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Tmi. Also; irresponsible and a dumb excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/26 02:38 PM
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You said you didnt take emergency contraceptives because you can’t afford it yet you chose to have unprotected sex which can cause you to fall pregnant. It’s probably fine now but I hope you don’t risk it next time.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/26 10:19 AM
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You know what else is quite expensive? A child.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/26 10:11 AM
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We met online, he had bad pictures but I wanted to date outside my type after multiple failed “situationships” so I decided to give it a go. Our conversations were so fun that I was convinced to see him in real life and our first date was great too. He’s attractive, responsible, comes from a family that’s better off than mine and he is very sweet and attentive. I am very blessed to have him.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/26 07:55 AM
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As someone who ended up marrying outside her “type”, I 1000% agree!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/26 04:23 AM
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You should set a reminder for this comment for a year or two from now. I promise you will laugh at the idea of ever feeling this way about that guy. It gets better.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/26 03:37 AM
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🫡🫡🫡reporting for duty! I am a married, Christian , child free, “red pill” 31 year old from the Netherlands
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/25 04:44 PM
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Lol. You have access to his bank account per chance? If so you could do the FUNNIEST thing😬😬😬
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/25 07:38 AM
5

Id say get it over with. Dump him and move on. He isnt worth any more of your energy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/25 07:24 AM
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This will be a hard lesson for you to learn but you have to know you can’t rely on anybody but yourself (and God, if you’re religious). Take this time to TRULY heal from your past traumas and you will see that the man you eventually end up picking will be trustworthy. Sometimes we pick wrong because we aren’t confident enough to know what to look for.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/25 07:21 AM
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That is so blatant, and he’s just cool with her exposing him online like that? What a dumbass. You’d expect a resident to be smarter. Sorry this is happening to you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/25 06:20 AM
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The andrew tate bit by itself should be enough to bail on this one.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/25 04:46 AM
7

I know, when I said you I was referring to the person you’re describing:)
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/25 04:41 AM
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At that point you’re just making the relationship up in your head. There is no relationship to be had.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/25 04:23 AM
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You can not be this bothered about small things. You just can’t. You won’t survive literally general life.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/25 03:45 AM
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You can, but you are going to have to ask yourself if you would be okay with him continuing to do it. Because he probably will.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/25 08:30 PM
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He does anything you ask for besides honor your marriage and relationship. Small detail, I guess?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 06:23 AM
10

How much does he make?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/25 08:53 PM
6

Marrying someone if you’re “not ready to commit” is WILD
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 07:23 AM
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I’d always imagined intimacy between two compatible people waiting for marriage would still be quite passionate and possibly exploring limits in moments of weakness. It sounds like maybe you aren’t as sexually compatible but the good news is there can be lots of training and practice if you’re both willing. I also second the other commenter about the possible porn addiction, porn is something that needs to be banned from the relationship asap.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 05:49 AM
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I agree with her. It seems like he really does a lot for you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 02:09 PM
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How is he in your relationship now? Is he selfish, does he disregard your feelings? Or is he generally thoughtful and appreciative of you? Kids tend to heighten any pre-existing problems.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 02:07 PM
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Maybe it’s just the way he talks? I’d bring it up again and make clear how it makes you feel. See if he improves, if not you’ll know for sure he does it on purpose.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 11:13 AM
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He could be projecting. Its something cheaters do. Also, boyfriend of 6 years?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 07:27 AM
2

He doesnt deserve you! At all!
