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beautyandbravo/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 04:01 PM
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I mean I’m totally with you. What do you mean by the messaging though? Like yeah men should do better about a lottttt of things lol but unfortunately that’s not in my direct control. Why should I be hung up on something I can’t do anything about? There are plenty of spaces to vent about men being emotionally unintelligent at best, selfish at worst, no secret that they can be lol. I’m here to focus on what IS in my control to get the results I want in my own personal life. A happy long lasting ma…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/25 12:02 AM
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I haven’t read the books you mentioned but the Laura Doyle stuff I have read emphasizes focusing on the end result you want as opposed to how you get there. In your example - what’s more important to you? Taking over with the directions and making the party on time but having bickered/both in a cranky mood? Or being late but having stayed connected and having a loving vibe and fun flirty time together once you get there? (And to be fair, depending on where you’re going it could sometimes be the …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/25 05:17 PM
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Do a little search for “wife goggles” in this sub, learning about that was pretty reassuring for me and makes sense! Seems like it’s very possible to avoid if you do your part keeping the connection alive and continuing putting effort into your appearance. With a good guy of course.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 08:33 PM
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Ballerina farm
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 08:01 PM
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Read Laura Doyle - drop it with him and use your woman powers the way she suggests to inspire him to want to commit, make the $ you need to stay home and think it was all his idea. Release your need to control this. He needs to feel confident handling his career and also confident that he can make you happy before settling down. You’ve already stated what he can do to make you happy. He’s working on it, it doesn’t happen overnight and complaining that you’re not engaged yet is evidence to him th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/24 12:34 PM
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I jokingly call myself the sustainability committee of our family. I make it my job to identify areas where we can reduce waste, toxins, and improve efficiency in our household. So lots of research and experiments around natural cleaning and personal care techniques, home organization, bulk buying/batch cooking/freezing food for the cost savings and convenience, upgrading our items to natural materials/BIFL versions (when things need replaced), and all of the constant maintenance that goes into …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 08:30 PM
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I would still focus on school and then go to work for a bit, hopefully you’ll meet someone compatible in your travels but you do want to be able to support yourself and be independent first. That way a man feels like you’re choosing him because he’s special enough to settle down for/be traditional for, not that you’re just looking for a meal ticket and someone to support you. And you’ll be able to contribute to getting your life together started - down payment, whatever. It’s not forever, think …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 09:22 AM
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Instead of feeling like you have to validate your values by express or arguing for them, embody them every day with how you show up in the world. You can’t convince or control someone else, but you can inspire someone by sharing your own bright light.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/24 11:55 PM
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I suggest looking into dbt and/or manifestation depending on what kind of person you are and what you’re into. Both have helped me, both have elements I take and some I leave but together they helped me overcome a similar issue several years ago. Also recommend Laura Doyle surrendered wife if you haven’t already read. You may have to take some of the religious stuff with a grain of salt, I did, but I’ll attest that the perspective and techniques in that book can get you everything you want in li…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 12:32 AM
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lol sad indictment of where things are at
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 02:19 PM
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Together for 12 years, married for 5, discovered RPW (Laura Doyle) about 4 or so years into dating. Huge piece of advice (and I’ll actually write this on the wedding shower game lol) is sometimes it’s more important to be happy than to be right! Also - heal your shit. I had frustrating patterns with dating and into my early relationship with my husband where I’d sabotage myself. Once I gained awareness of this, realized I can try new ways and started working on it everything changed. Not just ro…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 11:41 PM
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A daily gratitude practice has helped me focus on the good and let go of having to control things I’d normally nag about that don’t actually matter. Also being able to discern in a situation - does the outcome actually matter to you or do you just want to get your way? I’ll speak up if it’s the former but not the latter.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:02 PM
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Yes. 100% did going into it and sometimes still do. I know I would be looked down on by many of my peers for buying into it. But I see the way it works in my life and I just can’t care…I was miserable and unfulfilled, and RPW as a component of an overall self improvement journey has helped me become so happy and peaceful and really love life. My relationship was touch and go and over the past 10 years of implementing RPW it’s become literally incredible, the best thing in my life. My values here…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 03:12 AM
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Everything you’re saying is true but you don’t have to settle for that type of situation personally. Forget about what you’re seeing around you what you don’t want, focus on what it is that you do want. It’s a waste of energy to worry about the phenomenon you’re describing if a traditional setup is truly your goal. Sure you might be after one of the top ~10% of men, but some woman is going to end up with them, why not you? What are you doing to be a top ~10% most desirable mate for the high valu…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 04:14 PM
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Experiencing and sharing all of life’s pleasures! The beautiful smells and tastes of nature and in my delicious cooking. Creating an aesthetically pleasing environment and decorating with fresh flowers and diy crafts. Listening to the sounds of nature and music that is beautiful and makes me feel good! Practicing yoga and moving my body and feeling the enjoyment of all those physical sensations. Kissing, cuddling, and great sex with my husband! The amazing feeling of bringing friends and family …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 03:32 PM
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I feel like the low energy version of golf is like a goddess of contentment and serenity. Even when I feel out of it, channeling gratitude like others have mentioned here and also practicing self acceptance for where I’m at - helps me get into a cozy, peaceful, and happy vibe even when I’m not feeling on my A game.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 03:24 AM
