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Yes I get that, but what you respect isn't what matters here. It's what the corporate world respects. Look at the executives at any big company, and tell me how many of them wear a ponytail. It's just a cultural norm to have short, tidy hair in many industries.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 08:35 PM
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If someone asked me about this post high school I'd think their was something wrong with them and look for someone normal. But I don't date prudes so there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:26 PM
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So you settle down with someone you have amazing sex with. It's not hard lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:25 PM
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Oh yeah for sure. My SO wouldn't last 5 minutes in the corporate world with his look haha. We all present ourselves in the way we need to for the environments we're in.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 08:21 PM
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Never. My high school boyfriend asked if I'd had sex before, but he was a virgin too so it was kids figuring things out together. I've never had a man since then ask about my count.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 07:53 PM
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people dont seem to think men have to pay attention to their hairstyles as well Who said this?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 07:05 PM
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What she was really trying to say to me is that you‘re "too old for long hair" once you‘re in your mid-twenties Yeah that's silly lol
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 07:11 AM
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My point is that there are cultural norms around appearance in the workplace that aren't always logical or fair. A face tattoo doesn't stop someone from being able to do their job, but it certainly changes how they're perceived. If you don't like that example then what about men's hair? It's natural for men's hair to grow long, but men with a short, tidy haircut are taken more seriously than the opposite. If career is a priority to you then it makes sense to know and conform to these norms.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 01:55 AM
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Sure, and some people would say that it isn't fair you're not taken seriously with face tattoos. Not everyone's willing to be a martyr over others' (correct or incorrect) assumptions. It's unfortunate, but just the way things are at the moment. Also, I did say that I kept my own hair long. I'm just being honest and saying that displaying as overly feminine in some industries works against you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 12:16 AM
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Ok, I never said it was a good thing. I said that this is the way the world currently operates in certain industries. Saying "but that's not fair" doesn't change how other people perceive you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 12:01 AM
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doesn't matter. it happens when men want custody and fight for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:59 PM
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No no no. Women are not gay men. Don't put a costume on FFS.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:26 PM
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No, yuck
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:24 PM
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Do not ever ask your wife for "consent". Come on strong, flirt, push her boundaries. My SO can sexualize me in the most inappropriate settings and it works a charm. Timid, polite men get nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:23 PM
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No, not like that. It's hot when my SO has his natural body smell from working outside or something, but I think that's because it's familiar. Smell just isn't a turn on in strange men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:19 PM
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Men are not sex objects like women are, you can't doll yourself up to turn a woman on. We're attracted to what you do and how you make us feel. Demonstrate skill and charisma and status, then hit on us. That's how you turn a woman on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:17 PM
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Child support is for the child, not the woman. When a man takes custody, the child support comes from the woman. How is the man responsible for the woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:09 PM
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You can have long hair, even playful hairstyles and still succeed in what you're doing. Maybe, depending on your industry, but this points to wishful thinking. RP is all about seeing reality as it is, not how we would like it to be. As a woman who is well into her career in a male dominated field, there is truth to what your friend is saying. Women who appear young and girlish and pretty simply aren't taken as seriously where I work. Sucks, but it's true. I've kept my long hair because the trade…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 10:56 PM
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I'm sorry, I've been there with an ex and I know how hard it is to hold up your end of the deal when he's not managing his own side. I also find it near impossible to maintain attraction to a man when I feel like I need to do his job on top of my own. How is he apart from this event? Is he generally a man who keeps his word and can be relied upon? Or is this a common occurrence? If this is an isolated incident, I would STFU and focus on everything he does get right. We all slip at times. If it's…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 08:27 PM
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This is entirely personal, you'll find women who think it's foolish to depend on a man and others who don't. You've come to one of the only places where you know you'll get some validation for wanting to be a housewife, so what are you looking to hear? Your mother sounds mean. How old are you? I would recommend taking space from her where/when you can, and spending some time thinking about what YOU want out of life. If you do decide you'd like to be a housewife, how will that change your actions…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 01:33 AM
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And I'm well versed in the difference between SMV and RMV, and I disagree that what I described is strictly SMV. When he takes me out and sees me in something he chose, he doesn't just see a pretty girl in a dress. He sees a woman who's taken his lead and deliberately presented herself in a way that he appreciates. It goes beyond looks for us, and nurtures a dynamic that works for us. If I looked just as nice in something I'd chosen and bought for myself it would not have the same effect.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 10:24 PM
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I used the dress example because she's saying this stuff is inherently superficial and against "RPW values". Of course that isn't all I bring to the relationship and I show my RMV in other ways, but it's something that he enjoys very much. Tradfem style acts of service do next to nothing for him. If there are official RPW values that dictate frugality and baking like she keeps saying, then a lot has changed here and I'm certainly in the wrong place. There is a big difference between saying "this…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 10:15 PM
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This is a summary of one book, and how that particular woman thinks family finances should be run. It's not a dictation of the only correct way of managing money.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 08:59 PM
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I did. Must have missed that part. Can you link to it?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 08:55 PM
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And where does it say anything about frugality? Or that it's better to spend money on a KitchenAid vs a bracelet?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 08:51 PM
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if we truly want to follow RPW values What exactly are "RPW values"?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 08:39 PM
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People are bristling at this post because it comes off as narrow minded and as if she's trying to dictate what we should value, and now what our men should value. My SO would much rather take me out to a lavish restaurant in a hot dress and lingerie he'd picked for me than have me make him a muffin. He feels loved and appreciated when I'm flirting with him, dolled up and sharing a martini. What happened to RP being a toolbox, not a lifestyle?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 08:34 PM
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If you want someone to throw money at you, go ahead and get a sugardaddy but you've totally missed the ideology of this sub. We want to build traditional, healthy, fulfilling relationships and a harmonious environment for possible offspring, that means being frugal, modest and smart with money, being appreciative of not just materialistic things but also effort that your SO brings. I thought RP was a toolbox, not an ideology. If a couple enjoys lavish dinners and jewelry, so what? Who are you to…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 07:43 PM
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Weird take. If I answered differently on infidelity would it make the rest of what I said less true?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:41 PM
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I wouldn't call it a fetish, but yeah some women (not young girls) prefer older men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:58 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:51 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:28 AM
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Well I'm not talking for "women", I'm talking for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:15 AM
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Probably not, no
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:13 AM
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When I hear of an older man with an underage girl, I assume he pursued her and it's in some way predatory on his part. When I hear of a woman with a younger guy, I assume he's a masculine, horny, post-pubescent teen who was flirting with her and bragging to his friends about the sex. I see the first situation as far more damaging to the teen than the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:07 AM
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You go girl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:01 AM
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For men who care about that, sure
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:00 AM
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Of course
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:57 AM
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I don't know, I'm not a lawyer and I'm not going to make a judgement like that. But they are different things with different outcomes so it makes sense to look at them differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:56 AM
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Ok, the guys here get bent out of shape over things like domestic violence and rape and say it's a double standard that a man attacking a woman is taken more seriously than the reverse. I think it's perfectly logical to treat them differently when men are so much stronger and more violent on average. Same with men dating underage women vs the opposite. I think they're usually different cases with different motivations and effects on the kid. I had a back and forth with angels fan recently where …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:29 AM
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I don't believe in "double standards" between the sexes. They're different and it's completely consistent to treat them as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:17 AM
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But there is always the third option in this case - to be alone. If there isn't an option on the table that makes me happy, I'll just stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 09:51 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/q69ev3/is_much_of_how_men_experience_the_women_are/hganpfl Black and Hispanic women are not regarded as wonderful. “Wonderful” means women men pedestalize because they want to fuck them. Because they represent the platinum vagina trophy of that tells the world he’s a top man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 06:59 AM
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Do you have a friend or female family member you can trust for honest feedback? I would suggest having an honest (brutally honest!) second opinion on whether there's a problem, or if you're maybe dealing with some body dysmorphia. If your boobs are actually bad, I would go and get them done. If you can afford it, there is no point being this miserable with a feature. A friend of mine recently got a lift done because hers were too big and too droopy, and her happiness is like night and day. 6 mon…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 07:13 AM
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I think you should read the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:55 PM
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You misunderstand me. I am not arguing over the importance of marriage, or what a woman's priorities should be. I'm also not saying you picked up any man at any cost, I'm saying that keeping your man was more important than being married. I thought I'd seen you say in here that you would have stayed with him unmarried if that's what it took to keep him, but perhaps I got mixed up. You've made a lot of assumptions about me and my own position on marriage, and they're all incorrect. Not that it's …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:50 PM
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Isnt the whole point of being a red pill women to find a red pill man? No, not at all
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:25 PM
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Ok, ignoring the internship analogy. For a woman who prioritises marriage, giving him everything he wants without a clear plan to marriage is foolish. Sometimes, all the vetting and all the girl game in the world is not enough. Ask me how I know. We need to live in the real world, not the "wouldn't it be nice is this is how things worked" world. Unless you're married yourself, this post as a strategy to obtaining marriage (for the women who want that) is entirely theoretical. There are older wom…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 07:31 AM
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using legal commitment as a defining attribute of "getting the man" isn't the bar we should be aspiring to. But here is the difference. You and the mods here may not have had marriage as a priority, but many women do and that's ok. This kind of strategy works great for a woman who wants a man at any cost, and is willing to commit herself without the protection of marriage, but not for anyone for whom marriage is very important. A lot of your readership here is in the latter camp so will see this…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:32 AM
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I'm not trying to push the analogy, I'm just pointing out that humans, like companies, tend to work in their own favor. For the same reason you'd be stupid to accept an endless unpaid internship in the hopes you will "inspire" them to give you more than they need to, it pays to be a little more realistic in relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:29 AM
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I mean if a woman wants marriage. Sticking around and doing everything a man wants indefinitely is not anything like an internship where there's an agreed upon termination date. Internships and their terms exist exactly because it's a buyer's market and companies will take free labor where they can. Without the protection of the terms, the intern is in a terrible position.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:01 AM
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I get what you're trying to say, but the internship analogy is not working in your favor. Internships exist with the bilateral understanding that there is an agreed upon fixed term, after which the intern will either expect to be paid, or will walk to another company that will pay her. If a company could keep a high performing intern on unpaid forever, they would. This is the "forever girlfriend" that most of us don't want to become. A woman who's great to have around and does her job really wel…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 05:15 AM
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It's a love language thing. Some women don't feel loved without a token to show for it, if that doesn't suit you then move along. I buy gifts for my SO all the time. I love finding something he'll appreciate and he loves getting it. He's really into nice things. I don't really care for gifts/things, so he shows his love by doing things for me and improving my life that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:55 PM
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I'm a woman. I've experienced game and I know it works on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 08:18 PM
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you think women are just going to hand over what you want from them without getting something from you in return? Yes, that's exactly the point of game. To "game" a woman into giving you what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:17 PM
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Nothing you say ever makes any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:15 PM
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ie male nature
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:06 PM
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I wouldn't call it predatory if the boy is enjoying himself/seeking it out. Predatory implies that you're getting something out of them that they wouldn't give freely.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:04 PM
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Of course
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:01 PM
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1 for me personally
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:59 PM
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you are only investing all that effort to please women this is completely backwards. men run game because it gets them what THEY want out of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:40 PM
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they don't want to hear this because it involves work
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:38 PM
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Yeah his parents were bikies so he's pretty rough around the edges. He distanced himself from all that as soon as he could fend for himself, but you don't go soft after growing up like he did. But yeah, he hasn't fought outside of the boxing gym since his 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:38 AM
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No talking's not bad, but it doesn't trigger that protection instinct in women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:22 AM
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haha yeah totally. these days it's down at the boxing gym. it's such a great feeling to know though that if anything ever did go wrong he'd be able and willing to take care of us. my exes have all been well-to-do white collar types who would sooner try to "talk things out" or even run away lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:55 AM
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i'm a woman, i see these men with my own eyes and can tell the difference. i know which types i find hot. have you ever met a fit working class guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:25 AM
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nope. gym bodies look very different to a fit farmer or builder body. gym bodies gross me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:23 AM
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no, they're completely different. muscles from physical labor are functional. gym bodies are overdeveloped in certain places and look almost cartoonish. i'd much rather have a slim guy who's fit from his lifestyle over a muscular guy who built them in the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:16 AM
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I'm in the city and have zero contact with rural working class conservative types, but I can say that my best relationship yet has been with a guy from a much lower social class than me. He's in the arts and has developed sophisticated taste in music, food, etc over the years, but his work ethic, attitude, personality is 100% working class. We joke that he got his business skills from his drug-distributor father. Rough, smart, masculine dude who wins fights, is successful in business and can tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:10 AM
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They have vanity gym-built muscles. Completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:59 AM
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So why didn't he have kids in his 20s? Why is him not doing what he wanted 10 years ago your fault?
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/21 07:52 PM
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no, porn is the reason it's so common for men to push for it today.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:58 AM
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it's the only reason straight men are pushing their partners for it these days
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:39 AM
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you think socially awkward, shut-in losers were getting casual sex then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 01:00 AM
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Yeah exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 07:16 PM
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Too edited, looks like a cartoon character to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:13 AM
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Yeah not fishing rods though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:11 AM
