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I think that's what I was getting at. You can't stop someone from cheating and you can choose to mind your business about it, but if one of my friends did this I'd make it very clear I don't approve, I'm not helping them do it, and that I'd be uncomfortable continuing the friendship if the behaviour continues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 06:25 PM
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Sorry maybe I'm misunderstanding but why did you enable her to do that? I couldn't imagine wanting to continue a friendship with someone who behaves that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 04:39 PM
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I am so genuinely disgusted with myself for sticking with my ex after everything that happened. He had dating apps on his phone at least 3 years into our relationship, if not sooner. I didn't leave because he said I wasn't being considerate enough of his needs (that is, not walking around our apartment naked, sending him nude photos daily, and having sex with him multiple times a day) and I couldn't blame him for "needing an outlet", so I accepted his narrative that it was my fault. He would get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 10:13 PM
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Just another way to control women and "keep her in her place". My ex used to hide, "accidentally" donate, and in a few cases, straight up destroy clothing of mine that he didn't like. (Which was pretty much anything that wasn't size XS/size 0-2; he wanted me to wear skintight clothing at all times and if I bought anything in a larger size, he said it looked like a tent and that I was "planning to let myself go".)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:43 PM
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Ah yes, I remember my ex trying to pull something like this. Except with him it was "well you're bisexual so I would be HAPPY to allow you to have a girlfriend to play with! We can BOTH enjoy other women! Or get someone to play with together! It's completely fair because we'd both be allowed to do the same thing!" When I put my foot down about not being interested in bringing other women into the relationship, I was a "frigid prude" who was "depriving him of his needs".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 12:38 AM
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Same reason women get beaten, raped, and treated like shit by trash men, and turn around and say "but he's going through something right now". Hell, I've been there. We are very thoroughly conditioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 11:33 PM
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My ex exerted control over our kid's name too. We did mutually agree on the first name, but then he hyphenated it with a family name (I didn't want my kid to have a hyphenated first name, I think it's obnoxious), added another family name (both of these names are from his family, that is) as the middle name, and demanded we use his last name too. Kinda bullshit I suffered through almost ten months of hyperemesis, dizziness, and pain, plus an extremely traumatic birth experience that almost kille…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:07 PM
147

"Why would I fuck a random dude I just met? I don't know him." See, guys, it works the other way too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 06:48 PM
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I stopped wearing foundation quite some time ago, although I do wear a tinted moisturizer once in a while. It's not because I want to look "pretty", it's mostly because I have some health issues and sometimes look kinda rough (my skin is basically translucent and you can see every vein in my face and chest, and I get very deep dark circles under my eyes). If I am attending a work meeting or going to an event where there will be pictures, I like to at least look a bit healthier. I actually enjoy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 09:07 PM
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The first time I tried to leave my ex, he seemed way more upset about the fact that he'd have nobody to fuck than literally anything else. He actually had the audacity to try and demand I recruit another woman for him to fuck because it "wasn't fair" I was throwing him back in the dating pool in his mid-40s with no help. You cannot make this shit up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:37 PM
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I didn't have a C-section, but I did have an extremely traumatic birth experience. (Now ex) partner started demanding sex after 2 weeks and my stitches ripped. I would literally cry and bleed while it was happening and he just kept insisting it was "for my own good" and was necessary for me to heal properly. He also said if I wasn't willing to allow him to "help" me, then I had no right to be upset with him for finding "another outlet for his needs". Why do men 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:41 PM
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My ex used to talk about someone he dated through university who apparently went from being a frumpy plain girl to someone gorgeous and successful (because he "helped her" become that, no less) and then decided to dump him right before he was about to propose. Obviously early in the relationship I had sympathy for him for going through that, and I swore I'd never hurt him the same way. Tbh, I'm not even sure if that girl ever existed or if he just made her up to manipulate me and to use as an ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 09:31 PM
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I recently entered a new relationship, but it's with someone I've known for some time now. Most often when we hang out, he cooks dinner, and he always asks me first what I'd like to eat. Sometimes though, if we find a really elaborate recipe online (or want to collaborate on a recipe we already know that is time consuming), we do cook together and I really enjoy it. He also went out of his way to bake homemade bread for my (insanely picky eater) son when he decided to stop eating store bought br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:31 AM
