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bitofawitch/r/askMRP18/08/15 07:06 PM
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Parenting your own children isn't called "babysitting", it's called parenting. If you can't take care of your own kids without her help, then you are low-value. When you mow your own lawn do you call yourself "the gardener", or are you just a homeowner who has his shit together? A high value man doesn't need a pat on the head whenever he takes care of the shit in his own life. Try just getting your shit together in general. You should be so busy lifting, caring for your home, parenting your kids…
/r/askMRP05/08/16 09:15 PM
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Perhaps she's mentioning it to you because she was sexually harassed by a colleague and wanted her husband's support? That's what it's called when a married colleague tries to kiss you in a work situation. Ask the women you know. I bet you that at least 1 in 2 will have a story about how a gross co-worker or boss hit on them (or worse) and how they didn't feel like they had any recourse to get out of the situation. Also try asking yourself how you would react if your boss, a married man, tried t…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 03:39 PM
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His post history.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 10:17 PM
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So, steroids huh? Do you find they affect your mood at all?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 09:10 PM
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It sounds like you're always "down". According to your post history, you're always either suffering from strep throat, sulking over a twisted ankle, screwing up a juice order, flaking out on an athletic competition, losing a promotion, or having a tough time getting over the loss of a family member. Maybe she's kicking you in the hopes that you'll finally get up? I was just re-reading Jack10's comments to you a few months back about your enervating traits. Have you made any progress there?
/r/askMRP07/07/16 06:47 PM
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Is it possible that your personality issues are a cause of her destructive actions? Is it common for people to have happy relationships with sociopaths? I'm honestly asking, no sarcasm.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:56 PM
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So the threat of cheating is there to get her to love you? I thought dread could only make someone stop taking you for granted. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:50 PM
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I'm fascinated. Can you describe the self-healing?
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:47 PM
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I don't understand how sleeping with other women solves any of your problems. Please explain it to me. I'm sure you don't really think that emotional blackmail is going to allow you to exert control over your wife for any real length of time. Are you actually telling her "stay in line or I'm going to cheat", or are you punishing her by the cheating? Also, you didn't say how you caught her in her affair. P.S. Does anyone miss Jack10? I sure do.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:44 PM
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Is it so impossible for you to actually consult a real doctor about this, instead of strangers? What does your family doctor say about your wife?
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:35 PM
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I just don't understand why he isn't cheating already. Why wait until she has the baby? Is he waiting for this thread to reassure him that it's a good idea? He can't really think that any amount of advice is going to save this catastrophe.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:31 PM
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It's the internet. If you look hard enough you can find someone to validate anything you want. Sometimes it's helpful to look at something from another perspective. But seems like you're not interested in that. But thanks, anyway. This has been very entertaining.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:26 PM
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Why don't you try describing in detail one of these many interactions you've had with her in which it is revealed that she's crazy? If she didn't confess her affair, how do you know for sure it happened?
/r/askMRP12/05/16 09:58 PM
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This is like watching a train wreck in slow motion. I can't look away. Your post history is unbelievable. So many, many posts, and not a one could I find where you describe an actual interaction you've had with your wife. If you want advice, you have to provide people with some real evidence to work with. How much of this is unresolved anger at her cheating on you last year? That must have felt very threatening when she's your meal ticket.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 09:41 PM
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That sounds very difficult, but if he's only 12 you still have time to turn things around. Counselling can be really effective in those situations. I know because I was once that kid runaway with a step-dad at home, but I was 15. Now he and I have a wonderful relationship as adults but it wasn't easy. You're already on the right track by coming here. Read all the side bar info, lurk on MRP, start lifting, and focusing on self improvement. If they won't go to counselling with you, learn all you c…
/r/askMRP02/09/15 08:59 PM
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The second trimester is well named the Honeymoon Period, as the morning sickness will be mostly gone, she won't be too big to move around comfortable, and increased blood flow will heighten her sensitivity. Make the most of those 3 months. Try leaning her over the bathroom counter. The belly's out of the way and the mirror provides a great view of her larger chest.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 07:07 PM
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I was a single mom of one child when I met my second husband. He married me on the agreement that he was going to be fully a father to my son, and then he adopted him legally. Your situation may be different, but here's my two cents of how it worked for us. IMO, it's hard to have a successful family when you're still doing the "my money, my kids, your money, your kids" thing. I know some people make it work that way but it's much harder, and tough on the children. I think you need to get your wi…
/r/askMRP02/09/15 06:59 PM
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In order to check, ask her to cook whatever is the healthiest meal she makes because you love it so much. If she ignores that and keeps pumping out the cookies, it's sabotage.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 05:10 PM
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I'm just really surprised to find that there was at least one real woman having an affair on AM. I've been reading that they were all bots or fake profiles. I would think that most women would have an affair with someone they already know, rather than risk it with a stranger.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/15 06:03 AM
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Thanks. It's a sensitive topic for me since my mom had cancer several years ago and my dad has dementia. We don't stay young forever and the relationships you nurture in the good times are the ones that are there when things turn shitty.
