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Being not picked by women unlike other hot guys implies you are unappealing , lacklustre or out right disgusting. & It hurts . This gutting pain continues for years or decades with no guarantee of improvement. And after securing a pay check these men don’t finally want to shove their penis inside women by paying them . It only feels nil. They want is to DESIRED by women organically , genuinely a experience they were starved off and their accumulated pain of years doesn’t let them rationalise int…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:50 PM
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Yeah that makes sense. I’m not saying this automatically removes resentment. Some people will just reframe it as “this proves my point” like you said. My point is more that without any experience, the resentment tends to get worse because everything stays abstract and idealized in their head. At least with some real experience, there’s a chance it becomes more grounded and less obsessive. And yeah, it can go both ways some people soften, some double down. I’m just saying it gives them a chance t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:57 PM
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That’s kinda my point though. The guys I’m talking about didn’t have pretty privilege when it actually mattered, so they were locked out from the start. And yeah, they might get questions or less acceptance doing it later but they’re already dealing with that feeling of being left out anyway. It’s not like they’re choosing between perfect options. I’m not saying they can recreate that same phase. But even getting some experience later can help them stop feeling like they missed out completely an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:49 PM
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Read the edit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:42 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:41 PM
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How easy is it for women to get casual sex with someone they desire? Exponentially Much easier than your avg man can . It’s upto women’s choice to try their chance or not , believe me on man on earth will reject free sex . A common trope among a lot of men is that women who enjoy casual sex can just hop on an app, find someone conventionally good looking have fun with them whenever they want. While the average men will have to face a lot of rejections I hope we agree on the fact that women desir…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:29 PM
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as well as feeling strong affection beyond the sexual... Affection and sexual are directly proportional the more she is sexually attracted to you the more she can be genuinely affectionate . There isn’t anything like affection beyond sexual . Its not that deep .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:30 AM
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Do women from the very get go look for these DEEPLY PERSONAL AND REVEALING relationships ? If not then whats stopping them ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:18 AM
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But all that actually matters is if said man is actually happy in a relationship. If it fulfills him, he'll be happy and he'll feel desired,even if he didn't get to have casual sex with her The men in question are avg to below avg men , if they were denied any kind of casual sex it speaks more about their looks than women . Why do you think after being invisible and sexually not liked for decade by women how would any of it change after marriage ? Why shouldn’t they be worried about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:14 AM
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Its looks they never had that meant denial from casual sex , why do you think they should not care about being truly desired sexual /physically by a women ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:08 AM
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I'm not interested in the role of the caring and sweet guy. Or even the courageous and decisive one. I want to be sexy to a woman. This is live only chad or small minority of men can have . To be sexy to a women is to good looking which majority of men aren’t born with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:54 AM
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What I believe lots of people could objectively agree on is that men and women alike are suffering from the prevailing gender roles and expectations how are women suffering from gender expectations when we have most women single by choice , implying more freedom and respect for women’s choices than ever . Women can advance in career, achieve financial independence, full-fill intimacy and romantic desires simply from their endless ocean of options . I don’t understand why would you put men and wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:08 AM
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Ironically -women need sexuality to attract men ( high body count men avoid them as whores ). Men need Job ( money ) to attract women . I have read this type of comment multiple times .I would like to know what does ‘ MORE THAN’ in your comment means and how it helps men get women ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 09:17 AM
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Hypergamy is relative , if a women dumps her short boyfriend for a taller guy then whats wrong with saying its Hypergamy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:50 PM
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Bruh that statistic might not be true but isn’t the point he making solid ? Ain’t most women and top percentile of men drowning while Majority of men starve ? These bottom men have no way out except grind , until then its radio silence .
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:31 AM
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Then who are ? Criminal and chads with no human decency ? Its not who gets the women , its who gets the women’s highest sexual interest .
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 02:21 AM
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Then who are ? Criminal and chads with no human decency ? Its not who gets the women , its who gets the women’s sexual interest .
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 02:20 AM
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Women i know have indeed married men higher than them in financial bracket . Women choosing someone higher than them is so fundamental to their attraction towards their spouse Its undeniable its a fact . This has left huge number of struggling as their desired women often highly probably outdoes them in education followed by money. But what about women who marry within and below their financial bracket . Is it man higher in financial bracket inducing comparatively higher sexual attraction in a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:44 AM
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It took quite a while to write this post , don’t drag it that way . Go away shooo
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:59 AM
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🫩🤞it truly sucks man .
