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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 04:55 AM
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Are you trolling me rn? I'm finding it hard to believe you're misunderstanding me so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:42 PM
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It's useless in trying to hook up with people in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:33 PM
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I think you have a lot more work to do on your social skills, people have tried to explain but you're just not getting it. You have to get to know the individual and pay attention to what works for them People online telling you what made them laugh in the past us absolutely useless
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:30 PM
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I'm saying this information is useless to you. You can't parrot something that's worked for someone else with a completely different person and expect it to work
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:29 PM
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Cause I want to hook up with people I find interesting, I'm not attracted to people I have nothing in common with. We can't constantly be kissing/moaning/fucking, there will be some amount of down time
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:24 PM
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But there are things that will work and things that won't. No there aren't. There are things that work for certain people. Please start viewing women as individuals with their own thoughts and interests, not a hive mind with a code to crack
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:23 PM
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Why though? Every woman is different you're not gonna get an exact answer that will widely work. It isn't a specific set of words, it's reacting to her. Talk about what interests her, ask specific questions about that topic, show your own interest, make her laugh. Dating is difficult cause what makes me laugh would make another woman wanna slap you, there are no quick answers here, you've just got to pay attention
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:21 PM
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It really seems like you think everyone experiences attraction the way you do and it's confusing me. think it's more likely than not that what they are attracted to hasn't changed but what they want from life takes more precedence and therefore they peel away the different layers of what they're attracted to until they find someone the happy medium of what they are attracted to and the life they want. I don't understand this at all. Sure that can happen but I see no reason why this should be a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:15 PM
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Women are worthless, but men are killing themselves, killing others, and experiencing psychosis all because they can't get these worthless women. Sucks for them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:05 PM
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I'm not making any assumptions beyond what you've told me. You say you can't wrap your head around other people's preferences changing, I'm trying to explain that your preference can change when you do. You may not be able to relate because you haven't changes in 20 years, but can you understand that others do? That may help I can't wrap my head around how a drastically different personality doesn't affect how attracted you are to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:59 PM
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If a woman offers nothing then leave her alone, there is no justification for lashing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:49 PM
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Okay so we've established that you specifically haven't changed in decades, can you get that other people do?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:42 PM
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All other things being equal, those two women would be equally attractive to me. Just because I chose to date one over the other doesn't mean the other is less attractive How old are you? That route of drastic change would worry me in a potential partner. ime, people who change like that, about anything major (not pizza toppings), can just as easily change again. Whether it worries you or not, do you get that people's preferences can change for a myriad of reasons? Tbh I feel the opposite, I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:25 PM
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Did it not occur that women may be dressing a certain way for something other than male attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:21 PM
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My wants and goals don't impact the type of woman I am attracted to A person who wants to settle down, have a steady life and start a family young isn't likely to be looking for the same personality type as someone who wants to travel spontaneously and be child free. Someone brought up strictly religious may initial prefer demure, modest women. However if they deconstruct and get into metal they may find themselves preferring outspoken tattooed women. That's just an example, point is you often w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:12 PM
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What's not to understand? I've grown and matured over the years When I was a teen I was heavily influenced by what others said I "should" want from a partner, I've since had life experience and come to understand what works for me. Teen me thought excessive tattoos were gross, probably cause I was raised by people who taught me tattooing is just permanent scarring that you'll live to regret. Then I met a lot of people with beautiful and intricate tattoos that changed my mind. I'm just not the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:10 PM
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What's provocative, revealing? More compared to what? Does that fact that I wore a short skirt and sleeveless top on a hot day signal to you that I "seek attention and sexual validation from strange men"?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:09 PM
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They represent many though, and they’re surely increasing Your reasoning for this assertion? Attention is a desirable thing for many, the feeling of importance, Not all attention is equal. When I get attention from strange men it doesn't make me feel important, it makes me feel like they're horny and I was nearby. I love it when someone compliments something specific like my outfit cause I'm into thrifty fashion and every piece has a story. Similarly I like attention for me art, my mind, my humo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 02:33 PM
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I can’t go around farting everywhere and wearing black metal makeup, I’ll get ridiculed, ostracized, avoided, get 0% pussy ever. It has real consequences. Idk where you are but the metal rockers i used to hang around got laid a shit ton in their make up
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:19 PM
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Because men don't know how to be men anymore. Feminists act like anything masculine is evil. Women still crave it in partners. Bit of a strawman you've got there
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:17 PM
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Experience isn't maturity, an immature 30 year old has had more trial and error time to figure out themselves, the world and how to game relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 01:08 PM
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It's not infantilising to acknowledge that teenagers have leas life experience than people in their 30s. Not all adults are the same level of maturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 11:25 AM
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I'd say men probably have even less agency here. I've definitely known many a man swayed by a manipulative woman. We as men have a tendency to think with the wrong head if you catch my drift. What are you saying and why? If a man makes the choice to cheat that is 100% his fault. You have free will, if you're weak minded and easily manipulated that is your personal flaw. You can't blame it on women being manipulative cause no one made you think with your dick. but I'm also aware that I'm not immu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:51 AM
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Nah if he thinks she'll cheat he clearly doesn't trust her. He's say women don't have agency. Kinda as sexist. Might be a dark truth. It is the stereotype afterall Not even acknowledging this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:42 AM
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I'll admit it is hard to make sense of the point here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 11:37 PM
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How about this, you're both adults that can set your own boundaries. No one gets to tell you how to feel about it but you don't get to dictate how she acts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 11:34 PM
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I trust my GF completely, the people I don't trust are the people who have learned how to play the psychological games necessary to override the rational part of our brains. You're contradicting yourself. Either you trust her not to cheat or you think she could be manipulated into cheating Is she capable of rational thought or not? Humans are not perfect rational beings, we make mistakes, we can be manipulated. I've been in relationships before where I was manipulated. Is it projection? "I was m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 11:33 PM
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You think you're currently at equal risk for sexual violence, harassment and stalking as women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 09:17 PM
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Read the rest of the sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 02:19 PM
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Contradictory to your prior comments but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:41 AM
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I think our fundamental difference is that I don't assume other people think/react like I would
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:47 AM
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To me, sex is a very intimate thing that I can/could only do with someone I had known a while and was close too. Okay... to you, to me sex is a fun group activity for 2 players or more I don’t understand how someone can have sex so casually with a stranger however it’s not my place to judge, Except the judgement that they're insecure and waiting for the right one to save them? I do think they have security issues that they want someone else to save them from but again it’s just my own opinion. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:32 AM
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I still think it’s a very deep subconscious insecurity for that person Are you saying you think anybody who enjoys casual sex has a deep insecurity that they're waiting for the right one to fix? and that’s why when they meet the “right” one usually when their older, their happy to give up the casual sex life since they’ve now met someone that makes them feel secure. You say "when" like this is a forgone conclusion Do you not think it possible to be confident, secure and enjoy the physical sensat…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 06:49 AM
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I have casual sex because sex is enjoyable Personally I feel that people who do casual sex are trying to make up for their own insecurities, Sex equals validation for them, even if they know their just being used it still makes them feel wanted fir a while and like a drug they chase that feeling. Whilst I'm sure there are people like this, don't you think it's possible that others just enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:45 AM
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I should put in the effort of getting to know lonely men online so that I can act sweet, homely and sexually adventurous to thirst trap them? How does any of that benefit me. I would rather be alone than put on an act to make desperate strangers horny. The point is, I do not claim your statement
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:54 PM
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Not to strangers on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:44 AM
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If that’s how you really are which is how PPD women claim to be I am a woman on PPD and I do not claim this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:20 AM
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So what would he like me for, the sweet and sexual "act" you suggest I put on?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:59 AM
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He probably had other things to make up for him being plain looking. Yeah I told you, his charisma. Just a charming man to be around. But confidence on its own isn't the magical cure to dating like people make it out to be. It's not a magic cure but it can absolutely make a big difference. Usually you have to like the way someone looks to be attracted to them in the first place. I've got to disagree, I think there are a minority of people who are exceptionally beautiful or ugly. I think you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:47 PM
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The problem was that 99% of them were guys that just wanted to fuck. ding ding ding To me, the shallow attention is more bothersome than being ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:38 PM
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Even if the attention isn't genuine, I know i still get more attention online than most guys. In fact it's a problem, I get attention from men who are not interested in me as a person but who are desperate for any vagina. I wish they would be more selective and stop wasting my time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:35 PM
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I disagree. I used to date a guy that I was in no way initially attracted to because he was so magnetic, charming and confident that I felt amazing just being near him. His attitude was so attractive to me, he thought he was the shit and could command a room in seconds. He wasn't ugly but he didn't stand out to me at first because he was short, skinny and had nondescript features. After a day I was getting butterflies. I know I cannot be the only person whose attraction goes up/down depending on…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:38 PM
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I am in a relationship for 4 years now and I'm still waiting for my bf to drop me because he found someone else that offers more despite him constantly telling me that he loves me. Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:29 PM
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I won't dismiss the experience but I am neither light not skinny and I still can't relate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:20 PM
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Yeah this post didn't ring true for me. I'm a young black woman and I've never had trouble getting matches. The hard part comes from tryna find out who actually likes me and who would fuck anything with a pulse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:31 PM
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I feel like it would make sense for the biological parents to have legal rights to custody of the child
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 05:45 PM
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Wouldn't they also want their baby back?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 05:43 PM
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All those things are nice, but I couldn't be with a partner who never make me laugh. They don't have to be a stand up comedian but I laugh and smile when I'm happy, I want someone who makes me feel happy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 05:42 PM
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100%. Make me laugh and you can laugh me into bed I'm a sucker for a cheerful cheeky confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 05:39 PM
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Trusts me enough to let me take the lead in making major decisions regarding the things that affects us both Does this mean you have final say on those decisions or just that you opinion holds more weight? doesn't try to micromanage and police everything I do, doesnt try be my mom, doesn't make relationship a constant fight or shittesting, I wouldn't count these things as submitting, just being in a fair partnership worships me as her God and loves it even more than I do, Is this sarcasm? do I r…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 04:42 PM
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And I could understand that if the father asked for the test after the baby is born. If the test is agreed to upon trying to conceive then it's just a standard check off.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:08 PM
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Why would the mother agree to this? "Yes, honey I think it's only reasonable that you suspect me of cheating on you and passing off his kid and yours. Let's agree to the test." There doesn't have to be any finger pointing, babies have been mixed up in hospitals before this is just legal security. If you can get one done fairly easily then I see no downsides. Just take the pressure of any potential doubts away. Just get it done in secret if you have to do it at all. I wouldn't stay married to som…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:02 PM
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What do you mean when you say you want this smart mature self aware woman to submit to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 02:53 PM
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I was listening to that song last night and thought through the lyrics for once. It's actually a pretty decent, if sometimes vulgar, message for the 90s at least
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 02:34 PM
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I want her to be competent in life but submissive in relationship stuff How's that gonna work
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 02:31 PM
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The point is what's being highlighted as ideal to the typical male/female audience. A shirtless shredded guy flexing, or a smiling fit guy in a jumper These magazines are focusing on the muscle for men and the romance for women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 02:25 PM
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I agree with the caveat that she never knows he did the test. This is just looking to cause an issue, keeping a secret like that. I think it's best for mother and father to agree to the test pre birth, if you ask later on it's like you suddenly got a reason to suspect the child isn't yours. Make it a standard check off thing instead of a secret trust test
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 02:21 PM
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I agree with the caveat that she never knows he did the test. This is just looking to cause an issue, keeping a secret like that. I think it's best for mother and father to agree to the test pre birth, if you ask later on it's like you suddenly got a reason to suspect the child isn't yours. Make it a standard check off thing instead of a secret trust test
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 02:21 PM
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Is that really a sign of incompatibility or just just a difference in drive? The difference in drive is the sexual incompatibility. I like to feel wanted, I don't want to always be the one initiating cause I'd feel like a bore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:08 AM
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People don't always act on reason
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:07 AM
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In my teens i worked as "the help" around many powerful men from old money If they want to pull their dick out, they will. When you have fuck you money it can affect what you deem as appropriate or embarrassing conduct. Who cares when you can just throw cash at anyone who complains?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 07:48 PM
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Our great grandmothers didn't have a choice, we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:42 AM
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Note that you aren't the OP, so you don't know what really happened. Neither are you From that, it sounds like she never asked him out on another date. So I'll take that as an assumption
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:42 PM
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I'm asking you specifically what actions they should take to continue the relationship when they're not getting texts back?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:01 PM
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How are they supposed to continue the relationship if they're not getting text back?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 12:37 PM
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Men are human, yet it literally requires ZERO effort by women to “keep them interested.” I disagree with that premise entirely
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:40 AM
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To...?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:39 AM
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It isn't, you just need to have make up skills
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:38 PM
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"Negative talk" is too vague to comment on, is complaining about being harassed negative talk? I answered OPs question.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:24 PM
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MGTOW would've fantastic if they stuck to talking about men and how they can improve their lives rather than talking about how women make life terrible
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:08 PM
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You should ask someone else because I disagree with your premise
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:24 AM
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What do you do when you are 60-90 cant do much, no social activities, no sports no socializing like younger people Have you met people in their 60s/70s? I know so many people in that category with busy social lives, do people around you just stop functioning at 59? and alone nothing can have value beyond your death other than what can be influenced and remain after death What? Nothing will have value to me after I die because... I'll be dead? I know I've already made a difference in the world th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:22 AM
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As a husband I initiate sex all the time while she never did. If you were me, you would strongly consider leaving Yeah of course I'd leave a relationship that couldn't satisfy me sexually, what point are you trying to make? most women would just cheat to end it. How did you come to that conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:27 AM
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yeah and most of any purpose and joy, especially the older you get If that's your choice and what you value then sure but it isn't a rule
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:17 PM
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I used to want a child but then I realised it would tie me to a man for the rest of my life, not worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:15 PM
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. I thought we were talking about someone being committed to the relationship/other person. Yeah I was, I'm saying don't just take their word for it when they say they want to do something make sure you have evidence they're actually working towards it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:47 PM
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Both have to do with wanting the child. If not wanting the child is enough to kill it, then not wanting the child should certainly be enough to abandon it. It's only fair. Nope, again you're comparing an individual medical decision to a shared financial one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:45 PM
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Sorry what answer are you looking for? That example was supposed to be within the relationship context?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:42 PM
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Why do you assume they don't? You'd have to know the background and ideals of every supposed white Knight commenter you come across to determine this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:40 PM
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It's not eugenics if women abort babies just because oh it'll mess up my life and I can't afford it right now, Correct but if I complain about being enslaved for the next 18 years then suddenly it's eugenics No, you can complain about having to face the consequences for your actions but there's a difference between choosing not to continue a pregnancy f9r personal reasons and not being allowed to continue a pregnancy if you're poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:36 PM
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Doesn't make it hurt less for a man who wants the child. Okay? Being divorced can hurt too should we make that illegal to protect people's feelings? If society just expects men to take that, they should be able to opt out as well. No, equality here would be that males aren't forced to bring a fetus to term, which is already the case. Opting out of a pregnancy is a medical decision, opting out of child support is a financial one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:32 PM
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For example, if they say they want to quit drinking for their health but they get plastered every weekend you don't hold onto the hope that they'll do it eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:22 PM
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Deciding what babies can be born based on how much the parents can afford to pay is dangerously close to eugenics The question of the baby being born is not the same as who should support the child once it's here. Whilst the fetus is inside the womb, every physical decision about the child affects the mother. She gets final say on what happens to her body.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:43 AM
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Yeah because it's her body that has to grow the child
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:38 AM
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God help anyone who's coming here to get better at dating
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:50 AM
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I think the best relationships are when each person thinks the other is the prize! I agrees, but i do think that if they're the prize because they're rich then the prize is not them but their wealth. Personality and success are the main criteria. To have a sweet life, provide the best opportunities to my future kids and the option for me to be a SAHM. Do you need your partner to be a multimillionaire to be a sahm or a this just your lifestyle preference? Would you turn down a man with a high pay…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:48 AM
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Good luck with that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:33 AM
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I just feel like people in a partnership should value each other and not see one specific partner as the prize to be won. I want a multi millionaire. Is this your main criteria? Why is this important to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:31 AM
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Always assume (there's a good chance) they're lying, unless they prove their words with actions Talk is cheap
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:24 AM
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Cause I was watching himym when I made this account
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:22 AM
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One thing I realized was that the caliber of man that I want is rare. He would be the prize, not me. That's kinda sad to read :/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:20 AM
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She wasn't his partner
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:18 AM
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That's only good advice if you want to date someone who thinks they can buy your happiness. Guess what, rich fuckboys exist and they'll shower you with money but that is not commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:10 AM
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don't take the word of people you're just casually fucking People can and will say anything to cum don't have sex with someone based on a future promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:08 AM
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My attraction is highly changeable based on how the dude is making me feel in that moment. I'm not often attracted to people that show no interest in me so chemistry is key. Looks may catch my eye but I'm attracted to men that make me think, whether you're booksmart, artistic, logical, teasing or whatever... you need to keep me on my toes If we can't have a playful debate then we'll never make it to the bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:53 PM
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Props for the honesty, are you working on this at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:43 PM
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No, I think I'm sexy and I'm attracted to men who acknowledge that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:42 PM
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I don't think most men are getting laid and in relationships, I just think most men don't define their lives by how much they get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 06:23 PM
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Why do you think it's only about looks? These men have 100s of hours of interview and performance footage out there for women to consume. I can name multiple celebrities that I was uninterested in physically until I saw them being kind and funny in videos. I used to find Henry cavill attractive until I saw his interviews, sure he's classically handsome but he bored me to tears.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 10:36 AM
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I hear it from men a lot but I always think "that's not true, you've just been taught not to explore your emptions" I don't think men are simple because they're people and everyone is complex. I think a lot of men claim to be simple because they want to fit an imagine of traditional masculinity I love seeing younger guys talk openly about feelings, shower their male friends with affection, set emotional boundaries etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:46 PM
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Yep I'm a bi girl and am so often confused by how straight men and women see each other
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:41 PM
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Thank god for some sense in the comments Can we all just remember that men and women are humans Someone's behaviour may be explained by how they were socialised but it's just pointless and weird to say "men/women think this and that's the problem" People just aren't that homogenous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:41 PM
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I actually did made an argument if you actually stop and think instead of getting upset. How amusingly condescending, I promise you my feelings are untouched
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:20 AM
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No it's not surprising when you make flippant comments instead of an argument
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 08:35 AM
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Why is it ok for men to beg their wife’s for sex but not women their husband’s? I disagree with your premise so I can't answer that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 07:39 AM
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That doesn't really mean anything to me, I like people who are passionate, reliable and engaging
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 07:38 AM
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If cat calling counts then a few times a week, if not then probably only when I go to bars
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:36 PM
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That's fine I didn't take it personally I used to try to compromise around sex drive but I've come to realise it's a deal breaker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:27 PM
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I likes what I likes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:52 PM
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Sometimes me or my partner will have a mess about but not actually take it anywhere, its abit like teasing the other person. I don't do that though, I very much always want to take it somewhere but I'm not gonna continue if I'm not getting reciprocation. Aslong as your putting in as much effort you shouldn't need to worry about him rejecting you I was putting in a lot of effort and he did reject me, fact is he'd be happy with a 15 minute session every other day (including foreplay) and i wanted …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:51 PM
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He never said no explicitly, but if I could tell he wasn't into it during foreplay I'd stop and see if he tried to continue. I initiated often but I'm sensitive to rejection so I'd only pursue sex if I was getting a positive reaction Most of the time he'd cum and be done when I'd had maybe 2/10 potential orgasms. Then I had to wait the refractory period and see if he could get hard again, cause if not we were done for the night.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:26 PM
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'emotionally cater'... as if that's a bad thing in a relationship. Not saying whether it's good or bad, I'm pointing out the difference between talking to a stranger at a bar and bringing your boyfriend on a girls night out There's a line where concerning turns into controlling, but this isn't where it sits. Here's the line. " Tell her she can't keep doing girls' nights? That would be controlling, right? Is that" okay? Why or why not? What are the alternatives?." You can't tell a grown woman wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:10 PM
