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I'm well employed and cash rich after selling my half of house to the ex. I can afford it. Personally I think that makes me more attractive to spend money like I have it and don't care. And really I dont care. I will protect myself and assets when the time comes. Also, inflation dude... Spent my whole life being frugal and I didn't really get that far from that. After my divorce I decided I'd much rather enjoy it while I've got it. If paying for dinner makes them more comfortable taking their pa…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 10:27 PM
1

I pay for everything.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 10:06 PM
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No PMs. We can be done. You seem to know it all...
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 09:07 PM
1

This back and forth has been helpful. I will be more careful. But I have to say after thinking about this deeply over the last couple days, I feel pretty confident in my assessment that she is just a woman, not a maleficent like you describe. Now she may change. But my current assessment is she is actually a good one with a good heart. But I realize it could all change if her feelings or the situation or really anything changes. And maybe it is just all an act. Really enjoying myself though, so …
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 07:13 PM
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Not pregnant!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 05:15 PM
1

I designed my wedding ring and had it custom lathed by a friend at the aerospace prototying facility that I worked at at the time. It's made of Carpenter Custom 465 super alloy, the toughest metallic we use. Machinists hate this material because it gums up and kills (dulls) drill bits and other cutters. Anyway, it wasn't strong enough to keep us together lol. I still have it somewhere in my drawer. I'm considering using it for a future marriage if I'm ever so stupid to get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 07:50 PM
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I really needed to hear this. But I have to say the fact that you say with such certainty what her intentions are, and that they are conscious and deliberate, you just don't have that visibility to what's going on. It's suggests that you are jaded beyond reach, and have no appreciation for what a kid means. And that's a good and smart way to be probably. And you may be completely right. Still, I really need to hear this. I know nothing lasts forever and so does she. We learned that from our divo…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 05:31 PM
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I needed a to "talking to" and I appreciate you giving it to me. I've really exposed myself here, and although it's unlikely to blow up right now, hopefully I'm smart enough to not do it again. I do want to have more kids. I've already tried the unmarried White accredited well employed woman, that's who I just divorced for a sexless marriage. This time around I'm going to try something a little different. My own brother doesn't really support what I'm doing but that's fine. Anyway I'll keep you …
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 05:11 PM
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Your main point that I'm an idiot is valid. However you have some of the details way off. This is quite a unique case. She's Hispanic and works full-time and only has her kids 3 weekends a month. She actually pays child support to her ex. However you're right about non-contested no custody, if she wanted to push that. However I honestly believe she wants to be with me, and if I don't believe it this time I never will. That doesn't mean that it's true. Anyway
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 05:07 PM
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I'm a complete hypocrite here, because I'm already pretty serious about somebody, but you don't need a relationship, and it likely will eventually end in flames. So just stay casual. Better and more plentiful pussy in that anyway. You remind me a lot of myself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 05:04 PM
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I kind of want to have more kids and she's genetically ideal. And I like her personality for the most part. But I believe there to be some major baggage under the surface not to mention some baggage I'm already aware of. Not to mention she lives 150 miles away, but she's willing to change that. Anyway she's 8 years younger than me and we really appear to dig each other. And my son and her kids get along, we all met camping actually, cute story. But yeah IF she's pregnant and wants to keep it, I'…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 02:40 AM
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This is my second comment. I think you should also take a look at your video game usage, drinking, and although you don't mention it , if applicable, porn use, being out of shape, being on autopilot, and probably screen time over use of different sorts. Those did not help your marriage. Cut back dramatically if you ever want to be in a serious relationship again that actually will survive. But I don't recommend that either.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 02:35 AM
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You mentioned many things which are final nails in the coffin of her loss of love and respect for you. Many things. Especially your crying at the end. You can't get her back. And reading your story bro she's more than likely been sleeping with somebody or somebodies probably since soon after the separation if not before. Like me, you accept some blame for how things have gotten however also like me, you don't know if you had done a perfect job if she still wouldn't have fallen out of love with y…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 02:21 AM
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I'm literally waiting to hear if my girlfriend has had her period or not :(
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 02:06 AM
5

