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OYS #41 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. It has been obvious for me lately that I had a very long anger phase. I fired this anger phase up again and again by holding on to covert contracts. Instead of letting go of these covert contracts I in many cases made them worse, more subtle but still covert contracts. The primary goal with getting in shape was to get my wife to fuck me. The primary goal with getting more organized and "more likable" in my business w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 08:55 AM
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Wow. It sounds way different when it comes from your keyboard. You're right. I am only responsible for my part of the parenthood, whether it's with full time or every other week. I imagine there can be a just as solid band to my kid if I see her half the time. That time is then more dedicated to her, the other half is dedicated to me and me only.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 08:20 PM
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Exactly. If I understand you right I notice the same, one "good habit" is often all it takes to reset and wake up other good and healthy habits/thoughts. One misplaced masturbation, one missed gym pass, one bad night of sleep etc can on the other hand invoke a negative spiraling effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 08:16 PM
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Thanks. I'm definitely scared for the unknown and how others see me. But I also feel guilty for the position I put my daughter in. This is not her fault. I know it's worse for her to live with parents who fell out of love with each other than switching which parent she lives with every week but I will still be the one who caused mum and dad to separate.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 04:30 PM
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OYS #40 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. The latest weeks I've been switching between very energetic, motivated to everything and kind of low and sad. I am in a sad state of mind right now. I don’t think it has sunk in until now that I probably will be a divorced man in a couple of years. I can’t change the fact that I have a wife that has restored the respect for me to some degree but who has no genuine desire for me. I am terrified how a divorce would sca…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 01:05 PM
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OYS #39 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. I've been falling back into old habits a little when it comes to diet. A big side-effect of working too much is I tend to down-prioritize food and food quality. It's easy to get a burger in the drive-in, it saves time and is a fucking lame reason to eat junk-food. Started to bring "better" fastfood in case of a later day than expected. Hard bread with a low GI and a tube of soft cheese. Not the healthiest. Not the yu…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 02:17 PM
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You're right. If my confidence is based on the actions of other people, whether it's my wife or anybody else, I have no true self-confidence. I get that. The thing is I've NEVER been this confident even when the sexual response is good. I managed to truly get out of my own head and just enjoyed it. Maybe this is temporary, but at least I can see what's possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 09:34 AM
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How weird it might sounds, my work is really a passion. I function best when I am a little overloaded with work so it's totally a self-chosen problem. I share your concerns with charge-rates though. I am BAD at charging for the worth of my work. Often long days is because of bad planning, my own or my employees sick-days etc, then it's just fair that I fulfill my projects at normal rate. But bad planning from my customers have to cost. Thanks for your input.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 09:23 AM
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OYS #38 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. Skipped posting last week. The weeks before chrismas are always very hectic from a business-perspective and this year is certainly not an exception. I don't like how everything else get down-prioritized during such periods but it's just a fact. I'm done feeling sorry for myself, whining about how stressed I am. I feel very ashamed when I think about how I used to whine about my stress and how my customers drive me cr…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 10:35 AM
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The only thing that will happen is I get a little fewer calories and probably live a little healthier. I'm a member of a homebrewing club. We get together now and then, sharing beers, recipes and solving world-problems. Not the healthiest activity I'm part of, but it's a great social thing. I still don't see my beer-drinking as a problem in any way, rather an area where I can cut down on my interests a little in favor of my health.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 07:40 PM
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OYS #37 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. ​ 60 DOD Booster-shot, week 2 My diet is overall good since I decided to stop being a lazy flabby fuck. I stopped eating cake, deserts and cookies to the point I don't miss it at all. My weak spot as for this booster shot is beer. I don't drink much beer, but until last week I usually had a glass almost every night. I don't want to cut beer out of my diet, but I restrict myself to max 2 times a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 09:04 PM
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Yeah, I've realized that. In fact, I don't think I ever got so much out of this book as this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/21 11:42 AM
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OYS #36 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. Listened to NMMNG for the third time. This time was a bit different than the first and second time I listened. I saw myself in way more Nice-guy treats than I have done before. I thought I was done with NMMG but now I think I need to return to the book twice a year or something as long as I see new things or remember things i forgot. English is not my first language so that can to some degree explain why I still got …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 08:13 PM
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I'm in, with focus on upper body.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 09:30 AM
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OYS #35 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 135kg, BP 55kg, OHP 35kg, BR 85kg, DL 115kg Caught a cold or something last week. Have felt something was coming for a while and finally fever and a running nose hit me. Have stayed off the gym temporary, focusing on getting better. Temp is still at 38 C but I feel better so hopefully I can get back to my habits very soon. Normally I would be disappointed at not being able to fulfill my habits and u…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 11:54 AM
