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You too are conflating PSL and KCAS. KCAS has nothing to do with cultural beauty standards/preferences. Big noses may or may not be penalized depending on the balance of the face, and the same goes for other masculine traits too. [KCAS] evaluates symmetry, balanced proportions, and the absence of distortions. Please re-read my original before engaging unless you are actually trying to agree with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 07:45 AM
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You are still conflating PSL and KCAS. Big noses may or may not be penalized depending on the balance of the face, and the same goes for other masculine traits too. Rugged features that are proportionate and harmonized do not indicate genetic flaw. Asymmetrical fuck ups do get penalized. And faces thought to be conventionally attractive can still contain structural flaws that signal reduced genetic stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:23 PM
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Deep mate choice like marriage or childrearing still aligns with unconscious viability instincts in non-Christian crowd. You are missing the actual point here. I think you may be confirming the hypothesis with your second rebuttal. I am actually rejecting the idea of mating across conventional beauty standards, but adopting the idea of mating across the genetic health markers. Being KCAS-matched but PSL-mismatched tends to create stable, lasting bonds. Being PSL-matched but KCAS-mismatched typic…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:16 PM
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Tastes only matter once someone is sufficiently within your biological range. It is quite likely that my past crushes didn’t lead to a biological choice, because it never crossed that viability threshold. I acted on securing my boyfriend, never the others while I would have dated them if they asked me out. But the thing is, I kinda dated without making a true biological commitment. I didn’t even have sex with my boyfriends, and I never selected anyone in a way that reflects deep mating investmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:26 PM
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Shame we can't make looks-based posts. I did post it as a comment on the looks thread though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:46 AM
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Women ARE Punching Up On OLD To have this discussion, we first need to touch briefly on Physical Sexual Looks Rating (PSL). PSL is something untrained eyes can observe instantly, especially in 2D formats like photos. It rewards striking, sexually dimorphic traits—features that catch attention quickly—rather than reflecting true biological health markers. In contrast, there is Korean Clinical Aesthetic Scoring (KCAS). Originally developed by Korean clinicians, KCAS is the only standardized metric…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:42 AM
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Agreed. I also did mention something similar in another comment. This alone is prone to misinterpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:13 AM
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On the bias towards their current partner, the study itself acknowledges it. One of the analyses done by the study itself was comparing between partnered and single participants. They directly tested whether patterns differed between single and partnered participants. <image> You can analyze the raw data yourself, and only look at non-partnered participants. That's the beauty of raw data analysis. Or just don't. When you are skeptical, there's no better way than to read the paper and look at its…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:07 AM
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It is an extra piece of information to help you decide whether you want to engage with the data or not. Attractiveness ranking so high for both genders and the stated vs. revealed ranks differing by a lot fascinated me enough to make me look into the actual data. The study says that stated vs. revealed preferences can differ by a lot, and I think the raw data sufficiently shows it. I am not claiming the study is accurate by any measure. It is an exploration of a paper I found fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:21 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:57 PM
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Extroversion is not as attractive as many of us deemed it to be, but is probably quite important for visibility still. Being financially secure means so little. I think the study needs to be paired with other studies and could be prone to misinterpretation even with the beta scores. There's a study that talks about predictors of infidelity for example. "Choice" alone is not all that matters. How we could be made aware of these traits of others could also be a point of discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:42 PM
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I think Attractive having similar enough beta scores for both genders should be noted. Rank 1 vs. Rank 5 might give a different idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:20 PM
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Pulling Top-10 doesn't really capture what the beta scores tell us. Similar beta score means similar effect. The scores should be compared to each other, not the rank to best use the data.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:14 PM
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Don't read the whole thing. Under procedure is where the method is. Ctrl+F Procedure. Sorry accidentally deleted the original comment. If you don't want to read the method used to gather the data, I guess you could move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:12 PM
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Idk I’ve called my mom weird for wanting an Ai dog. How detached from reality does one have to be to delude oneself that one is being loved by an entity without a soul? Every time I realize the entity is not real, I think I would fall even deeper into my misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:48 PM
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Didn't you have casual sex btw?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:48 AM
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If she still has options, it is still a choice she made. If she doesn't have the options, it wasn't really a choice. Semantics matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:47 AM
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Idk. Be more assertive irl. They'll find you. There's more submissive men than there are dominant women wanting submissive men. It is a niche market with potentially the worst gender ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:10 PM
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All the other things are irrelevant to the definition of a virgin. A virgin is "a person who has never had sexual intercourse". Nothing less, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 07:20 AM
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why i said what i said
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 06:57 AM
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Most cute old couples stories go like, "oh he pursued me relentlessly, and I gave in. (couple giggling together remembering the old times)" It probably works best when the man is crazy about the woman, and the woman knows to appreciate and reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 06:47 AM
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I think it is fair to say that certain preferences can be quite unrealistic depending on the preference or one's own desirability. I don't think it is wrong to have "unrealistic preferences" per se, but I would give the person the side eye if one doesn't realize one's preferences are kinda unrealistic. I say this as a person who held out for a long time too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:35 PM
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I am against sex outside of very committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:13 PM
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It didn't happen like how you describe things. I realized I was dating non-forever partners until I got together with my current boyfriend whom I consider to be my forever partner. Such commitment is too serious of a business for me to take lightly. I never thought anyone would convince me into showing them to my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 09:46 PM
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Haha. Hey 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:05 PM
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So you really got lazy this semester. Lol Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:02 PM
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I had to. Not bad. How was yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 07:55 PM
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That’s how non-Asians eat rice. Shame on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 07:51 PM
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I feel instant disgust. So the ones who get an instant disgust response won't get a change. However never an instant attraction from looks. I don't claim to be the norm. I could very well be an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:33 AM
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Oboe. But I find pianists the most attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:48 PM
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There is a big difference between knowing you did something wrong and getting disciplined and not knowing what you did wrong and getting hit. Neglect and failure to provide subsequent consequences raise some kind of failure. Source? Generational wisdom. New behavioral scientific research has gotten us breeding weak useless snowflakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:13 PM
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Most Asian kids turn out non-evil with the disciplining we do. I don’t believe strict discipline is the primary factor, but neglect and a lack of subsequent consequences. And disciplining them in whatever way possible until they don’t need it is necessary. Being fine with less than desirable behavior is what breeds failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 07:24 PM
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It seems to have worked for the purposes it was supposed to serve at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:44 PM
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How we treat our kids has changed. Kids need more disciplining from their parents, probably especially boys. Most Asian dads around me beat their sons a lot more for disciplining them. That used to be the traditional way that I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:35 PM
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Introversion for a non-outlier male should make dating exponentially difficult. Men are usually the ones who have to pursue and initiate partly due to female passivity and possibly also due to difference in libido/desire. Introversion for females shouldn't be that terrible as long as she interacts with humans somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:35 AM
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Happy birthday :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:52 AM
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Yeah, you just have to avoid the shittiest people and you are fine in terms of that from the looks of what happens in my family or within my circle in my home country. That is not too difficult to vet for. Almost every male elder in my family is a HVM who can help vet. My mom already got a lot of other family members involved in the process. The worst things usually don’t happen when your elders are not stupid, and you are not stupid enough to dismiss your elders.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:27 PM
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I was never that sane. You know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:11 AM
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Yeah more girls than you think do insane diets over there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:04 AM
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Would depend on whether my family requires one or not. Neither my boyfriend or I plan on making a big fuss over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:03 AM
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Oh I thought she was Winter from aespa due to her blonde hair. I now see that she isn’t. Anyway, I know enough people who have similar leanness without lipo. It is not THAT rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:59 AM
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My face is pretty enough to bypass a lot more than you think. Pretty privilege gives a lot of leniency even when securing the ultimate commitment if you are pretty enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:49 AM
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I don't think she got lipo. Idol trainees usually stay on top of their weight at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:49 AM
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Yeah, exactly. So it isn't necessarily immoral unless he himself believes he is doing harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:43 AM
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Glad to see you around here again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:00 AM
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You can’t predict or control every effect your actions will have in the world. We only can do what we believe is right or unharmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:50 AM
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I look good in both navy and in black, but black is even more common than navy, so navy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:45 PM
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As long as you are upfront, I don't think you are necessarily being immoral. But if you believe you are doing harm to these women, but continue doing them anyway, that's where it could get immoral, because you think of it as doing harm and are doing it anyway. If you are talking about religious virtue, that too is going to be a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:50 PM
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The catch: he is quite boring and will give you a blank look if you try to talk about something more complex than the weather. Michael is fine tbh. I can scratch that itch with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 08:17 PM
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Nah, it only “sounds” like that cause it is over sensitivity probably fuelled by insecurity and/or self-victimization. I don’t actually try to attack individuals on this platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:41 PM
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I am genuinely curious. Cause she disappeared after getting a ring from someone she just started seeing. You sound a lot like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:33 PM
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Are you the woman who previously was engaged to a practical stranger? Or are you following her footsteps?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:31 PM
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I am not. That’s just what commitment looks like. Until you are at least formally introduced, nothing is even close to being set in stone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:26 PM
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Have you met all their parents and gotten a ring from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:18 PM
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NAMALT
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:43 AM
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Anesthesiologist is not high power nor status within hospitals. If he is also average looking, I would say women are more likely aiming for LTR with a good bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:37 PM
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You are confusing RMV with SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 10:13 AM
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Meh. 6 ex/current PPD members have seen my face. Never going to be posted publicly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:20 AM
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Okay, I see his upturned nose now, but her natural face is not gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:18 AM
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https://www.tiktok.com/@savvfayee/video/7278061558129790239?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7369244053625390597 The vid you watched was her maxed out. He looks like a hobo. At their base, they should be close enough. And I am pretty sure I am delusional for both genders but high ones for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:06 AM
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I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:59 AM
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I think they are looksmatched.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:51 AM
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The women who chase, I guess. I think they only chase cause they can’t get the men they want to chase them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:08 AM
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More work to acquire sex, less opportunities, and possibly not enough SMV to acquire as much sex as he wants without seemingly giving commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:41 PM
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I think the new dating culture where strangers attempt to date strangers has gotten way too many people jaded. Not only do we not know the character of the person we are dating, but we are also not as inclined to care for them and be decent when they are not a part of our community. I too ended up jaded, and finally understood why my mom gave me the advice she did which was to date someone from school or from work. I consider it to be nearly impossible if not straight up impossible to vet strang…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:13 AM
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My parents were arranged with veto powers, and it is the best marriage that I know of. I wasn’t against the idea for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:59 AM
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First name, I’m happy with. Asian family names are often very generic. I wish I got my mom’s last name.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:56 AM
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I’ve had enough positive experiences, but it was plenty discouraging and demoralizing too. I have lived amongst the liberals in the West for over a decade now. I think when people aren’t too jaded, we tend to believe others unless they show signs of inconsistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:43 PM
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Dating as a more conservative woman makes you meet so many hypocrites and weak charactered men by our standards. Upholding virtue has to be done by both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:51 PM
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There could be cases like that, but in my experience, guys most likely believed me in general. Some of the more virtuous guys that I have met seemed rather surprised but told me to save myself (but not with them). They were surprised and impressed. I still think more highly of them for wanting to protect a woman’s virginity. They might have been not as neurotic with me as I am considered very desirable otherwise. No one thinks it would be difficult for me to secure commitment with my superficial…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:45 PM
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I think a celibate woman is the closest female equivalent of a beta nice guy in the West. Celibate women are oftentimes the last one men would choose if they had to stay celibate with her unless they are planning to settle down soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:12 AM
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There is no way of actually knowing even if he says those words. I was taught to only have sex when I can be responsible for a child and only with a man I would want to raise a family with. And if a guy truly wants me, he would wait as long as I need. Speaking from experience, what she said ended up being true, but probably is much harder to pull off now especially in the West than it was for her in the sex negative East. Having enough perceived RMV to pull this off is a challenge when having se…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:46 AM
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I used to lean more left fiscally. Not anymore. Also my views on religion have changed quite a bit. I can accept when I have been wrong, and change myself according to new things I’ve learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:58 AM
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Even when my mom worked in fashion, knows more about brands than me still, and I like to wake her up when I am shopping on the other side of the world, I still feel weirded out when she compliments me on my new hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:24 PM
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Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:18 PM
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No idea what that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:08 PM
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I think the range of orange-bright red can be dependent on the woman and also on the age of the virgin man. But a teen boy is just absolutely nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:19 AM
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I think people more often view this as a chicken or the egg problem when I don't as much. So people here often say virginity is unattractive. I think the reason why people may view virginity in a negative light is often because there is an assumption of an undesirable trait that has lead to him being a virgin, rather than just the virginity/lack of experience being unattractive. I hope I am making sense. That's probably why virginity becomes way more of an orange flag the older you get. Virgins …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:08 AM
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No, we are actually giving hoes an out to prove that they are at least having children of one men. Instead, they could be left at the bottom of the barrel or as spinsters if they raise uncertainty, and the uncertainty alarms too many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:24 PM
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My boyfriend’s friend group has been the opposite. They have been praising my boyfriend for his weight loss and how much better he looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:26 PM
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I oppose it cause I am even more sex negative than most people here. Uncertain paternity is a consequence of choosing a hoe. Men should also bear the burden of vetting, so that the social contract of non-promiscuity is better maintained. Allow easy women to exist more easily? Then they deserve the uncertainty and the uncomfortable conversations for paternity testing. Just because a hoe keeps popping out children from just one man won’t make the society as non-promiscuous as I want it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:18 PM
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I try to go beyond identity politics so I vote right. I choose the policies that I agree with more. Politics generally is a turnoff when you hear people bring in such discriminatory narratives.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:22 PM
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I showed my bf a similar question and asked who I should pick, and he told me to just pick him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:18 PM
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My bf says it was dudes in uni that made the most deal out of his virginity, then nobody cared. But he is physically attractive to the point that women would never think he was too undesirable to lose his virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:52 PM
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My bf’s facial fat dropped quite a bit way before he hit fitness BF% range. He still is in the average range.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:38 PM
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My culture’s men have severe inferiority complex over competency. But other than that, I’d say women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:07 PM
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It depends on the insecurity I’d say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:01 PM
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I was emotionally invested but it only lasted for a few months that it is weird to call it a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:01 AM
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Thank you, Badger. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:28 AM
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Eh. We are going back to one of our home countries. We decided that we want to start our life together in Asia. It isn’t necessarily out of luxury. We just want to return back to our roots and raise our kids there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:28 AM
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Yeah they are not East Asians. East Asians are anti-facial hair in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:30 AM
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Observe the lack of facial hair. https://mydramalist.com/list/3rWQewA4 https://www.ranker.com/list/hot-korean-male-actors/taylor-park https://mydramalist.com/list/3rWQew04
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:21 AM
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Gotta decide on how we are going to settle down in which country first.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:28 AM
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Dang, another marriage of my bf's and my hs friend. We are getting old. Also, when we went out together today, someone thought we were married. We really must be getting old.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:24 AM
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Ask East Asians. I think it would be pretty safe to say that East Asian women in general are anti-facial hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:36 AM
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East Asian here. And I am pretty sure. I just asked my mom too and she said women don’t like it. My boyfriend said most likely. He got a lot of shit from his mom and his grandma when he was not clean shaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:24 AM
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Giving infinite excuses for why they can't when someone else already have achieved it. And when they chase guys that clearly don't want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:17 PM
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Clean shaven. I am too Asian for beards. We consider beards to be unkempt and unprofessional and companies expect employees to be clean shaven too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:15 PM
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I think irrationality comes with those love goggles and people in general are not insightful enough at the time they experience their first love. It would be the best if people are insightful enough at the time they experience their first love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:21 PM
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But I haven’t even had sex. It isn’t necessarily body count. It is past emotionally committed dating experiences too imo. So good luck finding your weirdo if you are hellbent on finding one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:12 PM
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We are both outliers. We are millennials and my boyfriend is at 0 ex 0 sexual partner and I am at 2.5 and 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:01 PM
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I know. I try my best to be good to him though. I don’t want him to hurt and end up losing those goggles. I want his world to stay beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:07 PM
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I don’t think it is necessarily body count. Even if you stay celibate while dating, I think it is possible to damage one’s bonding abilities and the number differs for each person. I am definitely more cold and distant than I used to be. I am my boyfriend’s first love and he has that first love goggles for me which I lost. I don’t necessarily think keeping the first love goggles is the best thing as it makes one too dumb in relationships, but it still is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:10 PM
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There still is intrasexual competition. You know when you have some else prettier than you. Plus, I don’t think Chads have to dumpster dive that low.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:40 AM
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Since when is 10 yr age gap slightly older? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:44 AM
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I agree with ThatLeval for the most part. Yes, it is lying, but it is for the sake of fitting in. I don’t actually believe the 3s think they are 8s cause they got called 8s.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:30 AM
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Disagree. There are branches of feminism, and egalitarianism is just one branch of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:00 AM
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fit men* apparently your comment had me confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:24 AM
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Dentists are failed doctors in my home country. Pharmacists are pharmacists.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:21 AM
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Wow. Hope you have fun. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:19 AM
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I am lucky that I am from a sex negative culture in that sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:51 AM
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It is not that I don’t agree it is heaps better than having no options at all. I just think it is stupid to try to date strangers in the first place. And yeah, those women got lucky if they got what they thought they were getting. My dad said marriage is a gamble and my mom said to only date men from either school or work, cause I need to observe the person in various situations in the wild to actually know the person enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:57 AM
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This is what I changed my mind on not too long ago actually due to my own mom. I was surprised and disturbed to know that my mom likes the looks of much younger Asian actors, and told me that men her age are too old to be eye candies. Then I continued to observe older women admiring much younger men's beauty. I genuinely thought we continued to be attracted to our own age group probably because my peers are not deteriorating yet, but now I think deterioration plays a part after observing older l…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:25 AM
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I actually never say that on PPD. Rule #2 almost always apply imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:22 AM
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The ones you are talking to or observing might not be old enough yet to have deteriorating peers or they could be virtue signaling, who knows? Deteriorating is not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:32 AM
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The women who choose to weed out strangers either have to be naive enough to think she can read minds and is all knowing like God or believe in extreme luck. Either way, it is prime stupidity. I don’t believe it is within the vast majority of people’s capabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:23 AM
