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Debateb_berry458/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:06 AM
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I used to sometimes think like this. But actually nm they are both equally insane/bad so it cancelled in the end and they worked it out. Two wrongs do make a right 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:38 PM
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When me and bf match 💖
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:54 PM
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I’d say I think ppl are allowed to have any crazy covert contract they want but it’s not your responsibility to worry about it. Being delulu is not immoral but it is unfortunate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:41 PM
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Hot nerds please
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:35 PM
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Best goss with the gals: My friend got invited to meet her husbands coworker with him for a drink at the pub. They show up, she informs them this is actually also a first date for her ?double booked idk (the man had asked her out 3 times and she finally agreed). The guy arrives and she hands my friend and her husband her phone opened to page on notes app titled ‘questions for mike’, and asks them to read out questions for not-Mike. She gets pissed that they are asking ‘only the easy ones’ and so…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:33 PM
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Love it best aunt 👏⚽️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:13 PM
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Something on this topic I’ve been thinking about is the disempowering of women’s ability to give consent in certain circumstances. Do you think this is fair to women? If they actively want to consent. Eg your examples of differences in position, dependence and I can think of others
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:32 PM
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For sure
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:49 AM
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Guilt is sometimes the motivating emotion behind toxic/unhelpful behaviour and it’s funny because it ends up building on itself
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:42 AM
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These women are just sad. You know how nice guys lash out when sad? Sad women say crazy stuff too. They are not asking for actual repercussions, consequences etc. Maybe they need some grace here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:26 AM
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Idk either
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:08 AM
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Sorry babe I have mothers group (secret meeting at union headquarters)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:57 PM
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Songs, letters and drawings omg triple combo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:07 PM
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Hmmm anything that is puppy dog energy cute but desperate perhaps
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:07 PM
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QFW: what is the simp-iest behaviour you’ve received from someone you’ve dated? Early stages or later is fine My husband bought a motorbike recently off a rich guy on FB marketplace, I’ve never seen this man simp so hard in his life, jealous fr. Quadruple texting, stalking this man, checking his phone constantly stressing. I remember though back in the day he used to only message me on snap chat text since I’d be forced to reply instantly (gaming my bad memory). I complained about this so he wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:54 PM
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Are you making women cry again
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:33 PM
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Ppl live in the real world so they know if someone ‘promises’ commitment for sex they are actually ‘intending’ it in practicality. Thats implied right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:19 PM
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I’ve got it downloaded I’m ready 🍿
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:31 PM
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Idk how often do ppl ‘promise’ commitment for sex unless they are saving it till marriage though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:28 PM
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I’ve been wanting to watch it I’ll have to
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:23 PM
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Samesies but I’ll try convince the genie my fave hobby is cleaning or something
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:15 PM
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Uh oh im in trouble. I won’t do it again 😇 probably
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:12 PM
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Goals
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:36 AM
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1st🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:18 AM
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It’s all spam but I do struggle since I also use messenger, IG DM’s, WhatsApp and my mum loves to contact me on all platforms at once
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:14 AM
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My fave active comphet user deleted his account sadly after I sent him a tik Tok of a horny grandma (definitive proof of straightness). Either he was convinced or I scared him idk
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:10 AM
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Maybe men should be more complimentary to themselves, they can call themselves king for booking doctors appointment if they want, like this is an optional thing. I will call my husband king for minor accomplishments lol. Now I think of it men never follow up on health issues or take their meds. Go to the doctor we beg you. So maybe self care?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:55 AM
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This is why women love finance bros
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:46 AM
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506 unread wb you guys
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:13 AM
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He seems young she seems weird. I’m going to start using ‘be safe’ I like that kinda ominous
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:06 AM
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I genuinely feel so sorry for men that you can’t wear leggings as pants. I like flared leggings since they are slightly closer to real pants tho
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:14 PM
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NOT BREEDABLE tf lol she’s funny
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:13 PM
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My delulu is telling me I could take you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:36 PM
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Should we start doing clothing hauls
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:32 PM
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So hard to choose 😰
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:31 PM
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Russian roulette birth control lol My friend is the exact same as you her baby is 2 months old now. I don’t think she ever tracked either and they lasted quite a few years
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:28 PM
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Bro u need ur eyes checked you’re not first 🙂‍↔️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:42 AM
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Is BB like dead bedroom LTR vs AF LTR is opposite?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:30 AM
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Wdym can you explain
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:19 AM
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The poor like to feel better about themselves. The real rich yearn to suffer, they are bored 🙂‍↕️☕️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:39 AM
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Take antihistamine tablets
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:51 AM
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Hmmm interesting see an optom or opthal not GP. Steroids are a bit much for dry eye I’m guessing that’s what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:47 AM
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What steroids are they giving u normally? PAA/polyvisc at night is soo good for me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:38 AM
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Fml mogged again
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:34 AM
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That is an ideal problem to have but also how did you not realise hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:02 AM
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LOL how good
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:59 PM
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You are so right imo. I totally did take advantage of the fact I wouldn’t get some kind of reputation when travelling and also I was already in ‘fun’ mode when travelling so the reasons overlapped
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:19 PM
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When I was younger I exclusively used ;) when texting instead of :) in all contexts because ‘it was cuter’. I think that might be why I had so many lesbian friends
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:44 PM
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Incelligence can be endearing but only if they got real intelligence somewhere in there too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:33 PM
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It will be beautiful! I don’t regret any money I spent on my wedding, even a simple one costs a bit these days. There is more to the story in that in my family culture displays of success kinda vibes is very frowned on idk if you’ve heard of tall poppy syndrome. I got push back from some of my family ‘why can’t you just get a 2nd hand dress?’ And others ‘you need more x decorations’. So truly nothing us women can do will make everyone happy. Just do what you like
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:29 PM
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Yep basically illegal haha. My bridesmaids I just told them a colour but they chose themselves. Ooo nice we did DIY some of our florals thank god my bridesmaid had done it before and is more organised than me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:14 AM
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For real. People lose their minds too ‘no arbor!? Are you sure??’
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:50 AM
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$16
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:38 AM
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For you yes 💖 but spell results may vary
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:36 AM
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The power of the wedding industry over the tik tok girlies is crazy. My favourite is the girl I followed who recently got married and paid a tik tok witch so it wouldn’t rain on her wedding. I can’t stop thinking about it and I’ve realised there is a great business opportunity here.. would u guys like some spells ✨💸 (5 star Etsy reviews only sorry or I hex you)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:28 AM
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Smart. She can’t call for hr too if she is HR
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:27 AM
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God damn the ladies love u too much after experiencing your skills. Excellent humble brag
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:29 AM
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Feeling righteous gives permission to be spiteful and shitty. IRL I play dumb with them which seems to give me pretty good immunity to say what I want
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:04 AM
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I feel like other random social conventions would pop up and people will enjoy complaining about those instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:32 AM
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I’m okay with them complaining, I love reading a spicy rant or vent myself. I fear a little bit for people reading it who are too naive to see jaded venting for what it is. Esp if they are a young and impressionable. If you want to do specific campaigns that’s great I literally never participate in any political campaigns so I probably won’t do anything tho
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:50 PM
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Opposite experience to you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:39 PM
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I think you’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:26 PM
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Disagree. If something is a lil crazy about them or unconventional it can be kind of a fun thing but might discount them from a proper LTR for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:15 PM
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15 and I worked a fair amount
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:06 PM
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Red flag. I would possibly be open minded to new things but pressuring is weird and gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:59 PM
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If I let him I would then go keep increasing my n count so he can never quite keep up. Very European of us
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 04:06 AM
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I love bananas myself but better cut up or mashed
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:47 AM
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Body building ok haha I see why u were with him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:03 PM
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What’s he up to these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:56 PM
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Congrats! 💍
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:53 PM
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In this hypothetical I have really bad memory as a general rule let’s say less than 10
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:39 PM
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Yes, I did download an app though yesterday for cheaper beer and dinner so I got suckered
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:36 PM
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How old were you both?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:34 PM
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Ofc my liege
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:34 PM
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If you run into her again and she’s so different you don’t realise it’s the same chic it’s 2 to your count
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:30 PM
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Get it together
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:10 PM
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Babe -> bro pipeline
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:10 PM
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I’m assuming that’s a typo you mean can’t. Uhh some people definitely can
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:05 PM
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You only have to lower your standards if you can’t get what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:53 PM
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I’m okay with lies that are more unimportant and low stakes, or if they have secrets they have to hold for other people. Me and my husband/friends will sometimes admit ‘I would lie to you about x’ so then it’s up to that person to continue the relationship knowing some things are withheld. If they are so good at lying about a particular secret that I never find out and no consequences then honestly possibly idc. Most people close to me can read me pretty easily so if I lie I’m just messing aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:37 PM
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Is it worse to have a lowish n count but it’s a range because you never counted or got names so it’s a bit fuzzy or a high n count but you can recount their names, how you met etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:03 PM
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I think so
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:02 PM
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Okay I had a lot of brothers and I loved fighting to be so real. I didn’t hurt them but I had ways. Not ball kicking lol One did throw a punch once which I did catch and then uh push him down a few stairs maybe idk. He was fine and yea he shouldn’t have tried to punch me so I don’t feel bad. Maybe a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:42 PM
