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I am guessing you tried and didn't really enjoy it :/
/r/seduction17/11/20 12:31 PM
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Looool
/r/seduction17/11/20 12:31 PM
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That seems like a really interesting situation you got there friend!
/r/seduction17/11/20 04:12 AM
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Why are you not interested in sex?
/r/seduction17/11/20 04:10 AM
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Lol. And no Indian midgets for me :(
/r/seduction17/11/20 04:09 AM
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Hired gun game!
/r/seduction13/11/20 04:22 AM
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Oooh! Great point my friend
/r/seduction13/11/20 04:03 AM
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Agreed!
/r/seduction12/11/20 04:17 AM
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Haha I can totally relate. Perspective
/r/seduction11/11/20 05:47 AM
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Are you saying that as a man or woman?
/r/seduction11/11/20 05:30 AM
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Why do you think your level of attractiveness affects the impact being in shape makes?
/r/seduction11/11/20 05:29 AM
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That's awesome! You must be killing it in beach clubs
/r/seduction10/11/20 03:33 PM
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Agreed! And what are you working on now?
/r/seduction10/11/20 03:32 PM
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Agreed!
/r/seduction10/11/20 03:32 PM
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Do you not think it would be better for them to like you for who you are and be aware of what's going on on a subcommunication level?
/r/seduction10/11/20 03:31 PM
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I really appreciate you sharing these family insights, shows a strong character. And I agree: gym definitely helps you. I think we are on the same page.
/r/seduction10/11/20 03:30 PM
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Thanks for the insights, though the main point I wanted to discuss in this post is to not expect getting jacked to FIX your issues in your dating life.
/r/seduction10/11/20 03:16 PM
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Why do you think it makes sense to stop trying to figure out women?
/r/seduction10/11/20 05:06 AM
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I am a fan of being more sexual in conversations. Not sure if "I want to fuck you" is the best mindset to be coming from into an interaction. It depends on what you're looking for. What has worked well for me is coming from a place of "you look attractive, let's find out if you're cool". Once she qualifies as cool THEN we can move on to the sexualizing.
/r/seduction10/11/20 04:58 AM
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Well done! The first one is always really memorable
/r/seduction09/11/20 04:59 AM
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Are these feelings or infatuation bro?
/r/seduction09/11/20 04:58 AM
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Haha don't overthink it bro. The fact that she saw you being shy in college and now you are killing it will actually play in your favour. Shows her that you are improving yourself!
/r/seduction09/11/20 04:53 AM
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This seems like one of those conversations that are going nowhere. If you open indirect you have to later add premise to the interaction, otherwise she will be thinking "does this guy wanna sell me something or is he a serial killer?". So yeah just don't be afraid to tell her you find her cute, especially in daygame.
/r/seduction09/11/20 04:50 AM
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I know how this feels bro. If I could go back to my college self I would just tell him to simply be the social guy, go to frat/society events and focus on improving yourself. Think long term.
/r/seduction09/11/20 04:47 AM
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That's amazing. Cold approach is the single most useful habit I ever implemented. Congrats on the job lol!
/r/seduction05/11/20 04:48 AM
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I actually disagree with the second point. Having sex a lot of times with the same girl (assuming you actually really like her) is simply different. The sex is usually better as you know each other's sexuality more and build intimacy.
/r/seduction05/11/20 04:46 AM
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Yes but if you keep doing bad habits a lot of times it can actually make you worse
/r/seduction04/11/20 05:47 AM
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I read this book too, great some great learnings. It gives great mindsets for a lot of men who tend to just take in the bedroom and not give.
/r/seduction04/11/20 05:44 AM
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Daily habits to try to implement: - 10 mins Gratitude meditation - Cold showers - Do one thing that scares you every day
/r/seduction03/11/20 06:40 AM
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Gratitude trumps everything. I would advise you to listen to a 10-minute gratitude guided meditation every morning
/r/askTRP03/11/20 05:45 AM
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Awesome! And how is that going?