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 06:27 AM
2

Why are you asking to be feminine? You should be asking how to get this leech (pardon my french) out of your house & bank account asap. Its hard to maintain femininity when you are taking the role of the man. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 06:25 AM
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Happens to my partner - boners aren’t always sexual.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 06:22 AM
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What do you do when he does engage with you? Talking is important, but you must make talking a safe space, not a trap. Reward initiative not by chewing him out but by openness and acceptance.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 06:02 PM
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I set a boundary early on in my relationship where I asked my fiance to remove a female friend he had feelings for in the past from his socials. I explained why and he did it without protest. Whether you think its important or not is very much personal, I knew for myself I wouldnt be able to let it go if he disagreed. But maybe thats toxic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 01:40 AM
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I bought myself a gaming laptop so I could game with my now fiance about a month into dating. I got really into one specific nerdy game that has practically no female players but is his favourite game. I ended up really enjoying it and we now play games together all the time. I would say it is one of the main things that strenghtened our bond, especially during lockdown. If she wanted to she would!😅
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/23 08:30 PM
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I think priorities change. What I wanted at 21 was a hot guy, what I wanted at 25 when I met my partner was reliability and stability.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 06:47 AM
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Being realistic about your age and prospects is not settling.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 04:43 AM
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Yes!!! Its always possible to find friends with the same hobbies you can do these things with instead.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 04:37 AM
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It turned him off from considering her in any serious capacity is what I meant :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 04:31 AM
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It all depends on the man! I did the same with my boyfriend and now we’re getting engaged. But I also know of plenty of men who would find this a turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 10:30 AM
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Yes!!! For me it took until I was 25 to stop pretending to want something serious and actually want it. I met my partner pretty much immediately after.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 04:52 AM
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You know how people say women grow up before men? I think that’s only partly true. I met my partner when I was 25 and he 28 and I am 100% sure if we would have met sooner we would have had the same outcome. (Except I probably wasn’t ready for it.) He has always been loyal and it has always been the women (he had poor judgement in women before me) who screwed it up by cheating and mental health issues. My brother is the same way, he would go to the ends of the earth and be forever loyal to someon…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 04:49 AM
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It takes a while for your body to recover from medication like that, definitely more than one month.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 06:06 AM
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I think you might be so caught up in “what could have been” that you are forgetting he probably isn’t what you’re making him out to be in your head. Its probably best to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 06:50 AM
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At least masturbate, it helps you get comfortable and experienced with your own body.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 08:08 PM
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I just saw some girl on tiktok say new yorkers these days wait until they are 35-40 to have children. You will be okay.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 05:01 AM
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Most men are a bit fucked up in the head. They may see a confident person who is happy in their own life and doesn’t necessarily need a man as a threat. Because they can probably smell that they can’t fuck with you. The right man however will be happy you are the way you are. That however doesn’t nean you shouldn’t be kind and receiving and open to them. Maybe subconsciously you judge them before giving them a chance, and it becomes a sort of self fulfilling prophecy? Either way give it time, yo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 05:38 AM
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When someone shows you who they are believe them. You should have left after that first year.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 10:27 AM
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You’re supposed to be vetting him but instead you have shown all your cards and now the power is in his hands. That’s a bad place to be early on. I feel like nothing good can come of this but if you want to proceed I would be more reserved with affection (no more sex or elaborate makeout sessions until he defines the relationship). Also probably meet up once or twice a week max. And only recipocate, not too much initiating!
