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DISCUSSIONbatting4fireflies/r/RedPillWomen25/03/17 05:52 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEbatting4fireflies/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 03:11 AM
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Thanks for sharing this recipe! Definitely giving it a try this weekend with my mom.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 11:30 PM
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Nature’s Seasoning! I use it in everything (except sweets of course haha). Since we’ve been together, my SO has started taking more of an interest is helping me in the kitchen and has perfected the amount of Nature’s Seasoning that goes into each dish. It’s his “job.” I also have at least three pounds of ground beef and several roaster chickens frozen at a time. My parents get us meat from old family friends that have a farm. In the fall/winter I have various types of deer meat products in the f…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 11:18 PM
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I tackled the bathroom and deep cleaned everything! (Mostly because we have guests staying over tonight). I also finally got a nice rug for our living room. It really tied the space together.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:39 PM
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Hello all! I'm brand new to this sub and looking forward to diving into the content. I (28F) have been with my SO (27M) for 2 1/2 years, and we very recently picked out an engagement ring, so the proposal is on the horizon (yay!) I am a criminal defense attorney and my SO is an electrician. We live together in a cute little apartment with our furbabies. We both enjoy running, golfing, and gaming. I have always believed that femininity is wonderful and powerful in its own right, and that women ca…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 06:39 PM
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No one should have to explain why no one deserves to be raped because it is so obvious. Your comment has nothing to do with truth seeking or TRP principals in general. The OP was about the the balance between keeping the responsibility for rape on the rapist while still being smart. Your comment did not address this topic, but challenged the comment that no one deserves to be raped. You essentially argue that some women are just “rapeable.” Comments like yours are why outsiders think TRP encoura…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/18 09:08 PM
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No one deserves to be raped. Period.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/18 02:57 AM
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I would echo what other have said, but also ask: Why do you feel like you need to make new friends? I ask, because when I embraced red pill, I did not tell my friends I was now red pilled, and maintained my friendships, even if we had different views. But I did realize that one friend in particular was volatile towards my views on relationships. I’m still polite to her, but I distance myself from her because I don’t have the energy to abide by her “rules” just so I don’t get lectured. For exampl…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 02:48 AM
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This is a really important topic. One of the most common questions women ask here is how to know if a guy they’re seeing will commit to them. The problem, of course, is there is no way to know for sure whether a man is willing to commit to you, because like sexual desire, the desire to commit can change. This is why RP emphasizes self improvement, for both men and women. One thing I would add is the role good intuition plays in girl game. The ability to read a man and his actions, and respond ap…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 12:59 AM
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Only 133? Hmm, I would have guessed much higher based on your so very well thought out arguments and articulate responses. As a side note, you simply provided assertions about your alleged masculinity, productivity, and intelligence, not examples. Are you willing to share examples? EDIT: I guess my attempt at sarcasm wasn’t clear. Oops.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 08:24 PM
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Exactly, both by how much we can get done in that time and by how much that time is worth monetarily. I charge by the hour. Twenty minutes of my time is worth approximately $160.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 08:07 PM
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I do! Sorry for the delayed reply, my app doesn’t always notify me of responses. For the strawberry cake I just use the Betty Crocker Super Moist cake mix. Some might think this is cheating but it’s so good I don’t care haha. Then I make the frosting by mixing a tub of Cool Whip with a mixture of a cup of milk, a quarter cup of powdered sugar, and a package of strawberry instant pudding mix (sometimes I use vanilla pudding too). The basic recipe for the better than sex cake is to make a chocolat…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 08:01 PM
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Can you give us examples of how you are masculine, productive, and intelligent?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 07:54 PM
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Fun! The two favorite cakes in our home are strawberry cake with whip cream frosting and chocolate better than sex cake (it’s almost better than sex haha).