/r/seduction02/11/20 03:42 PM
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Nice bro. How are the women there? My ex is actually a Mexican pornstar lol
/r/seduction30/10/20 03:53 AM
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Lol. Where are you based?
/r/seduction30/10/20 03:51 AM
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Amazing man. How are you gonna celebrate?
/r/seduction30/10/20 03:49 AM
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Yeah that's really important, especially nowadays! Haha
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:18 PM
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If you are so careful that you don't wanna shake her hand, how will you get intimate?
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:18 PM
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Are you from England? Lol
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:17 PM
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Works great in salsa class!
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:17 PM
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Lol. What do you tend to scream?
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:13 PM
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Explain that to me. Lol
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:13 PM
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One of my personal favourites!
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:13 PM
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Are you in Bangkok by any chance?
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:12 PM
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Looool
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:12 PM
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I think handshakes are actually fine. My personal favourite is a warm hug. If it comes from the right place where you spread love it can be a really solid start to your chat!
/r/seduction29/10/20 03:12 PM
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Great point. You turn questions into statements. The next level is more elaborate cold reading
/r/seduction28/10/20 09:09 AM
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Amazing! And what do you think you need to do to achieve this?
/r/seduction28/10/20 08:56 AM
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The key here was your attitude towards "willingness to lose her". If she feels like you are needy, you're done
/r/seduction28/10/20 08:54 AM
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I see. And what steps are you taking right now to overcome this problem?
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:45 AM
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Yeah I see what you mean. I think the main mistake with this behaviour is that they are coming from an unhealthy place. They look at you as a "target" on whom they can "do one of their 3 approaches" rather than: "oh, this girl seems attractive. Let's see if we click/have chemistry and get to know each other"
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:32 AM
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Being genuine & authentic is one of the most powerful things you can do. It's always the place it's coming from!
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:26 AM
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It's always the place it's coming from!
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:29 AM
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Lol. I am intrigued how someone looks like when someone took a shit in their kettle! Regarding your question: it's always the place it's coming from, not the actual "technique". Think about that.
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:28 AM
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Here is what I do at the moment (currently in Bali): - Big social circle of high value guys and girls that I ACTUALLY like spending time with. We met up last week to watch Borat 2 for instance lol. - Go to a nightclub once or twice a week (where I already know 33% of the people) - Have 2-3 regular girls I am seeing - I don't do Tinder - Some daygame when I do my thing at the gym, sauna, cafes. But not dedicating time specifically for DG. Rely on your strengths. Have female friends. And decide wh…
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:25 AM
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How would you define the difference?
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:22 AM
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LOOOL. Comment of the day
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:20 AM
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Interesting. Why do you think this is resonating with you? Do you think it activates something primal inside? Curious
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:20 AM
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100%. Push-pull my friend
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:14 AM
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u/cottagecorehoe 2 things. 1: Do you think that maybe the way they said these to you was cringy and not the actual content? If said right this can be powerful. 2: Epic username. Lol.
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:13 AM
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The most important thing with flirting is how you say it, not the actual content. Anything can be said in a flirtatious manner. I like these lines, but the delivery is KEY!
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:12 AM
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Interesting!
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:10 AM
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Why do you think it's harder to connect with people these days?
/r/seduction27/10/20 06:00 AM
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More people have access to online dating. Hence you will find more people on Tinder. Hence more opportunities. All you have to do is optimize your profile and learn a few textgame concepts.
/r/seduction27/10/20 05:58 AM
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And hang out with me. I'll help you with daygame ;)
/r/seduction27/10/20 05:56 AM
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One important thing about acting normal while also being yourself is accepting that from time to time you might still have awkward encounters. It's inevitable. Maybe she is having a shitty day or something came off in a strange way in conversation.
/r/seduction26/10/20 07:07 AM
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Come to Bali!
