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Here's just a few red flags i've noticed: ... They don't look as attractive as I do (all of them have been pretty ugly and I think women deserve to be with someone they're attracted to). Given that women consider 80% of men below average in terms of attractiveness, it's reasonable to assume this means you expect to attract a man in the top 20%. You are also expecting him to be educated with a Master's degree (#2) and make more money than you do (#3). The fact that you call these "red flags" rath…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 06:45 PM
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Sadly, this parody is actually more reasonable than many of the actual expectations a lot of 35 year old women post. The height requirement and "be submissive" are sarcastic, but having a car, and income, and being able to cook and clean are (or should be) basic expectations of any functioning 35 year old. You could add "must brush teeth every day" in there, it's just as important, and just as basic. What's really sad is that I've no doubt that the same women who put out shopping lists demanding…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 04:27 PM
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Doubt theres [sic] any decent men out there that can handle a strong woman with kids. I can name dozens. Hundreds, if I really put my mind to it. They're called "fathers". You see, decent men are honest and responsible. When they father a child, they help raise it, with the mother. It's a life long commitment, one that shouldn't be taken lightly. Consequently, they look for decent and responsible women to be their partners, since they'll be raising those children together. You want to be treated…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 04:20 PM
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That's okay, because all of the 25 year old guys I know don't want to sleep with girls on the first date, they don't want nudes, and they don't want to waste time either. Which is why "single mom" is an automatic disqualifier, and they don't bother with girls with kids. Problem solved.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 12:38 PM
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You can't have a Sexual Revolution without creating a Commitment Revolution This is what I've been telling female friends for years, although less eloquently. Most of them (a) complain that they can't find a "good guy" who will commit, and (b) they're honestly baffled that so many of their guy friends can't find someone. Of course, many of these friends "had their fun", and are incensed the men are judging them based on their past behaviour. It's sexist, none of their business, etc. I ask them i…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 12:31 PM
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The word you seek is aposematism.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/04/21 10:59 PM
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The thing is, you can only put time and effort into something if you have a goal, and a plan to get there. Generally speaking, very few single mothers I've met simply ever thought that far ahead. Life just "happened" to them. They slept with a guy without protection, and she "happened" to get pregnant. She'd assumed he'd marry her if that happened, but she'd never actually talked with him about it, so when he bailed, she became a single mom. Having a kid is a life-altering event. For married wom…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/04/21 01:56 AM
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<clears throat> The frog has come to have his say The pig will never get her way Bib and napkin, knife and fork Is the only way that I'll touch pork (one of the Muppet records from the mid 1970s or so)
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 07:26 PM
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What's the joke? Men age like wine, while women age like milk? As a teen, I remember being told by an older guy that the best way to impress a woman is to give her an unexpected gift, at an unexpected time, for no reason. The reverse of that would be that the best way to not impress a man would be to expect a gift, and specific time (immediately), because she said she wants it. Bad impression successfully made.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 07:24 PM
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Of course guys leave pregnant girls. But those girls don't start trolling on Tinder like this one is. If a woman's single and pregnant, there are lots of churches, and social services where she can get sympathy. Going on a dating app makes her mocking material, not the fact that she's pregant.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 02:56 PM
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An extremely venomous, extremely deadly snake known for being both extremely vicious, and extremely lazy. They tend to sleep all day, and attack anything that wakes them up, for no reason whatsoever. It's both unpleasant and dangerous to be around.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 12:45 AM
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It honestly reminds me of a Monty Python skit, where a Navy recruiter is bragging that they have the cannibalism problem completely under control now. He's very proud of this fact. Of course, everyone hearing it is thinking "they have cannibalism in the Navy?". I can't remember the comedian, but someone does a bit on the FDA, and how their job is to decide what the acceptable amount of rat droppings in a hot dog should be. "We don't need a government agency to tell you that! I can tell you what …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 12:40 AM
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Cool...she works with Cujo... Well, dogs do tend to resemble their owners, according to science! Argh. Now I'm trying to figure out whether I'm more like a malamute or a husky.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 12:06 AM
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How can you have sex with a complete stranger? Followed by... I am currently pregnant and single. The disconnect is strong in this one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 12:03 AM
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I had a friend who said the greatest feeling in the world after she gave birth to her daughter was being able to look down and see her feet for the first time in six months. If you can't see your feet when you're standing up, and it's not because you're pregnant, you're not "big boned", or "full figured". You're morbidly obese, you have a serious health issue, and you need to treat it like one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 09:59 PM
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When I was in university, one classmate briefly "dated" a female with a very high (35+, probably 40+) BMI. She had the personality of a puff adder, so we never understood why he bothered with her, except for the fact that she obviously put out. He boasted daily about their shenanigans, until they day he bragged he'd been in a threesome the night before. A second classmate looked at him and very calmly said "Just because she weighs as much as two people, that doesn't make it a threesome".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 09:53 PM
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You must be new around here...