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/18 05:09 PM
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There are definitely social situations where it is best to avoid political conversation, and it’s an important skill to know how to identify those situations and bow out of the conversation gracefully. However, I personally stay “involved” with politics in various ways. I always vote. I pay close attention to my local and state elections, and new bills introduced in my state legislature. Sometimes, I will volunteer with a local non-partisan group to help people register to vote and have even tes…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 12:12 AM
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What kind of cake? My SO always asks for strawberry cake with vanilla cream frosting. It’s turned into a tradition for us!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 02:27 AM
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Cultivating social graces is such an important (and often overlooked) skill. It always seemed to me that, at its core, social grace is a form of improv entertainment. I learned this skill by being involved with theatre, speech, debate etc. Obviously, as an adult, these activities aren’t as prevalent. The best piece of advice I got to help with being socially graceful was to let the other person talk about themselves until you find common ground. My favorite technique (especially with other women…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 03:37 AM
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My SO did this. He said he always avoided women who only had face pictures, especially if they wore a lot of makeup or clearly used a filter.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 01:07 AM
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Congratulations! Enjoy your swearing in ceremony! I don’t know where you live, but in my state, each newly minted Attorney is given their license by the Chief Justice of the state Supreme Court. It was awesome. My advice is don’t get lost in your work. When you first turn out its easy to agree to take on pretty much any client or project because everything is new and exciting. Resist that urge! It took me over a year to get my caseload under control so I wasn’t having to work 60+ hours a week. G…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 05:45 PM
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There might be something to that. My married gay male friends all either kept their own name or both hyphenated. Interestingly, out of my married gay female friends, there was always one who took the name of the other. Anecdotal evidence of course, but I never noticed until now. EDIT: a word.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 05:33 PM
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Great post! Last winter my SO and I went shopping for comfy slippers during a vacation. He found a great pair at Cabellas that have a fur lining but also have a rubber sole with good traction so he can wear them outside quick (usually to take the dog out). I didn’t find slippers that fit, but I got this super cute plaid fleece shirt in a peach color that is cozy and feminine. A year later we snuggle on the couch with our finds and it’s also a nice reminder of our vacay.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 03:04 AM
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I feel like I could write a book about this question! My experience with the name change question is one of the things that led me to RPW. I always thought taking your man’s name was symbolic in many ways: it symbolizes to the world your commitment to one another, it symbolizes to the man that his woman chooses to become part of his family/life, and it symbolizes to the woman that her man has chosen her as part of his family/life. I always felt it was an honor for a man to “give” you his name. W…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 01:48 AM
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Not in my jurisdiction. You can only be charged for words if it is a threat of physical harm. For example: I’ll fucking kill you. We do not have an alienation of affection law (which in all US jurisdictions is a civil matter, not criminal.) Can you cite me to any place where you can be criminally charged for either non-threatening words or withholding affection?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 12:54 AM
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I guess I’m confused. You say there is an imbalance because men are no longer able to “put a woman in her place” without risk of going to jail or being labeled an abuser. You also say you do not advocate for doing the things you used as examples of putting a woman in her place. What do you propose is the answer to correcting this imbalance? Side note: the examples you gave would not be enough to put anyone in jail, let alone lead to a criminal conviction and thus “labeling “ someone as an abuser…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 12:02 AM
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I have to ask what your definition of “putting a woman in her place” is. I have represented over 100 men in my career charged with domestic violence related offenses, and every single one did something that would go beyond the bounds of what I would consider “putting a woman in her place.” (Although many had legit legal defenses, I can’t think of one who behaved in a way I would tolerate from my SO.)
