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I'm not sure she spent as much, but my ex filed subpoena after subpoena going back further and further on my bank accounts. Then demanded information on accounts that money had been sent to, claiming they were "secret" accounts that were just her linked checking and savings accounts which she didn't recognize by the account number. Girl, we were single income because you "need" to be a stay at home mom for teenagers and I was in the military. We lived paycheck to paycheck. What money do you thin…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 09:49 PM
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I wonder if she never went through with the name change on her second marriage. Like it was just a lot of effort that she would "get around to some day" and that someday never happened. She may have socially gone by the new last name but legally was still your last name. Changing your name is a colossal PITA.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 01:31 AM
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It hasn't been long enough for her to have blown it all, but between selling the vacation home and the buyout she got about $450K. Hasn't been able to become employed during the two year long battle, but the first thing she did was take a three week tour of India, so spent a minimum of $15K on a vacation. This is someone who also got a $100K inheritance and bought a 2 door BMW that cost more than she made in the last 20 years combined. Still doesn't have a job in a HCOL area so I only assume she…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 05:06 AM
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Put down the joint.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 04:58 AM
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Pull all those bank statements NOW! Banks hold statements for five years (mandated by law). Sometimes you have to call to get them, but get that proof in hand as soon as you can. The fact that it was briefly in a joint account isn't a problem. It's when it sits for a while and gets commingled with paychecks and daily life for a while that it becomes tough. The loss in value sucks and I see why you would want to buy her out. $75K of that loss is yours and riding it out makes sense. Moving out sem…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 04:03 PM
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That's not the end of the world, those funds are still easy to protect. How long ago did oyu buy the house? Can you get the bank statements or investment fund statements from before your marriage and then showing where the money came from for the house? If it remained separate (e.g. not sitting in a joint use account for years) you may be able to trace it with a forensic accountant. I didn't even need to get an accountant involved because my ex acquiesced when my side presented the statements th…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 06:10 PM
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The "abandoning the home" thing is a myth. Half the house (assuming you bought it while married) is yours no matter where you go. You can fully move out and half if it is still yours at asset division. Even if you haven't talked to a lawyer yet you can do a substantial amount of research on this topic specific to your state (I'm assuming you are US based, but you get the idea). The stuff spouted by stand-up comedians and Instagram influencers is false.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 04:43 PM
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I'm a man who divorced after 19 years in CA married to a chronically unwilling to work woman and it sucks. She cheated and won cash and prizes. She continues to not work and has taken extravagant 3 week long vacations burning through the cash she won and I continue to pay her a huge sum monthly. The state is f-ed when it comes to how they treat men in family court. In your friend's case he's more screwed than I was. How old is the woman? She's likely no longer employable, but he can still try to…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 05:23 PM
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If your only goal is to frustrate the other party this could backfire. A judge can issue a default judgement against you and basically give your partner anything they've asked for. Also, in CA, every year you delay this you are potentially incurring 6 months of additional spousal maintenance.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 03:59 PM
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It should not affect alimony, but it should affect child support. Just frame it in your head that your windfall is also benefitting your child. Do not take the advice to hide this, as I believe all temporary and final court orders require disclosure of income changes with regard to child support.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 09:03 PM
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Congratulations!! It's not your problem!
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 01:21 AM
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Lucky. My wife started before she told me.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 03:09 AM
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I would make a "tear sheet" that summarizes all of your finances on a one sided piece of paper. Accounts and values, assets like houses and cars with best guess value, debts, your full income including all sources, any evidence of her working in the last three years, timeline of your marriage in conjunction with your pension timing, any account balances you can prove existed in a retirement account (401K, TSP, IRA) before marriage. Any inheritances you or her received that have remained mostly t…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:30 PM
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Also in CA, make $250K, two kids, wife can't hold a job. Custody is 80/20 (kids are teens and don't want to go back and forth) and with alimony I'm paying $5300. Courts imputed income on her (a touch above minimum wage). I would expect your monthly to be lower than $4K if 50/50 custody. She only will get half of pension earned during marriage, so pension time outside of that is yours. For example, we were married 14 years of my 20 year career, so she only could claim about 1/3 pension. I bought …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 04:42 AM
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This is exactly what happened to me. Trust fund wife demanded house, pension, alimony based on zero income for her, child support after the kids turned 18 and graduated. Absolutely bananas demands. Mediation failed. Over a year of going back and forth with lawyers getting ready for court and she suddenly started to be reasonable and we were able to hammer something out between us.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 03:48 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 09:34 PM
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What does your court order say? Mine specifically says no one can move the kids out of the county without agreement. If you don't have that thing memorized you should take a moment to reread it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 05:52 AM
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This is nuts! Looking at his post history they only initiated divorce in 2024! He made a post last year that he was dating and not officially divorced yet. We are in month 2 of 2026 and he's been engaged for 4 months!!!! OP, SLOW THE F DOWN! Rediscover yourself. Learn what it's like to be alone. Spend time with your friends, and if you don't have any make some. Take some classes. JFC don't get married this quickly to just fill a void in your heart without understanding why there is a void there.…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:49 PM
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Copays don't come from child support. We have a joint "maintenance" account that we fund equally. From that comes copays, extracurricular activities, kids cell phone bill, allowance. Basically everything except the food, shelter, clothing that is covered by support. By setting up an allotment in my direct deposit we don't have to deal with constantly settling up everything.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/26 08:09 PM
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The mistake you made was picking up the phone the second and third time. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 03:50 PM
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As for legal advice, I don't have that. But I would make the suggestion to talk to your own HR about this. Something like: "I am currently going through a divorce, and in some conversations with my soon-to-be ex she has threatened that she was going to contact you and make unsubstantiated accusations about me in an effort to get me to lose my job. I'm not really sure what her angle is, but I did want you to be prepared in the event that she does this in retaliation for what is going on in our pr…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 05:14 PM
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Even if the procedure was successful, not everyone is aware there are still some rounds in the chamber. My vague recollection was that I was given a set number of ejaculations I needed to complete before my confirmation sperm count.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 05:42 PM
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Gotcha, in that case he probably can't get his money back. These lawyers did actual work, be it filing, communicating with the other counsel, etc. Even if they didn't come to resolution, the case was ostensibly moved forward to some degree. Unless there was something fishy by the previous lawyers he just needs to find a new one and keep pressing forward. It sucks, but that's the best he can do.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 06:47 PM
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Dude knows why they withdrew. He probably can't accept the reason as it was probably him being a difficult client or trying to do something unethical/illegal, therefore tells people "I have no idea what happened". If it's the latter, filing a complaint might backfire as it might bring light to your friend's questionable actions. Until he comes to grips with this and corrects it he's going to keep having the same problem.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 06:30 PM
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You should leave, your partner deserves better. The fact that you were able to disrespect them, and knowingly take an action that would absolutely devastate them, for your own selfish reasons means that you don't deserve them. The only reason you are struggling with this now is that you are once again making unilateral decisions based on your self-centered thoughts. Your partner deserves the truth and they deserve a vote in whether you are allowed to stay or if you should get a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 06:30 PM
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Reread the post. OP is the cheater.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 06:26 PM
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In California, two kids, there is a set formula but I'm basically giving her unemployed butt 2/5 of my take home (she does have an income stream from a family property, otherwise it would be more).
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 05:25 PM
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