/r/askMRP29/08/15 05:40 AM
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Also, you're setting the precedent for your wife that an older man with an incurable disease shouldn't expect to have his loved ones beside him unless it's convenience for them. In your own elderly years you may come to regret convincing her of that.
/r/askMRP28/08/15 03:20 PM
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Thanks so much. I didn't know this had a name. I've always wondered why my husband acted so weird afterwards when I thought we were both really into it at the time.
/r/askMRP27/08/15 03:09 PM
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I'm sorry. That's really hurtful, but I think, from the stories of many other guys that I've read, it's probably not too late to turn things around in your marriage if you're putting in the work. At least she's still having sex with you. I just wanted to add that there might be the possibility that there's a legitimate medical issue going on. Sometimes the, ah, "dampness" in that area after sex can lead to yeast infections or general sensitivity for some women if they don't mop up well afterward…
/r/askMRP27/08/15 03:04 PM
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I'm not an expert here, but I think women operate on a "use it or lose it" mode of desire, unlike men. I find that the more often women have sex, the more they want too, but if they go through a dry spell it's much more difficult to rev up again. You might find that by the time you're tired of your monk mode, she's replaced her desire for sex with a new, time-sucking hobby instead.
/r/askMRP27/08/15 05:38 AM
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Great advice. And if you're going in for a kiss, make it a good one, with confidence. Really plant one on her, possibly resting your hands on her neck at the same time. I hate when my husband does this timid lip brush thing. I'd rather not get kissed at all.
/r/askMRP27/08/15 05:15 AM
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Ha! You must always choose the lesser of two weevils.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 09:49 PM
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I love Master and Commander. I think Capt. Aubrey and Dr. Maturin have a great RP marriage relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 09:39 PM
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Just saying, I had my first baby at 24 and the last at 35. Big difference in my recovery and energy level. I lost the weight much quicker back then too. My sister in law waited too long and then had to pay $30k to buy younger eggs so there's that too. If you're at all interested in having kids, just don't wait too long.
/r/askMRP20/08/15 07:28 PM
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I'm beginning to think that he's just not owning it. It is true that he always seems so surprised to find that I'm upset about these things, even though I've brought them up before. I must be sending mixed signals. I think that we're stuck in the pattern of: a big blow up argument, started by me making a complaint, and then days of me sulking, and then I get tired of sulking and we kind of make up, but nothing is really solved. And then the issues come up again and he acts shocked to find that I…
/r/askMRP20/08/15 07:17 PM
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No, it was in college so perhaps it doesn't count. /shrug I think that he's actually pretty disapproving of my sexuality in general. I've known that I was bi since I was a kid, (although I've been in relationships with men for most of my life). I just got sick of keeping that side of me a big secret. I mean, it's not like I'm wanting to run off with a woman and I'm happy to be monogamous, I just don't think that I have to be quiet about that fact that I don't see gender when I'm attracted to som…
/r/askMRP20/08/15 07:03 PM
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Ha! I love that scene too. That's about right. /smirk
/r/askMRP20/08/15 06:52 PM
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Well, I certainly don't claim to be as attractive as some porn stars are. I'm not a professional, after all, but I do get asked out by other guys from time to time so I must not be that hideous. My husband already knows that he can get bjs and anal anytime. I rub one out myself every night. I can't get to sleep otherwise. I used to think I was the only woman who enjoyed being available to her husband all the time, but then I found on r/deadbedrooms that I'm not that unusual. Sadly, when a person…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 07:28 PM
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I tried this with my depressed husband and it did work really well. I was so tired of arguing about it I finally just let go of all my convert contracts of how much he should be contributing and just cleaned everything because I wanted it done. If he mentioned my efforts at all, I just smiled and shrugged it off. It took a few months but now he's back to taking out the recycling and doing laundry again without being asked. I don't know if this works on women. However, I do know that when my husb…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:49 PM
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I didn't see your age posted anywhere, but I just wanted to suggest that you keep in mind your plans for the future. You might not always be making good money and have a six-pack. Life is tough to predict. How do you imagine your dining room table looking at Thanksgiving thirty years from now? Do you want it full of kids and grand kids or maybe that's not for you? Do you want a great companion in old age? Someone to stand by you if you get sick? If your wife isn't going to be that person than mo…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:39 PM
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Yes, it was his mother as well. He's always talking about how his mom and his sister drilled it into him as a kid that he needs to be respectful of women. I've told him, women don't want that in the bedroom, but he just doesn't listen. I like your advice. Even if things don't work out, it's never a bad idea to get better looking.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:22 PM
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The Surrendered Wife talks about how our partners often just want to be reassured that we're confident that they'll make good decisions. I think I need to go back to that. Now, whenever he complains about work I'm going to say, "That sounds frustrating. I'm sure you'll be able to solve the problem."
