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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Agree to unreasonable settlement now or face 2 years in court?		bitterlollies	/r/Divorce_Men	05/10/23 12:20 PM

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2	Dad, when you come home? I was asked that question and I had no answer. I couldn't tell them the truth, they won't understand. It still haunts me to this day and I think will forever. All I can say now is I do the best for them I can so they know I am still there and one day when they have partners and goes through life maybe they will understand but again hopefully never. Divorce is not good on anyone.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/26 10:13 AM
1	38 Gay Male That's a lot of red flags move he did. It sounds very intentional, you can try laying it all out for discussion before making a final move.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/02/26 04:37 PM
1	Should i divorce over cheating? When two people are in a relationship with common goals and respects, no cheating should ever occur, yes there will be troubled times, that's when both needs to work it out, talk it through and maybe it's with a therapist. But if one has infidelity, that is saying a lot, there is no respect, no trust, no common goal, and maybe the cheater has already moved on and should respect the other partner by coming out clean and possibly breaking up. Either way the other party deserves to know the truth, …	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/26 10:55 PM
2	How do I know when to forgive my dad I can see you went through a troubled childhood without a proper dad's present, your longing for an absent dad, conflicting with what your mum said. This type of trouble will no doubt traumatized you and if you do not resolve it, it will leave a lasting effect into your adulthood, this is called childhood trauma. Hence your post trying to find answers. I want to highlight the word you use 'forgive', I am wondering if you are using the right word, are you trying to forgive him or do you want to u…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/25 04:37 AM
1	How do I prepare for a divorce ? Divorce when baby is 1 yo. Seems an odd number ? Why not start now, cause if it gets nasty it might take a while and by then the baby will be 1. Not sure why she wants to leave, but you need to know the reason, have you asked her?. I say 'know' but keep in mind you may never understand. And as to how to prepare Mentally - read books, watch videos, see a counselor Emotionally - do the work that the books, video, counselor suggest. Ie journalling, maintaining health, exercise, meditation etc every…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/25 12:24 PM
4	I Want To Leave I (60 M) want to leave the marriage. I'm not seeing any one else, I just want out. I'm just uncomfortable being the villain in this story. Any advice on 1) how to handle the emotions of filing. Or 2) how to live with someone who doesn't care about me and vice versa? Thanks. There will be lots of emotions, prepare with a regular counselling session start now before you even separate and friends you can confined i, those who are sympathetic. Not sure what type of person you are, you might end up g…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/25 02:00 AM
2	Dating a divorced guy The question is how long are you willing to wait. 6mths, 1yr, 2yrs, 5yrs. The problem is that when will he heal? , if he will ever heal? no one knows not even him. It might take him +2 years to begin the healing process but on the other hand he might fall deep into the trauma and don't heal. Trying counselling, very clear communication and indicate some deadlines, otherwise the relationship will just drag on and you will get more stress realising you are running out of time in getting what you w…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/25 12:27 PM