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I've pretty much accepted that I'll probably never find a partner who will match my libido I am and always have been "too much"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:53 PM
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I dated a lovely man once who was definitely not as interested in sex as I was, eventually I had to leave. We got on great but I needed more than he could provide and I wasn't willing to beg.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:50 PM
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That is sound advice
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:54 PM
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Oh I like learning about different perspectives and challenging my beliefs I find it interesting and fun, I put the phone down the minute I feel emotionally invested
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:53 PM
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You're missing the point that you're not a stranger and your girlfriend would have to emotionally cater to you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:48 PM
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"Wrong" is subjective, she gets to choose how she behaves and you get to choose if you want to stay with her And let's be real here; the dude is thinking she's either cheating on him, or planning on cheating on him, right? So if he hits her with the "I want you to text me back, and I don't want you to act irritated when I text, and I want you to let me know when you'll be home, blahdyblah" stuff, even if she does adjust these things, he still ain't gonna like her going out, is he? What he wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:46 PM
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Communicate your feelings, suggest a compromise, if she declines then leave the relationship I don't know how to explain this but you can force other adults to behave the way you desire
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:44 PM
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Yes being used for money and being raped and murdered are equally scary prospects
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:33 PM
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My reaction is "if he wants that it's okay, but I don't want him"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:50 AM
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Funny how it has to revolve around your feels. Yeah I have emotions, that's not a secret? The issue of alimony isn't how widespread it is or not, it's its very existence. Like indentured labour. I think that in theory it prevents financial abuse and abandoning your responsibilities. There's always gonna be abuses of any system, but I think it's protection for children and home makers at it's core.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:40 AM
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People prioritize looks over everything else And you know the for a fact because...?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:36 AM
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That's not really a gotcha, attraction is subjective
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:19 AM
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To be fair, most women's personalities these days have been reduced to astrology, dogs and Instagram. Not saying I agree with this sentiment So whose sentiment is it? there are still women out there with deep and great personalities I agree, as a single queer woman I meet so many of them it almost makes me insecure however, it's understandable how one could think this way. Sure if you form your opinion of women by what's trending on tik tok
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:17 AM
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A woman who says she doesn’t need a man..has never dated a good one Thoroughly rejected. You can enjoy spending time with a compatible date and not need companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:11 AM
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Did you hurt yourself with that leap? I'm not even mad I'm more astounded
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:06 AM
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Everyone's shallow btw, it's not the insult you think it is. What's your reasoning for believing this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:02 AM
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Yeah I'm okay with fearmongering to keep myself alive
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 05:28 PM
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No but enough men to not feel safe walking alone at night
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 10:21 AM
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You were being asked a simple question, you just kept deflecting back to your own word choice. The reason why a woman would have more understanding for her son than for her partner is for many of the same reasons that animal mothers will fight off far larger animals to protect her offspring even if it means she's certain to die. Survival isn't a male specific experience. Mothers keeping their children alive is not difficult to understand. Also depending on the animal and the cost/benefit ratio t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 07:19 PM
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Because, again you said it first here Female solipsism makes it that a woman is incapable of empathizing with male specific experiences unless it relates to her immediate needs I used the word from your premise to question it. I personally don't think I can empathise with male specific experiences. That's partly why I'm here The only way she ever would understand, as bad as it sounds, probably is if she had a son who had the same troubles I asked why a woman might have more understanding for a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 05:58 PM
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I NEVER SAID I COULD 😂 This is amazing, I was being glib and giving an easy example to indicate that I know I can't empathise with an experience I'll never go through. Okay, I guess I'll never know why you think I'd sooner sympathise with an imaginary baby than a romantic partner
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:59 PM
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And I'm saying that no, you can't empathize with your hypothetical future sons troubles. You can sympathize, but not empathize. Yeah I said that from that start? You were the one who used the word empathise first, I would've said sympathy. I'm not sure what's so difficult to understand here... I don't think you understood my question at all. I want to know why you think it'd be easier for me to sympathise with a child that doesn't exist than a man I'm dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:40 PM
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Again you were the one who used the word empathy I was responding to your point
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:20 PM
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??? Then why did you say a woman can empathise with her hypothetical furniture child's balls? What a fun series of contradictions
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 02:16 PM
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You used the word empathy, I was responding to your concept. If I made the statement I would've used sympathy as I can't empathise what it's like to have balls. Still, the point remains why would I find it easier to relate to someone who doesn't exist over someone I'm talking to?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 01:57 PM
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In the world, yes men take the advantage In dating, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 09:36 AM
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Nah, some people just don't want or need that No woman is fantasizing about small dicks (OK maybe there are some but generally that's not the case). Okay but those women exist?? And there are women fantasising about all sorts of scenarios not directly involving getting pistoned by a huge dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 09:31 AM
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You can get toys to increase thickness Size and thickness are inextricably linked, more thickness = bigger penis It is what it is. Just because most women don't want huge dicks does not mean they'll settle for small ones. You don't have to be appealing to most women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 09:28 AM
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Are men willing to wear extenders these days? I cum from PIV so I'm interested in using them as a potential solution
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 09:24 AM
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This is odd, if I can empathise with a hypothetical child from the future surely I can empathise with an actual man I'm talking to? How does she contribute to his pain, by not being sexually satisfied? That's not something she's done, it's just an obstacle from them to get over.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 09:20 AM
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Someone being desperate and settling for you because they'd take anybody is not validating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:30 PM
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So women here are just lying? I didn't say sex wasn't validating I'm saying that many women don't see it as an advantage that any desperate random would probably bang them. They want to feel validated as a person, not just a nearby wet hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:28 PM
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That sounds scary and smothering I'm not a god, I'm a person I want passion and romance sure, but from someone who wants me for what I can offer not someone who's obsessed with me for what I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:20 AM
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The funny thing is women only have the luxury of being this picky because men are desperately horny Not really a luxury when you're trying to date people who want you, not just a warm hole Yet they have this illusion that they are somehow deserving of it for being born with a vagina ... what? I've seen multiple women in this thread alone comment that this affects them negatively
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:18 AM
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Can you just see men and women as individuals and not for what their historical societal purpose is? When were you taught that masculinity is bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:15 AM
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Out compete where and to who? I know plenty of guys and girls who'd run to the 35 year old woman I guess it depends on whether you value experience or see it as a negative
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:46 PM
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To accept that a partner you only keep around to look pretty and be quiet isn't a partner or an equal. To clarify whether you are attracted to any non physical traits To understand that you speak about potential partners in terms of how they can service you and not as well rounded people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:42 PM
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Ok if that's the way you see the world then act accordingly. The cool girls worth the effort have been taken by alphas, you've stopped looking for a partner and now you want someone to use for a while. Unless you want more than attractive, quiet and polite?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:35 PM
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Vague
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:32 PM
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And where does attractiveness come into this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:21 PM
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Alphas?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:20 PM
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Are you trolling?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:14 PM
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Yeah, sounds like you don't want a partner and you want someone to fulfill your needs
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:13 PM
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Because this is a CMV, I provided a counter point to your claim, you agreed with the counterpoint yet stick with the claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:10 PM
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Do you stand by your comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:07 PM
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I’d enjoy a partner Why? What do you want? If you just want them to look pleasing and be quiet i find it hard to agree that you want a partner. You may want a human to fill some of your needs but you don't want a partner. You want someone to be useful to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:07 PM
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Sex workers then, you don't want a partner though You want a sex toy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:00 PM
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Doesn't really matter what you think of me, other men would pay for it so by your logic it's not abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:59 PM
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Yes. I am rational. It’s not abuse if other men would pay for it. That doesn't make sense. Some men pay for ball torture, does that mean if I torture your balls and make your bleed it isn't assault because someone else might pay for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:57 PM
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Your top priorities for a partner are hot, polite and quiet? You sure you don't just want a sex doll?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:55 PM
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This will stop being a problem when you value people beyond their physical attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:53 PM
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The US? Well granted I am just thinking of the Bible Belt since I live here lmao Haha absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 10:06 AM
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That part doesn't surprise me at all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 09:04 AM
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Wow that subreddit is so depressing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:55 PM
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I disagree there, solo orgasms are good but it's not the same as getting railed don't need commitment for penetration
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:11 PM
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Being single and working on yourself is an option
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:10 PM
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not for this woman. Confidence and humour are key factors for casual sex. Physical attraction can get my attention but it can't keep it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:39 PM
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Even though I know we're talking about men, a lot of older black women wig up quite often. It's not even an old lady thing anymore, plenty of young women embrace wearing wigs to experiment with styles and protect their natural hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:32 AM
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I'm sorry are you saying you're taking the opinions in this niche sub and applying your findings to judge the wider world? That's like spending time in a football sub and subsequently deciding that all men are sports obsessed
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:27 AM
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Willingly being the key word here. Decent humans don't push other humans to perform sexual acts they aren't willing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 08:21 AM
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I simply value it as data (am I special or just another number in what seems to be a long string of short relationships and hook ups??). I think this is an insecurity thing again, which I personally would work on instead of accepting. I can't take away your feelings but I just don't share them. I feel special when I'm shown love and commitment, I don't care how many people they met before me being with a virgin wouldn't make me feel more secure than being with someone with a promiscuity history.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:23 PM
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Okay I can understand that Still seems weird that sitting on someone's lap once and kissing til they cum counts as 1, and having anal, vaginal and oral sex daily with someone for a year also counts as 1 The number itself feels pretty useless to me, doesn't tell me much about what you did, why and how it affected you. The actual factors I'd care about when considering someone a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:25 PM
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You being with 60 guys in the past means I might not want to buy a ring for you and a house for us, sorry Why? If I'm already considering them as spouse material then surely I know and love them. At that point the number is just random information, what's important is the person and their values. As long as they're open about the context from the start then I don't get why it'd be a deal breaker. . I honestly don't understand how could this information not be useful beyond 'I'm feeling judged an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:17 PM
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So what homosexual activities count? Scissoring with underwear on? What if they make you cum from making out?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:17 PM
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No no, you asking the question is useful for me to dismiss you as a sexual prospect Me giving you the information doesn't tell you much about me that you need to know
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:35 AM
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I mean u will be if you just make up answers on behalf of strangers I like the Internet but I can't help but be confused when people assume they know intimate details about strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:33 AM
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No I just find the whole system arbitrary, everybody has different rules
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:32 AM
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When they have to start separating "sexual contact" into "counts" and "doesn't count" categories, you know you're dealing with a veteran of cock. Man I wish, I think the confusion here is that I'm not one to assume others think like I do. Part of the reason I find body counts so arbitrary is how so many people "count" different things. That's why I'd just like to talk about our experiences and how we felt about them, not just churn out an arbitrary number. Also I'm not straight and I find it wei…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:30 AM
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She’s the type to try to run that, ‘It was just head so it doesn’t count/ I didn’t cum so it doesn’t count/ It was in my ass so it doesn’t count’ game on you for sure. I'm definitely not but I am interested in all the assumptions you guys are making, really proving my point
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:26 AM
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No love, I don't care about any opinions on this information so why would I share it? Same reason I won't tell an astrologer my birthday, I don't care what assumptions you gave to share on this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:25 AM
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Call me Simone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:20 AM
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Thank you very much
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:11 AM
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Thank you for your kindness but honestly I'm fine. I find it quite amusing Like do you guys sit and wonder about random women’s body count and just all around in an endless cycle of confirmation bias Yes, yes they do. I'm fine with them assuming I'm lying to fit their narrative as long as I get to say my piece. The world is a big confusing place, it's often easier to assess others if we assume they perceive the world as we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:11 AM
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Interesting how you choose to withhold the number but continue to tell on yourself in a myriad of roundabout ways I choose to withhold because I learn who likes to make assumptions and judgements based on little information so that I can avoid those people. As dude said, there’ll be plenty of men who don’t care. I don't care what men think, i care what i think and I think it's not a metric you can understand people by learning. If you think there's some kind of insecurity behind this I assure yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:03 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:33 AM
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But what? I would like to know before answering what assumptions you're going to make based on this information. Why do you expect me to keep track?⁷
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:33 AM
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Well yeah I've been pretty consistent with my point
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:32 AM
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You just proved his point No I didn’t, they're just committed to their assumption Just own your body count and keep on, Own it? I don't even know it. I'd have to think first what sexual contact "counts" and that's different to everyone. There's many men who dont care You say this like I'm hiding it because I'm worried what men will think about me, I assure you this isn't the case. Apologises if I misunderstood your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:31 AM
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Irrelevant is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:55 AM
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Personally don’t have to worry about kids as much because I’m mixed race and typically date white so… I’m expecting some type of color. This doesn't track, what if she just cheats on you with another brown guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:43 AM
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Haha, incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:41 AM
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🙄 neither are bosses. But you wouldn’t take offense at the question “how many employers have you had?” or would you? I genuinely don't know and I'd be confused if my partner needed a definite number because what do you gain from learning this information. Well then it’s as simple as not being that type of judgemental person. Clearly I'm not, but there are those who are sounds like a sexual hangup Nope, again I just don't see why I'd need that information. I love talking about sex I just don't fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:52 AM
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You’re doing yourselves a disservice. Maybe take a more holistic approach to future conversations. I don't think I am, what would knowing their specific number do for me? But it doesn’t hurt does it? People like to count lots of things, People aren't things. And I think it can hurt because a lot of the people who need to know your exact number want to use it to make judgements about you. dunno why sex partners should be in a special separate un-talkable category. Specifically avoiding it is even…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:37 AM
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And what does my reaction say?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:07 AM
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I talk about sex a lot with my kinky friends and partners, specific body count never comes up Why do you need to know how your spouse got a scar on their right knee? I mean, I'd like to hear about specific stories around scars but I don't need you to keep track of every time you fell over
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:08 AM
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Interestingly enough I believe that your statement says more about who you are than your body count
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:05 AM
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I can't speak for others but no this isn't something I'm usually asked, can't remember having this conversation in person since I was a teenage
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 01:12 PM
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I don't care about n count and I want a partner who feels similarly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 06:35 PM
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Maybe it’s because I am self conscious about my high n count (can’t wait to hear the replies) but I just use a don’t ask, don’t tell rule I'm not self conscious, I'm happy to talk about my experiences as part of getting to know each other. I just don't want to be asked outright what my body count is because I don't think that's particularly important. The people who care about and make judgements based on the specific number aren't people I want to date. Also I get why high n counts for anyone c…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 01:10 AM
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So he would assume you're ashamed or hiding something. Ok, that's just another reason not to date him. No one with a low N count would get offended by being asked Not offended, just want to date someone who cares about the things I'm interested in (not this)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 01:01 AM
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No, that means it's not important to me and I want a partner with similar values
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 12:59 AM
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But your n count us indicative of your values though I disagree, which is why I'm not interested in any man who cares about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:57 PM
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At this point in my life, if a man asks me about N count it's an immediate no. I don't care what your number is, I care about your needs and values.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:36 PM
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Bourdain?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 11:28 AM
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Of course there are women who are bad in bed just like there are men, the important question to ask is why. In my purely speculative opinion, often women who are bad because they starfish and men who are bad because they can't make a woman cum share an issue. They approach sex as something that the man does unto the woman until he is finished. If you want women to be like this takes the iniative sometimes -knows what she likes and tells you exactly how she likes it. I remember my first explainin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 11:27 AM
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The point still stands that people can consider themselves happy in situations that could be improved if they haven't experienced better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 10:30 AM
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You can put a lot of effort in an still just be bad when you're unexperienced
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 10:28 AM
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I'd casually date someone with a kid as long as we never met, but for a serious relationship it's a no. Unless they were out of the house and independent, then it's a different question
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:59 PM
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The power only comes from you being desperate to get laid. Whether that's abated by easily available sex or self control, once you stop making decisions based on fear of celibacy your life will improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 10:29 AM
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There are many types of women in the world. Which is exactly why it's incorrect to state that women only care about looks. Of course there are shallow women, but in my mind I don't see why you'd want to be with them either. I'm sick of the default - men are wrong in their experience coupled with the assumption that men are not socially savvy enough to accurately read situations. I don't think it's that dramatic, it's unreasonable to think you've always read every social situation perfectly and u…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 10:12 AM
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So yeah, pretty much to sum it up. If men are going to be judged based on their income/assets, men may as well go for the hottest women possible because that's what will accrue them the highest value. You could always live by your own moral code and not worry about your perceived value? Do you care about partners or are they just potential assets? Why would you make decisions based on what others think of you? You decide your worth. If fertility and physical attractiveness is important to you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:53 PM
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I'm 26 in a student city, I don't use OLD that much but if I swiped for an hour I'd expect to get 20-30 matches I stop swiping after that cause I don't like to spend all day texting
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 06:35 PM
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women control the narrative on a lot of reddit What made you come to this conclusion, I was under the impression most reddit users were male
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:55 PM
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Comphet I've always been sexually interested in girls, but I swore I was straight for a long time because I'd been taught that that was the correct way to live
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:40 AM
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Do you ever think maybe girls are sleeping around because they like having casual sex? What does the guy's standards have to do with anything? Maybe this applies to insecure women but not confident mature women who know what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:55 PM
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If you're a straight person that only views the opposite sex through their sexual potential then no, you cannot be friends with them If you're honest, mature and self aware then it's no different than a same sex friend
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:25 PM
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You're not wrong, it was a meme back then (Edward being a paedo)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:26 PM
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no one in the audience or reviews complained about power disparities or any of that crap. No one mentioned it As a former teen twilight fan, this was very much an open joke about how fucked the 100 year age gap was. The writer hand waved it away with lore about vampires staying mentally the same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:25 PM
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Nope. Why would I fuck a man I don’t find attractive? I'll put myself on blast here I slept with a guy who I wasn't remotely attracted to just cause he was there and it'd been a while. I thought I got get off if we did it doggy but alas I was wrong. Potentially the worst sex of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:15 PM
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Romantic love REQUIRES lust. Haha asexuals would like to have a word
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 10:43 AM
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It's fairly boring but boring doesn't mean bad. Sex doesn't have to be death defying, it can be comfy easy and relatively boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:18 PM
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Got damn! Sleeping 5 hours a night and doing nothing else away from work but watching porn? When did he eat, bathe, see friends, see you? I don't need an answer I'm just thinking out loud
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:18 AM
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Did he have a job? How on earth did he find the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:36 PM
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Arbitrary number is arbitrary Shock
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:46 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:44 PM
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I actually find it a green flag that a man doesn't fall head over heels for every woman that gives him sex. Be with someone who is happy single and chooses to spend time with you, not someone desperate who section's onto anyone who smiles twice at them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:48 PM
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I’ve never really thought about it. I don’t actually know anyone’s number, it seems like a weird thing to ask. Thank god someone said what I was thinking I don't even know my own number or what even counts. If we 69'd with no penetration but both came does that count? What about 30s of shallow penetration before giving up, does that count? What about being with a woman, what counts as sex then? I just gave up
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:47 PM
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I think it's clear I was referring to how we actually in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 04:52 PM
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BTW I'm noticing this weird pattern on Reddit...very, very few women on here are single or admit to being single I'm a happily single woman
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:09 PM
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I mean the obvious inference is he must be wealthy, It's really not obvious She might be extremely mentally unstable and he's willing to put up with it because she's hotter than him Maybe she has a hidden disability/physical illness Maybe she's unwilling to ever have sex Who knows? Why do you go through a these scenarios and not think maybe she just likes him? Instead of trying to find a reason you can comprehend perhaps assume that she has her own reasons and you don't need to worry about. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:05 PM
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I don't believe in any of the pills because I actually go outside and see all types of men and women together who shouldn't be with each other based on all of these pseudo science bullshit. My thought summed up There are cultural norms and group trends of course, but none of the pills make sense because people are individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:59 PM
1