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:56 AM
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My original answer would give you stroke reading since I’m not english so i told chat gpt to rephrase it - I think this argument overlooks an important reality about incentives in dating and society. In theory, yes everyone should be self-sufficient and then just “team up.” That sounds clean and logical. But in practice, attraction and social expectations don’t always align with that ideal. Men, whether we like it or not, are still largely judged by their ability to provide value financial, soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 12:51 PM
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Bruh There’s an irony people don’t talk about being unattractive as a man can be far more isolating and psychologically damaging than people acknowledge. Many women may never fully understand what it feels like to be completely invisible to go years, even decades, without attention, affection, or validation. For some men, traits like height, facial features, or even race can feel like a biological dead end in terms of attraction. That kind of prolonged silence and rejection takes a real mental t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 04:45 PM
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What about my post is problematic ? I will change it .
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:48 AM
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What is troubling you the most - A) Is it hard for you to handle the fact you will never be the GUY 1 for her ? B) Or is it that she had fun sex with Guy 1 previously that she is now charging premium for from you without ever reciprocating that sexual attraction ? And you absolutely hate it. C) Or its more about you than women , that you missed on the chad life , not having genuine organic sexual attractiveness these chads have ? and you just resent missing out on chad life more than missing out…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:40 AM
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True dawg, I guess I gotta grind through the acceptance arc
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:14 PM
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If you want to present me gratefulness, I should say I don’t need to imagine myself as an unattractive woman to realize how better off I am. I’m in the medical field and I see families, children, people mauled, crushed, ripped apart in accidents and violent cases, and people with terminal illnesses. Meeting them daily, talking to them, hearing them talk about future while knowing that this person might be dead in a month is pretty hard to handle, especially when they are children. So I think I g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:11 PM
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I’m quite a nerd so my social circle is pretty small. Most of my friends are average or above in looks, so our situations are different and they can’t really guide me much on this. But I do know a few guys with similar attributes as me who seem to have game going for them. I guess I should probably talk to them and see what they’re doing differently
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:03 PM
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My guy… that seems a bit extreme. I’m frustrated but I’m not trying to drop out of society or live like the world is my enemy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:59 PM
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I’ve been consistent with the gym for about 6 months now. I wasn’t really overweight before, but I’m getting a bit more in shape now. As for clothes, my style is pretty simple and humble, nothing flashy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:03 AM
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I don’t think sex itself is my main life goal, but I think the feeling of being unwanted or rejected is what affects me more. After a while it starts to mess with how you see yourself. About the pressure, I’m not sure if it’s from society or mostly from my own mind. I’m trying to focus on my career and build a good future, but this part of life still gets to me sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:58 AM
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Welcome to manhood. Life is already a bitch, don't end up marrying one. Lol Here's some free internet advice: The man who has learned to control his mouth, his stomach, and his penis has already solved 90% of his problems. I got the penis part but what does mouth mean ? Like your express your self less or keep thing private ? And stomach must mean gluttony, right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:54 AM
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Ngl I sometimes think like this when I’m in post-nut clarity. In those moments I feel very rational and calm, and I can accept everything about a woman’s past. Nothing feels like a big problem and I’m full of optimism. But once I go through the day that mindset fades. Seeing attractive people and couples brings the insecurity back little by little, and sometimes it feels like women already set boundaries with me through their words or actions. Even if it’s subtle, it can feel like disgust someti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:49 AM
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I tried the gym for a while and honestly the positivity after an intense workout carries through the day and affects other parts of life too. It was a really motivating experience. About sexual experience though, that part feels harder. Even women around my own looks level seem to have many guys trying to talk to them online and offline , so I still end up getting shut down . Gotta keep trying i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:40 AM
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Alright, I’ll try that and see where it goes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:32 AM
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I get your point. Health and financial stability are important and that’s basically what I’m trying to focus on with my studies and career right now , hopefully i manage them better .
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:30 AM
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I’m not a native speaker. Im still improving
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:16 AM
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i just had a thought its randoms , what if what if the hypergamy of women is eugenic in nature to some extent , does that mean they worship the Swastik in secret? Are all these females secretly neo-zi? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:03 AM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 01:58 AM
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I guess you’re right ,the gaslighting from women never ends , thus TRP lives. I get that but i think women often have to conceal their preferences because being completely honest could provoke anger or resentment from men who haven’t grasped their social position. That said, i think its not wrong to say the burden ultimately falls on men to recognise their place in reality and act accordingly because if they don’t, someone else will point it out for them, and it won’t be a pretty encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 01:36 AM
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DAM … your last paragraph is so on point and hits so hard. Everything just clicked for me. Upvoting this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 01:19 AM
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Not justified, but true, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:51 AM
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Hard facts, life doesn’t hand out pies .