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Seems hot LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:34 PM
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Worth a try
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:30 AM
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Okay so whether you find men hot in the street or not we can all agree that we should ban those outdoor gyms right like what the hell are those about. I can’t walk in these conditions. Where are your shirts
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:12 AM
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So beautiful bro 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:48 AM
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Oh yes sis
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:35 AM
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Ovulating yes or like if I interact for a bit yes. Sadly for me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:28 AM
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I’ve been doing souvlaki recently too very yum
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:30 AM
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If you keep a situationship girl or friendzone boy with sad puppy energy in your life that’s fine but they may try to emotionally manipulate you at some point or act crazy. Comes with the territory
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:29 AM
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I wanna be like you you’re my motivation this weekend thank u
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:26 AM
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That does not sound good bro
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:50 PM
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😩🔥hottie
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:48 PM
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How clean is your house/living space rn? Are you tidier than your partner if you have one? The problem with me and my husband is both being unbothered by untidiness. I’ve overcome this by regularly inviting people over since I get motivation to make it nice for them.. I’m also ok with him nagging me because I need external motivation LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:34 PM
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My friends care so much about the opening message and overthink their reply so much. I think me and my husband were like ‘hi’ and ‘hi’ back tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:25 PM
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I also think an interesting point is - I’m not necessarily the ‘cleaner’ person in our relationship, we’re pretty equal for cleanliness. I will also empty the bin ofc but I love stupid games like this I confess
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:04 PM
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I usually announce that I am going to start doing the bins around here because it’s getting out of control or something and then make a show to go to do it. Then he runs over. I love reverse psychology 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:44 AM
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Yes. My anxiety as a child was also not really treated by therapy in my opinion, it was 100% because the therapist told my parents to change schools and they did that for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:56 AM
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I knew 1 proper passport wife, she semi openly slept with other men and was definitely not attracted to her husband. He was quite overweight to be fair
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:03 AM
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I’m so goddamn lazy, I like clothes shopping but I have lots of nice clothes now. Pilates I buy bulk packs. Skincare is basic. I get a nice brand shampoo? Most of the budget would be nice brand clothes or event wear when I want to splurge
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:16 AM
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Just dance at a club for like 5 mins
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:46 PM
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Gotta try it at least
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:46 PM
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Man I feel this so much
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:41 PM
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I am so good at depop, you gotta buy, wear and then resell for same price lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:35 PM
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Totally
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:21 AM
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😳
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:21 AM
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Wb if I call myself a codependent boss bitch instead
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:44 AM
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So many possibilities. ?taken ?bad driver ?uses reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:34 AM
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Can you join the meeting from bed lol ‘camera broken’
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:27 AM
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For me: Attractive looks + bland personality = no chemistry = he doesn’t care = friends Unattractive looks + fun personality = emotional chemistry = friendzone with emotional damage
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 10:36 PM
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She doesn’t need to eat obvi 💖 just watch her fat ass bf
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:33 PM
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Yea I’m so confused by this. If you suspect foul play in any part of life you are allowed to do an investigation (personally I’d be discrete), people don’t usually want to blow up their life without evidence normally. Asking the woman directly is just a very blunt investigation tactic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:29 PM
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Girls love a bad boy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:19 PM
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The migrants are going to prevent aging population for us personally. They also prop up lots of industries. Culture fit I kinda get
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:10 PM
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I don’t downvote anyone here actually. I also don’t want bad for men. I’m just pointing out the game theory that men who opt out are providing an advantage for those that don’t. Do what you want or not with that perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:34 PM
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If those men didn’t get matches I’d say it doesn’t impact the dating market. If they were guys getting matches, I guess that’s good news for the 75% of men users with slightly less competition
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:30 AM
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If men are opting out why do the ladies get so many matches
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:06 AM
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Each couple works out what’s a fair exchange otherwise they wouldn’t be together. Gullible people who give away money for nothing are doomed to lose it. My female coworker lent tens of thousands to her ex, her new bf is clearly doing a citizenship marriage on her. If you fall for this stuff it’s on you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:35 AM
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I’d personally dump them for 2 reasons 1. Not convinced they are attracted to me 2. Too dumb to lie to me about it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:42 AM
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Being ugly in lower years of high school is character building but after that I’m not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:34 AM
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Feeling very mogged my work lunch is dire today
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:09 AM
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You gotta moisturise hourly
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:03 AM
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Yea very fair. I’ve seen it on white guys and Indian guys mostly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:52 PM
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I don’t actually hate but I will make fun of it lol. It can also be done in the hippy gardener type way, for some reason it seems to be contagious though between friends
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:24 PM
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My confession is I’m also an early bird I went to bed at 9pm but if I do a 6am class it takes me out haha and I don’t have babies as an excuse 🫣 but I force myself sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:09 PM
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I don’t think you’re wrong but also women cheat. So is it really a one way thing. Anecdotally I’ve seen women cheating just as much. Older generation women cheated but took the lying insanely seriously and came up with the most elaborate back stories
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:58 PM
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Uh huh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:49 PM
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Omg good on you, now I feel very lazy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:42 PM
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Another Aussie has spoken
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:32 PM
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Gotta send this to a few ppl I know LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:31 AM
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That’s very fair. If I reject someone I kind of don’t want to be friends with them either, so that makes it easy. I feel in my life friendly things I do after I reject someone are likely to get misinterpreted by accident and feelings are hard to squash. I guess it’s interesting if the only women you interact with are romantic pursuits. That might be the real problem
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:24 AM
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I see I think I agree but there is definitely a too thin also
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:49 AM
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<image> Exhibit A but I fear slight halo effect might be clouding this one
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:25 PM
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Moustaches: hot or not? at least half of Aussie guys are doing moustaches rn and I don’t know if I’m being desensitised into acceptance or if they are actually a good look, please tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:23 PM
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Ofc girly, hahaha gotta support local authors love that 🙂‍↕️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:56 PM
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Honestly love it and it’s so funny on the rewatch, I was definitely team vampire diaries back in the day though
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:45 PM
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Why does my husband look SO HOT with the aging filters and I look awful truly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:12 PM
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TMI for me to share with you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:37 AM
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I do look at mainstream porn and I’m fine with my husband watching it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:31 AM
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Yah it’s bad luck I was recently sold
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:42 PM
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So cute
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:13 PM
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👀
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:11 PM
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Can’t speak for other women but i’m not for sale atm
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:10 PM
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I want everyone at work to see my under eye bags so they know when they are stressing me out
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:50 PM
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Sadly I cannot do as many push ups. Last question is loaded. I guess the respect they have is for them to decide, no one can force it. But that doesn’t mean that it won’t make it hard for them to get by and interact well with others in society
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:35 AM
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Ok will try I swear 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:48 AM
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It’s cheap dopamine girly
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:35 AM
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😍
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:27 AM
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Net worth?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:41 AM
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Yeah hope you don’t mind
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:28 PM
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Horny jail for you all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:07 PM
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Better stay away from these rural women then
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:47 PM
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The feelings mutual with this bro
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:45 PM
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My friends all loved the Maldives? Honestly New Zealand is my favourite place ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:21 PM
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Yea definitely an ideal, it has trade offs. Could be temporary though not permanent and a few years when they are young might be worth it in grand scheme of career and life
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:43 AM
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I care more about lifestyle than money, that’s me. If my partner is extremely ambitious that’s his prerogative, but I’d still keep some work for the reasons mentioned
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:38 AM
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The industry I work in is very mother heavy and interestingly it’s really common for my coworkers with like 4 kids to keep 1-2 days of work long term as ‘days off’ from be a stay at home parent and they love coming in. Things are better in moderation. My industry is pretty good for that though
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:23 AM
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My personal ideal would be both partners work 4 days or maybe one works 3 other 4 if they can afford it. Every couple should choose but in theory sounds like a good arrangement and talking to coworkers. (After getting over early breastfeeding stage). My work allows part time and lots of office jobs are getting more open to it. Then you get both being able to be an ‘expert’ in childcare not just one. And no one is going stir crazy as full time stay at home parent. I do agree that being a full tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 05:49 AM
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It’s weird because the girls that came out as lesbian at my high school are all bi and only sleep with men now (all girls school tho). Reverse comphet?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:16 AM
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Hiking & nature photography, matcha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 07:52 PM
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Totally, do that. But the devil is in the details of ‘do that’. Getting what you want is typically harder than saying what you want. From my experience it involves compromise but if you don’t need to, then power to you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 07:26 PM
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Yes so true. Most people on this sub don’t seem to be at the stage of life to realise that male providing is not for the middle class any more and is virtually dead
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:13 AM
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Yes, something I’ve noticed my first orgasm is very fantasy/erotic thoughts based and then for multiple orgasms my mind enters like a ‘hypnotic state’ like less thoughts. Idk if that’s common
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:26 AM
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I’m with you girl
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:04 AM
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Being on BC for like 8 years straight made my orgasms less intense though I swear and I had other symptoms that stopped when I stopped it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:55 AM
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Okay I feel awful for saying this but I have orgasmed from thought alone (it’s not a regular thing for me though). Sorry to the ladies who have it rough
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:53 AM
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Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:07 AM
2