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The order of importance imo Not being actually short > being facially attractive > Being tall
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:40 AM
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I would honestly advise women to stop attempting to vet strangers and stick to men they already know very well if they don't want to waste their time or fail at vetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:28 AM
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Physically attractive? I doubt it. Masculine and dependable? More likely. I also think there could be a higher ratio of men who want casual sex than women. Women when focusing on relationships would go more for compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:54 AM
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The Asian guy looks perfectly normal. He actually look better than bottom middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:10 AM
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I get your point, but weeding out time wasters takes effort and time that you eventually give up trying to date strangers and realize it is smarter to stick to men you actually know very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:50 PM
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My mom was cherished by my dad til death did them part. You have to choose well, and make sure you are not mainly valued for your beauty and your youth, but he deems you valuable and irreplaceable for some other reason. You of course have to have traits to be valued like that to that degree however.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:15 AM
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Yes and yes. He likes it when I pat him, touch his face or compliment him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:54 PM
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Yeah cause they stay in relationships and are rarely single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:45 PM
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East Asian Confucianism.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:42 PM
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Same answer as Ange above but for cultural reasons. I come from a traditionally sex negative culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:39 PM
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I like this idea better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:21 AM
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By creating super marriage, you are making marriage into a test run.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 10:07 AM
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I think at one point in time this was true. But with the divorce rate hovering around 50%, maybe its time we consider some fresh ideas. Treating marriage as a test run is not a good fresh idea though. We need to teach kids how to vet better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:50 AM
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Marriage is supposed to be the highest form of commitment WITH SUCH VOWS. Choose someone who would honor marriage and their vows to begin with. This is nonsense. If you can’t trust the vows coming out of his mouth, you should not be getting married to him in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:18 AM
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That’s what marriage is already unless you are a degenerate and/or pick a degenerate. It is already the highest form of commitment for those who treat it as such. There’s no need for a dumb tattoo or two wedding bands or another engagement ring and a whole another wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:08 AM
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What’s the point of all this? Just get married to someone who believes in til death do us part, and thinks of marriage the same way as you do. I don’t know what people are smoking, but marriage is supposed to be the highest level of commitment already with the person that you would give such commitment to. Vetting should be done before marriage, not after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:02 AM
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I used to raise my eyebrows sometimes when listening to JBP, cause his understanding of traditionalism is too surface level to be speaking with such confidence. He is right on some things for sure, but certainly not all. We need no more proof than how his own daughter turned out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:27 PM
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19-21 BF% ;) 12-15 BF% Somewhere in between athlete and fitness for both I guess. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:33 AM
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You don't know if that's what's required to get a girl. Tbh, even if a guy did all that, he may get no girl at all. My boyfriend's lil bro just turned 16, and he gets horrible haircuts done by his own mom and wears normal shoes and still has a lot of girls who are into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:43 AM
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Not for the men in my home country. Our beauty standards are just eurocentric.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:48 PM
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The guy above has the balls to post his BF%. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:50 PM
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My menstrual cramps somehow got so much better with keto. My energy crash issue got much better with caring about blood sugar spikes. But general mental clarity and general energy level seems to have improved when I started drinking my green juice. I could have been deficient in some nutrients before. Btw you might want to look into intermittent fasting if you aren’t doing it already.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:11 PM
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Yeah but you’d have to be valued for some non-superficial reason too in the first place. I would not leave my boyfriend for Hayato Sumino.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 12:50 AM
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I actually had a nightmare about my boyfriend losing his hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:13 AM
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98.33% masculine and 40% feminine. I am in the masculine box. No autism here but definitely was a tomboy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 01:00 AM
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I think the ones with public instagram have it for the external validation, not to look for a partner. Attention/validation wh*re is who he is trying to date to begin with. No sane person should have a public personal instagram page. It is naive to think that she would stop chasing such validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:09 PM
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I am not denying how blacks and hispanics age. Like I’ve said, I just used one example. Lifestyle and diet decisions affect people, but we are still born with different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:28 AM
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Asians were used as one example to disprove your claim as only one case is needed to disprove a statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:15 AM
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Nah Asians actually have thicker dermis layers and higher levels of collagen in skin. But it is better to take care of yourself regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:08 AM
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No, what he showed was decency. I was the top student in my graduating class. Most kids just did “enough” and let me handle the rest. He actually tried to do as much as he could even when he knew I’d be carrying the project anyway. If he did my homework, that would have been simping. A lot more girls than you think like general decency, not over-the-top I will do ANYTHING FOR YOU gestures.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:17 PM
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Rule #1 Be attractive Rule #2 Don’t be unattractive. I think rule #1 is for casual or non-relationship oriented easy mode. Rule #2 should almost always apply imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:39 AM
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I still think rule #2 applies in every case. At least with me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 08:32 AM
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My boyfriend always objects to me doing anything to my hair when he rarely notices what I’ve done to my hair. Don’t cut ittttt. It is so elegaaanntt. My hair grows! I need to cut it once in a while to keep it this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 02:52 AM
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Yes, this is partly why I gave formal commitment (introduction to family) to my volcel boyfriend only, and I didn't take forever to do so. I would have accepted someone who has only had sex within very committed relationships and was willing to wait with me too though probably... eventually... Btw, guys on PPD often get mad at me for saying I only care about celibacy that is a clear proof of one's principles. Involuntary circumstances cannot be used as proof to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:37 AM
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I gave up too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:00 AM
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I have a best friend that I call my soulmate, another close female friend that I call my wifey and a boyfriend. My wifey is the reason why my boyfriend and I are back together though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 12:56 AM
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Yup. My boyfriend seems to frequent my reddit profile too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 05:46 PM
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This is something I did somewhat change my attitude on, but here's another perspective. So I once thought dating was easier for more average people (more so women in specific), because I felt that it would be easier to tell who likes you as a person, rather than your superficial qualities. It is like people being nice to you because you are rich, and wanting nothing to do with you as a person, but will stick around for superficial reasons. Yes, being more attractive and having more options is ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:44 PM
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You said it perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 04:19 AM
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Meanwhile, I got back together with someone from my high school days. According to your CMV, I basically dated multiple same guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:09 AM
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She was cute before too, but she did get some work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:18 PM
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AWALT and AMALT thinking that OP displays is some kind of cognitive impairment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:42 AM
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Think there actually was a survey that showed how much more prevalent it is in such places. I unfortunately was not able to locate it rn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:34 AM
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This is not the general population we are talking about. This is one corner of the internet. I don't throw around the word autism just to insult people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:22 AM
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It really depends on what you value. Some people want to have a family and to grow old with someone. And some manage to stay attracted to each other. My boyfriend has a GIANT age gap with his brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:01 AM
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My unicorn started with "What does your dad look for in a guy?" on our first date and does not believe in dating just to see where things go. But he probably will sound a bit nuts to most. It is important to be desirable to your target audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:22 AM
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Unicorns definitely exist, you just have to be seen worthy to the unicorns.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:16 AM
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I assume you are autistic, not necessarily ugly. Black and white thinking without nuance tends to be way more common among autistic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:55 PM
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Nah. There is no need for manipulation. He is a natural simp. But he oddly does look better when he is cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:45 PM
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I like your interpretation. I read mine as “free labor” before. The result was acts of service.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:40 PM
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Yeah I don’t blame their business decision. But there’s unintended consequences on a societal level.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:51 AM
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This is not realistic probably, but music tends to be my kryptonite. I have very high standards for it, and should be even less realistic than becoming a high tier normie. Also, below average probably will be difficult. There were four friends who did music that I was interested in, and two that I did not know personally that I for sure would have gone out with if they had asked me out. They ranged from normie to good looking. I am currently dating the best looking guy among the six, but I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:22 AM
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Yeah, cause it is a factor why a good portion of women often opt to not have a child. 'I know too much' One 28-year-old woman, who worked in HR, said she'd seen people who were forced to leave their jobs or who were passed over for promotions after taking maternity leave, which had been enough to convince her never to have a baby. It is a rather well known discrimination now. :/ The corporate culture that emphasizes the bottom line no matter the cost really does contribute to the fertility rate.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:09 AM
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I'm like that, and I don't have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:21 AM
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China is relatively feminist due to the cultural revolution. Moreso in big cities than in smaller rural areas though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:53 AM
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I am pretty sure they do. But the companies really do not like it when men take paternity leave to my knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:01 AM
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Men and women don't actually have the same employment opportunities there as it makes little sense for the companies to hire female workers. The fact that the company have to partially cover for the maternity leave and the possibility of women leaving the workforce after having children make the companies hire women less. A major bank was found to have a set gender ratio of 8:2 of men and women, and women who were way more qualified than the men were still not getting hired. Unless women are exc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 01:29 AM
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It is probably not realistic for most women to desire a 666 man, like it probably isn't very realistic for most men to desire a virgin. Just look at the average age people lose their virginities. Also, some people are required to settle (way) more than others. It probably is helpful to realize where you stand in the dating market, and what is possible for you. This goes for both genders. My mom is one of the older ladies that advised younger women to be realistic and choose the best amongst what…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:15 AM
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- Is openminded enough to genuinely listen to others and change his mind. I do the same, and it is one of the qualities people close to me value the most about me including my boyfriend. - Is mature. He is considerate of others, takes accountability (always finds faults in oneself before blaming the circumstances or others), is grateful, has perseverance, is responsible, and is mentally stable enough to not negatively impact other people. - Is self-aware. - Is trustworthy. - Is extremely family-…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:10 PM
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I think there’s 1:2 ratio of masculine enough to desire a more feminine man as a women to feminine men, but the number is brought down even more with how much money they actually make to not take too much of a hit financially if only one person worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:39 PM
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Big city boys are very often liberal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:35 PM
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I lost my baby fat, and I think I look better without.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:30 PM
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Depends on how well rounded you were to begin with tbh. I was an absolute nightmare to date until I figured some things out. Dating experiences nudged me to be better. It doesn’t necessarily mean you will learn, but you’ve had more opportunities to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:56 AM
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follow your intuition It would not surprise me if women who ask such questions have very bad intuition. I did not go by intuition much either. My mom gave very easy to follow dating advice and I too developed my own list of traits to look for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:28 AM
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Both the women and the men involved in the infidelity went to jail. It was 1:1. Extramarital partner and the one who cheated in marriage were sent to jail, not just one. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:53 AM
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I think the right thing to do is to put people into jail for endangering families, and there are a lot of conservative people in my country who still think the same. You return to the family you came from with the child if that happens in my home country.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:45 AM
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Kids also need to learn there are consequences of your actions and infidelity will not be tolerated under any circumstances. It was even a jailable offence in my country until things turned to shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:38 AM
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Get desirable enough that you can go for men who already have those options, but still won't exercise them. They are not that common, so you need to be desirable enough to have your pick of the litter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:31 PM
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Look for a man with strong family values and will put the family above his own pleasure. You need to be able to be and do the same however. My boyfriend and I both agree that the only acceptable grounds for divorce are infidelity and abuse especially after having kids. Even if we fall out of love, we will remain together. How we personally feel or want for ourselves should not affect our dedication to the family. We are both willing to sacrifice ourselves for the family. This is not very common …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:03 PM
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I actually consider hot/sexy to be bad compliments. I feel they lack respect and that you aren’t pretty in a modest way. I’m such a prude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:42 PM
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Chinese people gifting gold to me drives me nuts. I appreciate your kind thoughts, but please don’t waste money on stuff I’d never wear. It just makes me feel bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:38 PM
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Same. Look up Adrian Gan.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:28 PM
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I cut out most processed foods, refined carbs and sugar from my diet. I think a lot of it should be about what you eat, not just how much you eat. Of course, don’t overeat but Asian diet kept me away from ever getting close to being overweight even when I was stuffing my face with food.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:26 PM
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Strangely enough, women never shamed me for the lack of makeup on my face. Two men had a problem with a lack of makeup on my face however, but that was in the course of my entire life. One guy had a gf who wasn’t as pretty as me even with makeup on. He was a weird dude. I was sick one day, and he said sickly women look better instead of asking if I was alright. The other guy worked in cosmetics. Oh the only girl who shamed me for my makeup had a problem with how I was faking pale skin, but I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:18 PM
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Ah well no food in stomach looks better on probably everyone. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:23 PM
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Lower fat people care for the boost too and definitely notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:20 PM
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Nah. I can see my abs better with no food in me, and it is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:18 PM
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He looks better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:15 PM
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I’d like to agree with you here and not the guy under you. It wasn’t and isn’t exactly easy though especially in the West. What you are saying is POSSIBLE, but also very rare probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 11:21 AM
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I am not the OP. I am a woman dating a feminine man. My boyfriend deals with a lot and needs to be a lot more than what OP probably thinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 01:33 AM
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what you are looking for is very uncommon in today’s times We really are a minority, and the ones who won't take too big of a hit on the lifestyle without having two incomes are even smaller in number. why should a strong woman invest in you outside of existing ? This is a really good question, and what I've seen so far, if the woman embodies yang to the point that she desires a guy who embodies yin, the guy actually has to embody yin damn well. He is basically asking for the one extreme end of …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 01:29 AM
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Not sure about the validity of the data, but this was the results a survey of over 2000 people apparently. If the "happy relationship" was not a premise, not significantly different. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:14 PM
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You usually have to be a flavor of nutty. Yeah, most women here do have thicker skin-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:05 PM
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Eh. Read again. Not a type. Types.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:57 AM
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I think it might be partially because only certain types of women could handle being on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:52 AM
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I used to have the lyrics engraved on my iPod. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:50 AM
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Are you new here? People here need it to be written like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:44 AM
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Rascal Flatts - My Wish
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:40 AM
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Young millennial Asians
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:06 AM
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still constrained to are-you-young-enough-to-date-someone-recently-out-of-college Ime, to get the sane relationship-oriented ones, it often seems to be about whether it can be a warm approach or not. Their natural social circle needs to include each other, so their ages are usually pretty close.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:50 AM
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Yeah, we have good accountants and my mom is quite literate when it comes to the taxation laws of my home country, but we still have to deal with batshit crazy taxation laws. My boyfriend's mom wants me to get sponsored by my bf cause she too knows how my status is not in favor of my situation at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:07 AM
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Oh my. I rant about taxes almost every day (yes, my poor boyfriend deals with this), and I am currently talking to my mom about which citizenship I should keep according to what's better for me tax-wise. I probably will give one up after getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:48 AM
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All guys are in love with different girls LOL I would not believe that in a million years. My mom could write a saga on men who pursued her. Her sister also has a long list of men some of whom are now high profile men who wanted to get with her. I can't even remember every guy who gave me a Valentine, and my boyfriend was anxious when pursuing me, cause he knew many guys who also liked me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:38 AM
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I don't think you are 75, but someone could be in the leftover market without actually being a bad leftover. The person would still have to deal with the leftover market however.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:26 AM
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I think what's made together could be joint, but what your parents passed on to you should ideally be somewhat separate. I only try to use my dad's money in the ways he would have wanted to. Pre-marital, I think the person who brought the money should have the ultimate say, but with the other person's interests in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:24 AM
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You have to think about what associated characteristics a person who makes certain decisions would have. Ask yourself why in every scenario. If you are only chasing youth, it is definitely a possibility. But if you are looking for other traits, you need to be smart and not miss the boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:13 AM
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are married at this age They are usually not married YET, but are in a serious relationship with the future in mind ime. Unavailable cause they are in stable relationships. I think 27 is still doable if you have a large enough community though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:03 AM
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Yeah, it is way earlier than most people think imo. You know I'm not too old. This likely is about when people are able to find each other. Once sane relationship oriented people find each other, they often are off the market for good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:52 PM
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It slowly happens once you are out of school imo. I think as an East Asian, you are kinda sorta screwed once you hit your late 20's, and we have more leeway cause we have enough kids who are so focused on their education/career. I think about two years after getting your bachelor's could be when a lot of good prospects are already taken, cause a lot of people get their adult social groups by then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:33 PM
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Also, a guy friend from my childhood got married, and he was the first male one to go. He was a decent kid. Decent people are really going to start evaporating one by one very soon. I think he dated his wife for a very long time. My boyfriend's friends started to get married en masse last year also with their partners they've been together for years. The leftover market is getting very real now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:15 PM
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Okay it seems like it was the second last single guy in my boyfriend's friend group that got a gf. There is one left, and the girls were talking about who he'd look good with and who they should set him up with. Apparently these things happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:01 PM
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It is not the same thing. You just don't have strong enough values yourself that you care a lot about. Voluntarily celibacy is rare for this reason. Voluntary celibacy is not valued enough by non religious people or people outside of sex negative cultures, and the ones nuts enough to be voluntarily celibate are usually also nuts enough to eliminate based on degeneracy. How often do you actually see voluntarily celibate women that are saving themselves for marriage? I believe the answer would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:07 PM
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You are completely missing the point. It is not solely about attraction. Some people have stronger values to stick to their values than to go for whatever the hell they find attractive. And voluntary celibacy requires one to have really strong values that one would care enough to eliminate when the values don’t align enough. You seem to have no idea how dedicated one has to be to one’s values to stay voluntarily celibate. This is not about women finding virginity attractive in men, but chaste wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:51 PM
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My current condo’s gym is extremely heavily skewed female and I have no idea why. It confused me. My last condo was more 50:50. Maybe each gender chooses different places to work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:48 PM
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It doesn’t. We deem such values important enough to stay chaste, and would look for a guy with similar values. People don’t just chase attraction especially when you are taught to abstain and agree with it. You wait and restrain yourself until the right one comes along.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:31 PM
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I think it is silly to think that voluntarily chaste women would choose to be with hedonistic men however. It takes certain values to stay chaste as a woman in such culture. I respect my family's values, and I would not dare marry someone without my family's approval. The first and only guy that I thought was worthy of introducing to my family asked me what my dad looks for in my potential partner on our first date. It is unlikely for a father that raised a daughter to be chaste to accept a hedo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:04 AM
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Why can't you eat 4 eggs everyday? I eat 3+ eggs everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:44 PM
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I raised an eyebrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:29 PM
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I honestly think the way your parents raised you is the right way. I was raised that way, and I will raise my kids that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:19 AM
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Good rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:20 AM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:14 AM
