benisch2 Archive

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1	Men can only access emotional intimacy through a romantic partner Here's the thing. Your partner is not supposed to be your only emotional outlet. This can be solved easily in two ways: 1) Be more honest with your bros. Doesn't mean you have be that way all the time, but every once in a while you can in fact open up. You might even be surprised to find that they are supportive. 2) Get a therapist. Your partner should not be your therapist, they are neither qualified to help you nor responsible for doing so. Obviously not saying you can't still share stuff from…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 09:46 PM
1	Men try to gatekeep standards It's interesting watching people argue about this in the comments. I think that there are shallow people on both sides. Regardless of whether you identify as a man or a woman, I think if you refuse to consider people based on factors that they cannot control, then you kinda suck. Not saying you can't have preferences, but if you're completely refusing to consider because the other person is an inch shorter or one body size too large, you're kind of being needlessly picky about stuff that really …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 03:08 PM
0	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes Have you ever tried like... listening to your partner to see what they like? Or looking up how to have good technique in bed? Men who think like that tend to be bad partners in general and probably shouldn't date in general until they work on themselves more. If you suck then work to get better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/26 07:17 AM
0	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes My personal theory on why so many men prefer virgins is that they're insecure about their ability in bed and are afraid to be compared with other men. If the person has no one to compare you to, they won't know you suck at it/ have bad technique	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/26 06:53 AM
2	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes As a man, I have always found it weird that some people are obsessed with body count. Wouldn't you want someone with more experience? The sex is better if you know what you're doing vs trying it for the first time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 06:12 PM
2	Introverted men are boring to most women (even introverted women) Introversion isn't the problem here. There are plenty of introverted guys who get have long term partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 03:34 PM
–	Many women don't realize that emotions are not reality. I majored in psychology, was mentioned in one of the classes I took. There are many historical examples of patients who have had specific parts of their brain damaged, which give us insight into what they do and why they are necessary. Generally I tend to look for either paperbacks or textbooks written by people with actual psychology credentials, or at the very least make sure it's got references to actual psychological research. So many self-help books are complete nonsense not backed by any k…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/24 03:23 PM
11	Many women don't realize that emotions are not reality. Even the most basic decisions require emotion, even if people don't realize it. When you pick a shirt in the morning, do you pick the blue or the red shirt? Objectively, there is no right answer so you just pick whichever one you feel like. In people whose brains have the emotional part physically damaged, they actually CAN'T make that choice. It would be a great hinderance to be completely devoid of emotions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/24 08:29 PM
8	Many women don't realize that emotions are not reality. People on the spectrum definitely experience emotions, but their interpretation of events is very different from neurotypical people. So something that would upset a neurotypical person might not bother them, but something that wouldn't bother them might bother a neurotypical person quite a bit, and vice versa.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/24 08:27 PM
1	Would you hate even more the french dating scene ? This honestly sounds really nice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 11:44 PM
–	Why do some women seem to refuse facts to remain miserable? You obviously saw the post about men refusing facts and remaining miserable the other day, got butthurt, and then made up this example.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/24 02:30 PM
1	"Autistic women are less likely to be single because they're better at masking" No, it's because gender roles expect men to be far more socially adept in dating I have spent my entire life learning how to act "normal" in social situations. There is not a single social interaction that has come naturally to me, everything I do has had to be learned through trial and error. It was difficult, and children are not as forgiving as adults are so it was a long process for me. That being said, I don't think the idea of autistic people not having to mask is necessarily a good or healthy thing to encourage in children. It will only, in my opinion, make the rest o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/24 08:15 PM
2	What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment? That's not really fair. I know a couple poly people and they're pretty normal and don't force it on other people. But there's definitely a stereotype of certain people claiming to be poly but they actually just don't wanna commit to a relationship	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/24 05:39 PM
3	If the blue pill is correct, why does the friend zone exist? Because not everyone wants to date you. And that's ok. If they don't want to date you, go find someone who does. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. That being said, if you've never been to therapy then there probably are some things that you need to work on I'm willing to bet. Focus on yourself, build a meaningful life with a network of friendships to support you, and go on some dates. If someone isn't interested in you, that's ok. They don't need to be. You don't need it to be the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 04:21 PM
1	Can men just not be loved for who they actually are? Focus on yourself, and becoming who you truly want to be. Polish and hone your craft, whatever it is, form a friend group that can act as a support for you, and learn to have them meet your emotional needs. Once you have a solid foundation for your life, then you will have space to invite someone in as a participant romantically- but it is never wise to make a romantic partner your sole source of love.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/24 02:23 AM
4	Are women not getting approached anymore? I recommend joining a community group for some kinda hobby you're interested and see if you can meet people there. You mentioned that you're shy, which I also understand as a shy person. Imo it's easier to meet people if there's another reason to be involved, and if you share a common interest such as a hobby	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/24 03:57 PM
0	Modern dating strategy: Dating multiple people before being exclusive - Are males against this? If we're not exclusive yet, she can do whatever she wants. Just be up-front about it and practice safe sex or take regular tests if necessary.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/24 03:47 PM
1	Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do? i can and have been sexually harassed before, shouldnt reporting that be a right for all humans of both sexes and all ages? wait im guessing you think sexual harassment only happens to fair maidens I literally never said that. I am very sorry that that happen to you. I hope you were able to report it. Supporting a woman's right to report does not exclude also supporting men's rights to report as well, and it wouldn't make sense to only support one. That being said, it is much more common for wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 07:54 PM
1	Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do? Says more about you than it does about me	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 02:57 AM
–	Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do? suffragette I like how you're saying that as if it were an insult.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 01:23 AM
–	Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do? Women are human	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/24 10:56 PM
–	Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do? Are you telling me that the right to an abortion isn't part of "women's rights"? Or the right to vote or to refuse and report sexual harassment? Btw I'm not saying that rights for men aren't also important. But saying that "it doesn't mean anything" because you don't like it doesn't make it true.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/24 10:17 PM
–	Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do? Interestingly it seems that in more egalitarian societies (countries with more gender equality) this effect is less pronounced due to men being seen more positively in this country. Turns out women's rights also benefit men	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/24 09:26 PM
1	Chasing women is a huge waste of time. I'm not saying not to pursue romance. It's obviously very important to you, and I encourage you to do so. Especially if you don't have experience, you need to put yourself out their in order to learn. Just remember that it's not the panacea you think it is. You should also pursue personal happiness in your own life. If you do both of these things, then your life will get better. If you pursue romance without pursuing personal happiness and building a network of friends as a social safety net, th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/23 10:37 PM
1	Chasing women is a huge waste of time. I have dated in the past, but I have been single for almost 8 years now. I can tell you that a romantic relationship, while it may give you a modicum of happiness in the beginning (honeymoon phase), in the end it will not make you happy if your life is already miserable to begin with. In the long run, your unhappiness will make both you and your partner miserable, and you will both be worse off for it. If you are miserable, go to therapy and actually find out what issues are causing your unhappi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/23 09:51 PM
0	Women are as creepy as men. Society just prefers to overlook their behavior. While it is possible for women to exhibit creepy behaviors, it is much more likely to be harassed by men than by women. For every one woman who might harass you, there are more than ten men who will harass you. 3/4 of all violent crimes are committed by men. 97% of mass shootings in the US were committed by men. Men are, to put it simply, more statistically likely to be dangerous than women are. So even if a man and a woman both do the same creepy behavior, one is naturally more creeped out by a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 05:55 PM
3	"Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate" With technology moving at the pace that it is, why shouldn't we be able to?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/23 05:01 PM