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The world is in the best place it ever has been. This mentality is so weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:10 AM
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That's an insane take. People have been predicting the end of the world forever. To avoid having children because you have some catastrophic future in mind is just nutso paranoia. Or climate warrior virtue signalling.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:09 AM
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my bf's teenagers are turning into mini-goths and stealing his old cure and joy division tshirts. he's so proud.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 08:14 AM
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yeah, fair enough. i'm not saying culture hasn't changed, and i definitely don't envy you guys having to navigate online dating and porn and everything. it's my opinion that this is a young person's deviation and they'll eventually pull away from the online world, but maybe i'm being too optimistic. i talk a lot about this kind of stuff with my partner's teenage girls, and it seems like their friends are all desperate for some real connections and starting to get pretty wary of screentime and po…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 02:37 AM
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i think you're romanticising sex and love in general. these big feelings you read about in old love letters are just a really nicely worded big crush. you've never had an intense crush or infatuation on someone before? or been the object of one? flowery love letters are out of vogue, but that doesn't mean that the feelings behind them don't exist anymore. look at every modern love song out there. i'm old and out of touch with pop music, but look at the lyrics to this one: https://www.youtube.com…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 02:13 AM
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you're romanticising their letters because they're written using old-fashioned language and in the context of wartime. you don't see how they spoke to each other when they're together all the time and trying to raise children and make a living. take a young man away from his lover today and send him to war and you'll get similar themes of yearning. my life has been full of romance and eroticism, it's just expressed using 21st century language. the feelings and passion are all there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 02:01 AM
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the free love era WAS the feminist era. nothing's changed. losers didn't get casual sex on demand then, and they don't get it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 01:47 AM
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People had a far greater sense of sensuality and eroticism back then. back when? where do you get this from?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 01:45 AM
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who's getting "no sex"? why are you comparing single incels of today with married men of the past? the average man marries and has sex with his wife. if he chooses to marry a woman who likes him, he'll be having much more than duty sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 01:42 AM
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men here care about what women like because they're not allowed to rape lol. it has nothing to do with the woman actually enjoying herself, and everything to do with him being allowed to fuck her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 01:28 AM
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Working with computers. If their job or hobby puts them in front of a screen all day I find it gross. Not having taste in music, art, film, etc. Doesn't need to be my taste, but caring around art in some way is very important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:51 PM
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Yeah you're in the wrong place
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:24 AM
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when it becomes vain. vanity is feminine, whether that's expressed through makeup and fancy clothes or a gym/diet/roid routine. guys who specifically work out for aesthetics have a particular shape and feminine attitude that is a turn-off. a similarly sized guy who is fit as a natural result of his lifestyle is hot. a slim guy who is fit as a result of his lifestyle is still hot. i have a pretty wide range of body types i find attractive - just be healthy without being obsessive and girly about …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:01 PM
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A lesson that I learnt perhaps a little late, is that sometimes the grass actually IS greener. That's not to say you should flit between men aimlessly, but honestly, some grass is strong and healthy and some grass diseased. Don't waste your time watering the wrong stuff. I worked at a bad relationship with a decent man for years, and it was constant WORK. I worked so, so hard at it. Used every trick in the RPW box, and it was still only "ok". My current relationship is the opposite. He turns me …
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 11:02 AM
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Law aside, female on male rape is treated differently socially because it's exceedingly rare and has very different outcomes. It's treated different because it IS different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 10:46 AM
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without regard for the consequences What consequences? Stop trying to guess what I'm implying, because you keep getting it wrong. Learn to have an adult conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:21 AM
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FYI you sound kinda retarded when you talk around the point in these weird riddles. It doesn't come off as intellectual and mysterious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 06:49 AM
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"women are dumb so I'll just be dumber" Story of PPD. Do you actually have an original thought in your head, or is your entire worldview built on sticking it to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 06:17 AM
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I'd argue that it's not rape if you like it. It's hilarious watching you guys abandon common sense in the name of "equality". Some things are just biologically different and we can't change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:58 AM
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WHAT IS THE DOWNSIDE TO CASUAL SEX
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:51 AM
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Overindulging implies there's a downside to it... What exactly is wrong with casual sex if you're being responsible about contraception and STDs?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:41 AM
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I'm a woman, I can abort any accidental pregnancies I don't want. How would "the world" be better off if I gave up all the fun and bonding of casual sex? What about people who don't want children? Never have sex? What about families who have had all the children they can afford? Ok, Duggar.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:09 AM
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I didn't say it's harmless, I said it's different
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:03 AM
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The effects of a crime are absolutely taken into account. If you go into a bar and punch a small woman as hard as you can, so that it knocks her out, you're going to be treated differently than if you'd punched a professional boxer who barely flinched. Men and women are different. A women waking up to a man inside her is in general going to feel incredibly violated by it. A man waking up to his cock in a woman's mouth is more likely to go "oh fuck yeah" like your friend. Law aside, female on mal…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 01:12 AM
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In mismatched couples the woman is almost always hotter. I just assume he's got something else going on that attracts her - a skill, personality, money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:01 AM
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he would have 100% banged her if he could ... do you not see how this is not a double standard then? it's not treated the same because the effects on the "victim" are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:33 PM
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My SO is 6'3 and I love his height. Shortest I've been with is my height (5'10).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:06 PM
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i don't wear heavy makeup, but def look younger and brighter when i've got concealer and mascara on. i'm in my 30s so feel like i look kinda tired without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 05:27 AM
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are you following me around? i said that some men are creeps. settle down.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 05:15 AM
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and i wasn't talking to you. if you can't handle hearing a little honestly in here, RP subs probably aren't for you, hun.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 05:01 AM
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He's saying that it's hypocritical for men to complain about women doing this, when men do it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:31 AM
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Reality babe
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:24 AM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:03 AM
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sure, in MRA fantasyland
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:38 AM
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date a man for who he is, not who you want him to be.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 11:49 PM
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if they showed their partners how they typed and the way they speak about men on here they would be filing for divorce the next day this is just wrong. smart men KNOW how men are, and they talk about men in exactly the same way. my partner is glad i don't trust men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:31 PM
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this isn't theory, this is an anecdote. and a poorly written, confusing one. personal preferences are not advice.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 11:12 PM
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lol you think men trust other men around their women? men who care about me know exactly how men are and want to keep me away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:03 PM
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do you speak english? it's a common idiom.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:58 PM
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not all men are creeps, but all creeps are men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:50 PM
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You've clearly never been a woman in love
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 09:10 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:52 AM
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That the way we experience attraction and sexuality resembles their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:17 PM
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this place is about red/blue pill, not black pill lookism
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:29 PM
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Yeah, ask any of the women in here and they'll tell you the same. Men are just not sexual objects in the way we are. If guys believed that they'd be in a much better place to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:17 PM
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Doesn't happen that way. You're applying male sexuality to women. A man can look good, but until he sexualizes the interaction she will not be thinking of sex with him. He needs to DO something to turn her on, not just look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:07 PM
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In entirely different ways. You can't really compare the two. Almost all of a woman's attractiveness comes from her beauty/youth, hence makeup. Not the same for men. If you want to stand out and be sexualised among men, it comes down to your ability to flirt with a woman and make her feel excited by your presence. Looks help, but will never matter like they do in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:03 PM
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I adore fluevogs, but I've never seen a straight man in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:54 PM
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Yeah it's pretty bad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:53 PM
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Why does there need to be an equivalent? Makeup is popular because youth is attractive to men and it's a good way to simulate that. Women don't objectify men in the same way, so there's no equivalent method of prettying yourself up for sexual attention. Sorry. If you want to do well with women, take care of your health, learn game and cultivate a fun, exciting personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:51 PM
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There absolutely is. https://www1.racgp.org.au/newsgp/clinical/two-more-astrazeneca-linked-deaths-in-past-week-tg
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:37 AM
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certain vaccines were causing TTS and literally killing people
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 03:17 AM
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Ugly's def not the right word, but my SO has a shaved head, tattoos and very masculine features (including a crooked nose from one too many fights). I find him infinitely more attractive than my pretty faced exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 08:43 PM
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RPW is about how we treat our partners. Career, politics, etc doesn't really come into it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 04:13 AM
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Ok and? If women stopped carrying and birthing children humanity would cease to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:44 AM
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Haha no way. That's terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:43 AM
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what? spiders definitely don't eat snakes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:33 AM
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Wtf does "valid" mean? Does it "count" as what exactly? I've never thought like this because I don't itemise and categorise my playtime. This is so weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:40 AM
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Better than not having that moment of joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:36 AM
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Of course. It's unnatural to not have loving relationships in your life. We're a social species and will always need each other to be our happiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:34 AM
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This isn't a job interview It is. This is the time for her to figure these things out before they're married and everything gets a whole lot more complicated. It's obviously an issue for her, and she is going to be miserable married to someone she's not attracted to. There are plenty of men out there who don't whine to their girlfriends every other day.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 11:18 AM
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it's her boyfriend. she should be vetting him to see if he will be a partner that suits her. she should NOT be wasting years of her precious time trying to change someone.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 10:52 AM
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I have also heard many men, like you, say that their woman made the first move and that was attractive to them Depends what kind of man you're into. My "type" would never think this way.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:20 AM
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I don't like men who aren't forward and confident, so deliberately not texting first screens out men who wouldn't work for me. If he doesn't pursue me he's either too timid, or he's just not interested. This has always been my approach and it's always worked very well for me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:18 AM
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So look at it as a long-term deal. Work now, play later Or work now, and waste your most attractive years on a man who was never going to change. Invest in a man for who he IS, not for who you want him to be.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:13 AM
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Being married to a man who exudes confidence (even though I know many times he is not) is amazing Yes. It is so easy to respect and love a man when he's got that resilience. I've been with both types and I'd rather die alone than go back to someone who dwells on all his insecurities like that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:10 AM
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It's not a woman's job to fix some boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:07 AM
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No. She's 23 and a girlfriend. She should not waste her youth trying to change a man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:06 AM
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I'm sure she cares about him, but it's RP101 that attraction is not negotiable, and that real, genuine attraction is absolutely critical to a happy relationship. There are plenty of men who have the kind of character that gets on with life and solves their problems instead of whining about it, and these are the men who will trigger that real attraction in women.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:05 AM
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Why is she your ex wife?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 06:00 AM
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uh huh lol. keep hamstering.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:21 AM
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We (at least me) are not like women where we settle for the husband /gf material. How is what you described any different to women "settling" for husband material?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:55 PM
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god you guys are stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:58 AM
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It's not projecting if it's true
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:00 AM
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i actually don't question the existence of MWWS, not sure where you got that from either. i said that the petito case isn't a good example of it because there was so much else going on there that drew attention. those women shot at home by their idiot boyfriends didn't get the same airtime for a whole host of reason. they weren't "missing women", they were simple homicide victims. if some white trash from florida was shot in her trailer you also wouldn't hear about it, because sadly, it's not un…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:52 AM
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english pls
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:34 AM
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lol, what have i said that is remotely racist? it is simply a fact that some neighbourhoods are more violent than others. in the US and otherwise. you're the one turning this into a race thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:33 AM
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do you actually understand what i'm saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:31 AM
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sigh. is it really an "effect" when those positive feelings are rooted in reality? people see women as less violent because they ARE less violent. it's not an "effect", it's just real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:26 AM
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Why are people far more invested in a white woman murdered by her BF than a black woman murderer by her BF. i literally just explained this twice? because she was a social media influencer with a following because she's from a neighbourhood that doesn't tend kill each other as much as harlem/the bronx because the story was unfolding in real time with laundrie going home, disappearing, etc if it was a young black woman from those same circumstances, we would have heard all about it. and yeah, i'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:23 AM
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lol right. noticing women's positive traits is "societal conditioning". noticing men's positive traits is science, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:16 AM
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well he's just describing people noticing the obvious. how is that an "effect"? why is it the WAW effect to notice, accurately, that women tend to be a certain way?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:14 AM
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oh right ok, gotcha. yeah it is a bit weird when men want that kind of selfless mothering out of a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:13 AM
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what? where did i say it's more significant? i said it's less common, and that combined with the "entertainment" of the vanlife influencer narrative it garnered more attention. i used to live in NYC, i know what those neighbourhoods are like. but you don't have to trust me, just look at homicide stats in "the hood" vs long island. unfortunately, the numbers aren't great there and that contributes to how little we hear about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:10 AM
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but women are more nurturing and less violent lol. is it the "men are wonderful effect" to perceive men as taller and stronger than women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:07 AM