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Thanks. I will add bench and ohp as 3x5 at the workout where they aren't present. On SQ/BR/Bench-days I'll add 3x5 OHP. On SQ/Bench/DL-days I'll add 3x5 Bench. I will book a PT-session as well to make sure form is right. Eat and sleep can't be mentioned to much, thanks for the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 10:07 AM
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OYS #34 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Self-employed plumber. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 135kg, BP 55kg, OHP 35kg, BR 85kg, DL 115kg ​ Saw Rian Stone's post / whinemoreplease's twitter about the decreasing quality on the MRP subreddit. As anyone who've read either of them know it was more specific about the "we-" or "her-" frame in the majority of our OYS's. A problem I'm terrible aware of and contribute to. Then I saw my own OYS-header in one of the attached pics to wms's twitter and I…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 09:00 PM
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No. It's a proof that you operate entirely in your wife's frame. The rule 9 is (was) there for a reason and I am not sure I would have made any progress regarding frame whatsoever if I hadn't been warned and even been banned for rule 9. What has helped me most to move a little in the right direction is to read other OYS's. Read from both new guys, through those a few weeks ahead of you and all the way up to the veterans. See if you can see a pattern in how the OYS's evolves.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/21 07:53 PM
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Yes. I believe this is spot on. It's easier to blame others or trying to control others than it is to take action and shape us self up. I think this ego-protection-stretegy or whatever it is needs to be faced from all sides to be able to control better. Work on the underlying issues with one self (like the points you mentioned above). Less for the mind to hamster about. Work on managing emotions. A DNGAF attitude towards minor things beyond control. Channeling more justified emotions (mainly ang…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/21 06:35 PM
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Great idea. Today I simply make a calendar note when I reset the counting, but I will have to scroll through the calendar to see the entry. Seeing a number increasing everyday would build a whole different motivation for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/21 03:31 AM
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I agree. My example with the porn filter is an action in responce to a failure, instead of being angry or disappointed. But a better action is to simply note it and make a self-promise to not do it again. Creating workarounds just makes it harder to cheat, it does nothing for my self-control.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:33 PM
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Why is this a primary goal, why are you worried about changing other people (or accepting you can't) instead of changing yourself. Do YOU even want to change YOU? Because it's a main source of anger for me. Of course I want to change ME. And that's my point. I can't spend time on trying to change or control people. The only one I can change is myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:28 PM
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You're right. Making it easier to control myself doesn't help my self-discipline. However, I have to clear anger as an outcome from my failures and simply doing something like this helps. Maybe it's odd, but it works. But I see your concerns, I am on the wrong path if I need to lock the fridge to stay away from the ice cream. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:22 PM
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I haven't used finasteride, only minoxidil. For me it maybe slowed the process a little, for a while. Maybe the effects are better with finasteride, maybe not. The effects are also highly individual. My point is, don't take hairloss as a failure if the effect isn't what you were hoping for.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:49 PM
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Hair - After a week off finasteride, I feel the side effects subsiding significantly. My doctor said I can try decreasing my dosage, so I’ll take another week off and then restart at 0.5mg 3x/week. Still continuing with minoxidil. Too early for results. My opinion (from my own experience) this treatment is when it's effective simply slowing down the process. Accept the process and own it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 10:57 AM
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OYS #33 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 130kg, BP 55kg, OP 35kg, BR 77,5kg, DL 110kg I'm back from an OYS moratorium. Last OYS striked me hard that I'm running in circles in many ways and trying to force changes in myself and others. Many of you clearly saw my anger. An anger I at some level knew I had but tried very hard to mask with rationalizations. I decided to take a few steps back, get out of my head and try …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 10:44 AM
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Don't get me wrong here. It wasn't meant as a complain. Far from that. I wanted to put a note about it while it makes it obvious I've been holding back until recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 03:05 PM
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You're right. No wonder I'm angry. I'm so fucking lost. Read NMMNG twice. It's been a while so you're right, I read it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 01:48 PM
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Worse actually, angry at my anger phase.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:34 AM
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Yeah. I get it. And I get that I'm just whining.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:32 AM
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OYS #32 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 80kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 112,5kg, BP 52,5kg, OP 35kg, BR 77,5kg, DL 110kg Last OYS i promised myself to prioritize sleep and reflect on it in my OYS's. After another week with good sleep despite a few long work-days I am overall calmer. As I noted last week I actually get more done with less active time. This works so well that I will try to implement the same thinking to my work-days. I think I will…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 08:38 AM
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Oh, I usually sleep WELL once I get there. My problem is I stretch the day to far into the night. I don't see the importance of long sleep enough. I try to get things done to late which only ends up with me being ineffective the next day.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 03:04 PM
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Good idea about the sleep tracking. I had great use of the sleep-tracking function in a smartwatch I had. The watch died and with it the tracking habit. A good reason to buy a new one.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 05:42 PM
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Actual work. There's always a lot of paperwork to do and at the moment I don't find enough time for it during the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 05:33 PM