LOL bro if it was worth money you’d be rich
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:09 AM
2

Time zones are kinda inconvenient tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 01:34 AM
4

No more lore drops guys I’m going to be mysterious from now on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:37 AM
2

FML
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:36 AM
1

How does me too normally go for people in my defence
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:09 PM
1

I didn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:56 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:55 PM
1

Not that high up in the food chain
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:53 PM
2

I was a little nerd I swear
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:24 PM
4

Did anyone offer you guys full marks at uni in exchange for nudes or was that a me thing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:23 PM
1

Are u larping rn. Anyways, trash man 🗑️ unless he’s a hot anime boy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:21 PM
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The fact you use the phrase ‘spam this approach’ is just perfect and I love talking to nerdy guys since you come up with stuff like this. Keep it up, lower the IQ vibes by all means. (Idk if you can)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:02 AM
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It’s normally reserved for the girls that need to hear it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:55 AM
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Feels very AI
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:41 AM
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Most venting is being honest about what you don’t like, maybe problems can be solved together. The opposite of honesty is people pleasing. It erodes your boundaries and happiness. I think men should be more direct, women actually like it too since it shows self respect IMO. Okay maybe ‘like it’ is not true since they will react emotionally in the short term but they respect it more in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:08 AM
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Possibly. So should I vent less or men vent more. Which is healthier?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:28 PM
2

Also deafness can have a huge impact. They become way more irritable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:01 PM
2

GIRL this is driving me crazy at the moment. I gotta suck up so bad to the IT guy and he’s just dragging it on purpose at this point I swear to god
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:36 PM
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It’s so hard 😩 Yep I don’t think I will change my degrees haha I will accept multiple identifies forever
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:33 PM
2

I’m eldest in a big family and I feel veryy protective of them. I was always being the tough one lol they never had a reason to be protective of me I guess so I’m not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:26 PM
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It is way harder than I thought 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:14 PM
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You make a good point here dare I say
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:30 AM
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I have such an aversion to watching crime tv and books, but I like dark themes in romance. It’s not the same (for me). Like the actions of a serial killer are threatening to me on a level that it’s not sexy. I can so clearly see the difference, it’s hard for you guys to fully see women’s POV on this perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:24 AM
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Streakz
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:52 AM
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He wants a lobotomised gf but I’d argue it’s better for everyone if he’s the one to get the lobotomy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 09:34 PM
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Yea sure so situationships. It’s a known thing. ‘So why would a man immediately cut off a woman after sex’ I feel like you guys seem to lose your minds about this, but forget about situations when people feel strongly but there are practical problems though. Like what if they like you but their career means they have to leave the country in 6 months. One of you wants kids the other not. Or they position in relation to you makes it taboo like they are your tutor at uni/college. These situations a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:23 PM
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Definitely (for me). The ability to act on whatever impulse pops in your mind is usually only permitted in very specific scenarios. Most of the time there are barriers of some kind and you wouldn’t get very far in life if you always acted without care of consequences. Luckily for me ‘suitable man’ aligned with impulses so that part was never a problem for me once I found him. N-count wasn’t a big defining reason for restraint necessarily to clarify also.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:38 AM
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I have the perfect brain rot for this. Apologies in advance https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSCg5Fgyp/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:15 AM
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If you are not doing anything creepy like ignoring boundaries then stop thinking about that, if someone thinks your normal self is creepy then you’re not compatible friends anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:10 PM
1

Ummm interesting choice by him
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:07 PM
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Hmm yea unlucky. If you are looking for new non flakey friends I think they are more type A people usually. But type A people can be more boring in other ways
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:47 PM
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I don’t invest in relationships with flakey people. Listen to their actions, you can be friends but I wouldn’t get close with them. This is a friend selection thing I think Unlike family we get to actually choose our friends thank god
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:43 PM
1

Yes facts. I like those type shoes for work and hiking mostly because sadly bit ugly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:04 PM
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Mine was very wholesome and so were my friends. But I’ve heard of interesting stories through the grape vine
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:17 AM
1

Yah he’s right
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:53 AM
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I don’t think you should engage with boring people at all, I wouldn’t even read their threads. I need to save my brain cells
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:25 AM
2

I have tattoos, but in combo with abs and on the apps, fuck boy radar needs to be on alert
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:54 PM
1

The childish stuff on here is not productive but it’s just so entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:28 PM
1

The god stuff is A LOT
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:11 PM
4

Precisely
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:52 PM
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He can offer a full head of hair
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:56 PM
1

I will let them stay sometime if they are eating other bugs for me 🕷️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:42 PM
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The question could come off as not chill but that’s okay, maybe you need someone who is not chill 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:35 PM
1

Intrigued
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:47 PM
1

Checks out haha. I like spiders but cockroaches nope kill him
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:45 PM
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Guys with abs are fuck boys. Plus the tattoos. She has no hope I say fuck boys in a non judgemental way they are entitled to their fun. But for real girl talk that’s what I’d say
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:39 PM
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Progressive people have very strong all or nothing mentality that really puts people off. You must subscribe to all parts of progressive world view. The problem is then people will retaliate out of spite rather than based on the merit of actual policies etc
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:18 AM
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I’m totally okay with a clean cut cold approach with a yes/no question. It’s flattering. Staring and giving me crazy eyes is the problem. To be fair I’m mostly scared of actual crackheads not shy guys. If a shy guy was staring it would be cute. The guys I’m afraid of are literally insane crackheads who are on drugs or have no inhibitions so DGAF about your boundaries. That’s who I’m thinking of when I’m nervous on public transport for example
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 05:36 AM
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Not every man had a family to arrange a marriage for them or one that gave enough shits to bother. You had poor men, sick men, shunned men. Black sheep, the criteria to be a black sheep may certainly be harsher now imo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:43 PM
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Sure, I didn’t specify the frequency of rejection or anything in my comment though. Just pointing out that rejected men previously didn’t congregate
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:44 PM
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Rejected men have always existed. It’s a new thing that they can hang out together on masse and spiral together. I don’t know about the further consequences of this kind of talk but it seems like it might distort what could have been a phase for some men into a lifestyle. Some wacky beliefs they come up with too, at least red pill guys seem to have some sort of experience with the topics they talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:32 PM
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I am an atrocious flirt, I just flirt or banter a lot. In front of my husband, he knows, obviously he knows. I like to see my husband being a flirt too. I like it when other people are interested in him. I would crash out if he cheated on me, likewise him I’m sure if I cheated. You are allowed to draw the lines where you see fit in your own relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:48 PM
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I think you can be right. I think for those guys they don’t respect themselves and therefore don’t respect anyone who chooses them and then they accidentally reveal that in their actions. I think they need to achieve things that give them self respect and I think that might be more with their peers, career etc first. You need self evidence that you’re not a POS, you need to do things to collect that evidence. That’s a possible theory from me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:30 PM
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It’s not a moral thing, it’s a risk aversion thing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:24 PM
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Inappropriate reaction to rejection from a woman will spread between all the women that person knows. Name calling, anger, threats will be told as gossip to everyone (with photos) and then girl code dictates permanent defriending of offending dude. Has happened to some guys I liked but were socially clueless and I’m then now not able to invite them to things
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:14 PM
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I don’t know if they call it misogynistic? More like cringe. Mostly because people accidentally start making themselves ugly at a point with too much cosmetic work/plastic surgery. Women do it too with crazy lips etc and get same backlash
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 02:47 AM
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Could be. I’m impressed that people are immune to catching feels. So interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:36 AM
2

