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PICKME CULTUREbabysoymilk/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:32 PM
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I follow a pelvic floor physical therapist on Instagram who has vented about ignorant doctors before. It's horrifying how many women are told to just accept their pelvic floor issues like incontinence and painful sex by their doctors! Also opened my eyes to the issue of prolapse after pregnancy and childbirth. We're in the 21st century, why do women still have to go through this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:19 PM
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This is a great post! I'm guilty of doomscrolling, too. But something that has made a huge difference as well is reducing my time following influencers. I used to spend hours every day looking at influencers on Instagram, going down their drama rabbitholes, reading gossip websites and subreddits etc. Then I spent 15 weeks in inpatient treatment (split into two stays) in a hospital that has poor reception all over the grounds. Wifi was expensive and the connection was terrible. One thing I have r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:14 AM
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I am starting a new antidepressant on Monday and I really really hope it works... but it will be my fifth and it's hard not to feel negative about it. I'm wondering if maybe there are people who don't profit from antidepressant use because their issues aren't caused by a ~chemical imbalance~ or whatever. I'm also dreading side effects (it's supposed to frequently cause excessive sweating, and I'm already a sweaty person). I'm trying to go into this with a positive outlook to avoid nocebo effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:37 PM
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You sound like an amazing friend! I remember going on vacation with a friend, and I was the fat one between us. Even though I wasn't there to meet men, it hurt to be treated like I didn't exist. Two guys straight up asked if it would be okay for her to go back to their room with them without me. Really made me feel like trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:29 AM
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Same, although I'm not straight up insulted. Instead I'm treated like I don't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:26 AM
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I live in a big German city and my university is full of the artsy mansplaining student type 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:05 AM
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There is an AI search engine where you can upload anyone's photo and it will search the internet for more photos of that person. Heard about it on another sub where a few women were horrified to find their nudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:09 AM
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It's so concerning to me that "kinky" sex is being pushed on actual kids. Like, there are Tiktoks about choking. I just saw a reel by a fuckboy type guy on Instagram that was originally posted on Tiktok. It's the Google voice saying "I heard you were looking for a new necklace", the guy showing off his veiny arm and hand and then squeezing a pillow or something. There are multiple 13-year-olds in the comments saying crap like "I'm drooling", "That's my favourite necklace", etc. Wtf? I remember b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:26 AM
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Are you confusing FDS with another subreddit? Because this sub's message is pretty much not to care about desirability, and I'm sure stating that white women are "more desirable" would have received backlash not only for being racist, but also for being misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:53 PM
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This is so concerning. I wouldn't be surprised if she's already being groomed. For context, I am a survivor of sexual assault and rape. I remember being 17 and following BDSM Tumblr accounts. At the time, I was being groomed by a much older man and thought it was a Dominant/submissive relationship. I was also surrounded by "sex positive" feminist content and would have agreed with the pro kink argument in a heartbeat. It took me years to connect the dots between being "kinky" and my trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:39 PM
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I just need to vent. I'm super frustrated because I finally started slowly getting into a routine for working on my Bachelor's thesis in my university library, and today I found out they close for four weeks starting on Saturday. They are only open for picking up books. The public library has shut down the working spaces as well. This is due to a new lockdown in my country. I am fine with not being able to eat out or to shop clothes, but the library closing really gets to me. Due to my mental il…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:00 AM
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I'll explain why I stayed in an abusive relationship with a man who groomed me. When we first met, I was 15 and I thought he was 23 (he later turned out to be 17 years older, so he really was 32). I will call him A in this post. He entered my life at a time during which I was particularly vulnerable. I was an already troubled teen from a messy family in the beginning stages of developing anorexia. Prior to that, I never really bothered with boys. Around the same time, I met a man who would later…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:34 AM
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Only vaguely related, but I used to follow a woman on social media who in the past made the mistake of posting homemade porn on Pornhub. Her video ended up being reposted by a stranger. She ended up feeling uncomfortable, so she claims she reported the videos for being underage content (it wasn't, but it wasn't super obvious she was adult, so it seemed believable). They didn't take the videos down, which is so nasty to me. Why not take a "better be safe than sorry" approach? I know they don't ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:44 AM
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I don't know about the one who contacted the police, but some of her friends shared that she opened up to them about her husband being abusive and choking her till she would pass out. Apparently if domestic violence includes strangulation, the victim is more than seven times as likely to be killed by their abuser. This case makes me really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:04 PM