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Calm down fellows. Of course we fucked. I guess it was stupid of me to leave a cliffhanger like that but I really thought it was beside the point. :D
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 04:32 PM
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OYS #31 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 80kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 112,5kg, BP 52,5kg, OP 35kg, BR 77,5kg, DL 110kg I had a week where I prioritized sleep better than for a while. I know very well that I should be off to bed earlier most nights, but I fool myself I have too much going on for it to happen. In reality I get way more done if I sleep better. A truth I once again realized after just a couple of nights with 7+ hours of sleep. This…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:59 AM
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OYS #30 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 80kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 112,5kg, BP 52,5kg, OP 35kg, BR 77,5kg, DL 110kg I’ve been off gym for almost a week due to Covid-infection. Had my second shot of vaccine about a month ago and I’m pretty cautious aswell so I imagined I’m safe. I wasn’t. It hasn’t been worse than an ordinary cold so I’m not complaining but it prevents me to go to the gym. I’m terrified that a minor bump on the road like will…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 08:46 AM
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Hehe. Yeah, I'm working on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 04:32 AM
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OYS #29 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 80kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 112,5kg, BP 52,5kg, OP 35kg, BR 77,5kg, DL 110kg I had decided not to post this week. I had nothing to write and I had better things to do. Then it hit me, maybe it's even more important to make notes to myself about when things seems just "normal"? I have a very busy life right now and I don't prioritize the theoretical parts of MRP at all. I haven't listened to an audiobook…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 08:32 PM
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OYS #28 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 80kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years. SL5x5 numbers: SQ 110kg, BP 52,5kg, OP 35kg, BR 70kg, DL 110kg ​ Decided to invest in my own health by getting massage on a regular basis. Actually, I went to my first massage-session ever and realized it really did something with my whole body (no, there were no happy ending ;) ).Immediately after the session, when I jumped into my car I had this overwhelming feeling of stress and anxiety. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 06:58 PM
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I've not tried Mg threonate. The one I use is with Mg Citrate and it does the job for me. I don't get stomach-problems with it either which has been the case with some.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/21 06:40 PM
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Gay or not, diet and sleep is a big factor to get you to function throughout the day. Most of us agree that lifting calms you down in general and makes you sleep better. But when you're in a very bad place when it comes to sleep and diet it's really a catch 22. Been there, done that. For me, magnesium-supplements was a game-changer. Got me to fall asleep in no time, got rid of restless legs and get me way more energy.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 04:06 AM
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To try to sell MRP as a full concept to him wont work. Don't do that. He will only think you try to lure him into a religious cult or something. Try to plant small seeds of MRP. Much is really logical even for someone that never heard of MRP or RP. Tell him to get in shape for his own health and looks. Tell him that IF she decides to leave theres nothing he can do to buy her back, it will only seem needy. Don't bend yourself backwards while trying to convince him of what he should/need to do. Ac…
/r/askMRP02/08/21 07:27 AM
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Thanks. Yeah, it may be bad technique to some extent.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/21 05:38 PM
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No. I started lifting a month ago after fooling myself with other shit that has not built any strength, at least not in my upper body. I deserve and appreciate your criticism though. I should have started this way earlier.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/21 04:59 PM
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Yeah. It can make tremendous harm if the concept is wrong. Same with today's education. I'm not a fan of today's school with powerless teachers. The respect for authorities has dropped to zero. It's easy to dream back to the "good old days" when the stick wasn't only to point at the blackboard, but that power in wrong hands...no thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 03:55 PM
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In my country we at least had a compulsory military service that in many cases made men out of boys. This program was abandoned years ago for a system of free choice. It's definitely not the men that really needs it that signs in.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 05:40 AM
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Then she started disrespecting the shit out of me, wanted a break (I didn't agree, told her a break is a break up) and eventually the disrespect got so bad and she just didn't want to be with me anymore so I left. She knows a break is a breakup. She just don't wanna be the one to kill the puppy.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 03:06 PM
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Great. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 12:18 PM
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Thanks, What about the idea itself, to add 3x12 machine delt press to the 5x5 routine? Now I do that in addition to both types of 5x5-workouts. Do you see any problem with this? I mean, is there any risk with overdoing presses? I still keep a rest-day between every workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 05:00 AM
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I ask myself the same question. Old bad habit I guess. I have always been "shy" until I reached a certain comfort-level. I don't know where this behavior come from, but I know it's unfounded. I think it does me no good to try to find a cause but rather force myself to leave this bad habits once and for all.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 02:07 PM
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Yes. I'm sure that's why I regret doing it wrong so badly. I gave her the validation and proved to myself to be to weak to do a proper opening.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 01:31 PM
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SQ 85kg BP 45kg MP 35kg ROW 65kg DL 90kg I started higher on squat and deadlift, that's why they differ.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 01:11 PM
