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half the women watching the games are females What are the other half?
/r/MensRights28/01/14 07:25 PM
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Anti-feminist, liberal male here.
/r/MensRights22/01/14 05:17 PM
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This is the same reason I hate(as a software developer) the whole, "just show us your github!" Its empty, because everything I work on its bottled up in an NDA or wrapped up in my previous security clearance. "Don't you have any side projects?" You mean my kids and my wife, yes I do! Still can't put those on github, sorry! It irks me most because the mentality is that I spend my life programming, I simply do not. I have many hobbies, programming is the one that keeps me employed. Do I love progr…
/r/MensRights06/01/14 09:45 PM
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My friend says he'll be using his free checkup every year just to get "his money's worth." So its not out of the question.
/r/MensRights22/12/13 06:40 PM
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So your philosophy could be boiled down to, "What's the point of morality if no one's around to enjoy it?" If it is, I can't say I really disagree.
/r/MensRights11/12/13 07:27 PM
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This all leads back to my original question, but reconfigured. What makes society successful(even if its just an opinion) and is equality(in certain areas) necessary to generate that success? Are we talking economically, culturally, militarily? What is the marking of a great society? How do we know we are in one? What metric can I look at and say, HERE LIES GREATNESS? Obviously many of these questions have subjective answers, but I think its important to the question: Does equality even matter? …
/r/MensRights11/12/13 07:02 PM
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I would say, I agree with your assertions. I would follow up with: Equality is a good goal but not the supreme goal. Its best met by increasing a societies access to resources instead of focusing on it directly, since most inequities are caused by scarcity or nature and not prejudice. Obviously inequities derived entirely from prejudice are indefensible, but solving inequities is more a matter of increasing available resources(physical and cultural resources) than it is by trying to fix the symp…
/r/MensRights10/12/13 10:07 PM
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Actually, I'm not. Some inequities are just facts. Men aren't running around complaining that they don't get to breast feed their children. Obvious facts of nature override any worries about equity in that situation. There is no injustice there. So no, equality should not be a goal for its own sake. On the other hand, a societies strength can be effected by discontent, lack of opportunity created by unequal opportunity can weaken a society. So there is an argument to be made for certain types of…
/r/MensRights10/12/13 08:52 PM
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That still leads back to my original statement. It depends on which issues we expect equity to be important. Some equities are beneficial, some take away. And then it also depends on if we mean equity in opportunity or equity in results. Obviously many people would be hard pressed to argue against the first, but most of the cries of injustice are usually about the second. Your point isn't a point to me, because I'm not asking you to justify thinking we have a society that is not truly egalitaria…
/r/MensRights10/12/13 06:05 PM
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"That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence." Back up your statement. Offhand I recall more evenly distributed incomes can be good for the economics of a country. Therefore discrimination against certain types of spenders based off their demographics is bad and would hurt the economy, which would lead us to say that egalitarianism is important for successful economies.
/r/MensRights10/12/13 04:20 PM
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I guess it depends on what issues we expect equity to be important.
/r/MensRights10/12/13 01:54 PM
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Ugh... these morons. Its bad enough having to fight the baseless accusations that I think women are worthless because I'm associated with the MRA, now these guys are running around giving them ammunition.
/r/MensRights03/11/13 02:28 PM
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I'm not saying their actions are justified, I'm just saying that the motivations are there. Motivation and fault are two separate issues. I can be motivated to beat the shit out of the asshole at the bar, but actually doing it is a totally different thing. Are those women morally responsible for their shitty behavior? Yes, absolutely.
/r/MensRights28/09/13 03:09 PM
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You've never done something you wanted to do then felt guilty about it later? Firstly, I can at once know that soda is unhealthy and also know that it is delicious. I made a decision that its tastiness outweighs the health negatives. I may want to punch that asshole in the face, but I don't because violence usually does not solve problems, just escalates them. Desire is not logically linked to beliefs. If you've ever met very religious people many of them want to have sex, but also feel horribly…
/r/MensRights27/09/13 09:03 PM
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Being negative about something and not wanting it are two very different things. I feel negative about violence, but I sometimes want to commit it. I feel negative about soda, but that doesn't stop me from drinking it. Sex for a lot of people is two parts guilt, one part need.
/r/MensRights27/09/13 08:49 PM
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Rape culture does not demonize sexuality. Sexuality is already demonized. We live in a culture that is so amazingly negative towards sex that women feel guilty/ashamed enough about poor sexual decisions that they would accuse someone else of a crime to escape from it. I don't want people to think I'm slut, so I'm going to accuse him of rape. That's an amazingly destructive decision, driven by our cultures amazingly negative views of sex.
/r/MensRights27/09/13 06:59 PM
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Someone reads OOTS.