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I hate these (mostly made up) stories about women or teenage girls making false rape accusations and how they claim it's sOoOoOoOo easy for a woman to ruin a man's life that way. First, do these men live under a rock or do they just ignore the fact there are plenty of powerful men who have been accused of rape? Second, are none of them aware how much it takes to convict someone on rape charges? I'm sure it's slightly different everywhere, but I'm fairly certain no innocent little teen boy has ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:58 AM
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My last pickme dating experience ended with me thinking the LVM I had a crush on was treating me poorly because of my weight, and that he would be more interested if I was thin. It was such a miserable feeling that I decided not to date again until I'm able not to blame everything that goes wrong on my body. LVM will use your insecurities against you. (Like that Redditor who let his girlfriend believe she smelled bad just to destroy her confidence.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:30 AM
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My former (sex) partners had so many of the signs y'all have listed 💀 my LVX, who was 20 at the time, could barely keep an erection. In the beginning he'd lose it as soon as he put a condom on. He also couldn't cum from oral and blamed me for it. PIV was difficult sometimes as well, so he'd often finish by jerking off. Sometimes he took a break and went into the bathroom when we were having sex, I caught him watching porn on his phone. He once asked me to suck his dick while he was gaming on his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:07 AM
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It's okay to feel this way. There's no set timeline for recovery from trauma. Take your time to relearn sexuality and discovering your identity. I have been a victim of sexual abuse. It happened before I had ever experienced healthy sexuality. The miserable dirty feeling I often get after (consensual) sex has tainted a lot of memories and it makes it difficult to judge if I actually do want to engage in intimacy. For quite some time I fell into a pattern of making risky sexual choices that ultim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:34 AM
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My brother is LV. We have paid leave for new parents where I live, and before my niece was born, he called his upcoming leave a vacation, fully expecting it to be relaxing and thinking baby would sleep all day. He calls out sick from work a lot. He loves buying new fancy gadgets and clothes, but it feels like his wife has to justify every purchase (a lot of their income comes from her wealthy mum, so it's not like he's spending his own money). He follows half naked women on Instagram and compare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:21 AM
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The "male" equivalent for Valentine's Day...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:56 AM
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Chuck Bass molests someone in literally the first episode of Gossip Girl, yet back in the day everybody fawned over his character. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:53 AM
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I'm not sure why they aren't offering online, but the therapist supervising the group does offer short one on one sessions instead of the group. She emailed me offering me an appointment after I posted here! I'm glad I can keep up with therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:01 AM
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Dang, my outpatient group therapy has been cancelled again for the time being due to Covid measures. I get it, but I'm going through a particularly hard time at the moment so this isn't great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 11:51 AM
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Plus they are usually the type of feminist trying to make feminism more palatable by saying it's helpful for men, too. Those can fuck right off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:13 AM
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There is scientific evidence showing that women receive subpar healthcare (like pain management) compared to men. I'm pretty sure the reason why gynecological diseases often go undiagnosed for years is that women are always told whatever they experience is normal. Plus pelvic exams can be straight up traumatising. I'll never forget my former endo asking if the examination was hurting and not stopping or even apologising when I said yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:53 PM
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Unfortunately no. I've met several men who didn't brush their teeth after waking up when I stayed over. It really scarred me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:17 PM
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I just checked her profile again and she deleted her posts about Covid and about a Tinder rando ejaculating into her ass... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:40 AM
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I couldn't help but snoop after reading your comment. She tested positive for COVID and is upset that her family is pissed at her, claiming she wears a mask when she's outside... I too would be mad if my sister was sleeping around with Tinder losers in the midst of a pandemic, getting infected and putting lives at risk in the process. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:29 AM
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To me, the sad part is that girls and young women who are involved with older creeps will go out of their way to defend the guy and make excuses. I've been there myself. No reasonable argument and no legitimate statistic can change their mind. I believe men go after much younger women 1) because they are aware they are more vulnerable and easier to fool 2) because they are looking for someone to have sex with who is as young as legally possible. That way, they can fulfil their pedo fantasies wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:25 AM
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Side note: Why does he keep calling her a girl? She's a professionally accomplished adult woman. It strikes me as so disrespectful and objectifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:42 AM
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In my country, there's a therapeutic treatment programme (with supervising therapists and doctors). I'm not sure about the specifics, but their goal is to prevent child sexual abuse and consumption of CP. However, they don't claim to cure paedophilia and instead offer a self acceptance approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:28 AM
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Libfems claim BDSM is or can be feminist. Feminist beating isn't an oxymoron to them... and neither is feminist rape, just call it rape play... 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:31 PM