I'm more of a hot pink girl
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:51 AM
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Henry Cavill, I see him mentioned here often as the ideal man Whilst my brain recognises all the markers for hotness in him, I can't be attracted to him for the life of me. I've seen him interviewed and he bores me to tears. Seems nice enough to play a tabletop game with, but can't come close to inspiring passion in me. Like an expensive mansion where every single surface is the same dull shade of beige
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:31 AM
1

That description makes me more endeared to 3. The non conventionally attractive guy who owns the room and gets everybody dancing and excited screams confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:02 AM
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I like clubbing, not so much now for obvious reasons but I like music, dancing and meeting interesting strangers. I'm an ambient, I tend to like either loud & busy environments or silent solitude. I'm interested in 1 and 3 but only for as long as they can hold a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:59 AM
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I'm gonna go with the assumption I've briefly spoken to all 3 and haven't been turned off so far. I would probably split my time between 1 and 3, going home with whoever came across as most passionate. Sometimes extroverts are flashy on the outside either no interesting substance, sometimes you just need to get an introvert onto a familiar subject to loosen them up. I can do bold and i can do reserved, I don't like the idea of someone in the middle. If you're gonna do something then do it proper…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:56 AM
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There's no logic to this opinion whosoever. I don't like muscle bounce guys, that doesn't mean nobody does.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:56 PM
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where men have to verify their income level by sending documents to the company owning the app, the reasoning behind this format is that money is very important to female sexuality I don't think that's 100% true, I think it's stability and the ability to provide that sways most women. Just having money isn't enough, you could be a gambling addict who recently won big. Yeah you're rich now but your reckless personality makes me fear for my safety. For relationships anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:23 PM
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Oh they love to complain about it, because they love to complain about everything. Ha! Seems you've already made up your mind about every woman on the planet so let's end this here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 01:52 PM
1

