your data is a secondary source being yourself observing not participating. Also there is n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 12:48 AM
2	Why is the sub have at least some men telling women what they are attracted to? I think some guys here have an observation bias that they use to confirm and maintain their resentment. With the height thing, it might not matter to her specifically whether her partner is taller or shorter than her, but realistically the majority of men are taller than the majority of women. Height is a sexual diphormphic trait. If she was to date a lot of men in general, yes, the probably of her dating all tall men is much more likely than dating all men shorter than her. It's not her speakin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 12:02 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Any examples?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/23 05:40 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I appreciate this nuanced take. You're right that it is not wrong or bad to not want to be with someone promiscuous. The men with these preferences aren't bad either. I'm a woman who doesn't prefer a promiscuous man either so I can emphasize with the men who want the same for their partners. What I see more woman getting upset over is usually how intentionally or unintentionally cruel some men can be to women who don't fit their preferences. A lot of the loud arguers on PPD don't understand or a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/23 11:23 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread The term "male gaze" is meant to be used for media usually. Though I appreciate your good intentions. I think ogling can be disrespectful too. Even if the person being ogled doesn't mind it, it's a good baseline to not ogle anyone because you'll never know how the other person feels until you ask them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/23 09:42 PM
6	Do you think parents are mostly to blame for lack of success in dating? Personality does change as you age and continues for your whole life. https://www.apa.org/monitor/julaug03/personality The research also acknowledges that willingly changing your personality is not easy. It is still difficult to do and takes a lot of work. However, people who are motivated to change are more likely to do so. https://www.purdue.edu/stepstoleaps/explore/well-being-tips/2023_0116.php I don't think you're necessarily wrong that you can be accountable and recognize your circumstances…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/23 05:27 AM
18	The 'Chad Cck Carousel is a Myth A blog post is not not a great resource for statistics. Look at the cited references. No direct links were provided to where they retrieved their information and one of their references is just Pinterest lol. Not even one mention of Tinder in the references. For all you know they are pulling numbers out of their ass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/23 01:57 AM
4	What do you think was the biggest influence in your life that led you to taking your pill? Love your response! I also think not having socialization from a large variety of people is a huge factor in as to why some men fall down the pill rabbit hole. It gets worse when a lot of them have had some misfortune in their lives and bad experiences they haven't healed from. The pill space offers a place for these guys to vent about their shared experiences, albeit rather in an unhealthy and unproductive way. A lot of these guys really need more kindness and friendship. Anecdotally, one of my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/23 07:40 PM
1	Key Issue For Most People in Attracting Who They Want is Lack of Self Awareness and Entitlement With both Genders. No. Men have agency. You choose who you approach. You have the initial choice. Dating and relationships are and will always a two-way-street/agreement between two people. Saying you don't have any choice as men is how the manosphere pushes men to have scapegoats and avoid accountability and responsibility for all their choices. Your options are who you ask and, in the end, it will never a guarantee everybody will want or like you. Being responsible and accountable is understanding that concept a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/23 06:54 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Disco Elysium has huge female fan base. Assassin's Creed is also just poorly written historical fan fiction too idk why you think that's peak gaming. So much fart sniffing with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/23 11:38 PM
3	Sex is extremely important to people and when they say it's not, they're lying. False dichotomy argument.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/23 09:48 PM
15	Questions regarding the male gaze This isn't quite what the term "male gaze" means. "Male gaze" as a term refers to the way media presents women from a hetero male perspective. Usually in an overly sexual and sometimes objectified matter. However to answer what you're asking: I don't usually mind being looked at as long as his eyes don't linger too long or if they are more tact about it. Yes, I get uncomfortable if I'm starred at too long. This varies with context. If it's a stranger, just a glance is appropriate. If it's my boy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/23 11:36 PM
2	Why don’t short man and tall woman date each other This is my relationship. I'm taller than average for a woman and my partner is shorter than average for a man. I'm 3 inches taller than him and we've been together for nearly a decade. From my anecdotal experience, I've had multiple men explicitly tell me they wanted to date me but thought I was too tall for them. My partner has definitely been harassed over his height before by both men and women, but I don't know to what extent for his past relationships. He's been in more than I have. In gene…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 11:54 PM
2	Do you guys even like women? Why? I appreciate the vulnerability in your comment. I hope you can heal and surround yourself with loving and understanding people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/23 05:25 PM
5	Do you guys even like women? Why? Objective opinion is an oxymoron. Objective definition: "not influenced by personal feelings or opinions in considering and representing facts." Opinion definition: "a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge." You can't be objective about your opinions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/23 04:45 PM
3	How do you justify asking for a woman with a low body count, if yours is high? And to be clear: the preference itself isn't hypocritical, it's the moral judgment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/23 11:39 PM
2	How do you justify asking for a woman with a low body count, if yours is high? Dimorphic traits aren't behaviors. Promiscuity is a behavior. With your example, you could also say men are hypocritical that they want someone with a vagina because men have penises, but no one argues that. The premise that it's hypocritical doesn't align with the definition of hypocrisy: "the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not" To make your example a hypocritical statement that works, it would be a 5'2" women saying it's bad to sleep wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/23 11:38 PM
0	How do you justify asking for a woman with a low body count, if yours is high? It is hypocrisy. These are behaviors both sexes can participate in. Therefore it is placing an arbitrary moral judgement and rules on women for something a man also can do based on a pseudo-intellectual bio essentialist belief and appeal to nature fallacy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/23 10:52 PM
3	Would Men's Drive for Achievement and Success be the same without women ?? What about wanting to make their fathers proud? I know men who want their father's approval too. Or their male peers. Or themselves. Saying it's only relates back women is very reductive to human psychology and, honestly, disrespectful to men as a whole. This view more likely stems from projecting personal low self-esteem onto others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/23 06:48 PM