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| 1 | Mythbusting The High Value Man (FDS PODCAST EP. 74)Loved the podcast driving to work this morning. Thank you ladies! On another note, has anyone else suffered some pickmeisha relapses without having daily new content on here? I just want to know I’m not alone. Having all of you ladies constant reminders was a big part of keeping me vigilant and on game about LVM masquerading as HVM. But anyways, I’m gonna be more diligent in re-reading old posts and frequenting the site to snap myself out of it. Wish me luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/22 03:35 PM |
| 427 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.Not even 20 bucks to his name. That’s a homeless man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:22 PM |
| 32 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)My sister always calls to check-in and make it obvious that people know where I am. 100% works well. She once called, asked me to put her on speaker, introduced herself and threatened the guy that I’m a “precious gem” and he better act accordingly. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 12:06 AM |
| 2 | “Cuddling”Aw me too. My 15 year old tortie girl is the best cuddler. Hope your baby has a long and healthy life 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 06:05 PM |
| 76 | Was approached by a man in a parking lot. How to navigate in future?So sorry. This is terrifying. Please don’t go back to that trail alone. If you’re in your car and safe, make sure those doors are locked and just peel off. Weirdo is not owed conversation. Keep your windows rolled up too. I recently had a creepy experience like this. Driving on a narrow road with cars parked on both sides and I see a car approaching. Being courteous I pull over to an empty parking space and thought the car would pass by. Wrong. He parks right beside me so close our doors would h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:56 AM |
| 8 | The level of mental gymnastics hereAnyone immediately think of Clare sniffing Dale’s pants. Iykyk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 05:30 AM |
| 11 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated ThemHaha I relate to this one a lot. Men are delusional. The last guy I dated asked me 3 weeks in if I was in love with him ??? I laughed and said NO it’s too early for that. He was good looking and prob used to pick-me’s fawning. 2 weeks later he declared his love for me, yet still so convinced I was in love with him. I know exactly what you mean by the little self-assured smiles 😂 I asked him what he loved about me and it was how sweet and kind I was (read: I can manipulate this bitch into accepti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 05:55 PM |
| 172 | That's a nice way of asking if I want to drive half an hour for a coffee date.He writes like a serial killer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Why can’t they stop invading our spaces? This guy thinks he can waltz into a sub dedicated to women decorating their homes for advice. Mod thinks it’s fine despite complaints. He’s entitled to a “woman’s touch” I guess.The white dining set takes it over the edge of hideousness. That’s my advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 07:05 PM |
| 52 | Just seen on relationshipadvice... guess it's about usLol, clearly a made up story. No one uses those terms in that weird way here. It always makes me laugh when LVM try to paint wanting a provider husband as this gasp ludicrous demand. They really feel entitled to having a beautiful, hard working wife while being extremely lazy, unemployed or actively earning way less than they could, living at their moms house and bitter. Ew. Get your money up, work harder and stop complaining. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:45 PM |
| 34 | Always Google Your DatesI found out a guys brother ran off and joined a terrorist group when they were living together. It was a pretty infamous case. I felt bad for the guy having lost his brother in such a bizarre way, but I was not getting caught up in that sort of family drama. You have to wonder what sort of environment they were both raised in. Kind of scary. Always google. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:47 PM |
| 9 | He proposed on our 1st anniversary. Success story!Congrats ❤️❤️ that is excellent timing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:26 AM |
| 118 | Beware of men who are willing to commit too fast, they just want access to your body.Lol yup and the quicker they are to say I love you to lock you down. They genuinely believe we are soooo desperate for any man to say it. I had one recently do this after 1 month of casually dating 🥴 You don’t love me, you don’t even know my middle name. Waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mWow! Thank you so much for this thoughtful reply. Absolutely everything resonated with me. I do make the mistake of coming across very sweet and empathetic early on, but you’re so right - men like this see this as an in to badger down my standards. Explains why he was so shocked at me ending it with him, despite his revelation that would make any competent woman run. Would you consider making this a full post? It was so helpful to me and I think more women on here need to read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’m😂😂😂 that he is. Men are so embarassing these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:08 AM |
| 104 | I effed upForget that geriatric hoe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:05 AM |
| 158 | I effed upUgh. I'm so sorry. It's so so easy to overlook a red flag at the beginning if everything else seems great but I've also had to learn FDS is 100% right when we say 1 red flag ignored always ends in disaster. Uglier men cheat more. You boosted his confidence by being with him. I hope you can quickly move on from this scrote, consider it a blessing he revealed his true character before you were married. He's a freak and a terrible person and has to live with that miserable reality. Sending you hugs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:02 AM |