How so? I've often found women irritated by male sexuality
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:39 PM
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Tbh I'd think they gave that answer because they were socialised to believe that having multiple sexual partners makes a woman less desirable. I don't think it's instinct or evolution, it's culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:12 AM
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Apologies, this could've been solved with an iron clad will. Not all last wills and testaments are equally written but a marriage contract might not survive content anyway. Did they specifically name the aggrieved parties in said will?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:36 PM
2

I think your idea of what "most" men want is a little rigid and unfounded
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:34 PM
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For instance, you grab straight male attention with sexy girls who have fat asses and big milky. That's a weird thing to say when not all straight men like big ass and titties. Sure it's a popular look at the moment but that doesn't mean every straight guy likes the features. Of course their are men who prefer women who are petite/athletic/nerdy/shy/chubby/androgynous.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:28 PM
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For me, someone who can make me laugh who is confident, decisive and playful is attractive. If we have quick banter and he jokes with me like an old friend whilst sharing his life passions with me then I can be excited enough for a ONS. It has to feel easy and genuine no awkward silences etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:23 PM
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I don't like it when people are presented with an idea and quickly stretch it to the extreme. Rape and grooming are serious issues that exist but you have to assess on a case by case basis. People are raped. People are harassed. Why would you simplify that down to escalation=harassment?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:18 PM
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That would just annoy me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:14 PM
4

You don't need to be married to legally divide assets?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 12:53 PM
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Nah, John Mulaney summed up my two cents pretty well. Having the title of husband/ wife attached just lends authority. Didn't have much authority when he got another woman pregnant It makes your attachment more concrete to everyone around you I don't need other people to validate the security of my relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 12:52 PM
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. When your spouse dies, you will want to be the the one who their possessions go to. Write a will His kids raised hell over his money and estate despite being unpresent, and she did not have claim to all of it because the kids were the next of kin. This could've been solved with a will.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 12:45 PM
3

I feel similarly, there's just no benefit to be getting married
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 12:44 PM
2

Fit body, financially stable, sexual experience These aren't things you need TRP to achieve and a rational leader. etc. I do not see red pill generalisations as rational
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 02:37 PM
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I think what she quite likes that there's less distraction. When you can't otherwise move there's no escaping what's happening. It's a lot easier to focus on one thing, if that makes sense. Yes I can relate to that. It takes away the stress of thinking what I should be doing with my hands/face/pose because everything is put in position and I just have to focus on being held there. Is there any reason why you haven't tried it since? Apart from it being time consuming I would really recommend it. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 06:12 PM
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They think they're all special, edgy, non-conforming and open people. The thing is; they're not, since they're exactly the thing that they say they despise... And is your informed opinion of everybody in the kink community worldwide?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:38 PM
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Shibari is so cool! I was suspended for an art project once and I swear it was the most peaceful half hour of my life. That instance was non sexual but I felt so light and free that i could easily imagine doing that in the bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:35 PM
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What irks me about BDSM, outside of my general discomfort with violence during sex (which is very much a personal preference) is the fact that the community seems so desperate to make out as if it's this uber cool and enlightened thing and it just comes off as kinda lame to me. What gave you this impression, was it the people you were swinging with9⁹ When I dealt with swingers/cuckolds/hotwifes/BBC fetishists, I just felt the was more awareness that it was "taboo" and made us freaks/weirdos. Ah …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:31 PM
2