/r/seduction26/10/20 07:00 AM
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Life is actually quite simple bro. You decide on what your purpose is. Decide WHY you do it. Start working towards it. (WEALTH.) In the meantime, you make sure you feel good in your body so you eat well and do exercise (HEALTH). And you also go out to socialise, switch off, and have high value people around you who love you for who you are. If you want to improve any of these areas, you focus on ONE THING for a week or an entire month (maybe even a year). This way you can improve that area expon…
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:42 AM
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Emotions are contagious. The way you feel will often be projected in how she will feel. Meaning: if you have great energy, chances are the convo will go quite well.
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:35 AM
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I would say there are more opportunities. The window is wider, you can reach a much wider audience. Abundance vs scarcity my friend.
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:32 AM
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Mind sharing them? I can assure you there are way more things, you just have to realise them. Here are some of mine for inspiration: I am a loving person. I am a fucking amazing friend. I bring a lot of good emotions to conversations. I have light, positive energy. I am amazing in bed. I always try to add more value to people than what I receive. I am always on time, I never make people wait. I am really easy to work with. The thing is that these things are all internal, so you can simply make a…
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:31 AM
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Completely agree. One of my favourites as well. Amazing for anyone who is into business & sales as well!
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:27 AM
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Not at all. At the core of intimate emotions is sexual arousal.
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:26 AM
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Okay let me get things straight. First of all, I agree, health is super important. The thing is though that it's something you should do for YOURSELF anyway, not to get dating success. If this serves as an extra motivation that's fine, it can be helpful. HOWEVER. I can tell you from personal experience that if you are scared to talk to girls and/or are socially awkward... Then simply getting into shape is not going to solve this internal problem. Yes it is ideal to make the most of your looks. B…
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:14 AM
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How many do you have right now?
/r/seduction23/10/20 06:41 AM
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Big truth. Putting them on a pedestal is actually doing a disservice for them!
/r/seduction23/10/20 06:40 AM
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Yes. What I would add to it is even if they give you shit or test you about your age you don't even have to give up on them. Just pass the shit test lol
/r/seduction23/10/20 06:39 AM
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You definitely should have asked for her number. Always assume the best possible outcome for yourself. Because even if she was going on a date, asking for her number will smoke out any objections. If she is married she will let you know. If she doesn't say anything about a boyfriend or husband it means she either doesn't have one or decided not to tell you in this moment.
/r/seduction23/10/20 06:30 AM
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Well said! One thing I have found is that if you cannot afford therapy at the moment... A great way around it is having a confidant. This can be your best friend or anyone close to you. And you can have chats regularly with this person where you're not trying to solve any problems, you just talk about shit that makes you guys stressed. And you just listen. And try to understand each other. You'll be amazed at how powerful this is.
/r/seduction22/10/20 06:34 AM
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Solid content, and great copywriting actually!
/r/seduction22/10/20 06:31 AM
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Love it. When I was at uni i was doing cold approach (massive volume). I am happy with the experience and don't regret it but there are certainly smarter ways to get results. What I learned doing the cold approaches then is helping me now massively long term but if you are looking to get the biggest bang for your buck then definetely a more indirect, laidback, social circle approach is best.
/r/seduction22/10/20 06:20 AM
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Agreed, not being needy in any way, shape or form is big. And yes, the next step for him is to show intent in the approach!
/r/seduction19/10/20 05:04 AM
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Great job on taking action! Be grateful that you did it, not many have the balls to actually go up to someone + improve themselves. Be patient & don't compare yourself to others. We're all on our own journey. The best way I have found to increase your perception of yourself is 2 things: - Keep taking action & doing the right things and you will start to build a reputation for yourself as someone who gets shit done + successful. - Write down 50 things you love about yourself. Can be both internal…
/r/seduction19/10/20 04:58 AM
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So the thing is: Yes, it is possible to be friends with someone and then end up getting married + happily ever after. However. It is not the optimal mating strategy to just befriend the people you like and HOPE that they feel the same way. It's much better, in the long run, to behave in a "lover" or "man to woman" manner with those you are attracted to. Express your interest. Because otherwise, she will just think you want to be her friend.