Princess 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:29 AM
2

Yah agreed. Flirting is testing the dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:28 AM
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I think I do get dickmatised personally, unless the sex was really bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:16 AM
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Probably not because I was an anxious person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 08:46 PM
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Some of the ones I thought of have been suggested but akira was an interesting recent watch that has lots of male frustration themes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:54 AM
2

🍿 I want in
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 08:54 PM
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Thats cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 08:54 PM
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Neither but I don’t think we should try them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 07:39 PM
2

You just reminded me of the insane drama in those local Facebook groups, like neighbours blasting each other, quite entertaining tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 07:34 PM
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I see lots of mod slander here but you guys should see the mods in my current fan fiction discord, these ladies are little dictators
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 07:18 PM
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If I’ve ever referenced a crap study it wasn’t me just FYI, that’s my assistant. She’s nice but you know
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 07:05 PM
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My husband finds this funny so constantly feeds me incorrect info about his height. You guys always ask so I just make it up to be so real with u
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 07:01 PM
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Oh shit I’m caught
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:51 AM
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I so agree with this. I guess people who are centrist/balanced on these issues aren’t motivated to join the convos. Also scared as hell of hardcore people on both sides. Women also peer pressure each other like crazy to conform to the current take. Like seriously many women think things like ‘the bear’ are dumb as hell
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:51 AM
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😘
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:49 AM
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I will need to see some better jestering before that happens your performance has been lacklustre I’m afraid
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:43 AM
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I don’t think it’s always a good fit or magic bullet
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:25 AM
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Real actually lot of my therapy was talking about other people
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:16 AM
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Insane people are way more interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:56 AM
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I wonder if it was inevitable just because it was good for the economy in the short to medium term. To have more productivity and spending power in the economy. I don’t think things happen in the world just to be virtuous, those reasons are just the justifications for things. I think feminism is good btw if my comment is vague
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:54 AM
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Who here has been to therapy? And why? I’m being snoopy I know
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:07 AM
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Eating disorders for men is not a new thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:56 PM
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Nice for calling him out. Weird of him to say that tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:52 PM
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I’m grateful for the good parts like people being open to meeting me for example. But the ‘eyes’ watching is so true, I hate feeling watched and I always know when I am watched. I see that my husband doesn’t notice other people in public, whereas I’m always subconsciously aware by default if they are watching and listening to me so I act very differently in public. I will avoid things that draw more interest. Maybe this is not all women and an anxiety thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:11 PM
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Women these days are retinol, sunscreen and Botox obsessed and looking younger for longer… so the opposite of your point? The sport of trying to look young is a full time job for some older women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:00 PM
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Yea I wouldn’t do it to a bride, but as a bride, eventually the point is family/friends relationships will last longer so try to let go. Weddings might make people do crazy stuff, sadly lol. Don’t react in the heat of it personally or assume the worst intentions from others
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:48 PM
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That’s dedication
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:25 AM
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I don’t like this, I think if you care more about that than the bridesmaid then they are totally entitled to defriend you. Wedding culture can be so insane
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:10 AM
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The dream
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:08 AM
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Yes complex vs complicated problems
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 09:52 PM
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Police as people tend to need to make these kind of connections/generalisations to be good at their jobs. Like have an instinct for it. But the mandatory reporting is where it comes undone by getting police involved. They are in combative brain not care brain but want to feel useful. IMO. I really don’t think these Aussie police guys were caring about the stats either
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:20 PM
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I will admit this is really a bad look. If this whole scheme could actually reduce harm more thought should have gone into reducing discrimination. IE women with suicidal ideation should be under same scrutiny, and watched for their risk to cause harm to their own partners and children. But it’s a disincentive to come forward so I don’t think it’s healthy for society
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:06 PM
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Many women actually spend a lot of energy concealing themselves to make others feel more comfortable. Dressing up might be a rarer moment of fun for some women, modern women are wearing oversized clothes plenty too. No one wears heels these days. Maybe they just think fuck it every once in a while. Personally I don’t feel comfortable wearing makeup day to day, will get a taxi if I’m dressed up instead of public transport. It’s not as simple as women ‘baiting’ men, sometimes looking pretty is jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:43 PM
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I was feeling weird about why me and my friends consumed the romance genres we did and I found a thread where everyone roasted the shit out of women for it. It was kind of fun to read peoples honest takes without as many politeness filters though I know obviously people do say things here in bad faith. I didn’t know nearly any terminology for this stuff before encountering the sub, some of the stuff is brain rot I think but there can be some diamonds in the rough
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:09 AM
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Yay! we were hoping for a beach relaxing start and then sight seeing, so for that could go elsewhere like city? Or mountains but if it’s very remote maybe not
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:37 AM
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At that point you just need it to be a class action thing RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:43 PM
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Hello friends where should I go for a girls trip in Thailand. (2 gals)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:40 PM
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Landlord disputes are like pulling teeth but it feels so sweet to win them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:38 PM
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Good luck 🙏 I want to go to Europe again but I dunno if I can be bothered when it takes like 30 hours
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:21 PM
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I haaaateee long flying. Sucks Australia is so far from everything
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:16 PM
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Is this a confession
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:35 PM
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Maybe you should shift tact into bait writing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:19 PM
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Ah ok. Don’t worry practice makes perfect 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:11 AM
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True. Well you sound slow as hell so I take it back
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:03 AM
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They get bored and sad when there’s nothing to be crashing out over so don’t deprive them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:20 PM
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My attraction to a photo of a man is like 50% and after interacting for the 10-20 seconds ‘vibe’ is the other 50%. Longer conversation is unlikely to create chemistry if it wasn’t there from the get go
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:18 PM
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To be fair girls on tik tok crash out over movie casting and whatever else as well. I think they like crashing out
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:57 PM
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O shit you are quick
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:30 PM
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Whiplash is the spice of life. I think I might need an example of what you mean by domains
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:29 PM
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I love muscles and big arms to back you up on this. But idc about really low body fat look
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:47 PM
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You are super quick so surely you could get back if it starts no?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:43 PM
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I want kids but man it sounds bleak as hell so basically all my life choices are designed so I think it would help my motherhood journey. Like career etc. I’m sure it will be awful plenty of the time. My mum loved motherhood and was a great mum so maybe I have hope despite what I hear about it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:38 PM
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One on one intimate relationships can require give and take and it feels easier to have expectations about what will happen next, that might result in someone who is more dominant. But the day to day lived experience is very dynamic and role switching can also be fun. Stepping up can be good for some people but the pills distort this stuff into a cookie cutter caricature. I also think it’s necessary to know when to break expectations and roles, ignoring gender lines
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:16 PM
1

What about top sheets. So ideal for this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:10 AM
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I was on hormonal BC and just skipped my period for so long but now I have it I’m personally offended each time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:07 PM
1

I’m sorry :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:41 PM
1

We don’t know how smart you are but probably
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:36 PM
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SEO atm is super heavily AI driven and anything you post on reddit is gospel it’s crazy. Kinda sad because it’s only a matter of time for reddit before ulterior motives are the main reason for posting
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:26 PM
1

Hot damn
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:10 AM
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Some men that lean conservative would claim to be against abortion but when it comes down to it I 100% believe they would want to use abortion to avoid consequences and child support themselves. Especially high profile conservative grifters
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:46 AM
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I see, I’ll have to edge then, you are an angel so I trust you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:03 AM
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Too stupid to live LOL. Well after hours in his case. To be fair he was doing it too much I was starting to get jealous of his computer
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:48 AM
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Post hormonal BC me and husband are having more sex. But now he’s feeling ’less motivated’ to hustle he says and ‘too content’. Should I just edge him untill he does his work or what
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:21 PM
1

We share phone access but it’s really for photos
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:16 PM
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Brain loading
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:13 PM
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This is spicy. Did you grow up with toxic women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:53 AM
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I nominate you first
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:55 AM
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Outside of anal, is this a common issue for men? What are the sex acts? Like is this a real thing or a hypothetical everyone is convinced on
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:48 AM
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I require too much attention to be a sister wife so sounds bad
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:41 AM
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It comes up a lot I know I will try
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:19 PM
1