| 300 | Loyalty through cruelty is not ride or die.Reminds me of a tik tok I saw of a girl saying "One thing about me is, I'm not about to go through tough times with you. My life has been hard enough. You got this though!" 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:48 AM |
| 110 | Even some men in the comment section were saying that they wouldn't like it if their lady proposed to them but were attacked like anything !How do you not just die from embarassment 😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:39 AM |
| 163 | You are allowed to eat.And the opposite applies as well. If you take me out and I only finish half my plate because I naturally get full easily, then there's no need to mention it or insist I pack the food to go. I've found guys can be super rude and pushy about this insinuating you're starving yourself. God forbid you get a salad too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 05:20 AM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mI never looked at a bill and he paid them all with no hesitancy and seemed happy to do it. One month in I hadn't gone in to his earning specifics other than knowing he was employed as I was vetting other behaviours. Bad mistake though lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 05:30 PM |
| 39 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mIt was the we for me too. My friends and I had a good cackle about that at dinner that night. Right before I blocked him he had the audacity to ask me if I was free, I said Nope I have dinner plans at (insert fancy restaurant) with my girlfriends. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 05:19 PM |
| 101 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mBlocked and deleted a guy I had been dating for a month and a half because he had the audacity to big reveal that he's broke (said it's a sensitive topic lol) and said that we need to find ways to and I quote "eat for less." This is after he prematurely told me he loves me and wants to marry me (???) 🚩 The bar is in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 02:33 PM |
| 111 | We need to start talking about pick me teachers who use girls to keep the bad boys in class behaved. Because I definitely experienced this and it was terrible.For many years in elementary teachers used to place me in a row of 3 inbetween two naughty boys because I was quiet and hard-working. I would be so annoyed and not to mention distracted from my studies. Such an insidious and harmful practice that starts in childhood. Boys get to be boys, girls better mature QUICKLY to take care of them. No wonder the world is full of pickmeisha's and LVMs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 08:01 PM |
| 143 | On the unequal division of physical trauma when it comes to child bearing; therefore, any baby that I give birth to is getting my last nameHe needs to have a job, car, and house/apartment; otherwise he has not proved his manhood and cannot provide for a woman; he is not dateable (shout-out to Chinese culture). Preach it! And say it again! Men need to work to make themselves dateable. Too many men thinking a woman's reproductive labor is a God given right when it is earned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 08:29 AM |
| 42 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)This is 1000% handbook worthy 🙌🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 09:17 PM |
| 82 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!This is exciting! 💓 I would love to listen to an episode/podcast section on flirting like you mentioned in last week's pod. I'd also love to see the pod dedicate an episode to discussing finances and the importance of vetting for a provider mindset in men. Also, this question always comes to mind when thinking about multidating... how do you navigate a guy pushing for exclusivity with you while you still want to explore other options? How to elongate the dating process when men try to speed it u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:16 PM |
| 17 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 16 - Walk Dates are For Dogs - (feat. Viral Tik Tok Star @Kokobeaute)I'm so excited to listen to this after work while taking a nice bubble bath! 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 05:34 PM |
| 14 | From me, to all you ladiesThis was lovely & uplifting to read. Thank you 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 02:39 AM |
| 3 | As a HVW, how do you combat feelings of hopelessness in today’s harsh dating climate? How do you stay positive, yet realistic?I too would love to hear this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:55 PM |
| 5 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is excellent. I've recently found myself searching the sub for older detailed strategy posts rather than by sorting by new. Some of those posts are goId and I take much more inspiration & knowledge away from them than a meme or Tiktok. I love Mondays for a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:51 PM |
| 129 | First date failI think almost all of us have been duped or misled into a walk or shitty park date before. 🤡 What I've learned from it is to not allow dates to surprise me with plans. I need a date, time and activity as well as proof of confirmed reservations in order to leave the house. Idc how demanding it sounds, we have no obligation to go with the flow. This protects us from any last minute switch ups and shuffles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 10:40 PM |
| 25 | I don’t know what YouTube is, I am a MAN though so please praise me for intending to look after my daughters.Lol there's literally a youtube channel called 'Cute girl hairstyles' with millions, probably almost a billion views with all sorts of braids as the thumbnails. The helpless and hopeless single dad charade is pathetic and insulting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:33 PM |
| 44 | UPDATE: I got a job! (From: "I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit")Congratulations!! It's only up from here 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 10:41 PM |
