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Inner Game bigredten/r/seduction15/01/20 01:29 PM
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Comprehensivebigredten/r/seduction05/02/20 02:08 AM
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It's not impossible, both parties just have to actually you know....be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 05:21 AM
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Found this at the right time. Been struggling with the whole "demonstrate don't explicate". Through college I learned how to hookup/get FWB that last for a few years. Past couple years I've done a few LTRs , and the last two both ended roughly the same way. 3 months before it's over, they get coffee with a "guy they have no interest in". 2 months before, communication magically goes down and they justify/throw blame on me. 1 month before, I'm stuck in limbo. They try to communicate just enough s…
/r/TheRedPill19/05/20 01:02 AM
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I felt certain things were implied but I can clarify Obviously certain hobbies are prone to not having as many women. So yes, you might have to join a new hobby. You go to the Meetup to have fun first and foremost. It's an opportunity to meet people, and if you have social skills you definitely won't creep anyone out. Go to a bar, a club, dancing lessons, hit the gym, speed dating, Meetup has groups dedicated to meeting singles in your area as well. Make new friends, that eventually introduce yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 09:14 PM
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Interesting points, how much of it is a sex obsession vs. frustration of realizing how they've been raised by society doesn't lead to getting the girl? Being on forums, I find it hard to get an actual idea because in reality there's more people who never use these forums. All who go through the same things we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:53 PM
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Yes, do this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:42 PM
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Personally I think it might where your location is (maybe, idk you). Try joining clubs, or groups. There's an app called Meetup, that's for the sole purpose of meeting people that are into specific hobbies. You can also attend networking events, and believe it or not alot of those events have people who just want to meet someone cool. Through these, you can meet people, expand your network and have access to even more people to possibly date.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 01:21 PM
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Only 2 partners before him? That's a god send in today's society 😂. He needs to quit complaining. Tell him to start dating again, he'll get a wake up call real quick. I tell the women im with I don't even want to know their #.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:35 AM
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We are responsible for our own. But I have noticed some women just won't until they're comfortable with you. They may be turned on like crazy, but they won't orgasm until they're comfortable. So I just whip out the vibrator.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:32 AM
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If you want to do something just do it. This chick I hooked up with occasionally told me how a guy wanted her to peg him. So she obliged and did it. But this question is too deep for me to give a worthwhile response. Interested to read the comments though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:23 AM
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So you mean a social system that essentially states who is having sex with whom and how many partners they have?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:17 AM
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Blaming women even though their shit stinks too. "Yeah women suck" meanwhile, dudes never hit the gym or taken the time to learn game. The redpill changed my life. I went from always being hopelessly friendzoned, scrawny, and shy to Never agreeing to a Friendzone (happens less frequently), dating on my terms, and being in better shape than most people I know. TRP should be a place to discuss ideas, awareness, and a place for us to become the best we can be. Instead I see a bunch dudes who do not…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:07 AM
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Haven't lost the motivation yet, but damn they're not making it easy. Used to only do casual hookups, switched to doing FWB's, and now "trying" talking to one girl at a time. (Still have options should things go bad). They all have different ups and downs, but I can tell you the hardest one for me is "one girl at a time". I'm still learning to screen people, but you really don't learn the "baggage" until 3+ months in. The baggage makes you weary of commitment, then the inability to be consistent…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:58 AM
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Used to have this problem, just turn down the "game" a notch and you should be fine. A complete "player" (from my experience) won't get a consistent FWB or more because in the girls mind there's 0 chance he will ever commit. However, if she THINKS you're a player, but youre actually just a cool guy who's not needy then there's a higher chance you might commit at some point. There's no fun chasing someone if you already know the result. Too nice, she knows she can have you. Too player, she knows …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:44 AM
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Don't accept that reality if you don't want to. In a matter of months or years your life can be more than you ever imagined.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:37 AM
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How do other single people have the time to be having sex 4 times a week? Shit, I did that in college but I like my sleep too much nowadays😴
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:33 AM
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Not at all. Hell, I don't even do long term exclusive relationships...but most of the people I've slept with were for 3 months-2 years, some occasionally leaving, new ones come in etc... Women I first meet usually think I'm a player, until they realize I prefer to make a connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:22 AM
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Thick and fat aren't the same. I dated a thick Latina, and I couldn't take her anywhere with out someone trying to hit on her. She even dressed fairly conservative, just had great hips/butt. Garunteed if I dated someone who was fat, I'd rarely have to deal with her being hit on when we went out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:10 AM
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Put a crying man on the street, and a crying woman on the street. Let society tell you that answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:02 AM
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Timeline No gym, no game - 1 girl a year liked me No gym, got game - Better, but I still had to make alot of the effort Gym, got game - Life is just easier in general Conclusion: getting in shape at least makes it easier to "get a foot in the door". You'll probably get more confident too, which is what really helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:01 AM
