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Whether you choose to believe it or not, religion is just another means of assigning social roles. It's up to you to decide how much of that assignment you're ok with, and how much you're not. For me, all religion is horseshit, so I choose to partake of none. You seem to believe that Judaism has redeeming value. You have to also accept that some things in Judaism aren't going to work for you. In my observation, no one of any religion follows it strictly to the letter except the fundamentalists, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 09:31 PM
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The last thing you'll do with a pious marriage is make it about love. It'll be all about obligation, whether it's the husband's or the wife's. And as we say here, you can't negotiate desire. Your wife will surely put out, but the sex will be tainted by duty and thereby substandard. What is even worse is that the more you deny yourself the sex you want, the more insane you become. It's no different than losing your shit when you're hungry, thirsty, tired, or need to take a dump, no matter how Sto…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 01:15 PM
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Amen, brother. Lots of guys here have forgotten history and concoct all sorts of conspiracy theories to explain simple events. And still more are in the anger phase and are thinking more by emotion than reason. Let's not forget that, until fairly recently, feminism was regarded as a force for justice, but has become corrupted into a force of domination.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/15 04:34 AM
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This, essentially. Men talk in reason, women in emotion. Much of their talk isn't even verbal, but in tone of voice and body language. It's not intended to solve anything, just provide communion.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 02:51 PM
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If you say enough shit, some of it is bound to be true.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 02:42 PM
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This is the "qualified answer" which is always a lie. If someone has to explain a simple statement, it's usually a lie.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 02:40 PM
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I've been waiting for someone other than me here to say this. I myself am of Eastern European extraction, and have dated and even married women of that ilk. I even speak Russian. Let me tell you, my experience has not necessarily been good. If anything, the Eastern European women are even more AWALT than the American ones because they have grown up in a society where they are not even required to fake moral righteousness, and so tease and manipulate men sexually without even trying to fake other…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/15 10:54 PM
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For years I also noticed that women with many outrageous and centrally located tattoos and piercings were usually sluts. I had always assumed everyone else understood this, but apparently science backs me up!
/r/TheRedPill10/11/15 03:59 AM
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Her anger at my son was something I only realized after the fact, when I was contemplating the situation later. It's a bit too late to challenge it now, but I see your point. Right now, it's been 3 days of radio silence. I have been working 12 hours a day since then so not exactly in a position to do any hobbies. The chores are a foregone conclusion now. What little was left undone she completed. Everyone keeps talking about the sex, but that's really the last thing on my mind. As someone once p…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/15 06:06 PM
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I'm in the situation right now. My son pissed off mom, so she decides to take it out on me, saying that I haven't done enough chores around the house, and proceeds to scold me for it. I go into radio silence mode, which is my usual MO, rather than retaliating, as events like these have happened before. As you say, it becomes an impasse. She will eventually restore contact, begrudgingly, albeit it may be after days. This repetition gets very annoying, and I'm wondering if someone has solutions.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 11:16 PM
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Is there such a chick flick?
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 03:58 PM
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When he's ready, he won't even have to dodge bullets.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/15 08:08 PM
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It's because, until recently, the idea that a man should subserve his interests for a woman was absurd. If a woman wouldn't have you, you'd just move on without a moment's hesitation. It was women who were expected to subserve to men and if a man deferred to her it was chivalry. And chivalry was only a point of honor because it was not obliged of any man.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/15 02:28 PM
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There are apparently studies around (can't remember where) that shows that singles are unfairly scrutinized for hiring and promotion. At some age, if you aren't married, you're regarded as unreliable and thus passed over, so that higher career ladders are typically inundated by married men with children. The (unfounded) idea is that if you are married and have children, you are responsible and therefore reliable in your job. I have, personally, likely benefited from marriage in my career. When I…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 09:02 PM
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You don't need RP. You need a psychiatrist.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/15 12:22 PM
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You don't even need RP to realize how fucked up this woman's situation is, and how hypocritical she is to demand from a man what she cannot demand of herself. I have seen this type of behavior in many religious fundamentalists. She says she was raised in such a household. The problem there is that sex is treated as if it's poison and you don't dare touch it except under very restrictive circumstances such as marriage, and even then, you better not do it in a fun way. Because sex is so restrictiv…