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 11:00 PM
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This is gold. Thanks for posting. My SO and I had a great time browsing together!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 01:11 AM
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Thank you! I feel like my intuition has been leading me in this direction.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:41 AM
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I've been feeling burnt out and disillusioned with my job for the last couple months and it's harming my relationship. I've been seriously considering making a career change into a different area of law. Should I jump ship and apply for new jobs, or are these feeling temporary and I'm where I'm meant to be?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 12:03 AM
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Yes, diet is most important. I was in worse shape running every day but eating Dominos every night than I am now, eating right and running only a couple times a week and doing yoga.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 04:07 AM
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I wouldn't say I became more selective, but I did become more comfortable owning what I thought was attractive appearance-wise. For example, I had it banged into my head that it was wrong or unfair for me to prefer certain physical characteristics over others and I should give every guy I had things in common with a chance just because they were "good" or "nice" guys. This resulted in several relationships with guys who were both shorter and smaller (less muscle) than me (I'm 6 feet tall). Ironi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 01:47 AM
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Taking care of yourself goes beyond makeup and fashion. My sister always does her makeup flawlessly, wears adorable, feminine clothing, always has perfect nails, and does her hair to perfection. She's also 5'5 and 300 lbs. with diabetes and PCOS and not able to have children right now. She is someone I know who doesn't take care herself, even though she does the superficial feminine things others have posted about. Taking care of yourself, at the core, is being healthy. You have to be healthy fi…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 05:54 AM
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Wearing my hair down (either straightened or curled) rather than pulling it back into a bun.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 05:16 AM
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This is a great way to approach him. When I first met my SO, I was in my last year of law school and wore skirts/heels everyday. When I became an attorney and started my "real" job, I slowly stopped wearing skirts and now I only wear pant suits and flats to work. My SO started teasing me about my "power suits" and how I dress more like my male coworkers. Eventually, he asked why I don't dress "girly" anymore and expressed his disappointment in my new style. I explained that I was uncomfortable w…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 10:50 PM
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Do you plan to write your future legal briefs on your phone so you have automatic capitalization?
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 03:21 AM
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I'm three weeks in to the Strong Curves routine. Prior to that, I ran three miles twice a week and regulated my diet. That helped keep weight off, but didn't keep me "tight" so I started lifting.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 05:06 PM
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Okay, your point being? If you read my entire comment, I state in the first paragraph that under my state's divorce laws, courts are only allowed to order alimony under very specific circumstances and the party requesting alimony has a very high burden to prove it is necessary. If my SO and I got divorced, I would not have the choice to "turn down free money" because a court could not legally order my SO to pay alimony unless he offered (which he wouldn't). If I requested alimony, I would be lau…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:10 PM
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There is also no alimony depending on the state you live in. Where I live, a woman has a very high burden to show the court that alimony is needed. Basically, unless she was a SAHM the entire marriage and didn't worked for 20 years, she is not getting alimony. Those women who do meet that high burden, generally only get alimony for a brief period of time to allow her time to find a job. My SO and I do not want kids and we are not religious, but we still want to get married to symbolize our commi…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 01:06 AM
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What? I have never seen a post or comment in this sub saying women should be treated like a teenager or child. I have a feeling that you probably popped over to TRP and read an inflammatory post made by a newbie who is still in his anger phase. Or, you deeply misinterpreted a metaphor used at TRP to describe a particular relationship dynamic. This is not TRP. We have different goals.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 04:28 PM
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I think part of the answer is how you define intelligence. Other commenters have talked about degrees and income being ways to define intelligence, which is part of it. However, in my relationship dynamic, those things have had little impact on the "protector/protected" or "captain/first mate" dynamic. I have my law degree and make significantly more than my SO (for now). He is an electrician apprentice and will have a consistent and steady increase in income over time. I may be intelligent in a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 02:03 AM
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Not in these circumstances. Pass.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 10:40 PM
