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I'm sure it has to do with social ineptitude sometimes. But I'm pretty socially inept and do fine for the most part. I think it's okay to admit that some of these short/ugly dudes are playing on super hard mode. I'd get zero action if I was a short indian guy living in America, as would most of the people posting here lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 10:30 PM
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Half the time when something is removed for "incel content" on that sub, it's just a comment being realistic about attractive vs ugly people. The red pillers typically say way, way more sexist shit. It's weird that they think people posting "if you're ugly, it's over" will get their sub banned from reddit when there is a "women are gold digging whores" thread almost every day.
/r/AllPillDebate02/07/23 09:14 AM
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Yeah basically. One girl I was dating wanted to know how many matches I got on tinder. I told her I got about 2 matches a day and she was shocked, she thought that was incredibly low for a tall blonde guy. I said "2 matches a day is actually pretty good for a straight man, a lot of men get 2 matches a week." She didn't believe me until I showed her my phone. I don't know, it's hard to convince someone with a completely different perception of dating what it's like for the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 07:44 PM
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One of my female friends is painfully average and she was hooking up with hot men on tinder. I think the idea is if you're a "chad" then average girls are a very easy lay. They just send out sexual pickup lines and see who's receptive. It's how the tinder subreddit gets half its content. Although I wouldn't really know how to rate these guys in an objective way. One of them was at least an 8, but idk. People's rating systems are so fucked. There's a thread on that QVVEstudios subreddit where mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:54 PM
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Yeah, sadly I just don't really meet women like you. I'm more on the sensitive side and a bit neurotic (makes me kinda anxious/shy). I guess because I'm a giant with muscles it's just expected of me to act stoic all the time. I definitely had to learn to act super confident and carry myself in a certain way, it can be exhausting. With that said, for my first and only LTR I was able to be more vulnerable. It just didn't work out for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 11:13 PM
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It feels very important, at least to me. I'm 6'5 and fairly built, beard, big jaw, basically I present very masculine. I've dated a range from alt women who go to art school to conservative women. I learned early on that they all lost interest if I didn't keep the "stoic masculine" persona turned on at all times, especially the first couple months of dating. When I was younger, I wouldn't have even labeled these things as inherently "non-masculine". I thought it was just being a normal human. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 09:02 PM
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It sounds like a LARP tbh. Like he's trying to bait the "chad with his harem" comments or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:37 PM
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I could have sworn it was right-wing conspiracy shit on 4chan after the first Matrix came out. I have no clue when it started being about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:42 PM
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It's just dumb in general to go off BMI in these discussions about attraction. Like yeah, most "obese" people (according to BMI) will look fat, but "overweight" could mean anything. It's incredibly easy for a man over 6ft+ to be 5-10 pounds overweight with a healthy body fat percentage. Women pack fat into their boobs, hips, and ass. It doesn't matter if BMI says she's "overweight" when most of the male population is lusting after her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:06 AM
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A lot of it is location too. If you're an average guy with really good pictures, you may do okay in New York City. If you live in some random suburb in Arizona? You might as well not bother unless you're conventionally attractive or shredded. The gender ratios are way too fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:44 AM
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Yeah some people can have a visible 6 pack at like 15-17% body fat due to freak genetics. I need to be like 12% body fat or dehydrated to have visible abs. It's not really worth maintaining as a natty. But I know exactly what you mean by the last thing you said. I've had to explain to a lot of women who wanted to get into lifting that you can't "accidentally" get bulky/buff. A lot of those jacked women you see on TikTok are on anavar, or they've been bulking/cutting for 5+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 10:36 PM
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Thank you. Holy shit. So many bad body composition takes in this thread. I've read "having a visible 6 pack is super easy" like 3 times in this thread already.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 10:10 PM
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Yeah I'm not sure, I've heard of it. But no older women have ever really shown interest in me, hookup or date. Oldest was maybe 5 years older than me. Typically the women who just want to hookup with me on Tinder are younger too, like 20-24. I think there is a minority of women going after younger men for sex, but I'd imagine most women prefer hooking up with men around their age or older. They might be socially conditioned to view having sex with younger men as creepy, even if you're talking ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:23 AM
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You should be addicted to the pump by now anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:08 AM
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Did someone just say Abby "the milk truck has arrived" Shapiro?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:59 AM
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A good chunk of reddit is bored married women. It's why AITA is filled with rage bait to piss off this demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:51 PM
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Yeah you have to have pretty low test to lose libido or muscles. Most men go from 600 to maybe 450 when they get older, it's not a huge difference or anything. Even if it is really low, you can just go on TRT and get that youthful feeling back.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:38 PM
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That's it. I'm getting a right sleeve tattoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:51 AM
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I can kinda confirm this. I'm a left leaning man who feels like he has to be a stoic masculine statue for the first 6 months of dating. It's fucking exhausting. Can I just send you some neurotic texts about how much I hate my job without you getting the ick?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:08 AM
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I think she's talking about traditional gender roles for men while dating: guy paying for the dates, wine and dine, supports her, the effort/romance flows mostly one way. She's implying that conservative men are more likely to give women the princess treatment while liberal men want to go 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 05:28 AM
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Not to say there isn't predatory age gap relationships, but it does feel like how "creepy" it is to people inrl depends on how attractive/young looking the older person is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:02 PM