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Listen to people who were in similar situations and has the achievement that you want. If you consider going through everyone on OLD a victory, sure, do that. I would not call her victory, a victory however.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 05:05 AM
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heirloom dried beans I made a confused face reading this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:45 AM
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Check it off!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:43 AM
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Still consistent in saying that it is appearance is a significant motivator. Suggesting otherwise is naive or virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:41 AM
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What? Seriously? I wanted one when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:37 AM
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https://chatgpt.com/share/5ba8eeef-b9e8-4422-84ee-ecc9e324abaa I was wondering if I knew too many vain people. My sampling isn't that off if these numbers are true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:36 AM
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That I am aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:26 AM
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My point is that it is important to know how to train for what you want, and if it is looks, they can't just work out blindly. Anyway, Mike O'Hearn looks better than all of these models put together. We'd have to agree to disagree on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:25 AM
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Celebrity trainers do the same. What the ideal for each industry and what the person needs to achieve is different in every case, but I don’t think anyone is doing it blindly if they are trying to go for the looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:12 AM
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I think that’s more applicable to female high fashion models.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:10 AM
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Hence “if they care about the way they look”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:06 AM
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Hence “if they care about the way they look”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:06 AM
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I saw a guy on the elevator that was built too wide. People should really consider proportions more when working on their bodies if they care about the way they look. Modelling agencies hire trainers that know how to take the figure closer to the ideal, not just blindly train for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:02 AM
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Think that's Asian ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:57 AM
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I think I made just as many mistakes as I did back in school. I tend to skip words or even whole phrases cause my mind races faster than I can write, and I am bad at controlling it unless I really focus.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:48 AM
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Btw my boyfriend's mom sometimes gets weirded out by how formal I am with her. But it's exactly how I was raised and what my family's expectations are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:38 AM
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Yes. Maybe it is my family thing? Idk? But both my mom's family and my dad's family do it. So it could be cultural. Like I've said, we are quite old school.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:34 AM
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You have no idea how many pages I had to throw out to not use white out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:31 AM
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No no. I wrote a handwritten letter to his mom. My mom wrote a handwritten letter to him. His mom did respond to me by writing a nice letter in digital form due to her having to travel the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:29 AM
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My family is quite old school.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:24 AM
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I forgot to add. It also signals respect most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:19 AM
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Now that I think about the content of the letters, I think when we want to be seen genuine and have something to say, want to show that we care (about them), we tend to write letters. It might be my family thing or a cultural thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:10 AM
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I am not sure. My mom's side grandpa still has a letter that my dad wrote him. I have hand written letters I got from my dad's side grandpa and my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:07 AM
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I wrote my boyfriend's mom a handwritten 4 page letter when we first met. My boyfriend got one from my mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:01 AM
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We need to take social media and stuff away from the kids and throw them out of the house so they'd learn how to be normal humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:00 AM
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My community back home isn't nearly as big, but I still am very proud to be a member of my family and believe in keeping my family's legacy. I think legacy is not just about celebrating the family's societal success or status, but passing on the right family values and what we have learned as a family. My mom's siblings took turns to keep my mom company at night, gave her a guest room to stay in indefinitely, and her youngest brother called after work on his way back home every single day for mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:37 PM
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I don't really like to engage outside of the daily thread now. The outside is for the people who like to hear themselves talk. Most of them can't stand being wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:36 AM
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Living in the West with my Asian body required me to accept my body or go crazy. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:29 AM
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Btw I decided to date only within my culture due to realizing how Asian I am after my dad’s passing. I was ready to drop EVERYTHING and return to Asia to take care of my family. The degree in which we are taught to sacrifice for the family is very different imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:22 AM
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I want them to do grade 7-8 in Asia and learn the extreme work ethics and discipline over there. The competitive environment is good for preparing kids for adulthood imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:16 AM
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Yup you are an immigrant. I agree with a lot of this. I even want to send them to Asia for educational purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:00 AM
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I think depending on my actions/karma, either me or my loved ones would pay the price regardless of my own afterlife. I am not really talking about supernatural stuff. Family members of the people who did good deeds often got taken care of much better by the society.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:49 AM
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(in the west) I feel recognized.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 01:10 AM
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I come from a conservative household, and the trad wife thing is fine if people understand how and why it can go wrong and how it is supposed to work. Trad is not about mere gender roles. It is about having to rely on others to fulfill one’s roles. It is not about what they are getting out of the deal — this is what I see too often in trad wannabes. For example, my mom quit her corporate job for the family, and my dad said that in a case of divorce, she gets half. My dad took on the role of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:39 PM
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Back in high school, my boyfriend asked me what my dad looks for in my potential partner. He does not believe in dating around let alone sleeping around. That’s a traditional guy. These are not traditional shit, but tradition. All our parents were virgins til marriage, and we are waiting as well. Good parents teach by example.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:18 AM
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I love my best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:32 AM
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Wow, an actual fictional character
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:22 AM
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Omg she is already that big?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:17 AM
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You know how some women dream that her bf is cheating then get mad at him for the dream she had? That was funny to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:17 AM
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Can't fit into the same clothes anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:07 AM
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That's supposed to be easier than frying an egg or making instant noodles tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:49 AM
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My boyfriend's aunt had a late term abortion with a month left due to severe complications, and she isn't trying anymore. It is a traumatic experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:18 AM
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What looks good on camera is a bit different. You look fatter on camera, so you need to lose more weight than how you would like to appear irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:05 AM
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Some of us are born with very low bone mass. Our frame size can be very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:26 AM
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I just looked up to her, and knew I would never be her. So many people admired her beauty. It is not just about competing in the same dating pool. Hearing "she must have taken after her dad" when I was younger sank my heart. I did take after my mom quite a bit eventually though thankfully. And it isn't just me. My cousin had it real bad. Her mom is the most gorgeous person I have seen alive who modeled when younger, and she constantly got compared to her mom, and even heard things like "What a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 12:38 AM
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Meh. They can say whatever they want to make themselves feel better. Growing up with a prettier mom is what made me insecure in the past, not some internet strangers. It is like having a prettier sister, but it is your mom. Non-family members are more generous towards my looks than my own family, and it has always been that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 11:32 PM
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I land safely within the top 5% facially without makeup. I don't know what 8.5 is, but by the sounds of it on Reddit, probably not? I do have family members who modelled in Asia for being conventionally beautiful, but I don't look as good as them. I think Reddit would more likely call them 8.5+. But really, those family members are not people most people come across easily. If you think about it, top 5% is rather common and definitely someone you would see in the wild, just not that attainable a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 11:11 PM
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Like I keep telling you, the Kpop girls you like are well below 17 BMI.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 10:57 PM
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I dealt with it by finding a good hairdresser.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:59 PM
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Not everyone gets to the point of dealing with baggage. You must see it very often being here. And I do think people of both genders if they are not in stable LTRs get jaded over time, sexually successful or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:53 PM
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The best reason to stay away from cigarettes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:37 PM
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the ones who they respect Oftentimes, yes. are their optimum match What do you mean by this? A lot more men than you think just shoot their shots or Stacy-chase. I don't think men are very good at estimating the amount of interest desirable women get or the quality of the men they get it from. They not just overestimate their own attractiveness, but I've also seen a guy underestimate himself. I am not talking about hookup culture btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:08 PM
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Well yeah, the good looking ones would be going for younger doctors. To get desirable young women, men would really need to be extreme outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:44 AM
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The extremely desirable much older men are probably able to get with those small percentage of women who like much older men. It is just silly when the redpillers claim that vast majority of women would be into much older men. The extremely desirable older men are still getting the young women, and they probably are happy, but their pool is not everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:06 AM
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The manufacturers figure that out and I get it at the grocery store.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:07 AM
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Cashew milk is also very good. It froths very well among milk alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:57 AM
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Tasty
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:23 AM
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Buy a sous vide machine now instead of a rice cooker. Sous vide chicken is far superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:19 AM
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Cook rice beforehand and freeze it. If you care about eating it in resistance starch form, it is better that way anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:16 AM
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I go downstairs to pick up my packages in my snuggie. I have even been to a non-expensive steakhouse in what I wore for gym in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 10:46 PM
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I too have been in a LDR, and my boyfriend and I haven't even worried for a second that someone would cheat. After being on PPD, I think the bare minimum for a marriage should be you being able to trust the other person in a hypothetical LDR. If you don't have such trust in the other person, don't make your vows to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:52 PM
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Nah, beautiful women can always get a husband. But the more desirable you are, the better vetting skills you need, cause a lot of people will act like they will give you the world until they secure you and get complacent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:46 PM
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Explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:16 AM
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Well I know you are a psych student and you must read papers. There could be research on such topic. How common is wanting to drop one's panties for a hot guy spontaneously among women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 11:37 PM
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Idk. I like to think that we are the normal ones but maybe not? I have no idea. What do the papers you read say?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 11:27 PM
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I don't think it is just high school. My mom and my aunt still have their orbiters from their 20's. But I guess they went to single gender schools, so their crush in their 20's is kinda like high school crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:19 PM
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I see. I am not sure about new Pokemon, but older Pokemon was designed for the Japanese kids who had their parents working all the time, and could bond with their Pokemon friends and go on their own journey or something. It is supposed to have more positive effects for the kids. Something I learned while studying Japanese culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:54 PM
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Interesting how kids still like Pokemon.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:50 PM
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A lot of them chase the same girl in that group even if that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:48 PM
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Too many of them chase the same girl, and too many girls chase the same guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:21 PM
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I had to look it up. I guess Gen 1 is called Kanto Pokemons now. Old school and good taste. Have no idea what Unova region is. That's beyond me. lol My boyfriend's lil bro bought me a Pokemon keychain from gen 7 cause the character reminded him of me apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:16 PM
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To my knowledge, it is better to start off with a lower dosage and work your way up anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:06 PM
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What generation of pokemons does your son like?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:05 PM
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I think the classic definition of femininity is often too passive and not imposing on others for it to be defined as toxic. However, there are common female actions like passive aggressiveness that I strongly dislike, giving hints without talking directly which annoys me, talking behind people's backs cause they want to appear nice, and not wanting differing opinions are annoying. I guess these come from wanting to be passive though. It is not that men don't engage in such things, it is just mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:04 PM
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That's why you felt bad for my boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 02:28 AM
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White furry thingy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 02:11 AM
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I think she is back though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:41 AM
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He didn’t look like he’d be a cute crier.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:26 AM
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Probably got banned again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:49 PM
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I saw a guy who looked very similar to poopgirl's male version pic. He was around 6'2.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:38 PM
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Gold chain and earring(s) are turn offs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:19 PM
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Depends. When it comes to preferences in looks, I don't think it shifts much. I've seen too many rich ladies in Asia fawning over young good looking guys. It is just that women often desire commitment and a relationship/connection, that they go for men their age. Women of all ages are attracted to masculinity in general, but naive women are generally bad at determining actual strength vs. a pretty act. I think even Buss said it is about not being able to tell the difference between what's real a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:06 PM
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You should look into who actually have a billion dollars, let alone 100B+. You have included severe outliers in your scale to begin with. 6 cannot be a big law associate or an ibanker. They are nowhere near the average people if we are to consider 4-6 to be around the average. The vast majority of people do not have access to weird outliers like billionaires, and dating leagues for people who interact with others outside highly depend on who they realistically have access to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:40 PM
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Well, AutomaticMeaning said he likes Kpop girls. Those girls are well under 17 BMI. You need very small frames naturally to have such figure though. I think it is more about bone mass at this point. I too have slightly below 17 BMI, but my boob size is actually above average for an East Asian (still not big at all, just not flat).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:16 AM
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Asian women who date white men are considered unsuitable for the Asian marriage market. They basically are not considered “good girls” and they are undesirable. We have a derogatory term for them too. Even the women who used a working holiday visa are considered to be promiscuous whores very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:49 PM
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Not in Asian marriage market. 35 is the male wall to get desirable women. He can still get less desirable women if he is successful. 30 is the female wall successful or unsuccessful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:38 PM
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Female wall and male wall both exist according to matchmaking services. However, the obsession with plastic surgery isn't all about the wall. It is due to women's value being primarily linked to their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:28 PM
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Americans are pretty much the fattest and American airlines are the safest apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:24 PM
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No, it is because the only thing that women can change to increase their value is pretty much their appearance wall or no wall. Rhinoplasty and boob jobs are done to women of all ages, and Asians often get something done to their eyes even if they are young.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:17 PM
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You made me want to eat strawberries. Getting them from the grocery store now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:14 PM
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Natural beauty does exist. It is just a lot more rare than people realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 07:28 PM
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My dad's parents probably wouldn't have set my dad up with my mom if my mom didn't come from money.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:25 PM
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My dad said the guy has to learn our language to marry me actually. I also prefer to date within my culture but I have dated non-Asian Christians. My dad was a devout Christian himself, so what non-Asian Christians learned and what I learned were somewhat similar. But after my father's passing, I realized I am so much more Asian than I thought I was to the point that westerners probably would have a harder time understanding, so I decided to just stick to Asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:36 AM
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His eyes are more like cute cow's eyes. His large eyes tearing up is really cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:09 AM
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We met in high school. He apparently followed me around and gave me something for Valentines, but I did not know he existed in our junior year cause he was such a quiet kid who really tried to blend into the background. In our senior year, he says he didn't know what had gone into him that made him sit down next to me in a class we were taking together, but it did make his presence known. He liked playing rhythm games on his iPad, and he was really good at it, so I asked about it, and apparently…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:08 AM
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My cat could eat that cute little thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:52 AM
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My boyfriend kinda has similar features to the left pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:26 AM
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My school in an uber Christian town didn't teach the pre-cum stuff either. We just learned that no contraceptive protects you 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:52 AM
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I don't know where these guys find the women they talk about. If a woman doesn't appreciate her man simping for her, the guy should honestly run. It can be a sign of other problems like having been raised in an unhealthy household and has a bad idea of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:06 AM
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You fuck, then you can get pregnant. It is not that complicated. It is more about being able to think about other things other than fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:49 AM
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There's often a reason why people end up in the leftover market.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:36 AM
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A good number of them probably didn't have the brain capacity to not become a single mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:33 AM
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Did you pay to see what they look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:51 AM
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I never asked the question, but my boyfriend said he would still love me if I was a different gender. That was a bit weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:40 AM
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My boyfriend has a concealer that I gifted him. A few products for men are not so out of the norm in East Asia now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:39 AM
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I am not saying it never happens, but they just don’t register as your own romantic prospect. He would be like an attractive coworker B that you could introduce your older friend to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:35 AM
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Yeah, that’s false according to matchmaking companies even if the guy has aged reasonably well and is successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:16 AM
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There is a difference between older and old.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:09 AM
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Nah. The old guy could get a pretty girl that is among the minority of women who are okay with real big age gaps. He still could get what he wants, just not with “pretty much every woman”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:01 AM
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I date desirable enough guys that if they are virgins, it is voluntary. If it is a voluntary choice, a millennial guy could be a virgin for all I care.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:58 PM
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Actually, yeah. I bought groceries too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:40 PM
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I think none.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:05 PM
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Nah, my parents told me to choose someone from either school or work, cause it is impossible to know what people are really like without observing them in various situations for a prolonged period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 05:25 PM
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The glutamate in MSG binds to specific receptors on the tongue that are responsible for detecting umami.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:23 PM
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People in the leftover market also missed their chance to pick out someone sane when they could have much easily. Most of the sane ones get taken off the market before people realize and often aren't released back.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:19 PM
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I literally could not function properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:07 PM
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It is a quick and easy way to make something taste "better" without skills or effort. A lot of Asians think food without MSG is bland as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:07 PM
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The FDA states that drowsiness that may occur in some people who are sensitive to MSG and consume 3 grams or more of the flavor enhancer. “MSG is controversial and the research has been inconsistent, but there are MSG-sensitive people and for them, it can trigger headaches, migraine, numbness, and extreme fatigue,” says Robin Foroutan, RDN, an integrative medicine dietitian at the Morrison Center in New York City and a spokesperson for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. “I generally recomme…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 03:26 PM
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I am not used to eating those packaged snacks either due to them giving me breakouts. But yesterday’s hotpot basically knocked me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:53 PM
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Anyone else get bad brain fogs from eating MSG? I am not Asian enough. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:41 PM
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That's more Jordan Peterson crowd I think. I didn't really see that much in pill space. Isn't it usually AF/BB they talk about?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:48 PM
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I think this makes them interact with the minority of women who do have sex outside of committed relationships a lot more and project those women's behavior onto everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:34 PM
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"Power" went to his head. Losers have to take every opportunity to assert their authority.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:21 PM
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It matters if you are actually short. Not being short >>> a good face > being tall
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:58 PM
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I think my bf would be ecstatic if I got off ppd and watched kdramas instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:56 PM
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If you mean Asia, that’s inflated value cause Asia has eurocentric beauty standards and westerners have the advantage of being able to earn more in the west and have ridiculous purchasing power in more developing countries. It is like mid-in-Asia Asian women’s value getting inflated, cause westerners have different beauty standards. That’s not their normal mate value. As an Asian who knows Asian beauty standards, the most mismatched couples I see are interracial couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:22 AM
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And what you have to settle for is your mate value. Whoever says otherwise is not accepting that it is a market in the first place. A person is not better than what the market tells the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:59 AM