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Part of the issue of having men from TRP coming to this sub and doling out advice in a brash and condescending way is that they forget the goals of RPW are different than those of TRP and they give bad advice. In general, none of us are looking for a purely "alpha" male. Those men do not possess the provider qualities we would want in a good husband and father. A mix of alpha and beta traits is most desirable. That being said, when TRP men come here and do nothing but say "be hot, give blowjobs,…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 09:49 PM
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I thought about adding this to my original comment. My SO never plans/prepares meals, he never grocery shops (although sometimes he'll join me so he can pick out snacks), he never writes thank you cards or birthday cards etc. (I keep a calendar of important dates and make sure cards and gifts are picked out and sent), he never cleans the litter box.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 09:46 PM
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I never pump my own gas or scrape the ice off my windshield. I also never drive when we are together (I do when I'm alone, obviously). I never take out the trash/recycling.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 07:40 PM
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This is a tough one. This happened to me a few months ago. My SO has his phone set up to automatically back up all photos and videos to his cloud storage through his gmail account and then regularly deletes off his phone to save storage space. He was out of town for a couple days and gave me his gmail password one night so we could watch some of our "naughty" videos together while we talked on the phone. I saw a couple full body nude pics he had taken of himself in our bathroom mirror while flex…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 12:20 AM
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I don't need one now because we divorced. While we were still married I was not "allowed" to have any type of pass. He wanted me to vow to never have sex again in my life. Filed for divorce shortly after.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 03:15 PM
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It did happen to me, and thanks! Honestly, it was the best thing to ever happen. As someone mentioned earlier, a lot of times a person just "knows" the marriage isn't right, but goes through with it for whatever reason. That was me. I'm better now!
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/17 03:37 AM
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"Coming out" as asexual after six years and telling you he expects you to take a vow of celibacy while continuing to do all of the "wifey" things he relied on.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/17 03:09 AM
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Amen to that! And best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 02:12 AM
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Haha that is a conundrum! If the same time still works for you, then tell him that you're still on but then ask him when and where. See if he's willing to suggest something. If he just responds with something like "Idk what would you prefer" then you have to decide if you're cool with that type of personality. If you are, then awesome! If not, then pass. Too many fish in the sea that it Tinder!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:59 AM
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He is not taking the lead. Personally, that would be a deal breaker for me. I met my SO on Tinder (so it can work!). A lot of guys I matched with did the exact same thing you are describing: talked to me, engaged with me, talked about wanting to get together, but never actually made the plans. My Tinder conversation with my SO was brief. We said hi, told each other what we did for a living, then he asked me out for dinner, asked if I liked sushi, found a day that worked for me, and the rest was …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:34 AM
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Wasn't sure if it was what it purported to be or a more PG joke. I'll look later haha
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 01:44 AM
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A good approach. No point in hurting both your egos! ;-) hahaha I appreciate your humor. EDIT: is the monsters of cock link work friendly?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 01:13 AM
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Not to be crass, but is she loose or are you small? /s Jokes aside, I am only meaning to point out that some penises and some vaginas just don't mesh! I have had sex with three men. The first two used to complain that sometimes during sex they just didn't feel much and felt like I was "loose." My SO on the other hand has had the exact opposite to say (in his words, I have a magic pussy). I honestly cannot explain the difference, which is why I would hesitate to "be honest" with a woman you think…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 12:34 AM
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Ah, thanks for the clarification! I agree it is unrealistic (for most people anyway) to refrain from sex until you have already invested enough time in the relationship to label it as a LTR. I also agree with OP that sex should wait until both parties have agreed to make a commitment to a LTR. Of course, the key is to make sure you aren't being too willing or quick to commit to a LTR until you have vetted properly. The amount of time that takes really differs between individuals. The older I got…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 12:15 AM
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But don't expect to be in an LTR after the third date. When I was in the dating process, this is exactly what I expected. I can't imagine how much time I would have wasted if I vetted someone for a year! I went on first dates with around 35-40 different men before I had my first date with my SO and he was the ONLY second date. By the third date, I knew I wanted an LTR with him. On our fourth date, he asked me to be his girlfriend and commit exclusively. I recognize that things may not have worke…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 11:20 PM