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I think there are a lot of older women who are genuinely concerned when an 18 year old is dating a 35+ year old. Most likely due to past experiences. There are also a lot of younger women who find it creepy when a much older man hits on them. There may be some jealous older women complaining about a 30 year old dating a 24 year old, but I find that to be more of a chronically online thing, specifically from reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:57 PM
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There's also a pretty big problem with young men abusing SARMs and gear because they want to have the muscular look as soon as possible. We have no idea how this PED abuse is going to affect these teenagers long-term, especially since a lot of them are still going through puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 12:10 AM
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I think picking out an abuser/cheater is impossible unless they have tribal tattoos. You should be able to spot a pumper and dumper a mile away though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:32 PM
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I think this depends on the age ranges you're talking about. It's very awkward to date as an 18 year old man for a example, since you can't go lower, but most women your age are going for men 2-3 years older. At 23+ is probably the sweet spot. On average, it does get harder for men to date after 30 simply because the dating pool gets smaller. At least in terms of raw numbers or hookups. You could make the argument that dating is easier at 30 for men if you're just looking for a stable LTR, since…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:30 PM
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Yean it's somewhere around 7:3 or 8:2, I think. About 20-30% matches are also bots or advertisements. If you're a normal guy, I wouldn't really bother unless you have immaculate pictures. I can make do with 1 or 2 matches a day, but any less than that feels pointless because of the response rate. I think dating apps are fine if you just use them as a supplement and don't attach your self-esteem to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 09:51 PM
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If you buy "premium" on Tinder, you'll be shown first to people, which is huge because women don't swipe a lot. I tried it for a month out of curiosity and went from 2 matches a day to like 5-6. I'm not sure how much it helps someone who is only getting 1 match a month, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 09:28 PM
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Is that weird? I always preferred brunettes. I find blondes attractive too, but darker hair is more aesthetic to me. But yeah, women have rejected me for being blonde.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 09:10 PM
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You should be required to show a pic of yourself if you make so many threads like this. Also, the woman in pic 2 can get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:42 PM
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Yeah basically. I get "dad bod" comments when I'm at the height of my bulk.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:29 PM
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Yeah, he'd have to sign something early on saying he did not want a child or to take care of it. Being able to abort financially whenever would be too abusable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 07:01 PM
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I have no idea who they're trying to go after tbh. Since fat women can easily date skinny men, fat men may still have issues in that regard. But I see fat men with fat women all the time, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:22 PM
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It could also be that I find some big girls attractive so I date them. Like your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:16 PM
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I dated a woman who was 4'11, I'm 6'5. I had to pop a squat or pick her up to kiss her lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:26 AM
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Different lived experiences I guess. Every single fat woman I've ever known has no issues dating or finding a boyfriend. It's as mythical as the "average guy can't find a girlfriend" thing people post on here all the time. I'm also a gym bro who doesn't mind dating big girls. "Literally unheard of" is an insane thing to say, I see fit men with fat women all the time lol. An "overweight" woman could just be someone who has a good amount of fat in their hips, boobs, and ass, so I have no idea what…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 09:36 AM
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I meant inrl. I haven't seen any women personally get called a loser in this subreddit, but I'll take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 07:50 AM
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Men are more blunt/mean to fat women online than vice versa. Men are also more likely to state their preferences in the most deranged way possible. So men are more vocally superficial than women in regards to weight, sure, but not necessarily for dating or relationships. For every guy online who shits on a fat girl and calls them unattractive, there's a fit gym bro with a 6 pack who would be ecstatic to date them. Women do find their fat/chubby boyfriend attractive, but this is typically after t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:11 AM
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I'm pretty sure some of the older married men who post here have their wives shoulder surfing them, or they at least know their reddit username. But yes, I've noticed that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:18 AM
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No, the right to body autonomy (in that context) only applies to the person carrying the fetus. I do think men should be able to "financially abort" if they made it clear they do not want a baby before pregnancy, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 01:11 AM
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It's a debate sub homie, people may engage with you in things you don't care about. Other than being overly hostile, no one here knows anything about you or what you're willing to talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 11:17 PM
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The very rare male/woman combo in a sentence, nice. But yes, you're correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:53 PM
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I agree with you that they can be losers. I was more talking about society's general perception of what loser is. I'd bet most people aren't going to picture a woman when they hear the term "loser". But that's just an observation, I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:41 PM
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If I'm being honest, I've never heard a woman get called a "loser" in my entire life. Maybe there's another word that's the equivalent that gets thrown at them, idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:11 PM
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Especially as a man. Just be fat and have a bad job. Maybe throw gaming in there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:01 PM
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As a male woman, I was so close to being able to answer this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:24 AM
