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Well they're in the early stages of a rebound, I'm sure he's protecting himself as well.
/r/seduction26/10/18 09:06 PM
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Yep. Play up being a mysterious French man and they'll love it
/r/seduction21/07/18 11:28 PM
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it is the best. to an english person, the french accent is the sexiest of all
/r/seduction21/07/18 11:24 PM
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Yep. My main go-to is telling them how I know the best possible recipe for French toast. Loaded with butter and syrup. And I'm going home to eat french toast. Get home, get home, no eggs in the fridge. Sometimes you may want to have it before sex, but syrup is not sex friendly haha. Then grab some in the morning for sure because french toast.
/r/seduction06/07/18 10:02 PM
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Do it
/r/seduction29/06/18 05:59 PM
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Agreed. I sent a joke then just let it sit. I don't want to drag around too much shit on text before hand.
/r/seduction27/06/18 11:21 PM
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Haha no idea. But that's the origin of the term. Hot babe or hot body.
/r/seduction27/06/18 11:20 PM
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Hot babe
/r/seduction27/06/18 09:24 PM
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Yeah. What if setting a time is way too much back and forth? What's the most effective way to get a time.
/r/seduction27/06/18 09:24 PM
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I'm not that kind of person. She seems kind of bougie from Facebook but she's also working 2 jobs to save for school so I'm hoping she's at average maintenance levels
/r/seduction27/06/18 07:53 PM
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You already answered your question. Go do it.
/r/seduction16/06/18 11:00 PM
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I ink to hangout video?
/r/seduction07/02/18 04:22 AM
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Seduction =\= healing self esteem and practicing social skills. That’s called therapy. Seduction is going after what you want.
/r/seduction11/12/17 11:24 PM
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He is. He's kind of a sociopath. But he understands men and women VERY well, and has wild success with women despite coming from an extremely negative attitude in the past and having shockingly similar genes to you. https://youtu.be/ANKKhMAROX8 https://youtu.be/td2qslVhUsc
/r/seduction08/11/17 05:55 PM
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Hey man! Thanks for posting. If you listen to the advice in this thread, this post will be the most important thing you've done in the last two years. Do me one favor. GameandGains was dead on with every point, so allow yourself to let down your immediate feeling of resistance, and consider that what he said could work for you. If you genuinely pause and think, and still feel like you have no chance at gaining muscle and style, go watch every single RSD Tyler video on YouTube, then come back and…
/r/seduction07/11/17 08:34 AM
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eat more.
/r/seduction07/08/17 03:25 AM
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I think you missed that this was a compliment ^ Fortunately it was much more than imagined my friend. It's what happens when you just go for it ;)
/r/seduction01/08/17 08:14 AM
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Search through the comments, I posted links to a few subreddits that are focused on building discipline and such.
/r/seduction31/07/17 02:25 AM
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Yep ^^ 90% of communication is how you say things, not what you say.
/r/seduction31/07/17 02:25 AM
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No, I just don't respect you asserting an opinion toget a leg up, instead of adding to the discussion, which is the nature of this post. It isn't for people like you, as you likely have natural game already nailed down. It's for guys who don't know what to say and do to evoke the responses they want from a woman. People who comment "this is fake" or "this won't work" just discourage the guys who actually need the advice from trying new things and stepping out of their comfort zones.
/r/seduction31/07/17 02:22 AM
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hahaaha that would work, touche
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:07 PM
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His is so intense it's a hilarious joke. One line of "Why are you so pretty" dsoesn't do much. Delivery over words.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:07 PM
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Humans use words. It's how we communicate complex ideas. If you can show me a great hand signal for "Don't worry rachel, I won't emotionally pressure you for months over a single kiss so you can feel free to have fun" after she directly asks you why she's so comfortable kissing you, just send me to the wikipedia article thanks.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:06 PM
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Hahaha, yeah that helped but the conversation is always more than the venue 😉
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:05 PM
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Amen dude. Good luck!