Well I’m definitely an underthinker because today I just learnt the word fallacious
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:11 PM
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Yea I mean I’ve been thinking people do go out of there way to do things for me, I can be forgetful so it does come up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:05 PM
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Nice great minds think alike lol. Super young like 10 yrs old I became aware in dreams and teens and beyond different types of lucid dreams. Sometimes I make cool landscapes and just look around
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 11:52 AM
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Closing my eyes in my dream helps me wake myself up maybe you can try that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 11:46 AM
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That’s so bad ass you create your own nightmares
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 11:33 AM
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Yea I agree, if someone brought it up in advance I would think that was weird personally
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:36 AM
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I always judged my female friends who use it as some strange test, but if you are willing to give up on someone based on this issue you probably don’t like them enough to continue seeing anyways. That’s my gender neutral take on this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:25 AM
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I can’t remember who paid on all my previous dates but I always did offer by default for all social outings. Are you guys potentially overthinking this instead of actually going on dates please be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:11 AM
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It just didn’t come up in conversation idk what to say
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 07:41 AM
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I’ve not heard this from women I know. Do these women have abusive husbands? I don’t think this is a standard everyday thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 07:17 AM
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That’s crazy I love that. For me a recurring dream lady taught me how to stop a dream and wake myself up when I was younger and with that skill I guess I just had a good intuition when I was in real life vs dream life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:30 AM
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Did you learn on the dream? Or techniques irl haha
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:02 AM
1

Sex, flying and dramatic political coups are defs the most fun to do
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:01 AM
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Can you guys lucid dream? I have very cool lucid powers ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 05:41 AM
2