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Mate value is determined who the person can get. You thinking someone is a 4 doesn't make the person a 4 if the person can get 6's to commit. The market dictates one's value, cause both men and women look for what's the best for them. In LTR market, it evens out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:36 AM
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SMV and RMV are different. The women who use SMV instead of their RMV are only temporary placeholders. The sexual marketplace with its mate value only exists because people do have to stay in their lanes in general. And yes, your mate value is who you can realistically attract. What you are describing is the hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:15 AM
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It still doesn't explain why men complained bitterly about dating before the Internet ever happened, back when real life socialization was the only game in town. Perhaps it is natural for people to be discontent? I think it is possible to find things to complain about even when things aren't all that horrible. Life rarely goes in the way you want it to, and it gives people something to complain about, and there's always ways in which life could be better in people's minds. Also, I don't think no…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:45 PM
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Or teach them to look for someone who's less fixated on looks? I actually don't think this works in the way you think you do. It is not only about who's wholesome and who's not. Not trying to argue with you here, but open your eyes to one rather fascinating study I've read. I think the lack of socialization is really messing up the dating scene. People who are capable of being less fixated on looks are the ones who socialize, and probably are also the ones who are capable of finding people who a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:08 PM
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And I am not sure how I am being hypocritical. Btw you downvoting me out of emotion is not masculine. Stoicism is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:25 PM
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It is sad that kids don’t grow up with a masculine dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:15 PM
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we start making out a bit then I grab her butt and tell her how sexy her ass is and how I want to see her in leggings next time. Works if you want a hoe, not a modest woman. Masculinity is also not supposed to be toxic. It is possible for a guy to be good and masculine at the same time. This really is why we need better examples of masculinity than Tate. A good untainted description of masculinity and femininity imo is Asian culture's Yin and Yang.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:20 PM
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Expectation vs. Wants. I can want something without it being an expectation. I should have something is different from I want this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:52 PM
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if she is the type who never initiates, she won't reciprocate much. She doesn't value men enough to want to go after one. You are just describing one method to avoid becoming an "oh well" option, not a way to tell women's level of decency. You are conflating two different things. It's how society reacts to unattractive men who are upset about the severe deprivation that they suffer. I think people should learn that there are disadvantages in life and vast disadvantages in life, and others don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:09 PM
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A woman who never makes the first move is one who never contributes anything to the relationship and will expect him to constantly shovel the coals to keep it going. A desirable woman's experience entails most guys she is interested in also being interested in her, and quite a few of them asking her out. What matters is her level of decency to reciprocate the efforts when she gets into a relationship and his level of self respect to stop pursuing when there is no reciprocation. Approaching or no…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:59 AM
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The thing is, if you don’t approach, somebody else most often will. I almost always had a boyfriend even when I didn’t really approach cause of that. It is often about who creates and takes the opportunity. Yes, women could do it too, but desirable women have more than enough suitors to go through without even getting to approaching men. But I don’t think this has to do much with wanting or not wanting a connection. I agree it is not nice to make fun of people’s appearances, but ehh attraction i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:17 AM
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The new hairdresser did such a good job on my boyfriend’s hair. I’m so happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:20 AM
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When I see fat women, short men, mismatched couples in terms of looks, it kicks in.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:38 PM
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Yeah we probably would not get along. Men should have no piercing at all and if women have piercings, it should only be one lobe piercing in each ear. Absolutely no tattoo on either gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:37 PM
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It is a bit of both. Rule #2 which is "Don't be unattractive" almost always applies. Rule #1 "Be attractive" is mainly for non-relationship oriented people. Compatibility/practicality has to be considered if you want to be with that person for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:06 PM
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I disagree with shipping my money off to Ukraine and Israel as well. she and her partner have paid into the system for I believe she is getting a lot more than she paid for cause she is receiving welfare, and according to her, she isn't being supported by her partner so her words are inconsistent. We all pay tax, but only certain people get welfare. People who do not receive welfare are supporting those who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:28 PM
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I am not in your wallet. I am sure you are cause I receive 0 social welfare, and conveniently this time, you talk about how your partner is also taxed when you claimed earlier that he doesn't support you financially. :) And no, people who are against (excessive) welfare are the ones who hate the big government, not you who is trying to milk the system.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:45 PM
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legality ≠ immorality MY taxes are higher along with many other's. I have no interest in paying for your kid or your lifestyle. I feel this is far beyond what I have paid into this system for. That's how everyone feels apparently, but I doubt it if you only work part time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:19 PM
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Sure, you are doing what makes sense to you, but you are still taking tax money that you theoretically shouldn't be getting if you are just holding off on marrying your partner just for the welfare benefits and are getting financially supported by a guy. It is immoral to take advantage of the system when other innocent people are paying the price for your decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:10 PM
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Men actually treat women differently depending on how high value he deems her. If her value to him is just sex and not much else, he would try to hit that ASAP hence pump and dump. The women he deems worth waiting for, he would wait and not push and drop her fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:21 PM
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Seeking to marry virgins is not realistic at all these days. Virginity in men was emphasized basically as a testament of one's values, discipline and his attitude towards the social contract. With an absence of those things, virginity doesn't mean much. I somehow found a virgin man who has all those things, but the realistic best you can hope for is someone who has only had sex within serious relationships and would wait for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:11 PM
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I was taught to not complain in general by my extremely candid Asian mom. It just doesn't make you seem like a pleasant human being, and not many actually care that much. Some people act as if they do, but they get sick of it soon enough or even use it against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:12 PM
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I think most guys know what is desired superficially, but what they think of that or how they deal with that can differ. There is a wide range of what they think is needed to be successful with women. Some are also more relationship oriented than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:11 PM
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Well I had enough fond memories of him to want to give it a chance, but it wasn’t like I didn’t date anyone else in between. He was using my name as his password for a decade and never liked or kissed anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:34 PM
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My mom told my boyfriend to start working out too. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:20 AM
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I would not pass. Think that would be extremely rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:18 AM
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Yeah. But getting a second opinion of someone you can trust can really help. My mom was in fashion and she comments on my boyfriend’s fashion too. I do think knowing the classic styles you look good in is a real good start. My boyfriend essentially has only the basic items shopping finished.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:08 AM
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That method is less reliable anyway cause enough people have shit taste and could throw you off and you probably don’t have that many varied items to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:49 AM
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Female. High school. Then reunited when I was back on Facebook for a week. After a while, I could tell that he still had feelings for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:45 AM
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Well there are a lot of designs out there. Lol You could also compile the info on things people have complimented you on or get a friend who could potentially know how to do this to help you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:41 AM
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There are t-shirt + jeans guys, but hire a stylist if you really care. Depending on your features, you will have to avoid some colors, know what kind of fabric patterns you should choose (small/big/or none at all), the stiffness of the fabric, types of clothing that look good on you, and etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:10 AM
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If it was a point apart, sure. Not whole 3 points. Lol and you don’t even need to go down that far to optimize non-superficial traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:34 PM
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she could carry me our over her shoulder That's actually impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 07:56 PM
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What do you think women are attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 07:39 PM
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Btw that's what I thought about my school, but apparently there were bullies at my school according to my boyfriend. You just might not have been affected.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:38 PM
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Toxic girls would be so annoying to deal with at an all girls school.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:34 PM
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For other people, idc. < was my attitude towards some of these questions. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:27 PM
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Oh by the OP. My mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:55 PM
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I think that is the more delicate look, not flat as a board look.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:50 PM
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Both are lacking respect towards me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:38 PM
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Probably because it was tagged as a discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:29 PM
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My favorite brand of almond flour is coming back in stock really soon. Today is going to be a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:14 PM
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Still don’t get it. I prefer to actually be active, and for the guy to actually be active during that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:06 PM
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I am really boring. Not into watching people chase around a ball.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:48 PM
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I am a weirdo that likes to socialize with a wider array of social classes and am from a different culture to begin with. Depending on what your narrative is, the truth can be vastly over-exaggerated. But also, depending on where you are location wise or socioeconomic status wise, your reality could be very different from many other people's. Universal experience of life is not as common as most humans believe, while there could be trends especially when we limit our scope of our research to a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:47 PM
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I once called him by his trainer’s name.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:33 PM
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The far left think of us as white-lite which is hilarious because unless you live in an Asian district and have statistically significant number of Asians, no politician cares about Asian issues. Complaints about Affirmative Action was never taken seriously until white people got mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 12:49 AM
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There’s androgynous-pretty and there’s cute-pretty I think. If you are a pretty boy without much facial fat, I think aging well is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 04:45 PM
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Brad Pitt 100%. Jesse McCartney is aging better than Leo though. They looked really similar in their youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 04:30 PM
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I honestly didn't know what half the songs I listened to meant until I was a bit older. Maybe I was clueless as heck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:49 PM
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Off topic, but I need my cloud to expire those pictures. With less technology, the files would be gone as we stopped using specific devices.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 01:33 PM
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You really do sound like a communist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 12:12 AM
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Plenty of people don't. Even non-church goers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:21 PM
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I don't think we should talk about it here, but I was impressed with a certain race's lung capacity especially for playing instruments. Certainly far superior in that specific trait over others.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:13 PM
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Whyy Sheila
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:04 PM
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Acknowledging the differences in traits and generally having advantages in certain traits also doesn't mean you think a race is inherently superior/inferior (again, in my opinion).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:03 PM
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Hey! I thought you said I was fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:47 PM
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How many hammers do you own?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:45 PM
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As an Asian, I think being racist is believing that some race is inherently better than another. Not being able to tell people apart ain't it imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:41 PM
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He isn’t going to be a 9, but the advice isn’t bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:12 PM
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43.1% with all races, 2.4% with just Asians everything else being equal. I prefer someone from my culture, but I have dated non-Asian Christians. You get a much higher % when you put income as "Any". But in reality, I probably only date above average faced guys, and they don't ask about face.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:43 AM
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This is why it is the safest to date someone who is content with one’s mate value, and has access to the league one is aiming to get with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:32 PM
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It could be doable if he does it for a few generations. Rich families have prettier kids on average in Asia.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:17 PM
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https://youtube.com/shorts/2Gn25LFuGEw?si=0bOvCjlI1HhOGjNM
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:11 PM
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Eh… would work on a somewhat desirable women, not the ones who know they can secure who they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 07:18 PM
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Young millennial around 20 BF%. I aim for the skinny-fit Asian beauty standard, and have cut out processed foods, refined carbs and sugar from my diet a while back. My face also meets the Asian beauty standards reasonably well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:27 PM
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Believing that the virtues are enough without having to have faith is why I left the church initially. My parents didn’t stop me when I told them that, and knew I was going to keep practicing those virtues. Too many religions make their faiths to be all-knowing and rigid. I snapped when I was sent to a Catholic school. Faith should not be easily defined nor something you absolutely know. But I did become spiritual via Buddhism. Btw, I am not a fan of JBP either. I do agree with some of his point…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:12 PM
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A pretty devout Christian user of this sub talked about his own journey with Christianity in regards to something similar. He became closer to the religion thanks to Jordan Peterson’s application-approach to Christianity. For Christianity to survive the modern times, it should not be about the validity of the old tales, but the validity of the teachings. Old tales should be expected to be altered and exaggerated to convey the lessons the best. Clinging onto the accuracy of the tales is silly for…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 04:11 PM
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Nope. I don’t call myself a Christian. My dad was a devout Christian, and I still believe in Jesus’ teachings. But I could not understand Christianity or God until I was reintroduced to religion through the Buddhist lens so it is pretty complicated. The two religions are not that different from one another at their core though. I like to listen to a monk that even Christians speak to to seek advice, and he is able to use God’s words to deliver the same wisdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 03:55 PM
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Christianity is not the same as patriarchy. Those are very different things. Christianity’s early spread had a lot to do with its traction among women as it is supposed to be a very women-friendly religion. What Jesus said is not patriarchal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 03:36 PM
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Meets rule #2 easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:54 PM
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The problem is whether you are getting men of all types or not. Along with whether you are getting women of all types -- like PPD women are a terrible representation of all women. Most online spaces are like that. I am of the opinion that most people of both genders aren't actually well suited for relationships, but TRP definitely describes a subset of women or a vast exaggeration of people's tendencies. I am writing this as an anti-Marxist capitalist pig who thinks rather poorly of human nature…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:53 PM
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Nope, but their past experiences mess with their heads regardless. Not saying that that's abnormal or anything. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:41 PM
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Not all men are masculine in nature. Pill spaces are where a lot of men who aren’t masculine in nature gather. Their fathers did a terrible job probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:34 PM
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It often can be. It is validating though. I trauma bonded with my best friend and we are inseparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:26 PM
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Your flair says Red Pill Man so those shared experiences among the men you socialize/associate with must align with what TRP says.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:25 PM
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I see TRP as a form of trauma bonding for a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:15 PM
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Trauma bonding is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:10 PM
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My parents were arranged by their parents with veto powers, but in a pretty serious actual marriage prospective manner. When I was younger, somewhat. But there was a huge cultural shift. I was fine with it. My parents had a death-do-us-part marriage, and cherished each other. My dad was the best husband both my mom and I know around us, and my dad always said the best decision he ever made in his life was to marry my mom. Therefore I too was open to the idea of meeting through parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:24 PM
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Kinda did the latter. Dated guys who were in cosmetics and fashion adjacent industries.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:57 AM
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Nah. You just find it problematic because you value sex more than those women. My dad wanted to marry my mom the day he met her, and my boyfriend has wanted a future with me ever since high school. Both cases with zero sex. My mom and I have had multiple guys desiring relationships with us without any sex at all. You just don’t want those women enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:46 AM
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I would still choose the guy who would end up in heaven even if I don't so eh. NAMALT and I will choose better. Unless he gets my family's approval, things will not move forward anyway so it is not just me who's doing the vetting. He needs to embody Christian virtues to have gotten approval from my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:58 AM
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I am sorry to hear that Badger. Friends and alcohol are my top choices usually. Maybe bone broth too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:45 AM
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Not being actually short > face > height
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:42 AM
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He probably was a high tier normie.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:21 AM
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Just be really good looking, and no one will care about hair color. He was the best looking kid. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:29 PM
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I think you are inflating his scope of appeal or how you have formed your sentence makes it sound like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:20 PM
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I think Leo is able to find women at any age that would date him. Hot or ugly. But it doesn’t mean all women would date him. There’s a difference there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:15 PM
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My school’s Chad was a blonde. But he was pretty much perfect looking back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:04 PM
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Half kidding but not really, try to find Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 09:59 PM
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Not really? I like there being volcels, and being voluntarily celibate can be a testament to our values.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 09:17 PM
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Concealer 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 08:20 PM
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I was never chubby and to my knowledge, I am the only one he liked a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 08:18 PM
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He is very non-Asian when it comes to what's considered rude in the west.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 08:14 PM
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Not shaming fat people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 08:13 PM
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My super kind boyfriend is not politically correct at all when it comes to fat people. I find this to be fascinating. Have I corrupted him or has he always been this way? I asked, and he answered with an IDK.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 07:52 PM
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The formula still gets discussed and used surprisingly. You could even say that it has stood the test of time even when the society has turned to less age gap, and equal-ish rights or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 07:49 PM
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I was actually quite fascinated by its origin. I did some calculations though. I think the formula quite accurately gets what society widely deems acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 07:38 PM
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Nah I just think those young women are most often fucked in the head if the age gap goes beyond divide by two plus seven. Good parents need to present in girls' lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 07:02 PM
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He isn’t into the women that are into him according to OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:52 PM
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I think more often than not, non-top one digit% would have a flaw or two or a few that’s pushing them down rather than being well rounded and having generally good stats. Generally good and well rounded is way harder to achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 08:36 PM
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Superficial traits determine your league. Who you are just determines who you get to date within your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 08:33 PM
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Guys who are too good to be true and don’t have verified character are very high risk. Maybe less attractive women are willing to take the risk, but the attractive ones don’t want to take on the extra risk. He probably needs to show that he is relationship oriented.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 08:23 PM
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Way less than 20% would fit that criteria all at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:03 PM
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Meh. I am way more fit than my bf, and my bf’s ex-trainer with a decent face is married to a chubby woman who has really big boobs for an Asian. Fitness level quite often doesn’t match up. Tbh I think it is usually bad for men to appear skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:40 PM
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0 is XS.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:52 PM
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OLD is basically the leftover market. You might be able to find something good there, but it is where most relationship failures end up, so you have to sift through a lot of failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:23 PM
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We have phases but they are in rotation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:20 PM
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You could give off vibes they don’t like or they might just dislike you for silly reasons like jealousy. If one louder girl of a group dislikes you, her followers could follow suit as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:10 PM
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They are not foreigners to us. We are from traditionally Confucian countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:05 AM
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Only Confucian traditionalists want boys nowadays pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:02 AM
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He basically raised his brother and now he wants a girl, cause he already raised a boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:39 AM
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My boyfriend and I both want a daughter more than a son. I ideally want one each, but my boyfriend said he would be okay with two daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:34 AM
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No. All couples should treat each other as if he is her Chad and she is his Stacy, even if they are not. Couples should cherish one another, and nothing less.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:45 PM
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I wasn't on the general dating market when I was single. On top of that, the things I am looking for are not common that there is 0 or 1 guy who meet my criteria, not 10 at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:42 PM
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I showed my boyfriend the list of character traits I require after I believed he met them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:20 PM
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I think this really only works when the repeated interactions are not intentional like at school or at work. It makes very little sense to put too many eggs in a basket with too much uncertainty and not enough promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:49 PM
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I’m extroverted and even I don’t have such sparks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:44 PM
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Changs exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:18 AM
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Happy cake day
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:16 AM