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We just had a real time demonstration of missing white women syndrome in Gabby Petito Gabby was a social media influencer, and from a family/lifestyle where people don't just go missing or kill each other. There was also the whodunnit true crime aspect, where her followers could investigate and follow along as the case developed. You don't get that sick entertainment factor when a woman is shot in her home. Regardless of race, a Long Island instagram star going missing is more abnormal than a do…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:00 AM
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how is it "ideation" that women are more nurturing if that idea comes from... being nurtured by women and not men? isn't it just a reality then?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:56 AM
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I think men are prone to the anxiety of and insecurity that drives violence and misery i think women are equally insecure, especially when they're young, but it tends to be directed inward. eating disorders, self-harm, attention seeking BPD style behaviour. men are more likely to direct their pain outward in a way that damages others - school shootings, violence, abuse etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:54 AM
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when i see people talking about WAW it's complaining that women are associated with positive traits like empathy, gentleness, nurturing, patience... and i'd say they're mostly right. women ARE the less violent, less competitive sex. look at volunteers down at the orphanage or cat shelter. who's in the "caring" professions? which sex is committing just about all of the violent crime in the world? there doesn't need to be some conspiratorial reason that people view women as more feminine. it could…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:51 AM
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there have always been awkward, spergy kids around, but the difference now is that they've got an antisocial online world to retreat into. when i was in school in the 90s/early 00s the weird kids were forced to interact with more mainstream groups and their weirdness would be tempered a bit by that. they might have struggled a bit, but ended up learning enough social skills that they had their own social circles and most of them pass as pretty normal now. i watched the start of online culture, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:49 PM
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Wow I didn't know we had police in here
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:38 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:29 AM
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yeah i think there's a pretty good spread on age, but it would be very helpful to tell who you're talking to. i've gotten into long back and forths on marriage with people here, only to learn they're like 17 and have no idea what it's like to be in a real relationship post-high school. there's certain topics i just wouldn't waste my time talking to kids about. the race thing we can't really talk about here, but i suspect a lot of the "ew sluts" talk is coming from guys with a non-western backgro…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 08:24 AM
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you'd get better context knowing their age, where they live and where their parents were born
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 08:15 AM
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yes, where did i say otherwise? i don't want a man to change for me, i want a man who is naturally masculine and enjoys doing masculine, physical things. i work around IT guys all day and i just can't be attracted to the kind of guy who enjoys gaming.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 08:51 PM
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Lol sorry your nerd hobbies aren't hot?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 08:00 PM
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yep!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:44 AM
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no way. what fun is it being with a guy who doesn't spend his money?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:24 PM
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only handful can reliably contain their autism. hah i'm in tech and this got a giggle out of me. so true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:24 PM
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Didn't you say you'll never marry again, even if you love her more than your ex?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 09:03 PM
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"When i did anal once as a teen i was a moron who didn't think it would hurt me so much"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:54 PM
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She would still be wrong, though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:52 PM
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When she did it the first time she didn't know it would hurt. Now she does. That's like saying try this food you hate with me, even though you've tried it once before and it made you vomit. That one taste was enough to know you hate it. Eating it with a different person isnt going to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:51 PM
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you're welcome!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 09:46 AM
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deep down, a woman wants a man she respects to claim her as his own. we feel loved when he's protective of us. it's hard to describe, but the feeling of "belonging to" a man we love and admire is where a lot of our love and sexuality is rooted. it's why we like men who are dominant and confident with just enough caring traits. a man's capable of loving us in the way we want to be loved regardless of what he's done in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:59 AM
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Yeah it's strange how this is ignored when it's so obvious. I agree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:48 AM
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Male love is possessive in a way female love is not. Men want to own their woman, her history, her sexuality. I think men care about this because if she's done additional acts with another man, he "owns" that part of her in a way. He wants to stake out his territory by doing everything she's done and more. Insecure men will dwell on this and worry about how much she's given to other men. Cocky men will just assume they're getting all of her, and they're usually right. Women are different. We wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:45 AM
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Groundbreaking
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:39 AM
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I wouldn't be in a relationship with him if our sex life wasn't what I wanted. What he did with previous partners is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:38 AM
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you don't need to make analogies with gay men to understand the impact of sex work. just look to any western country that's legalised it. australia, NZ, germany, france all have a thriving sex industry and young people are still dating and fucking as usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:49 AM
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ew no. i'd be glad this came up before marriage and i'd go find a man with normal sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:44 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:27 PM
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Paranoia
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:24 PM
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It shows he's not stuffy and uptight. That's attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:21 PM
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Literally no one here is saying it's ok to compromise a condom. Who are you arguing against?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:04 PM
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Where's the feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:03 PM
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No, lots of men here say literally that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:00 PM
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Yes of course they dont want that. I'm not saying it should be legal. Im saying that paying child support and being pregnant are different things, and should be legislated as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:59 PM
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everything to do with sex is inherently gendered
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:57 PM
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They're legislating what someone can do with their dick lol. What equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:50 PM
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Of course it does. Don't be daft. Women are afraid of stealthing because it can result in her being pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:50 PM
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yeah but there's nothing to "fix". what's wrong with having laws against certain gendered acts?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:01 PM
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it's gendered because the term refers to removing a condom and then fucking someone. the act of "stealthing" is inherently gendered. poking holes in a man's condom is a different act, and should have a different word/law against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:28 PM
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Congrats. I never said every single woman is the same. Men have a lot more testosterone than women, and in general have very different sexuality as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:50 PM
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Women understand it just fine. But if we say here that it can be a bit off putting being the target of that kind of sexuality from random men, we're being precious and paranoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:25 PM
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How does your mom feel about hiring you a maid when your husband doesn't work?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:17 PM
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Yep. Testosterone driven male sexuality is horny and predatory. I'll be showing this to the guys here every time they say women are just as visual as men are, or that it's somehow flattering to be the object of random male lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:50 PM
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I see guys in here every day arguing that women are just as horny and visual as men are, and that we're all lying when we say that personality matters in sexual attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:37 PM
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Or the guys in here who think female sexuality is just as horny and visual as men's
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:35 PM
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what does being popular have to do with wealth?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:14 AM
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is it not still a dual mating strategy? spreading his seed with hot trashy sluts and settling down with someone stable and mother-material?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:13 AM
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says the guy posting on /r/fatwomenlove
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:35 AM
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she also wasn't deflecting and evading. they stumbled across a pic of them on fb and she quickly clicked through it rather than stopping to divulge the details of her history unprompted. sounded perfectly normal and respectful to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:01 AM
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he has boundaries around how he's being treated right now. what i did before him with other people isn't even a blip on his radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:49 PM
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how did you get no boundaries out of that? he's got very strong boundaries, he's just not at all insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:41 PM
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yeah honestly my SO now doesn't have an insecure bone in his body (which also has its quirks lol) but life is soooo much easier and more fun this way. i like being able to relax fully into a relationship, and i can't do that when i need to manage a man's insecurities for him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:05 PM
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why? i think people are perfectly capable of growing up and wanting different things at different points in their lives. why does who he fucked at 20 have to inform his choices at 40? it doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:00 PM
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ok yes you already said that. my question was if not AFBB, then what? why did he exclusively date hot mental cases as a young man and then choose someone stable and calm and employed to settle down with?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:44 PM
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ok so if it isn't AFBB, what changed in his case? would you say that his preferences matured/redirected with age?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:40 PM
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i'm curious if the dual mating strategy goes both ways in your mind. my SO dated crazy tattooed strippers with porn star looks when he was young, and has settled down with me who is... not that. is he "using me" for my stable career and good family and lack of BPD? this is not snark, i'm genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:36 PM
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i had an ex like him who would get weird over me having had previous boyfriends, and i totally get her behavior. i'd cringe and change the subject whenever it came up because i just knew how it was going to go and that he'd spend the rest of the day/week torturing himself over it. it's not so much defensive as just not wanting to deal with his reaction and needing to coddle him through his feelings. it's an exhausting dynamic though and it's better for both of them to split up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:33 PM
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yeah most of the doctors i know were very popular in high school
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:23 PM
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yeah my ex was like this. hugely insecure and would get all stroppy and emotional every time he was forced to remember the fact i'd dated men before him. exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:22 PM
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"gird up your loins". amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:49 PM
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hahaha ok godspeed on your crusade i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:47 PM
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hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:23 PM
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but but but women do it too?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:19 PM
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as long as women are the only sex to birth children, no. all the sex differences go back to biology at their core, and that's not changing. men and women are pretty different and despite PC lip service will always be treated as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:47 AM
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babble
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:01 AM
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Women's low libido is always lack of sexual attraction yep, and attraction is non-negotiable. if you want someone to fuck you, be more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:24 PM
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nah, violence is violence. words mean nothing if you water them down like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:20 PM
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Violence = physical damage
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:39 PM
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I said nothing about whether men can experience it. DV is physical violence, whether it comes from a man or a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:03 PM
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Where is that mentioned at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:01 PM
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Men want women to be always horny and available to them, but are offended by the idea that this is sometimes work for a woman. You'll complain if she doesn't keep up with you, and you'll complain if she admits she just gets on with it for your sake sometimes. Women don't exist in a constantly horny state, and being the reactively horny sex, the "work" of duty sex disproportionately falls on us. If you have someone good at maintaining the illusion of perpetual horniness for you, you should probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:38 AM
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You agree with it because you have no idea how women and their orgasms work. You can be wildly obsessively attracted to a man and have all the sexual chemistry in the world, and still not orgasm from penetration.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:12 AM
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Yeah I mean like 90% of the time when I have "duty" sex I'm very very much into it before long. Even when I'm not though, it's really not a big deal to do that for your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:47 AM
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It's just a really weird thing to be so horrified by, however he meant that. Women learn very early on that relationships don't really work if you're not willing to occasionally take care of your partner's needs when you're not in the mood. I would bet that nearly every single happily married/LTRd woman in here does "duty" sex/BJs from time to time. It's so normal, and when you see a guy so disgusted by the idea you can tell he's got no idea how women work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:45 AM
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Do you understand how the statements "I would dump a woman as soon as I'm not satisfied" and "women shouldn't ever put out for my sake" are not compatible? Do you expect a woman to be constantly turned on and ready for you 100% of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:08 AM
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guys here really don't want to see how the sausage is made. i had a similar convo recently where guys were piling on saying that any woman who doesn't orgasm quickly through penetration alone is defective, not attracted to their partner, using him for BB, not worth investing in ... and in the same breath saying they don't understand why women would ever fake it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:15 AM
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I'm also very vocal about being a very sexual man who bails the fuck out of a relationship the moment my needs are not being met. This is why duty blowjobs exist... It's pretty short sighted to say that you'll ditch a woman the second she doesn't satisfy you, and in the same breath talk down about women who make an effort to satisfy their men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:32 AM
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yeah i had fun
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:01 AM
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shit tests become "domestic violence" when they're physically violent. watering down words like this ("violence", "rape") is dumb. just say what you mean without trying to equate it to something the other sex does.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:56 AM
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A power imbalance in sex is hot when it comes about naturally. Formalising it into names and activities and roles and lingo and outfits and "scenes" is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:18 PM
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My partner dated tattooed strippers and hot mental cases before me and it always ended in fire. I am well aware that I'm the relatively stable, "safe" option for him and I'm so fine with that. He's in his 40s now and drama wears thin. He likes knowing he won't come home to insanity, no matter how intoxicating it might have been in his 20s. I went the opposite way. Dated the safe guys who my parents approved of when I was young and then realised that didn't quite work for me. Ended up with the ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:03 PM
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Definitely not true
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:34 AM
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That's not what mitochondrial Eve implies at all. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mitochondrial_Eve Read the misconceptions section
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:26 AM
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The only thing that makes a man sexy to women is his masculinity. Women generally aren't aroused until they're in the presence of a masculine man who is directing his sexuality at her. A healthy, virile man directs his sexuality at women, not a screen. It's just viscerally disgusting to women to have natural urges become so miswired.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 12:11 AM
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These "addictions" don't make women unattractive to men in the same way porn addiction makes men unattractive to women. A girl who loves to shop and spends too much on clothes and makeup can still be cute and feminine and desirable. Men might roll their eyes at it, but they'll still want to fuck her. A porn addict loses everything about a man that makes him sexy. A man who'd rather sit in front of a screen and jerk off than go out an flirt with women is sexually repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:08 PM
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Yeah, no. Most of the time, a guy who does that will get a woman screaming for him to get away from her and then her calling the cops on him. Lol. Insanity. Your views are actually getting more and more psychotic as time goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 09:12 PM
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we talk on Skype about anything and everything . Haven't talked about the birth defect issue yet. Also haven't talked about if I'd have to go back to work or not.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 09:04 PM
4