I take a little juice myself. And I also bought my girlfriend a cat mask.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 01:58 AM
3

Really uplifting stuff guys thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 01:19 AM
1

Actions, or lack thereof, speak louder than words. I made verbal promises I didn't keep, too. But I wasn't the only one
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 04:16 PM
8

Sorry dude, I won't come by anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 07:46 PM
1

Hahaha
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 03:44 PM
2

I feel like I found one that's not on Facebook but I bet she's into a bunch of other shit. Still waiting to find out. Anyways she's fucking so whatever
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:16 AM
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I'm sorry but this story made my day.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 02:15 AM
14

Heres an idea...agree to no dating, and date, anyway. Marriage is over bud....
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 02:09 AM
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<Insert sarcastic could live with a corpse if it's good looking enough joke here>
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 01:47 AM
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If you or your friend don't know how she really feels how could we? Actions speak louder than words usually. My guess is she truly feels some uncertainty on whether what she did was the right thing to do with everyone involved and their respective outcomes. When she talks to your friend she probably is able to look at more than just her own little selfish desires and world, certainly much more so than in the company of her likely man-hating, supportive-to-a-fault coworker divorce-cake-maker Kare…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 01:29 AM
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I've had a girlfriend for about 3 months. Granted it's a long distance relationship, but I really dig her. I cannot relate to missing my wife like you did even before this girlfriend or the hookups which preceded her. Anyway, in the past 6 days I've had more sex than I can count, including her wearing a cat mask and her doing the sexy meow on command while she rides me. Also there was some work from home interview today for her as my secretary. She got the job let's just say. You're wasting your…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 12:12 AM
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Bring a hooker
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 07:09 PM
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Nice name
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 12:20 AM
1

I find that people don't think it was warranted. They might be right.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 06:27 PM
4

Some guys just want to feel wanted...
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 04:24 AM
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depending on where that 400k came from or how clearly it was "hers" vs "ours", you may have a claim to the equity of the mansion. she is insisting on the divorce, take her to the cleaners.... I bet you cheated on her
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 06:34 PM
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I was half joking. I'm sorry but that was hilarious. I get the feeling that there was a lot of vote ups and vote downs on this one. Is it possible to see that?
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 03:18 PM
5

Try losing someone you've had sex with 500+ times or perhaps met in person...
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 06:21 AM
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See if you could talk her into getting an abortion
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 06:19 AM
2

I made a very similar comment but yours was an hour before mine.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 06:16 AM
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It's hard for the dudes in this form to feel sorry for you when you never even fucked her dude. That's the basis for real love for us.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 06:03 AM
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Ok. I guess my point is this was not a real loving relationship. It was a business transaction for her to get a green card to begin with. You should think about that before you import.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 01:42 AM
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Who said it was mediocre dude
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 01:41 AM
5

was she imported though?
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 01:29 AM
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this sounds a lot like an imported-bride situation...
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 01:19 AM
2

next time try the goods and don't ever get married
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 01:10 AM
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"pure hell"? lol. I am guessing this was the correct move for you... Mine was only mild hell..
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 01:05 AM
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Tell her to get even ...and then unzip your pants
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 06:51 PM
1

Mine is US born but considers herself mexican. I will make some mistakes with her!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:22 PM
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Right now I do a Latina whose 8 years younger than me.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:11 AM
1

Interesting and informative testimony, thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 07:14 PM
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My ex started her prescription drug journey. At one point she suggested that the solution to our problems might be for her to up her medication(s) so that she could be in the mood to make me happy. That's when I knew s*** was over. She resented that I believed the solution to her health issues and unhappiness might (and I really am open minded in general) have been included regular exercise and proper diet, like some doctors recommended. Just because you're allergic to gluten doesn't mean that g…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:11 PM
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For sure it works. I can take like 1/3 a 9 mg pill and totally makes me a porn star. Ends the worry dude.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 07:28 PM
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Drink a lot of water and don't drink much alcohol leading up to sex. Since dating again, I have had some serious struggles to get it up and to stay up, especially with condoms. I believe it is largely mental. I got Cialis or blue chew and I take this with a new partner to take the pressure off. I can last indefinitely and I have to work to come. I have a regular Friends with benefits who I have no problem with anymore. I've been with my latest girlfriend a handful of times and been on Cialis all…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 10:20 AM
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Fucking tiktok. This is a hack on a biblical quote. Proverbs 17:12 ESV "Let a man meet a she-bear robbed of her cubs rather than a fool in his folly."
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 01:59 AM
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Nice post man. You're doing a service to others.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 01:51 AM
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Hell yeah dude. Similar story here except mine had little silent tantrums not so much abusive.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 11:34 PM
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Hit that s*** dude
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 03:17 PM
1