Hate when that happens
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 05:40 AM
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So jealous rn
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:29 AM
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I’m too pragmatic personally to care about oppression, I care about suffering. I tend to not personally care that much about assigning blame for things and like to focus on treatment for problems. But I know there needs to be people out there that need to think about it. I don’t connect with a lot of the discourse personally
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:33 AM
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Nice rebrand it’s giving wisdom 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:24 AM
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Literally that was him
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:17 AM
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The leeches got me on my bushwalk today :(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:10 AM
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There’s cute mean and giving you a dirty look mean so best to take their word for it if they come across as cold and trying to stop proximity
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:17 AM
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Oh yea I see what you mean yea they are lacking in more wholesome options lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:33 PM
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A03 girly
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:22 PM
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Who doesn’t love the fan fiction to literature pipeline
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:14 PM
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I would say it has the ‘power’ lolol to turn someone on but women don’t just think with their horny brains, they also have other parts of their selves with different needs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:34 PM
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I think out of the context of mutual desire both genders find each others sexuality disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:32 PM
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Some of my single friends read stupidly high volumes of erotic smut to the level of addictions. They are using it to replace something. I wonder if the women you interact with are likely to tell you about these habits. Book sales are stupidly high for these books. ‘Women seem unable to find erotic novels and sex toys satisfying onto themselves’ is just wrong IMO. I think more women are on the asexuality spectrum but painting that as ‘women’ is wrong. Sex toys - most women I speak to are competen…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:20 PM
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I do hope you guys find happiness in whatever way that you can, sorry that you were dealt a hard hand in life honestly. Being bullied is shit on top of being cut away from love and I see that. Yea this seems performative I know, real advice is maybe existential/spiritual introspection
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:32 AM
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I agree with the testing theory somewhat. I also think I have an intuition that the truth will confuse you more and won’t quite land how it should with men. I’ve realised your sexuality is so different in lots of ways
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 07:50 AM
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Yea it wasn’t an apples to apples comparison. It was just was an example of conflicted feelings and relevant to me in my stage of my relationship so fresh in mind lol. I guess it’s hard for me to fully understand it though I definitely can’t fully understand a man’s POV for these things really.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 07:44 AM
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I agree with your take
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:41 AM
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Maybe start with social groups that are ‘at your level’ like you are a big fish in a smaller pond maybe? Pay close attention to the ‘misbehaviours’ of others and learn from them, since people are unlikely to tell you about your own misbehaviours. Confide in someone in your group who can honestly call you out on stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:43 AM
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Truee. I have a theory that the kind of people that can handle it are people that were forced to build different world views from their parents or key figures. You can still accept someone that is motivated differently to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:05 PM
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Presentation of advice supersedes truthfulness when people are thinking on the surface level of things. If it kinda sounds good it’s hard to be skeptical
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:36 PM
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Thank you my first thought was why do you keep asking us then
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:07 PM
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Find a friend who is less inhibited. Buddy system?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:31 PM
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I was laughing so hard it’s such a niche Aussie reference. You can get a delish sausage sizzle and everyone puts their dogs in their trolleys (shopping carts)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:14 AM
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I feel like I am a women escaped from those subs (not literally), I would likely have given somewhat similar advice - the subtext is she is looking for ‘soulmate’, that’s the assumption when I chat with girlfriends. Soulmate doesn’t make you feel unsure if they like you. So if she’s even posting this at all people can basically say ‘drop him’. I mean if the name of the game is avoiding fuck boys they are entitled to be a bit ruthless
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:51 AM
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Yep more ladies need to delve into the sweet sweet world of weaponised incompetence. Two can play at this game
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:33 AM
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The ideal man is obviously not easy to pin down, but you could find him in all the romance novels women are obsessed with if you are really that lost. I mean cutesy romances like off campus not disturbed dark romances. Also, you guys suffer from Madonna whore complex, we have our own conflicting feelings that we contend with. Some things that might feel good erotically feel bad in others ways and vice versa. Sorry no simple answers to these things
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:23 AM
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I don’t care about the sidewalk rule specifically it seems made up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:30 AM
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I think I could tolerate a relationship against the norms if the person was so amazing but I’d prefer the traditional norms really
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:42 AM
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You’re right but it’s very useful when you work in healthcare/service lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:58 AM
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It’s a lot of effort for me to be direct but I think at work I have to try. Normally with acquaintances I’d rather people please by default
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:44 AM
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Is it normal to only be mean/direct with people you like or love. Or is it street angel house devil behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:23 AM
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I think this is smart and also works in other parts of life. Like naming insecurities or things you think might become conflict straight off the bat
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 09:22 PM
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Personally I wouldn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 09:17 PM
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Send me all your money and I’ll double it for you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:47 PM
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I would say I don’t care for or against ‘geeky’ stuff but proper nerdy intelligence stuff is it for me. Like if they sound smart as hell I’m obsessed but if they are a himbo I don’t think I could handle it. Geekiness can be endearing in moderation
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:42 PM
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Sorry king I have a tampon in rn to be real I swear
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:42 PM
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His whole thing is ‘sex is chill’ so he’s got to compartmentalise like crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:40 PM
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Is it crazy to use sexual chemistry to know if you’re desirable over random ‘rules’. Like if someone’s crazy about you I think it’s obvious as hell
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:52 PM
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Bro with that humble brag you’ll fit in perfectly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:12 AM
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It’s just voiceover clips tho
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:37 AM
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He makes videos about rap? and stuff I think yea they meet over dm
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:36 AM
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Every time I see my dorky youngest brother he has a new gf that he met on TikTok. Like he has a fan club or something idk
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:09 AM
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Asian food is superior, so glad Australia has so much Asian culture. I eat rice every single day pretty much
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:16 PM
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Do you think he remembers all their names
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:32 AM
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https://www.abc.net.au/news/2026-03-29/how-men-marrying-up-became-the-norm/106131348
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:17 AM
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This is the stuff of think pieces that want clicks. Have you met women IRL who say this? The majority of my friend group is couples with pretty decent incomes and I have never seen this come up. They work equally hard so there is a sacrifice on both sides. I’d say coupling happens on class levels so you need to know the correct behaviour for the class level you want to date in. To be blunt. The richest people I know want most social proof that someone is not with them for money. So if possible t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:04 AM
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Me and my husband definitely enjoy rage baiting each other with like with a glint in our eye hoping each other takes the bait and we laugh after. But yea saying no is important for real things that would otherwise cause resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:08 PM
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Or the other way around. Chicken or the egg can’t really tell imo
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:16 PM
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I agree with this. I mean the seller is somewhat important but not as important as the fact the woman has already decided she is in the market for a car independently. I don’t believe people are having hookups as complete spur of the moment passions because they are overwhelmed by lust by hot men or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:01 PM
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Remember when tumblr smut was banned. So sad
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:41 PM
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I agree with you. Most men’s social anxiety might even be worse deep down I think. But can men bootstrap their way around it? I don’t know. Women just won’t reciprocate. But women can overcome it in the current market. If they pluck up the courage. So it is a way to fix the problem imo if we think of ways to help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:25 PM
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I’m in Australia and these gals are actually local to my city. But I’m sure similar trends exist if I’m seeing them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:13 PM
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They live with their parents or female friends most likely. They also don’t go out and never hang out with men which is kind of the point
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:52 PM
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Yea maybe, bruised ego if you find out you can’t have what you want. Same thing that might hold back some guys
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:47 PM
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Different women my friend. These girls I’m thinking of (I can think of a few of my friends) have 0 sexual experience
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:44 PM
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I have realised some context some people are missing. My TikTok feed is full of women commiserating about being single. I originally followed them because they work in similar industries and live locally to me. So I hear it from them there a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:22 PM
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Yea I think you’re not wrong. B is great. I guess for me I love a little spicy debate umm you could say so it’s not like A hasn’t ever happened for us. But I think we are in B because he has realised a little zesty debate is part of me and I find it fun (but I also try to temper it). And I have tried to make it clear I love to hear his point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:15 PM
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Good on you for realising what you needed. The immaturity on both sides is amazing. It’s the worst sides of both parties. I think deescalation requires thoughtfulness on both sides. Anger is a protection, in this case for shame and insecurity so they are the place to work from I think. I think I’m revealing that side of the coin for some women so it can be seen for what it is. For me, I have been rewarded to some extent in my life for showing vulnerability. Men haven’t so when they come on here …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 11:30 AM
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Thanks for the thoughtful reply. Thinking about how I was able to overcome anxiety gives me the perspective to see how ‘easily’ this side of the problem can be addressed. Through strategies and good social opportunities. I have also thought a lot about men’s underdeveloped emotional safety. I feel that just as many boys/men have the same anxiety problem. But I guess the point of addressing women in this post is that with the current grid lock women may have to overcome it first. Since lots of me…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 10:16 AM
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Yea maybe. Do you think the ‘avoiding’ group is growing though? While the jaded group has always been there so they are not really causing any shift in dynamics
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:36 AM
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​ Well stats would say plenty of younger people are. Not sure how old you are. I also just felt it hasn’t been examined much from this angle. I don’t see myself as having social anxiety any more. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:06 AM
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So then they end up giving up before they even try to go after the % they do like. Because they assume they couldn’t be with them and yea sometimes they are right to be fair. I think my friend is very pretty so I think why not try.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:42 AM
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Social media is an amazing void filler. Slight off topic but I think that’s why people drink less too. Drinking sucks but it’s social lubricant and can give people liquid courage for this kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:20 AM
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Yea most people I know IRL don’t really say ‘decentering men’, I’ve heard it once or twice maybe. People talk about it online like it’s a given. The tik tok girls I’ve followed for years for holiday, fashion tips etc won’t stop talking about it. I was genuinely born anxious I swear to god, I was like a shy scared 4 year old. Some people I think can be born that way. Not always trauma. But I’m lucky I had really good emotional care and learnt great coping so my comfort zone basically ended up big…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:14 AM
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Girl I feel for you ❤️ I think men on this sub misunderstand when women say they want safe men. Some women want bad boys but shy girls might want safe boys okay
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:01 AM
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I have a lot of respect for you for trying and then for you it makes perfect sense to actually ‘decentre men’/not pursue that. Hope you find happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:57 AM
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Yea I did suggest therapy. Yea decentering men is healthy in terms of having an internalised self worth. So I agree she should build that. She said depressed in a joking way for context but obviously there can be truth behind jokes. But I think for her that mindset can possibly be used as a convenient excuse to shelter herself?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:54 AM
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I guess I would ask how do you know you aren’t good enough? Have you put yourself out there? You are confident in the thought but do you have any evidence for it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:43 AM