yes men tolerate flaws because they're horny
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 12:39 AM
2

porn and internet addiction has made a huge portion of young men unattractive. young women are dating the few attractive ones left, older men, and increasingly each other. the average lesbian is now more masculine than the internet generation of men, it's no wonder gen z girls are all "bi" now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 12:31 AM
0

Haha awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:57 AM
3

Not in this century
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:56 AM
7

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 03:14 AM
1

Right, but this here: Can you explain to your boyfriend why you don't want him to have sex with other people, without relying on concepts like "should be obvious", "cheating", "what everyone does", etc? If you can, you can articulate to him where the harm would be to you. I know that my partner could go and fuck other women without it affecting his feelings and commitment for me. Understanding that wouldn't make it hurt any less. Most women, myself included, aren't able to logic their way out of…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 11:59 PM
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He's overly sensitive and you're playing into it. Moping about not being enough and not being able to buy you nice things is just self-indulgent. If he wanted to do these things (and afford his own groceries) he is more than capable of adjusting his investing and planning better. You coddling him over a reasonable and passing comment is encouraging a self-deprecating mentality in him. He's a man, he should be cultivating the resilience to hear these things without falling to pieces. And stop pay…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 02:59 AM
1

STFU method is for your partner, not for strange, nosy men at work. How she runs her relationship is none of this guy's business.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 02:48 AM
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Eek no! Absolutely not.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 02:10 AM
2

/u/whisper is spot on here and I was about to say the same. Your workmate made a weird, nosy comment and you're not required to defer to strange men. I also bristle at other men telling me how I should act and my partner likes it this way. Your submission is something you give to a particular man who inspires and deserves it, how you treat other men is irrelevant to RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 02:01 AM
3

Can you explain to your boyfriend why you don't want him to have sex with other people, without relying on concepts like "should be obvious", "cheating", "what everyone does", etc? Is a prerational feeling of pain a valid reason in your opinion? Or must all our requests have a logical basis? The reason that two-way monogamy has been a cultural norm since the advent of love marriages is because 99% of women will suffer emotionally by infidelity. Just because you can logic your way out of this pai…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 01:56 AM
3

That right and wrong of it aside, have you expressed vulnerability to your partner and told him that this is deeply hurtful to you on an emotional level? Too often these arguments go straight to what one partner should be "allowed" to do. It's not a contest. Don't argue on technicalities, express to him how you feel, and take careful note over whether that seems to matter to him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 09:02 PM
12