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:40 AM
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My partner of 4 years who now pays for everything made me pay my half of the first few dates too (he did initiate every date). I didnt think twice about it at the time (i would feel different now). I get the argument that men should pay etcetera but on the other hand I find it a bit strange to make a complete stranger who you have no loyalty towards yet responsible for the bill. Like I can understand why a man wouldn’t pay on the first few dates. Probably just me though. Edit: we also met when w…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 05:21 AM
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For men its more often than not about time, not person. If he communicates his plans and they aren’t compatible with yours its definitely not his fault that you stick around in hopes he might change his mind.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 05:03 AM
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You can change your mind, literally. Positive thoughts can be trained.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 04:27 AM
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That first sentence combined with the fact that he is 37 alone should raise some red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 06:05 AM
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Be clear about your intentions from the get go, its all about attitude. Men arent ready for somthing serious until they are. You could meet him anywhere as long as you are consistent and you dont lower your standards for anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/22 05:35 AM
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Yes! Except its more about purpose than punishment😁
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 02:30 PM
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His attitude towards life. He once, when I asked him how he doesnt get overwhelmed by his responsibilities, said “as a man you pick a load and you carry it”. He is caring, loving, a geniunely nice guy and he provides for us. I am so beyond lucky to have him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 09:44 PM
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I dont know why your comment is getting upvotes because it sounds like you are blaming her for being blindsided which in this context is weird to say the least.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 05:27 AM
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Seriously, even if they were about to break up he should have still shown some concern. Heck, id be concerned if a complete stranger told me they had a chemical burn accident. He must have really been trying hard to disassociate for a while. His loss, shes better off.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 05:09 AM
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Its an oversimplification, a generalization of the definition of “gym bro”, but there is truth to it. I guess we dont all have the laws of this sub memorized.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 08:31 PM
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You dont have a chance with him. You have children, you cant afford to think about chasing a man almost half your age. If you want to find a man find one your own age or older, someone well established. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 09:17 PM
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I dont mind it as long as it isnt too feminine. Thst being said my partner would never, he doesnt care about stuff like that
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 08:55 PM
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Start looking outside the overcrowded city areas.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 11:19 AM
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I can relate, my advice would be learn to forgive yourself and let go. Also; you dont have to disclose your exact bodycount to your partner. If you have changed it is no longer relevant to you as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:43 AM
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She definitely handled this as gracefully as she could have.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 12:00 PM
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Its not generally my experience that people here encourage just leaving a spouse.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 04:54 AM
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Im sorry but this is terrible advice. Its not her fault and she doesnt need to change her wording in this situation . Unless she is actually being disrespectful, which isnt the case, the fault lies with him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 04:52 AM
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You shouldnt have to walk on eggshells, especially not around your partner. If he doesnt TRUST you and the fact that you mean nothing by your use of words, he needs to work on that. Sure if you spoke in a completely derogatory/rude/disrespectful manner it would be a you problem but that doesnt seem to be the case at all.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 04:50 AM
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The great thing about finding your person is you only have to do it once and you only need one of them. <3
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 03:43 AM
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You can have a conversation with him about it and how you feel but honestly if you can find another place to stay do it. They are two seperate issues.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/22 01:41 PM
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You started dating him when you were 20, still very early on in your development. He sounds more like a bad teacher than a partner. Not the healthiest dynamic it seems.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 02:04 AM
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I see... That changes things, you should mention it in your post. Could he be going through something you may not know about? Some men tend to withdraw themselves when they are having a hard time and not want the additional stress of having to explain why. If I were you Id send him a message saying you are worried and offering your support if he needs it. Regardless of what happens next the ball is in his court and if he does not recipocate and keeps feeding you breadcrumbs it might be time to c…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 01:52 AM
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He called you his girlfriend? I dont get that impression from your post and the way you talk about him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 01:42 AM
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When he asks you to be his girlfriend/when you have a talk about being boyfriend/girlfriend and you both express that you want that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 01:40 AM
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Id say wait until the relationship is official.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 01:33 AM
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I don't doubt your good intentions but it does take a wholeass man to see the rules to a subreddit, disregard them and then make a post about exactly what this space isnt for you know? Id suggest reading through some already existing posts/info, it will allow you to gain plenty insight regarding what you're looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 01:09 AM
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The amount of "i am men woe is me" posts is too damn high for a subreddit that has "women" in the title >.<
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 12:58 AM
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This 100%.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 05:51 AM
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Move on, he does not and will never take you seriously. You are his casual, no strings attached fuckbuddy he can just ignore when he feels like it, not exactly wife material in a man's eyes. You are young, find someone worthy of your time and attention!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 05:49 AM