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NoT aLl FeMiNiStS aRe FaT lEsBiAnS wItH sHoRt HaIr. Pick me 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:27 PM
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I was going to comment with my perspective from Germany and then I saw you mention it. Yes prostitution is legal, but that doesn't make johns better people than johns anywhere else. There are vile forums for them to rate prostitutes. By allowing prostitution, you literally make women into a product that can be reviewed. Thin, pretty, lets you do whatever you want, young? 5 stars and a pedo "felt like a virgin" comment. Bigger than in her photos, scars, signs of drug use or dared setting boundari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:00 AM
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Rape is bad, so listen up scrotes! Just call it roleplay and you're good to go 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:28 AM
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They don't even care about actual current or former sex workers who speak out against sex work. Just a few days ago I saw a comment criticising the industry by a former prostitute and she was downvoted into oblivion. I'm convinced many liberal feminists don't care about women and are only in it to attack those they deem unfeminist in a socially acceptable way. Just label yourself a libfem and suddenly it's okay to pretend a female author is dead or laugh about people threatening to kill or rape …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:24 AM
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Liberal feminism pushing the idea of sex work being a valid career is a brilliant example of their feminism putting privileged women first and ignoring the vast majority of prostitutes who want to get out, but can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:16 AM
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I went through this in the past. I was raped at 15 and I was groomed by a much older man afterwards until I was 18. After high school, my best friend at the time and I hung out a lot and often got drunk. That period is kind of a blur consent-wise because looking back, I usually was too drunk to consent. One incident in particular sent me spiralling. I risked my health, my dignity, my life and a friendship in the process. I met men I barely knew in secluded places, got in a car with guys who had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:17 AM
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I mean... other than the fact that your SO should not be used as your therapist... does this person not know what therapy is? Therapy is not emotional support and giving advice. Therapy is hard work with the help of a professional that went through years of training.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:04 PM
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A few thoughts: So, first of all, I believe that sexual abuse survivors often have a distorted idea of true consent, especially if they have experienced sexual violence multiple times or in a relationship. It can take a tremendous amount of therapy to relearn what consent is, which a lot of survivors don't have access to. On top of that, I do not believe that most doms are able to consistently provide an environment in which sexual trauma work can safely take place. It's hard enough with a traum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 08:42 AM
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I used to think I was kinky and wholeheartedly believed I couldn't like sex without being submissive. Even when I had my first intercourse, I wanted the guy to choke me (he was very uncomfortable with it, which blew my mind. I thought he was lame.) I was heavily influenced by sex positive Tumblr feminism at the time. Over the years I've realised that 1) "kinky" sex fills me with shame and regret (as in, looking back I'm embarrassed about the things I wanted or agreed to and I wish I had refused)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:19 AM
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A friend, when telling me about her Tinder matches, mentioned the guys' jobs like they were some sort of accomplishment. They were regular jobs that didn't require particularly hard training or education. Pickmes set the bar so low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:53 PM
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I've read that men tend to abandon their wives when they get sick, while wives tend to stay. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:15 AM
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I personally am not a fan of receiving oral, it just doesn't do it for me, but I consider it a red flag when a guy doesn't offer after expecting and getting a blowjob. However there's also the LVM breed that insists a woman who doesn't like oral clearly never received good oral sex and he's obviously the one who will change her mind. Like women are too stupid to know what they like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:11 AM
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Well done 👏🏻 my ex broke up with me on my birthday, after I had to pay for his coffee, the day before I had a university exam. I didn't even get chocolate or a card. One week later he was back to booty calling me. It's like he was too cheap to spend money on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:01 AM
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How do you deal with female friends who keep wasting their time with LVMs? Do you direct them here/to FDS approved resources? Bring up FDS ideas in conversation? Or do you choose not to intervene? A close friend left a 6 year relationship with a straight up NVM earlier this year and despite claiming that she loves the freedom of being single, she keeps getting her hopes up when she meets attractive men on Tinder. One ended up ghosting her, the most recent one (who she had been talking about nons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:36 AM
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I was bothered by a scrote in the wild for the first time in a while today. I totally forgot how gross it feels. He came up to me, tried to start a conversation and I ignored him. So as I was walking away, he said "you're so ugly". Men love to whine about women making it sooooo hard to be nice and to meet someone. Well, why would women talk to anyone when we have to expect to be insulted if we're not interested? Literally every single man who has ever randomly approached me in the street was a c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:33 AM
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My ex would combat limp dick by going to the bathroom when he got soft during sex, "sneakily" watch porn, then come back to the bedroom. Damn that was humiliating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 08:25 AM