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I've only been south and northeast, as a society id guess the heavy emphasis on religion. But I can tell you, the people roughly 30 and under really don't care as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:46 AM
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We are "friendly" still. But personally (my views only), we can't ever be normal friends. I don't blur lines. Either we have always intended to be friends and it will stay that way, or we had intent to be involved romantically/sexually. . We started on romantic involvement, so for me I can never be just friends. If I would never introduce you to my future significant other, then we aren't friends. Alot don't agree with me and that's fine, it's just what works for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:31 AM
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Here's the options you can control. Complain about it Be aware of it, and work on yourself Disconnect from the game altogether Pick one and get over yourself. Deal with the pain your having, and address it. I hope things get better for you. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:20 AM
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Well put. Talked to multiple women in the past who were awesome, and pretty much exactly what I was looking for. EXCEPT they had these arbitrary waiting times. They would be upset when I left, but I had options. A relationship with no sex, to me, is a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:13 AM
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You gain NOTHING, other than increasing your opportunity to be with that guy. If men refuse to commit to a relationship, the woman he's seeing will leave. Because she has options. If women refuse to have sex with the man they are seeing, most (not all) men will eventually leave. Because they have options. Women are the gatekeepers to sex. Men are the gatekeepers to relationships. For this to matter, neither can be too easy because it then devalues. But if they're too hard, they risk everyone lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:02 AM
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I'd reword it to "We are entitled to the PURSUIT of sex and relationships". Much like any other society, the point is to pass on our genes to the next generation. Survival of the fittest. Those that fail/choose not to, don't pass on their genes and in some cases the bloodline ends. Even as a society we created protections against this (better healthcare, IVF, surrogate mother's, etc..). No one is entitled to sex and relationships, but you have the right to pursue them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 02:30 AM
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I'd have to disagree. (As a former "nice" guy). Growing up, alot of guys have strong influences from their moms, schools and media. Mom's want their son to be the "knight in shining armor", to be raised how they "want to be treated" not to be like the men that hurt them emotionally (most attracted to). Schools are largely taught by women, so there's even more influence. At a young age we are "rewarded" for being nice, sharing, caring and all that fun stuff. And we are "reprimanded" for trying to…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 02:18 AM
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You're golden, keep it up. You're not actually being an asshole. You have boundaries and you enforce them. I know the feeling, sometimes you take a step back and think "wow maybe I'm being an asshole". Chances are, you're just being indifferent, and putting yourself first. You'll eventually figure out what works for you. I can garuntee you being "nice" will make them lose interest way faster than being an "asshole". Example: the girl I've been seeing the past 6 months or so, when I'm "nice" and …
/r/seduction26/04/20 01:55 AM
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Honestly these are some good points, and I think the bitterness is uncalled for from alot people. People are passionate/bitter about it because they care/got hurt. I strive to be aware but indifferent. I will say this though, too often a phrase like "we'll get married at X age if we are both single" or "He's not man enough to date someone his age" are thrown around. The first phrase roughly translates to (only from a guys perspective, so just hear it out) "I want the bad boys now, and when/if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 12:49 AM
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Agreed! This is when I started having success. For the most part, if you get her on a date or to hang out alone, I just assume she likes me. All I have to do is not fuck it up really.
/r/seduction26/04/20 12:23 AM
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I know it's counter intuitive, but I usually just talk neutrally at first, with good body language. Then add the occasional teasing. My goal is to make the other person sub-communicate that they want me to make a move. Once I get the signal or hint, then I just make my move. When I do this, I notice a lot less hesitancy if things go further. Essentially, I'm engaged but indifferent from the results. Usually the other person is just as nervous, and if you can communicate that you're not really ne…
/r/seduction26/04/20 12:20 AM
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If I knew this years ago I could've saved thousands of dollars, no regrets though. Some things have accelerated my results fast enough. At the end i would say I broke even. If the first product leads to an upsell or I notice I'm getting put in a funnel "This product will change your life!" Then I usually just exit the sight. Usually I question whether their success comes from what they teach or just selling. I can't knock the hustle though, I respect that.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/20 12:09 AM
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Bernie is also 6 foot. Not sure I'd call it short.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 02:22 PM
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Over half of the presidents are over 5'11. Alot of those were actually before women had voting rights. Facts are facts, just Google it. Hypothesis are cool, but not when the facts clearly don't support the claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 02:20 PM
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Man rejects woman because of weight: subjected to scrutiny Woman rejects man because of height: it's normal When you say it's a monster created by both, I can agree with that statement 100%. I never thought about it in terms of business, heck even most of our Presidents are tall. But lets not compare a man's height to a women's weight. Society reacts completely different to both, and to an extent (some of it is genetics too) weight is controllable. Height is not. Conclusion: I agree it's created…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 03:53 AM
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Take the good suggestions and apply them consistently. You have to be aware and keep doing them until they become natural. Even then you'll still have to occasionally check yourself. If you don't grow up with certain mannerisms it takes some time to correct. Maybe try doing a physical activity that tires you out. Might help get some of the energy down.