I suspect the fact that you didn't mention sex means that you're not attracted to her anymore. You're disguising it to be more upright and that it's about intellect and connection. Answer the question, are you satisfied with the sex life you have?
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 10:07 PM
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You could probably get her back if you tried. But my guess is there's something even better out there. Consider the fact that she walked away as a red flag that that might have happened later.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 07:50 PM
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Why did your girlfriend break up with you? And congrats on the job offer dude that's awesome
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 05:11 PM
1

How's the sex?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:24 PM
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42
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:20 PM
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Can you tell us what happened?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:19 PM
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Like me, you weren't a good enough husband to say that if you had been a good enough husband that this could have been avoided. It's easy to focus on her romantic choices after your marriage, however I feel you should just move on.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 12:55 AM
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This is reminiscent of mine. It's not necessarily anyone's fault, but when you stay in something like you had, that's your fault. Sounds like you try it harder than I did, but I imagine mine was just as hopeless.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 06:18 AM
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The theme of today in this forum for me seems that I'm disagreeing with how common certain behaviors are. Do you actually mean all? Maybe don't say all if you mean the majority.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 01:50 AM
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Yeah... sorry I responded so literally....clearly I am in the wrong by the number of downvotes. But I know a woman who tried to mend the marriage, and people who went open marriage, and all sorts of differing ways...
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 11:23 PM
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Struggling with this myself. I actually am together with somebody right now. They have some very positive qualities and some negative ones too. They are younger and fine. Hard not to be really into them. They also appear to be a good person.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 11:35 AM
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I'm an unorthodox thinker. Part of the reason I'm divorced. Best wishes bro
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 11:29 AM
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I disagree
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:22 AM
2

I took mine off when we got separated. I still have it though. I'm an aerospace engineer and mine was custom machine from Carpenter 465 stainless alloy... It has sentimental value beyond the marriage. I hope my next wife understands when I insist on wearing it again lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 12:17 AM
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My divorce just finalized july 3rd after 9 months since separation. I have seen 16 woman and screwed 4...currently seeing best yet but long distance...I am considering her long term...I am afraid to marry wrong again, but so is she.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 05:22 PM
1

Are you still getting laid as much as you want?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 03:23 PM
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Sorry I should have been more specific, it wasn't really pictures, she didn't go to the gym and would be too insecure for that. It was more intellectual and witty banter bullshit usually involving politics, trump hating, me too witchhunt and/or other liberal causes, or some books or Star wars or some sports whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 07:27 PM
10

Kate made you throw up by pushing your head down too far
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 07:41 PM
17

I am lucky that my ex either was faithful or was too slick not to let me find out, but either way, she wasn't into me, and I think that's bad enough. Granted I earned it through letting her lose respect for me through my behaviors. Not to say that was avoidable through effort on my end alone. I myself was trying to cheat lol, just hadn't succeeded yet. I do know my ex had all sorts of hidden social media trash but I think that was more for public attention. Who knows. I am very thankful I dont h…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 05:36 PM
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Maybe I shouldn't give this advice then? I don't know. Often becoming the best new does seem threatening to the marriage. I never tried it with mine. But if I were a woman, I would think that that's the most attractive me that there could be.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 01:32 PM
6

Get buff, stop unattractive hobbies, maybe even play a little hard to get
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 02:07 AM
-1

Get buff, stop unattractive hobbies, maybe even play a little hard to get
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 02:07 AM
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I think I've been lucky that I don't really have insecurity about my ex, surprisingly.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 09:57 PM
3