/r/TheRedPill02/11/15 04:13 AM
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I like that you brought up this topic but didn't directly address it. But it is true that an accusation of sexual harassment has no defense. You don't even need RP to believe this. It's in plain legal sight. Any man can be accused of sexual harassment for doing anything imagined by the accuser. You can even be accused by a third party who sees you hitting on someone, claiming they are "uncomfortable" with this "hostile" work environment. Most workplace HR don't have the patience to sort it out s…
/r/TheRedPill30/10/15 02:36 PM
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I was raised in a Jewish household but never believed. Not even as a child. I had always assumed that when people talked about religion, it was symbolic or allegorical and that no one 'really' believed that stuff anymore. I thought it was just something culturally inherited from a primitive past when people didn't know anything. When I was 15, I started realizing that people actually believe this horseshit and even (pretend to) live their lives according to it. So I made a personal vow and decla…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/15 02:04 PM
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https://www.endocrine.org/~/media/endosociety/Files/Publications/Clinical%20Practice%20Guidelines/FINAL-Androgens-in-Men-Standalone.pdf The above is a link to the long-winded summary of guidelines published by the Endocrine Society on treatment of testosterone deficiency in men. Here is a summary of it: The low end of normal testosterone level is 200. While testosterone does decrease with age, the decrease is relatively small, as men who have fathered children in their 80's can attest. Remember …
/r/TheRedPill23/10/15 03:46 PM
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Would it be fair to say your wife was bluffing the whole time while threatening?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 09:55 PM
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If you are EBV naive, you've probably never kissed a girl.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/15 03:15 PM
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My grandfather was a WW2 veteran and the only person in my extended family that I ever respected. He was, even as an elderly man, hard as nails, and didn't take shit from anyone. He always tried to teach me to be strong and stand up for myself, often leading by example. I should've listened to him more than I did. He died when I was 13. I still miss him to this day. My own father died 3 years ago and I still don't miss him. It should be no surprise that grandpa was a total alpha. In his youth, h…
/r/TheRedPill17/10/15 02:20 AM
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Ugh! Just checked a pic of Dworkin. It's enough to make you puke!
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 08:30 PM
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Even at my worst blue pill ever, I was never so delusional as to believe that women can come to me without any effort on my part. I just assumed everyone understood that the man always had to make the first move, whether that was fair or not.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 01:49 PM
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Women on the other hand seem to be much more simple and predictable. Subconsciously driven by their biology and less able to rise above mating strategy to reach the heights of human achievement. I would argue it's only because they are not socially compelled to do so.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 01:45 PM
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And as a man, it's my biological imperative to be aggressive, violent, and confrontational because of all this testosterone circulating in my bloodstream. I can't help my evolution. So it's not my fault if I threaten people, beat and sometimes kill others. I'm just obeying my biology! That's what this argument sounds like to me. It's been applied to crazy people, poor people, and even fat people as the ultimate cop-out. We're supposed to be civilized and not wantonly succumb to every drive that …
/r/TheRedPill15/10/15 05:53 PM
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Of course. Many have some traits of psychopathy but they don't meet the strict definition of it because they have some limits. Like, they won't murder their family. It's unlikely you will ever find a psychopath on TRP. If one ever stumbles in here, it would only be for a laugh.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 07:22 PM
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TRP makes a big deal about the Dark Triad, but as you OP said, you cannot make yourself one. You are either born into it or not. There's been a lot of research by experts, especially in recent years, which I've read up on, and while I think you did a good job of presenting it, I think some things need to be cleared up for the general audience. For one thing, there is no longer any distinction between "dark triad" and psychopathy. Psychopathy encompasses all of the traits mentioned within the dar…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 04:46 PM
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Near total lack of insight and introspection IS a therapist!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 02:31 PM
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It's already been longer than that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/15 02:48 PM
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I don't keep track of how much weight I'm lifting. I have a personal trainer, and pay him enough to keep track of my progress for me. As far as he's concerned, I'm making good progress. We do various exercises. Some cardio, some free weights, some machine, and even some boxing. The boxing especially helps cool my anger, for obvious reasons. I have explained my goals to him and he follows along, but he also says that "Rome was not built in a day." While I can admit I could stand to hit the gym mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 07:57 PM
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Seems to me the bigger problem is the gullible female public throwing money away on overpriced fashion.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/15 01:35 PM
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Let me get my calorimeter