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My ex, who was obese or very close to it at the time, pointed out to me that my stomach had gotten bigger while we were having breakfast. I was trying to recover from anorexia at the time and at a normal (but still low) weight for the first time in years. He also began complaining about my lack of effort with sexy lingerie while sporting unbrushed teeth, greasy skin and the same three pairs of worn out boxer briefs every time we met. I'm a little embarrassed for my old pickme self lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 08:23 AM
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I am from Germany, too! I'd say the men I've been on actual dates with all initially offered to pay, but mostly weren't bothered too much when I wanted to pay my own bill. I had a bad experience when I was younger where a man paid for me and gave me gifts and then used this to guilt trip me into intimacy. In order to prevent that, I was really strict about going Dutch until I began unlearning my pickme tendencies. I don't know if you know Jodel, it's an app used by young adults, mostly students …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:42 PM
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YES. And it's even worse when they express an intense dislike of protruding inner labia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:29 PM
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Just wait until the pickmeishas come out claiming they just so happen to personally prefer being hairless and child-like and it's unfeminist to judge them for their own personal choice, and how is it their fault they're somehow born with an intrinsic desire to eradicate all visual cues of adulthood?! Or option B, an unwashed dudebro pauses the 3 hour compilation incest porn on his computer to crawl out of his hole and spread the word that men are allowed to have preferences. And it's totally not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:17 PM
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B- b- but the actors and actresses are all consenting adults, they want to film those racist videos! It's not real it's just fantasy to jerk off to!!!!1!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:51 PM
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The age of consent (14) and sexual abuse of minors laws in my European country are total trash IMO, speaking as someone who was negatively affected by this. I think no country needs an age of consent below 18, and I wish the age of consent in my country would be raised. The local laws mean I can't even report the man (more than twice my age) who groomed and abused me starting when I was 15 for sexual exploitation of a minor because I'm not mentally disabled. Someone over 21 having sex with someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:25 PM
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100% this. At one point I asked the (admittedly trash) men I was talking to questions about hypothetical situations with lack of clear consent or women expressing lack of sexual interest. Like, "how would you feel about sexually touching a woman while she's asleep?" or "are you openly disappointed when your partner refuses sex/a sexual act?" All of them gave answers that made me internally label them as potential rapists. Most likely none of them would ever say they might assault a woman, but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 09:51 PM
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It's like when they say all men watch porn and those who say they don't are lying. Crabs in a bucket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 11:25 AM
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Oh, I'll play. LVM I had a crush on for years: -Pretty much only willingly engaged with me when he wanted sex -When I asked him about making me orgasm, he literally said "maybe next time" because I had his cum inside me (next time never came) -Promised to be there for me when my dad passed away, ghosted me a few weeks later -Heard through the grapevine I was going through severe depression and started antidepressants, texted me after months of no contact and said he was concerned and sorry, bloc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 12:56 AM
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I made the mistake of having a (very short) fling with a doctor. Afterwards, I whined about it on anonymous local social media. By complete chance, his doctor ex saw it and recognised him based on the vague description. She told me he cheated on her for years and everyone at their wokplace knew but never told her/she was oblivious. He fucked med students, nurses, doctors etc. both from his hospital and other hospitals. The fucker had the audacity of thanking her in his dissertation and calling h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:10 PM
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I just want to vent about my best friend still not properly dumping her trash boyfriend. They've been in a relationship for 7 years, lived together for 1 and the relationship has been rocky basically from the start. She has finally signed a lease for a new apartment, but still gets intimate with him! He's a horrible person and boyfriend. He recently had his driving license taken away due to a DUI, he has spit into her face during an argument, he tore apart her passport, stole an heirloom from he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:05 PM
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I feel like there are a lot of murder cases with female victims where the husband is either the primary suspect or even convicted and their families are still supportive, including their kids. It's enraging to imagine the hell these women lived in behind closed doors, only for people to protect their killers. It's like the ultimate fuck you to victims of male violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 04:17 AM
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Yes! I have a baby face and I was very thin in my teens, making me look even younger, yet I was regularly hit on especially by older men. The worst were the ones who walked past and casually said things like "Nice ass" and "I want to fuck you". It's made me realise how many pedos are out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 04:12 AM
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Men who intentionally go for young looking, babyfaced women for their looks are supercreeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 04:09 AM
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That's disgusting. I hate men who pride themselves in fucking girls that are barely 18 or 19. There's no more obvious sign they'd go for minors if it was legal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:41 PM
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It's nauseating that this is the misogynistic world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:39 PM
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