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So happy for you. This is inspiring. This guy never cheated on anybody (because he was apparently usually the cheat-ee). And I don’t have friends following him, just mutual of him where I could see them in the background hanging at the same club and being all happy and stuff. I since unfollowed those mutuals. I hope this can happen to me too. Thank you for the advice :) I’m learning to be more positive now x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:05 PM
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So true. I was mistreated by this guy. I became obsessive when he got a gf (I regret it). And although I'm not innocent, I was attacked more rather than how he treated me. His gf's friend was defending him telling me "move on sis...he don't want you", everyone defends him and likes him. No one cares how you are being treated. Especially because he "changed" and has this "perfect persona" and his new relationship is "perfect".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:58 AM
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That's true. In my particular situation, I don't know him enough (I only saw him 3 times, we talked mostly online) to make that conclusion but it really seemed like he changed and matured his persona for her and I know nothing about his past life. He's heavily liked by all her friends because of how he acts and even for her friends bday he posted a picture of him, with the friend and his gf. In general though, some guys only are nice to the girls they want to be nice to. They'll love bomb you fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:52 AM
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So true. Sometimes you aren't the woman he wants to "act right" for, no matter what you do. That's why many women, including myself, have been treated terribly by one guy only to treat the next girl like a princess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:25 PM
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Thank you for saying this :) For some reason I am really obsessed with not just him as a person but with the quality he had of dedicating his partner on all his social media (especially his profile pictures, his Facebook one is of him smiling while holding and looking at her and the Instagram one is of him smiling like a mad man with her and he never posted or liked to take pictures of him smiling and suddenly he was smiling all the time). Even the fact that there’s a shop with the same initials…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:05 PM
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I don’t know any of his mutual friends (except for one, who told me he seemed “overly nice”). I did follow them on social media, which I now unfollow. It just looks too good to be true. He updates his Facebook profile picture to a picture of him and her looking at each other smiling from her birthday party, while everyone comments how cute they are as a couple. The only reason why I think he’s HVM is because most guys my age are still immature and wouldn’t do stuff like this. He’s become super f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:47 AM
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I am starting the journey to fix myself Basically I got into a lot of trouble. One of his gf’s friends (who’s also very pretty, popular and mentions how his gf is “loved by everyone”) attacked me publicly on TikTok to defend their “loving and committed relationship” and she called it and said “sis move on he don’t want you”. That’s when I realised that their relationship must be near to “perfect” (along with everything I’ve already seen and know about him) and I stressed on finding an upgrade an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:17 PM
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I am starting the journey to fix myself Basically I got into a lot of trouble. One of his gf’s friends (who’s also very pretty, popular and mentions how his gf is “loved by everyone”) attacked me publicly on TikTok to defend their “loving and committed relationship” and she called it and said “sis move on he don’t want you”. That’s when I realised that their relationship must be near to “perfect” (along with everything I’ve already seen and know about him) and I stressed on finding an upgrade an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:03 PM
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I have no idea...he’s been with her for almost 10 months now. Maybe I was the only girl he was LV too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:51 PM
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Because to me he had everything I felt that I wanted to feel happy. I saw him live this “perfect” relationship after me and being the “perfect boyfriend” I already knew he was just waiting for the “right girl” who unfortunately wasn’t me, he was doing things he has never done for me or anyone for all I know (he would never even heart react my posts but heart reacted his gf’s and even female friends he as prior). Ngl I saw what could of been for me. I still want his positive attributes in a guy. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:49 PM
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He never told me that’s what he wanted. The problem is I’m being a pick me and I’m just assuming that’s what he wanted because his current gf is everything I’m not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:32 PM
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I also forgot to add. The friend he flirted with of mine, once he got a gf he didn’t follow her back when I told her to request him one time...he just accepted her request.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:21 PM
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To me it was more than his appearance, it was his job, his personality (at the time), and what he had. The fact that he became even “better” now is what made me fantasise him more. I knew he also really had “changed” when the friend of mine he flirted with tried to follow him (because I asked to) and he didn’t follow her back, just accepted her request. You are correct. I struggle dating now. I feel no HVM really likes me and I haven’t been on one date since him, I keep getting ghosted or these …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:14 PM
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I agree. It’s pretty terrible how you can be useless and worthless to one person, and then to another they treat them like a princess and everyone praises them for their treatment. And suddenly you start thinking about the what if’s? Would you be apart of that “seemingly perfect life and relationship”? I never even had sexual relations or even saw his gentalia or even legs lmao (considering he wore pants every time he saw me) and I never even went to his town (we only hung out three times at nig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:45 PM
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We were never together. He’s official with her and everything. I don’t know if it’s considered that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:33 AM