Male and female sexuality is different and we experience jealousy and possession in different ways. I agree there. For me though, no. Absolutely not. When I was younger I tried such an arrangement and in some ways it worked nicely. I got along with his other gf, I managed to separate my feelings of jealousy from the situation, etc. We had fun and I thought I was "poly". But I later realised that this was only because I was luke warm about the guy. Once I experienced that real intense, dazzling i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 08:43 PM
2

Guys here already complain about the implications of sluts - child support, n count, Alpha widows, "pair bonding". Imagine their heads exploding with mandated medicalised sluttery lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:47 AM
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I was using neurotic in the normal use of the word, not as big 5 psychology lingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 08:23 AM
1

What are you neurotic about?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 06:28 AM
5

A loooong time ago
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:52 AM
2

Why do you have an aversion to alcohol?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:20 AM
10

When you say "It's just become so normal and common", what era are you comparing to? 7000BC?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:19 AM
0

How is it taking advantage of her?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:48 AM
2

Do you know guys who have actually had these accusations made in real life? Because they hooked up with a girl who'd had a couple of drinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:41 AM
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It hasn't "become so common", it's literally always been this way. Young people have always used alcohol and drugs to socialise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:38 AM
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There just seems to be a fundamental disconnect with many men not even really being able to communicate effectively with women that didn't exist as much in the past. 100%. I think it's growing up on the internet. I'm so glad I did all my social development before the internet was in everyone's pocket. As an introverted kid it would have been terrible for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:36 AM
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Alcohol definitely helps loosen people up, but I think it's probably more to do with the personality type of guys who avoid partying. Guys who are too neurotic/well-behaved to do drugs are also going to be too anxious to hit on a woman. I dated a guy briefly who didn't touch alcohol, I still don't know why, but he was outgoing and funny and relaxed and had no problem hanging out in bars with his friends. His reason for not drinking wasn't an uptight anxious one, so he did fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 11:40 PM
1

Serious question - are you religious? Were you raised religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:58 AM
1

Indescribably happy with my jazz nerd ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:42 PM
1

Hahaha the Fibonacci sequence in Lateralus was my obsession in grade 12. I seriously sunk so many hours into trying to figure out all the hidden math surprises in that album. My SO isn't that kind of music nerd. He's a goth kid turned jazz composer so I hear a lot about 80s new wave and obscure avant garde shit. He'd roll his eyes if I tried discussing Tool with him lol. Music is the one area he's a total snob and won't entertain my plebeian tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:18 PM
2

Ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 07:01 AM
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FWB = hot and fun Husband = hot and fun and love and compatible and interesting and emotionally stable and smart and easy to live with and and and I've fucked plenty of men I'd never want to marry, but I'd never marry a man I didn't also want to fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:32 AM
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Women don't prefer abuse. They require masculinity for attraction, and abuse is sometimes an unfortunate side effect of masculinity. This is like saying "why do men prefer women who spend thousands on hair and make-up?". They don't. They prefer women who look hot, and expensive vanity is sometimes part of the parcel.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 09:07 PM
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It goes both ways. Men and women filter themselves for each other because that's just how it works. When my SO rambles about some obscure album from 1986 I'll listen to it with him and pretend to care about the life story of the drummer because that's the kind thing to do and it makes him feel listened to. When I complain about an issue at work that he thinks is dumb, he'll still pull me in for a hug and pretend to listen. Being 100% honest and literal all the time is not healthy. Men and women …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 08:59 PM
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I think if more women dated men in their friend zone, this would happen less. You have more experience with that particular person and you can build a platonic foundation first. Trust comes much easier, too. This is how dead bedrooms happen. If there's no initial attraction, it's a non starter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 08:04 PM
2

That's dumb. If you can afford a 6 figure car, a 6 figure house is peanuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 12:11 PM
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It's not about whether or not men look. They all look. It's about whether they have the decency to be discrete. Any man with brains knows that it would hurt and embarrass his partner to openly ogle. If he's trying to keep it to himself, at least he cares about your feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 12:09 PM
2

Car? House? 6 what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 06:39 AM
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Ok well I'd never call it the 666 rule, but obviously women want the best partner they're able to get. Height, money and a decent dick are pretty universally desired. Why wouldn't they get that if they are able to? Doesn't seem particularly controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:25 AM
3

Why is it brave to admit you have decent standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:13 AM
1

So? A lot of things are statistically equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:05 AM
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I don't care about age gaps, but if I do X, I can complain about any Y I like. Men are not women and age gaps are not money.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:01 AM
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yeah i don't believe that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:02 AM
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i think women have an aversion to it precisely because it's so pervasive. we all know guys who game and have seen the ugly side of it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/21 01:29 AM
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i don't watch netflix or social media, but i don't care that it's a "waste". it's just unattractive. an equally "wasteful" hobby that was physical wouldn't turn me off like gaming does.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/21 01:17 AM
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it's not a lack of money/education/BC. even the poorest class in any western country knows that sex leads to pregnancy and can afford a pack of condoms from 7/11. it's just a cultural thing. the poor simply don't have the same social mores and priorities, so when fucking around leads to a pregnancy at 19, they go ahead and have the baby and their family/peers don't look down on them for it. they don't value stability and marriage like the other classes do, so when that relationship ends they jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 10:46 PM
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yeah you're cute but really i'm just impressed by how healthy your hair is. what do you do to it? i'm tempted to take that third pic to my hairdresser. that's exactly the kind of cut i'm after. if i had to critique it, i'd say that my friends and i hate when guys use emojis. it just seems kinda girly and childish. but then we're in our 30s so maybe it's a generational thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:08 AM
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Why is it that he should adjust his maintenance to meet your insane routine, rather than you relaxing your routine?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/21 12:37 AM
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A woman acting more masculine will generally not help her, not even in a professional setting. Please tell us more about all your experience as a woman in the professional world
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:53 PM
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Tons of guys aren’t these things. These men aren't masculine
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:39 PM
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Yeah I think you're right. They're too far gone now. I feel sorry girls trying to date nowadays, no wonder they're all gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:13 AM
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Yep it's a common misunderstanding
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:11 AM
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I didn't say adore
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 09:56 AM
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Anything infront of a computer is a massive turn off for me. Gaming, coding, Reddit lol. Anything too abstract or intellectually self-indulgent.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 08:00 AM
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It wasn't a dig at anyone. It was a statement. Some men are absolutely respected by women. You wouldn't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 06:01 AM
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What? I said the opposite of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 05:48 AM
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I didn't say it was the default view
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 05:34 AM
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Where do you guys live where men have already accumulated an excess of wealth when they marry? Everyone I know has married someone with a fairly similar financial situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 05:30 AM
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We are placatory, but that's not what I mean by respect at all. I mean looking up to a man with a sense of awe.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 05:26 AM
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I don't understand the question. I've explained myself I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 03:43 AM
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If you're talking ugly ugly then yeah you're right. That's why I said go for plastic surgery if you've got an obvious deformity/flaw. For a regular/average looking guy, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 03:09 AM
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Depends what you mean by horrible personality. Horrible as in not a "good person" or horrible as in unattractive (awkward and boring and shy)?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 12:44 AM
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Where do you see me complaining about it? You have no idea what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 12:23 AM
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it is rather about how to find the one who matches best what you already bring? Yep. I think being self-aware and understanding what kind of person you are deep down, what drives you, and in turn what kind of man is going to be good for you. With my tradcon ex it felt like hard work ALL the time, and I just thought that was how life is. I was always walking on eggshells and feeling ashamed of myself for not naturally being the kind of woman he wanted. It was exhausting and my solution was to RPW…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 12:16 AM
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And likewise, women react to the men they're surrounded by. When placed in the company of a "real man", watch how quickly that attitude vanishes. Women walk over men today because they can, and that's on men to correct. The difference is that woman are natural followers. It feels good to be around capable, masculine men. When the men around us allow the internet to turn them into whatever they are here on PPD, women are disgusted by it and act like bitches. Heard of a shit test? Saying "it's too…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:43 PM
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Sure, that wasn't the question though. The way I looked up to my dad, my brother, the men that I've loved, was something that I thought was universal. Men have never felt that way for a woman, and that's fine, it's just a blue pill thought that women have until they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:33 PM
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How do you think women back then would have responded to shut-in porn addicts who don't have the confidence to strike up a conversation? Do you think they would have been deferential to the average guy you find here on PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:13 PM
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I mean it's possible, but girls like guys who are fun and do normal fun things. Drinking is a big part of that. Why don't you drink?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:01 PM
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Ok. I didn't say it was a surefire method, I said that NOT doing it is shooting yourself in the foot. Why do you think you don't get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:00 PM
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No they don't. They are sometimes an expression of your personality, but there is a lot more to someone than their hobbies. I never said looks are nothing, I said that they are part but not all of the equation. If an average looking guy had a hot personality, I'd be more interested in him than a dull good looking guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 10:53 PM
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Yeah do guys realise that's TV though? That's like guys 70 years from now watching Real Housewives and thinking average women were wealthy socialites.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 10:51 PM
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What are you on about? How is a hobby your personality? I'm talking about personality traits like confidence, humor, charm, adventure, bravery, etc. Not hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 10:29 PM
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Dead serious. What makes you think women were so much nicer in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 10:26 PM
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that they choose men based off of primal instincts We do select off primal instincts, ie attraction, it's just that this attraction influenced by a lot of factors, among them looks AND personality
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:33 PM
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That men respect us in the way we respect them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:32 PM
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Ok yeah true he is a little better than the others, but probably just because he's so loopy it'd be a bit entertaining at the very least. He's def not someone I find attractive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:31 PM
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Women just being less pleasant/more combative than 20-50yrs ago How do you know? Were you there?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:29 PM
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What makes you think this? Were you there?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:27 PM
3

Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:21 PM
2

How many of those matches did you fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 08:30 PM
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I think both the Protective TradCon Patriarch and the Risk-taking Casanova can value a woman with the good Madonna traits. Sure, I should have been more clear. If we think of it in terms of Big 5 traits, it's pretty well established that masculinity is associated with high openness, low disgust, low agreeableness and low neuroticism. Aka what I would call alpha traits, what you call the "risk-taking casanova". The weight that these men place on positive whore traits is far greater than the weigh…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 09:42 AM
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but if your Captain is high in openness and has a more “alternative” lifestyle, he’d probably like the Virtuous Whore just as much as the Sexy Madonna It's amazing how widely men vary along this spectrum. Much like women with how much of the alpha vs beta traits they can handle. I had a tradcon-esque ex who would get all stroppy if I wore anything remotely sexy out of the house. He very much wanted the Madonna with the tiniest sprinkling of whore. He just wanted to marry, provide, have a bunch o…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 06:26 AM
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http://imgur.com/a/Ic37RZB
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 06:10 AM
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If you don't have the mental frame to go with those looks, you still wont get far. If there's some kind of deformity or flaw and you're otherwise mentally pretty healthy, go for it. But don't think that an awkward shut-in will suddenly be desired just because his jawline is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 06:05 AM
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The most important takeaway from this "study" is that for both sexes, dancing is the main way they find a hook up. Go out. Drink. Dance. Party. I'm tired of hearing guys whine about their lack of sex when they don't do any of the normal things that lead to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 05:59 AM
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Why would you listen to self reported answers in a "study" over self reported answers here or anywhere else?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 02:55 AM
1

Interesting! Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 07:59 PM
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Not at all
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 12:48 PM
4

Watching RP style YouTube screams autistic loser
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 11:38 AM
2

I agree with RP, but if I went to a guy's house and he was watching RP content I would be out of there soooo quick
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 11:35 AM
1

Men and women are not physical equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:04 AM
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Honestly I think most trans guys are a case of internalised misogyny. Trans guys who date women are what I see most of the time. They're just butch lesbians who think that being masculine means they're a man. They've usually got some mental stuff to work through and rush into transition thinking this will solve their problems. They're highly overrepresented on /r/detrans. I know a couple of these women in real life who had top surgery, went on T, etc and then a few years later realised they were…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 12:33 AM
1

There are patterns
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 11:48 PM
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What are his porn habits like?
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 11:18 PM
3

But but but WOMEN DO IT TOO
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:23 PM
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Wait, so someone isn't trans unless they present and are perceived in a traditionally "male" way? Can you not see what I keep trying to get at here? Even you, who would like to be a trans man, don't feel valid in identifying as one until you conform to binary gender stereotypes. The same gender stereotypes feminism has been fighting to undo for decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:03 PM
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Question - why do you have 35F in your flair and answer Q4W posts if you're a trans man?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 09:25 PM
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Men equate attraction directly with looks because that's how they experience attraction to women. They don't realise that for women there are other factors that make up attraction (masculinity, skill, confidence, social status) so they don't believe us when we say a guy with average looks can be wildly sexually attractive. It's just male solipsism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:47 PM
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Straight women are biologically attracted to masculinity. That's just a fact. This doesn't mean she'll automatically be turned off at the odd display of sadness if you're otherwise pretty manly, but being a sensitive sadsack is unattractive yeah. If you want to date women you'll need to either find a weird outlier, or toughen up and build some resilience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:44 PM
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I'm neither arguing for gender essentialism You literally are. If you're going to side step around what you're saying this is pointless. You're saying that brains are 1% sexually dimorphic, and that 1% is enough to validate the idea of male/female brains and personalities being different. Are you not?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:40 PM
1

Checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:37 PM
1

Was she a gay male before transitioning?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:28 PM
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Wow you sound super red pill! This is so interesting to me. Does the trans movement know that they're arguing for old school binary gender essentialism?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:27 PM
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I think their reasons for being trans are very different. And some of those reasons are more linked to mental illness than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:26 PM
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I'm all ears if you'd like to explain to me the point that I'm missing. I identify with RP because it aligns with what I see happening in real life in regard to normal sexual behaviour. I think that (biological) men and women are typically very different creatures with different drives and sexual strategies. I believe that this is not absolute, and there are certain outliers who for whatever reason don't fall under this generalisation. I think this is great and there's nothing wrong with not con…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:19 PM
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It's really interesting to me that the whole argument for trans people existing relies on the validity of gender essentialism, which is a very RP aligned concept. Feminists fought for decades against the idea of a biological "woman brain", and the trans movement has wound that right back.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:01 PM
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Ok, do you want to discuss this lit review then? https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763421000804?via%3Dihub
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:56 PM
1

Imagine transitioning for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:53 PM
1

Super rare, probably just mentally unwell or looking for attention
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:47 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:22 PM
1

Ok so the difference is just "dysphoria". Some feeling that some people get and not others. Sounds like a mental illness to me. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763421000804?via%3Dihub
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:03 PM
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Yeah but you're not forced into anything. You didn't answer my question. What's wrong with being a masculine woman? Why is the queer scene circling back to gender essentialism after coming so far in dismantling that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 12:21 PM
1

What's wrong with being a masculine woman? Why does everything needs to be defined into regressive gender roles?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 12:15 PM
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This is why so many old school feminists are anti trans. They spent their whole lives fighting to be seen as just as capable as men, that their failure to excel in a "man's world" is cultural rather than biological. And then this pink brain/blue brain mentality gets dredged up and suddenly "girl brains" and gender essentialism are a thing again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 12:12 PM
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Yeah I remember when the queer scene was full of rough leather dykes and effeminate queens and gender benders and no one gave a shit about pronouns. It was fun watching people properly fuck with gender. This whole trans movement now reeks of regressive, conservative purity culture. It's boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 12:02 PM
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Depends if they started out as an effeminate gay man, or as a straight guy who watched too much hentai. Big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 11:22 AM
1

lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 11:21 AM
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Trans men - butch lesbians. Straight trans women - very femme gay men. Probably the most "legitimate" trans people in my mind. Tranbians - it's a fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 11:20 AM
3

in couples where the looks are mismatched, I tend to see a lot more attractive women with less attractive men, rather than the reverse. Makes sense RP-wise, considering men are far more visual in their attraction
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 10:34 AM
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1 2 3 4
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 06:14 AM
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What? Are you actually saying that hot women never sleep with ugly men? RP101 is that there is a lot more than looks that goes into a woman's attraction to a man. An ugly, low SMV man can absolutely compensate for his looks and turn a woman on with charm, seduction, status, etc. My ex was one of these men. Nothing to look at in pictures, but when you meet him in person he just had that kind of personality that drives women crazy. He was constantly sleeping with women waaaaay hotter than him, and…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 06:03 AM
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Women, being the narcissist that they are, simply want the best of both worlds. Alpha Bucks Unlike men, who have never talked about wanting "a lady in the streets, freak in the sheets"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:24 AM
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Yeah, exactly. I commented in the thread about my bf who was a seriously trashy party animal in his youth and dated similar girls. 20 years on and he still loves music and nightlife, but he's traded gritty warehouse raves for craft beer on a rooftop.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:25 AM
3

Do you think guys "like" all the sluts they bang in their youth?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:15 AM
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No, it's not about the challenge, although if a man is attractive to you then he's attractive to other women and will naturally be harder to win over. Women's change in taste is just a change in lifestyle and priorities as they grow up. Same for men. My bf was talking about an ex the other day and how she was "sooo much fun". She'd do lines of coke for breakfast, party non stop, just flippantly quit her job, etc etc. I was joking around and asked if he'd like me better if I got us cocaine for br…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:13 AM
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Yeah this whole growing up thing is so overlooked. Like sure she might have dated the high school drug dealer at 17 when she was also a hot mess, but at 27 they've both probably both grown up and settled into adult life and responsibilities. She wouldn't go after a drug dealer anymore, and that former drug dealer probably isn't going after party girls anymore. Maybe it's because there's so many very young guys on here, they just can't imagine people growing up and enjoying a different lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:06 AM
1

Men can be predatory. Advanced made by a man are in no way comparable to those made by a woman. Would you appreciate your ass being ogled and complimented by a gay man twice your weight and strength?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:19 PM
3

Because hair isn't a secondary sex characteristic. Stop being so autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:17 PM
1

Yeah must be. I've never head that in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 09:41 PM
5

Lots of women get dumped, get used, get cheated on etc..because they’re pushovers and it’s not attractive men use these women because they're able to, not because they're unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 09:23 AM
12

Obviously. What else would it come down to on tinder? It only talks about it swipes, no idea if he actually gets dates with the girls and how those dates go.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 02:38 AM
3

What a weird neg. Big head?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 02:38 AM
7

It's not one or the other. The people who are able to have lots of non-procreative sex when they're young are also successful in going on to pair up and have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:54 AM
3

I am saying that you guys live in an echo chamber of outrage where silly things like sex robot rights get blown out of proportion. If you look for reasons to be upset over, you will always find them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 11:05 PM
12

Our sex drives don't know that contraception exists. Fetishes and homosexuality are anomalies. The sex drive exists in humans for the purpose of reproduction, and that is it. The fact that we can dodge that, or that some humans are miswired does not change how it expresses itself in normal hetero dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:57 PM
1

Lol are you comparing a sex doll not making it through customs with domestic murder? Just google "man kills wife". Millions of hits.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:55 PM
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What a retarded take. Civilization exists BECAUSE women are hypergamous. Men strive to outdo each other, and the best of those men are the ones pushing us all forward. That competitive drive in men comes from trying satisfy hypergamy and win a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:24 PM
0

I've never even heard of this. You guys search for things to be offended by.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 09:56 PM
-1

You think women are going to ban your sex toys?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:48 PM
-3

Way to miss the point
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:47 PM
17

Gimp girl is just a fetishist. She carries on like this because she gets off on it sexually, it has nothing to do with being selfless or devoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:05 PM
0

Some things literally are just a product of your sex, though, and whining over something that's unchangeable does nothing but make you unhappy. You're conveniently ignoring all the places that men got lucky with their biology. You guys get to have children without ruining your body carrying and birthing it. Your fertility isn't on a clock like women's is. You get all the strength and speed and other benefits that come with testosterone. You were the dominant gender for almost all of human histor…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:32 AM
3

Experience
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:14 AM
3

Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:14 AM
3

Ok, well sounds like you got what you wanted so what's the problem? Most men don't give a shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 09:02 AM
1

