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18	Fellas, what's the worst experience that you've ever had with women? I had a female judge try to award child support to my ex-wife when the child was living with me full-time and I paid 100% of their expenses. She believed that if my ex-wife did not enjoy the same standard of living that I did, regardless of her work history or career choices, that I was a "deadbeat dad". Because the child would suffer from this somehow.	/r/EverydayMisandry	10/06/23 04:49 PM
8	What do you believe is driving the male loneliness pandemic? I would estimate a few key factors are responsible for most of the issue. Electronics - The advent of personal computers and online information has provided unprecedented access to education, entertainment, even career paths that no longer require in-person interaction. Put simply, we have eliminated a huge amount of formerly mandatory social engagement. Social Media - The human mind is only programmed to maintain a few close friendships, and then a handful of more distant ones. Thanks to social…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/05/23 05:35 PM
2	More debates on Dutch Facebook It can be stunning when suddenly the voices spreading negativity and sexism come across real, meaningful resistance. Not from activists but from regular people who have finally engaged their minds and voices to say, "No, I'm sorry, but that's wrong." I recently had someone thank me for my comments recontextualizing incels & the patriarchy (other platform). It was surprising. I'm so used to speaking up just to be ignored or shut down with jargon and gender blaming. It was a refreshing change. May…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/05/23 03:16 AM
1	More debates on Dutch Facebook You said "godkids" after "God of War" and I became momentarily confused.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/05/23 03:08 AM
2	Mid-week check-in I've always wanted to write a book, but I never had the dedication or skill. Congratulations on writing a book. Double on getting it published. I think you should tell them straight out how you feel. Maybe it's something you can work through with them. Or maybe you'll feel better when they know where you stand. Anyway, good luck. And good job on the book.	/r/MenSupportMen	18/05/23 01:21 AM
4	Thoughts on getting married (to a woman) I was married previously. Without going into too much detail, it was toxic, and some might consider her behavior abusive. I learned a very valuable lesson: It does not matter how determined you are, how many books you've read, or how amazing of a partner you may be, marriage takes two people. I am divorced now and will not get married again. The risk profile is considerably large and the reward profile is all but non-existent. It's okay to like someone. It's okay to date someone. But I personall…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/05/23 02:50 PM
6	Self-sacrifice as a masculine virtue I think to some degree this idea of putting others before yourself can be taught to both men and women in different ways. But it's not always healthy. Specifically it can enable toxic people to take advantage of the virtues of these individuals. So I think what would help is to teach wisdom and discretion alongside virtue. That is, how to know not just what to do, but when to do it.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/04/23 01:31 PM
6	"Support female creators." I had a similar feeling a few years ago with the "black-owned businesses" push that was, at least in my area, everywhere. If I recall correctly, some delivery apps even added it as a filter for a while. While I have no issue with supporting black-owned businesses, or female creators, etc, this is effectively a zero-sum game with obvious consequences. That is, people are not likely to spend more to support minorities, but rather spend differently. So when you emphasize the support of minority…	/r/EverydayMisandry	23/04/23 03:53 PM
1	A calm rant about the straight white dude experience in left politics The idea of disempowerment, including silencing someone based on their birth identity (white male) or non-elective sexual identity (cis, straight), is fundamentally appealing to those seeking empowerment. Because if everyone has power, even (or especially) equal power, that diminishes your power relative to everyone. But if you can disempower certain groups, especially larger or even majority groups, your relative power goes up within those dynamics. The reasons for seeking empowerment may be un…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/04/23 10:54 PM
1	Physical v Mental Abuse and genders I suspect if this were as observable and quantifiable as physical abuse, feminists would find a way to make these statistics less discoverable. But even domestic violence is not as much of a gendered issue as the narrative would have us believe. The fact is that plenty of women are abusive but we are only supposed to center their abuse.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/04/23 10:26 PM
2	Physical v Mental Abuse and genders I think this is an interesting observation, because there is currently a thread in the feminist narrative of "weaponized incompetence", wherein a person (a man) will deliberately do something so poorly he will not be asked to do it again. And while I believe this exists, I would guess much, if not most, of what women label "weaponized incompetence" comes down to expecting a man to do things exactly how they would do them.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/04/23 10:19 PM
77	The struggle of being in trans spaces as a man Pardon my ignorance, but isn't the point of transitioning that you feel uncomfortable in your biological sex and would prefer to embody the other? Why would you do that if you are disgusted by the other or are sad to lose your own?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/04/23 03:52 PM
6	What are problems men face that women don’t face? Or evidence that women are objectively better, curiously enough.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/04/23 02:36 PM
7	What's something you want to accomplish by the end of May? Getting a new job. I'm starting some businesses but they won't support me in the short term. I thought I found my dream job, but I ran afoul of a DEI employee and the company chose to act against my interests.	/r/MenSupportMen	22/04/23 12:15 AM
12	Men are being gaslit into thinking they are misogynists and it’s destroying their mental health I feel the need to engage, I think, because I like to imagine that in a past world I would have stood up to the cultural ills of those times. So I need to be that kind of person now. I just never thought when I was younger that I'd one day be defending men against sexism. I don't know if I can change the mind of a feminist, but I might change the mind of someone who reads their writing and mine as well. I think every voice counts towards shifting a cultural narrative. But maybe I'm just kidding …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/04/23 11:46 PM
0	I think feminism is a right wing ideology. I was raised conservative, though I drifted more left as I got older. But I've also observed that the toxic parts of feminism and the toxic parts of right wing... ism(?) are relatively aligned. In fact, I've noticed a number of things in the "left" now that look a lot like the worst parts of what I grew up with. The left that taught me about things like free speech and tolerance is now trying to silence and shame me because of my birth identity. What do I do with that?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/04/23 11:31 PM
5	What are problems men face that women don’t face? Does it stop at equality of outcome? I thought they were still in place even as women begin to surpass men.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/04/23 09:42 PM
2	“Have you deprogrammed yourself from misogyny?” I have found the most effective conversational technique is to simply ask questions. "In what ways?" "How would I know if I have been programmed, or deprogrammed?" "Do you have programmed misandry?" "How would you know if you have been programmed, or deprogrammed?" Generally someone asking you this question will have very few original thoughts about it, and is simply regurgitating some social test they assimilated from another person. You can shut them down by making them actually think. This is…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/04/23 09:40 PM
22	Men are being gaslit into thinking they are misogynists and it’s destroying their mental health I've talked before about the harm cognitive dissonance causes in men. The narratives that feminist culture pushes on boys and men so sharply conflicts with their lived experience that it creates a war between the world they know and the world they believe is right. Too many men never find the right side of this war.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/04/23 09:34 PM
33	Men are being gaslit into thinking they are misogynists and it’s destroying their mental health I've had thoughts like this recently and struggled to find a good place to share them. I've begun engaging feminists who participate in this kind of narrative (on Medium) but it doesn't seem like they're able to comprehend that discrimination against an entire sex is, in fact, the definition of sexism. On the other hand, some are openly sexist and simply assert that men deserve it. Vague, nebulous accusations about biology or world history serve as justifications to label all men as problematic,…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/04/23 09:31 PM
1	Support for men This is a delicate situation for a man. It can be helpful to understand the social foundation for this kind of conflict. It sounds like your wife has bought into the narrative that women are superior communicators. There are certainly men that struggle to express themselves well, but there are also plenty of women who have their own communication issues. The problem is that because you are the social minority, the group for whom the burden of behavior is larger, you will have to not only be an e…	/r/MenSupportMen	14/04/23 11:25 PM