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Honestly most of this is assumption. But I’ve never thought he was the guy to end up the way he did. Maybe I’m being over dramatic, I probably am. He showed HVM traits at first to me so maybe he only has HV to who he is interested in. I thought it was strange because he looked like he changed in just a couple of months of being with her. 3 months into his relationship he was beginning to delete other women and become “loving and committed” and her friends call him. They both posted ultra cute mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:11 AM
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I thought apologising would make things better. But I couldn’t do it without levelling up. My problem is that I was trying to fix things, if he still saw me in a good light it would all be okay. I feel like a LVW because I tried so hard for his validation. While he wanted nothing to do with me. Blocked me off everything and I think he changed his number over me. I’m seen as a “villain” by all their friends. For some reason I thought he could give me a “better life” as he had so many things that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:05 AM
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Nah he’s not popular and is pretty private. Doesn’t excessively post either so it looks genuine. But I do think he’s still performative because he even wanted to take a selfie of us on the first day we met. Everyone thinks they are the “best couple ever” and he’s the “best boyfriend” this girl as ever had. He’s extremely against cheating because of his past relationships. I don’t want to care, but I do for some reason, it’s gone to the point where I aspire to have a relationship like there’s, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:51 AM
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Yea honestly I don’t really know him. I saw some red flags. But it made me really upset at first because he changed so much and his relationship and new life at the time looks amazing while I was still miserable. Like a friend of hers posted a picture of them as a group and the couple were the only couple holding each other and sharing a blanket. And a mutual friend posted a photo at a club and I could see them in the background laughing and holding each other with another friend. So idk if that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:45 AM
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I don’t want him. He does not like me (and I’m pretty convinced he never did). However, a lot of the qualities he has I’ve never seen a guy my age have, so I do want a guy like him. I do want to “level up”. I think I just got envious because everything just looked so perfect since I wasn’t in the “picture” anymore. This girl got everything I ever wanted from him (the attention, celebrating his milestones and gets to to his house w/ a pool and meet his family) It’s crazy how he occupies my brain …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:08 AM
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Same situation as me. Except we were never together and he never cheated. I was just his little “online friend” “pen pal” until he wanted to find his actual official gf. You deserve better. You’ll level up and he will get his karma eventually...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:21 PM
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What do you mean by that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:11 PM
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Exactly. Me being on BC just reduces the risk, doesn’t mean you still can’t wear a condom 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:53 PM
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Thank you. It wasn’t what I was only seeing from the couple, but their friends would also show off how “cute they were too”. It’s like I was seeing a different person. The person I met was always “drinking with his mates” and wasting 100s on the pokies and could “never see me” hence why I only saw him 3 times in person. Now it looks like he doesn’t even go out with his friends anymore and has deleted tracings of his past. It’s a very long story but he hates me and both his and her friends hate m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:50 PM
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How did you meet this HVM? I only go on OLD because I feel I can’t meet guys anywhere else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:24 PM
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I agree. It makes me sick that girls go on birth control solely because their LVM wants to have a good time rather than caring about their own risks. Even birth control itself is not 99% effective. Funny enough, these are usually the same guys that would leave the woman if she fell pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:22 PM
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My Mum has been married to my dad almost 21 years and met him when she was my age. That’s probably why she makes it out as it was so much easier back then 😂. He’s in fact blocked me off everything. And honestly it was for the best. You are right, he is in fact a HVM but because he wasn’t interested in me he decided to show LV traits. Everyone adores him because of his HVness. I’ve struggled to date because I can’t find a guy like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:56 AM
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This is why I refuse to have FWB with someone. By choosing not to sleep with someone prior to a relationship, you weed out a lot of LVM. Good on her for realising her worth tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:06 PM
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He should of ironed his shirt, wore tighter shorts, and definitely not flip flops. I don’t get why these well-dressed and stunning women go for these LV men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:56 PM
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Yes about the LVM turning in a HVM situation. I’ve stopped checking his pages and I have been for over two months. I don’t know what he’s exactly doing or who’s exactly bought what for what, honestly I’ve just made assumptions from what I’ve already seen (e.g. the jumper he was wearing in his Instagram ig pic wasn’t a brand I’d see him wear so I assume his gf bought it for him). Overall, he’s not posting profusely as far as I know, but every profile picture, bio situation it has to involve his g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:45 PM
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I agree! I don’t want to consider dating someone older at my age, imo it’s a red flag if a 25+ dates a 19 year old rather than finding a woman closer to his own age. I think I have most of the traits I want in a guy, but I’m just going to do what you are doing and work on them and also improve what isn’t going to attract a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:40 PM
