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3	Waiting until my kid turn 18 or 19 I feel for you. I'm in a similar situation. But the advice posted above is right. The kids will see how your "marriage" is and replicate that in their own lives. I spent 18 months twisting myself inside out with worry about how the kids will cope with a seperation( after I found out my partner was having an affair). But my kids are 13, 10 and 8 - it would be another ten years of waiting, living under a cloud and, most importantly, modelling a loveless, joyless partnership for them. I don't know …	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/20 07:19 PM
1	Asked for a 2nd chance Really sorry to hear that. It is so familiar. 20 years for me - heard the same stuff - all the resentment - criticism, not made her feel special enough, gifts not thoughtful enough. Turned out ,as I found out a few months later, she was cheating. I hope not in your case but what you've written is pretty much exactly what I was being told. There's some great advice from other posters above. Time to focus on you. Worrying about all the stuff you've allegedly not done is pointless and stops you mov…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/07/19 10:42 PM
1	Amicable Divorce Reality? This is tricky - I’m in a similar position. A year ago I went to see a family lawyer about custody and assets. At that time my sbtxw was suggesting that I find someone else - even suggesting people! When I told the lawyer this she said that she’d heard this many times over 20 years and that it had always turned out that the person suggesting it was having an affair themselves. Turned out she was right. So it’s a big red flag if she’s encouraging you to see other people. As for co parenting in a …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/19 01:35 PM
2	Why wasn’t I good enough? Absolutely this isn’t you - I’m really sorry you have had to go through it. You can’t affect his behaviour. Just focus on yourself and be the best and happiest person you can be. It’s all you can do and I’m sure you can do it well. All the very best for the future.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/19 01:12 PM

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