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Beachedredwine is one of those posters who you should take everything they say with a dead-sea sized grain of salt. Also fwiw I'm in my mid 20s and still not a single woman I know has dated or hooked up with a guy in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:13 PM
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Also went to wealthy high-school & college and this was exactly my experience. Not a single girl I knew dated someone more than 3 years their senior. When you take money out of the equation women date men their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:09 PM
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I wouldn't say super duper easy - you still need to be attractive. But fitting into a niche is definitely the best bet for most guys. 80% of the girls I have hooked up with have been through one sport I play.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 01:35 PM
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The issue, like economic capitalism, is that who has the goods is largely not under your control and belongs to a small number of tall white dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 02:39 PM
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They were meant for each other
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 06:49 PM
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You were probably always good-looking but never asked before I'm guessing? I don't deny that behaviour matters, but it doesn't really matter unless the looks are there to back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:14 PM
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The vast majority of people end up dating someone who is at least 2/3 the same race, socioeconomic status & attractiveness as themselves. By far the easiest way to date good-looking upper-class white girls is to be a good-looking upper-class white guy. The better-looking partner in the relationship always has control. Not all of them use this in a bad way, but it is definitely felt regardless. Women don't care how nice you are. Men don't care how smart you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:06 PM
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The real uncomfortable truth is that this is false
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 07:55 PM
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Well first of all it is extremely difficult to be at the top of the social hierarchy if you are a short, ugly male. Guys with alpha behaviours with nothing to back it up are just aggressive, annoying, and don't get taken seriously. And yes the shy but good looking guy will almost always win out over the ugly but confident one, I should know as I am in the first group. As long as you are not an anti-social weirdo, you end up meeting and attracting lots of women just going about your day-to-day li…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 03:09 PM
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I definitely know average dudes with hot wives/girlfriends too, I'm more talking about the average dude who has multiple casual relationships with attractive women, not just one that he holds onto for dear life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 03:00 PM
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I fully disagree as what you are saying runs counter to my life experience. I'm shy, neurotic, suck at flirting, and literally never approach girls, but have still done better than most of my peers. I just go to parties and try and have a good time, and most of the time someone makes their interest known. This sub underestimates how much work girls will put in for high-value guys. All you need are basic social skills that don't make you a weirdo, and then after that looks>>>>>>>>charisma. When I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 02:56 PM
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Where are y'all finding these guys? In my 10+ years of going out to parties and socializing I've never once come across this hypothetical ugly broke guy who is always dating attractive women because of his charm
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 02:39 PM
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That would be the case if there were only one gene responsible for balding, but unfortunately it is not that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 05:52 PM
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That's a myth. Balding genetics can come from anywhere. Even if both your male grandparents have hair the gene could come from one of their parents
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 05:43 PM
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Be friends with a lot of people from different social groups. Be good-looking, the more the easier the next step is. Run into them at a bar, introduce them to people, talk, and have a couple of drinks. If they are into you (which they should be given step #2), they will go home with you. Bada-boom bada-bing I'm pretty high inhibition and this has been the majority of my casual sex experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 08:39 PM
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Be attractive, the more the better Be in situations where you are meeting a lot of new people constantly Lower your standards
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 05:09 PM
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When I was younger I vastly overestimated how many of my male peers were having casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 05:07 PM
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Exactly. Most people I know figured out where they land on the dating hierarchy by the time they graduated high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 04:45 PM
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Exactly. If what OP said was the case then you would see average dudes with attractive women everywhere, and I probably only see 1 or 2 couples like that per day. I'm awkward af around women and literally have never formally asked a girl out in real life and still do well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 02:10 PM
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I agree that being super forward irl is probably the best bet for an average guy to get an attractive girlfriend. However, the overwhelming majority of average guys who asked out girls in person still date average girls as well. The "average guy/hot girl" and "hot guy/average girl" combo is rare, which means that looks still matter. Also, online dating was still niche while I was in college, so we had to do it the old fashioned way. And the guys that did the best at that by far were the attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 02:03 PM
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Yeah probably some internalized misandry tbh. And I'm gonna pat myself on the back real fuckin hard here so forgive me but I've been pursued by a few attractive women while in relationships and turned them down (not to say I wasn't tempted). So I assumed more people were like that. But I agree with your numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 03:28 PM
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I'm usually more blue pill, but hanging around some of my really high-status male friends (well-known DJs, pro athletes, just really good-looking guys) it is absurd how many women are willing to cheat on their boyfriends in the moment. Not everyone obviously, but girls who I thought "weren't like that". It's sobering for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 03:00 PM
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Yeah, I see more women dating up as well. Although the biggest differences are usually where the guy is dating up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 02:50 PM
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Yeah, every so often I'll see an unattractive dude with an attractive girlfriend in public and think "huh, maybe there's something I'm missing here". Then I don't see another couple like that for a couple months
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 02:39 PM
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Girls were way nicer to me after my acne cleared up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 02:35 PM
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They seem to be happy enough. Normal dudes and girls have sex is the most common type of sex in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:56 PM
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I love dudes like this but they usually have equally large girlfriends. Not that there is anything wrong with that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:49 PM
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Meanwhile I dance like I'm holding in a piss and have to turn girls down
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:47 PM
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Tell that to my feminine neurotic ass who does just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:46 PM
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So many rappers talk about how they didn't get any before they started getting popular
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:44 PM
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Can't argue with what you said too much, attraction isn't straight forward and I too know guys with significant others who are much better looking (and vice-versa). But it's not that common and usually not replicable for the "reaching" party.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:27 PM
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I agree with you for the most part. I have been to 100s of parties and 100s of bars, often with groups of good looking girls, and not once ever have I seen this trope of the ugly guy who slays because he is just so charming and confident. Willingness to talk to people and not fear rejection is important, but confidence without anything to back it up is going to get you nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 05:32 PM
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I hear people say this on reddit but I never see it IRL. Like 19/20 ugly guys I see have comparatively ugly girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 05:23 PM
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Go try your thesis right now, you would be surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 03:47 PM
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Everyone cares about personality. Women aren't special in that respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 02:33 PM
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I agree that's what masculinity is and that behavior is what we should judge people on. But unless you think critically about gender (like you, me, and other people on this forum) and are aware of your own cognitive biases you will attribute greater masculinity to traditionally masculine-looking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 07:18 PM
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The lookist reply to that would be to say that masculine-looking men are assumed to have masculine personality traits regardless of how they act and good-looking men are assumed to be charismatic regardless of how they act. While I don't fully agree with that, you can't deny that aggressive, competitive, stoic, or whatever "masculine" behavior you choose is received differently coming from a 6'4" broad-shouldered dude vs a 5'7" wide-hipped guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:07 PM
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There is a big difference between what lookists typically complain about, which is the assumption that being interesting, intelligent, nice, and respectful (aka "good personality) will have woman flocking to you, and what /u/HonestyOverCivility is saying, which is a man's value is based on " a man’s ability to provide, protect, and sire genetically fit children ". The first complaint assumes a moral superiority of female sexuality, while you could be a giant asshole and still fit all the criteri…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 04:38 PM
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And losing your house in a fire each and every day is possible. It's just something most people pay no mind to even though it is far more likely. I'm sorry if your worry about that when you have sex but for 99.99% of people it's irrelevant. I agree with your second statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/18 03:38 AM
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To women bad sex means pain, possibly death Don't say this then. Women should be more worried about having a heart attack or being struck by lightning during sex than being killed by her partner. Pain is worse than boredom, I agree with that. But neither is even in the same realm as death. It's incredibly disingenuous when you make it seem that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/18 03:22 AM
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