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ADVICEbitterespressobean/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 11:05 PM
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This is SO true. Absolutely. The shift in energy has to be obvious to someone who knows you so well so things just don’t flow well anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 04:21 PM
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He’s never cheated, nor have I ever gotten the vibe that he’s cheating. By recently, I mean perhaps a few months ago. This changes sometimes and he goes back to normal again. I get what you mean in that I should initiate things more but I still feel resentful when he won’t if that makes sense. That doesn’t mean I don’t, it just means I’ve been noticing that I’ve been putting in more effort than he has. It could have to do with many of the things I’ve described but I’ve actually never experienced…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 03:45 PM
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Harsh but valid point
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 08:28 PM
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So do you suggest kind of surrendering to the situation and being encouraging?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 04:00 PM
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Yeah I’ve started to open about this to my therapist now, we’ll see where that goes. As a starting point I was told to retreat into myself when I feel triggered and acknowledge the feeling of the trigger in my own body.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 03:35 PM
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Honestly, I guess I didn’t see him the way I normally see men because he was really understanding and conversational. Never seemed like it was too much for him back then. I mean, I totally agree that that can be really unattractive for a man but why wasn’t he turned off by it before?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 03:22 PM
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Honeymoon phase may be over for him, we’ve been together for quite a while, but it isn’t over for me. What can I do? Also, how do you stop someone from running on autopilot if it really bothers you? I don’t think he has too much game. He doesn’t really talk to other women from what I’ve seen. I also don’t think he’s gaslighting or blame shifting, he just seems kind of low and disengaged if that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 03:19 PM
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Honeymoon phase may be over for him, we’ve been together for quite a while, but it isn’t over for me. What can I do? Also, how do you stop someone from running on autopilot if it really bothers you? I don’t think he has too much game. He doesn’t really talk to other women from what I’ve seen. I also don’t think he’s gaslighting or blame shifting, he just seems kind of low and disengaged if that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 03:17 PM
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So early on?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:53 PM
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I have a therapist, but yes I can try to not talk about my problems for sure
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:53 PM
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But we’ve always been this way. Like we didn’t need articles or hobbies to talk about, conversation would just flow easily!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:41 PM
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When I got married I kind of went into homemaker mode and I stopped going out as much, stopped spending time solo and probably doing what attracted him to me in the first place. It’s so imperceptible you don’t even realise it. That’s particularly so when you become nagging, clingy and resentful instead even when you’re trying to do your own thing.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:00 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. A lot of sense. Thank you for your perspective. He probably didn’t register what it was like to live with someone like that and he had a lot of space from it. Especially had lots of time with his friends and I had time with mine.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 01:57 PM
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Yes I’ve been looking into it and watched Laura Doyle for the first time yesterday, but what in particular about DBT/manifestation?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 01:47 PM
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No
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 01:46 PM
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I think it was already different, early on. I do have anxiety so I’m not saying that has nothing to do with it but he’s always known about it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 01:46 PM
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Yes I could make more of an effort on my own hobbies and into my appearance, spend more time without him. I show interest in him all the time, but it’s not reciprocated in the way that I want. Maybe it’s also the female fantasy of romantic love that gets in the way.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 01:42 PM
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I’d say they’re still somewhat of a factor.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 11:18 PM
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