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When I was younger, like early teens, I wasn't very attractive and most of the guys who liked me were incel types. I used to suffer from incredibly low self esteem and I admit, it wasn't helped by the fact that all the cute popular guys would ignore me and only the Naruto fans who didn't shower were interested. (Sidenote, I tried just making friends with some of them - you can imagine how that went over.) I sort of grew into my looks around 18-19, at which point much more attractive (and older) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:12 PM
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My ex never gave me a single thing for any of the nine Valentine's days we spent together. Not even a card. I mean, he never did anything nice for Christmas or my birthday either, but at least I'd get some halfass gifts (generally something he wanted that I didn't). On Valentine's day, it was like he went out of his way to be extra cold and distant. After a couple years I turned it into a game -- see how many other people wished me a happy Valentine's day before he did, and do a shot of chocolat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:51 PM
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If it feels uncomfortable, listen to that feeling. Personally, I always had a preference for older men and frequently dated them 7-10 years older than myself... Every last one of them turned out to be significantly more immature than other people their age, and the relationships all eventually failed when it became impossible for them to keep hiding their true manchild selves. How exactly did you meet? There's a big difference between knowing someone for a long time and discovering you have a lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:20 PM
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My ex used to do exactly the same thing and also blame "ADHD".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:28 PM
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I dated a man literally just like this in university. He used to say all of these things, and by the end of our relationship he was hounding me every day about converting to Islam despite the fact that I made it clear I was an atheist from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:31 AM
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I personally do not want a diamond engagement ring (if I ever get engaged) because I am not a fan of the diamond industry; I like the look of a white stone but would prefer moissanite or white sapphire. However, an engagement ring should reflect the preferences of the person it's being given to. If a real diamond was important to his partner, he should have known that and taken it into consideration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 12:20 PM
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Yeah my ex knew I was sensitive to certain scents (not all of them, but certain ones I avoid because they trigger migraines) and he'd make a point of buying room sprays with those scents and blasting them around the apartment with the windows closed several times a week. (Oh, and yet I was forbidden to put vinegar on my food -- including food I ordered at restaurants -- because HE didn't like the smell of it.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:24 PM
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Yeah, my ex used to pester me for threesomes as well, claiming that because I'm bisexual, there was "absolutely no reason why it shouldn't happen". Apparently I am a frigid, selfish monster who deprived him of his greatest sexual fantasy by refusing to ever do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:25 PM
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Holy shit, did you date my ex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:05 PM
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When you say he's "trying his best"... What exactly does that mean? Is he just job searching all day or has he stepped up his involvement in other ways? Does he have a daily schedule he adheres to in order to stay active, productive, and motivated while between jobs? If he's home all day, has he started contributing more to housework, cooking, etc? (EDIT: Obviously he should already be contributing to these things if you live together, but certainly if one person is unemployed and the other isn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:24 PM
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While I agree with what you're saying, I think the "wear clean underwear" iteration of this phrase is meant to be just tongue-in-cheek humorous, whereas the original is just flat out offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:27 PM
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The way my mom always said it was "wear clean underwear in case you get hit by a bus". Which is... obviously reasonable, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:11 PM
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Oh, no benefit of the doubt here -- he's a scumbag either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:38 PM
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Absolute best case scenario: doesn't view his own flesh and blood as a human being, has zero regard for her privacy, doesn't understand the concept of consent on any level, and is too stupid and ignorant to understand what's wrong with his actions. Absolute worst case scenario: is a fucking pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:23 PM
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My ex used to go on constantly about how I was trapping him in a "dead bedroom" situation, although we still had sex basically every 24-48 hours without exception, because he really didn't give me a choice. I remember him saying at one point "there's no reason we shouldn't be having sex at least once a day, if not multiple times a day". When I flat out told him I'm just not physically capable of having sex that often (I have chronic health issues), he just said there was nothing stopping me from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:39 PM
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When I first met my ex I was still recovering from a 15 year eating disorder and only still weighed about 102 pounds. The moment I started gaining more weight (healthy weight) he started making comments about how I was giving up and letting myself go, and asking why I wasn't fine with staying 102 pounds because "that should be easy to maintain with a healthy diet". He discouraged me from buying any clothing larger than a size 2 or XS and made me donate any clothing I owned that was larger than t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:12 PM