| 2 | If you’re into spirituality, be careful. Men will think you’re stupid.This. They think it's a point of pride to be out of touch with their emotions. No thank you ✋🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:22 AM |
| 45 | So true - this sub is a threat to the status quo which is why we receive so much backlashJK Rowling is one amazing and brave woman. Imagine all the male vitriol she receives and she still stands strong in her support for women's sex-based rights. Queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:08 AM |
| 26 | Staying Away from Online Dating This SummerCheers to an app free summer 🥂 I have one final OLD date scheduled for this weekend and I've decided I'm done no matter how it goes. They are a massive waste of time and I suspect men respect you even less than they regularly would if you meet them off an app. You're already starting the relationship off on a bad foot by virtue of meeting them off of it. Think about it. They know other men and how they act. They are wondering why YOU would put yourself in a vulnerable situation meeting strange m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 08:57 AM |
| 25 | The Subreddits on Abortion are Being Co-Opted by a creepy weird furry fetishest who has never had nor will ever need an abortion, nor are they a licensed provider. Please don't go there if you need abortion help.Thank you for bringing this up. The pressure on women to allow men in to their spaces is coming from way above. It is absolutely organized and methodical and we need to push back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 06:35 PM |
| 140 | Men have waged psychological warfare on us through the manosphere (incels, pick up artists, red pill) the big porn industry (bdsm fetishes etc) and toxic liberal feminism (pro sex work agenda). A message from FDS: strong women are uniting and WILL NOT BACK DOWN. The sisterhood is only STRENGTHENING.A lot of women are opting out. I see it in and outside of my friend group more and more. Scrotes are going to have to collectively correct their nasty behaviour or women are going to go about living their best fancy free lives without them. It's that simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 08:58 PM |
| 5 | Ex is back. Ladies, help!You need to love yourself more than you love validation from a cheating disrespectful man. It's extremely clear he has a lot of contempt and hatred for you to be able to disrespect you so severely. That alone is scary. And on top of that he thinks you're stupid enough to stay and not believe you can do better than a cheater. Don't just sit there and swallow his disrespect, do something. Get ANGRY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:43 PM |
| 140 | Old man neighbor asks my 12 year old daughter "Where are all your boyfriends?"👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Queen shit. Making a scene like you did works like a charm because they don't expect it. Now his creepy ass will think twice about chatting up children for fear mama is watching. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 11:44 PM |
| 148 | I'm sorry but if women are expected to carry your future child, then yes, you should be doing the pursuing at the start of the relationshipThe guys who are complaining about how scary and tiring it is to pursue a woman are pathetic and jealous of women. They want us to chase them, pursue them, pay 50/50 for them, give birth for them, and perform domestic servitude while working a 9-5 to support them. Mmmm no thanks. And as Shera says, they'll still end up cheating on you and leaving to find a woman who makes them feel like a real man because by doing all of that, you've emasculated the fuck out of them and they need to heal their b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 11:49 PM |
| 56 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.Why not? It's possible. Many men have no problem with providing 100% and will be offended if you try to pick up the tab. Factor in some cultures and religions where it's expected a man pay for everything, and a women's contribution is optional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:28 PM |
| 16 | LVM and their "advice" to young girlsLol what the fuck is up with this. Doctors have been suggesting pregnancy "jokingly" since I was about 14 years old because I suffer from horrific cramps that allegedly get better after birth. I had this one creepy male gyno at 16 years old who stared at my crotch the whole time he spoke to me. I was clothed. He made jokes about my mom needing to watch me because "there's lots of good looking boys on the beach" where I was vacationing. Disgusting fucking pervert. I do not trust men with women's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 04:44 PM |
| 195 | A reminder on the scope of this sub.Great reminders 💜 Was perturbed seeing an uptick of male tiktok "advice" on here. We don't need to pat them on the back for basic deceny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Who you decide to marry is the most important decision of your life👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 05:17 AM |
| 50 | Men want traditional women until its time for them to be traditional men and be providers.Lol some moron I was texting with from OLD was talking about his sports aspirations and got mad because I dodged his question about "Being there to support him when he's broke and not rich yet". He's like, but you'd be there right?! Me: crickets ... blocked No woman wants a man who can't provide shit for himself let alone a future family. Pickmeishas and Barbara the Builders have deluded themselves in to thinking they can support a man to millions, and then are shocked when he levels up and chea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 04:15 PM |
| 289 | Would love to see your additions 😂Gaslighter's Paradise Ain't No Gold to Dig (No)Emotions ft Scrotiah Won't Marry Compliment ME Oops! I Hit The Wall The Rational Sex ft IPUNCHWALLZ AND NOW INCLUDING!!! Extended Scrote Play Bonus: I Will Always Coerce You | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 08:02 AM |