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 08:33 PM
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does Home Depot sell foundation by the bucket now? It's called "spackle". With the right filter, you can do wonders.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 08:29 PM
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People generally live up to, or down to, their names. Pick five guys at random for a scrimmage line. One side is Braden, Alphonse, Winston, Aldridge, Baldwin and Percival. The other side has Cooter, Bubba, Bruno, Guido, Boris, and Sergei. It's safe to put 50 bucks on the latter team, sight unseen.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 08:28 PM
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Have 5 fucking kids and then you decide to get rid of the dad? You're presuming there was only one father. Objection: assuming facts not in evidence.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 08:21 PM
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Do good guys still exist? Yes, it's just they're invisible, that's all. The difference is that unlike before you had you five kids, now they want to be. "Good" men are looking to build their own families, not finance another man's (or men's).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 08:13 PM
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I do enjoy this sub a lot but what's with all the bashing on the left here? It's selected sampling, for the most part. When a single mother complains about men being godless communists, and quotes scripture in her bio, you see considerable bashing of the right. And when a single mother blames the patriarchy, and quotes intersectional feminist talking points, you see bashing of the left. The latter outnumbers the former by a huge margin, and consequently, so does the corresponding mockery of it. …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 03:34 PM
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As the saying goes, "a man who isn't a liberal when he's young has no heart; a man who isn't a conservative when he's old has no mind". People who feel they're treated poorly demand equality, but when they get it, and discover that it comes with consequences, many aren't too happy with them. It's "unfair" that single mothers have to raise children alone. Yeah, it is, that's a job for a husband and wife. Oh, you didn't get married, and the guy bailed on you? Well, you chose poorly. A pregnant sin…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 01:22 PM
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Oh, come on now. You couldn't find find a way to include the "C++ is the only language where you can let your friends access your private members" joke in there? Tsk, tsk.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 12:09 PM
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Actually, I didn't have any particular idea of a dad bod, I just thought it was a refreshing change from the "absolutely must be 6' or taller, ripped, have a six pack, and be able to bench lift a Toyota minibus -- no exceptions!" type demand you normally see in these list of demands.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 12:03 PM
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Asposematism warning! Hey! I used that joke already today! :-) when I typed the above. I didn't know what "DDlg" was. Nor did I. I looked it up. I wish I could go back to my innocent, carefree youth of... five minutes ago.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 01:48 AM
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Let's play... the math game! Liberal/No Trump supporters: ~50% of the population Non-meat eaters: 1% of the US population Non-smokers: 86% of the US population Circumsized: ranges from 20% to 80% depending on state. Too much variance, ignoring. Non-Religious: 60% White: depending on state, 43% to 97%, so ignoring this, too. Non-porn: is she kidding? Building a Venn diagram of these, the biggest limiting factor is the non-meat eating, which immediately disqualifies 99% of the population. Much of …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 01:39 AM
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Well, she's using the Victorian "you", so it could be that she's referring to others. She definitely appears to be trying to paint herself as self-sufficient and intelligent, though. This is the "I don't need a man, of course, I'm strong and independent, but having a family would be nice" gambit. I know a lot of women who are strong, independent, and have husbands and families (sometimes very large ones). The thing is, they and their husbands built their family. It was something they did togethe…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 09:29 PM
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She says she's alone (well, "a lone"), which pretty much guarantees he's not around. Of course, she says "financially stable", so it's possible he's on the hook for child support, and actually paying it. She says she's "learned", which is a term generally only used by people without any post-secondary education, to make it sound as if they do. "I'm a trained MRI technician and I'm raising two kids on my own" sounds a lot better than "I've got a grade 12 education, and I'm collecting child suppor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 08:50 PM
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Actually I had a co-worker who used it for self defence. She's married, with 5 daughters. They started early, and she seemed to spit one out every 3 years on average, so there's a huge age spread between eldest (22) and youngest (7). Because of this, there is always drama, as you can imagine in a household with 6 women and one guy. As the daughters move through the various phases, Mom's learned not to fight it, because that never works. If the 14 year old goes goth and has purple hair with black…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 06:59 PM
