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| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 01, 2023Btw, your wife ACTS overwhelmed because you respond to it. Really good point - Im enabling this behavior because I give it validity by responding to it Why are you afraid of losing the relationship? Is your wife some sort of magical unicorn? Have you let yourself go or dramatically fallen short in some way? If not, she’s very replaceable. Frankly, you should be able to upgrade if you do the work and choose to go that route. I agree, I do think I would be able to upgrade and could possibly be h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/08/23 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 01, 2023OYS #5 (changes in parenthesis are since my last OYS last week) 5’9” - 165lbs (+1) Calculated 1RMs: Front squat: 240 (+8) Deadlift: 360 (+5) Bench: 222 (-10) Press:162 (+1) Early 30s, married almost 10 yrs, 1yr old Following up on comments from last week: I Took u/FutileFighter's suggestion and I took my son out to the park on my own without my wife twice and we had a lot of fun. I packed the bag, I brought the snack, we had a lot of fun, everything went smoothly, the kid is still alive and we… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/08/23 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 25, 2023With that caveat, the degree to which she lives rent free in your head is absurd. "I want her to brag about me because that would demonstrate..." That's just painful to read. Agree - painful. Don't forget about negative assertion -- owning your mistakes is useful (and liberating) too. This is a really thoughtful idea - i was planning to just try A&A but honestly running negative assertion might be a better strategy for me right now both tactically in the moment and also to de-program myself fr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/07/23 02:50 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 25, 2023I appreciate the reply. Im not arguing with you as I get that I'm new and you have been around, Im seriously trying to figure out and understand. Your advice is reading to me right now like that scene from that movie where the surf instructor keeps saying "do less".... Are you saying having the goal of being a good dad and a good husband is not the right goal? Or are you saying that I just need to define what the actually means on my own terms? In the extreme, I could decide my goal would be to … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/07/23 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 25, 2023Thanks. I understand this intellectually, but I am struggling to actually internalize it especially in frustrating moments. Im still in a fake it till you make it kind of phase but I am building my self-awareness making the connection "you're getting annoyed/frustrated ---> stop taking her seriously" and will keep putting that into practice. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/07/23 02:28 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 25, 2023OYS #4 (changes in parenthesis are since my last OYS June 20th) 5’9” - 164lbs (-2) Calculated 1RMs: Front squat: 232 (-8) Deadlift: 355 (-5) Bench: 232 (+0) Press:161 (-1) Early 30s, married almost 10 yrs, 1yr old I have been journaling about the times when I lose my cool and get frustrated or angry at her to understand where there are gaps in my frame. The most common pattern right now is me getting annoyed or frustrated at her when she nags me or corrects me about something that I think I am d… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/07/23 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 20, 2023OYS #4 (changes in parenthesis are since my last OYS October 12th - I have been on a cut since Dec 1) 5’9” - 166lbs (-21) Calculated 1RMs: Front squat: 240 (-35) Deadlift: 360 (+5) Bench: 232 (-23) Press:162 (-13) Early 30s, married almost 10 yrs, 1yr old Radical self-acceptance: I have done a lot of work over the last 6 months processing why I am so resentful and angry and why I am so down on myself. Most of it comes down to not accepting myself for who I am. The years of sexual rejection made … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/06/23 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 11, 2022Your wife or a plate? Im not at the point yet where Im ready to spin plates, I did frame it that way on purpose as a reminder to myself that if its not her, it can be someone else, even if I'm not ready to pull that trigger yet. Are you two still attending or just her or neither of you? We both are still active in church. My faith life has felt pretty stagnant recently as the rest of my life has stagnated, but again similar to above that I'm not quite at the point of walking away form the chur… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/10/22 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 11, 2022OYS #3 (changes in parenthesis are since my last OYS Aug 15th)5’9” - 187lbs (+4) - Calculated 1RMs: Front squat: 275 (+25) Deadlift: 355 (+25) Bench: 255 (+10) Press:175 (+10)Early 30s, married almost 10 yrs, newborn Accomplishments since last OYS: My powerlifting total is the highest right now that it has ever been. Granted these are calculated as Im running sets of 8, not true 1rms, but still this is the strongest I’ve been in my entire life. I made it 100 days without jerking off from June … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/10/22 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 20225’9” - 183lbs (+8) - Calculated 1RMs: Front squat: 250 (+40) Deadlift: 330 (+45) Bench: 245 (+35) Press:165 (+30) Early 30s, married almost 10 yrs, newborn I have now done the easy part, I have eliminated or am working on eliminating the “red” areas in my life. Next it is time to do the hard part, some meaningful reflecting on why I am so negative to myself and processing my shame and anger. Things I’ve done to start fixing my problems: I am not physically attractive. Things I have done in the l… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2022(cont.) I don’t game my wife, we are depolarized roommates and co-parents - In addition to the point above about me not planning or leading any fun adventures or activities I also do not game or tease my wife during the day. We are great roommates and really effective co-parents, we get all the chores done and our household operates smoothly, but its boring as fuck. Most of our conversations are about logistics or to-do list items and there is no mystery or fun to our life - I still have a lot o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/22 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 20225’9” - 175lbs - Calculated 1RMs: Front squat: 210 Deadlift: 285 Bench: 210 Press:135 Early 30s, married almost 10 yrs, first kid now 1 month old My son was born almost a month ago. I don’t want him to grow up with a loser role model for a father, and I am really tired of living this incredibly fake, “im perfect on the outside, but dead on the inside” life. It’s time to make a change. Since this is my first OYS, rather than spew out a bunch of victim puking or fluffy goals that I may or may not m… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/22 02:31 AM |
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