/r/MensRights14/09/13 05:47 PM
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I agree with you for the most part, especially your point about there really shouldn't be a significant difference in treatment of people based solely on gender. I was just illustrating my point. Its more that you know something is wrong and those moments reveal it than "this is how it should be." The WPATH standards of care actually agree with your position at heart. Basically the best treatment is to help guide that person to the place that they feel comfortable, if that means full transition,…
/r/MensRights06/09/13 09:09 PM
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Except, that's not what being trans is like at all. Being trans is more like, "I guess I could wear a dress, but I'd still just be a boy in a dress, what I really want is to be a girl and treated like one, even if I'm wearing jeans." Gender dysphoria is more than just, "I wish I could be more girly, or I wish I could wear dresses." It cuts right to the core of a person. Your body is wrong, your mind is constantly unsettled, every interaction with others is off like someone drove a nail into a bo…
/r/MensRights06/09/13 07:24 PM
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Its more that cameras aren't allowed in woman's locker rooms, I imagine reporters are allowed in for a variety of reasons, and seeing as how women who play sports usually have predominately male coaches overall, they are probably quite used to being in various states of undress around a wide variety of people. Its more you can't show a shirtless girl on television, while doing the same with a guy is fine. My 2 cents.
/r/MensRights03/09/13 11:12 PM
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And neither do you. (I'm aware you were being sarcastic, just carrying it on.)
/r/MensRights06/07/13 03:19 PM
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I'm about 100% certain word policing was something we didn't do around here either. Trigger warnings are bullshit and worrying about "inflammatory" speech in MensRights? Basically half our front page is troll bait for anyone not familiar with the MRM. Word policing is dumb it has no place in this subreddit.
/r/MensRights18/06/13 03:45 PM
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You think its an accident that certain radical feminists are so anti trans? EDIT: This is a theory I've kind of thrown around a bit, but if you look about, MTF trans people see a considerable more amount of discrimination than FTM trans do. A lot of people claim this is because of misogyny. I think its actually that people get upset when you try and claim the privileged position. Being a woman in many ways is a badge of honor, simply for being one. That's hardly the case as a man. I'm up to hear…
/r/MensRights11/06/13 02:59 PM
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That makes a lot of sense really and my gut instinct is to agree with you.
/r/MensRights10/06/13 02:08 PM
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As a point of discussion, what if women just aren't naturally predisposed to seek out power? Testosterone has a known effect on male socialization being more competitive. What if its just natural for men to seek out positions of power? EDIT: Downvotes for this? I'm really kind of surprised.
/r/MensRights09/06/13 05:50 PM
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In some cultures the matriarch is the top of the food chain even if the society is overall patriarchal.
/r/MensRights09/06/13 05:46 PM
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That question assumes that gender roles are specific to individual circumstances.
/r/MensRights09/06/13 05:45 PM
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Just another way men victimize women, watching porn is disrespectful towards women! /s
/r/MensRights06/06/13 07:15 PM
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The thing about destroying someone's sense of security is, they don't show any bruises.
/r/MensRights05/06/13 03:20 PM
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I rarely agree with her conclusions, but her observations are usually pretty good.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 01:45 PM
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The irony about being told what real manhood is that in many ways the tools to resist manipulation like that is to invoke the same attributes against the people who want to use them against you. Assertiveness, risk taking, willingness to sacrifice for principles, are all "masculine" traits, that work just as well against the people who try to force us into those roles as it does for them. That's the conundrum of masculinity I guess.
/r/MensRights22/05/13 01:39 PM
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Its not like feminism is an actual organization with membership cards. Its just a name given to vast swath of differing and sometimes contradictory agendas, hell even the radfems who want to chop off all the dicks can't agree with each other. Feminism has so many "followers" because it purposefully omits criteria to entrance. Its just like most religions, "We believe in loving one another. Just ignore us while we go kill some "witches"." This makes it impossible to critique as a meaningful ideol…
/r/MensRights13/05/13 08:08 PM
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Oh I'm aware of that fact, but she self declares as a feminist even after that. And since the only real criteria of entry for feminism is saying you are one (since they aren't an intellectually consistent group to begin with), technically she counts.
/r/MensRights13/05/13 05:31 PM
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The last well reasoned feminist video I watched was of Christina Hoff Sommers. The talk was actually about how feminism has missed its own point by being ridiculously anti-male. www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgpbDpXrEr4 here it is.
/r/MensRights13/05/13 05:12 PM
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You missed the part where this is his ex he shares custody with.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 05:47 PM
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Side Comment: Your username is appropriate for the content of your post. Yes this really doesn't help us. We need to stick to strong evidence, we have enough work to do just to get people to listen to not have them just turn around and dismantle our point because a study we picked wasn't very rigorous.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 03:39 PM
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So some people are mentioning that the study also says that male teachers have a bias against female students. That's fine, what we need to remember is that the vast majority of teachers are female, which would mean that boys receive the large majority of bias right now. Into the future where there might be more gender parity we should consider the fact that maybe it would be best if children's grades aren't left up to a single entity.