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Thank you :) I’ll definitely consider giving it a read! I’m currently on hinge atm. Because tinder and bumble were full of too many guys who just want hookups. My notifications aren’t that crazy because I’m super picky and I end up unmatching the guy if it they take more than 24 hours to reply (no one can be that busy imo) or they just show LV behaviours. I only go on it when I’m bored essentially and I don’t really hope for anything anymore since 99% of the time it doesn’t work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:36 PM
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I forget my age sometimes. I just freak out because I’m going to be in my 20’s before I know it and I haven’t experienced a proper relationship or had sexual experience. I just feel so different to other people my age who prefer going through the “hoe phase” before they find “the one”. If I want to be in a relationship with someone I will not have sex with them until I’m in that relationship. A lot of guys my age just don’t want that so I think I’m just going to work on myself until I find that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:33 PM
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But what about a drive in movie date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:40 AM
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Couldn’t agree more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:50 AM
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Yes that’s what I mean, I didn’t word it properly. I mean you’ve got to be in a situation like a holiday or moving out for some period of time (even if it’s one of your parents homes). Because I feel you don’t really know the person to the highest extent you can know someone until how they are at home. Even in times when you aren’t as good as others. It’s not really a commitment issue, it’s to just really get to know the person on a different level.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 01:46 AM
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I also believe you shouldn’t marry someone unless you’ve had a chance to live with them. Moving out and living together can really test relationships and even friendships. I’m saving up to live on my own. Whoever comes in my life can come and split the rent, but I’ll always make sure I can afford most things on my own.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:11 AM
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I’m in the same boat as you and am also (19F), 20 in about 5 months. However, I have been kissed and out on very few dates (first date at 16, first kiss at 18 so I am also a late bloomer). I also haven’t been in a relationship or had sexual intimacy. Like you I am very stressed about it. All my friends are getting to their most serious relationships, I’ve seen people my age get engaged or in serious relationships. I am also very insecure and always have been. I am quick to judge and have trust i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:06 AM
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That women need to “be more like men” in terms of a career. Women need to be the “boss”. And it’s too the point that women who choose to child bear and stay at home, or do something that isn’t so demanding is deemed as “lazy” or “hopeless”. Child bearing and looking after a household is one of the hardest jobs to have in my opinion. And you don’t get paid. Good on women if they choose to have a career, but don’t put down women who choose to be a stay at home mum while their partners are the brea…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 05:07 AM
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That’s my fear, making the wrong decisions because of the way I’m currently thinking. But for now, my mind is telling me it feels so right. I just like the idea of being a “matured adult” and no longer hanging out with your friends alone and going out. And that’s what his relationship is like according to what I’ve seen. It sounds terrible but I do want to be that girl who “doesn’t have time for her friends anymore” due to hanging out with her partner all the time. I went on a one month hiatus (…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 11:33 PM
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Idk why i care so much. I guess I’m jealous of their happy life, romantically and in general. I feel I’ll never achieve those “relationship goals” or “Netflix-worthy relationship”. He’d not only had done not done those things he‘d done for her with me (including only posting pictures of him smiling like a madman in pictures with her, but to know other girl he previously dated (well I can’t tell because he is a serial deleter on social media and I never knew him too much myself) so i knew immedia…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 02:50 PM
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Were there any signs that their relationship seemed imperfect, like did they seem to hate each other in real life? Or was it out of the blue? Because my “ex” and his gf are even the perfect couple in “real life” (according to what their friends say about them and what they apparently do outside social media). Just curious because I get overly obsessed with the “perfect” relationship and I automatically think about his one. I’ve basically give up really trying hard to find someone and hopefully i…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 02:14 PM
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That’s crazy. But they don’t show off like that it’s more subtle and they aren’t doing it 24/7, they barely post just big on the icon pics, bios etc. I just stopped looking and have no urge to look again. Just the thought of their ideal relationship makes me want to compare anyone that I meet to him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 01:32 PM
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I never had sex with him just letting you know. I am a virgin. I know meeting on tinder isn’t ideal. But he seemed like the settling down type when I met him. And it’s unfair how I never opened my legs or acted promiscuous but can still be used by men who think it’s okay because of the way we met and treat other women better if they met outside the app. I have social anxiety and struggle with meeting any other way.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 10:29 AM
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You sure are dealing with a player. He was probably only nice to you because he wanted something from you. He probably mentions the hookups because he thinks it will convince you to do the same. I’ve spoken to a few guys like this and they are all pigs. Stop talking to him girl, he doesn’t seem interested and is playing games. Don’t. Fall. For. His. Traps.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 09:15 AM
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I mean if someone is really interested in you then you shouldn’t have to worry too much about looking “too interested”. Conversation should just happen naturally. He should initiate the next and just continue conversation as normal. Being feminine means that we don’t chase for a man, EVER. Nothing wrong with initiating but the interest you both have in each other should be just as strong x You don’t deserve someone who doesn’t really seem to care. If he “loses interest” then it’s your sign to mo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/20 03:18 AM