/r/seduction30/07/17 10:25 AM
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Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:52 AM
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I explained it at the top ^
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:52 AM
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Wedding crashers my man. Wedding crashers.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:52 AM
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Cat and string is the idea that a girl wants what she can't have. Like when you play with a cat by dangling a string, they will go crazy for it while its flying around in front of them but as soon as they catch it they just get bored and walk away because the chase is over.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:51 AM
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Ah sorry you read it that way. I think I was pretty honest with her about my intentions and how I felt, and vice versa with her. Pretentious probably came with my language in the post, but I'm mainly talking down to my past self who I can see all the flaws in.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:50 AM
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I didn't really plan much actually. The lunch thing was totally non-romantic at first, I just eat there all the time, and we were already going to the event beforehand. Basically all this was improvised. It just sounds so structured because I'm breaking it down after it's happened but I basically just spent and afternoon and a night with her hanging out.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:49 AM
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You are what most guys in the pickup/seduction community call a 'natural'. You just get it, no need to use any special skills or techniques with girls at all, which is totally great. Then there are lots of guys that need lots of help with it, which is why we post here. I had a hard time with girls all through highschool and college, too nervous to talk to them for more than a few sentences. Building myself up has changed that, so now I give back what I've learned to the community.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:46 AM
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Valid points. All sensations are part of it. You can't be truly present until you're in touch with all of your sensory perceptions in the moment. There isn't much you can do when someone cries except for being a warm energy with them. Again, you misread the context. There are several explanations from me and others on why "I don't give a shit" is one of the most important things I said to her and how comfortable it made her. And no, I'm not saying game is this 2 sided thing. What I'm saying is t…
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:43 AM
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Yep. Delivery over content. Half the time she's too busy thinking to even go over what you've said. And this is between us making out, so it's the last thing on her mind.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:39 AM
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Inner game is a synonym for self confidence. It's just a play on the word game but all it means is being totally comfortable in your skin and in control of the way you act and feel.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:38 AM
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Thank you! This guy gets it. Girls want there to be as little pressure as possible, so they are free to have fun and not feel responsibility for enjoying themselves with you. All the heavy emotional stuff can come later.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:37 AM
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I didn't say where we were going, just to get lunch. Picked her up from the subway and drove there. It's a very nice place but it's a client of mine so I'm there often. Remember that it's easier to poke holes in something than just trying it yourself.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:36 AM
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In regard to the emotional and physical changes, I'll just paste my comment from below. Inner game for me has been focusing on where in my life I've had losses of integrity and working on patching those up. Holding myself responsible to do the work I need to, going to the gym regularly even when I don't want to, never snoozing or sleeping in aside from Saturdays (cheat days are necessary haha) and having a strong set of goals and routines. I would suggest /r/discipline and /r/Stoicism as two gre…
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:21 AM
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Yep There was also a guy in the bar vomitting everywhere, got all on my shoes, but wasn't really relevant to the story and not as cool.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:19 AM
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Cheers brother
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:18 AM
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I posted about it up top ^
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:18 AM
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Well, to answer your question, the entire purpose of the seduction community is for guys who have a hard time with women, who fail at being themselves and need a little help to become good in those situations. I don't normally post here about my experiences with women, but this was such a specific situation I felt it could help a lot of the guys here. You seem to be comfortable being yourself, and in comparison to a lot of the guys on reddit you're pretty lucky to feel that way! So go out and en…
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:16 AM
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Nah. The waitress was actually her friend, the bar is where she works so it was more of a casual question I guess.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:11 AM
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Inner game for me has been focusing on where in my life I've had losses of integrity and working on patching those up. Holding myself responsible to do the work I need to, going to the gym regularly even when I don't want to, never snoozing or sleeping in aside from Saturdays (cheat days are necessary haha) and having a strong set of goals and routines. I would suggest /r/discipline and /r/Stoicism as two great places to start, and if you need help building up a foundation for your life, /r/theX…
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:07 AM
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My entire process is built upon being present. Vivid memoris are a side effect of that. Plus some guys are just natural storytellers, it's just how it is, whether it be a forum post or entertaining friends.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:02 AM
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The waitress will generally ask if you're splitting the bill. That was the initiator. Otherwise I wouldn't care.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:01 AM
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This behaviour will get you past the 'friend-shield'. Once you're in then you can just behave as you would. My focus on inner game is also to stress that you don't need to pretend to be somebody because you've already put in the work to be someone you love. I added an edit to my post to acknowledge your points as they are definitely important for the actual relationship side, after seduction is complete. But this is a post in r/seduction, hence the focus of the post.