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curious what "mixed color hair" means? My female fashionista friends use the term "Bayalage" for this. I use the term "high maintenance". Both are technically correct.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 06:50 PM
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I have Lil Wayne's face tatooed on me The technical term for this is aposematism.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 06:47 PM
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IGWE means it's probably South Africa, Lesotho, Kenya, Zimbabwe, or Tanzania. It's a pretty common term. It literally refers to royalty (ie "your highness") but it's commonly used to refer to things like rock stars, sports stars, and politicians like Mandela.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 05:33 PM
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When I was in kindergarten, one of the first rhymes they taught us was: "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage". When a kid asked where babies come from ("and don't tell me it's a stork"), the teacher started with "well, first, a man and a woman get married, and then...". The good news is that lots of people completely ignore the sexual shenanigans going on around them, and continue to get married, and start a family in the traditional way. It has its' probl…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 04:44 PM
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Where do people find posts like these? Pretty much anywhere there's social media, unfortunately.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 04:37 PM
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What is the problem? The problem is that the women had children before looking for a husband to father them. If a woman is a single mother due to a divorce, it's rough, and I sympathize. If a woman is a single mother and a rape victim, she deserves all the sympathy and support she can get. Likewise women that are single mothers because they've been widowed. With those exceptions out of the way, to answer the original question, there really is no problem here, to be honest. What there are are con…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 04:26 PM
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looking for her "ride or die guy" Actually, she says she's looking for a "ride and die" guy. She'll be together with him until the insurance policy she takes out on him is approved, and then he'll have a mysterious motorcycle accident. Investigator: But according to our records, he didn't have a motorcycle, a licence, nor did he know how to ride one "Homemaker": Well, that's what makes it mysterious, doesn't it?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 02:53 AM
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An accountant friend of mine used to say, "I take an automatic dislike to lawyers. I find it saves time". A lot of people don't realize that the word "prejudice" means "pre-judged", ie. making judgements based on past experiences, rather than observations. Many stereotypes and caricatures are false, and were created by one group trying to disparage a second. But a lot really did come into existence from observation. It's like the difference between heaven and hell: In Heaven, the police are Brit…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 07:28 PM
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sex is more costly for women One of the great lies of third generation feminism is that this isn't true. Young women have grown up being told that they can have it all, that they don't have to choose between a career, and that "Anything a man can do, a woman can do. And better". Unfortunately for feminism, biology beats ideology. Guys certainly slow down as we age, but we don't have the biological clock that women have to deal with. A 60 year old man can still impregnate a 22 year old woman. Goo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 07:23 PM
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Rebecca lynn pope It could be. I saw about 5 minutes of it being quoted on some video log a while back. They seemingly have all had a dalliance with a pro athlete or rapper and been alpha widowed Once something becomes socially acceptable, it becomes a lot more common For the athletes and rappers, it's a target rich environment. When the female culture expects to be pumped and dumped, there's less resistance to the idea, so it becomes a self sustaining cycle.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 07:22 PM
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We’ve crafted a culture where ghosting, dick picks, and having sex with someone once and then ignoring their existence for a year before putting them through the whole process again because you know you can get away with it are simply behaviors that women need to take less seriously, accept, and just deal with. Or, you could just deal with it by ignoring the type of guys who demand sex on the first date, but that would mean taking responsibility for yourself. When she says "We", she's referring …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 05:12 PM
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Great advice, meets the perfect guy...but doesnt like the beard and his truck..he can get rid of them to make her happy Ah, but then "You've changed. You're not the same man you were when we met". The worst thing a person (man or woman) can do is try to change themselves to impress a date. If you do end up together, it's not like they're not going to find out what you're really like, so why fake it in the first place? The above statement applies only to people looking for relationships; obviousl…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 05:03 PM