Do you actually find it disgusting when a woman uses a vibrator, or do you just not like the "unfairness" of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 09:01 AM
1

Good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 09:01 AM
8

They fake it because guys want to make us orgasm, but most of the time can not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 09:00 AM
-1

Male and female sexuality are completely different things. How is that hypocritical? That's like saying it's hypocritical for you to want a woman with breasts when you don't have any of your own
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:42 AM
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Male and female sexuality are completely different things. How is that hypocritical? That's like saying it's hypocritical for you to want a woman with breasts when you don't have any of your own
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:42 AM
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I don't "expect" anything of the sort, but speaking from experience, the men I've been with haven't cared at all. Most have really liked it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:41 AM
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Male and female sexuality are completely different things. How is that hypocritical? That's like saying it's hypocritical for you to want a woman with breasts when you don't have any of your own
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:38 AM
1

What about that thread? The choices were between an autistic guy who's learnt to mask and a charismatic popular guy who's naturally attractive to women. And plenty of women said they'd go for the ugly autist (liars).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:54 AM
1

female selectivity is probably the primer mover in terms of the character of male dominance competition Yep. I think it was probably bred into men for the purpose of getting women, but is a strong enough drive now that it goes beyond sexual strategy if that makes sense. And that's interesting about the 60s/70s stars. I personally look at the guys from that era and find them very attractive. They seemed less sculpted and "prettied" than male stars are now, but that's a good thing to me. Even acti…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:45 AM
1

He isn't hot enough to get a woman to legit be crazy for him Then he needs to be hotter or lower his standards. "Hotter" as in more attractive to woman, not necessarily better looking. I've projected nothing. I'm a woman, and I know first hand what keeps a woman faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:35 AM
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Yeah agreed on both counts. I'm not sure if men's competitive nature is a result of female hypergamy, though. Related for sure, but I think men would still compare themselves to each other and want to out-man each other independent of women's tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:30 AM
1

So what's your point? What's being ruined?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:22 AM
6

As a woman, it just feels viscerally... Pathetic? Like deep down my animal brain feels like a virile horny man should either put it in a woman or just jerk off and be done with it. Messing around with a gross silicon sex sleeve isn't very masculine. Also the fact that PIV sex is "designed" to make a man orgasm means that it's way more common for women to go without. Getting her to orgasm means a bit of extra work on either her or her partner's end. A vibrator just speeds that up so everyone wins…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:20 AM
1

Ok so what are you looking for here then? Women are overall pretty predictable. Keep them in love and they'll be faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:11 AM
2

There's something wrong with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:56 AM
1

Be a good partner. By that I mean attractive and high value, not morally "good". Be someone she's excited to be around. Women fall in love with men like that, and they don't cheat on men they're in love with. All this "how do I find a hot woman who will treat me like a king" is cope. Be the right kind of guy and the rest will follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:52 AM
6

This is why women fake it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:46 AM
4

If women waited until they were horny to have sex they'd be practically celibate. Be careful what you wish for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:45 AM
2

I've never dated a woman who used sex toys on her own. They've always been fine with just their fingers. What makes you think women are going to tell you all about their private masturbation habits?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:43 AM
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Why are you guys so concerned about what women think of your sex toys? If women find fleshlights gross (and we do) just keep it to yourself. Why does a woman's opinion your masturbation habits even register? Do you need our approval to jerk off?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:40 AM
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If there’s a problem with the way a man uses 3rd party tools, the standard should be applied to women as well Why? My male partners have never been grossed out by female toys. They've bought them for me and used them on me. It can be hot. The idea of my partner using a fleshlight makes me want to throw up. He's welcome to use it, but if he wants me to be turned on by him he'd better keep it very secret lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:37 AM
3

My friends and I have always had toys and our sex lives are great. What are you talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:33 AM
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Masculine, high T, high status men are a bit rapey. When guys here spout that men aren't predators and 99.999% of guys would never pressure or force a woman, they're thinking of their inhibited, neurotic nerd friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 08:43 PM
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Hardly anyone becomes a housewife these days. Jobs and men fulfil completely different purposes now and that's a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 06:29 AM
3

18-26ish was when I went out the most. I was living in the city and heavily involved in an alt music/arts scene. Mostly students/low earners, but from good families. We'd go to bars/pubs once or twice a week to catch up with people socially, and then on weekends it was warehouse parties, raves, music venues, house parties etc. So usually 3-4 nights a week out on average. It was a pretty tight knit scene so there were less random ONSs and more people from the scene hooking up and getting into a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 03:50 AM
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Ok, so in that case the "rules" of your celibacy would be dictated by the church that you and he follow. Everyone here will have different reasons for having/not having sex. If your reasons are religious, then you should look to your religion on how to approach it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 09:53 PM
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Who are you planning to date? Religious men who are also celibate? Will these men be accepting of your new celibacy? Regular secular men who are used to normal western dating? Are you expecting them to turn celibate for you? How you approach this will depend on your reasons for celibacy and your target.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 09:46 PM
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It's very difficult to get to know someone properly when your time together is limited. If you have the means to see each other face to face regularly, and there is a way of closing that distance before too long, it can work. Relationships that get started over the internet/phone and remain long distance indefinitely are generally a mess and a waste of time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 09:44 PM
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I think that the fundamental RPW truth ... is that men are good. RP in general is about seeing reality and gender relations as they are, not assigning a value judgement to men or women as a whole. If that line of thinking helps you combat your own internalized BP reasoning and form a good relationship with your own partner, great. But I've been reading RPW for years and it has always been about reality, not "goodness". Good men are good, plenty of men are not.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 09:27 PM
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Yeah I went to a Catholic school and know of several teen girls who were shuffled off for abortions by their parents. They'd rather deal with it privately than have a pregnant teen on display.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 09:26 PM
1

This is among the most retarded pseudo intellectual garbage I've seen on here Of course, we here on Reddit have shaper minds Lolll
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 11:47 AM
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My boyfriend's teenagers keep asking for his old Cure and Depeche Mode records. There's a huge 90s goth revival going on with the alt kids and it's super cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:18 AM
1

Yes, and?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:45 AM
6

No one "has" to do anything. Certain behaviours will definitely hinder your chances of getting what you want, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 02:34 AM
1

if your steak is wet after it comes out of the oven, it was too hot. keep the oven low, like 200F low and just leave it in there as long as it takes to come to temp. (edit: on a wire rack, not a pan obviously, so the air can circulate) this will actually dry out the surface of the steak a lot more than it would be otherwise. putting an already warm steak in a hot pan means you'll get the maillard reaction happening a lot quicker, as the hot pan isn't losing as much energy to warming the steak. t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:44 AM
1

Look up reverse seat method, even better! You slowly cook it from raw to just under temp slowly in the oven, then drop it in a scorching hot pan to sear the outside. Absolutely foolproof.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 10:04 PM
0

it can and does work
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 05:29 AM
0

not all of my friends are catches, but i still care about them and want them to be happy. if talking her up will give her a chance with a guy out of her league, why wouldn't i do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:13 AM
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The US keeps getting into wars because they keep inserting themselves into them. If they just learnt to mind their business a little, they'd be spending a hell of a lot less.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:27 PM
2

Can you read? I was talking about scaling to millions, not turning enough to pay yourself a paltry salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 05:02 AM
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I don't think you're lying, I think you're naive. Every tech startup dude thinks they'll "scale" to become a millionaire, nearly none of them do. I've consulted to a bunch of startups, and you need a lot more than a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:39 AM
1

Yeah, they don't reward boring nerds with sex. Shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:31 AM
3

Haha yep. My paper planes are scalable too. You have no idea how many young sales/trader bros I've heard say this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:48 AM
2

Fucking robots the lot of you. The sooner all you Musk/Bezos types shoot yourselves off to Mars the better. Imagine being the youngest and healthiest you'll ever be, and living like a pauper so you can cling to boring old age. What a waste of a life. No wonder women hate it. You're being insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:32 AM
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Yes in 3 years could be a million per year. Lol yep and in 3 years I could live on Mars. You Reddit guys are hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:26 AM
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Money doesn't mean anything to a woman if it's not being used. Does anyone actually believe that it's the numbers in the bank account that turn a woman on and not the fun and glamour that money buys?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:05 AM
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I don't honestly believe OP, or you, or women in general when they bring up these "stop checking out other women!" complaints. No one's trying to convince you. A woman came in here to ask advice of other women. Perhaps you should ask yourself if you're the target audience every now and then.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 01:34 AM
1

🐹
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 11:41 PM
3

What is a "liberal radfem"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 09:14 PM
1

The reward is in the quality of the woman who will accept cohabitation forever. All women want marriage, whether they say so or not, and the best ones are able to get an attractive man who will give them that. By taking that off the table, you're limiting your pool to women who can't do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 12:22 PM
2

yep
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 07:06 AM
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5'10. i've never been rejected for my height, but i don't approach men so i'm never "rejected" in that sense anyway. i have no idea how many men might have approached me if i'd been shorter, but i do know that almost all the men who have made a move on me have been my height or taller. sexual dimorphism is hot, and men seem to prefer women who are smaller than them. just like i prefer men who are bigger than me. so yes, i think i would have more options if i were shorter. this hasn't ever been a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 07:06 AM
2

does something interesting... tax law lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:11 AM
3

It's not like parents feel differently about their kids and the kid's partner in different parts of the world Of course they do. Making a conversation go well with an Indian family that is vetting you as a potential daughter in law in an Indian culture is very different to bringing an American boyfriend home for dinner. There's really no comparison.
/r/RedPillWives08/08/21 07:47 AM
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This is such a culturally specific question. You're meeting the parents in a very different context and for a different reason than any western girl here will understand. This isn't an RP situation, it's an Indian situation, and you'll get a better answer in an Indian group.
/r/RedPillWives08/08/21 04:00 AM
7

These guys really think that women need to "pay" for enjoying themselves. It's resentment that we control their access to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:53 AM
7

You both sound really catty.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/21 11:37 PM
9

If only I could have a child without carrying and birthing it. Biology's not fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 11:09 PM
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And you think shackling them to unwanted men and children would make them happier? Edit: I also don't believe for a second that your hatred of abortion has anything to do with women's happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:41 PM
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No, because sexual health has always been a personal matter. What I'm saying is that there was no personal shame or distress over it. My aunt spoke freely about her abortion with her sisters and female friends. It wasn't some big thing that ate her up inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:08 PM
10