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Yes. But IMO there is a big difference in how the opening is made. An elderly-opener (which would be the case if I would asked her about the watch, in the same way I would ask anyone out of curiosity) isn't necessary received as validation-seeking. The way I looked into her eyes and smiled definitely was.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 01:08 PM
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OYS 24 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years It's getting easier to get up early. I go to the gym first thing in the morning while evenings easy can be ruined due to work or other plans. It gives me a great start of the day aswell and I start my work-day with more energy than non-gym-days. I follow SL5x5 and I like to have a program to follow and it's easy to follow the progress. I am very weak in Military Press and Bench Press. Especially…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 09:33 AM
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OYS 23 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years I’ve been lifting 3-4 times a week for about a month now. I get why TRP and MRP prompts it as highest priority. It has cooled down my brain in a weird and wonderful way. Missed 2 workouts due to a business trip and I swear I could feel the difference. I downloaded a SL 5x5 app and went with that program from start. Started with empty bar with MP and BP but the rest I loaded the bar a little more…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 09:41 AM
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Well, that's one of the main reasons that brought me here.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/21 03:26 AM
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Yeah. That make sense. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/21 03:23 AM
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I haven't. But it's been on my list for a while. I'll definitely dig in to it soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 09:43 PM
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I agree. To settle for something less is to play by her rules. Maybe it's better to deny the offer when it's a plain negotiation product.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 04:46 PM
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OYS 22 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 8 years ​ I was on a business-trip this weekend and used the oppurtunity to practice talking to people. It really start to come more natural to me. It has always been problematic for me to find things to talk about especially when I talk to women. I find it easier and easier. I find more and more default openers and it gets easier for me to find openers suited for the moment. I can see that a big block …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 12:56 PM
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Of course it's due to insecurity. Every single time I don't throw in the towel due to insecurity I get pleasantly surprised how easy it is and how fucked up these fears are. This has very quickly bettered my self-confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/21 06:53 PM
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Yep. I do. I can see it does me well to face these fears as much as possible. It helps me spot them for what they are aswell, fears and comfort-zones.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 11:16 AM
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OYS 21 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years Started lifting again about two weeks ago. Stepped in to the gym early Sunday morning to make sure to be there alone. To be honest I was worried to be seen as weak, to be seen as a noob not knowing what the hell I was doing there. At the same time I didn't want to be seen as one aiming too high with initial weights and failing completely. I didn't realize these worries at the time but in my head…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 01:36 PM
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3) erection test is better than bashing your head into the wall 10 days in a row. Seen comments about erection test a few times here. What is that?
/r/askMRP24/06/21 10:29 AM
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Maybe, maybe not. Less autistic about it for sure, but the fact that it's different depending on level of arousal, energy, her behavior etc proofs there is a confidence-issue as well as a validation need. I try to see sex as more spontaneous and not some box to check in the schedule. That actually helps. Don't fool yourself. To don't wanna waste time is just an excuse to stay in your comfort-zone. Believe me, I recognize this 100%. Something that seems to help for me is to use the push-the-limit…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 08:32 AM
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OYS 20 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years Got some eye-opening thoughts about fear and comfort-zone about a week ago as reply to a AskMRP-post I did. u/johneyapocalypse made a parable about walking naked and nobody really would care. This is so damn true. So..I decided to take a naked walk….No, but it got me thinking about various moments when I tend to choose the easy, comfortable path and I decided to stretch my comfort-zones when I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:35 AM
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I have a theory it's a a male equivalent to beta bux when it comes to LTR:ing obese women. A hope for a beta male to have higher chance to keep her due to less competition from other males
/r/askTRP16/06/21 12:11 PM
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This! Bring a kid or two when appropriate. Alter kids next time to make it fair to them. It's good for the kids to be separated for a while and it makes a great opportunity to bound better with your kids. Taking the kid for activities, if so just to join me in the car, has made the relationship to my daughter much better.
/r/askMRP15/06/21 09:26 PM
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I guess there is a reason it's dread level 1. I recognize what you say. Sure, I'm stronger but I don't think I can get much more out of it. The nearest gym is 40 minutes away. Of course that's just an excuse, but now I can way a week or two until the one close to me opens again. Did you notice a big difference with barbell lifting vs kettlebells?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 01:29 PM
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Not at the moment. Gym closed last autumn due to restrictions and they decided to close for good two months ago. A new owner is going to start it again after renovations. Hopefully in a week or two. During this period I've been using kettlebells and dumbbells.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 12:26 PM
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OYS 19 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years I’m running in circles in many ways. I still seek external validation in every step I make. Went running and got my best time so far at my 10km running-route.I felt really proud of it coz I haven’t made progress in running for a while. Talked to my cousin on the phone close after and immediately felt the urge to brag about it. I stopped myself though, I don’t want to feed that validation-monster…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 08:31 AM
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Yeah. I think my hamster is lost in the maze.