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Thank you for another awesome and thoughtful post. I especially like your point that there shouldn't be a contest about who has it more difficult. A relationship shouldn't involve competition between each other (excluding the playful "I'm going to beat you at cards" kind). What I value most about my SO is he is the only man I've dated who always has my back. My ex-husband took an almost sick pleasure in ganging up on me with my sister to tease me and put me down. He enjoyed competing with me and…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 11:31 PM
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So far so good :-)
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 03:54 PM
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Yes. I also think that what I do is more than just being nice. I'm actively engaging with other people in a way my SO prefers not to do. I don't just politely engage in pleasantries, I quickly figure out what both me and my SO have in common with the person I'm talking to and emphasize my SO's common interest. I asked him tonight what he thought I brought to our relationship as a woman other than the basics (cleaning/cooking/laundry/sex) and he said "You help me connect with people. If I was alo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 02:46 AM
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Social/emotional value is definitely a tangible benefit. Your example shows exactly that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 12:45 AM
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OP, I'm confused by your edit because utility is defined as "the state of being useful, profitable, or beneficial." How is providing social/emotional value NOT useful, profitable, or beneficial? I think the examples given to you demonstrate exactly how useful, profitable, and beneficial social/emotional value can be.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 12:44 AM
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Good question. I don't know if the other things I offer in my relationship are necessarily because I am a woman, but I definitely have certain qualities unrelated to housework/cooking/sex my SO adores. One example is my ability to make fast friends with pretty much anyone (my SO describes me as charming). My SO is an electrician apprentice, which is a male dominated field. Not surprisingly, his supervisors rarely give him feedback on his work or go out of their way to compliment him (because guy…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 11:38 PM
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I feel very fortunate, and grateful!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:31 AM
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Feeling you so hard! SO and I are naturally inclined to be introverts, but always pushed ourselves out of our boundaries to meet people. Now that we have each other, we have to make an effort to do anything other than stay at home because it's our preference. We took a five-day "staycation" and it was awesome because we spent time at home but we also challenged ourselves to explore some of the cool things our city has to offer. Best time off ever.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:10 AM
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Wow, same!! One of my coworkers, who has been married for 7 years, told me he likes to run because it is his respite and escape from home. He asked me what I do to de-stress and I was like "I go home!"
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:54 AM
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We do this also, although we are rarely in different rooms because we have a small apartment. However, we give each other space by indulging in our own interests (he plays his video game and I read/knit/Reddit whatever tickles my fancy that day). We don't speak, but frequently touch each other in a small way (like touching feet, a kiss on the cheek). What I appreciate is that we can be in the same room but still do our own thing with zero judgment or feeling like we are obligated to "pay attenti…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:35 AM
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So many I could write a book! My SO loves to hear about the crazy and unpredictable things that happen at my job.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 09:00 PM
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I am an attorney (criminal defense) and my SO is an electrician.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 08:09 AM
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In a romantic relationship, you definitely shouldn't feel like you have to worry about who's in charge and why. You put that really well. And I just wanted to say thank you for asking really thoughtful questions.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:37 AM
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Honestly, I don't and I also don't care. I don't want to keep tabs on who was right and who was wrong. I also don't want to keep tabs on who is compromising more. I have been in relationships before where I felt like I was constantly compromising and bending over backwards for my man. That was because those men were not good captains and not good decision makers. It wasn't because I was being submissive. I ended those relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 12:58 AM
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Exactly, if you find a man you truly trust, then it's surprisingly easy to let him make decisions. Not because you have to think he's right simply because he is a man, but you think he's right because you know he is a good decision-maker. It's kind of how my clients shouldn't take my legal advice just because I'm an attorney (because let's be honest, some attorneys are awful). They take my advice after I have spent time building up some trust. they realize I am specifically trained to make certa…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 12:49 AM