My ex deepthroated better than anyone. I search on.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 06:38 PM
1

Hell yeah, f that
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 10:31 PM
2

You came across very clearly in your initial comment.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:37 PM
6

Crushing puss
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 09:32 PM
1

Dude can you fix my new girlfriend's tits and midsection?
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:33 PM
1

I only play Go goated zone wars now. And I cut back a lot. Fortnite dis not help my marriage
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 11:09 PM
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I would actually fuck your shit up real bad in fortnite bro just saying. That being said, good find. I hope it works out. I'm having some meaningful relations myself.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 03:35 PM
3

Somehow you're still an idealist. Look where that landed you before. Partnership requires respect and mutual control. His advice is prerequisites to preserve these.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 08:01 PM
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My wife and her family tried to get me to give her essentially an interest-free loan....haha no thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 10:07 PM
2

I just told a ~3 month long 43 yr old friend with benefits (that had me as favored guy in her "rotation" which she wouldn't tell me about) that I had to put us on pause because I wanted to exclusively date someone (a 38 year old). Both remind me my wife didn't love me or enjoy physical intimacy with me. I have dated 14 women in 7 months since separation, about 8 of which never went past first or second date. Feel like shit at times. There have been one or two extremely hurtful events for the wom…
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 05:01 AM
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I'm playing pool alone right now, just declined via text an invite for a day trip riding bikes at the beach with my normal FWB and her fake tits friend, such that I can have my conscience clear for 3rd date with yet-to-bang tomorrow....it's going fine lol. But your stuff is still quite helpful. Refreshing to hear forum exit interview data dump like yours...helps the boys out, reminds us there is light at the end of the tunnel!
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 07:10 PM
3

nice thanks
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 05:00 PM
3

I've started focusing on not letting it happen again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 12:01 AM
3

If I brought my current flings to a birthday party I would have a lot better time. My wife was an anxious stuck up overly political judgmental close minded feminist weak asexual downer. You would have probably looked at me when I was still with my wife at a birthday party like I was happy. The truth is most men are hiding any sort of dissatisfaction because the wife will fuck their shit up if they show how they really feel.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 07:57 PM
5

How you react should be dependent upon how good looking they are. That's the short answer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 03:26 PM
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I fantasize about meeting a girl way too young in the way out of my league having unprotected sex with her and starting a life with her that way. I'm a good dad and I love kids. No clips for me
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 02:51 AM
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I had one tell me that she had manifested that she was going to be a famous author and it was going to happen any day. Freaking psycho
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 09:27 PM
5

Where there's a whale, "there she blows!"
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 12:09 PM
1

I can relate except I don't make nearly as much money. She sounds pretty hot, so if there's a chance you can woo her back into liking you, you might give that effort. I assume that's not the case. Still, I don't know what you're going to find out there. Offer her half assets and 300 a year and she doesn't work.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 11:59 AM
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This was all really good advice. I will add that anything you can do to appear better looking, with better finances, more fun, and not a codependent, will likely help your game. Unfortunately, texting a lot after only a second date May be taken as simp behavior, however I believe some women also really like this attention. I've been separated for 6 months and dated about 10 people, most ending after the first date. I've had one that like the texting right away and fucking fell hard for me, and o…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 11:52 AM
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You're making a lot of assumptions there.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:07 PM
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My divorce is pretty amicable. At first I started staying at my grandma's a couple nights a week. Then after a couple months I found a really centrally located townhouse, and I moved into that. It does really well with the ladies. That's also close to my son's school. Anyway she later bought me out of the marital home.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:05 PM
0

What was the big fight about?
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 10:47 PM
3

I am 41 male and I had similar struggles. It's psychological dude Don't sweat it. But at the same time you can't just make it go away. Highly suggest Cialis type pills on hand, just as a backup really. I have since regained full confidence. I find I just need to get comfortable with the person. At least you have the opportunity bro. Your life is going to be great
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 04:24 AM
3

Yeah I was more saying from a completing the universe you need to tag that one. But I would say yeah don't jeopardize it with the trade up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 07:33 PM
5

you should tap the mistress
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 07:11 PM
1

"then I have to remind myself some birds weren't meant to be caged"
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 04:22 PM
2