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Can anyone translate this for me? I’ve never seen this phrasing before.... I’ve had my fun It means she got lots of sex from guys she found attractive, and/or lots of money and attention from guys she didn't.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 05:00 PM
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some traditional gender stereotypes such as men seeking younger women, still remain Yeah, that's for a reason. That reason being that it's true. I saw an interview with one of these dating coaches/matchmaker/relationship therapist types a while back. She basically said to hell with it, she was getting out of the business, and was venting about why she was leaving. The reason? "The women are too damned picky, and they're impossible to please". She was happily married, and she listed three single …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 04:59 PM
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Gosh darn it! She fell for the ol' one night stand trick! Her kids are 10, 8, and 2 years old. The 8 year gap between the oldest and youngest means she not only fell for it, she fell for it again when she already had an 8 year old and a 6 year old in the house from the previous times it happened. That's not an "oops", that's a pattern of behaviour. Men don't owe you commitment the same way you don't owe them sex. As one of my friend's kids likes to say, "My wallet, my choice". The women who are …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 04:31 PM
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Actually, most of the older (40s, 50s, 60s) single men I know are anything but lonely. Quite frankly, they don't have the time to be. To women who are used to being given attention simply by existing, when it stops, it's a new experience. To men who've grown up on rejection, it's no change. Men at 30 who realize they're not going to get married and have kids rarely sit and mope about it. Some do, certainly. But the majority move on, and build their lives around friends, family, careers, and hobb…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 04:13 PM
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Yeah, that crap happens. On the flip side, when the car ahead of me blew a tire and the driver didn't notice, and eventually pulled over when she did notice, after I changed it for her, she absolutely insisted on getting my name and that I visit her family's restaurant for a free meal. It wasn't a "meet cute" or anything like that; she had a boyfriend, but she just appreciated the common courtesy and felt like she should react in kind. This was around 1990 or so; I've no idea what would happen t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 01:50 PM
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In this case, she didn't just break up with him, she got a restraining order against him. Which she later ignored herself. I never met any of her friends, so I've no idea what they were like. As Joe's friends, it was that restraining order that was the red flag for us. That's why the group decided en masse that we'd better replace his house locks. As bad as it already was for him, it would be a hell of a lot worse if she showed up bloodied by her coked up thug and she took refuge at his place. E…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 01:44 PM
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SM is social media Ah, thanks. This subreddit needs an acronym index, I swear. I've seen FB for Facebook, but never SM as a general term. As for marketing themselves, that seems to be what OnlyFans is for. As for the quote, I was just referencing what they're using. It's sad, but not surprising, how many are offended when their own standards are applied to them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 02:29 AM
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As much as covid has been a disaster, it's been great for me personally. Oh, it has been for me, too. Financially, it's been a windfall. I was secure before, and now I've got more time, and money, to indulge in my hobbies. I'm not sure what SM is, but it doesn't really matter. I used to get female friends making not so subtle hints to me and my friends that since (a) we were all successful/secure/rich/"loaded", and (b) their single mom friends were really struggling, maybe, you could, you know..…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 08:36 PM
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It took a lot of years, effort, discipline, and sacrifice to get here, but it was worth it. Oh, it is, I can attest to that. I grew up poor, which sucked, but it was a great motivator. Like you, I got my education, started a few businesses, invested, and etc. I did my monthly finances yesterday, and I'm clearing more in a month now that I made in three years back in the 1980s. Solvency and security are very liberating. Once you're past the child-raising years, there's little actual need for a fe…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 06:42 PM
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Oh, no question. I heard all of this from my co-worker, who, as her brother, was obligated to deal with it. The thing that really pissed him off was that his deadbeat father had bailed when he was a kid. So he was living his life making damned sure that if he became a father, he was damned well not going to create another single mother household, and his idiot sister didn't even make it out of high school without doing it. Of course, she played the "brother, there's no one else; you have to take…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 06:23 PM
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It already is, in many places. When I was in my twenties, I spent a lot of time working on site. I didn't need a nice place to call home since I'd only be in it maybe 4 months of the year. So, I found the cheapest place I could that was clean and safe, and parked there for a few years while I pocketed all the money I was making towards a down payment. While I was living there, the building had three types of residents. Guys like me who were just parked there for a while; immigrants with very poo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 05:18 PM
