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Yes you are right.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 03:04 PM
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I think you should lose weight for health reasons. He might have learned from his past relationships that things like staying in line for 5 hours to get a phone for his partner is not a very healthy way to treat himself. Also when you feel “in shape” you act more confident and relaxed. Being less willing to hug your partner because of weight reasons sounds fishy to me and like a red flag. Sounds like he might not like you for you and this issue will surface years later.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 02:46 PM
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If you are investing in your mental and spiritual self development, and also going out there and making friends, having an active life, and of course, taking care of yourself (body and skincare), there will always be men around you. Your greatest power is in veto-ing them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 08:54 AM
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First of all, listening to that podcast and seeing them talk are two completely different experiences. If you listen to it, it's not that bad. If you watch it, there is a lot of judging and I dunno, something was just off. Secondly, the girl on the right says that your husband is not your bestfriend and then she explains that you don't need to have everything in common, because that's codependence. But later she says he's more than a best friend, he's family. I would take everything they said wi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 02:05 PM
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Yeah, I mean I could tell you that rpw means to surrender to the right man, be open and vulnerable, take care and respect yourself and a lot more. But you might not really understand what surrender to the right man means. There are a lot of resources like the books: Why men love bitches, Surrendered Wife, Surrendered Single. And also TRP tennants. You have to go through the wiki and understand for yourself. We don't know what specific things you want to learn, based on your issues, or where you …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 01:21 PM
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Men give because they have received benefit (reciprocity). I think the key word here is "benefit". Maybe those men don't percieve what the woman offers as a true benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 12:39 PM
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If you have a strong intuition about not doing it, you should listen to your intuition. Changing your hair will not help you long term with your goals of being more approachable. But it will help you feel more approachable. If you get a haircut that you really want, or a hair color that makes you go "Hell yeah! that would be so cool!", you will be so proud of yourself after the change, and therefore more confident and relaxed. And confidence is the most attractive trait a person can have. But if…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 12:20 PM
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I also strongly recommend both books plus Positive Intelligence by Chirzad Chamine. It literally changed my life even more than CBT therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 10:28 AM
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CBT therapist This is great but remember: they are there to help you, not do the work for you. You have to take responsibility for your wellbeing, and take the reins and have a hands on approach to changing the way you think. CBT is about challenging your automated thoughts. I know because cause I did it for a year and it changed my life. In order to challenge them you have to catch them when they happen. My therapist had me write this table with thoughts, how accurate they are and which thought…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 10:21 AM
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It is hard for me to give advice since our cultures are so different. I'm eastern european and things are pretty lax here. But my intution is telling me he is bullshitting you and that you are in a scarcity mentality. When I did that (throw myself at a guy) it was because I really liked him and wanted him but he didn't really like me or wanted me that much, judging by his actions. He also had some mental issues. Even if it is due to mental ilness, it is not your cross to bear. You have to think …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 10:07 AM
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I think you have an inaccurate opinion of yourself. You said: I remember that he made me feel very feminine. I wanted to give in to him and let him lead me. So, you weren't aggressive. Red pill is pretty clear and straightforward in this case: set boundaries, boundaries broken, let go and move on. But we as women have been wrongly taught how to give in to a man: be permissive, pretend you don't see some things, let things slide (such as him breaking a boundary). If you're being disrespected by h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 09:50 AM
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well, I'm out of glycogen, but healthline dot com said I'm not allowed unpack stored triglycerides :))))) good one
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 08:40 AM
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Yes, definitely! At its core, but the delivery of these techniques is different. Love bombing and dread on men looks very different than on women. It's about how one sends the message.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 08:25 AM
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Yeah as long as you are nice and make sure not to rock the boat too much, it feels like the rules aren't strict. If one supplicates a lot then it is safe but there is no real discourse. I posted a genuine question once and it got deleted with the reason that it was hateful towards men. I didn't intend it that way and no one even tried to explain to me why they thought it was hateful.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 08:23 AM
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You also have to take into account that the rules here about posting and commenting are very strict. It's not a space where you can really speak your mind freely, or even truly doubt and discuss red pill tenets. So some of these women seeming generally happier might be actually faking it, with all due respect. Just as there are women faking being happy on other relationship forums. I personally have done the biggest mistake in my life by following red pill concepts. I ended up being manipulated …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 09:03 PM
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Your path in life is your own. The spectrum on this subjects goes from people who are still virgins at 26 to people who have slept with dozens. There is no shame in either. Do not compare your journey to other people's journey. You are you, with your own qualities. If we all fit into a standard, life would be boring, plus not every society has the same standard. Stop wasting energy and time being ashamed. There is nothing to be ashamed of. You do things in your own way. Someone else in your posi…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 12:07 PM
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I wanted someone who loved me fiercely That's wanting someone to be "hell yeah!" about you, and it is what you should be going for if you are "hell yeah!" about them. he’d be lonely without me This is why I think he hasn't proposed or left. It seems to me he isn't "hell yeah!" about you. From what I can tell, you love him and are investing in yourself and your relationship a lot, but he just isn't offering the same effort back. You can't make someone love you if THEY don't, and it's not your fau…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 09:52 AM
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I trace back the root of my mistake to a chapter from surrendered wife. I look through the chapter to remind myself what I need to change. It's useful to have the book on your phone for a quick look when you have 5 minutes wherever you are.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 10:33 AM
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Yes, this so much!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 09:50 AM
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You are overthinking the silence. What I do in these situations is tell myself that I am good enough, and I reiterate to myself the reasons I appreciate and love myself. will a man like him ever want me Can you traverse time and space and check this "ever" ? If not, then this question is not very useful and it's just self soothing victim mentality (which I also fall into sometimes). If he doesn't want to commit to you, the best thing you can do for your own health would be to walk away. It's har…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 09:45 AM