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 01:59 AM
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It's easier to be OI when the outcome is independent of her decisions. If I'm horny, and single, of course I have options. But I'm married and so my only option is her and my right hand. And the longer I go unsatisified the more frustrated I become, escalating the cycle. Quite often I'm forced to fix the problem on my own but then this doesn't fix the underlying problem. It doesn't help matters to see her amazing, now toned physique, prancing about the house naked.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 09:06 PM
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I don't remember the specific dread levels but I get noticed by women on a semi-regular level. I tease and flirt with them and they do it right back. But I have yet to do it right in front of my wife, mostly because there's been no opportunity. I don't know if you noticed but I posted a thread some time ago about how a co-worker almost threw herself at me and that I had to extinguish that quick. So there is female attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 08:55 PM
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So how do you advise I maintain my composure in the face of so much anger and frustration? I feel like all I'm doing is just STFU but the anger is all still there, ready to reappear without notice.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 08:51 PM
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I'm going to have to disagree and call you, OP, the hamster here. You're way overthinking this issue, because is a name is just a name. It's a meaningless symbol that references your identity. If I changed either my first or last name, I'd still be the very same man. But what is more is the bureaucracy of name changing. Do you have any idea how many government agencies have to be contacted and hounded, for months, just to get your name changed? And then there's the problem of having old document…
/r/TheRedPill29/09/15 01:29 PM
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You said it yourself that this wave of feminism (third wave) has no coherent direction. There is neither coherent leadership nor a coherent message. And what ends up coming out is an appeal to give women more privilege, as if to compensate for centuries of oppression, and to make them superior to men. This has destroyed the very notion of feminism as seeking equality.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/15 03:12 AM
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Skepticism is not a bad attitude when it comes to science, or else you become prone to gullibility. If someone makes any claim without backing it up, that person can't be trusted. I have since seen the scientific mention so you don't need to continue being the loyal Crusader for OP.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/15 02:56 AM
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That's not how this works. You make the claim, you back it up
/r/TheRedPill26/09/15 02:33 PM
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Do you have any actual scientific papers to back up any of these claims? Otherwise, your testimonial sounds like a commercial.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/15 12:33 PM
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I don't know if you're feeling what I'm feeling, but my resentment stems from my opinion that the hoops I'm forced to jump through don't seem worth it for a woman like my wife. Why should I have to deflect shit tests and do all sorts of other annoying nonsense, even if they work, for any woman, least of all my wife? It's ridiculous that I should even consider her in the equation of my life while she cares so little for mine! That's at least the running dialogue in my mind these days. At the same…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 10:52 PM
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Following the heart is what women do because it's all about what makes them feel good.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 02:06 PM
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You have a lot of fallacies not just about RP but reality itself. Others are answering but I'll provide my own contribution for what it's worth. 1) you have this illusion that who you are and how you act are distinguishable to the general public. Fact is that people hide their true selves from public view all the time and only reveal their true selves in isolated instances that are hard to catch if you're not watching carefully. What is more is that you imagine that personal identity is unchange…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 01:59 AM
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I did the keto diet for a time and it's very effective in losing weight but it will not do anything else. If you have no musculature you won't gain any doing it. In fact, it may even be bad for you if you are lifting. Carbs are the primary fuel of all organs whereas ketoacids are only fuel for brain cells. As you are ketogenic, your muscles are rotting, essentially. If you are working out, it's best to eat a balanced diet, not enter starvation mode, which is what keto is. Also I noticed that eve…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/15 11:24 PM
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I'm also not that guy. I was also thinking of how guilty I'd be if I actually did it, especially because I actually love my wife and she appreciates me. It would be different if it was a woman I could give a shit about.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 06:33 PM
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I'm no longer so shy in work situations as I used to be. I used to think I had no clout at work and could only go with the flow but I realized that part of that was that I didn't assert myself enough to get more clout. It doesn't succeed as often as I'd like but at least the act of assertion builds my confidence. I also don't lose my shit anymore. Used to be when faced with too much work, I'd spaz out. This would put everyone else on edge too. I don't do that anymore. Partly this is because I do…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/15 01:49 PM
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I'm not into hate fucking. It turns me off and if I force it, I probably couldn't even get it up. I don't even hate my wife. I just don't give a shit. As far as flirting goes, yes that's easily enough done, but the only women I know that I come across regularly are coworkers and I'm not about to walk into that sexual harassment minefield. I've heard too many stories that haven't ended well. But, I see your point. I'll try harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 02:42 PM