/r/seduction19/10/20 04:54 AM
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Man, I feel your pain. Quite a lot actually. A few things: We should be grateful for this emotion because it can help us be very motivated in the future. Be careful with beating yourself up too much about things. Self-acceptance and deep self-love is a key part of the journey. We often judge certain events as good or bad. And then look back at them in the long run and completely change our perspective on them. Everyone has their own journey, don't compare yourself to others. Increase your love f…
/r/seduction19/10/20 04:42 AM
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Thanks for this bro
/r/seduction14/10/20 04:26 PM
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There are a few options here: You simply haven't found someone who is high enough quality and so you get bored. Internal reason that causes you to avoid commitment. I would be curious about a few things: - What was your longest relationship? - How do they usually end?
/r/seduction14/10/20 04:23 PM
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Rejection is great. It saves you a bunch of time. Much better than a girl who seeks your validation but not actually interested in you. Well done
/r/seduction08/10/20 08:04 AM
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1 million percent
/r/seduction08/10/20 08:03 AM
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Agreed
/r/seduction08/10/20 08:02 AM
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Always amazing to hear someone losing their CA virginity!
/r/seduction08/10/20 08:01 AM
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Believe in yourself mate, chances are you are a way more valuable person that you think! Even the fact that you are looking to improve yourself puts you in the top 10% of men
/r/seduction08/10/20 08:01 AM
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Lol. Why do you struggle with others?
/r/seduction08/10/20 07:59 AM
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Just have an honest conversation with her man. Because avoiding these situations is not the way. Step up!
/r/seduction08/10/20 07:59 AM
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You define your own reality mate! Why do you think it makes you look like a serial killer?
/r/seduction08/10/20 07:57 AM
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You define your own reality brother. If you think a certain activity is creepy... Chances are it will come off as creepy. But if you are proactive, confident and know what you bring to the table... Then this is the vibe you will present!
/r/seduction08/10/20 07:55 AM
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Lol. Be careful with this. 2020 is the year of foot fetish stories haha
/r/seduction08/10/20 07:54 AM
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Lol. There is no rule of thumb here brother. Every girl is different
/r/seduction06/10/20 08:03 AM
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Haha agreed. I like the part about food! Lol
/r/seduction06/10/20 08:02 AM
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Why do you think that happened?
/r/seduction06/10/20 08:02 AM
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There is no "One Foreplay Method" that will guarantee girls to come back. The main thing that will determine this is the connection you guys built and how she feels around you. The main reasons for them not to come back are the following: Friction. These are logistical (or logical) reasons, such as her moving to another country, religious reasons and things of that nature. You can't do too much about these things. Buyers Remorse. This is big. This happens for example when you end up having sex o…
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:52 AM
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Love the honesty. There are so much unnecessary judgement placed upon women by societythat creates all of this friction. If 2 people like each other, who the fuck cares. Much respect.
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:42 AM
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Boys there is no "always" in human interactions. Lol. With some girls, it's super exciting to get intimate on the first date. It's in the moment, it's sexy, and it's adventurous. However, other girls have deeply routed "rules" that were developed over years (mostly due to social conditioning + feeling judged by their friends). A lot of times they will give you certain signals that say "listen babe, I really like you and I wanna fuck you, but give me some space. Just don't be pushy, be patient." …
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:41 AM
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Go for it!
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:35 AM
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Agreed. The "creepy" vibe usually comes from a misalignment between your behaviour and intentions. Especially when guys know logically that they are attracted to a specific girl but uncertain (+not confident) in how they should express this in their behaviour. Obviously no one wants to come off as creepy.
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:34 AM
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Lol
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:32 AM
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It depends bro. It's only awkward if you think it's awkward. Overall in a college situation it is more okay to be indirect as you want to build a reputation of the "cool guy who is fun to be around". But still it's totally fine to be flirtatious and establish a premise with girls you like!
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:29 AM
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"UrMumsCock" is the greatest name for an occupational therapist that I have ever heard. Lol. (Solid input by the way, I actually learned a lot.)