/r/seduction25/04/20 03:19 AM
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And I'm happy you found what works for yourself. You choose to remain friends (which is awesome). I choose to move on and make new friends (which is awesome). You're perfectly happy with your partner being close to their ex's (which is awesome). I prefer mine to be able to move on and make new friends (which is awesome). I don't ask them to give up their friends, it's just a red flag for myself and choose to not deal with it. We can agree to disagree (which is awesome). It doesn't signal an inse…
/r/seduction23/04/20 11:01 PM
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No, don't put words in my mouth. I'm not afraid of the sexual tension. I acknowledge it's there, and out of respect for my partner I don't keep them as a friend. I have friends, and am confident I can make new ones. There was a strong emotional connection, it was there for a reason and we ended it for a reason. I could turn the question and ask why are you unable to let go of your ex. Arguably, it shows your inability to move on or it's an insecurity in your ability to make new friends, so you s…
/r/seduction23/04/20 10:10 PM
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Insecurity is always a possibility, lack of experience not so much. I have no bad terms with any of my exes. But we aren't friends, because there's still sexual attraction. I respect if that's how you view it. But there's plenty of high quality people that are not friends with their ex. It's just a major red flag to me, and I'd prefer to not put myself in that position.
/r/seduction23/04/20 09:33 PM
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Hey that's how we learn lol, I like that analogy😂
/r/seduction23/04/20 09:17 PM
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I prefer a partner to not be friends with their ex. (Meaning ex-girlfriend/boyfriend) To me it says, "hey I'm friends with the person I used to have sex with". They don't need to hate them or anything, but if I wouldn't invite them on vacation or to my wedding....then to me that's not really friendship.
/r/seduction23/04/20 09:16 PM
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Honestly, the absence of a red flag is a good quality for me at this point😂. Just did some spent 4 years in college, and almost everyone (guys and girls) have some major red flags. I'm adjusting to the outside.
/r/seduction23/04/20 09:09 PM
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They aren't best friends with their Ex. I know it's different for everyone's perspective. Just my thoughts.
/r/seduction23/04/20 09:05 PM
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That explains it 👍🏽 thanks for the information
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 02:52 PM
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I think every guy should read what you wrote. Women (can argue guys too if you want), detach from the relationships before ending things. Too nice/stable then she will get bored and look elsewhere. Too selfish/unstable things get toxic. There's an "art" to this, and we need to be able to pick up on subtle cues. My biggest lesson this year has been "if something feels "off" then it generally is". Pay attention to actions just as much as you do the words.
/r/seduction23/04/20 12:28 PM
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I assume that her best friends know everything that we've talked about especially at first. It'll die down after a few months, and pick up whenever she's upset or super excited about something.
/r/seduction23/04/20 12:07 PM
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It's been almost a year, so the actual topic was "AITA for refusing to meet my wife's ex-boyfriend". At the time I posted the general sentiment in the post was "you are the A**hole" but I'm glad the general thoughts changed. I was not issued a warning. Just banned. Below is my comment copy and pasted. "No, looking at some of these comments are sickening too. I've been the guy that ex girls bring their boyfriend's too. I don't understand it or get it, and it's weird. Almost any girl I know would …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 10:59 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/bzce02/aita_for_refusing_to_meet_my_wifes_exboyfriend/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 10:46 AM
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Non sexy answer- I worked really hard on myself for a few years (game, gym, personal self) and just gained confidence. Sexy answer- I internalized my game, and after years I run on autopilot when it comes to passing her tests. (Until I catch feelings, then I inevitably mess up) Basically: when your confidence and game finally seem natural then women just think you "get it", and when that happens they just assume you must have a high count.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 06:44 AM
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Male- 37. All of those are from age 20-23. I'm 24 now and at first it made me more confident, but honestly its just a void. I've slowed down alot the past 2 years, and am trying to focus on being better at my relationship game. As for my count, no one's gotten angry so far. I can tell obviously they suspect I've had alot of sex, but i haven't been pressed for it either. I get tested fairly regularly, and I I'm always open with what I'm looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 05:34 AM
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Maybe if people cheat they'll wear protection at least. I think you might see a small uptick in abortions. If someone even has the slightest doubt of who the father is they may not risk it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 05:17 AM
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I think it should be reframed as "Men are the gatekeepers to relationships" "Women are the gatekeepers to sex" Men enjoy commitment with the right women. Women enjoy sex with the right men. If men are too easy to give their commitment, then women don't appreciate it. If women give sex to easily, then men don't appreciate it. Moral of the story: People appreciate what they have to work hard for, and don't appreciate what's too easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 04:41 AM
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I got banned for standing up for one of the guys in AITA, so there's that. Post in there at your own peril.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 04:15 AM
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I see 2 schools of thought Go for it you have nothing to lose You're thinking about it too much. There's an "art" to this, and it's trying to balance between knowing how to apply, and actually applying it so it comes off naturally. Personally: Detach from the outcome (no big deal if she says no), if you see her in school give yourself 3 seconds to start talking to her. Let her see for herself the confidence you've gained.