/r/askMRP19/08/15 03:23 PM
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I spent a lot of time mulling over your post. I guess it's hard for me to wrap my head around what my husband probably really likes. It's weird that it's that easy; look good, be good in bed, don't talk too much. Of course, it's easier said than done sometimes. I have spent so much time trying to fix him that I certainly haven't put the time into myself that I would like to, fitness, looks, etc. And the more I feel crappy about myself, the less I feel like making an effort. He and I talked last …
/r/askMRP19/08/15 03:20 PM
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I could get my father-in-law to talk to him and encourage him to seek counseling, but I'm not hopeful. My husband is perhaps different from most BP guys in that he's incredibly forceful in doing his own thing. I know it sounds like he's a sad sap from my descriptions of him crying and complaining, but he's a total lone wolf and goes against the crowd. Nothing can move him if he doesn't want to. That's what I loved about him until he decided that he was determined to be depressed. He is very unco…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 04:24 AM
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That's so true. All the women I know aren't getting enough. Their husbands are too busy playing video games.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 03:05 AM
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Thanks for suggesting I start this thread. I've gotten a lot of different perspectives. I'm not afraid to hear honest opinions. I confronted him tonight and told him I wanted him to go to the doctor with me and stop the porn. He refused. So I take from that, for whatever reason he doesn't value me enough to do it, so at least I know where I stand. I have some decisions to make. I've been waiting for him to step up and lead our family but he isn't going to, so now I need to figure out what I want…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 03:04 AM
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I confronted him tonight. It's the porn. He says just a few times a week, but I don't believe that. Apparently he feels justified because I write erotica and "it's the same thing". /eye roll.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 02:40 AM
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That's so true. I'm not an easy woman to handle, but he used to love that about me. I guess to others I seem really dominant, but that's only until I found a guy who brought out my submissive side. I'm so happy and less stressed that I've given our finances back to him. But, honestly, he just asked me yesterday if I needed to keep some receipts I left on the counter, and I said no, because I love that my man is managing our finances so I don't track them anymore. He said, "well, I'd like to meet…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 11:48 PM
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Sorry, I should add: No, my hair is long. I'm pretty and I dress well. I'm often complimented by others. I'm not aloof or bossy. I'm fun and we have a lot of laughs together. He seems to really enjoy spending time with me, and doesn't like it if I spend too much time away from him. It's even a little suffocating at times because I do like my own space on occasion. I'm very good in bed. I hope that doesn't sound like I'm trying to be a "sex kitten", but I'm a very physical person and I've been co…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 10:43 PM
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Well, he's always had a lower libido than me, even when we first got together and in his other relationships, so that's one thing. I just thought that he'd come around, so to speak. I have definitely put on some weight since we got together over a decade ago, and I'm not in my twenties anymore. Also, several pregnancies has an impact on a person. My tummy isn't exactly as flat as it was, to be honest, but I'm still well in the normal range. I am losing more weight again so that I can get back in…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 10:29 PM
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Honest to god. He just kept going back into the kitchen to fill the bucket up again. I felt like I was being water boarded. I should have just left the house but I was in my pajamas and I didn't really think he'd do it. I was so mad I thought I was going to explode. But that was back in the days when he didn't care if I got mad. He thought it was funny.
/r/askMRP18/08/15 09:57 PM
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That's it, in a nutshell. I wish I could be the kind of wife that supports her husband through thick and thin, but the other day I lost it and told him to grow some balls. You can imagine how that went over. He just gave me a hurt look. And this is the guy who once threw 12 buckets of water at me once in our hallway when I dared to splash him with my drinking glass for ignoring me. What I wouldn't give for that husband back.
