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This is exactly what I was talking about. I didn’t know this sub was a thing so thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 03:19 PM
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I don’t understand why you think I was showing a superior attitude and I don’t believe I was. Im sorry you got a bad vibe. And although the post may not have been in a format that you prefer, I did state and give examples of what pick me women do/say and the attitudes they have that make them likely to be plated: “Pick me’s let men walk all over them and treat them like doormats.” Essentially they go with the flow and try to be a “cool girl” even if it means agreeing to a relationship dynamic (o…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 03:16 PM
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Yep you’ve got it right.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 02:58 PM
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If you don’t know people like this, you keep good company ;) I don’t know enough about English dating culture to say if it is an American thing but I will definitely say that it is more of a college aged or young adult thing. I used the term bae to describe the man a Pick Me has in her life because generally, pick me’s don’t have an actual boyfriend. (And I will say it is a term used more online than irl.) They have a man in their life sure, but it’s more of a situationship (RPW calls this being…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 02:56 PM
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Oh I know some people will be quick to cry “gold digger.” I’ve seen memes/posts with the pick me girl quotes out there so I know these people are out there. I think the men who would be so quick to cry gold digger do so for their own benefit. Then, these pick me women are adopting this attitude in an effort to get said men to like them. And who then benefits from a girl with low standards? The men who want to plate her. When women adopt high standards, men will step up. But when you have an adul…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 02:37 PM
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I totally agree. Marriage doesn’t stop anyone from cheating or leaving in fact there are dating sites specifically targeted towards having affairs.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 12:01 AM
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Unfortunately, having kids or not is one of the few things in a relationship that cannot be compromised on, imo. Each person should decide for themselves if they want children, regardless of the others opinion because making a major life choice, especially a choice that involves innocent children’s lives as well, just to please someone else is never a good rationale for decision making. At this point, all you can do is wait for his response. And when it does come, if it isn’t what you hoped for …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/18 06:31 PM
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What do you mean by like vs love?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 04:00 PM
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Wow you have a lot of close bros! How does this list compare to your past relationships in terms of quantity and length of time?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 03:46 PM
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So guys don’t really care if their girlfriends are trustworthy or have good/compatible personalities? Like is that just not a standard men have? Because I know women will pretty much always say “He has to be loyal and we have to trust each other and....” when speaking of a potential boyfriend. Edit: I know what you mean by girls not wanting to be too clingy. Then they overcompensate by trying to be the “Cool Girl” who doesn’t care. How would you say girls can strike a balance between “Cool Girl”…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 03:40 PM
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Why do you think that is? If people are thinking that it’s so easy to replace a bf/gf why not have the same logic with friends? There’s still 7 billion + people in the world. Do people have higher standards for their friendships?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 03:25 PM
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What is meetoo?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 03:20 PM
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Right? I’d be very interested in a more diverse study. It’s like these interviewers said “Let’s find the all the white dudebros and only talk to them.”
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 06:17 AM
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Fantasies are just that- fantasies. Young guys will be saying they need an “Ayesha Curry” one minute and then next minute they’re asking “Where them hoes at?” It’s a moving goal post, IMHO. And to add on to what the previous commenter said, sometimes young guys will say they want a bad bitch but then quickly change to wanting an Ayesha Curry type so that they can get what they want. By saying that, it has you thinking that you have to/want to be a “bad bitch.” (And there’s lots of other females …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/18 07:00 AM
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Why do you think this?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:27 AM
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What are your reasons for this?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:26 AM
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Makes sense. So according to what you’re saying if a tattoo or piercings were well thought out, it wouldn’t be a negative indication? I know it’s hard to tell how well thought out piercings are but you can definitely tell the difference between quality tattoos from a good artist and “I got this when I was drunk at the cheapest place I could find” tattoos.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:24 AM
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Why do you take it as a sign of easy sex? Personal experience or is there a reason connected to evolutionary biology or psychology?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 12:47 AM
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Why do you think this?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 12:46 AM
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What kinds of rings do you consider trashy vs nice/cute?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 12:43 AM
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She had her curling iron in her purse? Haha wow that’s crazy! At least for me since I rarely use heat on my hair. I know what you mean about not measuring up next to a more feminine woman. I would often catch myself thinking, “Well damn, I should’ve shaved my legs and put on a dress today...” I’m glad you’re using the app, I hope it & the stylist helps!! Pinterest is amazing! I have a whole system going for my wardrobe lol! I made a vent diagram detailing each distinct aspect of my style and the…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 01:51 AM
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+1 for the fruits & veggies. Foods like meat and eggs have high sulfur content which can contribute to body odor, and some veggies like asparagus can have a negative impact on BO as well. Also, OP, I work in retail and whenever someone asks me what I think, I either agree agree and give my honest opinion or I say something like “Well as long as you like it and it fits well” or “This is a nice fabric.” As they say “the customer is always right.” This may just be me though so take retail workers o…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 07:07 AM