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Yup, really. A common friend found a CSIS top ten "most wanted" list and pointed out that at the time, eight of the ten met these girls' criteria. This story does have a happy ending, though. My friend had been down in the dumps and was feeling "bored" with her marriage of 20+ years at the time. She'd been jealous of all the fun her pretty, fun loving single friends were having. After seeing their bios, meeting some of the thugs her friends were putting out for, and then listening to their horro…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 05:09 PM
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I usually got "not conventionally attractive", which is about the most obvious way to say ugly without saying ugly outright.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 04:59 PM
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I'm actually grateful that when I was growing up, there was no internet or social media. None of this is new. But at least in the 1960s, while people may have shared awful secrets with their friends (probably too many of them, of course), if your reputation was messed up, you could pack up and move to a new location where you didn't have a reputation, and start over. Hell, half the guys I met in the navies I worked with (just to be clear, I was a defence contractor, I didn't serve) signed up to …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 04:57 PM
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This is Economics 101, really. The value of something dictates the price. tl;dr: Women's value goes down over time, and by the time they realize it, it's too late for them to do anything about it. Both the McLaren 720S and the Nissan Micras are cars. Both can be used for transportation. But the McLaren sells for about $300,000, while the Nissan Micra is about $10,000. Nissan can try to sell their Micro for $300,000 if they want. And people can offer $10,000 to McLaren for a 720S. Neither offer w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 04:53 PM
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I have a female friend who could never understand why so many of her friends were single despite being so wonderfully pretty, intelligent, brave, creative, blah, blah. How come they were always hooking up with such losers? And how come you and your friends don't want to meet any of them? They're nice... I asked her to read their dating site profiles to me. Sure enough, their bios listed exactly what I expected. They were looking for "exciting" guys who wanted to "live life to the fullest", and t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 02:47 PM
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Had a good buddy hook up with one of these girls, post beating. She even managed to get a restraining order against her ex. Four or five months later, things are going fairly well, and they're talking about moving in together. She inventories her stuff, and discovers that some of her things (grandmother's jewelry type stuff) is still at psycho's apartment. My friend offers to go over and get it (with an off-duty cop friend for backup). The girl says no, she can handle it. The next day, she comes…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 02:31 PM
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What makes you sure he's gone? Oh, he has zero interest in raising a kid, of course, that's the bitch's job. But that doesn't mean he's gone (unless he's overdosed or spending 10-20 years of quality time behind bars). I had a co-worker whose sister was like this. She dumped her boyfriend in grade 12 for Tyrone who pumped and dumped her. Pregnant at 17 while still in school, her prospects were already pretty slim on that alone. But this Tyrone was the possessive sort. He didn't really give a damn…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 02:20 PM
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Came here to either find, or make, the Jack Nicholson reference. The classics never go out of style for a reason.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 02:10 PM
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Requirements: Chill group of guy friends College education, Ivy league preferred In other words, introduce us to a group of your similarly prestigious and presumably highly successful friends, the ones who wouldn't give us the time of day otherwise, but will have to interact with us because we're dating some of their friends. Because successful Ivy league educated successful are strangely not attracted to girls whose only stated skill is getting "blackout together".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 01:43 PM
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RBF Heh. I searched before it before scrolling down. Amusingly, the first result I saw was "Rat Bite Fever". I know that Resting Bitch Face is what the OP was actually referring two, but I think the other one would actually explain more.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 01:33 PM
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including corporal capital punishment, right Fixed that for you.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 01:21 PM
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I think you slipped in your Freudian, there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 01:21 PM