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You are so right. Hope she never sees this because it is a complete roast but she is super lazy also. Lots of difficult work tasks involve getting out of your comfort zone and she never wants to do them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:37 AM
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Yea comfort zone expands little by little but it can stagnate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:33 AM
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I would think they were succeeding at decentreing men if they weren’t saying it on repeat every day again and again. And then conveniently dropping it if they find a man. I think it’s okay to admit to yourself you want something. Ignoring her desires isn’t going to help her. My advice to her was: go try and get it properly and then if it fails make peace with it. But living with regret having never tried doing something that you hope to do is just defeatist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:32 AM
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I think plenty don’t want relationships. I have go getter friends that are super confident and could easily go get it if they really wanted. But a girl like my coworker is held back not only in her dating life I see but also just things like answering a phone call at work. I truly think in her case anxiety is holding her back. I’m pretty sure stats also say anxiety is rapidly rising in younger people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:26 AM
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Are you the hoe police or something. I could be into that if yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:37 AM
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All good things in moderation
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:33 PM
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Look even if it’s not a bit everything you do makes me cackle so keep it up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:11 PM
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Some hot guys are good for a ONS but are just bad to date. Not even red flags just lifestyle mismatch like if they are in the military or maybe different goals in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:51 PM
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About uni age I would have casual sex every now and again. Only ever organic meets at a party/event/clubs and only people similar age and background. But I was quite social so I would travel to my friends unis and hang with their groups and when I did that I was way more emboldened because I had much less chance of running into people again. It was always one night only and I wouldn’t share contact details with them after even if they asked. Apps I couldn’t easily guarantee chemistry so would on…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:39 AM
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I think about this a lot too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:09 PM
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Wouldn’t becoming a parent be a violation also? You can be jailed for neglect so actually enforced too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:55 AM
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I know these don’t work by themselves to be clear. I just would give this advice with hopefully creating the side effect of making them more fun and less of a grumpy person. My brother with abs does way worse than my skinny pimply brother because he gives off sour vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:15 PM
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Get yourself in mixed gender group social settings as much as possible to practice being social and realising it can be fun. If it’s not fun find a different group. Rather than always doing one on one socialisation. Try to get over fear of failure/embarrassment. If I embarrass myself I just try to feel better that I boosted someone’s ego today. Rather than thinking about how you can be accepted by others think about how you can make others feel accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:29 PM
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I guess the best approach I arrived on is just dipping the second I don’t like how things are starting to go. Even in marriage making it clear I won’t tolerate bullshit and trusting myself that I could leave. I don’t have kids though and that would make things harder for sure. People can trick you sometimes but I believe in the ‘fool me once’ saying
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 08:54 PM
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E is covered for a reason. Don’t want u guys getting too powerful ofc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:59 PM
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I actually wouldn’t care as long as he still finds me more attractive then other women/men. I might even like it a little bit? If it’s clear that his attraction is more to men than women and he has repressed his real feelings that would be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:27 AM
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Wow goals my friend. I think it works better on me since I obviously have internalised some shame about it. But I aspire to your level of chill especially to just enjoy it even more
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:01 AM
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<image> DENNIS system? I hear it’s fool proof for seducing women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:04 AM
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Most grandmas and women back in the day had insane family secrets and people used to take secrets to the grave back then. That was pre DNA tests and the era of pregnancy infirmaries so a bit of smoke and mirrors is clouding the reality I’d say.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:53 PM
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You know a cake is poison, you don’t know how poison it is by looking at it but it tastes sweet so it’s up to you to eat it. But you know it is. Many poison cakes in life, like taking money from certain people and sometimes they are worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:31 AM
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Idiots, I work in healthcare so lots of practice
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:07 AM
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The gap wasn’t huge (4 years) but the build up was over a few years so I had time to fall hard. It was enough of a gap of maturity I think. I wasn’t using a logical brain obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:12 PM
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Yep I’ve been reflecting on this a lot since it impacted me as a teen, the first guy I was with was older. It’s hard to ‘choose well’ when you are so naive
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:51 PM
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Around 180
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:36 AM
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165cm
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:46 AM
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I think it’s wrong. I always said I don’t care about height and fully believed it for years, but my husband pointed out to me that him and every guy I ever claimed to like was tall. Being tall definitely helps sorry short men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:46 AM
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Well yep, I don’t want to give away all the secrets but my advice to other women is to find a guy that is on the hot guy pipeline before he peaks. Like investing early lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:29 AM
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What approaches do you consider to be unhealthy or obtuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:42 AM
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One sided love isn’t healthy. Women can be dickmatised into accepting bad treatment and bad men. I preferred one night stands personally because I am a catching feels kinda person. But I have friends who are not so don’t fret I’m sure you will find some women out there if you want no strings attached long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:47 PM
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Yea true. I guess I think like that because you have to be aware how it can be used against you. It’s not the way I’d want it to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:34 PM
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My friend let me explain. After good sexy times many women ‘catch feels’ and want to take it to the next level. Basically infatuation, it’s an emotional roller coaster where now you have none of the power. Maybe drip feeding of hook ups, maybe some tears, hell no from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:25 PM
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Well I got gifted a barbie wedding CD disc game when I was a kid and it imprinted on me. More seriously I think women who want to be mothers see it as a prerequisite. What better way to send off your bachelorette life with the prettiest dress you’ll ever wear and photos of probably the hottest you will ever look again. Then when you are a mum you can reminiscence on better days lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:46 AM
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Love that for you bro
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:11 AM
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Thinking of you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:00 AM
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Neither
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 09:59 PM
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Yea I don’t mind talking about feminist problems but I always disliked it being framed as ‘oppression’ and I think you explained a bit why I feel like that. It’s telling me how I’m acted on by the world because of my gender and how can I refute that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:44 PM
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I think most women know it’s rage bait. It was fun rage bait too but for me the rage hit me for another reason actually. The modern nice guy wouldn’t be able to umm ‘do what is needed’ to himself or me if the situation required was what raged me personally. The guy being a pussy seemed the worst part by far idk
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:24 PM
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Am I your type? Not only do I look a little like the girl from obsession but I too have a sleep walking and talking problem so you can find a girl ominously watching you from the corner of the room. Also the odd ‘help me’ whispered in your ear.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:59 PM
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Yea honestly I would prefer to not know you are doing it. I mean not mentioning it and just doing it doesn’t ever have to turn into lying if you are discrete.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:28 AM
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Madonna whore complex?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:15 AM
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https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSQL64UEG/ How men react when I try playing hard to get
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:00 AM
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Don’t do it girly. Addict, ‘kind of into’ hmm no
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:16 PM
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Reminder: attraction isn’t kind. Talk to good friends if you want kindness. I would want this honesty with a long term partner, if I ask for the honesty I’m trying to get to know them. Some women are attracted to men with ‘secure’ attachment styles, they make good partners. There heads aren’t swimming with insecurity and resentments about the world. To be fair neither is mine and I want a partner not a coaching project. I found a very secure kind of man and we still emotionally counsel each othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:07 PM
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It seems I’m normal how boring <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:05 AM
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I think they can certainly work but you need social intelligence. I remember the first time a guy ‘negged’ me. He made me feel so bad I wanted to cry. Yea I definitely didn’t go out with him. I asked him why he said it and later admitted he was negging. I’ve accidentally ‘negged’ men, when I called them out on shit and wasn’t that into them. Then suddenly the simping began. The truth is if they are the right person for you none of this shit should matter. The goal is not to pretend not to care, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 09:24 PM
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Nope I definitely read the book but I started 48 hours before and double speeded the audio book so I have no idea what happened
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:46 AM
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Join a book club and you will be peer pressured to read. That’s what I do and now I read way more
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:39 AM
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Some men (masculine leaning men) can be so obsessed with ‘leveling up’ that they can be blind to the parts of life that are better when you do less. Like making less money could mean more time with friends. Less levelling up in a video game could be more time for self reflection. Also the arena they choose to level up in could just be bad for them. My husband is super competitive and I feel my job is helping him realise it sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:50 AM
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Epic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:06 PM
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That guy that got offended is just a bad person to date, I guess on the bright side it let you see his true colours early on. So you could avoid a guy like your ex and sounds like you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 08:57 PM
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I think asking someone out is extremely anxiety inducing, so I disagree. I would be stressing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 08:33 PM
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Some of these people are on drugs. Alcoholics. I wouldn’t lose sleep about the logic behind their behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:01 AM
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I think for hookups I was just following what seems most fun in the moment. For me they have to be good at conversation too because to even get to that point we have probably talked a bit. Usually some things they have said have impressed me and I like the way they look. Now about personal safety, only once did I wonder if I was in over my head. But the guy was a gentleman at least and I trusted his vibe enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:01 PM
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Being gung ho on AI at work and learning about it. Trying to make AI stuff. He works in tech. But to be fair it’s coming for every industry right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:56 AM
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My husband is not red pilled but he is AI pilled. Maybe you guys should look into that. It’s a profitable skill set atm
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:32 AM
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It’s a bad feedback loop for you though. You end up worse off in my opinion. The dying out of binge drinking culture is another huggge part of it for young people I think. Young people are acting like boring old people. I’m boring now so that’s chill idk
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:51 AM
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I have to clarify. When I ‘played hard to get’ with a hot guy he knew I was down bad, he just didn’t know how down I really was. This situation is not relevant for most guys here. The sexual liberation allowed me to have guilt free casual sex with mediocre men and view myself as a ‘party girl’ not a ‘slut’. These guys were less attractive than the hot guys. I would be embarrassed if anyone found out I slept with them. But it seemed fun. Party girl culture is dying for many reasons though this is…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:02 AM
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You underestimate me LOL. The playing hard to get is only when it comes to sex FYI. You don’t have to agree with me. Plenty of women probably act in alignment with how all you guys think. But some sluts are also possibly sad rn with all the purity culture comeback so think of them please
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:06 PM
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It doesn’t make sense because it’s dishonest. The guys I found hottest I really thought about playing hard to get. Personally I had one night stands with some uglier guys that I would never date. Everyone was pro sluts at that time and I was bored and they were there. Obviously this is just me, I could be an outlier, but I guess there could be more of me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:55 PM
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If you get rid of slut shaming this would happen less imo. Women don’t want a guy they like to think they are a slut even if they are a slut and do want it on the first date with them. Feminism is pro sluts and you guys really fumbled that part of it in the past few years
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:38 PM
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Nah that would be stressful for me. I think I would be bad at it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:26 PM
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My husband is super social at hostels. I have met lots of super social hostel guys. I am quite wary of strangers so I find it a bit much for me. I don’t think this is as much a gendered thing as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:12 PM
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Sure, it’s a privilege/responsibility/burden to have the chance to choose and possibly do it wrongly. Some men are assholes. Idk no woman is consciously thinking what I said but it’s more just a gut reaction to be positive to people that are attractive in what they say and angry reactive to people that say stuff that sounds annoying. I’m just trying to address that punch behind women’s reactions that is deeper on many of these similar posts. I’m not convinced that the level of anger matches the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:04 PM