/r/seduction23/04/20 04:07 AM
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If youre really just trying to get laid and practice the process from A-Z, the 40k college wins by a landslide. I went to a 8k college, and it gets to a point where it's hard to find women/people who don't know of eachother. With 2k, there's probably like 1200 women max, assume half have boyfriend's. That leaves 600. You'll probably only like half of them. That's 300. So that's about 75 women from each graduation class for you. With 40k, say there's 22k women, half have boyfriend's that's 11k, y…
/r/seduction23/04/20 04:00 AM
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Without options: Mentally it's all your eggs in one basket (time, effort, money, trust). And if she jokes about taking your basket (tests you), or takes the basket(leaves you) then it hurts more. With options: My eggs are still in the basket, but not all of them. She never knows how many eggs are there. So when she jokes about taking the basket, I just pick up another basket.
/r/seduction23/04/20 03:31 AM
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It depends, I've had women lose interest after a week, and I've had women that we've stayed in touch for almost 5 years, and want me to come visit still. Keep living your busy life (higher quality problem, and you're not faking it). Just plant some ideas for dates/meetups when this quarantine is over, maybe talk on the phone for 5 minutes at some point. Don't over think it, you're doing good.
/r/seduction23/04/20 03:04 AM
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You and the other 3000 people she matched with during 8 month the quarantine
/r/seduction23/04/20 02:50 AM
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She probably has a boyfriend or someone she's talking to. In my experience that's the only time they message back then messages are deleted. She's interested, but I think there's more that she's not telling you.
/r/seduction23/04/20 02:24 AM
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I see it two ways. The last is what I do, that usually works for me. Tell the girl what you want- be upfront. If it works it works, if it doesn't then oh well Treat them all the exact same, and wait for her to bring up "what are we" Personally: On the date usually she asks what I'm looking for, I say "I don't look for anything upfront, I like to let things develop and go from there". This leaves it open for both of us to determine if we want to keep spending time. During this time I'm screening …
/r/seduction22/04/20 08:55 PM
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Get the social media as well. If she ignores your first text, at least she will see your stories/updates and can passively keep it open. Realistically you will quickly realize #'s aren't a big deal. My personal rule is to get her # in the middle of the interaction, don't wait until the end. You never know when the interaction could be ended.
/r/seduction22/04/20 08:43 PM
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I used this heavily the past two years. I'll tell you how I built it, and then pro's/con's. if you're friends, it's either mutual or you Friendzone her first. Also helps to have something in common All it takes is one or two, find one or two hot friends. They'll introduce you to more. Live your life, don't make her a priority at all, but occasionally call to make plans. Don't be afraid to tease her, like you would an actual friend. I met all of them either reconnecting after college, through an …
/r/seduction17/04/20 05:06 AM
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True words, it's a part of the evolution. Good post!
/r/seduction17/04/20 04:26 AM
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I don't want to assume, but it sounds like you two haven't hooked up or have gone an a date yet. In which case, just keep your options open and don't focus on "how can I get her". Just throw the idea of a casual hang out, and see where it goes. I've found the more i want something to go right, the less likely it is to happen. The same vibe you have now that makes her and others like you, is what you want to keep. So just be careful about wanting it too much.
/r/seduction17/04/20 02:36 AM
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Well, are you looking for casual or something more serious? If it's casual, doesn't matter if she likes another person(because you're probably seeing other people too) you can just make plans. If you want something serious, just know if she's taking her attention elsewhere, then you're probably just an option at this point. Judging by your post it sounds like she took her attention elsewhere, and you're standing waiting unsure what to do. I'd just take a step back, and go with those other women …
/r/seduction17/04/20 02:01 AM
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It depends, where are you at mentally and lifewise? You can truly care for someone, but realize a relationship is not for you at the moment. Personally I've had to mature as a person in life to get to a point where it makes sense for me to be in a formal relationship.
/r/seduction05/02/20 03:11 AM
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"must be this tall to smash"
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:54 AM
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At least 50 books between hard copy/audiobooks, 100's probably closer to thousands of hours on courses/YouTube (audio playing while i do other things), a couple thousand dollars on programs. 1000's of people met. Lots of rejections, alot of good times. Been doing some form of this for 5 years.
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:52 AM
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If she wanted a friend she'd say so, if she was interested in you as an option if she broke up with her BF then you'd probably know. I'd drop it and move on
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:39 AM
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I don't think it's the women viewing sex as being over. Just more so what they may be used to with past partners, then being "surprised" when a man doesn't just stop after he's finished. So I'm glad you pointed this out
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:37 AM
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Idk why but I found the first 2 sentences hilarious. But agreed, if you're a guy of any value/experience then you can overcome most of the points.
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:26 AM
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Be happy for the guy, or do something to make yourself that guy
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:15 AM
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Are you selling a house or are you in a band?
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:12 AM
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I appreciate the confidence you think she's into you, but no lol. Should've still said something but oh well
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:11 AM
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I agree. I think it's just a balance. Some people have zero social awareness or just bad habits from years of conditioning. So they should probably learn a few "rules" or "games" to strip away the negative conditioning, then they can balance out and be themselves.