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Yep!! Ive realised my mom, who was raised by a feminist hippie (my grandmother) who abandoned her strict church and lived with a man much younger than her (my grandfather), kind of envies my relationship because my boyfriend does so many things for me my dad doesnt really do for her. Not gonna lie, I dont think many of you would consider my dad a hvm (he's had largely untreated mental health issues which have in the past resulted in mental and physical abuse) but its also that she often doesnt r…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 02:15 AM
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That"s the thing with the use of these broad generalisations like "men" and "women". No woman wants to please all men. Especially not in this sub, we don't look to please all men. We're interested in pleasing our man, singular, whom we are dating or married to. And that's a perfectly healthy, normal and admirable thing to strive for.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 01:58 AM
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There are a lot of things kinda wrong with that as Im sure we all know - its like the number one move not to make if you want anything other than a fling from a (high value) man.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 09:09 PM
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Why did you sleep with him so early on?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 10:36 AM
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If you want us to empower you to choose the single life I fear you chose the wrong subreddit haha. Why do you want to leave him?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 05:22 AM
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The chance that this happens is small, she really shouldnt hold out hope because it will keep her closed off to possible new suitors.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 05:18 AM
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Explain this to me?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 12:24 PM
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Other subreddits have some discrimination/misconception towards this sub. Not sure why, I think this way of living is best for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 06:56 AM
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Absolutely 100% never. I wouldnt even consider a threesome let alone this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 09:01 PM
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Dont dirty many words on it, he clearly isnt either
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 06:39 PM
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It was an incel guy calling me a dumb lowlife among other things for suggesting you shouldnt ruin your chances by changing the natural relationship dynamic too much. You didnt miss much :')
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 04:17 PM
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When I first started dating my partner we lived in different cities so I would always bring him muffins when I came over (about twice a month). Blueberry, chocolate chip, apple etc. He says its one of the things that made him fall in love with me :') Id always make a tray, which was about 8 in my student house oven, and he'd eat them throughout the week. It also made him gain 50 pounds but thats a different story😅 Edit: point is, something small and homemade that makes him think of you but that …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 06:26 AM
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Woah, stubbed your toe? Coming off a bit harshly dont you think? Not that its any of your business but I am in a happy long term relationship. I never said she doesnt have anything to prove but if you seriously think her persuing him is a good idea, especially after only 3 weeks, why are you here? This is red pill women and its about traditional relationships and gender roles. You clearly didnt even properly read my comment before you started spewing whatever this is.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 02:32 PM
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3 weeks is nothing, I think you are definitely overthinking it at this point. I made a similar mistake once (even though the guy ended up being trash) but you cant assume he just wants to pick up where you left off. You hurt him in a way and its going to take some time for him to want to fully commit to you, if ever again. Id say give it 3 months and absolutely dont sleep together until you are completely official. If he isnt ready to commit then, break it off. You are wasting your time. Edit; o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 05:38 AM
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How long has it been since you rejoined? Are you sleeping together? How did he respond the first time you broke it off?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 03:27 AM
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Men dont really change, especially not in these situations. The guy you hope he is or will become is not in his capability for you. Someone else is.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 05:59 AM
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This. Even labelling him "the one that got away" is a terrible idea because youll only force yourself to regard him even higher.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 05:55 AM
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Yeah and to a man that would be equally bad advice. Bottling up emotions is never a good idea as it only causes more issues in the long run. OP, dont listen to this person. They sound like they have issues themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/22 06:12 AM
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The reasons dont really matter as they dont change the outcome or the situation that put you there. It takes time but you will see things clearly. That will give you your answers and closure. But first you have to move on completely. Dont expect answers from him, no answer he can give you will satisfy the need you feel right now to still be with him. But thats part of it, you know its unhealthy and you have to choose yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 05:29 AM
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If I recall correctly, he was in his 40s and I said he would probably be married to an arab muslim girl soon after moving. This might come off a bit extreme but here's what I would do: Cut him off, close any and all "doors", be clear and direct and dont let him persuade you. Ghost him. Delete his number and block him on all social media. Throw away/sell/put away (outside of your living space) anything he gave you/that reminds you of him. You will never be able to move on fully with an actual goo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 06:27 AM
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I make oatmeal with frozen fruit and chia seeds or a very basic sandwich in the morning. I am dutch, we dont really do elaborate breakfasts. For lunch he gets a fancy-ish sandwich (ham cheese boiled egg lettuce tomato type vibe) and/or leftovers with some sides like tomatoes and cucumbers and more fruit. Nothing too fancy, I can put it all together in 15 mins max
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 10:54 AM
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I make breakfast, lunch and dinner for us every day. Spmetimes when were desperate for groceries and both in a rush he stops by the store because he works nights and evenings too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 06:54 AM
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This this absolutely this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 05:08 PM
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Wake up in the morning feeling like p diddy
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 01:49 AM
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I dont want to diminish your feelings but my take is you are infatuated, not in love.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 01:37 AM
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My dad does this except he actually forgets what he did. In his mind things just didnt happen the way they did. Its terribly annoying!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 03:03 PM
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My dad does this except he actually forgets what he did. In his mind things just didnt happen the way they did. Its terribly annoying!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 02:59 PM
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Maybe "belong with", not "belong to".
