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Get a lawyer and get the divorce filed and get to moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/26 04:01 PM
5

Get out while the gettings good.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 01:02 PM
1

Do it now. The longer you wait the more of your retirement and everything else you'll lose.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 09:52 PM
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Two months in and it sucks fat balls. We're not fighting or anything it's just akward AF. Can't wait for it to be over.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 01:13 PM
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I'm hearing if soooo many men getting divorced around mid forties and their stories all sound identical to mine.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 01:19 AM
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I'm not posting anything until mines final. Then once it's final I'm just blocking a ton of people. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/26 09:44 PM
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Menopause
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/26 08:49 PM
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I never thought I'd leave because I didn't want to see my kids half time. What triggered it was menopause and her losing her focking mind.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/26 02:31 AM
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Get yourself a lawyer now and get it going man. She's probably scared for financial reasons. My wife wanted to bird nest with the kids for four focking years so we could grow out finances. I wasn't about to keep contributing to my 401 and bank accounts for four more years for her to get half of it. I filed and it'll suck for a bit but the kids and I will be better off long run. Honestly wished I'd of done this a long time ago.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 02:46 PM
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Yeah get yourself a lawyer NOW and end it with her and don't look back.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 11:57 PM
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They're all nuts man.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 07:57 PM
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Best bet is to go on the advice of your attorney to a tee so you don't screw anything up for yourself before it's over.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 03:15 AM
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Expect peace of mind and freedom.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/26 12:12 AM
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You're getting hosed. Stop doing those things. Especially putting together furniture she's going to take with her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 09:45 PM
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Thanks..what county?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 09:06 PM
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Michigan doesn't have guaranteed life time. It's up to whatever you negotiate or upntona judge. Life time is super rare here if at all any more. The rule of thumb here is 1:3 as well but there nothing written in stone here.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 09:06 PM
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Get a good lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 09:50 PM
6

I've yet to meet a mofo that's happily married. Content being miserable definitely. Happy? No.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 06:41 PM
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Let us know how it goes. I'm not a party guy so I see myself going and not talking to anyone. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 03:31 PM
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Its the ole I love you but not in love with you. Get a lawyer and start the process and don't look back. You'll be happier.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 03:27 PM
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No real updates. I filed for divorce and now just the akwardness of living in the same house. We don't talk but at cordial.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 12:26 PM
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Get a lawyer. That civil crap goes away real quick.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 07:48 PM
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Dude weve been roomies raising kids for 16 years. Went to marriage counseling after like the first year. Been married 20. Should of done this a looong time ago. We'd of both moved on and probably been happier and I'd be losing a whole let less of my retirement. Don't wait just do it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 12:32 AM
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Get a lawyer and file for divorce. The longer you wait the more of your retirement and everything else she's going to get.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 07:43 PM
1

