billgrimes5 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Ask a Guru		billgrimes5	/r/seduction	19/11/19 03:39 PM

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0	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". Please read my post above, my apologies I responded to the original thread. 50 percent may be pushing it if you are expecting to sleep with someone same night. But as I said above if you establish sexual attraction, and sexual interest in the connection, why over 50 percent of those relationships being sexual seems so unheard of ? Can’t compute, now if you didn’t establish a sexual connection and sexual interest in the relationships then I could understand why it would be less than 50 percent	/r/seduction	18/12/19 05:15 AM
1	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". That’s an interesting problem I have with what success is considered. 80-95 percent rate for sleeping with a woman isn’t unusual when you are intentionally picking up for a lay. The expectation for it happening in THE SAME DAY is unusual 80/95 percent of them time. But if you build the connection, build the chemistry and establish sexual attraction, why does that sounds so unusual? The problem that I see with guys, is that they rush into it. Who in the community really cares if the lay is 1 day …	/r/seduction	18/12/19 05:11 AM
6	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". I’m very intrigued when people mention numbers game in terms of pickup. Because sure in the beginning, that might be the case, like throwing basketballs into a hoop. If ten three pointers is your goal, and you suck but you attempt a thousand shots there’s a good chance you’ll still make it. But once you are actually skilled, someone who has become a professional at basketball for instance almost never misses. So don’t lose sight of the fact that “if you properly work on your game it still is a n…	/r/seduction	18/12/19 04:26 AM
1	How to Be Congruent With Women The latter portion of what you said about developing confidence I support. It’s important and strong part of innergame. On the other hand, where I disagreed with you was: “Being congruent means that you aren’t hiding your intentions with a woman, if you see a girl at a bus stop and think she’s really pretty and then ask some bullshit unrelated question ‘hey do you have the time’ that is being incongruent” The reason I said what I said about how you sell the product is because, you could say with…	/r/seduction	14/12/19 04:53 PM
1	How to Be Congruent With Women When I initially read your post, and read you explaining authenticity -I interpreted your post as meaning clearly stating your intentions for the interaction. And while I agree with your stance on confidence, your behaviors should be congruent with your confidence etc, you don’t want to act congruent with behaviors that reflect you being interested and idolizing her and desperate needy clingy etc.	/r/seduction	14/12/19 04:35 PM
1	How to Be Congruent With Women @matteo, how do you suppose Neil Strauss and mystery had tremendous success with women and dating? No where have I seen them every use or teach the method you are advertising. Two people can sell the same product and have dramatically different results. The question to ask yourself is, how do you market the product in an interesting way that’s different from the competition?	/r/seduction	12/12/19 03:49 PM
2	Does anyone feel you have more success with women when you don't make them a priority? That’s true, in a sense it captures part of the essence of playing heard to get-In that you aren’t desperate to secure a date or sex. You are unattached, indifferent. People want what they can’t have. You not chasing leaves them room to chase you. Also, it opens you to serendipitous encounters. Leaving it more to fate and chance, which some people find exhilarating.	/r/seduction	10/12/19 03:39 PM
1	Approached a woman. She said she had a boyfriend but thanked me for asking her number? Thanks man! I’ve been able to disarm a target with pretending to like men because she thinks I don’t like women. So we have a full convo about something different and laugh and joke and bond etc but her guard is totally down. Keeping in mind, I don’t act flamboyant, I’m still acting alpha male however I just make inferences about liking guys.	/r/seduction	27/11/19 02:07 AM
1	Ask a Guru You are totally welcome my brotha. With just one step a day in the right direction imagine where you’ll be in a year! Using pickup lines and openers is only as good as the person weilding it. Innergame is the difference between a samurai wielding a sword, and a kid.	/r/seduction	26/11/19 03:49 PM
2	Ask a Guru Absolutely keep at it, you’ve got a lot of potential to really be among the best!	/r/seduction	26/11/19 03:45 PM
1	Ask a Guru You are welcome. If you ever have any questions please don’t hesitate to inbox me!	/r/seduction	26/11/19 03:43 PM
1	Anybody here hook up with a high school classmate years later? There’s a certain allure and rapport that automatically comes with this blast from the past, use it to your advantage, reminisce joke laugh and bond over it.	/r/seduction	26/11/19 03:11 AM
1	You guys are putting in all this effort while Ted Bundy was raping and murdering worthless whores Highly unrecommended	/r/seduction	26/11/19 03:10 AM