Ok so you're morally outraged, great argument
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:56 PM
10

What makes you think you know how women actually feel about this and how they talk about it when men are not around?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:34 PM
3

My grandma ended up with more kids than she wanted, I'm sure she would have had one if they were available to her then. My aunt got accidentally pregnant in the 60s and used all her savings to fly to London for an abortion because they weren't available in her city.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:32 PM
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It's not unheard of to see or have heard of women aborting because their baby was a boy and they happened to be a man-hating feminist Yes it is
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:31 PM
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What happens if women eventually collectively decide that abortions are as culturally acceptable as getting a boob job? In my circles, they are. I've never needed one but plenty of women I know have and it's never ever been a big deal. Just an annoying thing to do when accidents happen. What happens? Young women get to carry on with their lives and careers and choose to have children when they're ready and with the right man. Horrible, I know. Women in the west don't care about gender enough for…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:28 PM
2

Liar https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ousm6m/z/h75zz2k
/r/askMRP31/07/21 09:30 PM
2

Women don't "provide" desire you idiot. You need to inspire it. Stop blaming her for your shortcomings.
/r/askMRP31/07/21 09:27 PM
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What the fuck are you complaining about then? You've got what you want.
/r/askMRP31/07/21 12:05 AM
4

Life can always be a bit better. Whining about little things like this is a sign of poor character. You're the type of person who will always find something to be unhappy about. Gross.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 11:37 PM
6

Why did you stay with her for those 8 years if you weren't sexually satisfied? Stop whining over a decision YOU made. You sound like a baby.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 10:55 PM
2

If you were after purity in a wife, you shouldn't have dated a former party girl. You've had 10 years to leave if you wanted to, and now you've impregnated her. Put your big boy pants on and stop whining over what she did a decade ago. You've made your choice.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 10:53 PM
4

No one thinks about MGTOW at all
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 11:11 AM
42

This is going to get old really quickly
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/21 04:50 AM
2

hi, do you mind if i ask a couple of questions on this? i'm going down this path but you seem to understand it a lot better than i do. i don't have much weight to lose (10-15lbs maybe at 5'9), but have been found to have the beginnings of fatty liver and insulin resistance. my doctor told me to cut out saturated fats and if that doesn't reverse things he'll look at medication. after doing some of my own reading i've fallen on low-carb intermittent fasting as a better solution for the same reason…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 07:34 AM
4

Yep exactly. Depends how you carry it. Same for women. Overweight can still be attractive if she carries it all in the boobs and hips and still has a small waist. Those skinny legged apple shaped women suffer more from excess weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:56 PM
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I don't trust men as a whole. I trust a few men with my life, but these are men who are either related to me or love me. Strange men are a hazard, and the men who care about me make sure I know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 11:53 AM
3

Lol I just looked at femboys and they're 90% gay. Are you suggesting women find that sexually attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:31 AM
1

Small weak men have been the preference nowhere. It's biological.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:55 AM
7

Because it's hot
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:54 AM
2

What the fuck. Just leave. Maybe he'll get over this weird fetish and come back to you, but you shouldn't be rewarding this nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 09:37 PM
1

Oh god, I'm sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 09:36 PM
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I never trusted "men" BECAUSE I had a decent father and brother. They were protective of me and made sure I had no misconceptions about what men are like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 09:35 PM
2

you guys should really try decoupling "attractive" from "good looking". there's a lot of overlap of course but there are plenty of guys who are wildly attractive but not much to look at. i agree that if a woman marries someone she's not sexually attracted to it's going to be a disaster for them both, but that sexual attraction isn't always a product of looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:09 AM
1

Men are saying lower your standards aka negotiate attraction. how is that RP?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:22 AM
0

not a chance lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:48 AM
2

i'm not saying to use it religiously, i'm saying to have the account active so that when she meets someone who wants to stay in touch it's there. i have a facebook and instagram account, but they're empty bar a profile pic and couple snaps of my dog. i don't spend time scolling there, i just add my friends and family and use it to keep in touch. that's what i'm suggesting.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 09:33 PM
1

ok well take that up with "women on this sub". i haven't seen anyone argue that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:22 PM
1

?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:28 PM
1

ok, tell them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:26 AM
1

to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:26 AM
1

it's obvious. women aren't attracted to pretty faces, we're attracted to men who can do shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:25 AM
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💔
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 09:10 AM
2

If someone doesn't want to send you a letter via carrier pigeon, you don't need 'em!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 08:48 AM
1

Like women, men often don't know what they actually want. They're just happy once they get it. There's a saying around here - if you want to catch a fish, you're better off learning from the fisherman than the fish.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 07:53 AM
1

No you're totally right. What fathers want for their daughters is not necessarily what is going to make her happy in the long run. If my dad had his way I'd be a nun or a lesbian haha. If he had to choose a man for me, it would have been a rich, supplicating beta I would have ended up hating.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 07:49 AM
2

We also survived millions of years without telephones. Cultural norms and the way people communicate changes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 07:25 AM
4

It's a trade-off in my opinion. I absolutely agree that being hooked to social media is damaging. But I also think being isolated from mainstream socializing and dating as a teenager is damaging. Some kids are introverts and want to avoid parties etc anyway, but OP has mentioned several times here that people have just faded on her when she doesn't have a social media account to connect with them on. Her social and dating life IS suffering, and I think we're doing her a huge disservice to approa…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 07:04 AM
1

you can't compare attractiveness between men and women, they're completely different concepts. i will say though that when judging attractiveness, a woman's physical looks are weighted more heavily than a man's.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:36 AM
1

i wasn't talking to the young girls here, i was talking to countthebees who said she had avoided facebook, parties and games growing up. normal teens are craving social interaction, not avoiding it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 06:34 AM
1

Ok well I'm talking about normal dating in the real world, not whatever they do in churches.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:03 AM
1

Why are you talking about churches?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:31 AM
1

it's coming across far more bitchy than funny, fyi
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 05:23 AM
0

not sure why you're getting so emotional over this
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 05:05 AM
0

you teenagers? i'm in my mid-30s with teenage stepkids. settle down. not everyone wants to be the weird antisocial kid who does things the hard way. there is a healthy medium where she is able to engage mindfully with social media without losing herself to it. it's not all or nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 04:52 AM
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yeah, norms have changed a lot since we were teens. for better or worse, social media is how teenagers engage with each other now. it's abnormal and socially crippling for a teen to avoid it altogether, and us older women should keep that in mind when talking about this. saying "all social media is toxic" (not saying you are, just in general) is the equivalent of our own parents hand-wringing over cell phones or email. we should be careful not to give advice that is out-dated and out of touch.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 04:33 AM
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"Everyone does it so you should do it" is not a good argument. this is easy to say when you're not the 17 year old missing out on friendship and dating. older generations have said this forever. cell phones were new when i was a teenager, and people said teens should avoid them. maybe they were right, but all of my peers had a cell phone, and if i didn't have one too i would have been socially and romantically stunted. if you want to date normally, you need to engage in what's normal. there are …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 04:29 AM
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it's possible to have an account on these platforms without being engrossed in it. if i were you i'd make a private instagram account that can be used to keep in touch with friends. it doesn't need to be full of selfies, but just having the account active means that you will not be excluded from normal teenage socializing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:51 AM
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because she's 17 and this is how 17 year olds communicate. she's already expressed being left out as a result of not using it, she's just crippling herself socially if she refuses to engage in the way all her peers do.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:48 AM
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So what can a man do to improve his attractiveness in the same way as makeup for women? nothing, because he's not a woman. male and female sexuality is different, and no amount of complaining or "social norms" is going to change that. what men and women are turned on by is deeply biological and fairness is just completely irrelevant. it isn't "fair" that women can boost their SMV with makeup, and men cannot. it isn't "fair" that men can boost their SMV with money and power, and women cannot it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:05 AM
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yup. sexuality is deeply biological and no amount of finger waving from either sex is going to change what turns us on or off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 02:58 AM
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it depends on how well it's done. men think they like a woman without makeup, but what they like is when a woman is good enough at makeup to look like a better version of herself. my own partner claims to hate makeup, but every time i go without it he asks if i'm feeling sick lol. and you're missing my point on the shoe lifts for men. they can wear whatever like and no one will stop them, obviously. what are women going to do? be turned off and not fuck them. men don't wear lifts because they kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 02:12 AM
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yeah. all these guys in here complaining that female sexuality doesn't work like male sexuality. men LOVE it when women are insecure enough to change our appearance to please them. a man doing the same for a woman's approval is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:31 AM
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it's not about what's "ok", it's about what works. women wear makeup and heels because when it's done well it appeals to men. if the men we wanted hated it we'd stop. men are welcome to wear heels if they want, but the fact is that women find that kind of feminine vanity disgusting. if it makes you feel good, go for it, but it's not going to be the cheat you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:28 AM
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it doesn't stop women because most men like how we look in makeup. good luck convincing men to do something that will actively repel women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:24 AM
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i've seen the opposite. where i am, there's an excess of recently divorced guys in their 30s and 40s who are looking to snap up their next wife
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 12:26 AM
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I think it would be nice for families to have an option to vote that way There is. Ask your husband how he's voting and vote the same way.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 09:57 PM
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Hahaha good luck
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 09:14 PM
1

They're not married and her boyfriend is happy earning $50k. She should absolutely be concerned for her own financial independence until he is able and willing to support her for the rest of her life. If that's upsetting to him, then he should earn more or break up with her. Men cannot expect to be treated as a provider if they're not providing.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 05:29 AM
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being a man has nothing to do with my dick Lollllll Terfs have done more for women than libfems ever have.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:33 AM
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She's doing you a favor. Encouraging whining in a man is a death sentence to his sex live.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:22 AM
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It's not social, it's biological. Women are turned off by whining and no amount of reprogramming will ever change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:18 AM
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Women can't control their turn-offs any more than men can. A guy who whines will always trigger disgust in a woman. If you want to call that emotional unavailability then you can I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:15 AM
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Now look at a map of income. Poor people are fat, promiscuous and marry less.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 09:25 AM
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