/r/seduction29/09/20 07:09 AM
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Social circle does not have to take a long time. You can create social circle situations TONIGHT. It's actually simple. You talk to the staff of the venue for a few seconds, ask their name and crack a joke. Do that with a few staff members. Do the exact same thing with some people all over the bar/nightclub. Short, punchy interactions with a lot of positive energy. Create hubs. And afterwards you can just walk around the place saying hi to everyone you already know, plus open sets along the way.…
/r/seduction29/09/20 06:55 AM
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1 million percent
/r/seduction28/09/20 08:22 AM
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You're overthinking it bro. You probably think it's a big deal if you haven't dated, but it's not. Keep chatting to them, I'm sure it's just a matter of time till you start getting dates and then it's all good. I would not recommend lying. You have 2 options I think: Be as transparent as possible. But own it. Be comfortable with it. You can slightly twist the truth and consider girls you ever texted, kissed or fooled around with your "ex". It's true from a certain point of view.
/r/seduction28/09/20 05:45 AM
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Love it. Thanks for the input!
/r/seduction28/09/20 05:40 AM
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That's even better! Healthier. Cheaper. And you don't run the risk of relying on poisoning yourself in order to take action.
/r/seduction28/09/20 05:38 AM
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What exactly do you mean by sketchy bro?
/r/seduction28/09/20 05:36 AM
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2 things. Yeah, in the long run, make sure you live in a place that's more open (if this is important to you) People still meet each other. Most likely in social circle settings. The solution in every location is to find out where the girls you are into go. And then you just gotta go to those places, become friends with the staff and you're golden.
/r/seduction28/09/20 05:35 AM
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Good stuff man. Drinking alcohol is fine from time to time, just be careful not to rely on it. I love the positive energy. So many people focus on the smallest details and get those "tricks" going. But good vibes trumps technique in most cases. It's not what you say, it's where you are coming from. Don't put too much pressure on yourself with the "getting laid" thing. Obviously, it's a good goal to have but since you are still new to this focus on doing the right things: - Open a lot - Share pos…
/r/seduction28/09/20 05:31 AM
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Totally agree. Guys who really crush it are always the biggest flirts.
/r/seduction25/09/20 05:59 PM
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From a certain point of view, yes. However, if you find a girl who's company you genuinely enjoy it's an incredibly blissful experience. As men we often fall for the trap that "women aren't as cool" or "they don't understand me" or that "they don't have humour". Let me tell you. A lot of times girls will not even give you 1% of their attention because they haven't gotten to realise what an incredible person you actually are. Which at the end of the day... is your fault. Because you haven't portr…
/r/seduction25/09/20 02:15 PM
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Mmm I disagree man. 1 good and 1 bad thing here. 1 it's awesome that you find joy in your hobbies, career and hanging out with friends. And I agree, you don't NEED a woman to be happy. The monks from Tibet seem pretty damn happy to me. HOWEVER. The vibe of your comment is telling me that you kind of "ACCEPTED" that you are just lonely. Anyone. Yes. Anyone can just make a conscious decision to go out there, improve themselves, and get the dating life they want. It's all in your head brother. I fe…
/r/seduction25/09/20 02:10 PM
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Agreed!
/r/seduction25/09/20 02:06 PM
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A few things here brother. Don't talk negatively about your exes. Even if she did not have a good impact on you, she is trying her best. Just like everyone else. Even as a man, if a girl is telling me how her ex-bf is a douchebag it's a massive red flag for me. Because if she was so bad... they why did you hang out with her in the first place? Think about that. Just because you laugh so much it does not necessarily mean happiness. Laughing definitely helps with happiness but there are other thin…
/r/seduction25/09/20 02:06 PM
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Great video! Keep it up :)
/r/seduction25/09/20 01:59 PM
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People are still meeting each other. You just have to find the place that your exact type is going to and start getting to know everyone there. Be nice to the waiters and the bouncers. Whether it's a cafe, bar or restaurant... doesn't matter. When my buddies and I first started the social circle stuff 1 girl turned up at our event. 1 hour late. 4 weeks later we were having a villa party with 4 guys and 60 girls. If done correctly your container event can gain A LOT of momentum. Hope this helps!
/r/seduction25/09/20 01:57 PM
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