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Half the older one’s age plus seven. So minus seven your age and double it if you care about how other people view the age gap. But I think if you are still in school, you should really try to date within your social circle. You know the guys you know what they are like already. They could not seem as exciting, but having observed them in the wild for a long time means you know more of what you need to know to vet. It is much easier to put up a good front temporarily and in short durations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:38 AM
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Confucianism is at the root of the gender divide and a lot of Asian injustices.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:30 AM
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If I could be appreciated in (almost) every way possible, that’s definitely what I would choose. I believe it is achievable, so I would not be okay with that. If I didn’t, I do not know what my answer would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 12:39 AM
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It depends on the person really. If you already are a considerate person with good communication and compromising skills, you don’t. A lot of people don’t naturally unfortunately and have to learn. Having been in a LTR just means that you are more likely to have learned those skills even if you did not possess them in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:40 PM
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I wore size 3 bowling shoes I think. Finding shoes in the west is a struggle fr.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:19 PM
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How many girls use it as acne cure though? Can’t be THAT high.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:43 PM
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It is not about what it easier. It is just culturally viewed as more prestigious. It may make no sense at all, but that’s how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:43 PM
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Huh. Has to be higher than 1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:35 PM
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It is about the “prestige”, not the money. It is just how the job is viewed unfortunately. Doctors and lawyers can be prestige trophies for rich families.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:23 PM
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I am East Asian and am a part of the conservative pretentious upper class society. PhD’s have no ground to stand on without a professor title. It may be impressive if you are middle class, but like I’ve said, they are nowhere near the top. The only way to marry into a rich girl’s family is with an MD or a JD.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:21 PM
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They do. Unless the PhD comes with a professor title, lawyers are much higher in status in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:13 PM
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Never the first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:10 PM
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MD or JD, not PhD.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:08 PM
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I think it means you don’t know your own values well enough, wishy washy in terms of values or not relationship/family oriented. Honestly, once you know what your values are, focusing on compatibility, there should not be multiple contenders.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:17 PM
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Nah. His muscles look bubbly. Throws me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:37 PM
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My devout Christian dad warned me against Confucianism. My mom warned me more about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:48 PM
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It was my ex-Stacy mom who warned me. Girls ideally need to learn how to vet properly from their moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:25 AM
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We met in high school but I moved to the other end of the country for university then reunited about a decade after despite the distance due to us both feeling there’s no other match for us. We are both very unconventional. That’s how we ended up in a LDR. But seriously, someone cheating is the least of our worries.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:29 AM
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Exceptions don’t make the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:39 AM
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My mom travelled a lot with her friends without my dad as well. Nobody was concerned about her cheating ever. Pick a person of virtue that you won’t have to worry about. Why aren’t people choosing virtuous partners that would be good role models for their kids, I would never understand. My boyfriend and I can be in a LDR for 1+ yr and neither of us ever get worried about someone cheating either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:52 AM
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I only say it in private.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:00 PM
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Thick luscious full head of hair. I actually had a nightmare of my boyfriend losing his hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:49 PM
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That has some bad side effects. See my comment below.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:43 PM
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A major bank was found to have a set gender hiring ratio of 8:2 with 8 of course being the men. Korean paid maternity leave is a burden on the businesses that businesses would rather not hire women unless they are much better qualified than the men. The women quit their jobs after having babies a lot too that it makes the cost of doing business with female workers even higher. It is also half expected that women would put her household duties before their work, so their career is kinda done for …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:42 PM
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Oh you are back?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:59 PM
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I have a percentage in mind for impossible mode people, and I think it is definitely larger than what most people would like to believe but also much much smaller than too many of PPD guys think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:58 PM
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If you meet rule #1, it is tutorial mode. You seem to think tutorial mode is the only mode other than the impossible mode when there is a normal mode. Impossible mode is actually short or ugly (or autistic enough).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:16 PM
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There’s a middle ground between tutorial mode and impossible mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:07 PM
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My mom said something similar but not exactly in terms of dating around. She said to try out a wide variety of guys to help me see what I like the most. It was always with the intention to find what I want in a life partner however, not for enjoyment. Sandberg’s description of a good man sounds like HER match, not necessarily every other woman’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:08 PM
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Such phrase would work on women 2+ points below you or it would be met with a scoff. Social skills is important if you want to go for someone in your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:20 AM
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Are you better than a bear? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:00 PM
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“To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and l…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:03 AM
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Hopefully not bad. I wish you luck. I think to vet more easily, you need to date from your social circle. Don’t give someone you don’t know well too much benefit of the doubt and end up getting trust issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:21 AM
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Well if you are already past that age and the dating pool has shrunk, it could be easier elsewhere now… But it WAS supposed to be easier in a smaller town imo. Common big city dating is not really my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:12 AM
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Depending on your small town, it could have been easier to date there. I am also from a small town where everyone pretty much knew each other and everyone on my facebook seems to have gotten married before their late 20’s if they stayed in the small town. Big city dating gives people an illusion of choice and less people seem to want to get married and have a family as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:03 AM
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We went out in high school and reconnected in adulthood after not speaking to each other for about a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:55 AM
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I think if you hate social media, you would probably benefit even more from having a larger social circle and dating someone who knows you fairly well already.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:53 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:23 AM
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We know each other’s cause they are so damn easy, not because it was our intention to share. We don’t make an effort to hide them either, but have the expectation to not touch each other’s phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:23 AM
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No. I am dating my boyfriend because I know him from high school and I can say that I trust his character. But if you are asking about his superficial qualities, he is better looking than my celebrity crush and can play the piano well. He initially caught my attention with his piano skills back in high school too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:58 PM
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I believe it is much safer to date within your social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:32 PM
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I think the problem isn’t necessarily that men are bad. People have severe trust issues now which I think is understandable to a degree. A lot of people are trying to date practical strangers and to make things worse, vetting is not as easy as these people seem to think. But I also think too many people of both genders are not good longterm relationship materials.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:21 PM
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Covid, needed a distraction from grieving, I am not PC enough to be in regular spaces. This place has some of the more openminded people, and I appreciate that. I am not very conventional.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:57 AM
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Yeah this is why people who only see me as a trophy get vetted out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:34 PM
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Pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:13 AM
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Well then a white dude would probably be the safest choice. I think I have it good rn but that’s cause I got lucky with the location, family and year.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:13 AM
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Gen X Asian dude in Asia
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:08 AM
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It was a load of bs. I just had to track my physical activity and do some reading and quizzes I think. I couldn’t fit everything into my schedule that they allowed me to take some courses online.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:47 PM
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I took PE online for a couple years. It was great. No beep test.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:11 PM
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People want babies. That’s why they go through it. People want money so they often work a joyless job for the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:57 PM
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I am well aware that it takes a toll on one’s body. It is an just an inevitable for most, not an altruistic act.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:53 PM
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That’s just what reproduction entails, not altruism.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:51 PM
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Yeah. Mankind is not that. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:15 PM
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Altruism is a religious/cult trait, not a feminine trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:14 PM
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Communism would have worked if half the population was naturally altruistic. Altruism is pure bs for the general public.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:10 PM
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Nah, it should be the level that you can reasonably obtain commitment from, not necessarily the average of all that would commit cause that would be everyone below as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:02 AM
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I am conventionally good looking and am into androgynous pretty boys. But I am Asian so it is pretty much our beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:54 PM
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Yeah, and Swedish feminists too. They are the ones who advocated for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:59 PM
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You might want to look into Sweden’s case.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:51 PM
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If I was planning to break up with my partner anyway, this could be a catalyst. I would not cheat, but break up faster. 2 & 3. 70%.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:46 PM
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I think I am one of the very rare/odd people who are rather fine with not having a romantic partner. People emotionally suffer in LDR’s, but I can basically see my boyfriend quarterly and still be okay with it. I was single for about a year before this relationship and might not have dated at all if I had not reconnected with my boyfriend. Btw, I have never felt alone since my best friend came into my life so there’s that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:42 AM
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What I see nowadays is two strangers attempting to date each other that they only care about themselves and what they are and are not getting. You actually need to like someone as a human to want the best for the other person, genuinely care and be more willing to let go of a few things easily. If I did go down the arranged marriage route, I too would have thought about what he brought to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:01 AM
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I just did not want to answer. I have more than enough money to retire due to my dad passing away in my 20's and marrying my boyfriend will actually lower my status in my home country. My boyfriend does not bring me ANY status or money. If I cared, I would have gone down the arranged marriage route.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:29 AM
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I think it depends on the culture significantly. The country I am originally from, the expectation put on the men is to be more successful. In my parents' generation, women even refrained from going to the top university even when they could, cause men preferred women who weren't too accomplished. My mom was one of these women. Such is not as much of the case anymore, but there still exists severe inferiority complex when women are more professionally successful. I was even told to stop working …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 12:55 AM
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Nah. I look at him, get wow'ed, then think he could actually make it in Hollywood then nothing. It is just an acknowledgement of his good looks with no desire. My brain likes strangers only when they are musicians.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 12:25 AM
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Kpop is a whole aesthetic tbh. The guy also has to have an androgynous pretty face for it to work. Just skinny probably doesn't do much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 12:02 AM
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If he has been constantly grieving for 3 years, that's going to be difficult. If it is a thing that comes and goes in waves, it is what it is. I would know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:27 PM
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In the first instance, it has been reported that larger breasts are preferred by men pursuing low-commitment, transient sexual relationships [28] and holding stronger sexist attitudes. It might have to do with the nature of the strip club too. I am Asian and my breast size is smaller than of other ethnicities, above average for my ethnicity, but I did well in the dating market in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:03 PM
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I think the ones complaining about low effort could be chasing guys out of their league especially if she is more interested than he is. When it starts off with effort from the guy then the girl gets pumped and dumped, it could be that, but more likely she was too insufferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:59 AM
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I think 2+ gen are more or less alright. But I like 1.5 gen East Asians. I am a 1.5 gen East Asian myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:30 AM
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Normal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:08 AM
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Careful not to get lines on your neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:37 AM
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I love flat pillows. I intentionally get the cheapest ones from ikea. They are flat when bought.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:33 AM
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Stacy doesn’t have a roster. It is more like casual dating until you want to pick one of the eligible ones that you are seeing. The desirable ones of both genders get even choosier and often won't commit fully to one until they feel like someone is that good of a match.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:22 AM
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Is that a code for something?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:59 PM
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Okay, stable betas aren't rich, and guys don't have to be rich to be an "oh well" option for an "oh well" women. Wealthy guys get desired albeit mostly superficial. I think being an "oh well" option is a sad state of being for both genders. People who settled are often salty, and are terrible at hiding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:54 AM
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The women who get settled for (pass the low looks threshold) are basically "might as well" women and very often get taken for granted. They are never treated like Stacies. There are even men who simp for and try to flirt with my mom and my aunt for decades even after getting married to convenient available women. Way too many aren't wise enough to cherish the person they have (applies to both genders tbh). Being desired as a human doll or a human ATM machine are not really different. You are jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:07 AM
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Yeah and most of the time, the pursuit isn’t because they actually like me. It is demeaning. I am not just a human doll as you don’t want to just be a human ATM. Uniqueness of looks does not make things unsuperficial. There exists looks leagues because there’s such thing as conventional beauty. “Oh everyone is beautiful in his/her own way” would be the unsuperficial virtue signalling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:31 AM
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I had a guy who told me to stop working as hard cause guys don’t like successful women and I was more accomplished than him. HE was pursuing me, not me pursuing him. Do you think he actually liked me? He wanted me as a trophy. Does how I feel factor into anything? Looks are just as superficial and objectifying as money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:50 AM
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Eh. It really isn’t THAT great. Genuine interest for the person you are is rather rare. There were even cases of men chasing me for my looks only then asking me to change, cause they did not like who I am really. Men older than my dad or old enough to be my dad have shown interest in me since I was a teenager. It was not pleasant. There’s been a guy high on weed trying to talk to me in wide daylight, drunk sketchy looking guys showing me interest at night when I was wearing a skirt going down to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:10 AM
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Will see. Just took a job offer from a very different industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:46 AM
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I have a pair of XXS shorts from Uniqlo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:34 AM
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I don't even know anymore. But I don't think agreeableness matters when it comes to your league. Within your league, if the guy prefers an agreeable woman, she will have the advantage over other women in the same league.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:32 AM
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I shop in Korea sometimes and that's an exaggeration. I am size XXS in luxury brands, and there are brands in Korea that only sell 55 and above which is way too big for me. I think I am around size XS or 44 in Korea. They just don't do vanity sizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:28 AM
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Your league is pretty much determined by your superficial traits, then the non-superficial traits usually determine who you get to date. Among "mid"s who are considered to have nothing special going for them, so it could potentially give one more advantage in that league.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:17 AM
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In the videos of hers I watched, I agreed with her. Pearl? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:12 PM
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She just does. At least I did not get crippling self esteem issues like my cousin.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:05 PM
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My mom fits the Asian beauty standards perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:59 PM
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The guys I dated always thought I was prettier than I consider myself to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:32 PM
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No date set. My mom said she will make her decision in a year. I still operate in a fairly conservative manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:12 PM
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He is the first and only one who has met my family on the basis of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:05 PM
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My boyfriend is dang cute and he is a volcel.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 07:02 PM
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0/3 here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 06:54 PM
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Yes, this is what a lot of people learn in high school. Things have always been this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 07:15 AM
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Women's game is about being the one girl guys go nuts for and the one they can never forget.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:48 AM
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The ones who are unhappy with their mate value don't make good relationship material as they are less likely to be content/grateful and are superficial beyond what they can afford. Most sane ones pair up with each other fairly early on by seeing the other good things in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:38 AM
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What? When did that go up so fast?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:07 AM
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I think it is pretty common for one person to be more into the other person. What matters is decency of the person who is not as into the partner imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 11:24 PM
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I don't think people can change that easily. Gladboys said major changes are generally only brought on by God or kids. I'd agree with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:46 PM
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Yeah, that's a lack of character, restraint and discipline.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:36 PM
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Having high neuroticism must be horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:30 PM
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Good for you. Glad you met someone who is willing to wait. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 08:32 AM
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Have you told your boyfriend that you wish to remain a virgin until at least you are engaged?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 08:19 AM
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Meh. Such values could mean everything to a man or a nothing to a man. If it matters to you, it matters to you. Most guys don't want to wait around forever to have sex. If you decide to stay a virgin, you will be dating within a very specific demographic and will be reducing your dating pool. It is what you do despite it diminishing your SMV to the general dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 08:05 AM
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There can be traditional and politically conservative. Quite a few of my successful career women friends lean right politically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 01:11 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:19 PM
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The most effective way of raising children is to be respected by your children and to be a good role model. Considering her age and her actions, I don't think having a talk with her would do much. He should do something shocking enough to get his point across at this point imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:15 PM
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If you are struggling at 5'10 in a superficial manner, it probably is your face, not height.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:18 PM
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I think both have their challenges. The former have to be extraordinary enough to be noticed and rely on women who are willing to take on the role and is okay with such a guy. It is doable-ish... but certainly rare imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 07:52 PM
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I’ve learned over time that what we actually have to look for are bright green flags and tolerable flaws that you can live with. There is no person who is without a flaw, and if you don’t know those flaws, you won’t be getting what you think you’ve signed up for. I think it is important to date a fairly transparent person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:45 PM
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If it was a warm approach and they already have a good base, no. Picking up a practical stranger at the airport is actually weird imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:35 PM
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That’s not a pretty boy. Troye Sivan when he just entered the scene was a pretty boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:38 PM
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In a way, I think the hookup culture can show us who has which values. My boyfriend and I are Asian volcels who grew up in the west. The problem is that the one's values have to be in the extremes in order to actually use this to one's advantage. Also, I think women not being able to use sex to date allowed them to improve their RMV, and help make them more meaningful partners for men who also care about compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:34 AM
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I'm a red flag and I don't need another.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:46 AM
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Want to read the whole comment thread? And no young woman is going for a 50 year old unless she is fucked in the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:43 AM
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Matchmaking companies have been around for decades, and they actually do have data of how people choose. That's how they stay in business.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:40 AM
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Such age limit is just what women tell the matchmaking companies. Usually, you tell them what you are looking for and the first things you would compromise on. The more desirable you are, the less compromises you need to make, and old age is a negative in both genders. It is what it is. At 45, he too would have to make quite a few compromises. The first thing the matchmaking companies tell these old men is to drop the age limit, cause it is pretty much impossible unless he is loaded enough for w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:41 AM
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35 is the male wall in the arranged marriage market or matchmaker market in Asia unless he is really extraordinary in some way like really good bucks with well taken care of looks. The female wall for that is 30. Desirable women with options tell the matchmakers what they are looking for and the age limit is almost always there, and same with desirable men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:44 PM
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What is going on usually is serial monogamy. Women share men by engaging in serial monogamy, and are usually alright with it. Women who would be okay with being in an actual harem would be a very small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:47 PM
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My dad fell for my mom with just positive impressions of her on their first date (semi-arranged) and wanted to marry her the first time he met her. She was actress level pretty at the time. My boyfriend too was not my friend when he decided to follow me around in school. Both my dad and my boyfriend thought highly of us however.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:09 PM
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Positive impressions + looks might have been what you were meaning to say. But it often seems to be just looks depending on how you define romantic attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:55 PM
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I think she might have a point especially around the location factor. I grew up in a small white Christian town when Asians weren't "in". I got popular overnight when I moved to a big city where there were a lot more Asians. The society's culture factor is pretty big ime. All she has to do might be to just move though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 09:46 PM