| 32 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InCar dealerships make me cry too. Looking to buy a car, something that should be happy, was a miserable experience for me. The men are disrespectful and creepy. I eventually decided to only look at private sellers that were women, and found a lovely lightly used vehicle I love. She was kind, transparent, and knocked down the price significantly for me. It was such an uplifting and happy experience. Highly recommend if you're not buying brand new. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:51 PM |
| 19 | FDS PODCAST FIRST 30 DAYS RESULTS: we literally DOUBLED our goal of hitting 15k downloads in the first month. 🥳🎊🥂 Such a strong start, and a sign of a promising future! Special thanks to all you ladies who listened and shared!!! 💗💜💗💜💗💜💗💜Yay! Congrats 🎉🎉🎉 I adore the podcast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:47 AM |
| 8 | Has anyone on here exposed an ex who's an internet celebrity? If so, what happened?If he was racist towards you, you have a fairly good chance of getting him canceled, even it if it's temporary. This will also badly hurt his brand. People tend to be holding YouTubers accountable much more than they did in the past. Big question, were you ever featured in his stuff? Do his fans know who you are? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 260 | You should WANT to do things for the guy on a date 💸Hobosexual mentality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:36 AM |
| 183 | Prof made us watch a documentary called “Cowboys in Paradise”, it truly highlights how disgusting men are.Previously on 90 day fiance... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:48 PM |
| 67 | When you tell your current bf that he can be a renter in your house 🍆 👈 that's my big dick energy 🙋🏼♀️Period! Never let a man get in on what's yours. Even if he's the most amazing HVM that can change in seconds. Imagine the agony that comes along with being bested by an ex who betrayed you. Not worth it. Good for you sis! 👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:43 PM |
| 248 | "I look like a goblin but I want a thin princess" smh 😂😂😂If I can get like 2% of the delusion and inflated self-confidence men have I'd be good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 02:50 AM |
| 26 | Human penises are shrinking because of pollution, warns scientist. Dr Swan believes that the rapidly decreasing fertility rate means that most men will be unable to produce viable sperm by 2045. These chemicals have long been known to cause infertility in women (PCOS), but men affected makes news.Any 90 day fiance fans immediately think of Coltee and his thunderous breasts? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:21 AM |
| 17 | The same day that I posted a shot of my scientific publications on my social media, he ended our relationship with this text...Congratulations! That's a big achievement. 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:14 AM |
| 412 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahHe's nauseated by your boundaries, not looks. I would honestly block him after that first audacious message. If all these NVM's were subjected to is vanishing profiles and the occassional 😂😂😂 the world would be a better place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:06 AM |
| 25 | 🔥🔥The Female Dating Strategy podcast teaser is now live on Spotify! Check it out! 🔥🔥immediately renews my Spotify subscription | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 08:32 PM |
| 11 | Screencap, video and meme posting: let's work together to ensure quality!👏🏽👏🏽 I totally agree. I joined around that time and still go back to those posts. The effort and quality put into field reports and strategy guides was top notch. This is why I'm also a big fan of no meme Monday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:08 PM |
| 22 | OLD Red Flags and Field Report: Catfishing, Heightfishing, and more.No wonder he was winded in the park walking around on 10 pound stilts 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 08:55 PM |
| 145 | Don’t provide him with the blueprint of your “dream man.” You’re giving someone the roadmap to hurt you or another unsuspecting woman. Notice how he instantly backpedaled trying to shape his answer to mirror what I might be looking for? Nope. Not telling you lol. Blocked."I am down to build something together if the chemistry is there." Brendon, sweetie, you're not the prize. The way he phrased that as if you didn't just shut him down. Embarassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 08:16 PM |
| 110 | I'm gonna buy a house, and I need bffs with cats and dogsSomeone said the more friends you have the less friends you really have. 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 07:42 PM |
| 484 | I had a date tonight...The way you wasted no time leaving 👏🏽👏🏽 queen shit. I hope he returned back to his incel forum to cry about how his neg didn't work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:46 AM |
| 180 | Got a text from an unsaved number just to realize it was a guy I met once on a dating app but I ghosted him bc I knew he just wanted sex. He messaged me today and I’m just proud of my growth and not tolerating bs anymore ! I finally blocked his ass today ☺️Yes, we women love to leave our houses at 10pm to get a 2 dollar tea with a strange man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 06:12 AM |
| 85 | As usual men doing the bare minimum in relationships.Same lol. 20 minutes is an absolute joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:59 PM |
| 12 | I can hardly stomach relationship advice on other subs after my FDS awakeningAbsolutely. Protecting this sub with my life lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 11:43 PM |
| 161 | I can hardly stomach relationship advice on other subs after my FDS awakeningCareful, you want to delete that subs name from your post and instead just say "a sub that give advice about relationships". But yes!! It's so nauseating scrolling though the comments. All I can see are LVMs galore and pick me's screeching pick me! love me! choose me! The worst are women who boast they do 50/50 and put down other women for not believing in it. Like okay girl, you work those 40 hour days then come home to cook, clean, raise kids & scrub the doodoo out your mans boxers while he st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 08:16 PM |