"ultimately you don't want someone who doesn't want you." Bingo. I verbally initiated my divorce with intent to follow through. At times I forgot why. This was really why. I will never be with someone again without this being very clear. Don't like me, get the fuck out, or I will....
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 03:19 PM
1

Divorce time
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 03:17 PM
5

Then definitely get the f out...
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 03:16 PM
8

You never really know what someone's thinking. You assume it's the divorce that's causing him to act the way he does. That's not necessarily true or the only reason.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 02:53 AM
1

Why don't you have kids if you don't mind me asking?
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 06:49 PM
1

Only you can know if you've had enough. Sounds like you have. Have you told her that you don't want to see her on her phone? Start making some demands and tell her that you're going to leave if something doesn't change.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 06:11 PM
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No offense guys, but I will be the caboose on that fucking dick train any day. And I'll shoot up in her too. I heard this term "Michael phelpsing" which refers to a man who is snipped or woman whose tubes are tied still getting pregnant because the sperm was such a strong swimmer!
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 06:04 PM
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hmm. 22 yr marriage and then she gets preg? She must've been over 40 years old, no? I recently dated a chick who had a baby at 42...totally healthy....kind of a miracle.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 07:01 AM
3

hell yeah bro!
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 06:16 PM
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"She asked for the divorce, halved my time with my son and sold our house for us to ultimately get back together…. She’s been so angry."
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 08:39 AM
10

"She told me in January of 2023 that, “ it was hard to live with someone you used to love but now hated. “" Get out.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 08:33 AM
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I went to couples counseling, and counselor stopped my wife on two occasions and said, "the way you're talking to him is going to kill your marriage. stop!" She took away nothing from that counseling which ended after maybe 3 months. We hadn't even got to discussing my vices or what I've done wrong. In retrospect that counseling showed me she wasn't emotionally mature enough.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 11:59 PM
3

Good point. I feel like my wife's social circles, some divorcees and some not, were instrumental...but she wanted divorce... They didn't create that
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 11:55 PM
3

The smell of death lol
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 11:48 PM
1

ouch sorry bud
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 07:03 PM
1

I been watching youtube videos about dating and sex tips etc., especially ones made by women, and it seems pretty reinforced idea that being too nice and too available is not attractive. Woman do prefer a challenge. And apparently they like dudes who are a bit brutal too them. Establishes male dominance. Sorry dude. Don't hate the player hate the game...
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 05:56 PM
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"when you make a woman your central point of focus, she loses respect for you." ouch
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 06:51 PM
6

Having reflected on the failing of my own marriage recently, I'm focused not on the affair or how your wife was towards you leading into that, but what happened to allow your wife and you to become so distant. You're obviously leaving a lot out about the details of relationship with your wife. Were there other little cheatings that she was aware of before this? Were you sort of ignoring her with all your interests etc. I find I was ignoring my wife. Anyway I think before you get into another ser…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 02:07 PM
3

Stick with deal.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 01:48 PM
1

you jackoff to her and let go bud
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 08:14 AM
7

she was obviously over the sex and who I was as a person for years, so after a 3-week silent treatment over some bender I had, I decided enough was enough and had the talk with her, sort of got her to say she wanted the divorce (which she had hurtfully done a few times over the last decade), and said hey maybe it is time. Next day we took a walk and talked finances of it etc. I later tried to backtrack but it was too late. Probably for the best. 1 son,11 years old. Note during those 3 weeks I ha…
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 01:29 AM
2

you are alright by me bud
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 09:53 AM
2

Is that a metaphorical question?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 09:07 AM
5

Attracting woman is not a good enough reason, and the laundry list of other reasons are " secondary " to that? Sounds like you're making excuses dude. Being overweight sucks and is a problem to be fixed. You're not going to talk healthy men into siding with you with your weak argument. And some good ass is a Great reason to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 02:46 PM
4

she is probably having trouble keeping a man...
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 01:37 AM
2