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:46 AM
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This isn’t about redpill orthodoxy. It’s about belief formation under repeated outcomes. If that reads as incoherent, the issue probably isn’t the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:37 PM
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I agree life isn’t fair. And I’m not arguing everyone should expect to “win the same game.” But for most people, wanting intimacy and a partner isn’t some shallow aspirational lifestyle it’s a basic human desire. Telling someone to just redefine success doesn’t really address what repeated exclusion does to them psychologically. That’s the part I’m focusing on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:06 PM
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Feeling lonely and wanting a partner is absolutely a valid reason to feel sad. But recognizing patterns in your repeated experiences isn’t the same thing as “coping with graphs.” Humans naturally try to make sense of outcomes. When certain results repeat over time, people don’t just feel sad they form explanations. That’s what I’m talking about. And for some men, that explanation ends up being TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:05 PM
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Blaming women for everything is obviously lazy and destructive. I’m not defending that. My point wasn’t about giving men someone to hate. It was about asking what repeated rejection and exclusion does psychologically over time. If someone’s lived experience keeps reinforcing the same outcome, they’re going to form beliefs around it whether those beliefs are healthy or not. Explaining why something spreads like TRP isn’t the same as endorsing its worst behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:01 PM
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Accepting that life isn’t equal doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect people. We accept smarter people score higher. That doesn’t mean someone who repeatedly fails won’t internalize it in ways that erode their self-worth, distort their sense of value, and reshape how they see their place in the world. And that’s what my post was about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:58 PM
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Bot
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 08:58 AM
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you focus on quantity, being served at a buffet where there are only few scraps that are actually edible and competing with other women for it is not different to men competing for scraps Exactly thats what im fucking talking about out of vast majority of men availabe theres onyl few you find edible and thats natural selections and thats Fucking RED PILL You dont want me to call out womens leverage as leverage and you dont even Want the men left out if sexual selection to dare blame it on women …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:48 AM
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If not nature pill then what should these men who are biologically compromised think of their situation such that it doesn’t offend women as a group
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:18 AM
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Okay, I admit comparing it that way was a bad choice 💀let’s look at it in isolation. Men face disproportionate scarcity of options in dating, and that often gets ignored. I’m not saying women should be forced to date someone they dislike obviously consent matters. But within the current dating landscape, there’s a clear imbalance of leverage. Women can often choose freely; many men can’t unless they have money, looks, or status. That’s exactly why Red Pill dynamics emerge. If you don’t want men …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:32 AM
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If women are willing to go without rather than date men they don’t want, that’s just sexual selection doing its thing. I was probably naive to think this was something that could be fixed socially. Some outcomes aren’t fair they’re just nature at work. Guess we’re rolling out the red carpet for the Nature Pill. Turns out the final pill isn’t red or blue it’s the Nature Pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:59 PM
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I hope i could fix it , well tbh they are fucked How about i say it like this - maybe those men are the problem? And its just sexual selection , well at least thanks to responsible women who will not let these men pass down the PROBLEM. Im part of the problem gang too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:54 PM
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chillllll mam , i no way meant the way you took it , i meant what should we do to enforce positive equal dating experience for men , in no way girls owe them sex nor optionality but can we let them slide into dark TRP portal where they end up hurt wounded up bitter full of misogyny ? Part of the issue is how some men interpret the dating domain. TRP appeals because it explains something many people across all “pills” refuse to say: leverage in dating is real, and without guidance, men are back i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:32 PM
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I used 2000 as an approximate marker for when women’s sexual liberation started gaining real momentum globally. The world isn’t America life is harsher outside, and traditional gender roles are more deeply embedded. That’s why the shift can be harder to visualize until economic growth and societal change make it more apparent. For what it’s worth, 2000 isn’t a bad global estimate and btw, the post isn’t about numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:28 PM
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Yep 😏 unlimited sausages, yet somehow the eggplant’s the one that catches my eye Btw r u vegetarian or more of carnivore .