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:59 AM
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I'm just using the terms in the context of this forum, I don't use language like that much IRL. The point being mainly that when you tease her to pay, it's something she rarely encounters being doted on all the time. Also another point on that is that the meal we had on day 1 was on the house thanks to the chef, so I had just recently 'bought' her a nice expensive meal. I do appreciate your dose of reality into the conversation though, everything you're saying is definitely true.
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:52 AM
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Haha yeah, good point. You guys brought out real discussion instead of just saying "nice one bro" so I'm glad you commented.
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:49 AM
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Bubble routine was something I started doing after seeing youtube videos of ross jeffries. I thought his methods were pretty creepy as he's like fully hypnotizing girls and it's not really a fair playing field if you know what I'm saying. It's a totally one-sided type of trance. The Bubble is basically creating a world in which only you two exist, and it affects both you and her. You start talking about how intense the present moment is, how many people in the room have no idea what we're saying…
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:46 AM
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Yeah, I'm there with you, and that's all the bits I left out, I mean we were there for hours just talking, these are just the turning-point kind of moments that I'm highlighting, and they're all bookended with lots of just regular chat and fun teasing like any old date. The situation was just unique and called for a few pre-meditated ideas to smooth everything out. Anyway I hope one day an idea from this post will come in handy for you guys! That's the whole point of Seddit, share what works so …
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:35 AM
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Yep. So now, I'm actually taking her to that movie we missed sometime this week and I can drop the macho shit from the inital encounter and just enjoy the night with her. All this story is about how to distinguish yourself from other would-be 'suitors' (lol) and break down that initial barrier to entry that usually surrounds 'good girl' types.
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:31 AM
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I added a thing about the drink. I usually just split bills with girls because it's very beta to pay for everything, and also a sign of respect that she can make her own money. However I was looking at some guy puking outside while she paid and she got the whole bill thinking that's what I was saying when I insisted she'd 'pay'. I don't ask girls to buy me anything unless some guy just bought them a drink or something and you can poke fun at it.
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:28 AM
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Well, it worked, and there were no cringey moments aside from the one that sparked her crying, that caught me off guard at first. Game will always sound lame, because you have to do these very irregular behaviors to connect with the more basic side of a woman. So before you talk down upon a method, instead just try it out yourself, find if it is successful, and then report back to seddit in your own field report 😉
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:26 AM
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Read my reply to trueword02. You are both right about that view, that if I said I don't give a shit about her she would immediately be hurt and turned off. However, in the context of the conversation it mean that I don't give a shit about rejection, or commitments from her, or any of that heavy stuff she usually deals with. This is a girl who guys immediately idealize as a 'girlfriend' type and will right away make their relationship bigger than it has any right to be.
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:18 AM
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It's all in the way you deliver it. With a smile, and a sarcastic look. It's not rude and disrespectful, it's more of a relief for her to hear. When guys spend so much time fawning over her, there is always a lot of emotional pressure on her not to hurt their feelings or reject them as 'friends' because she know's they are just lusting after her. But if you have 0 pressure or expectations, it's a breathe of fresh air. Which is why she felt even more comfortable after that. edit: also just anothe…
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:16 AM
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4/ Very pretty girl at a table with a mixed group of friends. I open with ''You! Why are you so pretty>!?' This is creepy. But, you were on the right track. This is what you were trying to go for: http://ciaran-articles.blogspot.ca/2009/04/shock-and-awe-part-1.html
/r/seduction29/07/17 08:40 PM
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the difference doesn't matter. Just approach.