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Happy for you! I hope I can get a future similar x
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 03:22 AM
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I want to do 1. To work together to build our life. I’ve seen people do it at a younger age (I’ve seen couples get married and have children at 19-21) but 30 is seen as more sensible so I understand. But I don’t expect to start off like that. I’d actually feel much better if it was a team effort.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 12:40 AM
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Thank you for this advice. My friends always say they will set me up but they never do :( I don’t usually go for guys older than 23. I don’t think I could relate with someone older than that. I’m not pressuring someone to get married immediately but I at least want to be going somewhere and feel secure that marriage, moving out, and having children is a likely possibility in the future and my time isn’t wasted. I saw a saying on Facebook or somewhere that was like “if you aren’t dating to marry …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 12:36 AM
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My “ex tinder fling” used to be a devoted Christian but he wasn’t a huge believer as he would do things that weren’t very “ Christian”. So maybe you are right in where my ideal guy comes from. I come from a traditional culture. My Mum was pressured to get married at a young age and would of been arranged in a marriage if she hadn’t met my dad. They got married and had me at my “ideal” timeframe (married by 21-22 and my Mum was 23 when she gave birth to me). That’s very unheard of but it’s someth…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 12:32 AM
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Thank you. I’m currently getting professional help for it and hoping I find my own values and interests that have been ruined by this obsession lol.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:51 PM
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I’ve used all three dating apps I see all the same guys on there that want the same short-term things. For me, it doesn’t really make a difference what app you use. I am currently on a social media hiatus and have been told by my therapist that I struggle to determine social media and real life. I only just got back onto dating apps last night. I’ve basically trained by brain to put my “ex” on a pedestal and spiralled into an obsession. I think that there relationship has got to be amazing in re…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:39 PM
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That’s so true :) sometimes I wish that I was one of those lucky girls (like my “ex”‘s current gf) who can get into relationships easily and have the experience needed to meet the person tend want to settle down with.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:29 PM
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I am currently working and am studying at university. I’m doing meaningful things to hopefully move out when I meet the right person. I am a media student but I also study some early childhood subjects on the side as it’s also another interest of mine. Thank you for your advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:20 PM
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Thank you for this advice :) It just makes me feel left out because all my friends seem like they are settling down in serious relationships. It seems like everyone around me (and not around me including my “ex”) as found “the one” at a young age and I feel like time is running out. Even his relationship was announced by his friend on his Facebook page and he mentioned (in a more aussie way) that he’s ending the single life with the boys and settling down. It gets harder to enjoy the single life…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:18 PM
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What an asshole that’s all I got to say 😂
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 01:09 PM
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Honestly guys who would date a girl for that amount of time and don’t want to marry them (but would be willing to marry another woman) are POS. Just break up with them smh. You are obviously dating to break up anyway. And 6 months is nuts. I could only imagine how my friends and family would react 😂
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 12:19 PM
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Basically when the honeymoon phase of a relationship is over (usually two years but I guess it depends) the honeymoon phase makes you see everything in rose coloured glasses. You need to really know the person and all their flaws. I’d say also if you are able to move out with them and be able to live with them as if you are already married. I believe living with someone can make or break a relationship or even a friendship. Being financially, having a stable career, and emotionally stable plays …
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 12:16 PM
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I’ve done laser hair removal on my face for about a year now. You may breakout and prepare for that and especially if your skin is sensitive. But it can be prevented or minimal if you use laser aftercare at least daily for a few days after treatment and don’t exfoliate until a week after treatment. If you have dark hair like myself you may get patches of growth (that means it’s working). Be prepared for that also.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 06:34 AM
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Like a few comments, I agree that beauty is about enhancing natural features. To me, putting pride in yourself physically is so important so I applaud you for becoming interested in beauty treatments. When I’m looking after myself physically I feel confident and put together, I can accomplish anything I put my mind to. What I do: - nails: (I love long acrylics but nothing wrong with having a clean, short manicure if it’s easier for you). I always go for neutral colours. hair: I try to get a blow…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 06:30 AM
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Hi, I am 19F and also suffer with very low self esteem. You might not even know it but it usually comes from a past matter. It might be from family, or how you were treated by peers at school. I know it comes from being bullied at a young age and never being able to fit in. I never went to parties, and to this day I have never had a boyfriend. As someone who is currently on a journey to a higher self esteem you need to build yourself from the inside out. First think of your good qualities, prefe…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 02:04 AM
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