When everyone counts on you to run a business day to day it can get overwhelming. Some people want a break from the pressure and the simple pleasure of being rewarded faith praise for completing a task
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:24 PM
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Additionally, being free from heteronormative relationship styles actually frees one from being super masculine or super feminine. They still exist of course, but there is a lot more room for expression. This has largely been my experience in the link community. There are no gendered expectations, just people being free with their needs and desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:57 PM
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The tough thing is for guys that we feel you should sometimes ‘take us a we are’. As in, if we are clean and shower regularly but have a bad haircut and fashion style then women shouldn’t care, just take us as we are. Why? If style is important to me I want to share that with my partner. I'm attracted to people who like to put thought and effort into a look, even if it's an "unfashionable" one. I do think women can overlook guys like this sometimes who maybe just don’t know about fashion/ good h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 10:37 AM
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Only if you have 0 game. You can ask for consent in a sexy way it's just extended flirting. One time I was drinking a cocktail and my date said he'd love to have a taste, i pushed the glass towards him but he ignored it, looked at my lips, smiled and said "I had something else in mind". I was smooth as fuck and gave me room to initiate or back off. You don't have to stop everything and robotically sign a contract, just tell them what you wanna do and make sure they're enthusiastically on board.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:48 AM
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Yeah I understand having different values, just got confused on the "damage" aspect
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 11:46 PM
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would not have a long term relationship with this person as I believe they are damaged. You think people with sexual experience are damaged, how so?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 11:38 PM
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There's a difference between having a certain type of guy as your best male friend for instance, whole heartedly support equality for minorities and letting them into your body. One's personal sexual preferences is no one's business. If she wants nothing else but white males, it's her business and it's not racism as long as she doesn't go around bragging about it. Racists that don't brag about being racist are still racist. You haven't given a reason yet beyond race, what is it about black men t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 09:34 PM
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No because sexual orientation and race are different matters
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 09:29 PM
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Yeah pretty much. Mens standards go out the window real quick in the face of reality. Ok. I've met men with standards so idk what to say about that An Asian guy may say he prefers only blonde white girls but will end up dating an Asian girl anyways because they're the only ones willing to fuck. Ok I'm done here
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:54 PM
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Does it have anything to do with skin colour?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:25 PM
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I only speak English. Is it racist to say I'd never date anyone who doesn't speak English as a group too? What does that have to do with race?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:18 PM
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Why is this being framed as a female issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:16 PM
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I don't understand this comment, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:13 PM
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It's like calling a woman racist for preferring black guys over white... In this analogy wouldn't the woman be saying "i wouldn't date a black man" which is kinda racist yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:39 PM
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Okay? My point stands. The issue is he was filming and approaching random women with the same line who were not happy about being approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:52 PM
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I did watch that part? I skipped over the rants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:06 PM
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I did watch parts if it i just skipped through the rants about snowflakes to get to the parts where he commented on the bones of the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:00 PM
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Nah don't tattoo yourself unless its for you. I've dated guys without tats, I've rejected guys with. It's nice but it isn't necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:24 PM
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There it is. Just talk to me as if I'm a person you want to have a conversation with, I'll feel comfortable and not targeted. Make me laugh and you're pretty much golden.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:09 PM
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Okay I didn't watch the entire video because the narrator was nauseating, but from what I gather this was a man approaching multiple women, filming them and saying the same vague line. It was not benign. All it really takes is for a woman to feel uncomfortable and thats enough to have the police come after you Yes, following women around, filming them when being told to fuck off and repeating the same line over and over will make people uncomfortable. That's not how you talk to people, I don't k…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:07 PM
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Y'know what, even if I don't want to date a guy I will normally give him a chance if he has the confidence to ask me out in person. As long as he comes across as polite and non murderous, I'll give it a go.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 03:48 PM
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If you're constantly, awkwardly cold approaching people in the same circles then sure, you're likely to be called sleazy. You'd have to do this unreasonably often to get a reputation for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 03:44 PM
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Nah, but to a 14 year old wannabe skater it sure helps
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 09:07 PM
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He's hot to me, even without the money/fame
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:11 PM
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This is interesting cause I find Davidson's nose cute, his mouth kissable and his dopet expression makes me feel comfortable. Whereas whenever I see MGK he looks like he's mad at me, I don't think he's ugly but I'm certainly not attracted to him. After hearing interviews of both I can say that I'd rather spend time with Pete. I like confident, goofy guys who don't take life too seriously. Totally agree with you though, people who look like that are a dumb a dozen in the alt scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:20 PM
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I don't think that's quite true. Pete Davidson reminds me of the older guys at the skatepark who had nothing going for them but all the girls fancied. They definitely weren't tradionally attractive, rich or successful but they were "cool" to us. They had tattoos, they were laid back, they were funny and surprisingly kind. There's something about a striking face, deep eyes and a dgaf attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:12 PM
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What counts as racially charged? Is any mention of race allowed?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:07 PM
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You're born into your race and you can't change it so it doesn't reflect who you are as a person. Especially when there's no cultural component and it's cause you want your kids to fit a certain image. As for the examples given, I can't give a general response because each situation is unique. Sexual orientation obviously matters if you intend on having an active bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:17 PM
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I asked why and they didn't have a reason. I think it's wise to reflect on one's ingrained bias so that we might make better decisions. By keeping the arbitrary race barrier (cause you can't choose your child's phenotypes & regressive genes exist) they may be missing out on an amazing, fulfilling relationship with a devoted partner... cause they have curly hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:12 PM
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When people have race requirements (not preferences) for relationships, I do question the reason
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:01 PM
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You missed my point but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:19 PM
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That's a big decision to make without much reason. You could be dismissing the perfect person for you cause their skin/hair type doesn't satisfy you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:16 PM
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Because this question falls into the category never listen to what a woman says, So are there certain questions that all women will just lie about. To the point where you can determine a stranger is lying over the Internet, simply from the question asked. women love to come onto social media and pretend that personality, and only personality matters to them. Multiple women on this thread have described physical traits they find appealing/preferable. You see it all the time Maybe you notice to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:14 PM
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It’s important that my kids look like me. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:05 PM
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I don't understand why you're so sure she's lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:04 PM
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50 shades of grey isn't a display of ssc kink. It's the story of an abusive relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 10:19 AM
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Men will always try to oppress us, we should resist it where we can. This means not encouraging their sexual objectification of us :) We should resist oppression by oppressing ourselves first? This is still dressing for men, exactly what you're accusing these women of doing. I'm gonna wear what I want to the gym for me, I'm not gonna cover myself for fear of the male gaze. Yes they like those clothes - because the clothes are sexualised and appeal to men and make them feel attractive and wanted …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:55 PM
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. It's a shame some women feel so much pressure to sexually gratify men even when doing things like working out It's kind of strange that you assume these women wear clothes to sexually gratify men and not because they like the clothes. don't think I am better than everybody else, I simply want more women to be unshackled from the slavery that is the male gaze Clue's in the name. If you've got a problem with the male gaze then start with men. Women hiding themselves away is not the solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:48 PM
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Conformity implies that they're wearing that not because they find them comfortable, but because everyone else is wearing them. Perhaps, but even if they are wearing clohes because they're in fashion that doesn't mean the clothes can't brown comfortable. The comfort may be the reason these clothes are in style.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:21 PM
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But I mean you should be able to tell if she’s slim or not based on photos pretty easily That's why it seems so pointless to me. Height is fixed but people carry weight in a different areas. You could have 4 150lb women and not know if she's athletic, top heavy, pear shaped, skinny, muscley, curvy or obese. You can determine body type from pictures, if you wanna ask her weight to make a jab then go ahead I guess but I'd just unmatch. Don't really understand the appeal of sticking around to get a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 12:17 PM
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Its subjective dude. That means if it matters to you, if doesn't have to matter to me. t’s only subjective in that one has their own standards for what constitutes “promiscuous”, Noooo shit but I think most people can recognize theres a large difference between having only 5 partners in your lifetime and having 20. That’s literally 4x the previous amount. I'm aware of how numbers work. You're kinda missing your own point. By your standards the dofference between 5 and 20 partners may be conseque…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:26 PM
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This comment just comes off as gaslighting Omg not everything is gaslighting! I cannot take you seriously at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:38 PM
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By your logic, there wouldn’t be any difference between some who slept with 5 people and someone who slept with 20 I mean... there isn't
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:07 PM
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don't need to sue you, just not sure why you'll brag about being 19 banging a schoolchild whilst you're an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:17 PM
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You've made a few points that would be interesting topics of conversation if they weren't so vague and randomly correlated. Also look at the Feminists in here calling incels terrorists as if 99% of them arent supporters or members of antifa/blm This is just buzzword soup
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:11 PM
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it's going to be a scary world for most men in the next century Wait, do you mean because it's gonna be harder to have sex? Damn I wish that was women's biggest problem
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:10 PM
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You don't know much about the world. I dated one of those when I was 19 (not the US and not in this century). She knew every position in history. Shhh, you're telling on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:06 PM
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Knew it, it's all about marketing. I follow some brothers with similar body types but different audiences, one posts comedy/fitness skits and the other posts sexy cooking videos. The comment sections are worlds apart even though they collab together and look fairly similar. The former is full of dudes talking about gains and the latter is mostly horny women. There's no universal reaction to certain body types
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:49 PM
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feminism 1: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities incel 1: a person (usually a man) who regards himself or herself as being involuntarily celibate and typically expresses extreme resentment and hostility toward those who are sexually active I'd argue that hostility towards others who have what you want closer describes a "victim mentality" than believing in equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:20 AM
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And don't try to tell us that you don't watch it either I normally don't though, my no.1 go to is my imagination That being said, when I do it's normally amateur d/s videos or semi-public scenes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:11 AM
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How about this, the average woman potentially isn't the same as the women you know so maybe don't make decisions about the whole gender based on a few personal experiences? It seems like you're saying most men can't relate to women cause women are mainly interested in expensive handbags. Surely that wasn't your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:08 PM
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There's not much in common between a manly man and a womanly woman in regards of friendship, other then they might want to fuck one an other. There are 1000 things they could have in common, music, education, travel, heritage. People have interests not dictated by their genitals. Also what is this "manly" and "womanly" talk? Are you saying that whenever feminine and masculine people are together they must copulate?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:49 PM
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There's just no way I ever cheat It's a choice that I'm not prepared to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:46 PM
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Check his flair
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:45 PM
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Hey my best friend is attractive, he's just not my type. I'm chaotic and he's anal, he's conservative and I'm free, I can see he's a good looking man and know that we clash romantically and sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:45 PM
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My best guy friend is a handsome fella and I'm not butt ugly, but we just aren't each others type. Physically there's nothing wrong with him, we used to fancy each other in school, but as adults we are just polar opposites. If we didn't grow up together we wouldn't be friends. At this point I couldn't be sexually attracted to this dumbass if I tried. From his side I know he doesn't want to hook up with me cause he laughed out loud at the idea. His exact words were "why would I want you", and fai…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:35 PM
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Every woman in this thread had great sex with a guy that had a small penis apparently. Why is Reddit full of the strangest virtue signaling group of people.. Why is it so hard to believe? I just checked the thread and there were woman voicing their disappointment and inability to get off with smaller penises.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:03 PM
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I already explained this. You replied to a person that said “men”. They didn’t qualify the comment, they said men, and you more or less just went with it. As I said earlier, if they or even you, would have said I responded to this "Wheres the logic behind having sex with something you claim to hate?? LMFAO this just means men can't do without women." I then went on to explain (my understanding of) the logic. Look if my comment was unclear then I apologise for the wording but like I said, that wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 05:12 PM
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Same applies to what you said about men seeing women as nothing but fleshlights As I've said, I was not referring to men in general. I was answering a question about how you can fuck someone you hate. You criticize me for making broad assumptions and yet you made them as well, about men, and I’m suppose to overlook that because you don’t like my method of showing you that what you said was I unproductive. What broad assumptions have I made? we as men as expect to police our thoughts and words so…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 04:50 PM
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I think you’re not understanding the point. It’s not suppose to work. That’s the point. You're right i don't get it at all. It’s not “beneath me” though, because after all, 1) I’m just human don't understand. Everyone is human, I wasn't suggesting you start acting like a dog. Cheating is a human behaviour that's beneath me, if someone cheated on me I wouldn't cheat back to hold up a mirror. I’m just another piece of shit man on the Internet, remember? Where am I supposed to be remembering this f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 04:29 PM
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Sure, which part was too harsh?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 04:16 PM
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I didn't work. Just devolves the discussion into a slapfight. If you think someone is acting in a manner beneath you I can't fathom why you'd want to stoop to their level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:55 PM
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That's an interesting choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:38 PM
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Just admit you hate men. 😂 I'm not six
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:23 PM
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-------, if you wanna fight i cba, if you wanna discuss then the obstinate attitude is boring. I've already told you that we were referring to men that sleep with women they can't stand. If you're going to yell at me that I hold a different opinion then go off I guess. Pretty pointless though
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:16 PM
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of course it's not an absolute, that's why I didn't say it explains everything about all men It drives me nuts that we still think of men as mindless fuck machines that will stick their dick in anything. That’s why I don’t quite fit in any community. Sorry to break it to you but you are not that special. You might have more luck finding a community if you ask first instead of assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:09 PM
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It’s sad to see what toxic versions of feminism have done to your thinking It's sad to see you make assumptions about a stranger instead of asking engaging questions. Not everything is an expression of men dehumanizing and objectifying women. No shit sherlock No different than incels thinking all women are evil, hypergamous sl*ts. I didn't say this applies to all men, just the ones that will fuck women they can't stand
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:02 PM
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I don't plan on having kids at all But a man who's a good father is instantly attractive because he has selfless and caring qualities. If he's in control of his life enough to be a present and capable father then I'm more likely to trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 12:47 PM
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Where did she say it was okay for women to lead men on?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:07 AM
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The measurement of attractiveness is subjective to the individual I think it's strange to judge how faithful or committed someone will be based not on how they act, but whether they're hotter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 10:11 AM
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The difference is Guys in your league could be pursuing a real relationship while good looking chads are purely looking for a lay I've seen too many real life couples to reliably trust the concept of dating within your "league" of attraction. I don't get it, there are men I view as tradionally handsome that I'm just not remotely attracted to. People are individuals, good looking chads could be pursuing a real relationship while Guys in my league could be purely looking for a lay. I don't judge a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 10:06 AM
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Do not fall into the trap of thinking that guys "in your league" are any less likely to use you. That's a personality trait found across all attractions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:45 PM
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I mean, violence against women for rejecting men is too common to dismiss that fear
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:23 PM
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There's definitely that type of guy but there are also guys who don't wanna bother you or seem rude. I been friends with those guys and it takes a lot to get them to approach women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:21 PM
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I've approached a lot of guys and I've never had a successful encounter don't just make up numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:20 PM
3