| 164 | I am a victim of sexual assault and this opening from a scrote I matched with on Tinder made me feel physically illEw he looks like he's in his highschool classroom in the pic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 10:29 PM |
| 27 | What do you do to show yourself extra love and care without spending money?Warm cup of my favourite tea and a bubble bath with candles. Maybe put on a mindless podcast (shoutout to Frenemies). Just sitting in pure silence and relaxation is a treat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:38 AM |
| 139 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.This is exactly what I thought about when I clicked the post. If a man doesn't love me like Hal loves Lois then I don't want it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 04:29 AM |
| 21 | What the Pickme Fuck? Admin of Supposedly All Female Breastfeeding Group Allowing Men to Pay to Join and Harass Women. Group Had 22.5K MembersIt's a fetish 100%. Nasty and depraved behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 11:52 PM |
| 6 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?I didn't! Thank god. Just a hypothetical situation. I have seen it happen to women though :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:04 PM |
| 45 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?There is a creepy amount of white worship in those communities and they fail to realize all men are the same. You will get dogged out by a white LVM the same you will a black LVM. The only difference is, with dating a white man you may be subjected to dealing with his racist family (or himself... oops it comes out sometimes). You can find HVM in any race but IMO it's harder to ascertain the HVness in somebody whose not of the same culture or ethnic background as you. For example, if I chose to d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 10:10 PM |
| 257 | Why FDS is Crucial if Motherhood is a GoalWorst nightmare is a seemingly HVM turning on you after birth. I agree wholeheartedly with your message. I think one of the best ways to vet for this is to try to be married for a while, atleast 2 years imo, before you consider kids. See how he treats you when you are really sick and can't move out of bed. If it's anything less than stellar or if he doesn't take your pain MORE serious than you do, huge red flag for neglect after birth when you will be the most vulnerable you've ever been. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:35 PM |
| 277 | What’s the most important thing you’ve learned since discovering FDS?Love this post. I have three. If he wanted to, he would. Return the same energy and never more. Love and prioritize yourself before all. Never compromise on your set boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:55 PM |
| 17 | Single dad “can’t make you the center of his world” yet.... can’t leave women alone. Four kids and two baby mamas, this guy is a catch! Leave women alone and raise your kids!Yes! 😂 Basically it's used to mock someones stupid sob story. Their complaint is so trivial that it's like let me get out my tiny violin and play a sad song for you. I don't know where it came from but I remember seeing it on Spongebob. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:46 PM |
| 34 | Single dad “can’t make you the center of his world” yet.... can’t leave women alone. Four kids and two baby mamas, this guy is a catch! Leave women alone and raise your kids!🎻 plays tiny violin 🎻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 04:55 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, how are you treating yourself this Valentine's day?Perfect day/night much! I'll be doing the exact same. Except I'm gonna get my eyebrows waxed and a professional massage to top it off. So excited 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 11:41 PM |
| 7 | Groomer (32M) Wants to Marry Girl (19F) He Used to Pick Up From SchoolSeriously. To trust a man outside of your family like that with your children is the biggest fucking error there is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 10:36 PM |
| 19 | I like comparing Trisha Paytas' lovers to each otherI've been able to ascertain all of her boyfriends reasons for being with her, but this Moses creeps me out. I cannot figure out his deal. He's allegedly rich enough to buy a 9 carat ring so it's not Trisha's money he's after like Sean was. He's seems to be quiet and isn't clamoring to be in videos like Jason was. What's this guys motive. My gut tells me he has some crazy skeletons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 10:29 PM |
| 119 | Where's the lie?????💀💀 This is so true though. I don't find it romantic at all, in fact it's quite cheap and disrespectful. To assume that a woman would want to wear a mans gaudy family heirloom for the rest of her life just because it's significant to him... yet has 0 sentimental value to her. No thanks. Every woman deserves her own unique ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:21 AM |
| 8 | What are your thoughts on Jesse, 24 from 90 days fiance?She tru the shoe at my head! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 09:43 PM |
| 26 | Low effort proposals are not FDSI just watched that episode of Frenemies and was shocked at how low effort and nasty that proposal was lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 10:47 PM |
| 24 | I'm joining too! I celebrete myself.Love! It's so gorgeous and dainty 💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:26 PM |
| 54 | Y'all, they literally don't stop 😂 I've already posted here a couple days ago with a screenshot from their sub about the rings people are posting 🖕Thanks for saying this, I agree. I think there's a subreddit for posting angry dms from lurkers, stuff like this could fit well over there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:23 PM |