/r/askMRP18/08/15 09:49 PM
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I think your theory is very sound. As I commented below, my first husband developed a serious mental illness and I had to put down the ultimatum, get treatment or else. It led to divorce and he's still untreated. I'm just not ready to walk this time. Not yet. I've tried it all. Ranting like a crazy women, the silent treatment, working the map, threatening to cheat, talking rationally, etc. He just does nothing. Of course, now I know you can't negotiate desire or force someone to seek counselling…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 09:45 PM
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I bought a copy and read it myself and I think he would get a lot out of it, but I've been afraid to give it to him. I'm working so hard to build him up that I don't want to seem like I'm being critical. He's really in a tough place emotionally right now. The other day he actually cried in front of me about being depressed and feeling like his life is worthless. He says he feels like he doesn't have anything to offer anyone. I've been trying to get him to go to counselling for years for his depr…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 09:33 PM
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I think the thing is, is that my husband prides himself on his traditionally feminine traits, like giving up on his career to be at home during the day with our kids. I know he thinks he's a better parent then I am because I actually like my job. I do measure my success by my work and intellect, not my girlish charms. But I didn't want a stay at home husband either. I thought I was marrying a guy who could stand up to me, but I guess I didn't. The more he acts like the wife, the more I act like …
/r/askMRP18/08/15 09:13 PM
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I don't know why you have trouble believing that a woman who has hobbies, values fitness, and enjoys sleeping with her husband isn't real. I'm just doing what most of the women I know do. I can reveal that I've put on about twenty pounds due to stress eating over the last few years if that makes me seem a little more real. I can assure you that I don't do my activities to compete with my husband, but because I enjoy them. When I married him he was a very high value person and we used to enjoy th…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 08:58 PM
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It feels like a dead bedroom is only punishing myself. He doesn't notice.
/r/askMRP18/08/15 08:08 PM
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I think you're totally right. It's just that, I've already spent so many years admiring and supporting him, and nothing changed. Honestly, I used to be so into him, he'd ask me why I was staring at him, or why I liked him so much. And sorry, but RPW is just full of a bunch of girls trying to get the guys at the bar to like them. I already know how to pull at the bar. I mean, my girl game was always pretty f-ing good, even before I started putting in all this effort. I cook, I clean, I make money…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 07:45 PM
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I don't think spas let you pick your massage therapist by age or attractiveness. You might get the burly, hairy guy instead. Why don't you just plan something that you like to do and ask her to join you? Especially something that you're good at, so she can see you in action. Rock climbing? Mountain biking?
/r/askMRP18/08/15 07:20 PM
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Will do.
/r/askMRP18/08/15 06:33 PM
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I do work out at home, but I would like to add going to the gym as well. I just haven't worked out how to accomplish it yet with our budget and childcare issues in the evening (my husband works nights so I'm not even sure he'd notice if I was out at the gym). I do go to movies by myself. Actually, I do a lot of things by myself, now that I think about it. He doesn't seem to notice. Pity party time :)
/r/askMRP18/08/15 04:48 PM
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I've been using option two, obviously, and it's going pretty well, but slow. The hardest thing is, when I hold back and encourage him to use his own judgement, he hounds me for my opinion. It's really hard not to say "I don't care. Just make a decision already!" I've also used positive reinforcement to great success. Now, when he spends more than 20 minutes complaining about work problems that I don't want to solve for him, I get busy with something else until he changes the subject. Then I try …
/r/askMRP18/08/15 03:56 PM
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I'm already doing all the "topping from the bottom" that I can do without making him suspicious. I've tried bringing up some RP thinking in a subtle way, but he's very dismissive of it. I even bought a copy of NMMNG for him, but I'm too scared to give it to him. I'm worried that I'll just make him feel even more inferior if I imply that he needs to change. So I'm doing the, "Whatever you think, Dear." all the time. He's slowly coming around. He actually bought shelves the other day without getti…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 03:18 PM
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Thanks. I'll have a look.
/r/askMRP15/08/15 08:07 PM
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Any suggestions for moms raising sons? I've read the pre-reqs but they seem a little heavy to hand to a (slightly immature) 13-year-old. I have several boys and a BP husband who's little help in this area. I have been encouraging them to spend time with their more RP grandpas, but I wish RPW had more resources on how moms can raise boys to be confident men.
/r/askMRP15/08/15 07:43 PM
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