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I used to be a tomboy when I was younger as well. By middle school, I became much more aware of which boys liked which girls and why none of the boys ever liked me so I began to actively start looking for ways to improve my appearance. Improving my appearance has allowed me to gain confidence- I’ve gone from the quiet girl who never spoke above a whisper to someone who is not afraid to express her opinion. It’s great that you’re actively working to improve your appearance and that you’ve found a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 07:00 AM
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I wouldn't call it "holding frame." The closest comparison for women would be having self-control and boundaries. You don't hold frame for irrational emotions because holding frame is how a man responds to external forces while self-control is used to manage emotions and emotions are internal. Having boundaries is more similar to holding frame. IMHO, they mean the same thing. For a woman, having boundaries could mean not letting a man pressure you into sex before you're ready, not agreeing to "h…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/17 03:26 AM
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I believe that it is definitely possible and completely doable. But it would be more difficult than if he were younger because of the inertia that keeps many people complacent with their lives. And, it would be easier to do at 28 rather than 38 or 48 (although it's still possible and doable at 38 or 48). Objects (or people) at rest tend to stay at rest so the longer someone is complacent in their lives, the more difficult it is to change because it requires more energy. Using a female example, a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 02:54 PM
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Happy I could help :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 05:39 PM
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The lack of detail makes it hard to determine if this is your fault. I would say that you should break up. From what you say, he is in his 30s and still has childhood issues to deal with. If he is not actively pursuing a solution to these issues because he wants to, not because you push him to, then yes, you should break up. Maybe he will realize that he isn't being a good boyfriend or a good Captain. People can change, but not if it's forced on them. Change must come from within. I really belie…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 12:39 AM
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I agree. "If you meet one person who is an asshole, you met an asshole. If everyone you meet is an asshole, then you're the asshole." Same concept. Bitter people are always saying "all guys/ girls are d-bags/sluts." No, not all of them are d-bags/sluts, all of the ones you choose to have in your life are.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 04:37 AM
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Since a woman's attractiveness is largely based on physical appearance and a man's attractiveness is largely based on skill/success, I would say that as women age they lose physical attractiveness and as men age, they lose potential. Like most of the commenters have said, as a man ages, if he hasn't achieved a certain level of success in his professional (and I would add personal) life, it becomes increasingly unlikely that he will catch up and achieve a level of success that is suitable for his…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 04:18 AM
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I love these videos! I watch them all the time :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 04:39 AM
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I'm glad you found her videos helpful, I know I do :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 12:07 AM
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Sounds like you may need to surround yourself with different women. And in all honesty, they are not the feminists who made your choice possible. I appreciate the choices that I have as a woman in current year but it was the feminists who got the 19th Amendment passed (in the US) and the feminists who got the Equal Pay Act of 1963 passed who made our choices possible. I don't know how old these other women are but it's unlikely that they contributed to either of these.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 08:37 PM
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I think you should too. I'm sure she'd appreciate the message :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 08:29 PM
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I was/am raised in a Christian house, go to a Chrisitan school, go to church etc. I've always been told that sex prior to marriage is sinful and wrong but that sex within marriage is beautiful and that's how God made things to be. The idea of waiting until marriage never really sat well with me but at the same time I felt guilty about wanting to have sex outside of marriage even in a committed relationship. Last week, I was talking to a classmate (who happens to be a pastor's daughter) and she s…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 07:07 PM
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It's great that following comes naturally to you. I think it could for a lot of women but modern feminism has broadcasted so much crap about "strength" and "empowerment" when those are just used to mask insecurities and fear. I think real strength is when you have the humility to trust and submit to your captain. Following can be both easier and harder. On the one hand, if a woman happens to be a control freak (I can totally get like this sometimes) giving up control and following the captain is…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 06:18 PM
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I agree, being open, vulnerable, and honest are important pieces to the foundation of a good relationship. I've been watching Amy's videos long before finding RPW, ever since I saw one of her videos on therulesrevisited.com. I love her dramatizations and unique outlook on things! I'm glad she was able to get you out of a negative mindset :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 06:09 PM
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This is spot on! Of course women can take care of themselves but men aren't gonna stick around if a woman insists she doesn't need them. No one wants to be around someone that makes them feel useless.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 06:05 PM
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Glad I could be of help :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 08:23 PM
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Haters gonna hate ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:08 PM
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Well said. I couldn't agree more!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 12:37 PM
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Ms. Sadie Dunham usually tells users to ask themselves, 'Is this the hill I want to die on?' In other words, is this issue (wearing skirts for your partner) more important than harmony in your relationship? Is your partner asking you to violate a deeply held belief, value or moral that you have? Modern/third wave feminism would have the answer to those questions to be 'yes.' One of the key points of being feminine is being accommodating for your partner (barring anything that violates your moral…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 12:08 PM