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Oof. Yeah, I once dated a guy (many years ago) who would make me give him my debit card when we went out to dinner and I was paying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:02 PM
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I wish I'd considered this. I stood pretty firm on the first name, then NVX demanded it be hyphenated to add an old family name of his. Then he insisted the kid also have his middle and last name. So the kid's got four names and I had zero say in three of them (I also didn't want his first name hyphenated, it just seems dumb to me. I only ever call him his first name and not the whole thing.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:26 PM
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I feel like this is a tough one because, on the one hand... We all have things we struggle with that are beyond our control. Many health issues aren't a person's "fault". On the other hand, what's the context of the situation? Is he telling you about his problems in the interest of being transparent and honest, or is he trying to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him? Also, if the health condition is real, does he actually put in effort to manage it (i.e. following a proper diet, taking medi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:10 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. My ex used to do this shit too. He once went on a "fishing trip" with a buddy and when he got back, he had countless photos of women in bikinis/topless that he'd taken pictures of on the beach. The pictures were all zoomed in and taken from relatively far away so it was very obviously done without their knowledge or consent. Creepy AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 05:42 PM
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One of my exes used to force me into anal fairly regularly -- and I'm not talking "I grit my teeth and dealt with it once a year on his birthday" [EDIT to add: not that this would be okay either], I mean he would hold me down and do it despite the fact that I would cry and bleed. When I ended up meeting my most recent ex partner, I'd told him fairly early on in the relationship that I wasn't interested in anything related to anal play for this reason, because that's obviously something that shou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 07:55 PM
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Oh my god this could not be more true. My ex was exactly like this. Any customer service person --or indeed ANY person we encountered -- If it was a man or an attractive woman, he'd be super polite and friendly. An overweight or less conventionally attractive woman, he would be very short, get impatient quickly, put zero effort into being polite. It wasn't even subtle, it was extremely obvious and I'm mortified at myself for not leaving when that pattern first became apparent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:50 AM
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That could be possible, I suppose. If he does, he's never indicated as much. There have been plenty of times over the years we've spoken individually as well, and he's always been 100% respectful. (Also always speaks frequently -- and very highly -- of his wife even when she's not part of the conversation; he absolutely adores her and is very proud of everything she's achieved and continues to achieve. I like hearing these things from him since obviously she is my friend too.) I'm not saying you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:54 PM
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I will say... I did remain friends with my high school boyfriend from almost 20 years ago... But I'm also very good friends with his wife, and have been for almost as long (going back to before they were married). We have a group chat (i.e. wife included) where we occasionally write to each other about general life updates etc just to keep in touch. I do consider him to be a very kind and trustworthy person, and it is very obvious that he and his wife have a wonderful, very healthy relationship.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:42 PM
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Not so much high school, but university. I'm pretty sure my ex peaked in university; he'd talk constantly about how jacked he was (he was in athletics while studying so yes, he was in very good shape), repeat the same five party stories from his fraternity days, go on and on about how popular he was, and how many girls he fucked. At the same time, oddly enough, he'd also bitch spitefully about how some girls would pass him by in favour of his taller friends (my ex is not a tall dude) and how "bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:33 PM
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I have a friend who has mentioned that he did watch it in his younger days sometimes because it's "just what a lot of guys did". As he got older, he started getting more uncomfortable with it, first of all because it isn't real, and second, because it's impossible to know whether you're watching something consensual or exploitative, and eventually he stopped watching it. It only came up in conversation because we were talking about addictive behaviour, and he mentioned porn use is one that many …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:55 PM
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Yeah my ex was the same. "Why aren't you topless right now"? Uhh, because I just got home, I don't feel like it, it's cold in here, the kid is sitting right there, take your pick. I was a "frigid prude", apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:04 PM
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God this is so true. My ex is a narcissist, I came to realize in recent years, and that explains a LOT. It absolutely boggled my mind how I would have to explain very basic things over and over again to a 43 year old university educated man. Quite simply, it was because he liked making me feel frustrated and uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:30 PM
