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This is so fake. Men are so annoying. Why are they even here? They don't understand what were talking about at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:33 PM
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My mom and sister just felt like my dressing sense wasn't as good as theirs basically. Lol. It wasn't malicious but it can be damaging when you're CONSISTENTLY being told that you're bad at something and that you should let other people decide for you. And I know! I'm so sick of being in my pajamas lately. I don't miss make-up but I miss dressing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:16 PM
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I know how you feel. Sometimes thoughts hit me and it feels so incredibly humiliating and horrible to think about. I think the first thing I do is forgive myself. I was in a different place with a different mindset at that time and I couldn't have known better. And then I promise myself that it won't ever happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:49 PM
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Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:48 PM
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Lmao he was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:48 PM
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Yes we will sis! In time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:38 AM
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Yeah. It was a hard learned lesson. Honestly am so glad to be free. I'm using some time off from men right now to work on myself and my career and to reflect on past issues so that I know how to choose better in the future. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:35 AM
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Oh my God..this is so shitty. That's such a vulnerable moment. That's what I felt too. Like why would you pick at something so sensitive? And also- why would someone try to get you to change how you orgasm? How would that even work? That just makes it difficult to let loose and enjoy things. Also like- why is your "loud" orgasm a problem? Like does he want you to not enjoy sex? Trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:33 AM
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I don't mind tips wherever I get them! Ahaha but yeah, what you mentioned above is the rule I stick to. Their issue was mostly that I was "boring". Or so the second one said. The first one was more concerned with why I didn't like sex the way he did and that meant something was wrong with me or that I was "not trying to learn". Which is like... Stressful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:29 AM
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Yeah, I know. I hated the sense of being "tested". So happy to be free of them both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:15 AM
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You're right. And that was what I was concerned about. When it first happened, I actually looked up to make sure I wasn't doing anything too bad and how to improve. But I really detested the way these people came at me for things when it was clear that I was trying. And it's not like they put the same energy into pleasing me either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:13 AM
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Hi girl! This is a hard time to get a job anyway. Everything is up in the air so don't judge your employment value so bleakly. Also from what it sounds like- you have plans to improve and you aren't afraid to work hard for your future. Those are HVW traits and if you still with them they WILL lead to improvements in life. You DO deserve an HVM but at the moment you may not be ready to date because of life. Whenever you DO become ready- know that you ARE worthy and do not settle. Also you're 23. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:37 PM
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My acne cleared up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:06 PM
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Stingy men are absolutely gross and another thing about them is that when they DO get you something, they always expect payback. My ex boyfriend would rarely get me anything and when he did- it was obviously cheap, low effort stuff. After we broke up, he sent me a message recounting those few and far between gifts and even ranted about a wedding present he got for my sister for which apparently I wasn't."grateful" enough. If he ever picked me up from a party (at his own insistence), he would exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:42 PM
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To add to this, I think it's very important to note if a guy doesn't have friends at all. Or if he has a group, he is somehow aloof or an outsider in the group. This type of guy tends to scoff at friendships and constantly emphasizes that he doesn't have friends or isn't close to anyone because he's too "independent" or "he does what he wants" or that he doesn't let "anyone bother him". On the surface it looks like he's taking a stand and being his own man (which can be a good thing) but when yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:47 PM
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I think it kind of depends. I have a few male friends who seem to have mostly female friends because of their career (we work in education) or because in general they feel more comfortable in a female social circle. One of them comes from a family of mostly women and another basically told me that it's difficult to have genuine conversations with other guys and he feels limited with them. None of these guys are inappropriate with any of their female friends and are actually good boyfriends. In f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:43 PM
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That's the plan!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:53 PM
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I know! I also become excited about future possibilities when I read my list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:50 PM
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Believe it and it will happen. Gotta internalize this, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:41 PM
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Wow! I never knew Etsy could be used for Clothes???? So exciting! Thanks for all the recommendations. To you and to all the ladies in this thread!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:58 AM
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Wow!! Thank you so much ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:39 PM
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Thank you for sharing! Honestly, just getting to know other people know what it feels like also kind of helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:57 PM
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Thank you! And you're right. The aesthetic thing kind of applies to me too. Especially during swimsuit season. But at the end of the day- I have to learn to take a stand for what makes ME happy. Thank you, sisters!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:03 PM
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Yeah I know! I've stopped Dating for a while until I level up a little and it's also given me time to come to a comfort level with my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:01 PM
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Oh yeah. Another big one is when they feel the need to keep emphasizing that they "don't take shit from anyone". Which basically means that they will disregard and disrespect people if they every have any expectations from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:43 AM
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One ex literally used to make fun of my acne. I suddenly had a flare-up of acne and I had to go on antibiotics for a few months. It was already extremely stressful and depressing and even though I kept asking- he would continue to make jokes or off hand comments about how "ugly" I looked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:25 PM
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I don't know. He's got no backbone and I don't think he's ready for marriage at all...spoilers* He lives with his older friends and all. I don't think he can be married to a grown ass woman. But yeah, Jessica is such a hot mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 01:09 AM
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Hey girl! I don't think you were toxic. At all. In my experience men will really take small incidents and twist them in such ugly ugly ways to deflect guilt. They also do this thing where they will exaggerate something you would have done when you were angry and equate it to their own extremely egregious behavior. They know that we feel guilty about any time we hurt people because that's how we're socialized. I had similar experiences with my first boyfriend. I once snapped at him in a mall beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:47 PM
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Agreed. He was too defensive from the start and he completely railed at her without giving her a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:36 PM
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