| 63 | Just let him goLol this shit cannot be real. Imagine your husband says this and your first instinct is to ask reddit for advice 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:35 AM |
| 83 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Saved up and bought a car I love today too, congrats!! 🎉💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:33 AM |
| 6 | My now fiancé took me to the nail salon just a few days before proposing to make sure my nails were done for the photos. It only took him nine months to propose! He always knew I was the one for him. Your HVM is out there ladies!Congrats!! So gorgeous 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:36 PM |
| 9 | I finally left!So proud of you! He sounded like a piece of shit and you're going to be infinitely better without him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 07:16 PM |
| 10 | Unpopular dating opinionThirded!! 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 09:25 PM |
| 4 | 🤪 Come check out our sub for posting all of the trolls and dragging them! 😂Approval please 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 02:27 AM |
| 5 | Why do friendship breakups hurt more than relationship breakups? :(It sounds like she's jealous of you and has been harboring some contempt for a while. You don't need that in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 07:36 PM |
| 31 | You don't even have to try to weed them out on OLD, you just breathe at them and they melt into incels mid-conversationWhat a crybaby weirdo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:30 AM |
| 4 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityOooh okay. I think the one on the chart is made up 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:52 PM |
| 5 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityIt's a personality test you can take online at 16personalities.com | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:38 PM |
| 154 | What are your thoughts on this ladies, would you divorce him?I have no words 🤢. All I can say is I am glad she is divorcing him. I'd be doing the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:52 PM |
| 3 | Of course an LVM couldn’t help but sexualize an innocent post about a woman’s puppy growing up. That comment in response was me btw, I couldn’t control myself.Aw childhood throwback! Welcome welcome welcome to the big blue house 🏠 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:22 PM |
| 121 | Thoughts on this?? I feel like he could’ve easily went to a bathroom at a restaurant, store, or gas station? People in the replies say she should give him a chance.Disgusting. Did he even wipe? That question alone would haunt me. No first date is good enough to have to tell your children their dad shit up the side of the road when you first met. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:47 AM |
| 11 | When men call women “females”Women "can now"... we aren't some new invention that can be redefined or remodeled. Women are adult human females. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 06:29 PM |
| 7 | For all the women out there thinking about giving up their career opportunities for a manI bought this book yesterday and I'm so excited to read! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:14 PM |
| 24 | A HVM will NEVER threaten your childHe sounds like he wants to murder you and your family. Take the threat seriously and cut all contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:02 AM |
| 40 | MY HVW ICON , MISS ASHA CHRISTINA. Her whole Chanel is empowering. This video made me stop being a pickmeisha 🙌She is incredible and offers really good advice. Her channel is a self esteem boost in of itself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:57 AM |
| 31 | What’s the worst pick-me song of all time?The Way I Are by Timbaland and Keri Hilson. "I ain't got no money. I ain't got no car to take you on a date. I can't even buy you flowers. But we can be the perfect soulmates." And then she goes: "Oh, baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me If we go Dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free." No the fuck it's not! 😂 the song nauseates me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 08:10 PM |
| 14 | This was posted by my long term HVM friend. He truly gets it!I knew Gus was my favourite person on breaking bad for a reason 🙌🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:24 AM |
| 13 | HVM vs LVM: period editionI have the same type of cramps from the devil. The phrase sad blanket burrito spoke to me on a deep level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:54 PM |
| 7 | Teachers: Pornification and pedophiliaTheres atleast one creepy pedophile male teacher at every school that all the kids know about. That should tell us something about the prevalance of pedophilia in our society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:16 PM |
| 27 | Instagram scam?Got a dm from this person too. Very shady stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 10:33 PM |
| 117 | Stop letting men down "nicely"Also, when you give a "soft" rejection, often they do not perceive it as actual rejection. They see a "soft no" and think it means "convince me" This is crucial. Some men know that they can beat you down in to accepting a date or other advances. Anything other than a firm NO and they see ample room to negotiate. I have one of these hanger ons in my DMs right now and I wanted to see how many times I could soft reject him before he got the message. The limit does not exist y'all. I've left him on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:21 AM |
| 28 | OC: I decided to do a little gender swap on that horrible meme. I’m not a cartoonist but I hope you enjoy it! 🥰LMAO made this 10x more iconic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:26 PM |
| 17 | Teehee I stole your man!So the show's been on for about a decade and this all happened fairly recently. Her first is 10 years old which she had when she was 16. Since then she's had three other kids with two other baby daddies. The last BD cheated on her while she was pregnant AND she still went back to him and had another kid. He's also never once claimed her as his girlfriend. 😭 It's all a pick me nightmare. Her family in particular is non-existent because her mom pretty much abandonded her after her first pregnancy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:03 AM |