/r/seduction22/07/17 01:00 AM
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Thank you, that was a great response. I'll keep all this in mind.
/r/seduction04/09/16 10:24 PM
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If a woman asks your age, you're faced with three options as I see it. Lie, tell them, or just don't tell them and say "old enough" or something like that. Usually the former will make them tripped out and try to figure it out still and it will be a roadblock between you and her.
/r/seduction04/09/16 03:20 AM
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Happened to me many times. You take her with you, or you've abandoned her and she is heartbroken.
/r/seduction14/07/16 05:32 AM
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I'm sorry you're so upset it worked. Hopefully you will find love using different words. I'm certain that people will love your caring and gentle personality hahaha
/r/seduction23/06/16 12:03 AM
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Curtis mayfield - pusherman Among other stuff, just look up funk on Spotify it's a great genre
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:56 PM
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Curtis mayfield - pusherman
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:56 PM
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Saying you like her as a friend shuts it down. Instead I just didn't comment aside from joking about how hurt I was while my body language/upbeat tone showed that it clearly didn't phase me at all. I should have explained that part better.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:55 PM
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Thanks I guess? I'm not really involved with her anymore, I just wanted to see if I could recover the situation and I did so I posted about it. I was definitely a neckbeard as a child, minus the fat and beard, but this is a story of the road to recovery.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:54 PM
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The suicide thing was a joke. Girls like humour. Get over it.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:52 PM
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I was never guilt tripping. It was all light sarcasm. I made that one joke and then just changed the subject back to whatever we were talking about before that and let her get over her awkwardness of the confession. Maybe shouldn't have included it in the post, just wrote it as an example of how you chia play to a particular sense of humour and sensibility. Normally if just say "that's fine" or something but it worked in the moment
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:51 PM
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Yes
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:49 PM
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Got laid and then as the guy below said, randomly text since but I've moved on mostly.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:49 PM
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What?
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:48 PM
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Thanks bro. Really appreciate the undermining of my first post. I'll remember to only post here about completely average things that happen to me instead of the more interesting stuff.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:47 PM
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She was acting jumpy on purpose to get closer, I asked her about it later. After she brought up the guy and I wasn't really phased she felt a lot more comfortable and began opening up. Plus the dude was pretty fucked up and I was sketched out myself.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:46 PM
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Here's the thing. The reason I mentioned that there wasn't much mutual flirtation going on was because something was up. She was not responding well to elevation and I couldn't figure it out, until I realized she was just completely apprehensive because of t and the guy in Germany was on her mind the whole time. Once she got it out she started to relax way more and that's why the mood shifted when we left he beach.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:44 PM
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I listen Curtis mayfield, Rick James, al green, etc... When I get a girl in my car, the first son g I play no matter what is pusher man by Curtis mayfield, it just works perfectly for taking off.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:41 PM
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It becomes short and no details because it was too long already. After we started kissing it was petty easy to escalate, just turned around and went up to her place, had a drink and slept together. I didn't want to write about the sex as there's enough of that on here already.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:39 PM
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Thank you.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:36 PM
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Thanks for the play by play. I agree, there were a lot of very cringey moments in this as I am not experienced at all with girls, I've only been with one girl before her. The point of writing this was showing how it's possible to pull out of the cringe deep end and come out fine. I'm sorry you feel it was fake, but not everyone will operate in the way you expect.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:35 PM
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Yes, it really only made sense in the context. Self deprivation is a tricky one for sure, but her being that kind of person it worked.
/r/seduction22/06/16 08:29 PM
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