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The first one that comes to mind that comes up frequently is: what/where to eat. One recent more substantial example: we were living in a three bedroom, loft apartment. The rent is expensive and after living there for a while, we realized the utilities were extra expensive because of the high ceiling. We both knew it was best to move and reduce our monthly costs. We came down to two options 1) move into a smaller more affordable apartment 2) invest in buying a house with affordable monthly mortg…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 12:38 AM
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I like you driving analogy. I (literally) drive when I have to, but I hate it and love when my man drives when we are together. He once told me he appreciates this because he feels like it is something he can do for me that is simple but also takes a ton of stress off me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 12:01 AM
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I struggled with this concept too when I first stumbled across the red pill. After applying the theory to my own relationship, I have realized that control has completely disappeared from my relationship. I have relinquished trying to control every single thing my man does by being "submissive" (while I personally like to think of this as trusting him to make the best decisions in his own life and in our relationship). I still make the decisions when it comes to my inner personal world and work.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 11:53 PM
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He's ISTJ. And high five back!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 02:32 AM
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I'm an INFP! I think I posted at almost the same time as you. I had just commented to my SO I was surprised I was the only one.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 01:53 AM
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I am INFP and SO is ISTJ. We both just took the test tonight and it was honestly a nice conversation starter. Of course not everything is 100% true for each of us, but there were enough traits that were spot-on that it was helpful. After talking about it, the main thing that influences our relationship is my highly empathetic nature and his difficulty sensing emotions of others. I have already learned I have to be clear and calm when telling him about my feelings and I also have to STFU when I t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 01:46 AM
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Exactly this! I have had no problem having liberal views on social/political issues (like being pro-choice, against the death penalty, etc) while still implementing RPW values in my PERSONAL life.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 11:49 PM
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To answer your question whether going to uni and studying law/politics is RPW: it is if you make it so! You can pursue any career/field of study so long as you maintain an RPW mindset in your romantic relationship. Example: I am a criminal defense attorney in the US. To be successful in my career, I have to be more cold and embrace traditionally masculine qualities. Being too feminine and RPW with my clients (who are often males with a history of hardcore prison time) is not appropriate. I do no…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 12:23 AM
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If he explicitly tells you he wants your opinion, then give it! You can always make it clear to him beforehand though that "this is just what I think, but I don't know the situation as well as you do so take it for what it's worth and I will support whatever decision you make." This has always worked well for me, the key is to "truly" support whatever decision he makes. Even if it goes against your opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 10:50 PM
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He most definitely doesn't need a mommy figure. Due to his apprenticeship, he doesn't get to choose where he works. He is rotated once a year to a new company within the union. Unfortunately, completely out of his control, two months after we moved into our new place he was transferred to a new company that hasn't been able to give him 40 hours a week. He took an unexpected financial hit. Luckily, he will be rotated again in May. And hopefully they will give him steadier hours.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 03:36 AM
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Thank you! We found a smaller more affordable apartment in our own complex that he loves because it's on the first floor and has a yard (which he wants because we've been wanting to get a dog). I'll have to think more about the engagement ring conversation. He is very traditional when it comes to rings. He likes the idea of a diamond because it's the strongest mineral and that symbolism is important to him. I'm not sure how to tell him that a large ring isn't necessary. I've considered talking t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:23 PM
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Thank you! I looked at available apartments within the complex we already live in because we both love the community here and the hiking trails. I showed him a smaller more affordable apartment that just happens to be available right when our lease ends. All it took was showing him it was a first floor apartment with a yard and he was sold! We really want to get a dog, so having a yard is important to both of us. We will be moving to a new unit next month.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:18 PM
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Yes, I have forgiven my SO for lying. Every time he lied to me, it was about his sexual/romantic past. The reason he lied was because he was afraid I would think less of him. Once he realized I wouldn't judge him for his past, he hasn't lied to me since. If I found out he was lying to me about things happening in the present, I would be more skeptical and less likely to forgive because it would indicate a lack of trust.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 03:39 AM
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