| 70 | Teehee I stole your man!This reminds me of Kail from Teen Mom 2. She got cheated on while pregnant with her third baby daddy. Then when her second baby daddy cheated on his new fiance she looked in the camera, laughed and said "hahaha congratulations he's been cheating on you since you got pregnant teehee!" 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:19 PM |
| 39 | We made it! FDS has 100,000 members!AMAZING! I joined at 20,000 and the growth has been so incredible to watch. This is the only remaining space on reddit that truly empowers and stands behind women with 0 excuses or bullshit. Big thanks to all the boss ladies that keep it running despite the intimidation. Cheers to 100k more 🎉🎀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 08:16 PM |
| 5 | The bar is so far underground it’s starting to melt into the core of the earthUgh so fucking disgusting! I'm sorry you had to go through that. LVM are literally dangerous for our health and bank account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:13 PM |
| 24 | Am I right to skip this date tomorrow?Yes you are damn right. Too old! He's experienced all of his 20's and you're just beginning. Completely different stages of life. Dude may very well be divorced or have hidden children. Plus when you're a hot 30 year old he'll be balding with a big ole gut. We simply cannot have that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 08:39 AM |
| 30 | What subs should we stay away from?All of them 😂 For real though, most of the mainstream default subreddits are full of a gross mixture of misogyny, racism and the same old recycled LVM rhetoric. They have been parroting eachother for years and still find their expired jokes amusing. Some niche subreddits are okay though, like for example I'm on reddit for FDS and to keep tabs on all of my trashy reality tv shows like /r/90dayfiance. I think as long as your exploring a hobby, show, or something specific you like it's fine. But I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 12:22 AM |
| 11 | Couldn’t have said it ANY better.Wow I felt this. Happens all the time. Like you know it's bad when your skin literally burning is less painful. Men would literally mandate a week off from work if they had to deal with what we do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 11:18 PM |
| 89 | I'm proud of myself for getting clarification and setting boundaries.He fuckin tried it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 11:10 PM |
| 11 | Don’t settle, you’re doing just fine.You're right. I've seen Nicki in person and her face is absolutely stunning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:29 PM |
| 28 | Joking about killing your wifeMy sister had a man straight up say "I'd kill my wife for you" in the midst of being chatted up by him 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:52 AM |
| 8 | FDS works...my BF proposed to me tonight :)Congratulations ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:13 PM |
| 9 | Women’s voices being silenced at every turn on Reddit while rape subreddits are still out there. Welcome to 2020 🙄Meanwhile the men's health subreddits are under 0 threat for using sex-specific language 🙄 At the end of the day only females have uteruses. Only females have ovaries. Only females suffer from PCOS. They are forcing us into abandoning sex-specific language and filtering the way we talk about OUR OWN bodies and health. How can you tell people how they should speak about a condition you don't even have? I honestly believe that all of this is more about bullying women than logic itself. It's just s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:49 AM |
| 45 | I sent a booty pic and he took a screenshot without my consent. What the hell?Ewww dump him sis. He's a creep and a dumbass for screenshotting a snap (like how don't you know not to do this in 2020 🤦🏽♀️). FDS is completely against sending any type of compromising picture to dudes because 1) there is 0 benefit to you 2) it encourages low effort behaviour because they don't have to do anything like plan a proper date to see you (let alone see your ass). I would block oldie and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:25 AM |
| 77 | Minors though?So disturbing. The app is 80% young girls 10-17. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 11:46 PM |
| 10 | FDS literally changed my life in the few months since I first discovered it. Thank you to each and every single one of you!Beautiful 👏🏽👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 10:07 PM |
| 39 | FINAL FDS TIP: Don't date anyone who is on Reddit.😂😂 Absolutely. Spend 10 minutes on askmen and you'll be able to spot a redditor from a mile away. Always with the same tired catchphrases and hideous humor. I have been able to spot a bunch in my uni classes because they parrot what was on the front page like they did some revolutionary research. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 06:52 PM |
| 48 | FDS literally changed my life in the few months since I first discovered it. Thank you to each and every single one of you!Love this post! I joined at around 20,000 subs and watching this sub grow has been amazing. It is absolutely mindboggling that a space for women to empower eachother to ask for more of life might be banned. I know for a fact FDS has helped so many women, whether it's leaving a toxic or abusive relationship, recognizing dangerous red flags or raising their self-worth and esteem. Meanwhile, disgusting misogynistic subs that condone rape are left up and running. Incel communities, that have led to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 06:46 PM |