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I admit I have one male friend who seems to be pretty HV just as a person in general. I've known him for quite a few years and we have several close mutual friends. He's the kind of person who does the following: brings gifts for the host/hostess whenever visiting someone's home; has also brought things for my kid since he was a baby. He does this sort of thing for everyone at least that I'm aware of in our social group. donates blood and donates to charity without making a big deal of it. takes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:27 AM
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Yup. My ex strung me along for 7 years and decided the week after our child was born was the right time to tell me he "didn't see us getting married", and he still was able to manipulate me into staying another 2 years beyond that! Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:27 PM
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My ex did this on a constant basis. One incident that sticks out in my mind is this: a few years ago we lived in an apartment and there was a couple down the hall that seemed to be decently nice. I got along well with the woman, but the man always struck me as being a little bit "off". After a few months I noticed a pattern with the guy always staring at me and putting his hand on my back etc if we happened to run into each other in the hallway so I started avoiding him. My ex got along great wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:40 PM
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Makes perfect sense. My ex (nine years as his girlfriend, ugh) was on Tinder, Hinge, AND Bumble while we were dating. Reasons: "I didn't know what it was, I was just checking it out". "I was just curious." "I needed an outlet because you won't have sex with me enough (when having serious medical issues)." Again: "needed an outlet because you won't have sex with me enough" (a week after giving birth). Honestly I'm so put off by it all, I refuse to ever use any OLD apps myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:00 PM
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This makes sense. It took me way too long to acknowledge the fact that every guy I've ever dated made me feel sick to my stomach initially. Even the ones that weren't horrible dudes (earlier on in my dating life), I still had that feeling with them once things started getting more serious. I guess I thought it was normal. Nowadays the thought of meeting someone new and feeling that way again is... extremely off-putting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:17 PM
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I honestly cannot stand the whole thing about little kids having "girlfriends" or "boyfriends". My son is 3 and a half and there are two girls in childcare with him (one slightly older, one slightly younger) that he loves playing with and he gets along with them very well. My ex (his dad) is always constantly going on about his "girlfriends" and how he's "such a heartbreaker/lady killer" and "lucky to have 2 girlfriends at once, what a player" etc, like dude... He's a little child and so are his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:54 PM
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Honestly I was mortified when I realized what was actually happening. I know little kids sometimes just like to be helpful which is why I didn't put much thought into it when I first noticed her organizing the shoes, but yeah... Poor girl, and I definitely don't want my kid thinking it's okay to take advantage of it. Since then, I've actually seen my son get her shoes for her a few times (if her mom happens to come for pickup at the same time) so at least it all turned out positively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:07 AM
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Okay so -- kinda related. My son goes to a private home daycare provider where there are only two other kids. A little girl who is 5 and currently doing online learning (his best friend) and a newer little girl who recently started going there who is about 2. (My son is 3 and a half, for reference.) This little girl is an absolute sweetheart and her mom is also super sweet. I've met the dad a few times, he seemed like a bit of an antisocial dick. A few months ago I noticed the little girl was al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:14 AM
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This is so true. Actually the two best cooks I know are men (incidentally, the type of men who treat their wives and people in general very kindly). I never understood why so many men refuse to learn to cook, it's an awesome skill for anyone to have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:46 PM
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5'3, 90 pounds, DD breasts, size 0 pants, child-bearing hips, 20 inch waist and a firm, juicy ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:02 PM
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Thank you :) and yes that is DEFINITELY good advice. It's easier to get something done when you have the momentum going than to let it sit and pile up and make you feel worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:34 PM
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Yeah no I agree completely with what you're saying. I've had friends with ADHD over the years and while they do admittedly struggle with a few things, they never behave the way my ex used to. I don't fault anyone for not being neurotypical, or for struggling with mental illness. But I definitely think it's a red flag if someone brings it up as an excuse for everything and yet never seems to try and work on the behaviour. Especially the cleaning, yeah... If I'm in the depths of a depressive episo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:57 PM
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Eh, even then. A person has to be willing to put in the work to deal with those things, and not use them as an excuse to be shitty. My ex refused to take any accountability for anything, would ignore everything I said, would interrupt me in the middle of me telling him something important to point out random shit, would never actually complete tasks like cleaning or organizing the apartment (it was all my job) and I was never allowed to get upset at him "because he has ADHD and can't help it". I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:36 PM