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https://www.statista.com/statistics/205157/number-of-asian-families-with-a-female-householder-in-the-us/#:~:text=In%202022%2C%20there%20were%20about,mother%20living%20in%20the%20U.S.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:43 AM
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East
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:57 AM
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I nominate Lift
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:15 AM
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F… I might go back to Asia a lot earlier than anticipated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:55 AM
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I am only okay with it if he never had romantic feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:17 PM
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I like androgynous looking ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:30 PM
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Even if you believe that, history repeats itself, and the government should not have monopoly over violence. They already make psychopathic decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:57 PM
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I am a woman and I share a similar sentiment. Unless you are religious or have access to a more conservative community, it is insanely difficult. Even when you do, it is difficult. It gets harder as we age too since the good ones get locked down imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 02:15 AM
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I have a list of character traits that is very difficult to fulfill and demonstrate. I meet like one guy a year at most who does. There is no two guys at the same time, since if there is mutual interest with such rare guy, I am going to pursue him hard on my end as well. Imagine if you were strictly looking for a “rare trad wife”. You too would try to lock down the first one you come across.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:24 AM
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I'm not choosing amongst all the men who would like to be with me. I either want him or I don't regardless of what other men are doing. If there's no one that I want, I just keep looking. The ones who don't know what they are looking for tend to treat it like competition. The ones who know what they want treat it as a yes or no thing imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:41 PM
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Q4M: You know your gf finds you very attractive. You have an actor cousin. She says, "Wow, he is even better looking than you." What's in your head and what do you say?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 06:16 PM
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Nah it is the clearly desirable league. No guess work required.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 05:55 PM
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They’d first have to become desirable to be able to “reveal” what they would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 10:04 AM
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Eh Asia did it a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:13 AM
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This is exactly why I make the distinction between incels and volcels. No, I do not blame them for their choices or whatever, but incels and volcels are different. Power doesn’t corrupt, it reveals. Unless the guy is in a place to make such decision, I do not believe him to have the same values as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:09 AM
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Close in age ideally. But I gravitated towards younger guys than older guys when I was single. Don't care much about personality. Character is what matters. Non-promiscuous, pro-delayed gratification Some overlap in musical taste and cuisine is nice. Pro-Christian virtues I chose my partner because I believe no other guy could possibly treat me better than he would for life. It was how my mom chose my dad, and what I learned from their relationship. Like actual family. I have had very good examp…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:46 PM
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I am a meritocrat.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:47 PM
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I don't think people who don't have their shit together should be able to vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:41 PM
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Good looking guys too want to connect. It feels empty to be liked for something superficial for the ones who care about actual connection and stuff. Ideally, it is a balance between the superficial currency and something more wholesome. The ones who are overtly superficial raise bad flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:38 PM
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Nah, it is similar with beauty. We don't actually want to be wanted mainly because of our beauty, although it is one heck of a currency.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:32 PM
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I think they are. I think it could be like when you have the money, you try to avoid gold diggers. People have the desire to be liked for who they are inside imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:16 PM
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I think 5'7 is doable, but below 5'7, I'd actually feel bad for. Also, I think demographics count. Noticeably short is difficult, and I think noticeably short starts when you are out of the average range (within 1 SD) within your community.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:28 PM
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Because on PPD, too many people think it is 6'.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:16 PM
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Eh I think most of them most likely mean they are okay with short"er" guys too, not short guys alone. Some guy wrote that height is a funny thing. If you are not short, it doesn't matter all that much, but if you are below a certain point, it is all that matters. I agree with this take.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:53 PM
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You don’t often end up with the shortest height you are okay with. It is more like if I am attracted to a tall guy, cool. If I am attracted to a shorter guy next, that’s cool too. My attraction doesn’t work for height alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:59 PM
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There’s my couple too. Js.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:53 PM
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It is allowed-ish, but will never be widely desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:23 PM
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That is because they lean feminine. Edit: the downvotes are coming in cause I hurt their feelings lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:10 PM
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No, not clicking on your link.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:29 PM
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I agree with you. People shame me for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:12 PM
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That’s horrifying. Does such things happen often in the area? Are they considering moving to a new city or a state?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:10 PM
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I think the one that has been studied more is the proportion of the upper pole to the lower pole of the breast. It is a separate ratio. https://www.drsanders.com/the-perfect-breast/#:~:text=very%20large%20sizes.-,The%20results%3A,preferred%20the%2045%3A55%20ratio. Tit to arm ratio seems new by the looks of the google search.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:07 PM
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Read my comment from 15 mins ago. One guy does have access to slim WHR women, but I think it really could be the boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:54 PM
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Oh they aren’t that. One is a trainer and the other used to train in the same gym buddy group as me until he had an injury.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:48 PM
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Even in cultures and eras where skinny was in, 0.7 waist to hip ratio has always been desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:35 PM
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It is really strange how "what's in" can change so fast. I wanted a flat stomach way more.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:31 PM
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I am glad they are alright, and they also have a place to stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:29 PM
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Just a thought. Maybe a good number of slim guys date overweight girls cause these girls at least have their boobs, while slim average faced girls don't even have boobs. I know a couple guys who have access to slim girls, but are dating overweight girls instead. I know for sure one likes big boobs. I am not talking about "fat to the point that it is repulsive" territory btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:13 PM
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Reddit ruined my brain. Short answer, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:45 PM
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crony capitalism
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:39 PM
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I think that might have to do with their places in the industry. In Asia, even when we still cast those older actors, we lust over how they looked in their prime. We would compare their prime to the current younger actors and talk about how they were so much better looking than the younger actors.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:49 AM
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45 is too old even for Asian A-list actors who do take care of their looks. Most signs of deterioration are not desired. Late 30’s is the max for those actors even when Asians start to show their age slower. If your genes show age even slower than Asians, congratulations. Asians actually would need to be a freak of nature to get to 45 and still be eye candy. Yes, there are freaks of nature, but they might as well not exist at all since they are so rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:40 AM
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I am aware this is anecdotal, I was pretty weirded out by my mom being really into A-list actors in their 30's. She also said men older than that are too old to be eye candies. I really was genuinely weirded out. She is in her mid 50's. Eye candies for middle aged Asian women around me most often seem to be men in their 30's max even when Asian men tend to age much slowly. There are quite a few cases of rich Asian ladies cheating on their husbands with their young hot golf caddies too. What I ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:24 AM
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How common do we think they are? Enough to be disappointed. I think what makes a decent human being can be put into more general terms -- think religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:55 PM
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I think good people who are well suited for lifetime relationships are not as common as we want them to be regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:42 PM
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I turn down every cold approach nicely.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:12 PM
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Is she not attached to her phone? That could be a good thing if she isn't. But if she is attached to her phone but is not texting back fast enough... She either doesn't particularly enjoy interacting with humans or you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:35 PM
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It is about what we are attracted to unfortunately. I am actually fit, but I would date someone borderline overweight than someone too slim.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:28 PM
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Make the distinction between people who don't want to be seen without makeup and people who are fine with being seen without makeup?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:36 PM
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I don't take men who don't take sex seriously, seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:31 PM
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I guess I usually assume they'd be quite average looking since I am astonished if they are good looking in some way when introduced.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:20 PM
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We probably should make the distinction between “I can’t go outside without makeup” and people who are fine with being seen without makeup. I can answer facetime calls from my boyfriend when he is with his friends right out of the shower (dressed) and right after working out. The last thing I am insecure about is my face. I still wear makeup sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:49 AM
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Oh happy cake day, Ange!!! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:31 AM
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Oof. When I was reading the post, I was actually thinking, "I was spending my dad's money back then." I think women could be way more honest with their attraction cues when they are financially satiated.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:07 AM
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If you are planning to get married in your early 20's, maybe. If the guy isn't trying to get married very soon by that age, I would consider the guy to be not family oriented.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:54 AM
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Yeah we both are outliers. I'd say SMV usually reigns supreme in the sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 06:49 PM
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Eh I know a few couples that hate each other but are still not divorced. I respect trad and am not necessarily anti-trad, but I think trad is very difficult for most people. I think it requires way more rigorous vetting which a lot of people didn't and don't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 02:26 AM
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That thing is bs though. Dumb program that doesn't know how to account for harmony.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 02:06 AM
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I don’t really think it is the hymen although there could be a correlation due to religious stance and all. My boyfriend and I are strongly against divorce, and would not divorce for our personal happiness or whatever. One’s own happiness or pleasure don’t come first in our relationship. This is very Asian trad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 01:24 AM
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Don't insult my green juice!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 01:00 AM
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I think first love might leave a bigger mark, and it is pretty unrealistic if you have met each other after a certain age nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:57 AM
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My boyfriend has a friend who goes to a non-prestigious law school and apparently the kids there are insane and hedonistic af. But I don't think they have out of wedlock births and shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:52 AM
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Ideally, sure. But I don't think I was wise enough to pick out a life companion early on personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:30 AM
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I've flown economy before cuz mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:37 PM
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I don't fly economy. My mom stopped making me once she experienced it herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:27 PM
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I actually saw a guy like that recently and was really weirded out. But I think he was an extreme outlier. His ass was HUGE and I had not seen anyone with such proportion like that ever. Probably not even on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 09:59 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 09:27 PM
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I can do it and do it first too but I still want my piano performance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 09:19 PM
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Nope. I come with extreme delayed gratification.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:44 PM
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Not at all. I think the best time to find a partner is while you are still in school while you have the biggest organic social circle. You are able to observe people in the wild and get a better sense of what the person is like in their rawest form. Also, the most relationship oriented people tend to pair up early and stay paired up. The leftover market is brutal, and there is a high chance of having to shuffle through relationship failures. This is about finding a sane partner, not the highest …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 07:36 PM
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I think there’s more naive people than you think. But ideally, you would figure this all out by high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 02:48 PM
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No civilization or community was able to practice noblesse oblige forever and it is not going to be a thing that's practiced voluntarily by the vast majority of people. What you are looking for essentially seems like looking for ways to make communism work. I don't have that much faith in mankind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:04 AM
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The matured developed version of Yang. Carl Jung's archetypes and developed archetype can also be a good explanation. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:06 PM
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I believe rule #2 is the looks bar, and I think rule #2 matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:43 PM
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The word difficult should not be used for such occasion. If the kids think one has it easier than the other, that’s the lazier one. If the kids have no respect or compassion for both, I doubt anyone is doing anything difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:42 AM
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Anyone who half asses stuff has it easier. Putting in one’s all rarely happens and is always difficult, and the ones who know how to do this respect one another. What I see here is a fight to laze around more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 01:29 AM
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Parenting is about making sure your kid grows up right, not about keeping the kid alive. It is about teaching the right values, passing down wisdom and making sure the kid grows into an adult ready for one’s own life. The way we’ve lately been defining the role of parents is messed up imo. Role of a parent is not easy and should not be easy. My mom said my dad did the hard job and my dad said my mom did the most important job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 12:23 AM
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I am of the opinion that men mainly just go for looks. I am the opposite of you in mannerism and am not really that compatible with many men. They will chase me for my looks without any regard for who I am or our compatibility. People of both genders who aren't content with their own mate value put compatibility last. SMV reigns supreme for desirability too often and simping without reciprocation just makes you a convenient choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 10:09 PM
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The ones who can earn the respect and are natural leaders don't demand submission. They are usually put into position of power anyway. It is a natural role they play.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 09:57 PM
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Men do too. Young pretty (trophy) wives can be a status symbol. Even the kids in Asian culture are status symbols for the parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 06:25 PM
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Probably dependent on the school and the program. You might also want to think about how high of GPA you need to do what you want to do. I really depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 05:32 PM
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those women without experience, by and large, don't even appreciate purity in men, and often prefer more experienced men It really depends on why these women are inexperienced. If they are just young or just happen to still be virgins, they could act like the way you describe. The ones who understand the virtue would care. I think the ones who do are rather rare however. you wanna be promiscuous without being judged for it. This is basically both the men and women engaging in the hedonistic cult…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 09:41 PM
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Yeah those are an insult to flour and butter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:33 PM
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Japanese pancakes are pretty good though. Also crepes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:23 PM
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I saw her two cats and they were adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 05:03 AM
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I will answer as someone coming from a more conservative background. In order for certain things to be upheld, there needs to be an agreement within that society among most people. So for low n-count or virginity to be upheld in a reasonable manner, there also needs to be the social contract that supports it. I believe that's why Christianity preaches against pre-marital sex for all. If the rules are kept, it helps to keep order and manage expectations. You shouldn't be the only one with privile…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:06 AM
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Apparently even when skinny was “in”, the desired waist to hip ratio was 0.7. It has always been a thing and the only universally desired trait is this golden waist to hip ratio at every size.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:19 PM
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I like people who can criticize both.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:34 AM
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Too lax
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:22 AM
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Then you apparently cheat with some other Chad cause women get bored easily. This came from him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 11:46 PM
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Well the guys would still fuck down and according to PPD, that’s what matters. Male libido is still going to be a big factor I think. And it really depends on how narrowly defined natural beauty is. I think cauliflower was trying to say that what would have been considered alright, no longer is due to altered standards. With the altered standards, not enough women are good enough. I personally think it is easier to “fall victim” to it if you like the fake look. There are guys who do not like the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:55 PM
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I actually had a list of character traits a person had to check off. But it isn’t to say that external traits don’t matter. I have always said on ppd that I care about a guy’s face.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:25 PM
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I think it is probably 5’7” for me. I was never into or dated anyone below.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:56 AM
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Anything with less cleavage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:06 PM
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I think all humans want to be desirable. "Hey! Look! 11 o' clock!" is what guys used to say. There were also popular girls who had many guys chasing after her. There are more extreme cases in Asia where the guys talk about who's attractive and who's not right in front of the girls. Also, a good number of guys put more effort into dating Stacies and will put up with more. To them, the non-Stacies are supposed to be easily obtained or something. However, it isn't to say that women don't contribute…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:02 PM
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Like you've said, it is heavily dependent on your surroundings. My boyfriend has a friend who went to a non-prestigious school for a law degree, and he came back and told us about that school's shocking culture. We couldn't even imagine that being a thing anywhere, but apparently it is happening. Meanwhile there's plenty of people around me who have been with 1-2 people in the last decade. The tame ones usually tend to hang out among themselves, and the communities are already pretty established…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 05:44 PM
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What people don't realize is that we only get a very short window of time while you are young to find and secure such a partner relatively easily. You have to have the right mentality at the right time and that's the difficult part at such young age. After that period has passed, it is dumpster fire. I was basically able to find one guy a year who probably had the mindset for such a marriage. And once it becomes such slim pickings, you basically have to be very desirable to acquire that specific…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:51 PM
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I think you definitely have a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 03:22 AM
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The second one had parents growing up? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:02 AM
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Yeah my assumption is that if it was the former, it would just be a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:47 AM
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I am still unclear if the guy is getting with her with the intention of breaking up with her though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:01 AM
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I can cook, but I think it is an inefficient use of my time when I believe what matters is nutrition. I think the kids can eat like me too. Meal prepped food with nutrition in mind should be enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:14 PM
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I'm not against putting more eggs into the pot.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:41 PM
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Religious and/or conservative volcels. My boyfriend and I lean quite conservative. We could be certified weird. He is crazier or wiser than I am though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:17 PM
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You have completely missed the point. Serial killers are not the norm in either group, and more context is required like I've said in the initial comment. I am actually dating a virgin man right now, but with the lack of context, the abnormality of the 0 relationship experience group will give me a big ass question mark at my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:08 PM
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If we are talking about outliers of each group, there are serial killers among incels too, and the violent crime rate that's associated with incels is seen to be on the rise. I purposely talked about the norm in the initial comment, and you have decided to put words in my mouth that I never said. The question is not asking about flings. I do not take guys who have had casual hook ups seriously at all. Go be emotional elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:13 PM
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Are serial killers the norm among men who have been in relationships? The logic doesn't always go both ways. The norm for serial killers could have been that they've had relationships, but people who have had relationships being serial killers is not the norm. Just as the norm for serial killers to have been men does not mean that men being serial killers is the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:53 PM
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By my age, three failed relationships would be way more of the norm. I am a millennial. Zero is going to give me some crazy outliers that makes me uneasy to choose without enough context. And I am dating a guy with no adult dating history before me. He too has his odd bits.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:05 PM
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They can choose to do whatever they want. Volcels usually need to find each other in more conservative communities where your reputation is well known anyway if they care about getting someone with the same values.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:10 AM
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Semantics matter because they distinguish between the core motivations and values of incels and volcels. Incels desire sexual relationships but are unable to attain them. Their celibacy is not a conscious choice rooted in personal values, but a circumstance. Volcels consciously choose celibacy due to their personal beliefs, principles, or values. Voluntary celibacy is not borne out of a lack of opportunity or desirability but is a conscious decision to uphold specific values. The distinction is …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:03 AM
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I had back and forths with some ppd guys trying to convince them male volcels actually exist, just saying. To some, the idea of male volcels is just ludicrous apparently. I think people just assume male volcels are extreme outliers (which is kinda true) so they are excluded from the conversation most often.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:25 AM
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I point out the difference between volcels and incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:43 AM
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"A good face beats out being tall with a meh face" was not a popular opinion. It still may not be.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 12:16 AM
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You were the only one who believed women face chasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 11:56 PM
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Absolutely. It is all about someone's character, and I don't think dating is the best way to find this out. Knowing how the person has interacted and interacts with others leaves less room for error. How a person acts when the person thinks one has nothing to lose is one's true self.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:49 PM
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I truly believe it is about your willingness to work things out and not give up as long as the partner is not a shitty human being. I agree with Peterson here https://youtu.be/J4_d7nENMFM?si=B_v-q63DOohVS_rx
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:27 PM
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That is why you need to know whether someone has been consistent in keeping up with the values or not. The person has not been alive for just 5 years, and has plenty of history to show for.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:16 PM
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In this case, I am talking about more conservative marriage, and how dedicated you are to these values. Divorce is not an option here. You know both my boyfriend and I are volcels.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:09 PM