/r/seduction05/02/20 01:51 AM
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To get an experience most haven't had, you need to do what most aren't willing to do. Ex. If you sold 100 life insurance policies in a year (which is great for alot of people), you wouldn't call it a "failure". But you also wouldn't see the 1000 calls made, to set 500 appointments, to sit down with 300 (because some people won't show up), to sell those 100 policies. Seeing that salesman you'd probably say "it never seems like you struggled" or "you're just naturally good". Most guys will never p…
/r/seduction05/02/20 01:42 AM
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Hell no lol. Perspective. HIGHSCHOOL: virgin/kissed maybe 5 girls. COLLEGE: first two years- 100's of makeouts, lots of dates(ghosted after), 30+ failed attempts at losing my virginity, and 100's of rejections. LAST 2 YEARS OF COLLEGE+1 YEAR AFTER: Slept with more women than I ever imagined (personally), have had women ASK ME to be their boyfriend, been with some women that I could only dream of and I'm very confident that most dates result in a 2nd one if I choose. Was any of it easy, no. The f…
/r/seduction05/02/20 12:08 AM
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Why spend so much time and effort into this? Over 1 infield....
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:01 AM
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If you want physicality, and she doesn't then your best is cutting the cord. It's a key part of relationships and if she doesn't want it that's fine. But you have to make the choice to stay and keep "working on it" OR leave for different pastures.
/r/seduction21/01/20 12:52 AM
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I hate you, mainly because I can't stop thinking about food right now
/r/seduction17/01/20 02:58 AM
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For real, it's unacceptable behavior. At this point if she even apologizes I'd be hesitant. Unless it was a super emergency or something
/r/seduction17/01/20 02:37 AM
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Talk to more women.
/r/seduction17/01/20 02:32 AM
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It allows me to choose a better partner, because I'm choosing from a place of abundance (cliche I know, but basically I'm making a choice while I'm satisfied instead of being bored and lonely). That being said, I'm extremely selective on who I "settle down" with. I'll probably stop sleeping around late 20's or early 30's. But I'm okay with a few relationships here and there if it's someone where things are right.
/r/seduction17/01/20 02:27 AM
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No
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:55 PM
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That's one way to go about it for sure! I agree with you. Rather someone do that than the hard way (Getting fed up after multiple toxic people over the years, then one day realizing your worth). At the end of the day it's all about the standard you want for your life. Thanks for the ACTIONABLE item
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:54 PM
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"I really like this girl and don't want to fuck it up". You have to change this mindset. Try "I really hope I like this girl" instead.
/r/seduction15/01/20 01:17 PM
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don't dabble with your problems/anxieties, because they won't go away. Take 6 months to 1 year of consistently talking/approaching. Figure what works and throwaway what doesn't work. After this you can run on autopilot and spend less time on this. ACTIONABLE ITEM- anytime you even THINK she's cute, you have 5 seconds to approach that girl or else you owe your friend money or pushups.
/r/seduction15/01/20 01:08 PM
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Getting laid(consistently and with quality) for most men is a learned skill/behavior with some luck. Taking 6months-1 year just focusing on this is not bad, then you can run it on autopilot from there. The majority of posts I see are people that are frustrated because they "dabble" in dating. "I suck at this, or I don't know what to do" comes from not taking the correct focused time and action. TL;DR- Focus solely on one thing for 6months-year, then move on. Don't dip your toe in, dive in.
/r/seduction15/01/20 12:56 PM
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I moved back home from college about a year and a half ago so here's my perspective. FIRST: You might find yourself going back to your college just to keep getting laid with previous FWB's. SECOND: The sooner you join meetup(it's an app) groups and other free-ish activities, the better off you'll be. THIRD: If youre within 30-40 minutes of a city, make friends that live around there as you'll have a place to stay on weekends if you go out. FOURTH: you can probably hookup with alot of people that…
/r/seduction15/01/20 12:38 PM
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Eventually you'll learn the process of getting FWB's. Once you get 1-4ish(however many fit your lifestyle) life gets easier. Personally, I try for 1 main FWB and keep a few that I know want me. So when/if the FWB doesn't work out then I have options immediately afterwards and it's continuous. It saves me time so I can do all the things I want in life, but also have intimacy.
/r/seduction15/01/20 12:26 PM
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Texting made simple. Introduction (funny/light), qualify(what kind of things are you into), seed (we should do such and such sometime), if she responds well (set up the date/meetup or general days). The morning of or day before "hey, heads up I might be a few minutes late". (It's a way of seeing if she's still down for the date without saying "hey we still good for our date"). If she is doing the hmmm, idk, not sure thing, then I say "no big deal, some other time" and move on because I have othe…
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:59 AM
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If you do that with a grin on your face you'll probably be fine. Unless they're handicapped they can grab it themselves. I only say yes to those situations if it's mutually understood we do the same for eachother. Even then we usually offer to do it, not ask.
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:42 AM
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Develop better boundaries and standards. Be the type of person who doesn't invest time in people, who don't make an effort. Also don't invest time with people who are toxic, and cut them out.