/r/MensRights08/05/13 01:29 PM
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Seems you are correct, changed my post.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 09:08 PM
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EDIT: Looked it up, she can't in most circumstances the father gets first rights.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 07:18 PM
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The weird thing is legally you really have no obligations as a mother, only as a father. Legally a woman can abort or give up her child, she literally has no obligation to it, only the father does. Men must be held accountable for their decisions, women must be protected from them. Hooray gender roles! /s
/r/MensRights02/05/13 03:54 PM
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I wasn't arguing for its morality I was just saying its not surprising it exists. I would like to think we've moved beyond that too.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 02:32 PM
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Its hard, I don't begrudge the people who say they are feminists. I know why they do, they think they are making the world a better place by defending the oppressed! It fits perfectly into the expected role of males and even our natural inclinations. You can imagine that women's equality issues are related to the fact that its hard to move your arms when you are surrounded by bubble wrap, and men's equality issues can be described as "if I fail its all my fault and no one will help me cause I go…
/r/MensRights01/05/13 08:52 PM
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It all comes down to biology. From an evolutionary standpoint re-productivity and childcare are women's primary bargaining chips. Excess labor and willingness to protect women are men's. Our social constructs reinforce those notions. I'm not saying its rights, but its not surprising to me that our social constructs would match our gender "roles".
/r/MensRights01/05/13 08:23 PM
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Are we doing the word police thing now? I thought we didn't do that around here. I mean i understand your complaint, but I don't think we want to start that train in this subreddit.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 08:09 PM
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Those don't even work in a lot of legal systems.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 04:18 PM
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It just depends on how dependable a person your spouse is. Most people walk around with love blinders. It works for some people though, me and my wife both make a concerted effort to spend under our means and do just fine sharing income. We communicate and act like responsible adults though, that's not exactly a common thing.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 04:13 PM
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It makes sense when you realize that people still believe that a man "takes sex" and woman "gives sex." How can giving something to someone be a crime, women are beautiful creatures who only do what's best for you. If they force you to do something its because they love you. When you reject a man, you tell him he hasn't earned his place. Therefore its his fault he was rejected. When you reject a woman, you tell her she has no value. Women intrinsically have value, therefore its your fault for ma…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 02:43 PM
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Its not the presumption of innocence with women, its the insidious and unspoken idea that when a woman rapes someone its not actually a crime.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 01:52 PM
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What's a few hyperbolistic missiles between friends.
/r/MensRights29/04/13 06:46 PM
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I wouldn't say primary, but its certainly in the top 3.
/r/MensRights29/04/13 05:00 PM
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Based off what I read in the article this is not a Men's Rights issue. I know men with Shy Bladder syndrome as well as women and both report the same difficulty. This is not a gendered problem nor is it related to Men's Rights at all.
/r/MensRights29/04/13 04:56 PM
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I couldn't complete the survey because of question 6. Misandry just like Misogyny is a multi-tiered thing. There are certain cultural expectations of men that are misandric, does that mean I've been personally targetted by those things? No, not all the time, but the effect is there every day, so I could answer daily but it wouldn't be clear what that meant in a meaningful way.
/r/MensRights29/04/13 04:55 PM
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I'm the sole provider in a one income household, lower middle class and we are just fine. Sure I don't have multiple cars, and the like, but we do just fine, I want for nothing and I get to take regular vacations. Its all about proper budgeting.
/r/MensRights26/04/13 05:51 PM
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Most of the time, the gender of the person I am with doesn't matter in the slightest. There are very few "power dynamics" that are gender specific in most social circumstances. Romantic relationships and the like there is a lot more gender dynamics, but at work... its all professional and the gender of who I am working with is meaningless. Do I note differences between men and women? Certainly. Are they meaningful to the majority of social interaction? Hardly. I find far more social dynamics are…
/r/MensRights22/04/13 03:02 PM
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It is an interesting debate, the question partly becomes, who bears the legal burden of ensuring consent. The way the laws are interpreted now, it is entirely the mans job and responsibility to ensure the woman is providing consent throughout all of sexual intercourse. A failure on the woman's part to provide a clear no to the male does not free him from that burden. It strikes me as strange that its the man's fault that the woman failed to communicate her actual desire. What's worse is, acquiri…
/r/MensRights22/04/13 02:36 PM
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I don't disagree with you.
/r/MensRights18/04/13 01:30 PM
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Is it really so radical to say that if you want to claim the title feminist you should know what feminism as a whole supports? So many people say that they are feminists in the "equal rights for everyone" sense. I'm sorry, there is already a word for that, its egalitarian.
/r/MensRights18/04/13 01:11 PM
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Fix her dishwasher first.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 02:19 PM
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