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Yes, holy shit. My ex's mother was a very sweet woman, but his dad (who knew how to act friendly and social but quite honestly was emotionless and shallow once you got to know him) would nitpick everything she did and berate her, oftentimes in front of other people, for the slightest mistake. It's no wonder their son ended up treating me the same way. I don't miss my ex's dad, but I really wish his mom well and I do miss her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:59 PM
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I tried for years to get my ex to go to couples counseling and he always refused, on the grounds that "couples counseling is just going to end up with the counselor siding with you and blaming me." Glad I never ended up wasting the money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:10 PM
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Ugh. I had strongly considered proposing to my (ex) boyfriend of NINE YEARS, and holy hell am I ever glad I didn't. I have no idea what I was thinking. It's like a switch flipped in my brain sometime within the past six months to make me suddenly realize just how unacceptable the situation was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:32 PM
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I've honestly only ever encountered one man who openly denounced porn for this exact reason -- too much corruption in the industry, no guarantee you aren't watching someone be exploited, plus it's addictive to boot. Literally, one. In 35 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:04 PM
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My ex was like this too and it was so off putting. Always pushed for sex either when my parents were visiting, or we were visiting his. He also pushed hard for sex when I had a migraine, or when I was on my period and in a lot of pain, or when I was going through some fairly significant medical issues... Basically any situation where I was the LEAST interested in sex, he pushed for it most. And yes, of course he later accused me of keeping him in a "dead bedroom" situation and had multiple datin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:22 PM
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This just affirms my decision to avoid online dating at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:17 AM
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Oh yea. My ex was very big on the whole "men's rights" bullshit. He said stuff like this all the time. Women ruin men's lives by falsely accusing them of rape or abuse because they can. Women are soul sucking gold diggers who drag men through the court system and bankrupt them after divorce. Women keep their poor innocent children away from their loving, caring fathers just to be nasty. Women can fuck whoever they want while nice men get ignored because they're not tall enough or rich enough. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:25 PM
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Yep, absolutely. At the time I said to him "okay, well... I understand this was in the past, I just want to let you know I wouldn't be comfortable with that" (🤡) and of course he said he'd never do such a thing again. Should've just said BYE. EDIT: also worth noting he otherwise never shared much of anything about his past relationships, he was extremely vague about his dating history and the few things he did share, in retrospect, were definitely meant to fuck with my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:37 PM
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Absolutely. I should've done the same right then and there, honestly. At least I've learned a lot since then -- sometimes hard lessons are necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:10 PM
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Even as a single person, I couldn't imagine sharing a bed with a platonic male friend, regardless of how close we are. That would be weird. I suppose if there were some kind of emergency situation, crashing on the couch might make sense...? (i.e. go hang out for a games night and then there's suddenly a massive ice storm and it's unsafe to drive home, maybe...?) But it'd be highly unlikely I'd find myself in a situation like that anyway. Interestingly, I remember early on in my last relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:25 PM
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Yes, about two and a half months ago now. The positive change in my mental health since then is astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:43 AM
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Sounds like my ex, he had one female friend that used to like calling him at 10 at night "just to chat while driving home from work", apparently about her gynecological issues (he'd never take these calls when I was around, but would tell me all about the stuff they apparently talked about - I don't discuss my gynecological concerns with any of my male friends, I guess that makes me weird.) His other female friend would send him half naked pictures of herself "to get his opinion on her workout p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:06 PM
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My ex used to argue with me and pick apart literally everything I ever said; he'd ask for my opinion repeatedly and then do the exact opposite of what I suggested. When I told him I didn't want to give him my opinion on anything anymore because he never listened anyway, he'd whine about how as his PARTNER I was SUPPOSED to be supportive of him when he needed it and how could I be so rude to him when he was asking for my help... Then when I'd cave and try to help him, he'd do the opposite of what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:40 PM
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I gotta be honest... I wouldn't want to own a cat, partially because they get into absolutely everything, and I'm also allergic to them. I also have a little gecko I absolutely adore, and a cat would probably want to eat him. But I see what you're saying, there's a huge difference between "I like all animals but probably wouldn't own a cat myself" versus "I hate cats." I like all animals but wouldn't own a cat myself, whereas my ex absolutely despised cats and was incredibly vocal about it. I at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:25 PM