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:13 PM
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Totally. You should never feel pressured to be with someone you’re not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:04 PM
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Yeah, sorry if it came off that way. But seriously what can be done to give men the same optionality women enjoy, without them sliding into TRP? Or do you think men shouldn’t have that kind of leverage, and just let things take their course which basically ends up endorsing the Red Pill dynamics we see all around? Because, at its essence, Red Pill is just how people behave when they hold leverage in dating nothing more, nothing less. Optionality creates power, and power shapes behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:59 PM
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Attraction being narrow doesn’t negate leverage; it just means standards exist. Optionality is what allows those standards and that optionality isn’t evenly distributed between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:49 PM
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I’m not framing equality as “one side winning” in some absolute sense. I’m talking about relative advantage within a specific domain dating access not overall life risk or suffering. Yes, women face serious risks like pregnancy and violence. Those are real and important. But pointing to those risks doesn’t actually answer the question of whether current dating norms systematically advantage women in terms of access and choice, just like pointing to men’s workplace deaths wouldn’t invalidate wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:14 PM
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I think you’re responding to some related points, but not really to the core question I was asking. I’m not saying people shouldn’t have preferences or that individual women should be blamed for their standards. My point is about consistency: in the past, women openly criticized men as a group for benefiting from dating norms that advantaged them, and that critique was seen as valid and worth examining. Today, when men criticize modern dating norms that seem to disadvantage them (at the level of…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:12 PM
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What inequality is in dating nowadays? The inequality is of options by gender , options for romance for sex and for trying relationships just a swipe away . From what i see it is the "the person i'm attracted to is not attracted to me" and both sexes experience it. So it is equal. person you like doesnt like you back , well it isnt equal its deeper , more than statistics your anecdotal experience should tell you lot of men arent truly sexual appealing and this phenomenon is more real and common …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:04 PM
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If you don’t care whether I agree, that’s fine but then don’t avoid the actual question. I’m asking how having significantly more options in dating is not an advantage in the dating space. Saying “my mind is made up” isn’t an argument, it’s just a way to exit without addressing the point. If options aren’t winning, then explain what is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:23 AM
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You’re changing the frame. We’re not talking about the job market or physical labor we’re talking specifically about dating dynamics. Mixing in workplace risk to dodge a discussion about dating leverage is shooting at the bartender, not the target. Different domains, different power structures. Let’s stick to the one actually being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:22 AM
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So unless there’s formal oppression or explicit rules, you’re saying unequal outcomes aren’t even worth discussing? That seems like a very convenient cutoff. Inequality doesn’t stop mattering just because it emerges organically. Take biology in dating: men, on average, are far less sexually desired than women and don’t have the same optionality. That isn’t something men chose, voted for, or can opt out of yet it produces a dynamic where one side has overwhelming leverage and the other competes f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:18 AM
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Dating wasn’t equal before either men had far more economic and social power, and women’s choices were constrained. Would you still defend that imbalance the same way you’re defending the current one now? No one is saying women should sleep with men they don’t want. The question is why inequality was loudly criticized when it favored men , but treated as untouchable or beyond discussion when it doesn’t .
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:10 AM
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I genuinely don’t understand how having a multitude of options for sexual, romantic, and committed relationships can be framed as “not winning,” especially when we’re specifically talking about dating. If access to options doesn’t count as advantage in the dating domain, then what exactly does?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:59 AM
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Delulu is solulu
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:28 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 12:27 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:35 AM
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I don’t get what you mean Ofc men unattractive men WHO DO NOT FALL INTO ATTRACTIVE CATEGORY are not doing fine. What “everything “ i said is irrelevant? Please explain
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:21 PM
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ofc what you are saying is just basic visible reality , what I’m trying to present is most men truly genuinely underestimate the optionality women have in todays online world and for that reason even considerably good men get continuously ignored and they internalise it as they being the flaw and they keep doubling down on such negative perceptions of their self as the rejection keeps going on , they feel they are specially or uniquely ugly , repulsive , disgusting when infant true disgust is ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:58 AM
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English is not my 1st language I wrote the comment in its entirety and asked GPT to only articulate it , to level of native English speakers . My intention were to present my thoughts properly and not as a mess
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:32 PM
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I get where your frustration is coming from, but I think it’s being aimed at the wrong group of men. The dynamics you’re describing are largely driven by a relatively small subset of men who have frequent and easy access to sex — the ones who can afford to lie, pump-and-dump, or cycle through partners without consequence. They’re the ones creating most of the negative experiences you’re talking about. For women, learning to vet harder after those experiences makes total sense. The issue is that …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 06:29 PM