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 12:08 PM
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Some men love to have their brains warped. Id consider them low value.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 04:52 AM
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...because they arent. Attraction goes SO MUCH deeper than looks when you truly love someone and are in a stable relationship with them. This is where you will know the difference between love and lust. Other women may have a better body but no one knows him as well as I do. There's so many feelings and emotions involved that go beyond "i am man you have nice body hubba hubba" and suggesting otherwise is honestly insulting to the human species :') plus she's literally an actress, he could never …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 04:44 AM
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This is really good, looking forward to the follow-up. Im sending them to my single sister.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 06:14 AM
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I dont know what your opinions on sex are but personally I would hold off for a while until you have figured out what you want from this man.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 06:46 PM
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Do not have a baby with this man until you are married and have some actual rights. And have any prenup ALWAYS looked at by an independent lawyer (so one that doesnt work for him).
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 07:06 AM
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Youve known him a month, you have no idea if you would be supported. The minimum child support he legally owes you isnt much if thats what you mean. Anything beyond that you have 0 claim and guarantee over.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 07:00 AM
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My boyfriend is absolutely in love with me but isnt much of a romantic either. The way he shows his love is through acts of service. Simple things like when im away doing the dishes that have been piling up and Ive been procrasting on and paying all of our shared bills. Just because his love language is different doesnt mean hes not in love.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/22 08:12 AM
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When do you try to talk to him? Is it in the heat of the moment or after, when things have calmed down? I have a hotheaded father and one thing I learnt growing up with him is that there is no reasoning in the heat of the moment. I think both individual and couple's therapy would be a good idea for you both. And remember if you both still are willing there is a way to resolve all this. You just have to both be willing to listen to eachother and not lose respect for one another.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 02:39 PM
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I was going to suggest the exact same thing. In addition, I get the feeling that this is a man who has already slipped up and is trying to paint you as a terrible person to excuse the possible cheating/ease his guilt. Did the behavior start recently or was he always kind of like this? Another reason could be he sincerely feels neglected. You have a one year old baby and a toddler, Id imagine your attention would be spread a bit thin since the birth of baby number 2. Men sometimes have a hard tim…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 05:48 AM
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Youve been with him for 6 months - how are you so sure of his intentions? For alle you know he could only be saying those things to you and something completely different to his family or other people. It would not be unheard of that's for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 09:55 AM
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I am honestly getting the feeling he will be married to a girl his family picked out/approves of within 6 months or so of him moving back. No offense.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 08:36 AM
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So you want someone that doesnt align with your beliefs and standards?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:26 PM
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Isnt the whole point of being a red pill women to find a red pill man? We can’t change men, remember? If he isnt the marrying kind he wont ask you to marry him no matter what. Which makes him not a match for you. Why do we assume all men DESPISE the idea of marriage and have to be manipulated/tricked into proposing? A man isnt like a company and marriage is only in part a business agreement. Men have feelings too yall!