Dude your lawyer screwed you or something.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 12:13 AM
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I understand this. Mine are teenagers and they do their own thing anyway. We separated for a month. Week at home week gone and the first night alone I was sad briefly but after that I was fine. Now I can't wait to have some freedom and alone time once on a while.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 11:40 PM
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I'd say get that lawyer it could save you a ton in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 01:58 AM
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Better spend it on the house because if it's just sitting in the account she'll get half.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 05:18 PM
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Im doing my best to keep the house but need to see how child support and alimony end up and for how long. Not sure where you are but the housing market where I am is stupid high right now. That's another thing that could kill it for me would be the appraisal. I'm handy though and can do a lot. With that being said if I can't keep the house I'll most likely be in a condo. Just because I can do the work doesn't mean I enjoy it. The kids also want one of us to keep the house and is the real reason …
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 12:38 PM
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What you need to do is get a lawyer ASAP and save anything and everything.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 01:28 AM
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I only stayed because I didn't want to see my kids half time. I should of done it years and years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 04:25 PM
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They see all the happy couples on Facebook and don't realize those are the mofos who are the least happy and on the brink of divorce too. Mine said in therapy that she sees all of the happy couples with these fairytale relationships and that's what she wants. Who doesn't. But I know a lot of couple and can't say I know many who are happy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 03:11 PM
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I was engaged a long long time ago and I got the ring back. Pawn shops and jewelry shops didn't offer crap for it. The place I got it would give what I paid for it to use toward another ring at double the value or more. So my soon to be ex wife got a ring double the value of my ex fiance. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 02:37 AM
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Talk to the lawyer and get all their advice and do exactly what they say.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 11:29 PM
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I figure I'd be going for a lot of evening walks as well. I walk a lot anyway but more so to stay out of the house as much as possible when's she's home.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 12:50 PM
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I'm planning on staying in the basement or out of the house as much as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 01:41 AM
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Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 12:53 AM
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Ef that! No way I could do that. 6 months will be akward enough.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 12:53 AM
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Sorry man glad it's over for you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 12:52 AM
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I don't plan on moving out at all. The plan is to buy her out of the house. She doesn't think she can afford it so we'll see how hard I get screwed in alamony and child support. My.lawyer doesn't think I'll get hit too bad. Thankfully she works full time.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 08:22 PM
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If the lawyer didn't tell you want to bring find a new lawyer. But you probably don't need anything. My first meeting was to interview them and see if I liked them. When I picked one and was ready the meet was for them to tell me everything I need to do and get the retainer paid.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 06:49 PM
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This is exactly what I'm expecting. I texted her a question today and totally takes it out of context. I'm dreading the next six months more than anything ever.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 06:38 PM
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Marry a chick who's done with menopause.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 04:54 PM
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If you don't suspect and wrong doing or hiding if money I wouldn't. Lawyers probably just looking for more billable hours.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 01:29 AM
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Screw the gym. I'm focusing on hobbies I actually enjoy 😂
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 05:19 PM
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Thanks man and ditto!
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 01:50 PM
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Guys at work said to me last week that they needed to find me someone. We haven't even filed yet. I told them I'm not at all interested in finding anyone. I just want to focus on my kids and my hobbies and enjoy alone time for a while. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 01:45 PM
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I can't get over the amount of people that get married a second or third time. Lesson learned. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 01:26 PM
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This is what I worry about because we got the super low COVID rates.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 10:25 PM
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That's about exactly what our equity is too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 06:35 PM
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I've said this for years. They're gone before the kids usually. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 06:30 PM
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Yeah and the ones I talked to acted like they were going to do so much but in my state it's 50/50 no fault. So there's not a whole lot we'd even be fighting over except maybe some of my retirement. They were just being full of themselves to try and sell me on them.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 09:48 PM
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I interviewed four. Two men and two women lawyer and by far the two women were my top choices. Right to the point. The men were like used car salesmen and slimy feeling to me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 06:52 PM
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😂 good luck man!
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 04:16 PM
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People don't learn their lessons. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 01:30 AM
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Thanks! Yes definitely notice her beingore negative than usual as well.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 10:55 AM
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Better get a different attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:31 PM
2

Good luck man!
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:00 AM
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Sounds like my life for the last 14 years.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 08:04 PM
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You definitely need a lawyer and should not be defending yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 01:28 AM
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Good luck man!
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 01:26 AM
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Been trying to find an app that was good for finding friends with similar interests and not much luck. I got Meetup but it's sort of dead in my area. What apps are you using?
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 01:21 AM
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Wtf did you not have a lawyer??
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 09:53 PM
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Dude you need a lawyer quickly.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 01:48 AM
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Yeah I have an art studio and pool table in my basement so I'll definitely keep occupied with those.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 01:05 AM
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Just more about the kids not being here. I'll be able to keep myself busy which will help.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 01:03 AM
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Sorry to hear it!
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 04:46 PM
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Thanks man. Yeah I expect to have them 50/50 as well and also feel for the parents that only get weekends or less even.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 12:05 PM
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Good luck and keep us posted.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 11:23 AM
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We haven't filed yet but at this point and time I could see myself never dating again. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 09:29 AM
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Lol I was just thinking this. The last thing I want is some gym rat.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 08:31 PM
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Glad to hear it all worked out for you both.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 03:31 PM
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Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:57 PM
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If I ever decide to find another partner after this it'll be someone we'll out of menopause. 😂. I'll be picking up chicks at the local senior center.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:52 PM
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Oh yeah I think it's three things. Perimenepause, GLP1 and depression. She refuses to take meds for depression. She used to years ago but not she is just trying to self medicated with vitamins I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:41 PM
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I need my wife wasn't wearing hers full time a while ago. I never said anything I just stopped as well. Lol It a little weird because I didn't realize how much I fidgeted with it until I stopped wearing it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:35 PM
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Good luck! She said two weeks ago she wouldn't go after my retirement but now she's saying she meant my current retirement only but would go for my IRA which is retirement from two past jobs and worth more than my current. Lol. I thought there was a small chance we'd be able to do it using one lawyer but im definitely going to have to hire my own.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:33 PM
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Thanks me too! I mean I want the best for her too and to be happy. I hope she gets her mind straight soon for her sake and for the kids. Living with Dr Jeykl and Mr Hyde hasn't been fun for any of us. Walking on egg shells is mentally exhausting.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:28 PM
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Insanity! Thanks for sharing!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:26 PM
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Thanks! Keep us posted!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:25 PM
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