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:31 AM
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You gotta do it. Look yourself in a mirror and make a promise that today is the day your life changes. Then promise yourself you'll talk to the first women you see, like attempt to have a full conversation. From then on make a promise, "anytime I see someone I like, I have to approach the second I think about it". Once you can do this regularly, then work on theory and other shit. Do this for about 3 months then come back to this subreddit and post the results.
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:27 AM
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Do some research before you do anal (making it clean). Realize there's a chance it may hurt (vaginal), so don't be afraid to tell him to slow down or stop. Have lube ready and make sure he wears a condom. As far as cleaning up down there, shower beforehand and there's soap meant specifically for "down there".
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:15 AM
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Because you're more worried about messaging her than working on your own goals. If you're a top company, are you going to spend your time/best resources on the person who you haven't even interviewed yet? (The girl you haven't been on a date with). No, you spend your time/best resources on your current/best employees (the women you've gone on dates, spent time with, and it's a mutual attraction). Prioritize who you give your time to, internalize your values.
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:08 AM
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So basically there's two sides to you. Sober/shy and Tipsy/carefree. Ditch the alcohol for now until you can get used to this sober. As someone who used to do the same thing, it's for the best. You cant be tipsy for every single date or hangout with the women (you can but probably don't want to). As for tips, take public speaking classes or join random Meetup groups and get used to constantly meeting new people. Just get used to doing, instead of thinking.
/r/seduction27/12/19 12:35 AM
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Be careful and don't spend too much money (if you're paying at all). Not convinced you're out of the friend zone until intimacy is involved
/r/seduction27/12/19 12:25 AM
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When you say dominate can you be more specific?
/r/seduction27/12/19 12:03 AM
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Wondering what possessed you to do this😂, but as it is...don't hit on any of them "don't shit where you eat". Stay busy with stuff to do/improve yourself, date other women. You friend zone them, and maybe throw get togethers to use it for networking. Typically attractive women have higher value men around them, and you can take this chance to meet those men.
/r/seduction26/12/19 03:40 AM
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I only ever feel this way when my options start to dwindle (i.e. my dating life takes a backseat for something else). As soon as I start consistently going on dates again, those thoughts leave my mind.
/r/seduction23/12/19 04:41 PM
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Keep going through it, eventually get fed up and realize that YOU are worth more and should be treated better. I learned others won't treat you the way you should, until you hold the same standards for yourself. (Ex. If someone doesn't give you the time of day or doesn't respect your time...then DONT give them any attention and let them go. They aren't worth it.)
/r/seduction20/12/19 03:53 AM
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Avoid it like the plague. It doesn't end well.
/r/seduction18/12/19 11:06 PM
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This right here, took me forever to realize. When I would pursue it further, things ALWAYS ended in some type of drama. These are the women who you see date men that let her control the relationship, or where she clearly has more value.
/r/seduction18/12/19 11:05 PM
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Ate the food I made, forced her to watch the movie😂
/r/seduction17/12/19 05:38 PM
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If you can be a top 5-10% guy on there then yes. Otherwise it's not worth the time. Stats prove it.
/r/seduction17/12/19 01:08 PM
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What everyone else said. Probably not coming for a movie. I remember being that innocent, I invited a girl over back in college to watch finding Dory and dinner. She didn't want the food and was shocked I actually wanted to watch the movie.
/r/seduction17/12/19 01:05 PM
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Comfort in the absence of attraction is called friendship. Build attraction first. If your worry is getting friend zoned while building comfort then there's probably not much attraction between you.
/r/seduction17/12/19 12:58 PM
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Give yourself a set amount of time to really feel the emotions 2/3/10 days whatever it is. Then take your time moving past it, reaffirm your goals and talk to other people.
/r/seduction13/12/19 03:36 AM
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Definitely the biggest lesson I've learned this year, the past 60 days or so in life have been so much better because of this. Focus on those who do/want to make time for you, or meeting new people. It's a waste to focus on the past people who didn't respect you.
/r/seduction09/12/19 01:30 PM
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Unless you can't afford to do basic grooming/don't have a place to live (which can be it idk). Then those are just people you should avoid. Ive had a few female friends that end up paying for most of the stuff their boyfriend (or FWB) got while they were out. If she REALLY wants you, she will go to almost no ends to be with you.
/r/seduction09/12/19 01:28 PM
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2 years, but once I semi figured what works for me life's been crazy. I would NEVER take back those 2 years of struggle.
/r/seduction06/12/19 11:39 PM
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Only 6 months? Don't quit, you probably just need to change something that you're not realizing yet.... You're taking great action, just might need to change the approach
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:50 PM
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Typically it's finals week/the week before finals for most people. Especially in a master's program, she probably doesn't have much time depending on what she's doing. She seems interested, I'd just stay the course and try to stay busy with your own stuff so you don't have time to overthink it. Maybe "hey I know you're busy as hell with exams, we'll make plans when you finish up finals".
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:00 PM
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Depends. If you guys grab drinks, usually by the end of the date you can tell if it's just a hookup or if you/the other person may want more.