/r/askMRP15/06/21 04:40 AM
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The mental modell of the Hamster Maze was really good.
/r/askMRP14/06/21 10:16 PM
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Thanks. I will take more action and read less. And I will stop looking back for proof of success.
/r/askMRP14/06/21 05:19 AM
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You´re absolutely right. I look for immediate proof of success. I live in my head where I can blow my ego even bigger by reading way too much, thinking I am way better than I actually am. I will stop read for a while and step up my action. Thanks.
/r/askMRP14/06/21 05:14 AM
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I do OYS every week since January. I've read them, and A LOT more. That has been my universal solution to everything. I just read more. I've learned a lot of tools but I've been very bad at using them.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 08:37 PM
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Simply get out of your comfort zone. Tomorrow. At 11am. Leave the house. Talk to 20 people at random. Climb a hill. Go to the zoo. Monday, Schedule a trip for next weekend. Tuesday, before you leave on your trip, pick a random name from your contact list, call 'em and take 'em for a drink. You're full of so much fear over things that are stupid and insignificant but you're so caught up in equations and that other silliness you penned to paper that you're losing site of the larger target - life i…
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:51 PM
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I did that. New style, shaving daily instead of weekly, smell better etc. I can't remember getting comments about this at all.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:33 PM
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Oh. And I didn't mean r/deadbedroom if that's what you meant. I ment my low sex marriage.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:26 PM
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Thanks. Yes. I am overthinking this. Actually tweaking my evenings to fit her frame. That's no different from asking permission to do my things. I realize that now.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:18 PM
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You're absoultely right. Cutting back totally on initiations would just be to give up. Thanks, I needed to hear this.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:08 PM
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Thanks. I really apreciate you invested your time in me. Here is SO much for me to hammer into my head.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:06 PM
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I know. But I seem to forget it from time to time.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:04 PM
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180cm, 79kg, BF 15,5% (according to scale), probably a little higher in reality). This is down 13 kg since last year and 5 since our wedding. Still long way to go to induce dread though.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:02 PM
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Thanks. I'll look it up.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:01 PM
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This connects well with catch and release. I will up that.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 06:01 PM
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Thanks. I really apreciate you took the time. You said you’re physique is much better than last time, but you didn’t give any metrics/numbers, so I’m guessing you gave a long way to go both physically and with frame. 180cm, 79kg, BF 15,5% (according to scale), probably a little higher in reality). This is down 13 kg since last year and 5 since our wedding. I’m curious about her appearance/ attractiveness. How is that? I’m also curious as to whether or not she could be 167cm, 83kg. I would say I'…
/r/askMRP13/06/21 05:59 PM
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I will. In fact I haven't had an real in-text MAP so far, just goals set to myself early on. Memories tend to stretch or disappear over time though. Yesterday I started writing a MAP of the following 12 months and I give myself until next weekend to finish it. The process has been slow so far but I use this as a new start. A main thing in this new MAP is that I count on that divorce is the outcome and I have to be well prepared financially and mentally. Regarding the catch and release part, I ha…
/r/askMRP12/06/21 09:16 PM
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This is actually spot on. I have seen it as a catch 22, I have no ability to initiate if I don't plan my evenings to prioritize sex. And if I plan my evening like this I am immediately in her frame. I want to have sex, but I don't want it to ruin other things I want to do. I will stop overthinking it.
/r/askMRP12/06/21 07:48 PM
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That's correct. So far I haven't really thought it would have to end in divorce. I am starting to realize that could be the outcome and I have to get used to the thought.
/r/askMRP12/06/21 06:26 PM
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Yeah. I know it's retarded and I have a very autistic approach to this one.
/r/askMRP12/06/21 04:43 PM
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No. Can you tell me more?