8	Approached a woman. She said she had a boyfriend but thanked me for asking her number? Not sure how you mean that line, but the way I’m reading it is like, cool I don’t get jealous of other men so you can add me to the mix-it doesn’t bother me there’s another guy involved. That comes off as pretty funny, it could be useful in the field. Also I’ve used, we can be one big happy family. But of course say it with a lot of confidence and high energy.	/r/seduction	26/11/19 02:50 AM
3	Approached a woman. She said she had a boyfriend but thanked me for asking her number? Go right into cocky comedy after hearing that. Many girls say that to punk guys off so you never know if they actually have a bf. And dating is kind of fickle, if I don’t see a ring I’m not convinced. Anyhow, I’ve gone directly into cocky comedy like (keep in mind when going comedy I come from a place of higher energy so I control the frame) “Really? Me too!” “Sure you do, That’s what they all say” “Are you not allowed to have friends?” Some examples I’ve used that I’ve had success with.	/r/seduction	26/11/19 02:46 AM
2	"You can have my number only as friends" I would respond with taking hold of the frame. For instance, saying something like “oh no no no no no no, I do the friendzoning.” And make a joke out of it but keep the status. My frame has always been I don’t get friend-zoned I decide whether or not I friend-zone someone. There has been an instance where I openly told a girl who insinuated that, don’t insult me. We then got into a convo about how that’s an insult. And I explained it means you are saying my replication value is low, fuck you! An…	/r/seduction	24/11/19 04:31 AM
2	Should you make a girl orgasm first before you do? General rule of thumb yes. But it depends on your intent too. If you make her orgasm every time and squirt and push her boundaries sexually and exploring things with you, it’s a strong healthy sexual relationship that will differentiate you from others she’s been with. When I have sex with a woman I want to have her experience things with me that she has not likely experienced anywhere else. Of course I don’t whip out the toy box on a first date, but I try to keep something new or different ever…	/r/seduction	24/11/19 04:20 AM
1	Common Problem I Can’t Figure Out The way you act and talk with the girls you really want vs the ones you don’t really want but want you, needs to be flipped. There was some truth to grrinchas post as well. Additionally, If they don’t feel a connection and don’t want to date you the answer is simple, you are not high status enough. If a woman wants to be more sexually interesting to men, she would work on looking more sexy and attractive. If a man wants to be more sexually interesting he would need to work on increasing his stat…	/r/seduction	24/11/19 04:12 AM
1	Ask a Guru Yeah same, I don’t sell services either. But I remember when I was struggling, and needed a mentor. And I want to be able to give good guys a fair chance.	/r/seduction	19/11/19 08:51 PM
2	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? “Express why you approached and if you get a number great” This is all wrong. This is opening up to failure. “Hey I’m interested in you, I’m giving you the status even though I don’t know you, let’s exchange numbers” that’s almost a guaranteed rejection or no call back. I don’t see how it could ever be advantageous for the average guy to communicate “hey I don’t know you but your beautiful and I’m coming up to you because your beautiful and my intentions are romantic.” You want her competing for…	/r/seduction	17/11/19 05:47 PM
2	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? I’ll clarify what I meant-Not close fuck same night. But enough interest for her to establish feelings of attraction. I partially agree with you, you absolutely need a knack for reading social cues body language cues etc which is critical for that level of success for the average guy, and is a really good point. Good news is that’s something that can be learned and developed. Financially successful is helpful of course but not mandatory, not all great seducers were rich. Look at mystery. He wasn…	/r/seduction	17/11/19 05:32 PM
1	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? It almost sounds to me like a negotiation. There’s some give and take with status with the hope that you come out in the ideal situation. And getting to the point where she’s investing more than you is better achieved some way than not at all. You holding the floor can take her through a range of emotions, her spending 90 percent talking would be her instead sharing with you and venting those emotions. Building connection, Also, I would argue that communication happened before you even opened yo…	/r/seduction	17/11/19 05:26 AM
1	Does real sex make you tired? My brotha, it makes sense that you are feeling like life is getting sucked out of you, you’re shooting millions of these fishies determined to create life into someone else. Your michael phelps tadpoles are trying bury their head in some eggs. Some of these sperms have weird looking heads with the goal of just killing another dudes sperm so YOUR genes can continue. This is some serious business. VR porn tires me out, watching virtual me putting in work literally feels exhausting.	/r/seduction	17/11/19 05:03 AM
1	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? Girls absolutely play hard to get. If you doubt it, ask ten hot girls you know. Most of them can say they have and or do. Girls that play hard to get are really displaying status so men work for their interest. If you think about it, the game is founded on reversing this process so instead she works for your interest.	/r/seduction	17/11/19 04:50 AM
