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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Advice needed - Please	Custody	barubi123	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 01:50 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Gentlemen, I have a dating question. If there are already flags being recognized, pass	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/25 03:04 AM
2	I don't know if I can do it anymore Wow this was a powerful reply	/r/Divorce_Men	07/10/24 01:08 AM
1	Idk what to do, I feel hopless You are in the shock phase of things and that’s how our bodies react to true hurt. Embrace that hurt as it will help you move on. I would suggest having your own representative for each side so parties are individually represented. It sounds like she has more to lose but I would let professionals fully hash it so it can allow you to detach most importantly. All of this takes time to resolve internally and sometime steps feel rushed before ready but 1) feel the natural wave of different emotions …	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/24 02:47 AM
1	Advice needed - Please You aren’t wrong. I have had to process my guilt over not doing more. I think I put too much weight in my wife’s word versus having true oversight to confirm the work. When these outbursts happened and I addressed them with her, she constantly told that additional measures were being taken (medication, additional therapy, etc.) which I only found out after were not actually happening. I have a heavy layer of guilt over that blind eye now and leaving them with someone this disassociated. I don’t …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/09/24 08:46 PM
2	Having a tough night tonight guys I think many times that we idealize our partners but it’s not the reality. There is good and bad. What you saw from your ex just reaffirms that. What you are going through is acceptance and a correction of the idealization. This is about you, not her. Better days are surely ahead when you aren’t seeking others validation, especially from those who show their true colors.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/09/24 01:13 AM
4	Very depressed. The reason why she clawed back is because she needs immediate validation from a male. It happened after you two split, it happened after her and the next guy split. These are her issues and I wouldn’t lose sleep for one night over a gaslighting and narcissistic human being. You are much better off. As someone currently dealing with a divorce from a narcissistic partner, I couldn’t be any less impressed by her behavior. You will never get seen, validated or anything by those people unless they wa…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/09/24 02:37 AM
1	Advice needed - Please At first, I didn’t go to the hospital because I didn’t know what was going on. My symptoms got worse and I went to an ER, which diagnosed me with the concussion and sent me to get a CT scan. I have a lawyer and this process plays out a lot slower than I anticipated	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 11:07 AM
2	Advice needed - Please Thank you for this and all of the advice. The cameras are through google home and she removed my access so I’m a little jammed. I do have an attorney and we plan to counter file here shortly but I just wanted to get others perspectives	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 11:05 AM
1	Need advice I would suggest that you coordinate with an attorney. Search lawyers who specialize in divorce in the local jurisdiction to the courthouse. Call them and see if they have consultation fees associated. I would bypass those if possible and get a couple of legal opinions. A protective order is a do not contact order so I would suggest not getting into particulars of possessions. Select an attorney first and then have them guide you in coordinating getting your belongings in accordance with the orde…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 02:13 AM
2	Jobless and soon to be divorced I have been giving this advice to a few people. My first suggestion is to solve one problem. If you have a car, you have a job. Reach out to Uber and become a driver. You can work during the times you can if you have other obligations. You will meet new people and get into conversations that will allow you to shift your mind. My second suggestion is to go into DBT therapy. It has changed my life and the way I approach myself/others. I’m in the early stages of a nasty divorce but have been able t…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 02:06 AM