/r/askMRP12/06/21 04:06 PM
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Just STFU. Don't argue with a woman.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 04:44 AM
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OYS 18 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years I’ll stick to the same format as last week, without sections. Sections tend to overlap each other so it suits me better to float between subjects. I had a wonderful week. I’ve done some meditation for a while and got good results from it when it comes to relax my body and mind. Lately I have skipped meditation though when I realized it’s the mindfulness that comes from meditation that keeps me c…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 08:55 AM
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I see. However it shook my ego quite a bit. I needed that. But to your point, you're 100% correct. I can't make it natural. Either I tend to not initiate or I overdo it. And this behavior is definitely fully transparent for my wife to see. I think there's still too much validation in play.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/21 09:14 PM
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Great. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/21 04:56 AM
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I really can't find it. Many many interesting posts but nothing about this. By J10 i suppose you mean u/jacktenofhearts?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 06:43 PM
1

Thanks. I'll look it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 04:28 AM
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OYS 17 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years This OYS will be a little different than previous ones because last week has been very different. I’ve come to question myself and my progress in a way I haven’t before. It all started with last OYS. I really thought I was on the right track with most of my shit. A comment from u/man_in_the_world turned these believes upside down (Thanks! I appreciate the help.). At first I thought his concerns …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 08:31 AM
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You know what. You're damn right. I keep fooling myself over and over. I'm so angry with myself for not being able to figure this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 08:35 PM
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For me, this kind of reply easy looks butthurt, kind of DEERing about having other interests. An AA/AM reply if done confident shows that I keep frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 07:05 AM
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I think I see what you mean but I would say I am beyond that phase. I don't know if this is right, but I make loose plans for the things I want to do. If I want sex I initiate. If I get shut down I simply follow the plan I had made earlier. This helps me to not be butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 04:26 AM
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Point taken. This could definitely been done with fewer och no words.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 05:44 PM
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OYS 16 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career I spotted some weak points in my business. It´s mainly a service-business (plumber) but we sell products as well, mainly for our own projects. We have a product-segment that is just loosely connected to what we do. We make some money on it but it costs quite a lot to keep this in stock. We buy these products from another company that we have a loose partnership with. We have slightly diff…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 10:15 AM
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Thanks, Many good points here. I need to think more in this way. I really agree on the flair-part. A pair of sunglasses, even if they just hang on the shirt-collar makes a big difference. I haven't found a cap or hat style that enhance my appearance yet. They all make me seem like an old(er) man.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/21 06:00 PM
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OYS 15 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career Implementing more mindfulness to my work-days. Focusing on the current task and not thinking about other things calms my brain down. It doesn’t matter if the workload is heavy, normal or light if I can’t be mindful. I have a tendency to make the work stressful regardless of the workload. If the workload is light or normal, I tend to procastrinate more which often mean I have to hurry with…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 08:43 AM
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I agree. Thanks guys for pointing it out though.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 05:47 PM
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Yes. I'm sure on this one. I've always been turned off by this. Anal as well, that's nothing for me. Why this is is another question, but I feel no urge to push through my preferences. I think it's good to overcome ones fears. But force through disgusts, no thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 12:04 PM
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Maybe so. But I care. The blood really turns me off. I settle for and prefer blowjobs that quarter of the month.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 10:49 AM
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OYS 14 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career: It works pretty well here. A normal amount of work. Got requests for a few bigger projects. If they can be scheduled as planned it fits well with our schedule. It's good to have periods with less projects now and then, but I am way more effective under some pressure. Sex/Marriage: Sharkweek. I've been off porn and masturbation for a couple of weeks but relapsed two days in a row a couple…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:53 PM
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Yeah. Same here. And with a higher tone when I didn't get her to listen. Like that would help.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 04:47 AM
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Yes. It's easy to swing the other way as well though, fooling ones ego that you don't want it/need it/have time for it. The main thing here I think is to let go of the scoreboard and not think to much about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 04:39 AM
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Exactly. I had great success in my carreer just by setting boundaries and stand by them. I have to get the same solid frame as a parent. If a book can help with more tools to get there it's great.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 01:43 PM
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OYS 13 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 79kg BF 16%. Wife 35, married 11 years. 1 daughter 7 years ​ Career: New modifications to my schedule-behavior works well. I schedule 3 a bit shorter days per week. Many times there is time left for me to prepare for the next day, a little administration work etc. It really feels like I get more done this way. ​ Sex/Marriage: I realized after last week’s OYS I still bullshitting myself around sex. I am NOT OI when it comes to initiations. For sure I can…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 10:03 AM
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I don't understand. You mean this is just excuses? Edit: Oh.. I see validation.. How she responds to my sexuality should not be my concern.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 04:56 AM
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Not really. I initiate when I want to and for now it isn't more often than that. I used to initiate even if I weren't into it at all or very tired, but I think I initiate harder and better and the sex is better if I'm really into it and wait a few days between. For me it's not necessary the amount of sex but rather that to have a sexual-responsive woman that is most important.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 02:56 PM