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It depends on your values and his, and how well you know his reputation. I say one year or less in the best case scenario. My dad proposed to my mom in less than a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:05 PM
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There’s people who go through multiple spouses and people who have a til-death-do-them-part marriages. You need to be desirable in some way to achieve either one, but it is all in the vetting. If you are only meeting women like that but don’t want to, you are doing something wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:25 PM
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Wood!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 04:32 AM
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As for painting, I enjoy oil paint the most, but I was taught mostly in watercolor. I haven’t used watercolor in forever though and I have been wanting to get back into it. I did more traditional watercolor but I really want to try the line and wash technique.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 04:11 AM
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Lol I still have the first sculpture I worked on. It is wonky as heck. And yeah that’s understandable. I have a new box of paint just sitting on a shelf right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 03:20 AM
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Sculpting doesn’t cost much and it depends on the material used too. You should try it! I started with wax.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 03:14 AM
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People have already used ChatGPT for that I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 01:31 AM
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Facebook and Twitter were trending when I was young, and the kids were still socially well-adjusted imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 11:21 PM
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Not at all. She wasn't a reliable friend, and you were that disposable to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 08:05 PM
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We used to know who the shitty people were, because we all knew each other in our communities. We had to be somewhat decent to each other cause of our reputation. Catching feelings used to be a thing. It is as if we have forgotten that we are human. I think there was a golden era of enough prosperity but not too much technological advancement and big city life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 05:29 PM
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This will prob get deleted for not being tagged as Debate. There is a difference in whether someone values instant gratification or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:04 AM
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1 I need to know him very very well. 2 My values are actually very similar to Christian values due to having been raised by a devout Christian father. Being a devout Christian that actually practices those virtues without justifying your sins would be great. I basically grabbed my boyfriend once I saw that he shared my values. I know I am being a bit hypocritical when I say this, but I prefer a man who would make it to heaven even if I don't. I do actively try though. 3 I am still superficial to…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 02:04 AM
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Smart man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:23 AM
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That's what some actually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:20 AM
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Virgins should not talk about their virginity until things start to get more serious imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:20 AM
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Impossible scenario. I lost my dad early, and one of the dreams I had after my dad passed was my mom passing instead of my dad, and me being left with my dad. And holy, I woke up thinking my dad passing first was probably for the best. He would not have recovered at all. But if my dad was a different person, only if her presence does not affect my inheritance and I can be a bitch to her. I told my mom the same thing. She can remarry after she transfers all her assets to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 11:17 PM
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I like beef in my stew, and there's some good pork recipes in Asian cuisine. I don't eat dimsums anymore, but pork is the best kind of meat in dimsum imho. But when it comes to convenience, lamb just has more flavor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:44 PM
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I made some lamb kofta today, and it turned out so good. Really healthy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:34 PM
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BFs ranging from HTN to Chad-lite or Chad (depending on who you ask and how liberal we are being with the term, Chad) facially and 5'7 to 6'4 height wise. I didn't go from the worst looking to the best looking, but jumped around. I literally reunited with someone I went out with in high school, proving that I jumped around. I would say Hayato Sumino is somewhere around HTN depending on who you ask. He is my celebrity crush. He looks like a Chad-lite in his most flattering pictures imo. Had 0 FWB…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:21 PM
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ethical non monogamy apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 08:53 PM
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I graduated top of my class. Kissed way before 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:56 AM
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It really isn't for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:49 PM
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An artistic type that obsesses over you could be an example. The most irrational ones can often be these artistic types.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:49 PM
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Oh actually I do not agree with hormonal birth control pills in general. And even if they use something in moderation, using it to get to where it should be possible with extra effort is not favorable to me. But I am saying what I think here. I don’t care about how other men or women view them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:31 PM
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Okay, sorry I should have clarified. Actual competitive bodybuilder level is different. Muscular swimmer body is the ideal, and using roids to get there is definitely a different mentality than doing it natural. I do some form of physical activity every single day with regular work outs myself with a stricter diet than most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:16 PM
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I talk in BF%, not BMI. I have visible abs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:05 PM
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I really don't. I can't unsee the boobs. And no respect to those who need to use roids to achieve the male equivalent of what I achieved without putting weird stuff into my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:59 PM
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LOL Western women are insane for comparing their situation to South Korea's (if they are that is). That's my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:12 PM
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Getting a haircut that would balance out your features usually do help. People just don't know how to do this properly. The only people who can just rock any look are the ones with perfect ratios.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 02:49 AM
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Didn’t read the body text cause... But I agree with the title.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 02:45 AM
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More like degenerate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 12:52 AM
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Serious people usually do find each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 09:49 PM
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Yeah then just towel dry. I would look into microfiber hair towel of some sort if I were you and change the pillow case into silk or satin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 07:04 PM
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The percentage of guys who are into feet is apparently alarmingly high.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 06:07 PM
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Do you have a diffuser? Reuzel's Grooming Tonic (not sure of the female equivalent...) could help and/or some kind of curl cream. But it would really depend on your hair texture and the type of curl probably. This is for longer male Asian hair. But a diffuser should disturb your curls the least while you dry it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 06:02 PM
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Just get a sous vide machine and bulk cook your chicken and your eggs. You're welcome. Solved one problem for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:42 PM
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a low body count but no ex A taken woman! DUH!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:01 PM
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I dislike both divisive liberals and conservatives. They all suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 08:39 PM
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Young people when political are looking to be more divisive I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 08:33 PM
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I read CardiB
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 12:03 AM
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They do actually. I hear people out first then decide, cause I don't keep dumb people around. I respect their opinions and their level of competency. If they were incompetent, I would most likely decide for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:01 PM
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You know too much. I'm not an actual dictator though. My boyfriend likes that I genuinely listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 08:50 PM
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What do you think I am?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 08:46 PM
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Grieving sucks. I wish you and everyone else well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 08:11 PM
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From what I remember, he has a breeding kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 07:41 PM
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100% with male 50% with female I got the "I don't want to lose a precious person in my life" treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 07:14 PM
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1 guy and 2 girls more if we count my pre-teen days
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 07:10 PM
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Is that your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 07:09 PM
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All too high. I should get an adjuster for my non-sex positive stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 06:41 PM
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I’m a woman but I don’t have the right flair so I’m under the automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 07:20 AM
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Oh yeah totally. People don't get certain traits that are considered strengths will also come with their counterpart downsides. A lot of them need to learn to accept this fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 06:31 AM
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I got invited to yvaN_eht_nioJ's wedding for sharing my list of character traits I used to vet. He said he likes my list and if he manages to find a wife, I am invited. How he described it is high standards for people to meet, but the bare minimum for marriage. When I told my mom about my list, she was doubtful I'd be able to find someone like that. When she met my boyfriend, she liked him almost right away. I date high tier normies and up unless he is a stellar musician.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 05:42 AM
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The sex positive culture has gone haywire. I'm probably a prude, but I find people making sexual jokes inappropriate also. I once had to pull someone aside to have him stop doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:05 PM
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as long as he doesn't have to work on her car Okay, that's new. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:56 PM
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Nah, external validation is one helluva drug. There's many women who use social media to get that external validation. I think you like it too. I remember your comment saying that you like it when you are called hot, gorgeous or sexy in the first message from a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:48 AM
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I think there is a learning curve for compromising and effective communication. The more naturally accommodating you are, it could be a bit easier, but the you would need to learn to communicate your needs. Dating requires one to be less self-centered. My boyfriend didn't need to adjust to that. I did however.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:14 AM
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and go for mentally deranged women Oh dear
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:08 AM
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Christianity was popular among women for a reason. It was a very female-friendly religion when people actually feared God.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:59 AM
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I was born into wealth and status, and my mom told me to marry a guy from a less influential family than mine, cause the only surefire way to keep a man and his family in check in our culture would be for my family to overpower his.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:41 AM
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My "genuine career" days are over due to family circumstances. I now partake in family affairs/business. It affects my financials a lot more than a day job.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:45 AM
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No need when it is the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:17 AM
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Now the insane Asian way is to not make a spreadsheet, cause making a spreadsheet is accounting for failures. Just don't fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:00 AM
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“Suspicious” Refer to the below comments. But congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:42 AM
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I’m suspicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:33 AM
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This is partly why I don't have sex until marriage. I want to be worth something to him even without the sex. If I am not bringing enough without the sex to him, I probably am not that valuable as a companion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:47 PM
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Well, the complaint seems to be that the western women don't act feminine enough while wanting richer partners or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:38 PM
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- Patient - Humble - Flexible, accommodating and supportive - Softer rounder personality - Wise and nurturing I am basing this on the Asian yin and yang model.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 09:34 PM
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But most people don’t want to lose their money. If you were more versed in the real estate market, you’d see similar things very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:25 PM
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Isn’t it temporary for the people going through the system, but permanent for the residents? Btw “temporary” is an old tactic. The government builds it then can’t find a location to relocate such services, then it becomes permanent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:16 PM
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I changed so much in my twenties. My ambitions changed and the people I hang out with changed so much. I also became pro-gun.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:12 PM
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But now they will be there “permanently”. And honestly, real estate is many people’s biggest form of asset. Imagine having been paying mortgage on that house for years and your years of paying off the mortgage just evaporating. And yes, it is much easier to talk the virtue than actually act upon it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:09 PM
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Yeah the residents care more about the real estate prices usually. I saw it happen with whatever structure that would make a lot of noise, anything regarding garbage and even low rent homes for the less fortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:04 PM
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Reduction in real estate price is oftentimes why residents oppose such projects in their area. It happens with infrastructures too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:49 PM
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If there is a less decent person in the mix, the less decent person has to like you more, and the decent person will try to live up to the other person. Ideally, you mate with someone who will put in one's best efforts. When you look at successful couples, their level of interest may not always be the same, but their level of decency almost always is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:32 AM
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You are insane. But that would only work under extreme arranged marriage situations (parents give you way more than 45 mins to decide), and my price in the arranged marriage market is hyper inflated due to my family. I still chose a guy I know very well from high school instead. But Mr. Never will not have a university degree or have debt from braindead spending habits though. I am not covering for reckless spendings.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:15 AM
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You can divorce over whatever the hell you want nowadays. It will depend on your personal values. For my couple it is infidelity and abuse only. It is expected to last til death do us part.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:49 PM
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Kindness - Intelligence - Confidence is my boyfriend's order. He is kinder than anyone I know. I am more intelligent than him, but he is wiser than me. Confidence, I don't need for attraction, but his level of confidence is worrying for his career, so it is something that needs to be worked on. His mom had a very bad impact on his level of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:18 PM
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Think what you want. Imo you need to be memorable and make an impression for being unattractive. Not particularly attractive is not the same as downright ugly. But honestly, Americans are so fat and I do find fat people generally gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:21 PM
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Rule #2 + "click" creates the bond, not Rule #1. Rule #1 is totally replaceable by someone who is able to get who meets Rule #1.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:13 PM
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part of being in your thirties Oh no... :/ I wish you luck. The people who have figured things out are mostly already in relationships, and it is not very easy for people to figure out things and change imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 05:59 PM
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The best advice my parents gave me is to never be easily replaceable. Applies to every facet of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 05:57 PM
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Did he describe an uber productive life? It sounds like he wants to retire early and enjoy his life. Which is fair, but the best for kids imo. I grew up with my mom at home for a period of time, and she was ALWAYS busy. No chill stuff all day, no friends on a regular/daily basis. My parents even put away the TV to raise me better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 01:12 PM
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I personally think we should look into whether someone is into instant gratification or not when vetting for partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 01:46 AM
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Sure, but I would say there are more women on the bisexuality spectrum than men, but there also are people who are strictly homosexual like there are people who are strictly heterosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:22 PM
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If lesbians are "not yet bisexuals", then straight men could also be "not yet bisexuals".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:18 PM
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I like my grass fed beef :'(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:01 PM
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sine120 was saying, he should go around telling people that he is 5'11 so that it would mess with people's heads. He is 6'2 I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:00 PM
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Okbear probably has higher standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:55 PM
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It could be. I spend about that much on my diet. But doing that to attract women is whack as heck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:54 PM
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Took me a while to figure out NB. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:28 PM
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Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:27 PM
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Glad you didn't abuse your Chadliness, sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:16 PM
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The good boys especially like natural looking pretty girls rather than hot makeup covered girls I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:12 PM
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Ugh my daughter wearing that kind of makeup... What a horror. Also, I do not want her to spend so much time on her makeup. Makeup should be streamlined and ideally just enhances what you have, not change you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:07 PM
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I would not be able to stand it if she followed tiktok trends. So what was the first question?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:58 PM
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What was the first question? Think I missed it. High school probably as long as she keeps her grades up. I'd also teach her how to put on makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:49 PM
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No. I have a "both genders generally suck" viewpoint, and most of my friends do too along with my boyfriend. Like if you can't see how your own gender sucks, and only see the faults in others, I would count it as a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:22 PM
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"I upset everyone" I am self-aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:02 PM
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I am really sorry to hear. Hope you can be a good rock for your family. That's a lot more than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:01 PM
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Oh I definitely prefer small village dating. My boyfriend and I met in high school, and reunited despite living on the opposite ends of the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:59 PM
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As an older woman (than you), I would like to say to approach dating slowly and carefully. It helps to build up some experience imo. I really did not think I would be giving the same advice my mom gave me. Just take it as slowly as you need. I don't think it is wise to start dating just to fill the loneliness though. I genuinely wish you luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:52 PM
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Yeah I kinda doubt it is jealousy then. 20F is too early to be feeling jealousy imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:34 PM
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Middleton makes media appearances. She is basically a figurehead who has to care about public opinion more than anyone else. Lol Bringing in British Royalty was the funniest thing ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:32 PM
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That princess has no power. Actual heiresses do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:27 PM
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That sounds so sad if it is true. Social media must really have done a number on you guys too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:24 PM
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I don't think it would be jealousy at 20F unless his family is loaded and she could now live like a princess. I don't think the jealousy would start until like late 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:11 PM
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What's strange is that when I talk to Asian kids in Asia, they actually seem to have more hangups over dating and stuff than the first gen Asians in the west. I have started to think that maybe the first gen Asians feel as if they are in this "small village", and act more in the way you would with a limited community size.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:51 PM
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It is in a movie and I doubt they are acting out a 61 and a 39 year old. Silly to cry over who they cast. Tom Cruise is a household name and could qualify for the role better than most other actors. Not like they are going to cast Tom Cruise to play the grandpa next door either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:42 PM
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This unfortunately can set a bad example for the kids. It is harder for kids to stay diligent when they don’t have both parents working their ass off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:18 PM
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Reminds me of Apple products.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:59 PM
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I wonder how long it takes for them to start sounding bearable. The child prodigies seem to get it rather young.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:49 PM
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I don’t envy that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:48 PM
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I think most of them get fat by eating shitty food so might not be as much as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:47 PM
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It is one of the worst sounding instruments when played by newbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:09 PM
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What I thought...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:01 PM
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My children won't be learning the violin.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:00 PM
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Personally, I think every single marriage should automatically come with a prenuptial agreement. I am not sure how much you've actually looked into this. I will be going into a marriage with quite significant premarital assets and much higher income. There's not much the prenup will protect me from even if I get it from the looks of it at least where I live. It is either already protected (premarital) or I will just have to endure the loss. As a higher earning person, my advice would be to not g…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:55 PM
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I don't know if there's a word for it, but my family's lawyer married a convenient woman after following my mom around for years. I think he still has feelings for my mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:37 PM
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Yummy Hope they are grass fed and grass finished.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:07 PM
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I mean, it makes sense. There should be plenty of 18 year old models and actresses. They would not exist if they weren't considered attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:47 PM
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Only a few are capable of greatness. It is pure cope to think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:54 PM
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No, that's fat outside of the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:51 PM
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<image> It depends on her own age according to this chart and once a woman passes a certain age, it seems like she prefers younger. My mom is in her mid 50’s and she thinks men her age look too old to be appreciating their looks. I think late 30’s-early 40’s would be a safe bet with max mid 40’s for particularly well aged ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 11:02 PM
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Okay, Mr. Health-conscious. So what’s your BMI or your BF%? You can answer in either. My BF% is 19-21.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:49 PM
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Some get deleted for "low effort" I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:43 PM
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I think I took 70 pictures of my boyfriend's hands in less than 10 minutes once.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:25 PM
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Show me the kitty
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:24 PM
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Honestly, having access to the first gen dating market if you are first gen is so useful. It is kinda like passport bro'ing, but not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:04 PM
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You'd think my boyfriend is low SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:09 PM
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I got my fantasy-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:08 PM
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I only date simps who are my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:07 PM
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I only date simps who are my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:07 PM
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I think due to the increase in echo chambers, people are getting more radicalized and less comfortable with differing views. Yes, we need to find someone who's more openminded, but it has been getting much more difficult due to the current climate. I think we used to be a lot more centrist before the echo chambers even when we had our differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 03:31 PM
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No. My boyfriend and my prime deal breaker is infidelity and we are the no divorce once the kids are born volcels. A great father to my children would teach my children to be responsible with sex. "No sex until you can be responsible for a child, and only with a person that you would want to raise a child with" was what was taught to me, and I plan on passing it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:58 PM