When this is all over you can get some 36F!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 02:13 PM
1

if her love bombing includes head, and she isn't fat, i think you should maybe hold off
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 07:11 AM
3

her taking her ring off in your presence is really so manipulative. Reminds me of my wife's verbal dismissal of our commitment at times throughout the marriage. Sorry man, must have been so painful.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 01:46 AM
0

I actually had a very similar situation and outcome, except single 11 yr old son, and I made ~20% more than her, 50/50 custody. I too gave ~60/40 on assets a) to avoid lawyers b) to allow her to better afford buying me out of the house c) to make it amicable. My 60/40 was even less fair as I had some stuff when I entered the marriage. Whatever. Working out great! What you didn't mention is the dynamic with the kids...I am sure she was a real hard ass about that like mine.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 01:34 AM
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I like that last part about getting away from the mindset of owning. In my personal case I think that was the basis for neglecting my now ex wife as a person.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 04:04 PM
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let her go dude. "get back at her" will not make you feel any better. You need to think about money now.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 07:02 AM
1

Others are telling you to definitely get a lawyer, I'm more a fan of working out a deal, filing and final forms yourself, and not paying lawyers anything. But you have to totally understand what is fair or near fair. I don't think you need to talk to a lawyer to know, just read the law and these forums. By the way, if you do go the lawyerless route, which she probably won't to be honest, the paperwork route you want to take is called " default with settlement agreement ". If someone files it cos…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 12:22 AM
1

You should consider that the business itself may have some value, you'd have to have it appraised. Technically you're entitled to half the growth in the business's value during your marriage at a minimum, maybe change in value over a longer period , even if you did nothing. I've seen a similar situation play out, and the wife drove an otherwise successful business into the ground during the year and it was appraised at zero. Is her 150K from the business or from an employer? If it's from the bus…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 12:20 AM
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I am 41 btw
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 12:05 AM
1

Um accurate answer is no. Went to comedy show and then back to my house. On the way she prefaced not going to get too far, and that was cool by me. Just saw the bags, hard make out, working on her by hand through her pants. I didn't try too hard to push for anything else. It's just a matter of time. Now I should mention this was second date and on first date she admitted her "has kids" was more specifically an 8 month old boy, out of wedlock. She's 43 and had it at 42, totally healthy. Dad's out…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 12:03 AM
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ouch for her. kids? how long married? do you think she can behave herself if you tried to use a mediator?
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 05:03 PM
4

I think you would benefit by saying less, not so much here, but in every avenue of your life. Talk is cheap, and it tends to reveal that you are spineless. I believe you can consciously grow a spine if you try. Habits are key. Physical fitness is key. This is coming from someone who was extremely insecure 3 months ago. I will not try to unwrap and solve why you are so hooked on your wife. Maybe she's great in ways but she probably ain't all that. But I get it, long time bonds don't die over nigh…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 01:44 PM
2

Haha "loads" no pun intended. Tons of fun to be had.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 01:35 PM
4

Dude you are tripping. There's so many fat girls to be slayed out there dude.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 01:34 PM
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the fact that you unloaded the casual relationship because your ex screwed you indicates your head is not in the right place. you will never have 100% possession of her again.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 01:52 AM
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Omg
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 10:30 PM
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Jesus I'm a bitter troll. So sorry. Good luck with you situation. Sorry to insult you with the date comment. I was for just trying to say money isn't everything.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:47 PM
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Jesus I'm a bitter troll. So sorry. Good luck with you situation. Sorry to insult you with the date comment. I was for just trying to say money isn't everything.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:46 PM
4

Apologies haha. How ironic... you're in a men's forum, say you're not here for that, and somehow still a gold digger in your requirements of romance. The good news is this: the threshold for making as much as you will soon be half what it is right now.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:37 PM
1

I was higher earner but only by 30%, but also had legitimate claim to 60% of our assets. One day I just had enough of a 3 week silent treatment and 10 years of her growing resentment. So I said to her maybe it's time. She was already acting like she would if it weren't for our 11 year old son anyway, for years. Made it easy. I ended up giving her big on assets in order to let her keep the house, and avoid lawyers and spousal and child support. 50/50 custody. Really happy with the outcome so far.…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:04 PM
1

hell yeah bud. had some previously-unseen tits in my face earlier. same dif.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 09:40 AM
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Dude I let my wife walk away with like 120K more assets than she was legally entitled. But no spousal no child support no lawyers etc. and very amicable. Hoping to dip into some strange tonight. Small price to pay
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 09:38 PM
0