This has gotta be pure sarcasm right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:28 AM
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If I want to talk to him but he still hasn’t come over to talk me, he’s probably not interested. Is that a rule?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:26 AM
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Not all women are that fragile I've been rejected multiple times and somehow I cope
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:25 AM
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Again, only if you count her sexual best as her being unexperienced and not knowing whats she wants Enthusiastic sexual partner would be a virgin because we would be discovering our likes and dislikes together Strongly disagree, virgins are more often nervous and unsure of what feels good to them. My most fulfilling partners have been experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 08:28 PM
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How do you see this working out in the long term? This is just a recipe for dating people who don't like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:06 PM
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They aren’t. They hold views contrary to male interests. Like?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:05 PM
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I have a thought. Perhaps she stays with this asshole and complies is that he's gifted at manipulation? In that case I don't think your goal should be to become a better manipulator so that you too can real these benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:13 PM
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But the FACT remains she did acts with previous partners that now she won't do with you. so in conclusion her ex got her sexual best By her sexual best do you mean sex that she didn't enjoy but sounds exciting to you? If she liked it surely she would continue? Put aside the fact that anal hurts it doesn't change the fact that you still tried to please but won't now Or, the fact is that they tried something, didn't like it and don't want to try again cause they know it's not pleasurable? Which is…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:11 PM
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Thing is... I'm not a bag and my worth doesn't decrease with "use"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:05 PM
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It took me a while to realise that OP sees respecting someone's boundaries as a negative trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:04 PM
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Not really an explanation If we're going with the knife metaphor, I enjoy being "stabbed"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 04:47 PM
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. I disagree with them on other topics but will say this is a good part of it. Could I ask which topics?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:45 PM
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You can do what you want, just don't try to force people into roles based on their gender. The issue is saying "woman are only good at x and only men should do y. Well, most women and some men who want women to take on the role of the provider. Then having a different opinion than you doesn't mean you can't keep yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:44 PM
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Good personality = bonus necessity If you don't have a good personality then I'll get bored very quickly. Pretty and dull is not interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 11:51 PM
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sometimes just a small amount of attraction can grow into a much stronger attraction from a good personality. I met a guy through work once who i wasn't attracted to at all, then he spoke to me for 5 minutes and had me like a giggling schoolgirl. I still don't think he's that physically good looking but his confidence and attitude made him irresistible to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 11:46 PM
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By that logic, if it's fair for the woman to do the extra cleaning alone then the man should take care of his orgasms alone. Or you could actually be in a partnership with someone and contribute to the housework without being asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 12:07 AM
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That is a false equivalence. How do those influence hours of labor/work put into maintaining or growing the household? Are you asking what parenting your children has to do with maintaining the household? It's a huge amount of mental labour to be the one co ordinating all the trips, shots, uniforms, birthdays, assignments etc. on top of making sure the house stays clean.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:45 PM
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Why does it have to be a conspiracy? It can just be a fact that on average, in hetero partnerships, the woman picks up the majority of housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:43 PM
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Well that was a big leap Besides, they all end up married apart from Samantha who's married to herself. If anything the lesson is "don't settle for the first guy that comes along, shop around, when you're ready to commit to someone you love you'll make it work"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:40 PM
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how would you feel if someone had a marriage and children with you but fundamentally ended up being unhappy with the relationship because of sex and wanted an agreement to get divorced, would that be okay? I don't get it. Yes?? What's not to get, you shouldn't stay in a relationship you're not invested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:37 PM
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I don't get it, the idea is to seperate sex from love You do get it then would say the idea is to try integrate sex with love, all the theories on psychology agree with this. Well that might be an idea but it's not what I'm referring to f you go out to have sex with one type of person and marry another, it's going to be a disaster, Why? What type of person are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:13 PM
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Guess this was a sore spot for many. Very triggering. Must have struck a nerve. Huh? The sore spot of men abusing women? Yeah I guess so...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:11 PM
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Yeah do you have sex with BAD, bad men and later cry to your husband's about you loss of libido and wonder why no man loves you. What do those 2 things have to do with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:10 PM
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Watching the show as an adult is hilarious. When I was younger I thought their fucked up relationship was the height of romance. Now I just laugh, Carrie Bradshaw is a moronic child. 90% of her problems could be fixed by just communicating openly and adhering to a budget. The show itself is about a woman who's a hopeless romantic but is Mr Bigdicks bangmaid because if she left him she'd alpha widow some poor beta. I don't refer to people in alpha/beta terms, but I loathe how she falls for mr big…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:09 PM
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Women were used, lied to and led on before the sexual revolution. It's just people being as selfish and shitty for their own gain, tale as old as time. My aunts were used by men, so was my grandma and her foremothers. The difference is, I'm the first generation that could open a bank account without a man's signature. We have more legal agency now. The only issue is trusting people who promise the world and don't come through with actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:04 PM
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What in my comment made you think such? No the idea is to know what you want and to separate them. If you want sex don't chase relationships with people you're not ready to commit to. Commit when you're serious about commitment to someone who feels the same way. Marriage is a contract, take it seriously. L
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 06:57 PM
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Or is it only okay when your trying to attack a man? Lol, what was the point of this comment. I don't know either of you or your gender identity and for now I don't care. Haha, just irrelevant. And one person initiated the personal attacks Are you the type of person who thinks it's okay to be shitty as long as someone else was shitty to you first? Is that the line of justification here or am I wrong? Still a big difference between a sarcastic comment about personal responsibility and lol, you we…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:15 PM
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The promotion of the “sex in the city life style” and hookup culture has lead to an environment where men take women less seriously for relationship and commitment. I'd argue that hook up culture discourages men from marrying people they don't like just so they can cum. Good. Men who aren't serious about marriage and commitment should not be looking for it or stumble backwards into it just to go along with convention. I'm happy that men who don't want to marry can have sex without it. I'm glad t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:08 PM
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Kinda seems like their personal attack was 'you should focus on yourself' and yours was 'haha you were probably molested' See the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:58 PM
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Well, everyone isn't having fun your brain's biased
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:14 AM
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But no more than 5
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:12 AM
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Hey if you can give anecdotal evidence, then so can I. I have met guys that I wasn't attracted to who won me over with their confidence and humour. Some of my friends are dating guys I find unattractive but they seem to have a great laugh together. You don't need to be attractive to everyone. People have different types. My ugly is another person's mum. There's millions of married people that I find ugly, they still pulled someone for life. It's just not objective
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 09:51 PM
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An unattractive man commanding your attention is considered a sexual harassment. No it isn't. This is hyperbolic. If he's commanding my attention then clearly he has my consent to engage, if I'm uninterested then he won't have my attention. Making you laugh puts him in the friendzone. Silly. I know being funny is widely attractive, that's not just a me thing. I have seen boring interviews with attractive men and women could help themselves. They were laughing at the dumbest things he said. I'm s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 06:50 PM
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Coping with what? What am I denying and what makes you so sure about a stranger's life?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:39 PM
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Henry cavill may be attractive to the average woman, that doesn't mean nobody can be attracted to Danny devito. I don't think it's worth comparing attractiveness because people are unique. Just focus on what makes you attractive, not being desired by large swaths of strangers Also I don't find Henry cavill attractive. He's handsome and in shape but I've seen a few interviews and he seemed pretty boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:30 PM
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I am being honest. I'm definitely more open to receiving guys I'm initially attracted to but my past partners vary significantly in age, gender, size, shape, height and probably looks. The only thing they all have in common is making me weak at the knees. I am very susceptible to being charmed. I can't count how many people I've found visually stunning who then couldn't carry a conversation. Instant turn off, if I'm totally honest I have a short attention span. Being pretty is nice, but if you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:26 PM
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You'd have better look squeezing fairy dust from a tree branch
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:46 PM
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Neither do you, you just made your own assumptions based on your bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:45 PM
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I really don't think I'm that special. Hook ups are one thing but most of my friends long term date people they, can have a conversation with. Besides, handsome means something different to everyone. If you're into the laid back heavy metal look then a clean cut manicured ig model won't appeal to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:44 PM
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Surely this isn't true for everyone? I know it isn't for me. The way they approach me, talk to me and if they make me giggle is most important. I'm definitely more flexible with looks than personality
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 01:01 PM
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How do you know that? You've just assumed that any woman you see being mistreated would laugh at you dying? Do you seriously know this to be a fact
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:25 PM
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Speak up for the women you see being mistreated
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:16 PM
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Don't they often speak about women as if they have no capability of rational thought, especially compared to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:13 PM
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Become the best man I can be, i want to make big money, i wanna get the most jacked physique, and as egotistical as it sounds, I wanna become the guy who women want to be with and the guy men want to be, What about being the guy you want to be? If your goals are based on other people's perceptions how will you ever be happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:11 PM
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Oh because they see them having sex with a woman as them winning and the woman losing. They're not interested in the woman as a person, she's basically a warm fleshlight.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:10 PM
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If you still need it explaining, they're not equating ed going with men who use women for sex. They're acknowledging that other people will sometimes have desires that aren't relatable for you. Doesn't matter if it's nipple belts or hate fucking, can't understand the pleasure in either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:07 PM
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Learning this explained a lot about men, but I still don't understand the concept of sleeping with someone you absolutely disdain. It's such an obvious turn off for me, I sleep with people attracted to, I'm attracted to people I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:04 PM
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ok
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:48 PM
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Isn't there always the option to take no pill, self reflect on your confirmation bias and focus on being content without relationships? People betray each other, it's a nasty human trait but it's certainly not gendered
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:00 PM
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Idk, all the people they mentioned would look hot wearing trash
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:18 PM
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You can't be a feminist and kill women for not dating you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:01 PM
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The idea Rollo Tomassi and Rich Cooper put out there, that a woman can never love a man the same way men love women Do you believe this applies to all or even most M/F pairs?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 07:59 PM
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Neither is perfectly acceptable Oh I just asked cause you said don't answer neither I’m just making the point that to the average woman, they would rather be alone than date the average man I don't think you can take that conclusion from the original question, I don't see the link. Plus I don't think attractiveness is objective
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:36 PM
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I do not think such, however I believe that a good portion of gender expression comes from culture rather than sex. Gender is a good starting point to ask questions. E.g. is this man I'm dating reluctant to be vulnerable because he's been brought up in a culture of toxic masculinity? If so knowing the root cause can help address the problem. I wouldn't, however, say "I'm dating a man so he'll probably act in the following ways because that's how men are biologically wired and I need to behave a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:30 PM
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What doesn't matter? I normally speak to people before I sleep with them and I couldn't be attracted to someone who thinks they can determine a person's choices and motivations by their gender. I find it hard to believe that someone could think in such black and white terms about relationships and not let it show. I like curious, thoughtful, philosophical people who question their own conclusions. I checked out this site and a few others to hear from the horse's mouth what red pill means. It's c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:55 PM
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So why is "neither" not an acceptable answer? In the real world I don't have to chose a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:39 PM
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This pretty much sums up why I'd answer no. I couldn't respect anyone who views the world this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:02 PM
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What's your reasoning for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:08 PM
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Why would I want to sleep with someone who doesn't like me? That's a rather unattractive trait. I could just stay at home at get myself off
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 10:43 PM
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Because you're literally categorising women by whether they're good for sex (whore) or good for marriage (madonna) Seeing people as these limited stereotypes is strange to me. I can be a caring loving homemaker and still be interested in daring sexual exploits. Women aren't either insatiable sex machines or homely wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:04 PM
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Dividing women into good for sex and good for marriage is though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 09:53 PM
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Having a Madonna/whore complex isn't the same as having standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 09:46 PM
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Why? This is such a bizzare take to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 08:53 PM
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Huh? Most birth control responsibilities fall on women
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 12:06 PM
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I think you might be missing the point. People aren't Madonnas or whores, you shouldn't divide women up into "good for sex" and "good for marriage" with 0 crossover. Women who enjoy wild sex can enjoy marriage, monogamy and motherhood. Married monogamous mothers can enjoy wild sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 12:04 PM
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. Maybe it is because I know more guys but the female friends I have never opened up to me about the strong feeling she had for her boyfriend I'd strongly lean towards this idea. don't make judgements on gender and the world based in interactions with your specific friend group
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:55 PM
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Wow you really think humans are quite monolithic in their tastes and it feels like you evidence is "dude just trust me" Not really enough of an argument to even counter
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:57 PM
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The overwhelming majority of men would never even conceive of thinking they could get right, she is facially the most attractive woman I've ever seen. Are you serious? The woman on the right is the most facially attractive woman you have ever seen? More attractive than any other face you've noticed? Obviously all men would kill to get the girl on the right, ??? I can see most or even the average young American guy being surface level attracted to her but all men would kill? Just based on a nice …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:36 PM
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How do people know this universal scoring system? I couldn't put a number to either of those girls and I'm not remotely attracted to either cause I know nothing about them. I could point out specific features but it's just a picture, how am I supposed to judge them? I recognise from media what I'm supposed to read as homely and what I'm supposed to read as sexy, but both of them are equally unattractive to me cause these photos give me nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:32 PM
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I love how this is just an elaborate Madonna/Whore comparrison
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:30 PM
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Because feminism in most peoples definition means “we can be like dudes too” instead of “feminist traits are equal to masculine traits… it’s just different, and different ain’t always bad.” Most people according to who? Also, cuz it’s a debate sub. I come to debate, not circle jerk Sure but I normally debate points I believe in, not things I assume other people think I consider myself a feminist, but not in the way most people consider themselves a feminist. I want equality, not virtue signaling…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:47 PM
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No I mean why even comment a point that you don't believe in
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:38 PM
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Not to me Then why even comment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:04 AM
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That's... not what feminism is
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 05:15 PM
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I do understand this. Your preference is fine for you, that doesn't mean you get to attack other people, whether calling them "cum dumpster" or a prude. Just because you don't want them doesn't make them unworthy of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 06:04 PM
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Maybe it's because the person you bond with becomes more attractive to you because you know them and they treat you well. Looks are just one part of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:07 PM
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Thank god for this comment You don't have to follow a set structure, everyone has their own timeline for being comfortable with sex. The length of that timeline doesn't affect your standing as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 08:12 PM
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Women always tell men to "work on their personality" but nobody ever says that to women because its assumed that women are just great people already, and that's not true Really I thought that men were told to work on personality because that's what women are interested in. As a woman the only advice I've gotten personality wise is how to appear more affable and compliant. The general consensus was that men are visual creatures so you'd better keep your appearance up to keep them. I don't believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:18 PM
0

Yeah, sure
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:59 PM
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If you're raised in an unstable environment then drama and excitement can feel like love to you. Some people out here are dating with unresolved trauma, they don't recognise secure love without the jealousy and pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 09:28 AM
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Trauma bonding
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 07:04 PM
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Overall a male extrovert will fare better than an introvert purely because of the expectation of men to be the pursuers in relationships. Not purely, i still think that the main factor would be accessibility. Extroverted outgoing people make a lot of connections, the more connections the more likely one will end in a relationship. Most women in the dating market still prefer traditionally masculine men, Do you need to be desirable to most women? As long as there's a market for you, you have a ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 11:46 PM
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The current default is men prioritizing women's safety and takeing care of women. Let's not pretend that this isn't part is due to the idea of men owning their women. The story goes that Fathers "give away" their daughters to their husbands, even before that we have purity balls where children promise their dads to stay virgins. People may subscribe to this idea to different degrees, but men protecting the women in their lives is generally expected. The flipside being that women are expected to …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 10:56 PM
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Yeah, it'd be great if people leapt to my defense, but I don't expect it of anyone really. As long as they didn't purposefully throw me under the bus then I can't judge them for how they react in a scary situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 10:37 PM
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Introversion is completely at odds with the male gender role Men and women don't have to fit into neat little boxes, we all express ourselves in different ways and fall for each other's quirks. I know plenty of girls that like quiet or shy guys, just look at r/rolereversal Practically it is harder to meet & get to know introverts and they get less practice in the dating field which can lead to awkwardness. I do see this as a disadvantage, but not a disqualifier.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:59 PM
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People can be fun and responsible though, it depends on the individual
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 01:28 AM
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Are you okay? Some women do enjoy sex... I don't think anybody is entitled to snyhrint, but in a relationship you should both be open, giving and sexually compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 01:26 AM
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Why don't you make the effort to be sexually adventurous within your relationship? You don't have to be the ideal man you just have to be her ideal man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 01:24 AM
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I expect an exchange of honesty, affection and love.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 02:14 PM
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I've been stabbed by a woman you guys aren't great on the other side of it I'm not talking about my personal experience i'm talking historic countrywide murder and domestic violence statistics, in which women are more often than not the victim. I'm talking about why generally the average woman is more trepidation about her safety on an upcoming romantic encounter than the average man. That's because we're at a higher risk of being attacked or even killed just for saying no. I'm mistrustful of be…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 10:19 AM
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Comments like this make 0 sense. All men don't want the same thing All women aren't turning into the same person Life exists outside of America
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:19 AM
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Problem is they have a habit of interchanging men. Body count. What is the problem here? Why should I invest into someone with a high turn over rate Can we talk about people like they're humans? It's okay to date around and move on from people that you don't see a successful future with. They may have a connection with you that they didn't feel with anyone else. Why should someone settle down with the first person who's nice to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:16 AM
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Some people really think that casual sex is a new invention. Sure we've made it much easier and less stigmatised, but don't take your grandma's word for it. Secret hook ups have always happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:12 AM
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Maybe cause when relationships go badly for us we're at risk of turning up dead
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:09 AM
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What's your understanding of this phrase? It doesn't mean that women are incapable of deceit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:07 AM
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Exactly. This is why I will live and die by #NoHymenNoDiamond. It's the hill I am willing to die on. Luckily for you sexual intercourse doesn't generally remove the hymen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:05 AM
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Agreed, I don't think k there are set gender rules to this question. There are different types of people and you should date someone with your values.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 11:02 AM
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Is this a joke? I find everything about this reasoning gross
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 01:39 PM
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I don't know rich people so in my specific experience it's always the personality. Make me laugh and you can laugh me into bed
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 10:18 PM
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Brilliantly unexpected performance from Joseph Gordon Levitt, I think he also directed IIRC
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:10 PM
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What's funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:34 PM
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I feel like Michael's commitment to his self improvement speaks for itself. His authentic self is grinding hard and learning more. My concern is Brad who's never tried is his life, how will he react when faced with adversity? Will he sulk if I don't automatically think he's a demon in the sack? Will he experiment new things with me? Why is he not concerned with self improvement at all? Does he do any inner work? Is he gonna act like he's God's gift to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:18 AM
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Yeah the first guy sounds really boring, he doesn't spend any time working on himself? That's a huge no. I want the guy the who's always trying harder and doing more in bed. I have a short attention span and might be autistic too (paperwork pending for a diagnoses) guy two sounds more interesting to converse with. I love awkward in the streets and freaky in the sheets, it's my favourite combo. I can be extroverted enough for the both of us, as long as he still likes socialising I'm good.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:56 AM
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But everyone laughing at the "joke" does take it seriously to a certain extent. That's why you posted it on this specific subreddit.
/r/AntiFeminists10/09/21 10:54 AM
1

