barhoram Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	FR. Hard NO.		barhoram	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 01:10 PM
4	Anyone recommend a Lifting routine without bench (until I can get it set up)?		barhoram	/r/askMRP	09/03/17 03:21 PM

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1	FR. Hard NO. OP here...trying to figure out the timing of this since it is so early in my RP journey. She works 2 days a week now and we already split up getting the kids to and from school. I've tried this in the past...and she plays me like a fiddle....take the $$ away...she will have to work more (not really but she plants that stake)....kids will be in daycare everyday ...I will have to take off work early every day to pick them up before it closes (her job doens't end until 7PM)....I'll have to work out…	/r/askMRP	26/04/17 01:16 PM
1	FR. Hard NO. OP here. 100% true. No tingles....haven't brought them for some time now. Always wondered what the heck would cause someone to seemingly go out of thier way to create/manufacture drama/tension.....especially with young kids around. Makes perfect sense now. In the past would try and fix/change/scold her to STOP THIS....fixing me is the answer then (and see if she comes around). If not, I'm left with a better me.	/r/askMRP	26/04/17 01:05 PM
1	FR. Hard NO. OP here. Good point. She has that list....it was porn, and that is always her Trump card she still plays. Now that I stopped that years ago....it's not doing enough at home/with kids/schoolwork help.....or even going to church at the wrong time (lol..WTF). Now some of the above is true, and some is not...but all I can do is get to work/keep working MRP path.	/r/askMRP	26/04/17 01:00 PM
2	FR. Hard NO. OP here. Good catch. Wife probably has ADHD...and was on medication for it a couple of years back until it had some pretty bad effects (whole other post). So as you can imagine I dug myself deeper and deeper into Beta hole picking up all the slack that comes with having a spouse with ADHD. (nothing like coming home from a business trip with a completely wrecked house right) So Of course that all came with extra sprinkles of resentment--and left me with even worse boundaries and (in my beta mind)…	/r/askMRP	26/04/17 12:44 PM
3	FR. Hard NO. It's worse than that. Used to Fap to porn and then over time just started to ignore her sexually. I own that...had a willing wife back then, but convinced myself that she was moody and bitchy (wait AWALT) and it was just easier to go the porn route.	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 03:46 PM
2	FR. Hard NO. Married 17 years and 5 kids. Well, she's probably not moving out on you, so that's a plus. Means you have time to do this right OP. I'd say I'm 90% certain that her plan (now) is stick it out with this asshole until the kids are in college then she's gone with half of everything I've worked for and saved. So--yea, there is time...but I'd say she has started down a path. I know that and accept that...and will put in the work to be the best me. Chips fall at that point I guess.	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 03:43 PM
1	FR. Hard NO. Good Point. I look good in a shirt now vs having a noticeable belly. Look trim and fit. But--noticed out of the shower wow--still a lot of work to do to be Really in shape. Also found it helps that I picture myself doing squats with heavy weights weighing me down like an anchor when my wife starts her shit/shit tests, etc. Just that mental image of the weights keeping me firmly planted vs. getting battered around and swept away by her shitstorm at her will is a visual image that helps me hold fr…	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 03:36 PM
3	FR. Hard NO. Completely agree on the No-Fight thing. I have worked my best at STFU and hold frame when one approaches..and have found it has made a difference. Question about what to do with certain issues in the interim (8-12 months for more improvement). One example is a trip she wants (is) taking with our daughter over the summer because she was offered a free place to stay, just need to buy the ticket. Comes down to we don't have that much saved without cracking into long term saving (no bonus and we hav…	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 03:30 PM
2	FR. Hard NO. Trust issues: 1) Porn:caught me with a ifriends account about 3 years into our marriage. Lied about stopping and got caught again. Blamed her until I owned it. NoFap and then stopping porn altogether about 5 years ago. This is the main. 2) No boundaries so resorted to hiding things (buying things I wanted, taking time for myself) etc etc...all justified in my mind but obviously the wrong NG approach to avoid conflict. A good example was when she overspent her account (separate accounts) and it t…	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 03:15 PM
2	FR. Hard NO. Good point. I'm struggling to figure this out....with 5 kids (2 with ADD) and a poor model growing up (my mom was the family martyr) this is an area I need improvement on. Always tried to "prove" to my wife that things could be done instead of doing them myself (without attitude).	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 02:39 PM
2	FR. Hard NO. Thanks. I always questioned the 1st level where it notes "to begin seducing her"....seems way early on in the process. Lift, Sidebar, Fun Dad with Kids and Owning my shit around the house more will be my focus for the next months. Owning my shit has been an area of confusion for me as i read NMMNG. On one hand NMMNG would say I'm doing too much, cut back and focus on myself more. RP view (what would I do if I were single) would have me doing more.	/r/askMRP	24/04/17 01:47 PM
1	Anyone recommend a Lifting routine without bench (until I can get it set up)? Did the above workout over lunch. Wow. Didn't seem like much, but was exhausted at the end...and there were even quite a few breaks as I figured out what weight I needed and had to look up a couple of the exercises. This should get me going until can figure out gym or bigger/heavy weights at home (space and kid concern). OK--to anyone new. Read this. After just one 45 min session of lifting...just feel different...was completely out of any other frame (especially my wife's) for that time and doi…	/r/askMRP	09/03/17 07:53 PM
1	Anyone recommend a Lifting routine without bench (until I can get it set up)? Thanks for the replies. Did some searching online and found a plan below that looks like a good place to start. Will just need to figure out the weight for each one. Went to the garage and pulled out all of the weights and dumbells/bars. Probably going to sound gay, but just the cold iron clank of the metal on metal as a moved it all down the basement seemed to trigger something in me that hasn't been there for a long time. FLOOR PRESS Sets: 3 Reps: 10 BENTOVER DUMBBELL ROW Sets: 3 Reps: 15 each…	/r/askMRP	09/03/17 05:29 PM