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Truly excellent points. It’s more important than ever that we look to ancestral ways of life for cues on how to take care of our health and wellbeing. The way we do things now is not sustainable on any level.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 12:21 AM
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I can’t find it but someone please link this post that floats around here about the function sex serves to men in their marriage if you have it! There’s a lot more to it than just how your body looks. Most of us will never be model types. Feeling inadequate that you’re not is like your husband feeling inadequate that he isn’t providing you with million dollar mansions and yacht vacations on demand. It’s just unrealistic and not helpful to focus on. Shift your focus onto the good things you do ha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 04:10 PM
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Totally and don’t forget my personal favorite “women can do it all!” Like no thanks. We all know how that ends up for so many women who are breadwinners/make a living while also managing the lion’s share of housekeeping and childcare, while their personal lives and relationships suffer because they are too burnt out and exhausted to nurture them. I’ll do some…and you do some. I’m not doing it all.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 01:57 PM
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Lafco NY
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 07:37 AM
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Same boat girl saaaaame
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 09:12 PM
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Amen!!! I would add that it is so fulfilling on both sides to lean into your role and give that to your partner and see how they grow from it and reciprocate. It’s like creating something bigger than yourself. Our society can be so individualistic and we get so many messages that we need to only be out for ourselves. But in reality connection and nurturing relationships is what being a human is fundamentally about. It’s been so much more rewarding and made our relationship amazing once I stopped…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:53 PM
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Idk Matt Damon’s background but I think in general this applies a lot less Hollywood/celebrity types, it’s the anonymous upper middle class businessmen who are trying to date/marry within or very close to their status level.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:19 PM
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Ummmm girl. Lean tf in. You’re not making him pay, he’s literally insisting. Put your money away and don’t spend it, let him handle things, see how it goes, if adjustments need to be made you’ll have a huge savings account sitting there if you guys ever need it. Best case scenario you never have to touch your income, can invest, and you both can travel and/or retire 5-10 years earlier than you would’ve otherwise and get to enjoy more of your life together. You should feel 0 guilt about doing thi…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:21 PM
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Hold your tongue when you want to nag or criticize Compliment generously Look great for him Be detailed and specific when telling him how happy he makes you and why, and do so often Lots of sex and blowjobs without him having to ask/initiate
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/22 11:31 AM
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Thank you for answering this and providing this good info. Hope everything works out for you. And agreed - six figure income gets you the middle class basics these days and not a bit more.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/22 01:05 AM
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I mean yeah that’s why it happened lol
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 08:49 PM
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Life was different when one man could financially support a wife and kids. Young single women now have to assume they will need to contribute to the household income and don’t really have a choice in that anymore, so technically don’t “need” a man financially. This totally changes all the dynamics. Not saying it’s a great thing to be dependent on a man, but women are going to be a lot less willing to do 90% of the household management and child rearing (as they historically have) on top of worki…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 04:13 PM
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He told you he wants a high earning woman? Lmao, that must be a real turn on for you /s There could be any number of things going on here based on this limited info, but overall it doesn’t sound like this guy’s values and wants out of a relationship match up with yours seeing as you’re on this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 01:26 PM
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🙋🏼‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 11:51 PM
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100%, feminism is the brainchild of a very small greedy group of people who find it unacceptable that any man OR woman is spending their time or effort on something other than making them more money.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 02:32 PM
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In my opinion this situation is not a problem at all, if that’s your and your husband’s CHOICE for your family. The scenarios where there is not that option for financial reasons are where I have an issue. I know that some families would choose to run like yours with two working parents, but I believe in an environment where 1 parent can comfortably support the whole family, many more couples would choose to have the other parent not bring in income and instead put their time and energy towards …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 02:19 PM
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It’s the absolute truth and it’s maddening to me that more people can’t put 2+2 together that the economic situation underlies all of the social upheaval we have been experiencing.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 12:39 AM
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If you want to find an enemy of housewives, you’re better off looking at the economic policies over the past decades that have robbed families of a stay at home parent and forced dual income households on the majority of families. Feminist ideology is propaganda from elite interests who stand to gain from reducing working families’ material conditions which is often what forces women to go to/stay at work. Ideology alone can’t persuade peoples’ decisions. The corporate greed that has annihilated…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 12:18 AM
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This is my fav answer in here
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 08:43 PM
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At the end of the day it’s like I choose what I want for myself, you choose what you want for yourself, and we both choose whether we’re people we’d like to associate with (and to what extent) based on our choices. I think your family situation is interesting and would be curious to know. Is it simply that everyone is on the same page about not acknowledging a second marriage? Or if one relative did want to choose to legitimize your aunt and uncle’s second marriage/go to the wedding, would that …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 08:42 PM
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I essentially have to ask myself if I’m just having an emotional reaction or if it’s actually important enough to me to “disturb the peace” (so to speak) over it. I can be very reactive but it subsides very quickly 95% of the time so I usually try to compromise with myself that if it’s still bothering me a day or 2 later, I’ll bring it up. When I do it’s by being vulnerable with my feelings about it as opposed to accusatory/focused on the disagreement. Or simply stating what he could do to make …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 01:08 AM
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