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If you live in a van because you're going through hard times, you should be prioritizing getting back on your feet, not trying to date. If you live in a van by choice, that's your right, but you're gonna have a hard time finding someone whose lifestyle aligns with yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:52 PM
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LOL my ex had Tinder, Bumble AND Hinge on his phone and every time I saw the notifications come up he insisted that he didn't know what happened; somehow they just kept reappearing on his phone whenever he updated and it must be a problem with his Google Play. God I was a fucking idiot to put up with such bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:35 PM
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So much this. I've sent them in the past just purely because I was desperate for validation and had horrible body image issues; having someone confirm my body was "attractive" or "desirable" was addictive. My ex of nine years used to pressure me to send them to him as well, saying that since I'd sent them to other guys in the past, it was "not fair" to deprive him of the same. I'm aware he's kept every last one of them in a folder on his computer and I'm sure they are still there, given the fact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:35 PM
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This is so spot on, it's scary. I was never a wife, just a nine-year girlfriend, but otherwise exactly the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:59 PM
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LOL this is great! Also, if any of you haven't seen Ralph Breaks the Internet yet (my kid is a big fan) there's a hilarious scene in there where the Disney Princesses band together to save Ralph at one point. 10/10 would recommend the whole movie, but especially that part is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:17 PM
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Oh this, so much this. I have fibromyalgia so sometimes I have a lot of pain and my muscles tense up (and become even more painful) as a result. I would beg my ex to sometimes give me a massage to just provide some relief -- he would do it for maybe 3-5 minutes before starting to grope me and take off my clothes, saying "having some fun" what what I needed to feel better. After he got sick of me constantly asking him not to try and turn a simple massage request into sex (I do not like having sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:48 PM
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Snapchat is so dumb. I had it for a while just because the filters are cool to play with, but I wasn't really using it for anything, as all my friends that I text with have my number directly anyway. I do have an Instagram for my actual photography and art, I don't post much personal stuff on there. Guys DM me sometimes to try and strike up conversation and I don't really engage because that isn't what I use Instagram for. (Although I did get an actual business client from Instagram about two mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:26 PM
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Oh god, the absolute fucking shame of southern Ontario. They should both burn in hell. I can't believe Karla is free, she's every bit as evil as Paul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:32 PM
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Right? My ex of nine years used to say shit about how unfair it is that women are so shallow and guys who are shorter than six feet are always ignored and his hotter taller friends in university got all the women etc. I was like... We've been together nine years, why is this something you're even still thinking about...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:39 PM
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It's funny because I have quite a few male friends who are extremely HVM. I don't seem to have any issues when it comes to making friends with good people, but I sure as hell was bad at picking boyfriends. It's taken me forever to realize I should be vetting my partners the same way I vet my friends. I don't understand why that never clicked for me before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:10 PM
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Whoa, those are gorgeous! 10/10 would wear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:55 PM
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Thank you :) And honestly, I'm not interested in dating for the foreseeable future anyway. But it's bound to come up eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:28 PM
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Yeah my ex frequently used to say he thought it was unfair I never brought home another woman for a threesome. I asked him on a few occasions if he'd be fine with bringing home another man for same; he didn't like that too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:19 PM
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I don't really know what to consider "under control", I guess. For the past 10 years I have not actively engaged in any ED behaviour that I used to; I no longer have image issues the way I used to (with the exception of a few months after pregnancy); I actually enjoy cooking, not just for others but for myself; I don't have "trigger foods" that bother me anymore. For me it's literally that anytime I have the slightest hint of anxiety, I just lose my appetite, physically. My doctor and psychologi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:51 AM
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This is kinda what I was thinking too as an alternative. Something that maybe doesn't involve food specifically but shows he's actually putting an effort in to create a good experience. I probably won't be ready to date until long after the pandemic ends anyway so that should open up more options lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:31 PM
6