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I'd ask her if he's really hot. If she said no, I'd ask her why she would put up with a potentially deranged misogynist if he's mid. If she says yes, I wouldn't bother lecturing her about it because no matter what I say, she's going to date the guy anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:37 AM
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No, you date someone under 25 and just dice roll who the manipulator will be (most likely the person who doesn't text back quickly). Whoever hits 25 first then has to dump the other since they reached enlightenment. Their brain is at its biggest, so now it's time to go find someone who reads books and drinks fine wine. Sorry I don't make the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 11:49 PM
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That's more of a common fear for men. My biggest fear would be getting drugged and having my kidneys taken or being stabbed to death by a hookup. I could probably list hundreds of fears that are much worse than being humiliated or rejected, but the latter is just more likely to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:48 PM
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You're probably more neurotic than autistic. Men who are neurotic tend to come across as awkward and unconfident. The moment they're tipsy, on xanax, molly, coke, whatever, they're all of a sudden charming and confident. I'm the exact same way lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:03 PM
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Might want to edit the 't in there lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:19 PM
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I got rejected for having an android phone instead of an iPhone once. Another time because I was a libra. Apparently libras are too worried about their career. Not sure if those are the kind of examples you wanted, but I just thought they were funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:43 PM
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When I bulk I eat about 3200-3500 calories for .5 or 1 pound a week. I try to average 200-230g of protein a day, the rest carbs. When I cut I eat about 1800-2200 calories depending how aggressive I'm being with fat burning, same amount of protein, about 220g. When I bulk I can basically eat anything, cutting is mostly chicken breasts. The less processed sugars the better, but I dont always eat clean. The first year of weightlifting is mostly trying to figure out what works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:24 PM
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So my chest and back looked decent after my first year with noobie gains. Arms took about 2.5 years to look filled out, so about 3 bulks. My 5'7 friend in comparison looked big after the first year. A lot of it depends on your foundation + how young you are too. Some tall guys can look massive in the first year because of high natural test or they played a sport. Just make sure your diet is dialed in. It's really easy for tall guys to waste their time training.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:40 PM
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I'm 6'5 too, I'm just joking. It took me a while to fill out my arms personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 06:28 PM
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Just 5+ more years natty, and you'll sorta look like you go the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 06:04 PM
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I read through this entire thread, and I have to say, some of the women who post here give the Red Pillers a run for their money in the sexism department. Sheesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:23 AM
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I don't get it, why would those things only help with women over 30? I'd argue that looking as hot as possible would benefit the most to the 20-29 crowd. I do self-improvement to attract women, yes. It just doesn't do much for my overall mental health personally. I find the maintenance aspect of it to be very tedious. Although I'm addicted to weightlifting so I genuinely enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:46 AM
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They can refuse fights whenever, but if they take too long to face a ranked fighter, then the belt is stripped. Tyson Fury may have one of his bets stripped soon because of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:17 AM
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You can't say the c-word around here, apparently. Or maybe you can in the daily chat threads, not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:03 AM
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I tried and it ended up matching, but it was still ugly. Skill issue I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:23 AM
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It's not just women's lived experiences being rejected by young, bitter men. A lot of the varying "lived experiences" from this sub are people from completely different environments and age ranges. I think a good chunk of this sub is gen x, for example. Both men and women are going to have different experiences in that context. They dated before social media and dating apps. Let's take height for example. A 45 year-old 5'5 man's lived experience with dating is going to be completely different th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:56 PM
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Yeah, I think people really underestimate what positive attention does for someone when they are going through puberty/childhood. It builds up your self-esteem and confidence. Of course if you get a lot of positive attention, you'll get a lot of negative attention too. I wish when growing up I got more attention that wasn't being bullied or getting into fist fights, that's for sure lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:45 PM
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That instance was actually much worse, if you're talking about Aaron Taylor Johnson. His wife probably met/groomed him before he was 18. I'm also pretty sure people didn't care at the time it happened. Most people still don't even know about it. People definitely care much less when it's an older woman/younger man, by a wide margin.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 12:04 PM
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Honey, patriarchy 2.0 just dropped.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 12:51 AM
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Eh sort of. If you're a super social fat guy, you can charm a woman in your social circle, or maybe you're somehow the "hottest guy at work". But when it comes to things like cold approaches or dating apps, yeah, life begins at muscles + lowish body fat. Women will be more forgiving to your social awkwardness due to the halo effect. You'll be treated better in general. If you're a complete social shut-in who never leaves his house, then no, it won't help much other than being more healthy. Me pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 11:33 PM
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True. Fat men are basically invisible unless they get lucky or got fat during the relationship. Despite how mean men are on the internet towards fat women, there is always some fit gym bro out there who would be happy to date a fat girl (it's me).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:37 PM
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At absolute peak? Men. A shredded man with muscles has a certain presence about them that goes beyond sexual attraction. On average, women. But mostly due to makeup and more clothing options.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 09:41 PM
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How dare you she's the ultimate vampire mommy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 09:25 AM
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