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I used to watch anime back in the 1980s and 1990s, but I just sort of fell out of the hobby as I got into other things. For my birthday two years ago, a female friend (married; we've know each other for decades) asked our common friends what anime I liked. She had a set of gifts (t-shirt, mouse pad, and coffee cup) all made up with the same Bubblegum Crisis picture. She had absolutely no idea what the show was about, but it was a nice effort. When I described it as "The Archies meets Neuromancer…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 01:20 PM
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women around bases are throwing themselves at young military guys It's no better in other branches of the service, trust me. I was a defence contractor on several Navy boats, and when we came into port for six weeks for repair, local towns literally bussed unmarried girls into town, with instructions on how to meet/get pregnant by/marry a sailor on leave. I thought it was a joke, but guys actually got copies of the printed instructions some of these girls had. They knew exactly what complaint to…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 07:00 PM
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It's not just that it's something you have in common, it helps prevent the problem where your passion is something she dislikes or disapproves of. I'm an old fart. I've known lots of friends whose marriages failed, but lots more who've been married 30 years or more. The difference between them is that generally speaking, the successful ones had stuff in common when they started out. I have two friends who are major sports fans. One ended up separated (although they reconciled later), and his wif…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 05:32 PM
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Like everybody who’s good looking is taken Don't focus on that. Check out your network of friends and their co-workers. If you're religious, meet people at church/synagogue/temple, and things like that. If you're looking for an LTR, what do you see the two of you doing together as a couple? Going to dance clubs? No? Then why look there for a partner? Look in the places where you think you'd be spending time together anyway. Whatever your interests are - bookstores, art galleries, sailing clubs, …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 05:01 PM
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I'm reminded of the feminist whose who got a flat tire driving on the highway. The four strong, independent women explicitly requested "male assistance" after spending 45 minutes of what was no doubt Keystone Kops amusement as not one of them was able to remove the lugnuts to remove the flat tire.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 04:48 PM
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I graded papers in university. About 40% of the papers were submitted by foreign students, usually (but not always) Hong Kong Chinese. I'd read something like "My testes has finded that when is setted option, the pickuping of icon cannot is" and assume that it was mistranslated Chinese. Then I'd flip to the first page, and see the student's name, and that he/she was Canadian born, and lived in Brampton his/her entire life, and I'd wonder how on earth they could have functioned well enough to get…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 07:49 AM
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Speaking as someone who's personally mildly dyslexic and always finding annoying typos when I re-read my posts, I can sympathize a bit here. Of course, I'm just a shlub typing out comments on a message board, I'm not trying to impress anyone with my profile. Dear god, I'm not. Replacing "well" with "will", "an" with "a", and inserting the missing comma after "should" are easily correctable. It would still be a run on sentence, but at least it would be grammatically correct. Of course, the conten…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 07:44 AM
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Heh. What's your type of partner? Intellect I is intellect enough to not put a noun in a list of adjectives. I'd also like to think I'm intelligent enough to realize that when a woman posts a face-only picture where she's hiding 80% of that face behind reflective sunglasses, a large hat, and a tarp/poncho in front of her face, it's for a reason.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 07:32 AM
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I know a couple of guys who are morbidly obese, too. And they ways they handle it couldn't be more different. One guy took up karate, and he made it to second dan black belt over the span of about seven years. He goes to the dojo two or three times a week, watches his food intake, does the Fitbit thing and makes sure to walk X steps a day, that sort of thing. He still struggles with it, but he's definitely making an effort. The others mainly sit on the couch, eat pork rinds, and complain that no…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 03:30 PM
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You're possibly thinking of this story: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast . That's paywalled, sorry. If you want to hunt though the lists of places that have reported on this story, maybe one of them will quote the text. My friend was a feminist back in the 1990s, and presumed, incorrectly, that the feminism of today was the same as it was in the 1990s, and that the men fighting it were anti-women, which of course is the party line. When she saw what today's feminism did to her son, she was appalled,…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 03:11 PM
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Yeah, my thing was squash. Not watching, playing. A lot of women who used to try the "you're fat shaming" argument if you didn't want to date their obese friends would shut up instantly the second you said "hey, as long as she can manage a seven game set, it doesn't matter how much she weighs". The thing is, if you're playing squash for 90 minutes, three times a week, you may be overweight now, but in three months, you'll either be down 20 pounds, or you'll be dead of a massive coronary. I'm goo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 11:41 AM