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No, eHarmony is total bullshit, and you are right, it's essentially a Christian dating site. The founder is a minister whose stated goal is to increase the number of marriages. Any success they claim is deceptive because if you introduce enough pairs of people, eventually some of them are going to work out more often than if you did absolutely nothing to meet anyone. From more seasoned PUAs, the only use of dating sites is as a supplement to spinning plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 02:08 PM
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This situation sounds very suspicious to me because suddenly it has gotten better through no action on his part. All of a sudden, his wife is having sex with him, and since he changed nothing of his behavior, she must have a reason to change hers. In MMSLP, the author talks about how some women will cheat on their men and then suddenly prompt sex with the husband thereafter. This is done to hide the possibly pregnancy that will ensue thereafter, allowing them to claim it was the husband's child.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 06:49 PM
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If you're looking to religion to give you wisdom of any kind, you're going to have a bad time. If you're looking to antiquity to give wisdom, that's another story. In fact, until Christianity came along, much of ancient wisdom was all about pragmatism. What was advised was what was practical. Christianity replaced that with foolish dogma, where you believed even bullshit as an article of faith, whether it made sense or not. Whatever religion has that is useful is mostly stolen from elsewhere and…
/r/TheRedPill21/03/15 12:53 PM
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I tried the clue app, but it was useless. It asks me questions that are unanswerable. I have been informally tracking her behavior and noticed a pattern of peak sexual interest about every 28 days, which I'm assuming is the proxy ovulation. Yes, she does have the Mirena. I also noticed her mood and agreeableness to be better around this same time. This seems discordant to other signs. For example, she complained of breast tenderness but this didn't dissuade her from wanting sex. I think your adv…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 11:14 PM
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If a pastor tries to use the Bible of all things to support a feminist position, he's going to have a bad time. The Bible is all about the wife submitting to the husband!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 11:42 PM
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I used to hide it from the wife but eventually realized it's impossible so I just tell her that these are books for my self-improvement and she accepts that. She hasn't bothered to read them herself. She has no idea where I get them from and doesn't bother asking. After all, what wife is opposed to improving her husband?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 11:31 PM
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No, she used to have cancer, but was successfully treated a year and a half ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 03:02 PM
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You mean to say I should expect no empathy from her or you?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 02:24 AM
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This seems the best option. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/14 04:07 PM
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I'm not there yet. I'm barely getting started. So far, all I've done was resolved to not take her shit. If she yells at me unfairly, which I take as a shit test, I turn cold and wait for her to qualify herself to me before I resume warmth. So far, 1/2 successes. I've only started on this road a week ago, so give me time. This is more than I've been able to pull off in 2 years. At least now I have a plan that has a chance of success.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/14 02:15 AM
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The major problem with counseling is that both have to be highly motivated to fix the problem and acknowledge their faults to be fixed. If your wife believes you are the problem, you're already off to a bad start.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/14 05:32 PM
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As far as we and others can tell, my son is an attention seeker. He notices that people pay attention to him when he cries and whines, so he does it often. When we have ignored him, he eventually relents, but is so tenacious that he'll try again later. He has my wife wrapped around his finger especially, although she is coming around slowly to the idea that he cannot be coddled all the time. He doesn't try the same tricks with me nearly as often because he knows I won't tolerate them. What I hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/14 01:55 AM
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We are still together but the relationship is very tense. For a while, I wasnt sure it was worth saving, but now I see in this subreddit where I've been going about everything all wrong. I had imparted on her all sorts of nefarious and vile attributes, when all along, she was just missing the man she had married.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/14 01:50 AM
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You must be imitating me, because my son had the very same thing!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/14 01:48 AM
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The pain is now reduced to the point of being only a minor nuisance. It is one of those disorders that's likely to recur but with each recurrence, the pain is not as intense and does not last as long. I've just had to accept that. There was one period where it was intense even in the delivery room while my son was being born. I forced myself to bear the pain just so I can watch him be born and hold my wife's right leg as she expelled him from her.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/14 01:47 AM
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