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I realise that last bit did sound harsh. If someone opened up to me I’d never say anything like that to them. But if I had a guy friend complaining I might tease him about it to hint that it’s not the right way to go about it to get what he wants. I don’t like the harsh truths either, but this sub isn’t really a safe space. Lots of people here struggle socially and might need the truths spelled out plainly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:30 AM
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I have taken your guys words for it that is harder for men and dating app stats are quite convincing. I believe you. Why do women push back? My instinct is this narrative is a turn off for straight women. Because when they do get picked they want to feel ‘special’ like the guy had lots of options. So they discourage men from the narrative I think. They are trying to course correct men from being desperate and unattractive. I guess by getting these guys to ‘shut up’ about these issues in a real l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:01 AM
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Let’s just suspend my disbelief of comphet. If it is real, isn’t playing into it going to potentially give you a more meaningful and deeper life with a partner? Family if you want that? Or at least ‘getting laid’ if you do actually desire women that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:07 AM
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The power of comphet to protect your ego is just a coincidence? If you were getting laid you would definitely subscribe to that world view?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:50 PM
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Stay at home wife doesn’t have kids or kids are grown up. It’s only a thing for rich people nowadays. Back in the day it was a thing more. Like teachers had to quit working after marriage even if they didn’t have kids. I mean some people might use it interchangeably now
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:54 PM
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The lack of face to face time doesn’t hurt men’s attraction to women but it does for women being attracted to men. Familiarity is very important for women’s attraction in my opinion. Also body language/speech is a huge part of it for women
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:34 PM
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I do think part of the problem stems from men pedelstaling women. I think you guys had good mothers and expect unconditional love low key. I think women do know how to present them selves as morally superior. But women know how cruel women can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:20 PM
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Personally I would but I would be a stay at home mum but not wife. I would get bored. I have safety nets for any rug pulls in my life, career wise and for living situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:14 PM
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I disagree, I also think I have an unconventional explanation for how birth rates and loneliness are connected. I think a lot of women are realising how unattractive motherhood is and therefore their motivation to enter the dating market is plummeting. I feel like men underestimate how much women date for a potential father of their kids and how strong baby fever can be. I’m so scared to say this because the ‘women are not into men’ guys are watching us from behind a bush somewhere. Why is mothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:06 PM
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Countries which can successfully attract young migrants will succeed. It’s like a fully grown tax payer on discount, didn’t need to pay for their education or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:47 AM
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Are you for real. Governments aren’t that well off bro. So people who can’t afford medicine and healthcare are bumped so you can get laid. I’m not in the US but maybe actual healthcare and maternity benefits should come before giving the boys sex. If you pay out of pocket it’s fair, but welfare sex nope my sympathy for you guys is going to reach its limit. Ban social media for young people first
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:46 PM
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I think you might be intimidated by women and their emotional confidence. Women usually have ‘the power’ (skill, practice) to express vulnerability and maybe you feel out of depth when required to match that energy. The point of vulnerability is giving up power and potentially embarrassing yourself in the moment. I’m reading between the lines of your post but these things take practice. It’s okay to not be the ‘best’ at ‘soft skills’ aka being emotionally open. The only way out is through
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:17 PM
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The logistics of post nut clarity get confusing with multiple orgasms so I have my pre first orgasm turn ons and then follow up orgasm turn ons which are different. I wish I was kidding but sadly not since I need to think of original material quickly
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:33 PM
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I would say my leisure time with my partner is similar to what you described in terms of holidays/dates and I think it’s a very comfortable lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 08:37 AM
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You had me at paid off house. Joking but maybe not.. in most of Australia that would make you likely a millionaire or near it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 08:35 AM
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Sorry I can’t help being super hot all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 12:11 AM
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Nah, for me my kinks come from my own mind, they are like go to fantasies, and I have tried to repress them since day dot because the ‘post nut’ clarity in insane and I wouldn’t allow myself to be with that kind of partner. I don’t like aggression so that’s not what I’m thinking of btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 08:18 PM
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Hmm I guess there’s many potential versions of this hypothetical. It’s interesting everyone interpreted through the relationship lens, I was also thinking about being sad for men in my family/world, future son/s, men in general that they lack self esteem and a vibrant social life. I guess it would cause a weird asymmetry in society. On top of that of course my own sadness at not having an equal and thriving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:10 PM
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I would be sad
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:16 AM
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Not every married person you hear from is that old, I’m a newlywed who met on the apps, guess there isn’t any way to tell on these forums though. It would change the conversations dramatically if we could see each other lol. Some of my single friends refuse apps and want the old fashion version of dating, I tend to think of them as wishful thinkers but some people like the old ways
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:40 PM
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If it think back to my pre marriage sex, for some reason everyone wants to try shower sex even though it sucks so bad. They also want to do ??boob sex I don’t know every guy seems to think it will work, yea rubbing on my chest is just awkward for me so no
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:54 AM
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I had similar issues with birth control and it also impacted my sex drive. Maybe it’s time to put the burden on him for a while with condoms? Just like a temporary experiment, I did that in my long term relationship it’s been so good for our sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:48 AM
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It’s so interesting but I actually don’t like receiving oral, every guy I have been with has offered though so sorry to everyone else. My favourite things involve fingers and fingers (mine or his) stimulating during PIV.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:24 AM
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If thinking I don’t care helps you then I’ll do that for you bro <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:21 AM
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Yea to be fair I also do agree, came to same conclusion that’s what is needed, figured tough love might be what these guys need if I wanted to help lol. If some of those guys aren’t necessarily unattractive but stuck with ‘failure to launch syndrome’ which I’m sure a percentage are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:01 AM
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I don’t disagree but I thought a lesson most people learn quite young is that life isn’t fair. Whining doesn’t change it. Crying victim is no better than the left wing these right wing guys claim to oppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:33 PM
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You have just explained something that resonates with me, I really pity these guys. It does feel very unproductive for them though. I wonder if they want their turn in the suffering olympics of the modern world, we currently reward victimhood and I feel they are appealing to that sensitivity in society/women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:49 PM
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Not to play dumb bimbo but I have no idea what that means
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:54 PM
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It’s so annoying that men on this sub assume women aren’t straight because they personally haven’t been desired. Me and my straight friends will watch tv shows just for glimpses of the attractive male characters. I’m crazy about my husband. I crush on men in the street. I have chemistry with straight men and they know I’m into them, I hate to say it but maybe you guys just aren’t on the receiving end of desire rather than the desire not existing. I go crazy for a deep voice, knew I liked men fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:49 PM
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Nah, my mum is a handy woman and gave my dad tonnes of crap for not doing house maintenance/any yard work. She still to this day does most of it, I would trust her to help me with that stuff over my dad to this day. She did most or outsourced it and eventually my brothers did pick up a bit for pocket money. The men in my extended family were super lazy loved tv, gambling etc as long as they maintained the 9-5 grind they didn’t do any domestic work at all. I lived a suburban life, so no rural exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:38 PM
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I was raised in a different environment and I would say I have a very equitable relationship currently. It’s also hard to quantify a perfectly fair relationship, like you might do less but be more frugal than your partner or maybe you moved to where your partner lives for their career/to be near their family. If you are currently single then maybe all this worrying about how equitable your future relationship will be is putting the cart before the horse? Also hate to say it but (My gender) does …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:58 PM
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Addressing the point of the ‘work’ demanded of men in relationships. Are you in a couple/are your friends? Do you see an unfair division of labour? What about your parents growing up? I can’t see these self sacrificing behaviours in my own father that’s for sure. But maybe you had some great male figures that really perform ‘intense physical labour housework’ for example and maybe I should find these guys
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:26 PM
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‘Society does not value niceness’ okay but society/women do value it in friendships, workplaces, most areas of life. But it’s not that valuable in getting someone to go to bed with you, maybe a little bit. Was society in the 2000’s etc really teaching anyone that to get a gf all you need is to be nice? When did society say this? Why are guys so shocked that looks come into it that they had to create red pill to shatter this world view and see that women are a bit superficial in sex (like men als…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:10 PM
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Playing hard to get is classic and old dating advice, in can be used by both genders. Think women’s magazines not that long ago ‘how long to wait to text a guy back’. It does work, it’s always been cringe and it’s so interesting how the story about why it work changes ‘women like a slow burn’ ‘men like a chase’ but I think it’s just that desperation is very unsexy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 09:50 PM
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I get what you mean but I just think you’re oversimplifying the value men can provide women. The main post lists value add ideas for men: ‘commitment, experiences, stability, attractiveness, or some mix of those things’. If I’m honest with you, if a guy is failing at providing those other value adds then yes I will want him to pay the dinner bill. Like hypothetically no commitment sex might come with less happiness for me so then we resort to money type value.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 08:39 PM
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I guess women have more default potential value but I would say much more to lose though. Like if you have mastitis, postpartum depression and everything hurts down their you will be wishing you chose a guy that can fill your water. As a women you have to become vulnerable for this potential value to be realised (eg sex)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 07:50 PM
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I will gladly be humiliated if it means I don’t have to set up the wifi or torrent my own movies. Sadly my laziness prevents me from being an independent girl boss. True I did think of mentioning that this is clearly second date type stuff, there has to be existing attraction. But to be fair acts of service used to he part of a women’s way of seducing a man, making tea and biscuits etc. It can definitely help the process when done tactfully. So funny because it does feel like a slight role rever…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 10:30 AM
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The real answer involves acts of service, idk if you guys see the memes about boyfriends constantly filling up their ladies water bottle, driving them places. Keeping them company and entertained. Complimenting them. Going with them to do activities that only the gal is obviously interested in. My husband used to walk with me and wait with me at the station untill my train arrived when I left his place. Very small but very big to me compared to other guys I dated. Obviously many women in happy r…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:29 AM
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I’m confused if you’re assuming women select men for their possessions specifically? These days women bring their own possessions and money to relationships. For me I was looking for a reliable and competent human who is loving and for me also potentially the ability to be a father. Some people trade their ‘tangible value’ for physical possessions in relationships, but we normally call them sex workers..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:02 AM
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Hypertropic strabismus is a wild one love that for you, but once you find one probs should make them do some basic health checks because that type is not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 09:47 PM
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You’re not gaining points with women (especially those with low body counts) by saying this stuff. Low body count women are probably not complaining about their exes first of all, so they don’t want to hear you doing it. Second it’s not classy to punch down and be so obvious about hating on women who might not be ‘up to your standard’. Like just quietly do it, if you are successful then no one would ever need to know. When someone asks you your standards it is also a test of your social awarenes…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:35 AM
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That’s probably true. But also plenty of women that would be happy to be dependant, maybe for a temporary time to have kids for example, can’t afford to go to one income. Where I live it’s mostly because of the cost of housing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:46 PM
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Isn’t the gender stuff just a distraction for us all to ignore the economic problems and growing divides. The blame game is fun and men vs women has always been more fun to think about than rich vs poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:52 AM
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Is your need for people who care about you and see you exclusive to romantic relationships? Some of these things are hard to achieve in the dating world especially on apps and first dates etc but a friend can do some of these things if dating isn’t really working out for you. Secondly I think if women are stand off ish around you and you want to practice the skills of genuine connection it’s worth thinking about how to be as ‘safe’ for them as possible. For most women seeing you have real friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 10:59 AM
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I think you might be on to something honestly. I disagree with false-purple, IMO I feel like most men are overall less into the dom/sub power dynamic thing. Can be disappointing as a woman lol. I suspect the difference is that compared to men the visuals and even sensations of sex can be less exciting for women by themselves. Especially when we know our bodies far better than the bedroom partner. We enjoy the rise in our power of being ‘picked/taken’ etc by a higher status man and maybe the narc…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:29 AM
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