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0	How to become a good talker One trap I frequently fall into atm, is taking the conversation seriously. It fosters great connection, but it doesn't create a fun flirty vibe. Whenever I can, I try to put a twist on what she says. Make it absurd. Exaggerate. The trick is to do both. Push-pull. She will feel like you can always surprise her, which she will love. Eg: Her: This is rather toxic! Me: I am so toxic, black mambas try to escape and black cats get unlucky.	/r/seduction	14/11/25 09:34 AM
2	How to flirt I don't understand what I did or remember my wins. Same here. When I have a great conversation, I don't remember any details. I think it's because the conversation takes up all my mental space - I am in the moment, carefree. It's actually a good sign. It sounds to me like you approach flirting in a very analytical way. I tried that too, and it failed spectacularly for me. That does not necessarily mean that it never works for anybody, but since you describe the exact same issue I faced, chances …	/r/seduction	16/10/25 07:56 AM
0	What’s the WORST advice you’ve been given? Amazingly, almost all of the answers in this thread make me go "hmm.. well... yes and no". And the same goes for most seduction/pua advice I heard. It's almost always somewhat good advice for some special situation, but overgeneralized and framed in a rather misogynistic way. It has to do with the way I think, btw. I tend to see lots of gray areas.	/r/seduction	25/09/25 02:34 PM
1	What’s the WORST advice you’ve been given? There's a misconception on both sides: the assumption that identity is fixed and not chosen. In reality, habits form identity, and identity shapes habits. You can probably work on either, but habits are more malleable because of how we normally perceive them.	/r/seduction	25/09/25 02:10 PM
2	What’s the WORST advice you’ve been given? Curious analogy: Intuitive eating. Excellent concept - after you've trained your intuition to give you the right cues.	/r/seduction	25/09/25 02:06 PM
1	Girls are being approached less than you might think I'm not that trustful of my own observations. Self-selection, selection bias and so on. Just the fact which venues I tend to frequent, would skew the results.	/r/seduction	11/09/25 12:44 PM
2	Girls are being approached less than you might think FWIW, whenever I went out, I always wondered where all the annoying, mass-approaching guys are, who never take no for an answer and are all borderline SAing folks. In 20 years since I started to actively watch for it, I think I observed about 5 approaches. (Not counting my own of course, lol.) On the other hand, women regularly tell me how annoyed they are and that they need to put in headphones so they are not bothered by anybody. So I presumed that I was just not seeing it. Not looking hard en…	/r/seduction	11/09/25 12:42 PM
2	At what age did you find yourself pulling the most women? I guess I could do it now, in my 50s. Just because I approach a lot, go to the gym etc., and I am much more relaxed about it all. I choose never to escalate because I'm married and won't cheat, but for sure, sometimes there is a spark, and I could stay in the set and close. Whereas I basically did next to ZERO approaches when I was younger. So yeah. Dudes, learn game when you're still young and single!	/r/seduction	05/09/25 07:35 AM
2	Why is there so little eye contact on the streets One thing, it's very much cultural. In my middle-european home country, I get very little eye contact. If I do, it's often more like an annoyed sneer. But when I went to Ireland, wooohooo. People look and smile at each other all the time. Also, their looks and smiles are not sexual. It's not a come-on every.single.time. I get that it must be annoying for women if every single semi-friendly look they give a guy is seen as a sex invitation. Obviously, sometimes they're just not up for that and avo…	/r/seduction	05/09/25 07:31 AM
2	Why you are obligated to find me fucking attractive: Hey girls, I think that means you should totally date me! I mean, I'm fairly certain I don't fit into your idealized conception of beauty, lol!	/r/MGTOW	24/01/18 03:26 PM