/r/seduction30/11/19 02:29 AM
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Well that's shitty😂, win some and lose some I suppose
/r/seduction29/11/19 04:25 PM
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It's a possibility, just seems like you need positive feedback references. If you've been bullied when you were younger (I was), then sometimes it just takes having alot of good feedback to realize bad things won't happen.
/r/seduction29/11/19 04:04 PM
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Dude I feel like we are connected, minus a few years difference. I sucked with women all of highschool, got to college and learned that women liked me. Mentally I wasn't there yet, thought I had ED for a solid 2 years (18-20 yrs old) Took over 20 women, and me not getting it up for each and every one of them before I lost my virginity. Bro I was defeated mentally/emotionally at one point. I can tell you, if you keep going on dates and figuring things out...they will get better. 3 years later I'v…
/r/seduction29/11/19 03:58 PM
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Ok I bought that program, but during the whole RSD split I haven't been able to find the login page. Anyone have information on this? I tried emailing service teams and never got a response
/r/seduction29/11/19 03:40 PM
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Add on social media and stop messaging until she starts responding. Move on for awhile, keep living life and if she comes around then cool.
/r/seduction29/11/19 03:37 PM
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Do anything to get you out of your comfort zone. Try a martial art, toast masters (public speaking), volunteer for leadership positions, join the military (only if you really want to) etc.... Like you said it's in your head, to get out of it you need to be DOING and less thinking.
/r/seduction29/11/19 03:31 PM
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Ok, so it sounds like you need more reference experience. I'd break it down to a few things and only focus on getting better at 1 or 2 things at a time. Examples, the greeting/ending, eye contact, physical escalation, conversation, getting to the bedroom, etc... But for sure you need to just get more practice, and don't be afraid to mess up.
/r/seduction24/11/19 11:49 PM
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When you say didn't get physical...do you mean no touch at all, make out, hands held..?
/r/seduction24/11/19 11:30 PM
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What makes this case different from the other times you've walked away?
/r/seduction23/11/19 08:50 PM
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If you were busy, and had other women competing for your attention....would you care how long it took her to reply? Try another time, but is it worth it after that🤷🏽‍♂️?
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:26 PM
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You're over complicating this.....
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:15 PM
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Meet up groups (there's an app called meet up), join a league for sports or whatever you're into. Just put yourself out there, eventually you'll meet other men who will want to do the same thing and meet women.
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:09 PM
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Bingo, for myself I was bullied in highschool and sucked with women. I changed that in college, but even a few years later it's my mindset that needs to catch up. A 9 or a 10 can hit on me directly and I'm just not mentally believing it yet. Any tips?
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:06 PM
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Why didn't you just say this the first time? You know, instead of attacking me😂
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:02 PM
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If all you want is FWB then keep her, but use less effort. Make sure youre talking to other people as well. Nothing wrong with both of you having a rotation. If you want something serious then probably drop her.
/r/seduction21/11/19 05:27 PM
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Following this post. Honestly tinders been kind of shit for me. Better results on bumble so far. I find on tinder I have to compete for the attention of a 6/7 where as bumble/real life I can get an 8 fairly easily with less hassle.
/r/seduction21/11/19 05:22 PM
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Not agreeing or disagreeing. But just use their actions as the proper indicator and move on. We'll waste alot of time/emergy just trying to get "closure" because it's the "right thing". No message back = move on. If they come back around then address it. If not, oh well life keeps moving.
/r/seduction21/11/19 05:01 PM
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Up to you, but you know the answer
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:44 PM
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Deep down you know the answer. Don't make excuses. Needing alone time has nothing to do with having no wingman, or having mostly married friends. It's simple, not necessarily easy, but you're making too many excuses for yourself
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:42 PM
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listen to what she says but more so what she does. Do what you feel is right (I know not a great answer, but you have to make these for yourself). How would you treat the situation if you had 4 other women competing for your attention?
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:28 PM
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I'd agree👍🏽, just making sure OP knew. When I first started, I talked to anyone with a pulse and didn't take that into account. Just wanted them to be aware.
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:24 PM
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Talk to ALOT more people. For 3 months commit to talking to almost everyone you see (when reasonable, but don't make excuses). Introduce yourself in a fun memorable way. This isn't meant to get you laid (it might), but you'll pick up on social queue's/behaviors better and you'll focus on the interactions instead of the outcome. Once you're able to talk to almost anyone, and know the appropriate responses in most situation then you'll be golden. I can almost guarantee that if you talk to 5 new pe…
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:21 PM
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How much experience do you have approaching? If there answer is alot, then go for it. If the answer is little/none, don't do it at work. Once you have experience then go for it, because you'll know how to approach the situation.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:56 PM
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Word of advice, don't wait a week after the date to set up/seed the next one. (From experience). Next time either book a future date/date range, or say hey I know you're busy next week so let's plan something for after your exams.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:53 PM
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Wait a little, see if she responds (if you haven't already). If no response in a couple days. Then say something like "pizza/pasta and drinks in the near future?"