2	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? I like that you enjoy it, imagine the vibe that you give off. Since you naturally and genuinely enjoy it. Your laughing and joking and have this mojo going. And that vibe if you hold it strong enough it’ll be contagious, she’ll feel it, and y’all will be vibing. That is called chemistry my brotha.	/r/seduction	17/11/19 04:48 AM
2	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? What is your honest success with this would you say? If she did 90 percent of the talking she would be investing in the convo and showing you interest. You’d be in a2 of the mystery method. And winning., the fact that it flips sounds like you are giving ioi’s and starting off showing interest. If you’re talking to Entertain yourself and you are laughing and she’s not I mean you’re definitely not winning my brotha. I do like that you open to the next girl after you end your previous set now that’…	/r/seduction	17/11/19 04:45 AM
1	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? I like how you referenced super handsome and musicians etc, because you described high status individuals. But remember high status can be achieved in various aspects, each having its own niche that’s its the most effective against. Bottom line your response conceded that increasing status will increase success with women. And that part of what you said is absolutely true. On the other hand, basic mystery method- Phase 1 dhv subject. If you approach a set and the girl gets even the slightest sen…	/r/seduction	17/11/19 04:40 AM
1	Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation? Based off of experience, I think it’s realistic that 1 in 2 could be achieved if you work hard enough in a matter of a year or two. I mean I’ve been practicing pick up for nearly ten years since I was 14 so for me 9 out of 10 is my ratio of attracted. And that last 1 out of ten tends to be an outlier like an extremely obsessive girl with her partner or a hard lesbian. But even with a hard lesbian, I focus on feeling and humor in the moment because you can make someone feel EMOTIONALLY attracted,…	/r/seduction	17/11/19 04:26 AM
2	could we have like a weekly Q&A like threads other subreddits have where you can ask one question but don't want to waste a thread on it? Superb idea!	/r/seduction	17/11/19 01:02 AM
1	Racial standoff Idris Elba has that quality about it him and manages to really be charismatic an attractive to women. Don’t get so hung up on fitting into a mold- break the mold, recreate the mold, and expectation. Revise your paradigm. Believe a paradigm that leverages what you have to offer.	/r/seduction	16/11/19 01:28 AM
1	It's not you, women just don't like to be approached in public One of the best posts I ever read, but so true. About a year after I was married to my wife, we got into a convo about game and cocky comedy and she said that it would never work on her, and I told her “do you remember how we started dating?”(first day cocky comedy worked like a charm) fast forward to a few months ago, a notification came up on her phone and i found out she has an online dating persona of a guy in this virtual game. I confronted her about it, and turns out she’s been acting like…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 07:10 AM
2	It's not you, women just don't like to be approached in public @ahanahax Thank you for posting this. I think this is a conversation that needs to be had. Definitely your situation is the exception rather than the rule. And truthfully, a lot of it has to do with not if someone expresses interest in public but HOW. You may not be receptive to someone hitting on you in public. Fair statement. But are you opposed to someone making you laugh in public? Probably not, sounds silly right. Who feels uncomfortable laughing in public? I really like your post though be…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 06:59 AM
1	My 8 Favorite Core Confidence Affirmations @caeserfecit you bring out some good points regarding developing real courage. Extremely important. Many times however, the affirmations is what someone uses to leverage for that boost for the initial approach. For instance guys embracing that mindset going into a set “ok dude, I’m attractive and have value I got this” they hype themselves up to get over the initial nervousness, approach the set, game the set, and then reflect on it after. So what I’m saying is, these affirmations although, bein…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 06:33 AM
1	Thinking of going out Every Saturday to game and here’s my plan to get rid of Anxiety. What do you think? I’m not allowed to return home until i complete them. Right track, wrong train. It’s positive that you are developing comfort with women, by engaging in dialogue. However, the content you are willing to use goes against the science of attraction. Refer to the mystery method by mystery. Compliments are a submission of status. Of course there’s and time and place for everything but instead try something simple in which you retain status. Like saying simple cocky comedy one liners with confidence. I.e your at a bar and bartender asks you for ID and yo…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 06:15 AM