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The hard truth is that this isn’t really about you failing to measure up on some checklist of “most attractive traits.” It’s that you’re trying to operate in a dating market where women live in a completely different reality than the average man can even comprehend. Most women today—especially with online dating and social media—exist in an environment of constant optionality. Even average women have more sexual and romantic access than most men ever will. DMs, matches, attention, validation—it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:26 PM
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Attraction not being binary doesn’t really resolve the issue men are pointing to. Sure, some men are genuinely desired by a small subset of women — but the problem is that access to desire is still highly skewed. For many men, being “someone’s type” is more theoretical than real, and the lived experience is still that sexual interest shows up rarely or conditionally. Also, explanations like “he gives relationship vibes,” “seems judgmental,” or “gets attached too fast” tend to put the burden back…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:25 AM
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I think being with an agreeable women might help the relationship run smoother, but I doubt it fixes the issue of not being desired. Being easy to live with isn’t the same as being wanted. And respect feels like a different thing altogether. I do think respect can reinforce attraction if there was any to begin with, and in that case it probably helps with the sting. But if desire was never really there, respect alone doesn’t replace it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:34 AM
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Its very uncomfortable admitting that strong sexual attraction isn’t evenly distributed and that many men will never inspire it easily. Even if that arrangement keeps society stable, it doesn’t erase the emotional reality for men who realize they’re valued more for reliability than desire. It also kind of sucks to admit that most men aren’t going to experience love and desire the way it’s sold to them. Movies, music, and stories push this blue-pill idea that if you’re good enough, love will just…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:57 AM
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You’re describing attraction leading first, relationships forming naturally, and desire fading only when deeper issues showed up — not some switch from “lust” to “settling.” I don’t think TRP fits experiences like yours very well, and that’s important to acknowledge. Where I think the disconnect happens is that men who struggle aren’t reacting to women like you, but to the fact that attraction feels unevenly distributed. For some men, desire never really shows up in the first place, so they try …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:31 PM
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That makes sense, Starting with attraction and casual sex and then seeing where it goes is pretty common, and it doesn’t automatically map onto AFBB. I also agree that a lot of men turn it into a rigid story because of insecurity rather than evidence. Where I think men still struggle, though, is that access to attraction isn’t evenly distributed. For some men, sexual interest comes easily; for others it barely comes at all. AFBB sticks not because it’s universally true, but because it gives lang…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:25 PM
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Yeah, this is closer to what a lot of men actually observe. Attraction and commitment aren’t the same thing, and when reality hits after college, priorities shift hard. Looks get you access, money and stability keep you around. That doesn’t mean women are evil, but it does mean desire and provisioning are separate levers. The uncomfortable part for average men is realizing how conditional attraction can be — remove resources and the relationship gets shaky fast, while highly attractive men retai…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:13 PM
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I think OP rationalized Red Pill in a way that works for him — it helps with sexual engagement instead of just stewing in resentment, which is a common path. That said, the truths Red Pill points out aren’t easy to handle, and the clarity it brings usually only comes after the chaos it enrages in a man has settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:40 PM
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I think part of the issue for these men is that they unfortunately don’t have the physical qualities that make women sexually attracted to them. So they are stuck watching women around them date and have relationships with men who, compared to themselves look much better . From their perspective ,every man a woman engages with starts to feel like a “Chad” or hot guy, even if that’s just relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:21 PM
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Wow, that actually sounds like a pretty straightforward “it just happened” story. No overthinking, no theory, just chemistry and timing — and it worked. Honestly, I respect that; sometimes attraction and connection don’t need to fit any pattern at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:07 PM
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Yeah, exactly — men without looks definitely face a disadvantage. What I think makes it worse nowadays is how much dating happens online, where women can swipe through hundreds of options. That shifts the selection heavily toward looks, and suddenly being visually appealing becomes almost a prerequisite just to get noticed at all
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:01 PM
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That’s fair. I think a lot of this anxiety is online-amplified — people reject TRP in theory but still absorb the doubt it spreads. Real-life experiences often don’t match the narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:08 PM
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I really appreciate you being this open about it. Hearing it stated honestly is more helpful than vague answers. It also helps explain why this topic hits a nerve for a lot of men — not because all women do this, but because some do, and from the outside there’s no easy way to tell who does and who doesn’t. I think this is where the emotional part comes in. When a guy realizes he might not inspire raw excitement but still checks the “long-term” boxes, it can sting, even if no one is doing anythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 12:51 PM
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I get what you’re saying about preferences forming through experience, and that early relationships aren’t some “first choice” ideal but often just what’s available while you’re figuring yourself out. That makes sense, and I don’t think most women are secretly pining for past flings or viewing later partners as consolation prizes. Most People walk away from early experiences for a reason, just like with jobs, styles, or anything else you grow out of with time . Where the anxiety comes in i think…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:31 AM
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honestly, that surprised me. For most men, I think that level of exposure would create resentment and comparison in exactly the way red pill talks about, rather than clarity. You’re looking at it as leverage; many would experience it as emotional overload.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:18 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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