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:47 PM
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You got it. I'd also add, "you don't supremely have all of these until you can replicate the same behavior when it comes to 9's and 10's". Multiple men I've met, as well as myself are perfectly fine with 7's-8's and embody all of those. However, as soon as we meet that 9 or 10 we try to "not mess up"....which is when we inevitably mess it up.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:40 PM
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Stop, if you respect yourself then just stop. Sounds like you need to make yourself a priority in your life. Focus on your own goals. Not saying stop talking to women...but stop planning your life around her. And DEFINITELY stop driving by her house to see if she's there.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:33 PM
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Caveat to this: be careful about approaching at places you go to frequently(eg gym, school, work, church, etc..). At least until you're calibrated somewhat.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:26 PM
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Move on, prioritize your life first. Maybe reach out over time.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:14 PM
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Totally agree with this. Her actions will tell the truth (mostly). The underlying could also be "hey I have work, and also our first time going out shouldn't be to a party". The next time I'd try something less committal.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:12 PM
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Your last statement says it all. This seems more of an ego thing (we've all been there). You're better off going to other women, and focusing on yourself.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:07 PM
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Did you stop talking to other women when you got a girlfriend? If so, then it's like when you stop going to the gym after making progress. It'll be easier the 2nd time around, but there's still a rough period.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:01 PM
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Sounds basically like the rationale male without going into the depth of why women/men act a certain way.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:58 AM
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Well he did put a note in the beginning saying it's for girls he's talked to before, and even showed us an interaction that didn't succeed. How is responding to a story anymore thirsty than being the 6th man to ask her out this week? If the end result is the same then there's no problem, just a different set up. He's simply just telling you what works for him.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:54 AM
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"your actions speak so loud I can't even hear you"
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:33 AM
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Due to past experiences for many women there's probably a reason you won't get that from many. They've probably been insulted and/or stalked after turning someone down...even if it was gently. Just pay attention to her actions (or lack thereof). You'll know when she's not interested.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:33 AM
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I understand that feeling of just wanting that closure. You need to get past that. Talk to more women at a time, and prioritize your life goals first. If you were busy talking to other people and crushing YOUR goals, someone ghosting you would be an after thought. If you haven't read or listened to the "rationale male" you should start after reading this.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:29 AM
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You already know the answer. So why ignore the warning signs?
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:13 AM
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You just have to do it. You'll build neural pathways from your knowledge to your actions. Eventually it will just click. That or just do online/meet girls through friends. But it sounds like you want to approach.
/r/seduction18/11/19 09:23 AM
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The top response on that thread is true. Women want men that have options Men with options don't usually want relationships Men with no options want relationships
/r/MGTOW14/06/19 09:23 PM
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They were telling a husband "YTA" for him not wanting to meet his wife's ex boyfriend, and not really wanting them to hang out.
/r/MGTOW12/06/19 10:57 PM
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Reverse the roles and see what would happen...we all know though
/r/MGTOW12/06/19 12:26 AM
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Engaged, still time to break it off. Still gonna get hit with child support though
/r/MGTOW10/06/19 01:45 AM
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You're 17. You don't want to hear this, but you're supposed to have a high drive and that's normal. Find a passion and pick up some social skills with women (I know it's redpill MGTOW, but still). You need to learn how women work and experience that before you truly understand this stuff. Actionable items: workout/learn a skill/learn how to talk to women. How women treat you is often a reflection of how you let them treat you. You will learn a lot about yourself, experience alot of emotions, the…
/r/MGTOW10/06/19 01:34 AM
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You're 17. You don't want to hear this, but you're supposed to have a high drive and that's normal. Find a passion and pick up some social skills with women (I know it's redpill MGTOW, but still). You need to learn how women work and experience that before you truly understand this stuff. Actionable items: workout/learn a skill/learn how to talk to women. How women treat you is often a reflection of how you let them treat you. You will learn a lot about yourself, experience alot of emotions, the…
/r/MGTOW10/06/19 01:34 AM
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Besides the past 6 months, how much time have you spent actually being single? I challenge you to not purposefully look for anything serious for a year, enjoy this time being single. Get to know yourself very well, meet new people and lots of them. This will get you reference experience, and let you know what you truly do and don't like. If you had an issue with someone abusing you and letting them treat you that way, then something needs fixed. So fix it, don't hop straight into a relationship …
/r/MGTOW10/06/19 01:08 AM
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I don't know about this one. If you have set boundaries and are willing to cut them off at any time it's cool. I have plenty of female friends (I made it clear we are friends only). Perks: -Some gladly cook me food -I gain true insight as to how women act (reinforces my red pill beliefs about women) -Access in clubs to VIP for free -They introduce me to other cool dudes -They gladly talk me up to their friends -Shows other women I know how to talk to women(i.e. not a creep). -Dont really have to…
/r/MGTOW28/05/19 03:24 AM
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Yeah bro, at first it was awesome and I was making better life choices all around. Then I got addicted to it, eventually buying all these programs because I was "investing" in myself. Some were worth it, some definitely not. About a month ago I realized I was alright with myself, and now I make decisions for myself. Not because some "guru" said this or that. Just because I decided it's best for me.
/r/MGTOW22/05/19 03:34 AM
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