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 06:01 PM
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Yeah no sleeping with men immediately will make them think of you as a fuck buddy, nothing more. Wait at least 3 months or until you’re officially in a stable relationship to start having sex.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 05:52 AM
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Nah, I agree with a lot of things he says. But I dont think he should be trusted without fact checking yourself first.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 04:10 PM
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Ben Shapiro loves cherrypicking stats to support his personal beliefs.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 04:03 PM
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I want to say this is a good “strategy” but honestly feel like this would only “work” on very specific men. Ive been living with my boyfriend for a while now (1,5 years) and I know he won’t get pressured into anything by ultimatums like these (only a very thick-headed man won’t see this as an ultimatum if brought up in conversation). He personally doesnt even see the need in marriage but he knows I do so he says he will pop the question (his words.) The’res a lot to be said about just going with…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 02:59 PM
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Good to know that before you get tied up legally right?😂
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 02:56 PM
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Well that honestly only validates my opinion even more. He chose to invade your privacy and go look for trouble very early on. That says more about him than it did about you. Have you considered maybe the reason you feel bad is more because you feel bad about the choices you made in the past? And he kind of gaslit you into thinking it’s all about that one situation? This all sounds very recognisable to me because I was also a lot more “free” in my “previous life” before my current relationship. …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 07:45 AM
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Why did you even tell him girl you weren’t official you should have kept it to yourself. In my opinion he has no real right to still be angry about it😅
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 05:34 AM
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Maybe he realised he shouldnt talk about these things as much if he’s not ready to actually go through with it yet
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 04:03 AM
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Yeah girl he sounds seriously mentally messed up. You should really consider getting out while you can. You’re young and this doesnt seem fo be worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 08:04 PM
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He sounds…. SUPER insecure? Which is a problem he should solve and not take out on you, btw.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 06:25 PM
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I get that! My experiences with online dating are 99% terrible too. Guess I just did enough filtering😆
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 10:21 PM
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I met my partner on OKcupid. I guess my harsh reality would be “if you don’t come across dateable men in your day to day life you might need to try online dating or find a way to meet new people”🤣
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 10:17 PM
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My boyfriend had one of those, but he broke off the friendship because I wasnt comfortable with it like 2 months into dating. She wanted to meet up w him alone and I was like nope, that won’t fly with me. I would never ask him to but he told her he wouldn’t see her anymore because I wasnt comfortable. She flipped out at him. Nothing ever actually happened between them but that made me feel like he made the right choice. He has another female friend who I am 100% cool with because I know they are…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 06:52 AM
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On the weight thing… dont do keto!! A diet wont help you, eat healthier and speak with a dietician about how many calories you should be eating. And move more! I am currently going through it, 114 kilos and 1.70 in height. I am allowed to eat 1400 calories a day. I have done keto before and lost some weight with it but in the long run it is not a sustainable or healthy way of eating and quitting keto made me gain all the weight back. Remember its about a lifestyle change, not a diet.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 05:36 AM
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6 months is not a long time at all. Be patient. When he talks about the future, are you in it? What’s his opinion on marriage, are his parents divorced?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 06:40 AM
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Glad to hear it, on to bigger and better things!!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/21 05:50 AM
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Yes! This!!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 09:22 PM
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Emotions are not a bad thing, emotions make us human and I dont think you can truly know or love a person unless you know them completely. The rational and the emotional. I tell my boyfriend I love him multiple times a day and we mean it every time we say it. It is not more valuable if you say it less often if you ask me. You can not have a honest relationship without emotion. Emotion =/= drama. It honestly sounds like you were trying to be a different person because you were afraid he wouldnt a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 09:15 PM
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Do you have a good concealer? If not, find one that looks pretty natural (I personally really like bourjois healthy mix and milk makeup flex concealer). buy it in a shade that matches your skin perfectly and one shade lighter with a slightly peachy undertone. The lighter one is for under the eyes, the darker one for on the face. Watch this video on how to apply! https://youtu.be/7Pv7B2NirqU Lisa Eldridge is fantastic for all things makeup basics. Trust me, you dont really need foundation but if …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 07:37 AM
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Tinder probably isn’t the place for you. Try okcupid, its where I met my man! You can put your abstinence in your bio or interests if you want to seperate the wheat from the chaff.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 05:21 AM
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