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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Women aren't attracted to 'nice' Maybe (well, clearly based on this thread) who he is now needs some work before he should be in a relationship. That kind of unconditional appreciation is not something you should expect from a stranger, that's something you build towards after nurturing a healthy relationship.	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/22 04:52 PM
2	Women aren't attracted to 'nice' No one is entitled to the time and energy of others. Women are just people. If that's not the type of person you'd be attracted to, why would you expect someone else to be?	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/22 04:50 PM
5	Do I have to appeal to the female gaze? Whenever you see "women want x/women want y" don't let your head spin - just ignore it. those are completely reductive, there's a lot of variety of women and with that a huge variety in what they want. The "female gaze" only helps with extremely superficial interaction (like apps). If you want to connect in a relationship way, don't worry about the female gaze. Just try to be the type of person you would want to be around, whatever that looks like (positive energy? easy smile?). When people enjo…	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/22 05:57 PM
2	If I was handsome or cute, wouldn't my life experiences be different? you need to get at the root of a couple things: your perception of yourself and your perception of women. Perception of self needs to come first, it needs to be the case that if there was no-one left on earth that you would still have high self esteem. In looking at your perception of yourself, think about what you consider a good/valuable person - maybe traits like kindness to animals, not littering, willingness to help others, has neat hobbies, etc.. Examine whether or not your definition of a…	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/22 05:50 PM
8	If I was handsome or cute, wouldn't my life experiences be different? about to comment exactly this. Looks are definitely not your problem. People may not be complementing you because they're put off by your energy - what you think and feel shows up in all aspects of communication: facial expression, eye contact, word choice, body language. Also, it's not necessarily customary to give complements at prom. I went with a friend and I don't think either of us complemented each other really.	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/22 05:36 PM
1	Sister dating a dark triad scared for her life I'm sorry you're going through this. The only thing I can think that might get through to her is to approach it like an addiction, and tell her in a neutral setting about how much you love her and how much her involvement with him scares you.	/r/ExRedPill	04/03/22 03:30 AM
2	Should I start seeing escorts? I think it's a matter of liberation, a lot of men in that position have a rigidly defined idea of fulfillment that doesn't organically come from their own likes/dislikes. The MensLib subreddit has a lot of interesting stuff on the topic	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/22 02:22 AM
7	Should I start seeing escorts? Looking at your post history, it sounds like you need to have more in your life that isn't work or pursing a relationship, like hobbies or somethings that's genuinely fun for you. I'm sorry you're in this mental space but you seem like someone who's looking to fix it, which is the #1 ingredient that you need. Good luck with everything!	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/22 06:35 PM
9	Should I start seeing escorts? you know that there are people like that suffering in horrible jobs with unlivable wages right? and that elderly hunger is a huge problem?	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/22 06:32 PM
3	Should I start seeing escorts? this sounds very uninformed... and believe it or not lots of people avoid buying Nike and other large brands for that reason	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/22 06:30 PM
10	Should I start seeing escorts? trafficking and getting stuck in the mentality, circle of poverty, self esteem/mental health issues, etc.	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/22 06:29 PM
18	Should I start seeing escorts? this response here feels like those bad vibes she's talking about in that your questions seem set up to generate a "woe is me" response, rather than actually considering reality (i.e. of course they're not supposed to know "every single little detail about your life" and of course "hey how's your day" is not a desperate question). More of how you feel show's through than you realize, which is okay, feelings are great as they're the compass to looking at what we need to fix (i.e. if you can't be …	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/22 06:27 PM
1	Should I start seeing escorts? Online dating is a mess. Start by putting yourself in the shoes of the person you want to date? Are they on an app? or are they out there doing hobbies and interacting with people in a more organic way? Perhaps consider shifting from a low quality/high quantity paradigm to a higher quality/lower quantity one. The best way to create a relationship is to approach it like creating a friendship (i.e. look for ways to genuinely connect with someone). Consider that the low quality buckshot approach is…	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/22 06:20 PM
3	Thanks to this sub, a man and a woman somehow fell in love with each other and we thank you for it existing That sounds like a lovely example of a very equal relationship, I think I misunderstood the comments about feminine and masculine from the post	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/22 04:08 PM
3	Thanks to this sub, a man and a woman somehow fell in love with each other and we thank you for it existing I think red-pilled is a specific flavor of strict gender roles. It seems like you're gender roles aren't gone, just different, whereas the ultimate opposite of red-pilling is no gender roles (i.e. people living as their authentic selves regardless of social pressure and seeing each other as completely equal). That doesn't make your relationship wrong, it sounds like you two make each other happy which is great	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/22 04:56 PM
5	Thanks to this sub, a man and a woman somehow fell in love with each other and we thank you for it existing I'm happy you found a relationship that works for you both!	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/22 04:49 PM
13	Why do people say men have it easier than women?? all genders suffer under traditional rigid ways of seeing things, and none of us is truly liberated until we all are. Men being told to ignore the things that make them human and avoid being vulnerable with those who could become friends is definitely a huge problem. I think it's something that's coming into the light more and more, but there's still so much work that needs to be done in accepting men's vulnerability. You're right that bisexuality in men is less accepted than for women (as a bis…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/22 04:17 PM
9	My husband is taking on his best friend's negative views of women. Is there anything I can reasonably do? yes please take note of the "training" aspect here. this is an extremely damaging manipulation tactic being used on you that I really hope you remove yourself from. Please let someone you know in real life know about this, and possibly find a therapist of your own because these are all intimate betrayals that whether you see it right now or not, you'll likely need to heal from.	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/22 06:43 PM
9	My husband is taking on his best friend's negative views of women. Is there anything I can reasonably do? There are a lot of great men in this world who aren't so insecure that they have to cultivate disrespect of women to feel better, or cheat on their partners. Your husband appears to be acting more and more like a spoiled toddler. These are very serious issues and as others have commented do add up to abuse and manipulation. You are being used by this man who is supposed to love you, but this isn't what love looks like. It sounds based on the relationship and his inability to make friends that he…	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/22 06:36 PM