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OYS 12 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 17%. Wife 34, married 10 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career: We have gone from an about-two-year period of really too many projects to a more normal schedule. This has made it possible to schedule better. I return to this in almost every OYS. The funny thing is I actually get more stressed over my work-schedule when I have a normal schedule than when I have much too much. I plan my and others days better when we are drowning in work than when it’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 08:40 AM
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OYS 11 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 17%. Wife 34, married 10 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career: Everything works fine really. I tend to want to get more done than what is possible. When I at the end of a day summarize what has been done I often realize very much has been done anyway. I need to lower my self-expectation a bit. I have been less consistent with meditation and mindfulness and I need to get that back on track, it will help me cool down. Family/Sexlife/Marriage: Daughter…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 08:49 AM
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Maybe so. I get that the behavior in other people in no way is a display of my progress. It just seems like a good thing they respect me more. Is this wrong?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 06:16 PM
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OYS 10 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 17%. Wife 34, married 10 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career: It works really fine to schedule less projects and have more time for emergency-projects and paper-work. This has brought out another problem in the daylight. Parkinson’s law says that a project will always fill the time scheduled for it. A gap in the schedule tends to be used less effective. If I schedule a whole day for office-work I will be less effective and might get the same amount…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 08:46 AM
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OYS 9 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 17%. Wife 34, married 10 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career: I have slowed down a bit. Scheduling 3 days per week has been a success. It gives me enough time for office-work and there is time for emergency projects. My work is the area that I am most confident in so this just have to work 100%. I have the full responsibility for my work so when I fail in scheduling or anything else I have simply not been consistent. If I for example promise to help…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 12:23 PM
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Dude, theese advices ARE serious. Not the advices you want to hear but definitely the ones you need.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 11:33 AM
2

Ah. I see what you mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 06:15 PM
2

True. It's a behavior over my whole life-spectrum. I'm a control-freak. It's very obvious in my work. I know I am really good what I'm doing but I already until recently cared to much about what the customers think. I was frightened to let them wait to long to get the job done. I was frightened that it would cost them too much... even if I know I have a high tempo and leave with a high quality result. Fucking nice-huy behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 04:13 PM
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The questioning was more a reference to the past. But I get the picture. It's obvious when someone else is pointing it out that I care to much about what's in others heads.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 04:03 PM
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Yep. That's a good point. Even if I do all this for myself, looking back over my shoulder for reactions is just validation-seeking.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 09:29 AM
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OYS 8 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 17%. Wife 34, married 10 years. 1 daughter 7 years Career: I can see that I have full control over my projects. Still I panic from time to time anyway. I have had symptoms of too much stress for a while now and I need to have better control over my work-schedule. I forget things more than what’s normal. I often notice I am tense in my stomach and need to actively calm down and relax my stomach-muscles. I feel tense in my face and get tics in my e…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 08:41 AM
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All will be clearer over time. Work on yourself as usual and it will most certainly be natural to you,
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 10:36 AM
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“Hey, let’s have sex later on tonight” “No.” “Well we can’t do it now, the kids aren’t asleep yet” “No. I knew you were going to ask me this tonight” (Me chuckling in amusement). “You’re a funny girl” Try to initiate non-verbal. Initiate in the same way as asking "What's for dinner" is usually not well recieved. I noticed non-verbal initiation is WAY easier when ones self-confidence and SMV is raised. Non-verbal initiation must be in a confident, non-needy way. Don't make it obvious you are goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 09:37 AM
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OYS 7 Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg BF 17%. Wife 34, married 10 years. 1 daughter 7 years ​ ​ Career: I have started to schedule three days week and leave the rest of the days empty for panic-projects, prioritized customers and other things. I try to be in the moment more. I have listened to much of the redpill-books I’ve read while working. I am better on what I’m doing if I focus entirely on the work. I’ve read so much that I better slow that down and have a read-time now and then. …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 08:54 AM
3

The part about "The L-spot".
/r/askMRP22/03/21 05:00 AM
2

"Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb"
/r/askTRP21/03/21 09:25 PM
1

If you are cool you shouldn't worry about not being invited.
/r/askTRP21/03/21 12:41 PM
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Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.
/r/askTRP21/03/21 12:35 PM
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It is liberating to finally understand the validation seeking and being able to consciously stop it. Before this, if I didnt fuck for a few days that would occupy my head space way more than it should have. I’d think, I better fuck her its been awhile. ​ I recognise this behavior 100%. Even if I wasn't the slightest into it. Initiating with words only and got angry when turned down. This validation-seeking behavior must have been very obvious and unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 11:43 AM
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OYS 6 ​ Stats: Age 41 Height: 180cm Weight: 81kg. Wife 34, married 10 years. 1 daughter 7 years ​ ​ I need to have a more consistent MAP. So far a have for sure made progress in the most areas but a haven’t set any goals other than I will be better. For next OYS i will have a MAP in place. I guess I need a more consistent format of my OYS’s aswell. ​ Career: I am running my own company and have one employee. I never hear anything negative from my costumers. We are very respected for our high tem…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 09:39 AM
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OYS 5 Stats: Age 41 Height 5'10 Weight 176lbs fat 19% (scale) Wife 34. 1 daughter 7 years ​ Stopped porn a couple of weeks ago and that has changed my masturbation-habits aswell. I don´t feel the urge for it the same way. For a couple of months I´ve been having low libido and problem with both ED and PE. Mainly in times of sex but also occasionally when masturbating. I figured this is a combination of redpill-rewireing of my brain and exhaustion. When I got this problems I am quite sure I got so…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 09:05 AM
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You acted butthurt by explaining why she should be into sex. A better way would be like: Whats wrong? Nothing. Goodnight. ( Kiss her, smile and leave the room).