Is $400k your average winnings per year? Do you have negative years?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 09:27 PM
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Maybe I'm reading you wrong. But no I'm not just focused on that one sentence. Knowing myself and my feelings on my divorce and having read other people's testimonials on the site and others and in person, when I read your full post I see someone who is hurt, scared, mad, and partially still in love. I think you're also not fully appreciating how out of control this situation can get especially for a man going through the legal side of it. I just got through my divorce without ever going into co…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 09:16 PM
1

Mine didn't and it was still admitted by the lender that they had to allow it. There's some precedent in court.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 05:03 PM
1

"I will be homeless if it means getting out of this with my retirement." Is your pension valued at more than ~$350k-$150k = $250k? Can she afford the house alone? BTW, you do not need lawyers...you can do the paperwork yourself...that saves $5-100k...
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:59 PM
1

hahaha
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:54 PM
1

unless she will agree to remain on the mortgage...and keep the old mortgage and interest rate. there is also a "loan assumption" which is an option that must be offered by law I believe, where he can re apply and qual to resume the mortgage himself, however this has loan costs.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:48 PM
2

I am just starting to make memories myself!
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:43 PM
2

I recently let my wife buy me out of our 5bed/2bed house and started renting a 2bed/2bath with a 2 car garage. I have one son who is 11, 50/50 custody. I am loving it, and I was of similar mind our house was too big for me, too much to deal with, and I didn't even really enjoy the yard. If you can swing option 1 without a refi, that is a going to be a huge value advantage over 2a. You can also maybe get your wife to give a little to make that happen, including uneven distribution of assets and g…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:36 PM
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"If she wants to play dirty, I will bury her." Dude this is not a movie. Calm down. If you remain in that mindset, bad things going to happen. Seems you are pre-disposed to rage and if you get into battle, that could go places you can't imagine.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:17 PM
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Feel like you're leaving out some details about what went wrong. What was the context of her episodes before she left? Did she feel unsatisfied or insecure in your love for her?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 02:33 PM
3

At least she is working! ADHD and pronouns. It's the MLM craze all over.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 02:23 PM
1

A well-constructed and compact testimonial. Appreciated. I think the negativity experienced by men in response to women's ultra anxiety, condescension, etc. is overlooked. Maybe some of us "earned it" but I honestly believe we can't prevent it and dont deserve it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 02:02 AM
2

quite possibly the best reddit post that I have ever read!
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:36 AM
2

its a dude
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:19 AM
0

search YT for "Pablo Francisco: Bits And Pieces (3/5) Psycho Chicks (2004) HD"
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 07:07 PM
2

I would have a hard time dealing with her history even if she never really came to cheat on me or get caught cheating. Part of my insecurity issues.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 06:47 PM
3

HER NAME ALONE IS GOOD ADVICE
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 01:11 AM
7

The flesh is weak
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 02:03 PM
1

I never once lost my temper during my marriage. She was the one who did. One time she threw a knife into the kitchen floor and it stuck. I referred her as Excalibur after that
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 10:52 PM
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I see it's a risk, and I'm sure I'm in the minority here, but I don't think it would be absolutely stupidest thing in the world to take her back. Because the kids will benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 10:34 PM
5

My guess is you might be getting Lester Diamond'ed by the exbf after they talked to a lawyer... Sorry bud.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 10:12 PM
2

oh? empowering definition : "make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights:" there is no meaningful discussion or re-hash to be had with the ex. That is the fault in your suggestion.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 08:32 AM
1

"not tolerating disrespect"? Like in American sense threaten some shit or some other cultures choke her a bit?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 08:26 AM
2

I agree, however, unfortunately, in current US society, a) women are being socialized to demand more societal status and more power within the marriage than before, and b) men are being trained to respect women as having equal power. It is a setup.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 08:01 AM
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Comes across a lot more pathetic and empowering than you might think, and it will do nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 07:26 AM
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