Yeah I'd be sad, but I don't place my value on owning a waffle maker. It's just one part of me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:09 PM
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I have a waffle maker I like my waffle maker I am happier either waffles in my life. That does not mean I need the waffle maker, wanting to keep the waffle maker doesn't make me a hypocrite I was still happy before. If anything happened to my waffle maker I would be sad, then I would do something else. The waffle maker is not my sole.source of happiness and it'd be super weird if it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:42 AM
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He isn't, he's asking what's the point of advice that basically says to not rely on other people or what they think and just focus on your self. What is the question here? That's the whole point. Rely on yourself to be happy and not a romantic relationship because they're fragile anyway. There's no magic fix. You have to choose what defines you. (E.g. I have a friend that's a virgin in his late 20s that lives a happy active life and has never defined himself as an incel)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:40 AM
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There isn't a hashing, there's femicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:34 AM
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I mean... kinda. I'm single right now and I haven't had sex in a while but I'm not mad at anything/one or placing blame. I don't define myself by it and I'm certainly not mad at the people who won't date me. Sure I'm horny and I definitely miss cuddles but it's just not the end of the world. If I get sad about it I'll talk about it, without getting mad at vague generalised groups. I don't want to get married so I've accepted that there will be dry spells. If those dry spells last weeks or decade…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:31 AM
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But OP isn't talking about a personal specific need. They're saying that scientifically, people require romantic relationships to achieve happiness. Want isn't need. But you can't act like you know them and their feelings better than they know themselves, and you can't decide for someone else what they need to be happy. Than neither can OP. They can't argue that you do need a relationship to be happy if we can't argue that you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:23 AM
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Anyone unable to ever have a romantic relationship will probably be sad That still don't need prove the logic that you need a relationship to be happy. I'm from a religious background and have multiple single older relatives/family friends. They're happy, they're active and they don't define themselves by their lack of romantic relationships. Sure it can help, but it's just not a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:17 AM
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That's... not how it works You'll die pretty soon without food, guaranteed. You don't need a romantic relationship to carry on living even though they are nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:13 AM
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Romantic relationships aren't the only type of relationship. You can be single and not be lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:11 AM
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Wow this is eye opening for me. I guess I've never had a female friend who's mentioned being able to differentiate between penises. Is your friend getting constant UTIs or are they avoiding sex, and has their doctor said anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 12:40 PM
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Thank you body!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 12:38 PM
2

Ahh okay, I've never had a problem with natural lubrication so this makes sense. I've used artificial lube once and the texture really freaked me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 10:36 PM
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Yikes, is this a medical issue? How would your vaginal canal know one penis from the next?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 10:35 PM
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Do many women have this issue? I'm a female and I can't even tell the difference between condom or condomless sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 08:52 PM
2

Oh so it's assumptions Got it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 05:20 PM
3

Is getting married before having kids predicting the future? Yeah cause no one ever got married and abandoned their kids Is asking women to make literally ANY attempt at planning asking them to predict the future? Are you pretending that single mothers are just people that didn't plan properly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 05:10 PM
3

Okay so make women be able to predict the future, gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 05:04 PM
2

If you choose to not take advantage of the things you could have access to that's not the same as paying for something that you have zero logical reason to pay for. The logical sense is that you have to exist in the same society as that kid. Do you want someone educated and cared for or a hardened criminal who's had to fight all their life. The logic is that if you don't pay for the schooling you'll be paying for the incarceration or medical bills in 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:53 PM
2

And "too big to fail" bank bail outs
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:46 PM
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But I pay my taxes regardless of whether I will or want to I am child free, however I'm aware that children grow into adults that will have jobs and responsibilities. I would rather those adults had a good education because I exist in the same society as them. It wouldn't be me assuring they grow in poverty but the mother. Ah yes, placing the blame on the parent that stayed. Classic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:45 PM
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Ew. Chad? We all live together, just like I pay taxes to repair roads I'll never drive on and fun schools I'll never attend. In the same vein I was born in a clean hospital that was paid for by taxpayers before me. That baby lives in the same world as you and if you ensure it grows up poverty stricken then you're just willfully damaging your own community. If they turn to crime or drugs and need to be imprisoned or taken to emergency care then that's your taxes aswell. Might as well put the mone…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:30 PM
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Why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 03:22 PM
15

Ah yes because a significant portion of your taxes go towards single mothers, not oil subsidies and military contracts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 03:17 PM
3

At a minimum. If women need to fuck other men to stay happy, sure let have it. In my experience that's not usually the case. Okay buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 02:46 PM
9

For men only huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:22 PM
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It's not a lie, it's just not the be all and end all. Yeah i check men out but someone being physically attractive doesn't mean i want to sleep with them or date them. There's a much higher bar than "passably attractive". There's plenty of people i find physically attractive that i wouldn't date or sleep with because they're emotionally unattractive. I've also slept with people that I wasn't instantly attracted to that looked better after I got to know them. Being emotionally attracted to someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 12:53 PM
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I'm clarifying my earlier comment. I meant that if a big dick was her priority then that's what she'd be chasing. Yea because her priorities changed, she's not interested in him for him she's interested in him because he can pay her bills Well that's your assumption. She said she was happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 12:55 AM
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No I'm not. Mynpoint is if all she cared about was big dig she'd be out in the streets searching for it, obviously she chose OP. She said she was happy with him so clearly dick isn't everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:45 PM
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Well according to OP you and a your friends would drop real women for AI in an instant
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:53 PM
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Source: coz I say so
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:52 PM
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The reason I used looks as an example was because it is a good equivalence I don't see how looks affect someone's performance in bed, which is why I used oral sex as an example. Women like being called pretty, attractive, sexy, and just generally good looking. It's important in the female world view to be attractive and their partner finding them sexually desirable as an attractive person. It's the equivalence of men with their sexuality. I don't think I see men and women this black and white. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 07:51 PM
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Now now, she also viewed OP as a wallet (given that he was an engineer and she was just a paralegal), Did she say that or did you assume that? Yeah, i'm guessing the overwhelming majority of men will check out of the relationship if they overhear their fiancee heavily insiinuating that your dick is trash compared to an ex-lover who dumped you. Okay, I feel like you embellished here. I remember her saying that OP was great, just not a big as her ex. That doesn't mean dick is trash, that means dic…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 06:58 PM
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She didn't say it to OP, they overheard That is the same thing to me, I would understand if I heard my partner say that so and so ex was better at head because they had no gag reflex. Okay, i do. I'm good at other things. I don't think my partner is with me for my sexual talents alone. I'm a whole person and some things you can't change. I wouldn't be super happy about it, but they're a person and they deserve to air their emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 06:56 PM
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Yep, agree to disagree. People have negative emotions sometimes and they are allowed to share them with their confidants. It's sad that OP overheard but it's not like their partner announced it to the room. She wasn't mocking or disparaging him, she said how great he was and mentioned one thing that he couldn't help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 06:44 PM
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Okay ammendment, if the dick was that important then she would've left OP. The point is, size clearly mattered more to OP than their partner. I'm just being realistic. Your partner won't always be flawless and people talk to their friends about the pros and cons of their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 06:41 PM
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Different people have different values. I can love and value my partner whilst loving and valuing other people. I want my partner to have other people they can be emotionally open with. I value someone who can articulate their thoughts and feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 12:09 PM
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I sure I don't appreciate my partners complaining to their friends about me, but I'm also aware that they're a person with the right to express their feelings. I don't have to like everything that crosses their mind. Sometimes you want to discuss your thoughts and I don't see anything wrong with sharing your hopes and fears with your best friend. . I wouldn't want my boyfriend to tell his friends details of our sex life either. We'll have to agree to disagree then, I have 0 issue with my partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:47 AM
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I mean it's ok to think your ex was better in bed. But to tell anyone any personal detail about your sexlife is disrespectful to your partner. She shouldn't have done that I don't understand this. So your current partner is the only person. In the world you can talk to about your sex life? You can't ask your best friend for advice or confide in them about your experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 09:10 AM
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Just from my standpoint, if a woman is complaining about her BFs dick size the relationship isn’t good. She doesn’t have a lot of respect for him. Women mostly want to brag about their men because it makes the woman look good amongst her peers. A statement like this comes from someone who wants to talk about how bad they have it. Interesting take. I saw it as a woman confiding in a close friend about how good she has it. That the sex factor doesn't. After as much because she's found everything s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 09:09 AM
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If your partner will speak like that in public the person is fully untrustworthy and a terrible partner. They weren't in public, they were in a room with their best friend. She didn't disparage her partner, this is the type of thing you talk to your friends about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 09:06 AM
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I feel this, my mum got swept off her feet at 16 and therefore could only give me naïve, outdated relationship advice. I played my role and got royally fucked over by men willing to take advantage of my trusting nature. Just wish I didn't have to learn the lesson the hard way
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 07:06 AM
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I was always taught to be a submissive a patient helper to the head of the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 06:56 AM
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If you abstain more then you don't have a higher sex drive. The sex drive is basically the want to fuck anything. I can want to fuck anything but ultimately I'm in control of my base urges. I can be desperate for sex and still have the wherewithal not to put myself in a dangerous situation or spend money I can't spare, especially for unsatisfying sex. Bad sex is worse than no sex. It leaves me more horny than before. If my desire is raging and I see no decent prospects then I'm gonna DIY.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:28 PM
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Men spend less time picking because we only care about "cuteness", while women must select for their safety too. This makes sense. I wish I were having sex with more people more often, but I have to vet every guy for murdery vibes first and that takes a while. Also with the way some men treat sexually active young women, I also have to make sure they're not a raging misogynist who thinks sex is a zero sum game.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:13 PM
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Lmao, women aren’t mostly bisexual. If you disagree, try suggesting a threesome to your wives/girlfriends and see how that goes, lol Being bisexual ≠ Being open to threesomes Source: am bisexual woman, do not constantly crave simultaneous male/female sex
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:09 PM
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Not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:16 PM
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If you're convinced that's true then nothing i say could convince you otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:11 PM
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I know I'm partial to big hairy dad bod types but my best friend prefers skinny e-boys so I'm stumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:34 PM
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The goal here is to gain as much feedback as possible from as many women on this sub to build a picture of the ideal physical archetype, so we as men have an image to work towards Move your goalposts cause it's not gonna happen. You're never gonna be attractive to everybody, you need to focus on being the most attractive version of yourself. Some of my friends have boyfriends that I couldn't feel attraction towards if I tried for 100 years. Doesn't matter. They found someone they connected to an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:28 PM
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From my observations during my lifetime, women's tastes are much more monolithic than men's and much more dependant on genetics. Please detail your observations, they must be rather comprehensive for you to place so much weight on your own opinion. I think on average women have a lot more boxes to tick when it comes to both looks and utility in a partner. Meaning they are more shallow What part of having standards makes you shallow? Also what made you come to this assumption?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:21 PM
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Do I have something to say to "Everyone's observations and opinions are biased in some way shape or form"? It's kind of a nothing comment so you got a nothing response.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:05 PM
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Yes but not all opinions are equally biased. Some opinions should be taken with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:49 AM
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Do you think there's a possibility that your observations are slightly biased?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:01 AM
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She could do that through Google, youtube or any other search engine She can't share and connect with her friends through Google. They tag each other in cute little challenges. And yes shes for sale, i feel for bad for your dad. It's hard for me to take this seriously. The idea that my 60 something year old conservative Christian mother who's been with my father since 16 and leaves her Facebook open on the family computer is... "for sale". It's a bit unrealistic. And im not pursuing them, they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 07:06 PM
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Social media for women who are not directly profiting from it are effectively leaving for sale signs on themselves Okay, my mum uses social media. She likes to look up vegetarian recipes and talk about menopause fitness. Is she for sale? Should i let my father, he husband of 30 years know that she's keeping her options open and he's being cucked? . Im really tired of these people basically telling me i look like a solid meal ticket but are shocked when i have expectations of them too. How about …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 06:54 PM
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If shes on facebook after i commit to her she won't be with me for long Ah okay, good luck with that The better question is how long do you leave a for sale sign up after you buy it? If this is an analogy then my social media isn't a for sale sign? Because, y'know... I'm not an item to be bought and sold.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 06:48 PM
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So you would rather die than have your significant other use Facebook?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 06:44 PM
1