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From my experience, bad fights i have had in the past could have been avoided if the man I was with had more frame. I'll apologize and be extra good for a week or two, then the old me starts to come out again. I'm not sure, but this might be what is called "shit testing". I think through these fights what you are doing is testing his frame. Red pill LTR requires balancing on both parts. I feel like I'm slowly losing part of my soul and who I am while being with this guy. This is the bottom line,…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 09:32 AM
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Not really, no. Thank you for your reply.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 09:09 AM
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Thank you, it makes sense. It's similar to what I've been feeling, but I have been doubting myself.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 04:22 PM
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Yes that makes sense
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 04:21 PM
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Thank you for your reply! I do remember reading something in Surrendered Wife about self care first. I will re-read that chapter.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 02:35 PM
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Did you talk to him ? When this happens to me, and then I find out more about the person, I usually discover some aspects of his personality that put me off. When I don't know someone and I am attracted like that, it's often because I fill in the gaps with my ideal traits for a man.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 12:32 PM
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Thank you! I was waiting for your input and now it hit me like an incoming train. Better roll them sleeves up, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 06:59 PM
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Thank you! I've never heard of this technique. I will look into it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 10:24 AM
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I like your thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 02:53 PM
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Make yourself an appealing option so he comes back to you. Got it!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 07:54 PM
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Thank you! She wasn't aggressive. She was subtle and playful, which made me feel threatened. I agree with being gracious. That is my aim and it is difficult with the weight of insecurity dragging me down.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 04:49 PM
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Thank you for your reply!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 02:41 PM
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Thank you for your thorough explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 02:20 PM
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Thank you for your reply!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 03:39 PM
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I am sorry. I did not know I said anything wrong or not useful. My intentions were to honestly help. I was fully convinced I was right in what I said. Now that I think of it, I do have a bad habit of assuming what people think. Could you please point me to more sources on this subject, or what I did wrong, that I could learn from?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 12:05 PM
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This so much! A true red pill man, a true gentleman, a real man would NEVER say such a thing or even think it. No real man would think "ugh, no thanks" about someone who is at least ok (assuming the worst case scenario for you). The least that a high value man would think is "hmm maybe we'll see what happens" or "not my style" and he would never publicly say something demeaning about you like this dude.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 10:56 AM
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Metabolism does slow after 40 but it's all calories in calories out. If you stay away from artificial sugars, bread and pasta, and eat smaller portions of meals you should be fine. I mention this because some diets like the american diet is low in nutrients and high in bad carbs. This was my journey (im 29), however the best thing to do is to experiment on yourself with different diets, meal times, meal sizes and see what works. Monitoring results with pictures and a journal might help too.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 09:11 AM
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Look into Marie Kondo. You might be surprised by how many things you have that you don't really need. I have lived in a 20 square meters room by myself for a year and although it was small, it was manageable. When you have just what you need and know at any moment what is in your storage places, the house feels bigger. Optimize vertical space. Add portable drawers on top of other furniture.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 02:09 PM
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I have the same issue sometimes. I did have a nervous breakdown recently when I had to change my outfit for a date (due to weather) and all the femine clothes were in the wash. I put on a blouse from the closet, looked in the mirror, and the colour was so bad on me with the make up I had on that I started crying. ​ I don't think it's a good idea to sacrifice feeling good about yourself to look "good and feminine". I think men would rather go out with someone confident with a good vibe rather tha…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 12:55 PM
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I agree. I think a period of "no contact", lets say a month, would make things clearer for the both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 12:31 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 11:32 AM
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I love this experiment idea. I also agree on the dates.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 07:07 PM
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Thank you for your reply. I think I get your point: we no longer live in tribes, there's an abundance of different types of men that don't compare to each other, and to open myself to these new types and experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 07:06 PM
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OK so: improving my mental state with physical exercise healthy eating hobbies new friends change of appearance therapy dates to improve self esteem. ​ Not in a position to start over in a new city. Maybe a vacation by myself, a weekend citybreak ?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 02:43 PM
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I am grateful for working in a positive relaxed environment, for feeling safe, for my clean home, for my close friends, for my parents' good health, for having the ability to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 10:06 PM
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if you find yourself arguing with men instead of charming them, then you are not relationship-ready Could you please direct me to resources on how to charm them instead of arguing ? I find myself trying to "charm" them by having rational discussions on a subject, trying to win them over. My strategy was to make them see my perspective, thinking it's the better one, and make them feel grateful for that and be mesmerised by how smart I am. I'm not sure this strategy is working. ​
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 09:38 PM
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Thank you for explaining it so clearly. It makes so much sense now.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 08:49 AM
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Woah so well said. Makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 08:46 AM
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Yes, makes perfect sense. I agree with you. I am just asking what behaviour women do that is similar to blue pill men investing time and money hoping they could get sex in return. I feel like the answer is obvious, but it's not coming to me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 09:18 PM
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Money is always tight, but I will give it a shot. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 01:25 PM
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Thank you! I used to aggressively approach and it got me in unbalanced relationships. I have no problem with approaching and being rejected. However, I am nervous about sending feminine signals and then not being approaced, getting rejected.This is why Im trying the being open to being approached and sending all the right signals.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 01:23 PM
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This sounds good. However, I've never heard of anyone being picked up in a cafe.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 08:50 PM
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