| 47 | My Level Up Plan. What's yours? (This will keep me busy!)I love this! Making a concrete plan and sticking to it is empowering. Why con ourselves out of the best in life? We deserve to live the way we dream to. So often I get stuck daydreaming about what life could be like. My dream job, home, appearance, attitude etc. No more. I'm going to continue leveling up to get there because I owe it to myself. I love myself, why not give me the best? Mine is: Buy a new car that I love and is reliable Continue updating my wardrobe and investing in high quality p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 08:59 PM |
| 10 | Finding a Muslim HVMExcellent post 👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 09:08 PM |
| 31 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.Thank god someone said it. I don't care to see that some LVM from OLD dogged you out in the dm. It's not unique or remarkable and you don't even know them. Any one of us can go on OLD and see the same. I get if its particularily hilarious but lately its been "heres a tinder profile of some ugly MF look at his LVM bio". We. Do. Not. Care. I want field reports, strategy, success stories etc. Humorous stories that expose sneaky behaviour that we can all learn from. Which was exactly how FDS was whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 09:02 PM |
| 53 | While disgusting, this isn't surprising.The look of the average male redditor right there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 03:57 PM |
| 20 | I used to think my boyfriend was HV but now I’m not so sure. I need to know if I’m being too harsh.That is right. You need to see inside that apartment. I have a feeling its downright disgusting, and if so, run for the hills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 08:05 PM |
| 48 | 2 whole years and he couldn’t gather the courage? Sounds like a LVM to me, sis! Good luck with that one.Garbage advice. She should be ashamed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 01:57 AM |
| 36 | Giving back giftsNope. He shouldn't be offering up sentimental gifts to people that aren't his wife or soon-to-be wife. But I will say that if he begs for it and makes a scene (or if you know he's a lil crazy) then I would tell a male friend to drop it off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 05:55 AM |
| 12 | Romance movies without obvious LVM romanticizing?That's why I was always team Stefan lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Not sure if I fucked upWhoa weird 😳 The fact that he found your post is creepy because this isn't a big subreddit at all. Did you ask him why he was lurking here? I would be cautious. I feel like the men who lurk here are MGTOW types who like to hate-read. Plus the whole splitting bills thing, I'm sorry I don't buy he genuinely didn't know. Trying to evade the bill is a deliberate choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 10:10 PM |
| 6 | I graduated from university today! :)Such a big achievement. Congratulations 🎉💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 06:09 PM |
| 10 | Men be likeTrans identified males. See /r/itsafetish 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 03:19 AM |
| 70 | My friend broke things off with this LVMWhat type of ugly ass name is Jorgensen. I'd block off that alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 01:53 AM |
| 43 | Men are not your friends.My sister said it best. They will cultivate these fake ass friendships with you for YEARS just to be close to you. However I've also noticed some cultural differences. I've had plenty of white male classmates etc. try the long con friendship with me but I always shut it down because I have no interest in being friends with a dude. Whereas black men will simply spit game "you look good, can I have your number" etc. off the jump if they like you that much. Direct vs indirect approaches. I personal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 04:14 PM |
| 20 | Men have high standards while expecting women to settle for lessNope I was hoping someone else would say something. Very subtle and insidious racism she threw in there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 08:31 PM |
| 12 | Boyfriend didnt disclose Autism till 2 months in... Conflicted.No you're not unreasonable. He's showed you he's capable of deception and purposely didn't tell you until you were already invested. Huge red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 08:08 PM |
| 21 | Brown men hate brown womenCan I ask where you are from that you find this is the case? I'm a black woman but I've noticed that African men (most of them atleast) will almost exclusively date/marry women from the same country (or other black women). Even the youth who grew up in the Western world will usually date black women from the same or adjacent ethnic background. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Thought you ladies might enjoy this. I can appreciate the honesty when most men would not be so forthcoming with all of this fuckery. Oh, and he is a total smoke show!Male to female transgender. Many FDS users are also subbed to r/gendercritical which documents the plethora of sick perverted men who transition into women to attempt to distance themselves from their crimes, which are most of the time things like assault and rape of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 09:16 AM |
| 3 | Thought you ladies might enjoy this. I can appreciate the honesty when most men would not be so forthcoming with all of this fuckery. Oh, and he is a total smoke show!Male to female transgender. Many FDS users are also subbed to r/gendercritical which documents the plethora of sick perverted men who transition into women to attempt to distance themselves from their crimes, which are most of the time things like assault and rape of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 09:16 AM |
| 14 | Thought you ladies might enjoy this. I can appreciate the honesty when most men would not be so forthcoming with all of this fuckery. Oh, and he is a total smoke show!😂😂😂 Accurate. So many men with terrifying pasts try to play that card like it's a real life do-over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 02:24 AM |
| 74 | He said yesI'd rather never ever get married than stoop to this dumb shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 07:44 PM |
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