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So what did he do?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 12:33 AM
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u/Gladboys don't I have the best personality ever? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 12:32 AM
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I think she looks older than mine who is in her mid 50s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 12:17 AM
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That cat is a cutie. Oooh keeby doesn’t like cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:26 PM
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He is the best looking one among them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:22 PM
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I doubt it. I also asked for his BF% while giving my BF%.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:21 PM
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Nope. My dad would still not have approved of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 10:41 PM
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My dad would not have approved of the guy already then. Next.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 10:38 PM
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Cat, just be mad at me. Why do you have to dry yourself on me? Is this revengeeee?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 09:50 PM
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Do you want to know the individual woman's response? Cause in the wild, they both will do extremely well looks-wise, but that 8/10 face on 5'11 without height inflation is going to slay so hard. His face will turn heads and make people smile. Girls will be sneaking peeks at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 09:43 PM
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why ask questions you don't want the answer to This was one of the things I learned from my parents. They apparently never asked me questions they weren't ready to hear the answers for so that I would not have to lie to them. They only asked if I was gay when they were ready to hear that I could be into girls. I had not brought anyone home so they thought I was gay or something. They apparently already had the "how would we react to the less desirable answer" talk with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 02:16 AM
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Possibly? The answer would be no if the question was about balding though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 12:30 AM
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I meant the PPD server. I already have a few people on Discord. I think ideally, we would have a separate server for DT regulars.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 12:05 AM
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I didn’t like it personally. DT is more my vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:53 PM
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We are too controversial for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:38 PM
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If that happens, I'll miss most of you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:31 PM
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They just ban all of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:29 PM
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Just post on r/dating and you will get banned for participating in PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:23 PM
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AngeCruelle
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:22 PM
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Ange and I can be the anti-premarital sex duo but I think we aren't tradcon enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:17 PM
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Get off PPD, mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:53 PM
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I think she prefers A-list Asian actors in their 30’s to mid 40’s in general. So really before they start to look too old.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:38 PM
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She isn’t an outlier then it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:28 PM
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She refused to date men with nothing to show for himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:25 PM
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Mid 50s? I am pretty sure she thinks past mid 40’s is basically deteriorating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:24 PM
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He was a HTN but with mad status and max potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:19 PM
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Her standards for what she considers good looking are beyond insane. She is an ex-Stacy with really good looking siblings though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:16 PM
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Nah. She just enjoys looking at pretty things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:10 PM
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women physically prefer men of their own age group at any age My mom probably is an outlier, but it is weird when I hear her talk about guys 10 yrs younger than her. She thinks men her age aren't visually appealing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:07 PM
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By the time I realized I wasn't doing ok it was get on the pills or I probably do something really freaking stupid. That's how I ended up with a cat. I had to get something I had to look after so I'd have to be a somewhat responsible human being. It was either "recreational" drugs (or something even dumber) or an animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:00 PM
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This is so vain but a good portion of why I refused the pills was that exact side effect lol I figured getting fat would give me an eating disorder on top of being depressed. I don't think pills can be fundamental sol'n either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 09:22 PM
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I think we should be encouraging responsible breeding practices, and if we are to get our pets from breeders, we should look very carefully into them. Badly trained ones or ones with trauma or that have potential health issues from being bred poorly can be a lot more work than some people might want to sign up for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:59 PM
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Be with someone with good morals
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:56 PM
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I'd look into stevia if I were you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:52 PM
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You could try sugar substitutes to reduce insulin spikes if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:33 PM
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My boyfriend and his bro have a 10+ yr age gap and they are super close. Depends on the relationship. The kid even buys me presents. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:59 PM
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You might get banned for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:53 PM
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The ones who are in the leftover market act like that. The sane ones get locked down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:53 PM
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Happy birthday :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:16 PM
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If a person is a low fat muscular person, that person still is going to weigh a lot, right? So yes, it makes sense that body fat % is going to be better, but measuring that takes more work or better equipment, so for regular people, BMI should be good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:15 PM
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That’s lower than I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:03 PM
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It should mostly be used by people who lift, cause BMI is a really bad measure for them. Females naturally carry more fat than males, therefore even athletes have vastly different body fat percentage depending on gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:58 PM
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You do know body fat percentage works very differently for males and females, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:49 PM
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Meh he'd have to be Liszt or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:28 PM
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Not sure if it is true but a terrible example regardless. He still looks creepy to me in an Android or reptilian alien kind of way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:38 PM
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If you are a good face at 5’10, then don’t disregard yourself. Good face is worth so much more than you seem to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:12 PM
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Lol welcome back
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:02 PM
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You need to secure one when she is young while you are still working on yourself. While you are on your way to somewhere, you still will be showing signs of potential. The women you want probably get into relationships early and rarely break up. Get one while there's still some more on the market. After you graduate university, it gets significantly more difficult to socialize with such a wide group of (possibly single) people. Go to a nerd university if you can. School culture matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:53 AM
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Sugar relationships. Temporary "luxurious" lifestyle. The women might not want to commit to them either but want to enjoy the luxuries temporarily too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:31 AM
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Didn't know surgeries were that cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 03:23 PM
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Too revealing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 03:21 PM
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I felt that he has high enough self esteem and he also happens to have previous dating experiences so what I say matters a lot less.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 01:46 PM
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In terms of spontaneous desire, women probably have a higher bar or might not have very strong spontaneous desire to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 01:27 PM
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I was too lazy to say anything. And would prefer to say nothing. I think the only guy I directly commented on his looks publicly was okbear.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 01:24 PM
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That’s going to be a controversial take I think. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 01:18 PM
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Ideally, you'd find someone who'd be fine with your wants or are compatible with your wants. I don't like to be asked about what I am going through and don't like to replace my whole life with couple-y relationship stuff. I am actually quite fine with being in a LDR. My minimum requirement seems to be to see each other every 2-3 months or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 12:16 PM
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Robot vacuum
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 02:22 AM
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You'll know if he is chadlite or HTN fast enough. But I think even chadlites and HTNs benefit from having some kind of game or a niche advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:05 PM
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Louise Perry is anti-hookup culture I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:52 PM
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Being able to make it into 50 parts is pretty impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:05 PM
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We all do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:58 PM
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Hard agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:35 PM
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Pure math?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:20 PM
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At least in my culture, the families that are established enough for arranged marriages tend to have pretty moms or generations of pretty moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:03 PM
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Program quality or the network they can build. Unless you choose very specific majors, it is usually the network that's worth paying for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:58 PM
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I got a business degree at a nerd school. Business kids are always social no matter the school and she could find a student club with social people. But every school has its own culture and its maximum level of insanity imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:56 PM
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What a reason for picking a school. I hope my kid goes to a nerd school.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:39 PM
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I prefer to text a bit more and see him for longer once a week. Going somewhere for just two hours isn’t something I like doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 12:16 PM
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Eh sorta? There's not a small number but Japanese people leave their own country the least I think compared to Chinese/Korean. I haven't been able to make many Japanese friends in the west. I've seen so many Redditors who believe Japanese people and society are progressive and shit. LOL Noooooooo. Even in major cities, there's plenty of conservatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:43 AM
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Not yet. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 12:46 AM
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Yeah. I don't know how I end up accumulating this much stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:46 PM
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and very empty. I need to live more like that with a better chair.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:44 PM
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We are both moving to where we could be close to each other, and make the most sense for both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:43 PM
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I like most of the female women here Glad you do, cause I find you perfectly fine to interact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:41 PM
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It really does. I dread it every time. Why do I have so much stuff. I want to be living like this right now. ​ <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:46 PM
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one month old posts I'm sure we both have seen worse. lol A month is nothing for some.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:39 PM
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I think DT is where it's at.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:28 PM
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Yeah. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:28 PM
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Yeah Cali is no longer the surfing mild weathered laid back happy place imo. Warm weathered places tend to be more laid back on average globally, but tech probably swallowed up Cali as well as the big city life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:16 PM
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I should make it my goal to finish packing one box a day. Wish me luck on my move. This is not going to be fun. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:01 PM
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Aren't California and NY rather similar? They both feel very liberal to me. I am asking cause I am not very aware of the differences. One could be more laid back than the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:54 PM
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I usually do. I get pissed off when people just project the west onto the east though. We have our own culture and our own problems. Like I've said, I am the cause of my own suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:31 PM
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"Japan" lured me in. Shame on me. I am the cause of my own suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:27 PM
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I really should go back to ignoring main threads. There's way too many people (of both genders) who are way too invested in their echo chambers and are proud of being ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:20 PM
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No, not bitter from the dating market per se, but the social construct itself. It is messed up from the core for both genders. Yeah, you are totally projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:57 PM
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If you plan on using it regularly, I'm going to say probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:42 PM
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You aren't getting the full story. You are hearing just one side of the echo chamber. My friend group consists almost entirely of Chinese and Korean immigrants both men and women who lived all over the world including their native countries. The worst way to get educated on a new topic is to only engage with just one side of the echo chamber who lack nuisance and are bitter. (If you only heard the liberals talk, you'd think white straight men are the root of all evil.) Sure, Korean men have a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:27 PM
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I love it when westerners just project the west onto the east. The east a vastly different culture and a different set of societal problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:37 PM
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Oh how I love it when westerners talk about Korea and Japan without actually understanding Asian culture and society. You just project the west onto the east.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:34 PM
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At a specific thing. Piano.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 08:06 PM
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Wanting to test his loyalty? I had a girl who asked me to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 08:06 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 07:35 PM
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Oh no I'm doing it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 07:30 PM
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For men or women?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 07:29 PM
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Then I'd get something that I need to replace quite often like mascara.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 06:45 PM
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Do you need anything? I am not saying you should not spend it, but I’d personally buy what I need.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 06:08 PM
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Seriously? Uhh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:55 PM
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If you have had opportunities to have sex, you are a volcel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:11 PM
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LOL Oh I hate people who wants others to "just get it". Use your damn words and communicate ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:06 PM
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NTA but the smart move would have been to agree to not give each other gifts and then give a small gift. Dating unfortunately isn't about what makes sense or what is fair. It is about keeping the other person happy by setting realistic expectations then fulfilling expectations and do a bit more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 04:58 PM
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I am not talking politics. I am talking Confucianism. I am a millennial virgin woman for goodness sake. I am also very far from woke culture. People would probably even call me a TERF if they knew my views. I am very pro-Christianity, but anti-Confucianism. Confucianism is not the same as western conservatism at all. It is a way more complicated topic than westerners think. Yes, I too vote conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:58 PM
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Y’all will eat 5 bags of hot cheetos, 3 cartons of chips ahoy, 2 sonic strawberry milkshakes, a whole family meal from pizza hut while saving 7 big macs with 4 fries and 2 boxes of mcnuggets with a damn frosty and 17 packets of nasty ass sweet and sour sauce but wanna call round people unhealthy. I don't eat ANY of this. Y’all will smoke about 50 cigars a day, with 2 diet cokes every hour and you’ll call a boiled egg with nuts and ice in a bowl, literal bird food I am munching on an egg right no…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:59 PM
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If you are conservative leaning here, you would be a liberal in Korea. Western conservatism/traditionalism is not an equivalent of Confucian traditionalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:31 AM
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I am shallow in so many aspects imo and I don't think immutability makes it particularly more shallow per se at least in my case. So I don't date fat people. In large, it has very little to do with health or lifestyle or whatever. It just LOOKS unattractive to me. I was talking to my boyfriend without sharing recent photos and on the flight to his city, I was thinking, "Please don't be fat. Please don't be balding." I think this is shallow, especially since I knew I'd date him if he wasn't baldi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:15 PM
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Joke's on you. My boyfriend is the one dating a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:09 PM
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I'll DM you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:54 PM
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Pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:51 PM
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Nah not even for Hayato Sumino or Seong-Jin Cho and I used to crush on Sumino.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:48 PM
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Yeah like piano skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:40 PM
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and parents with children learning how to play the violin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:32 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:26 PM
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I think it maybe is more the other way around. Not having confidence could be an ick. It is most likely a metric you do have to meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:53 PM
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I just have a Bambino Plus. I think it is a reasonable one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:41 PM
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I really cannot picture this happening. LOL We even joke about other women applying sunscreen on his back. I would only care if I thought she could be more his type than me tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:23 PM
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I think it would be even more cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:12 PM
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Huh? What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:09 PM
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Not necessarily. Some people just suck at planning shit even when it is not supposed to be some rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:08 PM
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I think if someone isn't able to cater conversations to the ones they are having a conversation with, it makes someone a not so great conversationalist. To not be boring, you have to have a wide enough set of interests to entertain a wide array of people or target people who have a similar interest. It applies to both conversation topics and activities. I think it is more about how well you are able to entertain someone, not necessarily whether you are boring or not. I personally listen very car…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:03 PM
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lol yeah no. What a weird way to get equivalents. Face matters more imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 10:32 PM
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Yummy <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:37 PM
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You need to try snails.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:35 PM
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But Cha Eun Woo is so good looking though. I'll just act like I didn't hear him play the piano. Someone take his piano away from him please.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:33 PM
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My ego won't like getting told that he is better looking than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:30 PM
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Cinnamon is too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:13 PM
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Is "I will lose all attraction for you if you get fat" better?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:01 PM
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Ask for extra hours?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:54 PM
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I empathize with people who want fat clauses on their prenups. I am the red flag. (I would not do it personally.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:21 PM
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I already told him that he is not allowed to get fat. I will not get fat either. We try to look hot for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:57 PM
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Damn, didn't know you lost so much weight. Good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:40 PM
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Good morning to you too! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:39 PM
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I think my boyfriend would tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:37 PM
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I can do 15+ real pushups without breaks and I have clear nail polish on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:36 PM
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Oooooh this is such a fun question lol So in my home country, there are cases in which the mistress gets the better treatment or the guy eventually ending up with the mistress. The main chick often is the convenient beta bucks in a way. You might want to think about what you are to him for him to ask such thing of you. Cause if losing you mattered to him more than his own sex drive, I don't think he would have brought it up. I say this as a woman who was horrible to date in the past. I was alway…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:32 PM
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They are not actually. I do see the differences. They are not the same age either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:52 PM
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The guy should be desirable but honestly, we are still the generation that see Confucianism play out so I think many resist harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:41 PM
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Surprisingly important. Changes the way your face is interpreted. Smart man. One of the first things I did when I started dating my boyfriend was getting my creative director friend to give me advice on his hair. It made a crazy difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:04 PM
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How important do you think a good hairstyle is?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:54 PM
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If you don't recognize multiple things on the ingredient list, it is not food.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:46 PM
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I actually had a nightmare of my boyfriend balding the other day. When I told him I had a somewhat silly nightmare, he guessed it right the first round. He knows how I feel about hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:23 PM
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China could be the least misogynistic East Asian country though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:25 AM
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Not nearly enough for pairing up to stabilize probably. Due to the gender imbalance, the dating market is really fucked over there. I hear a bit about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 12:43 AM
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This is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 12:38 AM
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Insulin resistance, a symptom associated with diabetes, is known to cause hair loss. In addition to losing more hair than usual, diabetes can also slow down hair growth. Hair grows at a slower than usual rate among those suffering from the condition. Limiting or avoiding foods such as refined carbohydrates, sugary drinks, fried foods, processed meats, and full-fat dairy products can also help. Diet could definitely be one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:06 PM
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I think I am quite honest about what I say on PPD. I try to give honest advice in private chat more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:54 PM
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Read some articles and start prevention early.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:48 PM
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A lot of Asian guys have been having hair loss issue these days. I am not really sure what it is. Diet perhaps?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:39 PM
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I never liked bleached blonde on a guy until Zayn. That was certainly a style.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:29 PM
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I have no idea what would be considered a racially charged content. This is so inconvenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:20 PM
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Chads of every ethnicity are popular imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:57 PM
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With how China treats its citizens and their social credit system and everything, I think it could easily be forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:48 PM
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That was funny. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:35 PM
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There are papers on Japan and Korea’s fertility crisis linking it to Confucianism already.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:57 PM
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