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Some people might think spending money on (legal!) prostitutes is sleazy I've never used any myself, but I wouldn't disagree, or call it sleazy. When I was a teenager, older divorced guys used to say that "the sex you pay for is a lot cheaper than the sex you get for free". The joke was that in order to getting sex from a girl in a relationship, you had to spend the money to be in a relationship, and that could be very expensive. Today, it's not only expensive, it can be disastrous. Women have t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 11:35 AM
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The fact that she considers the fact that her children "are all from the same dad" to be a bonus shows what her standards are, and what you can expect going forward. "This is the first and number on question that everyone asks me". I imagine that there's a reason for that, and it's not overly complimentary.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 11:19 AM
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Years ago, a couple of friends were dating some Asian girls, who had very traditional Asian values. As in "You're 29 and not married with a kid yet? What's wrong with you?" type values. Bachelorhood was viewed as a treatable condition. Contented bachelorhood was a baffling mystery. Preferring bachelorhood to dating was a crime against both nature and womanhood. They just couldn't process the idea that some guys simply weren't dating and weren't interested. It was incomprehensible to them. So, th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 10:37 PM
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Actually, a lot of the good providers are now in their 40s or 50s (or older), and realizing that they really can afford that shiny new toy they've always wanted. The Gibson guitar, the McLaren 2020S, the 35 foot sailboat, the stamp collection I can't even pretend to understand, the Bears and Lions season tickets, or any number of other "silly" things that the guy realizes he can (a) afford, and (b) there's no one to tell him not to. Hell, I know guys in their 50s that fly off to Iceland for a we…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 10:28 PM
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french version of "Spitting Image" basically, but with a more political twist From what I remember of Spitting Image from the 1980s, that would be... difficult. I'm trying to remember anything that they did that was non-political, and I'm drawing a blank.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 10:15 PM
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I had one who opted in. She didn't like the following conversation, but she took it seriously. And as much as she disliked it, she took my advice (stop looking in dance clubs and start looking at your brother's friend network, and the network at your job), and lo and behold, she met a guy. Her friends were absolutely withering in their contempt of him because they guy can't dance, he's deeply into hockey, and he thinks a polo shirt is formal because it has a collar. But hey, guess what? They've …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 01:05 PM
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I'm a software geek, and my peers are mostly engineer types, though I also have numerous friends that are airline pilots and doctors, plus a couple of PhDs including two university professors. Generally speaking, these are emotionally, mentally, and financially stable people (both men and women). And in their professions, they encounter lots of members of the opposite (or same, if that's their interest) sex who are available and looking. Most of them are higher tier, at least financially, compar…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 07:31 AM
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It's really strange when you work in an industry where those are common technical abbreviations: POC: Proof of Concept LVM: Linux Virtual Machine FDS: Function Design Specification HVM: Hardware Virtual Machine The amusing thing is that using the above definitions, the original parent posting, while somewhat surreal, makes actual sense. Arguably more than using the actual meanings I've been inferring from other posters, in fact. ​ We're supposed to be cooking meth not having mental breakdowns. I…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 07:15 AM
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Oh, no, most of them already had babies. Some were open about it, while others hid the fact. Two even deliberately told my friends' wives to explicitly deny that they were single mothers, which shocked them. The thing is, my friends are successful, and so are their wives. In a few cases, the wives are more successful. The problem was that they honestly believed these co-workers when they gave the sob stories about how they'd been treated horribly by men, which is why the wives tried to shop thes…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/03/21 11:59 AM
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I'm 6'1, a typical nerd, in reasonably good shape (tennis player), single, and not looking. I've been "invisible" my entire life. One friend's wife called me Pygmalion, because of my taste in women ("you don't seem to have one"). It wasn't that I didn't, it was more that I got the message, said meh, and focused on my friends, family, hobbies, and career, instead. As I got older, and more successful, I was still invisible until the woman discovered how successful I was financially, and then sudde…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/03/21 07:11 AM
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