/r/askTRP08/03/21 09:32 PM
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What is "your own authentic self"? This doesn't exist. Your self is always shifting with your mindset, confidence, age, health etc. Your "self" is a product of all this. Work on yourself and have an alpha mindset and "your own authentic self" will make it easier to get women.....and better job....and more/better friends.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 11:16 PM
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I don´t think it´s overrated. But I think it´s misunderstood. Lifting change your mindset, improves testosterone-levels and builds confidence. It´s not the muscles that attracts women, it´s the bi-products of muscles that does. You don´t lift to attract women. You lift to better yourself, physically and mentally. Bettering yourself attracts women ( as a bi-product, not the main goal).
/r/askTRP20/02/21 12:15 PM
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Muscles don´t help if you´re unconfident. Work on your confidence and your behavior. If you haven´t, start reading the sidebar!
/r/askTRP20/02/21 10:52 AM
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OYS 4 Stats: Age 40 Height 5'10 Weight 176lbs fat 19% (scale) Wife 34. 1 daughter 7 years ​ I really feel I´m done with sex connected with validation. I don´t have time to worry about my own or others sexual desire, libido or functionality. ED-problems completely gone. In fact erections are better than ever. Have cut down on fapping and porn but NOFAP is not for me. PE-problems is WAY better now. ​ I have bettered myself in so many areas in a quite short time but I realize some areas is lagging.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/21 10:23 AM
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OYS 3 Stats: Age 40 Height 5'10 Weight 178lbs fat 19% (scale) Wife 34. 1 daughter 7 years ​ ​ Saw HoA's post about the timeline of escaping sex for validation. This really make sense for my low libido phase. So I am definitely in phase 2. Made me much calmer about my problems. I'm rewirering. I will take the opportunity to get more shit done instead of worrying about low libido, PE and ED. Porn stops now aswell. Read "The subtle art of not giving a fuck" since last OYS and I realize I still give…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/21 09:02 AM
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OYS 2 Stats: Age 40 Height 5'10 Weight 178lbs fat 19% (scale) Wife 34. 1 daughter 7 years ​ Mental: ​ I think I am in the end of a depression-phase. A long phase of high energy and positivity switched about two months ago to a downward spiral. My back started to hurt due to to heavy weights for my still weak core. A very stressful phase at work made me tired and strained. Still tried to appear full of energy to not show my fatigue. Didn't get enough sleep while I stayed up late fixing things. Al…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/21 10:09 AM
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You have to start to shift focus to yourself. Start take steps to better yourself. Less or no sex during and after pregnancy is more a rule than an exception. To show hurt about it doesn´t help at all. It will actually make it worse and prevent you from starting your sexlife again. Be helpful at home and with your daughter without whining about it. Be respectful at your wife and she will be respectful to you. Start to prioritize yourself and be a rock. The sex will return when she sees you like …
/r/askMRP19/12/20 11:33 AM
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In my opinion #1 is by far the best. #2 digs deeper in the female life-phases. Some interesting things for sure but much is repeated from the first book. #3 I thought was really heavy. Much is repeated from #1&2 aswell. I listened to all three in audible so it could be different if you read the books.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 08:24 AM
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I think that makes sense. Actually I kind of quit porn and cut down of fapping to about once a week in the earliest stages. It gave me more energy and self-confidence. I realized that I couldn't last very long during sex though and got back to almost every day hoping it would restore my former stamina. Yeah. I realize I think to much.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/20 11:42 AM
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Sounds tempting. A topless 18yo preparing me for my wife.....What the hell do I need my wife for. 😁
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/20 02:46 PM
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OYS 1 ​ Stats: Age 40 Height 5'10 Weight 178lbs fat 19% (scale) Wife 34. 1 daughter 7 years ​ ​ I´m quite new to this. Started to chew on the red pill about six months ago. I guess it took me about a month to completely swallow it. Started eating better right away but it took about two months until I draged myself to the gym, so started lifting 4 times a week about 4 months ago. Lost about 20lbs of weight and now have a fair BMI. Starting to see some visual results in muscles, but I still have a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/20 10:21 AM
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