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There is no official RPW dress code. I think you should dress in the style you want to wear as long as you look neat a put together and not like a slob. You can look just as put together in pants as you could in a skirt. And long as no one can see your butt, the length of the skirt shouldn't really matter either. The skirts don't have to be mid length. If your partner really prefers skirts then perhaps try wearing a skirt more often. For example, if you go out twice a week and you normally wear …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:40 AM
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Being honest about your problems and trying to change them is always better long term than pretending like you're in the right all the time so I try to admit my mistakes as much as possible so then I can figure out how to fix them.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 10:40 PM
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I'm in nearly the exact same situation as you are- same age (Class of 2017 Woohoo!), very small school with few people I'm attracted to and it seems like every person in my school has paired up with someone except me. I plan on going to university in a different state so I guess it's good for me that I'm not creating any bonds that I would have to eventually break. Of course it's good to work on feminity & SMV but if you plan to stay local for college and really do want to enter the dating pool,…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 10:19 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 05:16 PM
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This is a great post! I just wanted to add that yes, women cannot get as bulky as men without drugs, but bulky is subjective for each person and women can get too bulky for their personal perference. For example, Jamie Eason is an amazing boybuilder and she has a great physique. However, I would not like to have the same upper arm and shoulder development that she has. The level of upper body development that she has is too bulky for me. "Too bulky" depends on each woman's interpretation of the …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:15 PM
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This makes sense. Thank you for explaining it so thoroughly :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 05:59 PM
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I think you are correct about my reaction and my feelings about myself. How do you suggest I overcome these feelings about being a woman?
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 11:50 PM
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Thank you, this was very insightful :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 11:48 PM
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"A woman loses her girl card if the situation dictates her earned value is of higher worth." and "she gets downgrade to a man with no special privileges and taunted." From my understanding of this, the man is just salty or butthurt because she happens to put in more work. Am I correct in this interpretation? So when a woman loses the girl card then the consideration and tolerance from men go out the window along with the privileges? Also, what does the "girl card" entail? I haven't heard this te…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 11:48 PM
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I think I understand what you are saying. What I call respect, I mean basic decency and politeness towards others and you call it consideration and tolerance. What you call respect, I would call it looking up to someone, which to me has more gravity than respect, although that is included too. What do you mean by inherent female value vs. earned value? Edit: Also, what do you mean by "gender bias is normal"? Is this normal only for certain contexts and situations?
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 06:28 AM
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INTJ I'm biracial. My mom is black, dad is white, been together since HS. I've never dated anyone but I'm usually attracted to white guys. Maybe it's because my dad is white and 95% of the people at my school are also white. Aside from one other person, I'm the only non-white person in my graduating class. If I am attracted to another race, the guy is usually an 8+/10 and therefore out of my league, which means I don't expect to date them. However, I would be open to dating someone from another …
/r/RedPillWives07/01/17 11:00 PM
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I go to a really, really small private Christian school. I don't get a lot of male attention and I don't use social media. The only time I liked someone and it was mutual was in middle school but it's middle school, the "relationship" didn't last long.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 05:10 AM
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That's such an amazing compliment to hear! I'm glad that your relationship is thriving. Best wishes to you both! :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/16 10:51 PM
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What a terrible thing to have happened! Saying that catcalling or a man looking at you is rape is completely disrespectful to your wife's friend and other women who have experienced similar situations. It is beyond my comprehension and it breaks my heart how feminists say such things.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/16 09:33 PM
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I think it's very sad that feminism and SJWs have made necessary the term "real rape." With all of the false allegations and unclear situations that could have been avoided, and especially when they claim catcalling and whistling as rape, it diminishes and belittles the situations of actual rape victims. Speaking for myself, if I were a rape victim, I would wish that I was only whistled at. Also, it is so hypocritical that feminsts want to be empowered with control over their own bodies but as s…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/16 09:16 PM
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1/2 white 1/2 black American, 5'5", 120 lbs, 36-26-36 Bra size: 28FF UK (I order bras online because no one carries 28 bands) A male friend told me I was an 8/10 but I don't believe him because a) I'm insecure and b) we go to a tiny school. I would say I'm more of a 6/10. Plus we all know how things are when women have male 'friends'. We are in the same "group" at school so it would be rude to just start ignoring him. We do not text excessively and I don't use him as an emotional trashcan- I hav…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/16 05:13 PM
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Thank you! This was very helpful. 16personalities gave me INTJ-T
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/16 04:33 PM
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Ok, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/16 03:18 PM
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Could you give some examples of topics which men, particularly introverts, may view as "superfluous"?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/16 04:20 AM
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