What would an example of such cucking be?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 06:34 PM
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Anything. I'm not willing to change anything about myself to be more sexually marketable. If you don't see value in me then move on, I see value in myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 06:33 PM
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I don't think men are a monolith so that's a non starter
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 05:04 PM
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Am I being trolled?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 03:44 PM
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You do realise the point about men exploiting women was brought up first I do, I didn't ask for clarification because I'm familiar with the argument. yet you only react in a visceral way to one of those said? Which part of my reaction was visceral? Do you think that's totally insane, just a little bit? Do you think you're slightly exaggerating, just a little bit?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 03:36 PM
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It's my generation of women. I know what the game is Okay it's my generation too, and I don't think such sweeping generalisations hold up to scrutiny. You may know the game for your specific experience and social circle but by no means is this the rule for all millennial women. And what are Millennial men like? Like Dan Bilzerian. We know how this will play out. That is literally one guy, you can't possibly be saying all millennial men are like dan Bilzerian. I gave my man a 25 year old with a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 03:29 PM
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A lot of Millennial women are screwed right now. They either don't have men or got a man recently that is not invested in them. Where did you get this from? They're afraid that younger women with onlyfans will take their men. Is this true? Is any of this true? I'm a millennial woman and I'm certainly not worried about teenagers with only fans pages "taking [my] men". Millennial women figure that if they get younger women off onlyfans they can keep getting free meals on tinder. Do those two group…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 02:47 PM
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Exactly how are women exploiting men on only fans?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 02:33 PM
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Your emotion might be warping your logic. Only fans is not the be all and end all of sexual content
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 02:32 PM
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I got down to earth with my preferred requirements, then I included married men. My chances immediately doubled and I became "easy to please".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 08:00 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:09 AM
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I just don't get what that has to do with age, surely you wanted to love and protect her for who she was as a person and what she meant to you, not because of her particular age. That's just growing up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 06:18 PM
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Why would you want to be entertaining a 21 year old at your age? I can see brief physics attraction but when I comes to dating what would you have in common? You need to start looking at 30 like you looked at 21 when you were a kid. Gotta be real. How did you look at 21 when you were a kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:25 PM
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If all if this is true then why would you say I am 42 and it's over for me. I was hot as a kid and got laid all the time with no money: you start to fade out around 35, 38. ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:15 PM
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Okay you only gave me one age in the comment so I went with that, Cause yeah a 40 year old hitting on a teenager that could still be in school is a little paedophilic Not even sure what this Is about anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:39 PM
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This sub isn't just for women <25 though, u would expect them to be grossed out by 45+ year old men. It just sounded like the comment was referring to all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:27 PM
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Oh hahaha you're so young you're literally still dating kids in school, of course that makes sense. This isn't the case for women in their 20s and 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:25 PM
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Ever considered working on your personality so your looks don't matter as much?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:19 PM
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Who is we? I love men in there 40s, they're secure and experienced
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:18 PM
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It's not about when are you most attractive to the opposite sex, it's when do you want the most sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:16 PM
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Right, then I don't think it's the same. I think the differences are clear. It's deciding what oath someone should take rather then shedding light on where your path took you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:40 PM
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Oh cool. That’s convenient. Man I wish I had know this so I could abdicate all responsibility for my desires and choices as a 23 year old guy. At what point did I say that not having a fully developed brain means you're free from consequences? I need to know whether I should take any of your words seriously or if I’m just listening to the ramblings or an adult child with an undeveloped brain. You seem to be having an emotional response so I'm going to refrain from commenting and triggering you f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:39 PM
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Not so much, cause the demographic and development thing Our brains are still developing when we're legal adults. When large numbers of young women have had similar negative experiences during that specific time that they've learned from with age, I see it as natural to want to pass that advice on. It's vaguely in the same "been there, done that" vein but more specific
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 06:51 PM
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How am i policing something by speaking about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:36 PM
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Oh then no, cause it's not about ideology it's about age, demographics, development and experience. It's not policing to give someone advice about a situation you have experience in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 03:53 PM
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No?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:23 PM
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I think it's best to not assume and also be respectful if you do decide it's flirting
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:42 PM
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I guess just social experience to learn the difference between friendly and flirty gestures
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:39 PM
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Because it's the difference between using someone to fulfil your sexual desires vs appreciating them as a person even when they won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 12:47 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:30 AM
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I am child free, i will never have children and do not want them in my life, my reasons are just different from yours. The circumstances under which I would have kids are impossible, it's merely an outlandish hypothetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:23 AM
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Why would any man choose to be tied down if not for his progeny? Because he loves his partner as an individual and doesn't view them as a breeding sow? A man has absolutely no reason to be in a relationship with a CF woman There are childfree men who want commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:18 AM
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I'm a child free woman and if I could guarantee that a guy would support me in the ways I need then yes, I would start a family. I'm just not prepared to take the risk. Totally understand your perspective though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:08 AM
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This but unironically
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:44 PM
1

Nooo. Just because most relationships start with friendship doesn't mean that having friendships will get you a relationship. Just doesn't work that way logically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:26 PM
2

This comment doesn't disprove OPs point though?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 03:20 PM
1

Disagree, I'm familiar with abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:39 AM
1

don't threaten me with a good time
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:29 PM
1

As a former sex worker I have enjoyed sex with my clients, and taken their money because I have bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:17 PM
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Because it's her job? It's how she makes money?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:17 PM
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I guess I just don't understand your perspective, I'm trying though. I was always the ugly friend growing up and sure I was sad that I didn't have a boyfriend when my skinny friends did, but it didn't make me frustrated. Now I have more sex than I do friends, I preferred the friends. Guess we all want what we can't have
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:15 PM
1

Prostitution wouldn’t exist. ???
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:09 PM
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Logic doesn't track. Just because women can enjoy sex with someone they're not physically attracted to doesn't mean they have to share every virgin they come across.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:09 PM
1

Who?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:19 PM
2

Okay, they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:19 PM
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Urban dictionary says i can calculate mine with the equation ((Attractiveness) + ((4x)Socal status) + (Style)) - ((Nose Length) + (Weight) + (C) + (-Height))= Sexual Market Value I don't understand how you objectively quantify attractiveness style and social status, not to mention different people have differences in height and weight preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 10:37 AM
1

What's smv?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 10:30 AM
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The difference is men can enjoy fucking women they're not attracted to. Women can't Sorry but this is a ridiculous idea. I'm not sexually attracted to my vibrator and that can make me cum. If you're making the right moves then my eyes won't even be open.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 10:29 AM
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So you're using this study of 128 women to state general rules about what all women find attractive..?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 10:08 AM
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You say that like its a joke but people absolutely get divorced for being unreliable whether it be with time, money, childcare, affection etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:03 AM
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I can put on on a fucking variety show and get nowhere, meanwhile they simply have to show up. I don't get it, this sounds like a successful story? You went out, socialised, got good responses and widened your circle? This sounds like a good plan, you're not gonna pull every single time. Build your confidence and conversation skills, maybe this guy will introduce you to someone? Idk I just don't think its a loss just because you didn't go home with a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:02 AM
1

The sad part is that confidence is key but it's nearly impossible to teach.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:00 AM
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I think you should take it from the people you're trying to date, they can tell you what they're looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:59 AM
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. That bar is very difficult to clear. Women don’t even acknowledge the existence of men below that bar. So what's up with all the short, non conventially attractive men in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:58 AM
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It's very specific personality profile that women like and it's a pretty anti-social one. "Women" are not attracted to one personality type How do you figure that all women specifically want an anti-social personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:57 AM
2

Just like as a man I want a slim, submissive, virgin with natural Ds and a 10/10 face who wants to give me ten children. Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:02 AM
1

Huh? I am woman. I believe 10s exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:11 PM
2

Where did this come from? Besides I'm not looking for someone super attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:11 PM
2

9s and 10s are plentiful They are??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 12:10 PM
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Okay... that doesn't really refute op though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 05:50 PM
2

Exactly. Porn isn't catered to us and I'm not generally attracted to the men. OPs logic is flawed from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 06:26 PM
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For me this doesn't necessarily correlate to spending large amounts of money but having a giving spirit. Like if we're both on a walk and you give me the last sip of water. That's generous. Someone who always wants to look out for you and genuinely cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 09:43 AM
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There is no 1:1 friendship between men and women. Please elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 10:42 PM
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There's just... no logic here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:49 PM
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But of course the fantasy is usually better than the reality and I can see how that would be heart breaking to deal with that. It honestly hurts to just be seen as a warm hole instead of a person worth getting to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:48 PM
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Men contribute more to society currently. Oh now I understand why I'm having so much trouble deciphering your meaning. You're just an outright sexist and a pretty awful person to determine someone's contributions to society through taxes and inventions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:46 PM
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Society would appreciate them more ?? and they would love themselves more ???
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:43 PM
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What, the alternative of being single? I'm a woman, I've been single for years and I'm content with it. It's not the end of the world or a situation to be feared.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:41 PM
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When a woman puts you in the friendzone So when a woman wants to be friends with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:40 PM
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It all comes down to options, top 5% of men see women as disposable, top 50% of women see men as disposable Where did you get that statistic from? I don't even understand what you mean, surely all romantic relationships are "disposable"?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:39 PM
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That's called a city boy summer
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:56 PM
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Your story sounds like some I've heard on r/latebloomerlesbians
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:08 PM
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Would love to see your fact based evidence for all your angry ranting
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:59 PM
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Seem like you're assuming malintent on her part. I put a lot of doubt on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:39 PM
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I'm not gonna get into that with you cause I reject almost everything you seem to take as fact, especially the 95% stat, and idk how 250lb women are related to this? I was just saying that multiple (not one) women commented agreeing that it was their reality. Like I said, I have no way of knowing how pervasive this attitude is. I have however, witnessed widespread observable disdain from the incel community towards any women deemed less than attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:37 PM
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These posts about unattractive men having high standards are just not backed up by reality. It seems many in the comments would disagree from experience. Not saying it's pervasive but it's absolutely realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:14 PM
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... you're kinda proving their point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:09 PM
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Before they got the chance to what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 11:08 AM
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You know you could ask questions instead of assuming? I'm not straight but i have been in heterosexual relationships for mot of my life. But yeah, we should just keep it pushing cause I'm bored
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:45 PM
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what effort do you mean? Paying attention to both verbal nonverbal cues in your partner and generally doing your best to make sure you both have fun. it's involuntary Sometimes you click and its natural, sometimes you have to use your brain and experiment around a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:48 PM
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this over-analyzing and making your worth dependent on some chick is toxic to your psyche. I think you can put effort into good sex without depending your worth on it. For me, I want to be a good sexual partner so that we both have a fun time, not for my self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:33 PM
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Did you see the post edit?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:32 PM
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Women don't spend a great deal of time (or any) thinking about a sex act from the past. Women aren't a monolith, what's true for you isn't necessarily true for women in general. In real life, online and in media I've seen and heard countless women recount past sexual encounters. I'm in my 20s in the uk, it's just normal for us to comment on sexual encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:30 PM
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There’s only a 7% chance a woman will orgasm the first time w a new guy. Where did you get that stat from?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:27 PM
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Nah it's about paying attention to how they react when you touch them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:26 PM
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It's okay, we all get confused sometimes Try again later if you feel up to it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:23 PM
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Ahh so you didn't understand me at all then If a person (regardless of sex and orientation) cannot say no to another person, they are enslaved to their impulses/feelings. If person A feels enslaved by their feelings towards person B, then blame lies with person A. Person B didnt force the obsession just by existing and they're not responsible for A. You can pretend via mental gymnastics and rituals of masculinity but it’s pretend. No gymnastics needed, can just pick up a history book. There is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:18 PM
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That was quite the mental gymnastics Which part confused you ill try to help (assuming you’re straight). You assumed wrong :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:09 PM
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Shit is messed up but men will never say no to any woman, no matter what If that's true then isn't the ownus on the men? Vaginas can't make the rules unless you're putting vagina in a position of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:03 PM
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