Oh, I enjoy eating at restaurants, but only with people I'm comfortable with. And the worst part is, it's not even that I get the old "ah shit I'm gonna be eating several hundred calories oh nooooo" voice happening, it's literally that my appetite disappears completely and I'm left desperately WANTING to eat the food and yet practically having to choke it down. It's kinda embarrassing. This doesn't just happen in restaurants, it's also happened at work events with catering or ordering in, etc. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:29 PM
11

Oh believe me, I'm not planning to date for a very long time. And I'm in therapy now :) you're 100% right about all this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:25 PM
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I used to watch it here and there. I found it's much more satisfying to just write my own erotica if I'm in the mood for something like that. I'm single as of recently so that'll probably be my go-to for the foreseeable future, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:00 PM
9

"Sure, I respect that. This means we're unfortunately not compatible, as I don't feel the same way, and I don't want to waste your time or mine. All the best." Blokt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:18 AM
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I mean, I've definitely had some great times hanging out playing games and drinking with my friends, but I don't get shitfaced and end up sick in the morning because I know how to pace myself and so do my friends... We're adults, not college students anymore. You definitely dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:20 PM
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Mhmm. Slutty men sleeping with too many women also causes penis shrinkage, didn't you know? If a man stays a virgin til marriage, his penis will stay the right size, but if he sticks it into a ton of different vaginas, eventually the tissue gets compressed and he ends up with a cocktail weenie. True story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:56 AM
3

Like on the one hand I feel like this is indicative of severe depression or some other mental illness. You can be seriously depressed and still "functional". On the other hand, I've heard similar stories so often, it seems too common to be explained by mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:30 PM
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Oh my god, I had an ex that used to do this as well. He made really good money, too, but still insisted we alternate on who paid for dinner. Fair enough I guess, but when it was my turn to pay I had to give him the card so that it didn't LOOK like "his woman" was the one paying. I was the biggest pickme in the world, seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:44 PM
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I'm still trying to figure out exactly what the challenge has to do with thongs and bras? They showed two seconds of someone laying on their stomach with their feet up making ears behind their head like a rabbit, I don't get it. That's besides the point, I guess... Tiktok is fucking disgusting in general. I don't use it, but can't seem to escape the stupid videos because they're plastered all over instagram too. It seems like half the people on tiktok are 15 year old wannabe strippers and the ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:51 AM
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I live in Canada. $45k isn't considered a high salary in the area of the province I live in, but it's also definitely not poverty level. (Well... In Toronto or Vancouver it would be.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:14 PM
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If you prefer not to date a man who makes $45k, then... Don't? 🤷🏻‍♀️ I've dated my share of high earners and every last one of them struggled with money. High income, to me, is not a reliable indicator of a kind, caring, responsible person. It doesn't mean I'm going to pursue low earners intentionally, but income is certainly not one of the top factors I care about, it's what he does with the money he has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:16 PM
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I honestly couldn't care less about height, although a guy who LIES about his height would be a no from me -- if he's that insecure over such a stupid thing, who knows what other hangups he has. (I doubt I'll run into this particular problem since I have no interest in OLD anyway.) As for money, my main criteria there is that he must have a stable career and be able to manage his bills and finances properly. I don't care if he makes $45k a year as long as he is smart and responsible about it. I'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:00 PM
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While I agree with you that it's not as cut and dry as "housework = sexy", there is something to be said for a partner that acts like a TRUE partner; who is responsible and respectful and clean -- not because they are trying to impress anyone, but because that's the kind of person they genuinely are. Doesn't mean I'm automatically gonna jump your bones because you did the dishes, but being a good partner (again -- not just "on special occasions", but EVERY DAY) certainly means I'm going to feel …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:54 PM
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I'll admit, I was relieved when I found out I was having a boy -- not because I believe girls are "difficult" but because the thought of my potential daughter going through all the same shit every other woman goes through was terrifying to me. (Not to say boy children are safe from abuse either, but I'm sure you all understand what I mean). I love my little boy very much and I try to instill good habits in him. Sharing, empathy, understanding why it is not okay to hug or touch people unless they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:50 PM
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My recent ex used to try and gaslight me about it -- I'd told him I'm not into it because it was forced on me by a partner before him, and his response was that it was "all the more reason to give it another try because I shouldn't let my hangups from past relationships make me frigid and punish him." Also it "wasn't fair" the former partner got anal from me and I was selfish for refusing to do the same for him. Guess he missed the "rape" part of that conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:22 PM
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